Relationship Doom (Explaining the Four Horsemen)

[@christina2023]

It is so crazy how often we use violence in cummunication without even noticiting it. Mostly we do not intent to hurt the other one yet it happens so fast. I remember when I started reading and reflecting about this topic and I was really shocked to see how often I was communicating violently. I always had good intentions in my mind so just the thought was sooo unrealistic to me but yes, at the end I had to admit I was doing it a lot, unconsiously. It's crazy how no one teaches you about this things. I actually read two fantastic books about this topic: Non-Violent Communication from Marshall Rosenberg and The Dance of Anger from Harriet Lerner The second book in particular is ideal for INFJs who yet aren't able to communicate anger / handle a conflict. It really helped me a lot. In general, the books from Harriet Lerner are invaluable when it comes to relationships (partner, family or friends). Thank you for talking about this topic :))

[@BridgetCappel]

Thank you for the comment and the book recommendations! Im glad you liked this topic. I love talking about relationships!

[@AAli-vq7mc]

I struggle with defensiveness too, but as an INFJ I’m aware when I’m doing it weirdly enough. I B.S my way out of being wrong. I think the real issue is people don’t seem to able to see themselves. They’re completely oblivious to their own actions.

[@BridgetCappel]

I can do the same thing. It seems I can deflect myself out of anything and I'm really working on taking the blame and being better about that.

[@KatieMae525]

I definitely struggle with defensiveness the most and always have. It’s something I’ve been trying to work on but MAN IT IS DIFFICULT

[@jakeineagnung93]

Girl can u pleaaaaseee do a bright winter wardrobe video?

[@BridgetCappel]

Honestly this comment might bring me out of my dormancy. Thanks for the encouragement 😅