Relationship Between Adult Child and Parent with HD

[@macygray5984]

My mom is a hoarder and unfortunately due to my financial situation, I can’t move out. I am struggling mentally because I’ve basically been confined in my room since covid. I try to cook healthy, but most times the kitchen is in such disarray that I end up ordering out. The most recent issue was her cooking and leaving tons of dishes in the sink until I finally got fed up and said something for the millionth time. I spent almost an hour and a half washing and drying dishes and I still wasn’t done. When she came back from work, she took the remaining dirty ass dishes and put them in a plastic trash bag, and set them over where the rest of her pile of junk is. I’m drowning

[@chilipepper71]

I know your pain

[@kellyb8237]

Keep up with the cleaning. Eventually you will catch up with the mess. I do it for my sisters. When they see neatness, they will do the same. Yes, I get yelled at for touching their stuff. I just walk away. Neatness, cleanliness wins😊

[@macygray5984]

I asked her to mop the kitchen floor and she was pissed, she left the mop and water in the bucket to where the water dissolved in the mop and the mop was stuck to the bucket. Sad part about it is that she has no shame in letting people in here, it is so embarrassing because people think I live like that and I don’t.

[@weirdalpleasenoticeme]

I am 26, parents are 65. Right now I am trying to convice them to clean out their refrigerator so that my mom can have room to put food to eat that is healthy, and not rotting or expired. This is one of the hardest things. I feel like something is just missing from their ability to function properly in order to take care of themselves

[@melindam128]

I don't know if you answer comments or even if this channel is still active, but I am the adult child of a hoarder. My mother was a hoarder my entire life. I'm looking around for site and or services to help children of hoarders, but all I've found so far is a site that hasn't updated in 7 years. My therapist is great, but she isn't really familiar with the effects of this type of disorder on family members. I have some pretty serious effects from years of living with this and would love some suggestions is you have any. Thanks.

[@IOCDF]

Email us at [e-mail] and our resource specialist will be able to provide you with resources.

[@majeszczak]

I can link you my instagram and we can talk if you want have similar situation

[@chilipepper71]

I also have a very similar situation. Im currently 27. And living the way I did has screwed me up bad. Really have came to terms with it so i relate to you.

[@melindam128]

@@majeszczak Thank you, but I don't have Instagram.

[@chilipepper71]

@@majeszczak can you send link?

[@22yearoldteenager]

sucks to hear him describe my life exactly, my relationship is becoming very strained with my parents

[@CosmicAcrobat]

Is there anyone out there that i can talk to about this? I'm 19 and I've had absuive hoarder parents my whole life

[@chilipepper71]

I can relate. I'm 27 and lived with my hoarder mother for over 20 years. Sounds like you're still living there?

[@CosmicAcrobat]

@@chilipepper71 yup, still living. And still there too

[@CosmicAcrobat]

@@chilipepper71 what did you do to cope? Im currently filling my gills with weed to drown out the frustration and pain

[@chilipepper71]

​@@CosmicAcrobatI did exactly the same thing and still do sometimes. I've been moved out for about 3 or 4 years now. & I just started going to therapy. I'd recommend getting out as soon as possible.

[@dionthacreator3499]

I’d try my hardest to move out, not immediately but eventually. Start going to therapy, if you are enrolled in school, there are counselors you could possibly talk to and get their input. Declutter your space meaning your room, and if that causes issues, then don’t, move out if you can

[@Parasi4n]

i really hated that i relate to this. my mother is a hoarder and bipolar. she would not let me throw unused old stuff away by giving tantrum and making me gullible, even worse when i manage to clean some stuff out she will pick them up again from the trash.. . this has happened for the past 4 years. I'm 15 and i don't know what to do. she's isn't hesitant to be physical or mentally. i barely have friends because of this, and i argue with her every night which really scared me because i think if i continue fighting it will just make her worse. i love her i do but this is just isn't right ❤.

[@Parasi4n]

she always talks to herself, me and other family member about neighbours from many houses talking about her doing stuff and getting mocked at. but i know that it isn't real. I've fight about this topic so many times with her that this is just delusion. i don't know what to do. The video also mentioned "i can clean it in 1 hour or so" this is so true, everyday i ask to let me clean up some stuff and prohibited me to do so and say i will do it tomorrow, later, etc.