I believe it's in "Pulling Your Own Strings" where Wayne Dyer says to stop "Shoulding yourself." You can't "Should have" done anything differently in the past, because the past is over. All you can do is say "What lesson can I learn from this?" Then you move on, or else whatever it is that is making you feel bad, will imobolize you. Thank you Wayne, in Heaven.💖🤗👍