Business as a Side Chick | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 40 | Season 2

A guest shares how she’s formalized being a side chick and turned it into a business
Studio Guests: Pinky Shange
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[@Namy689]

One thing I like about Relebogile’s show is that it accommodate everyone.. its not a celebrity show… its for the citizen

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Yes that’s exactly what this is. Thank you for the observation 🙏🏾

[@sandramazia4543]

Yep true that

[@nonhpapo8543]

The problem with this behavior is you are going to reap what you sow it might not be today but someday eish uzokhala losisi strong.She is creating curses for herself and her generation

[@moosesoundsmusic6352]

@@relebogilemabotja215 WE LOVE U THOU

[@ndivva]

@@relebogilemabotja215 would u please consider Mr Israel Zulu as your guest if possible

[@rulanimacia871]

Blaming a lady for being a side chick is bad because it's also a husband's job to stay faithful to the marriage. The lady needs healing but husband's needs to be faithful. It's not a one sided thing.

[@palesamaluka4345]

Thank you

[@thatsreality1177]

Akere this days ur hear about "women impowerment" almost everyday but actions dololo. I mean we women we can stop this kind of nonsense buy just saying no. Y do we have enable men to treat us like this by using fellow women. I'm not saying the men is not wrong. All I'm saying is we can put that women impowerment in action than in words

[@ntlembola500]

@@thatsreality1177 men are never held accountable and because of that, they will never change. When your husband cheats on you, why even focus on the woman he cheated with, there is most likely more than one. Deal with the main culprit. That’s the only person who can put a stop to it

[@ntlembola500]

@@thatsreality1177 men are never held accountable and because of that, they will never change. When your husband cheats on you, why even focus on the woman he cheated with, there is most likely more than one. Deal with the main culprit. That’s the only person who can put a stop to it

[@thatsreality1177]

@@ntlembola500 I know that . What I'm saying is we as women at times we enable this kind of abuse by agreeing to be in such relationships. If we say no to married men we probably saving other women. N men treat us like shit cz we allow them to. Why do we want to be other women's pain? If men can't stop we have to stop them. Akere we preach about women impowerment? Then let's put that in action. We cannot just sit there n say " ooh don't blame me alone cz u I'll never change kgwara but u can stop it" 🤷🤷🤷🤷🤷

[@chipo-lweendomwiindilila3689]

This woman is amazing at her job🙏she's non-judgemental and she's so polite and real.. she gives everyone a chance to speak their minds 👏i love her

[@mak28busted]

True indeed. We got the full story no bias no judgement otherwise the guest is in defense mode and we dont get the story.

[@mailimoorosi2259]

I don't know who needs this, but hopefully it will help someone & lead them in a right direction with their life that will lead to blessings & not a curse. 💕✝️ "Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. Don’t love money; be satisfied with what you have. For God has said, “I will never fail you. I will never abandon you.” Hebrews 13:4-6

[@lezzgp]

So wena you think Adam and Eve were married? Jesus and Mary Magdelain… come lady. Marriage as an institution is a fairly recent thing. I can assure God won’t be judging a person who manages more than one relationship. You have Bush, Collen Powel and FW De Klerk. God ain’t judging me. No Sirie!

[@tshepishochuene1280]

In this world Men live like they won't die, and Women live like they'll remain beautiful forever... sad really.

[@mpilo4199]

I swear not enough people are talking about this show. The topics, the honesty and the way Relebogile doesn't judge her guests and just seeks to understand is EVERYTHING!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@sheilamigans473]

Watching from Nairobi 🇰🇪❤️

[@kankan244]

I totally agree 👍

[@MsTrashie]

Relebogile is such an amazing host man...she knows how to keep the conversation going while asking the relevant questions and keeps the guest comfortable..

[@nosip9950]

MacG needs to interview her. Chillers where you at ?

[@pearljantjies7]

We here boo

[@Nokss87]

We are here 🙌

[@dikolizaskk5847]

Yes good idea we would hear more.....come on Chillers here is a content guys

[@RobyynFenty]

we here💯

[@mmatselengtseki3323]

Here!!!!

[@SimzRight]

As nonchalant as she sounds... There's an element of pain there

[@nokwandasbiya6462]

What I don't understand is the fact that she didn't like it when it was done to her 😕

[@SimzRight]

@@nokwandasbiya6462 right?

[@supreme9801]

Deep unresolved pain

[@cookwithsabi6075]

And she's a PK 🤕🤕

[@iambloopy]

Ah khanti Simz you are here! 😂❤️

[@nankihoaeane4396]

I am looking fwd to her turn around when she has healed and matured spiritually and mentally.

[@motheowalerato701]

Her testimony is gonna be huge🤞🥺

[@NthabisengLetsatsi]

Absolutely

[@darryldenemartin3651]

@Nanki Thank you for speaking light over her life. God bless you.❤🙏

[@ayandastand]

Me too . Self love, self love is what I find amiss here

[@oratilethango8077]

Amen and amen

[@Namy689]

Her mood changed drastically when Relebogile spoke about her emotional detachment 💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔… so this jumping up n down was a mask😭😭😭😭😭she is so broken

[@alexodiekila9866]

You are so right! She's screaming for help in her own way ! She's utterly broken ! Her life is her way to escape !The parents did wrong to her

[@mampoiapathiamopeli5500]

she very much is broken,i realised that too

[@NthabisengLetsatsi]

True

[@sizaphlox]

She's very broken

[@leratonthabeleng3831]

I saw it 🥺💔

[@petermaluleke7011]

The reason why a lot of people may frown upon what Pinky is doing is that she's bold enough to bring it to the light. This world exists and we are well aware but we just don't want to admit that all of this is happening. I command her for her bravery.

[@Bahrain-kv7uk]

I like how smart married people follow her content

[@lesegoyv]

Nah, this is not bravery, bravery is listing the names of the men she relieved their stresses so we can see gore she's brave. Bravery is dealing with her pain and learning to start trusting men because how she acts seems like she's pimping these girls. Yes this world exists, but it's not something to be proud of just like those sacrifices types of life.

[@Rrangwane]

Agreed

[@nolusizodlalisa5573]

So true! Since the beginning of time🤞🏾

[@thembisaodendaal]

Peter although you speaking the truth I cannot clap hands for you because you are a man if it were a woman saying the same thing then yes..The thing is that I dont want to give you the impression that I say men must continue to inflict pain on women.I fully get that things happen in marital homes however people need to find ways of resolving their issues because most times there's no problems at home and yet you still find men doing these things ofcourse I know it's got to do with their lack of confidence

[@shanteg8770]

You can’t be this excited about hurting people. Something is definitely wrong there. This thing of normalising toxicity 🚮

[@lesegoyv]

Sis is not normal periodt

[@lisi4502]

I do not even know how to feel only because this is not right and it should not be promoted,yoh this lady(Pinky) shuuuu ha a.

[@zozibiningqula3316]

@@lisi4502 Facts

[@crystaleyes4288]

💯 something is very wrong here…

[@kennethvolwana7799]

Insecurities right there at home.

[@LM-he7eb]

Relebogile is such an open minded person. I'm very open minded, so I like seeing such.

[@tsakanimathye3376]

Right? She is very good at this...

[@Nicole-og6df]

Agreed,she’s so non-judgemental, I aspire to be like that 🤌

[@nwabisapbodlo3246]

I know right?! She is also not judgmental. I love that about her. She's an awesome broadcaster

[@malehlohonolo8463]

What I heard here is: "I'd rather be the one being cheated with than be the one being cheated on" she even has a problem with married men cheating on her while she's the sidechick. Its almost as if she's trying to gain control of the situation so she doesn't get hurt or minimizes the hurt. She's rationalized it to "he wont cheat on me if he has a wife, Im safe here" Edit: Im towards the end of the video now and the rape conversation made me understand her better. Now I get why she needs that perception of control of being a side chik. Men have hurt her so she wants to be able to regulate her interaction with them.. This was a very interesting interview

[@reabetswemoleko8413]

Boom!!

[@hlogiledwaba9669]

She's a slay queen.

[@lebom2456]

Yes, I think watching the whole interview first, helps shed light to her whole story. 🥺

[@excuseme9458]

You broke it down perfectly 👌🏼

[@realteawithsandy1366]

Well articulated. 😉

[@ntshwenyego3314]

Unhealed childhood trauma 💔 I hope she heals❤️❤️ Love and light to you Pinky❤️❤️

[@LM-he7eb]

The wives need healing

[@CremeDeLaCreme01]

Everyone actually . her, the wives, the husbands and the students who seek for advice.

[@mzansifamilyvalues8040]

Black men in SA we need to really dedicate and put effort into relationships with our women and kids kzbin.info/www/bejne/oIS2fqx8gtKJmbs

[@nonasibiya8500]

I love how Relebogile structures her questions. She asks the important stuff but she's so good in the way she asks.

[@mphohappiness1736]

I've learnt how to not judged people. Every experience and trauma shapes us to be who we are today, whether you choose to see it or not. It's easy to pin point other people's sins while your childhood traumas are hidden in the closet

[@rosegold6209]

Well she should go for counseling and change her ways eventually because she's going to get old and have no one, it happens!

[@bongekileximba8868]

After watching this entire episode; I actually feel bad for her. This is honestly heartbreaking 💔. Love and light to you MaShange. I pray that you heal.

[@nonkosimsomi3122]

You know I from the beginning to the end of this interview I've had so much mixed emotions. This girl needs healing 🙏🏽

[@nenesibanda4171]

I agree completely with u. I ask myself what goes in her mind

[@nongcebomchunu3894]

Uyabo ukuthi yamsanganisa le relationship 😭😭use unhinged and Relebogile is like yeah... yeah...

[@pontsomudau414]

People are not ready for this kinda of conversation but we have to talk about dis kinda of things😎

[@dimakatsomotsoeneng4011]

It's me, I am people.😩😩

[@clotildemuhongo2104]

True

[@lesegoyv]

The only thing to talk about is getting this girl help and find out what her triggers are. She was raped, that broke her as should, but she's dealing with it the dangerous way for her and her students.

[@xolani2321]

@Lesego, I agree with you on that. You may actually find that her background abuse incident resonates with most of her "students" hence she will encourage them to use her method to deal with it which might be dangerous.

[@mologadihazellegodi8626]

What's there to talk about, she clearly needs help.

[@jeannieong1239]

Hi I’m from Malaysia. Last week I was watching Jerry Springer and Steve Wilkos shows, your show somehow caught my attention. It was “I was rapped by my dad”. I got stuck and then I’d been binging on your shows. There’s so many shades of colors. Not just one color, one shade. This is the lesson I learn from your shows. And I also like the way Relebogile listens, dwells and moves her questions along with the guests. I love this!

[@sibongilezwane3208]

There's so many unsettling things about her and the business. I pray that she and God begin a healing and transformative journey. I pray she knows and understands that she's not too "messy" to return and know God again. He loves you even in the mess you are in right now.❤ As for the business, it is a slippery slope and opens doors to dangers that she might have not thought about. Yes, business will grow because there is some sort of demand but families, relationships and marriages will break down. That's a heavy burden and consequence to bear. God please open her eyes and let her see the truth.

[@nombonisongedle2185]

You forgot to mention the rapist and the parents in your prayer

[@SuzetteKhiba]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@lebohangm7252]

Not just hers but the many others doing the same.

[@thonkhaPatricia]

Wanted to say she's broken,but I've lived long enough in this dangerous world of pandemics to come to the conclusion & understanding that nah! It's her life,its her choice &its a normal pandemic to other people.

[@LM-he7eb]

The wives who forgive are the broken ones

[@-Natefo-]

Thank You Amken Thonka. People have normalised “all men cheat” but who do they think they cheat with? If they so much believe in that statement. Double standards to some extent but to each their own for real.

[@Abundantli]

Anyone who accept this kind of lifestyle as normal is broken and needs healing. Both the wife and the sidechick. You have to believe you're not worthy of love and a need to keep a man who is not committed to you to accept this position.

[@-Natefo-]

@@Abundantli I feel the same way you do regarding people who have normalised it need healing. But it is just a perspective of ours and not their reality. It might look like they’re broken from our point of view, but that doesn’t necessarily make it their truth.

[@KnockknockNox]

Modern philosopher and writer Alain de Botton says we tend to love people and go into relationships with people who "torture us in a familiar way" basically our type tends to be people who mimic the way we were loved as children. So if your parents were emotionally abusive we unwittingly fall for people who are emotionally abusive to us even though that might not be consciously what we seek. These are all subconscious patterns. I don't know what kind of childhood Pinky had but she perhaps internalized the fact that it's ok to not be the one chosen, it's okay to be second best, it's okay to accept the bare minimum and engaging in a relationship with an older man at a young age (if I'm interpreting it correctly) she decided that that's all she was worth and ran with it and eventually capitalised on it. No judgement from me for any of the parties, it's just interesting to analyse.

[@KnockknockNox]

Her energy is so chaotic. In the best way. I wouldn't be able to keep up with her in a conversation, I'd just enjoy watching her talk about any topic that comes to mind. She very much gives last born energy 😂

[@nwabisapbodlo3246]

I hear you. She's so enthusiastic. It's too much 🤣

[@yenziwembanjwa3718]

I totally understand this but I feel bruised as a last born❤️‍🩹

[@lebohangm7252]

@@yenziwembanjwa3718 I’m taking it as a compliment cause we bring light and life in any room we walk into with this energy

[@mzansifamilyvalues8040]

Black fathers let's turn things around and take responsibility for our kids and women kzbin.info/www/bejne/oIS2fqx8gtKJmbs

[@hrsofhealingandIamproudaffirma]

@@yenziwembanjwa3718 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sanemkhaliphi9168]

I wish someone can just give her a warm hug, the way she was so loud! it just sounded like a cry for help.

[@boikhutsoonline3834]

Right?!!!!!!

[@sev7397]

Why? Some people aren't made for monogamy.

[@africanadage852]

She is a bruised soul that needs healing. I pray to the Almighty for her healing.

[@lornabambeni3777]

True

[@tlakinkadimeng3218]

Assumptions assumptions🤣🤣

[@Mahumo_Hope]

I love Relebogiles composure in her interviews

[@isoldahmogomotsi4611]

😂😂Right cos this is hectic.

[@vutivirikhotso3338]

Have been checking her reaction throughout and damn!!!

[@zimkhitha.h]

Because wow

[@Mahumo_Hope]

@Lelo Macheke true , I’m just giving credit where it’s due .

[@ziziafrica4265]

lol I could never. I thought I was calm and objective until I started watching this show. Also I had to google if she has a background in psychology - the way she phrases questions its like theres duck feather cusions on the floor, I can allow myself to fall here. Hay Relebogile you are gifted. I respect you

[@penelopegomez5934]

I pick up few things here: she doesn’t want children, she doesn’t want to be the main, she feels happier in the US than SA, her parents failed with the rape, her voice trembles when asked about emotions and attachment. All this makes her feel she is not worthy of great things. She feels her parents protected the rapist than her for the sake of the church. SA men reminds her of deep pain hence revenge to the SA community. I hope this lovely woman heal and find pure love.

[@stephanienwadieiiamhybasia]

Sorry about that trauma that happened to her in the past. Sad it was not addressed. Emotional health is important.

[@valk7152]

Fathers be good to your daughters ❤️

[@nelisiwe.mdlxlose]

To be in Relebogile's position is to understand maturity!!🤞🏾

[@tshegofatsotjatji782]

Monogamy is not for everyone...conversations many people aren't ready to discuss!

[@malehlohonolo8463]

Jah but one needs to communicate if monogamy is not for them. Not only is cheating selfish, it really breaks some people mentally and emotionally.

[@kgabomolele3346]

@@malehlohonolo8463 exactly why can't people understand this

[@tshegofatsotjatji782]

@@malehlohonolo8463 I agree 100%, hence I say it's a conversation many aren't ready to have. And in a perfect world everyone who enters a relationship will go on with pure intentions and communicate their expectations.

[@mrhbt]

Those who don't subscribe to monogamy should just go meet others in the same criteria and leave married people out of it. Period!

[@NthabisengLetsatsi]

@@tshegofatsotjatji782 I absolutely agree. People must stop lying. If you know monogamy is not your thing, don't lie to someone ngama vows. Make your case clear

[@mosalethoba5267]

She's suffering inside but she's just in denial. On behalf of South African men I'm sorry darling . it's not all of us who're evil I hope that you heal .

[@Anele_M]

This show has taught me to be very open minded. Great interview 👏🏽

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Glad it cloud help you be more open minded

[@nomsebenzi1]

@@relebogilemabotja215 maybe you could interview people in polygamous marriages as well for us to get the perspectives of both men and women. You are a great host 💫

[@safespacewithphemelo8833]

This! I hope young girls understand that this is not it! I hope they don’t get the wrong impression from watching this

[@kangula4035]

I've never seen a person so happy about being a side chick.. Like she's so passionate about it that she even opened a school.. I bet business will be booming soon and she will open another branch 🤣🤣women, haai.. U don't cease to amaze me

[@lebogangdlaminilebogangdla1691]

Well in life you need to be open minded

[@phumzilemthembu8822]

😂😂😂 ja neh

[@lesegoyv]

Kore lenna am shook by her energy. As for my students. O Ruta bana bofebe. That's why married women will loya these girls.

[@kjn5973]

@@lesegoyv haibo wena Lesego 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ambrociahventer4576]

@@lesegoyv Lesego bathong 😂😂😂😂 ba tla ba bontsha serope sa noga neh 😂

[@AM-id9ql]

I refuse to be a side chick, not for moral or religious reasons but I believe being a third party in a established relationship will open me to so many other people that wouldn’t have had access to me. Your wife, her friends, her family, your friends and family etc(there is always curiosity about the other woman).I hate it when people are all up in my BUSINESS. I place so much value on myself, reputations and the life I have created for myself.

[@LM-he7eb]

I'm just jealous. I need to be the center of everything

[@AM-id9ql]

@@LM-he7eb That too, I don’t settle for less, ever. Men are not worth compromising your standards

[@mzansifamilyvalues8040]

Black men in SA we need to really dedicate and put effort into relationships with our women and kids kzbin.info/www/bejne/oIS2fqx8gtKJmbs

[@elaineduplooy1482]

There are dangerous spiritual, emotional and physical consequences to this kind of behaviour, and the worst of all, there are children involved, and it can't end well in the end.

[@ziziafrica4265]

I love how Relebogile humanises everyone. The way you handle your guests is so soft, I feel so much empathy and kindness from you. The way you phrased that question about emotional detachment got me googling if you have a psychology background because wow sis, can you be my therapist? I am joking (I wish I wasn't but I am) . Well done on this show - you are amazing

[@lesedikhoaripe8072]

Relebogile, great work. This kind of show and platform is what South Africa has been needing for a while now. A lot of topics are swept under the rug and the world is presented to us in the media in an idealistic fashion where things are black and white, ignoring the nuisances and “grey areas”. Kudos to you and your lovely team.

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you! 🙏🏾

[@pointa2b388]

She is still young, she still has to deal with herself first, she is too animated, it helps her hide her pain

[@malebogogaeepe8653]

Ijakg!Metlholo e tsamaya le batshidi

[@gracegwangwa38]

True, i see that aswel.

[@supreme9801]

Yup! 💯

[@leratonthabeleng3831]

And the pain is very visible!!

[@samantha4642]

You're right. She's all over the place with her hand gestures.

[@princessnozi4381]

I admire her confidence neh, but this?? This is crazy. We can't be normalizing such things, you can't normalize getting a side chick in the name of making someone's marriage better. That's breaking a marriage, breaking a family. There's a lot of emotional and mental trauma down within her, no one can be so confident making it her life mission to hurt people. She needs healing!

[@annamayyy9771]

Leaving the children traumatized and in pain. Children always remember when their mother was mistreated

[@nenesibanda4171]

I appreciate this

[@NelisiweMwase]

Its not the place that's the problem. Even in Miami, the problem still sits with her because she doesn't get better in her attempts to heal. Pinky needs to sit with her pain and face it head on. May she heal, she really deserves it more than any of us will ever know. Such a pretty lady.

[@lezzgp]

Can you perhaps explain why it’s Woman who are catching feelings? This 30 year old shall learn. But it’s not about her. These things happen all day everyday. The rape screwed her up. But she’s also correct. Men have been cheating before she came along. She’s just got rules about these things.

[@yola8314]

I'm glad relebogile probed to understand why she is emotionally detached. She has not dealt with the rape at all nd I hope she does. Side chicks are fun and normalized until there are pregnancies involved, men not taking responsibility, kids scarred and ostracized by the dad and thier siblings... I hope we also dive into that conversation soon.

[@palesapolette8168]

Great point

[@muntutladi]

Yes!

[@lynnemaremana6618]

You are wicked why pray for another woman to be raped. Be careful tables might turn to you or any female in your generation

[@mbalzz]

The hand gestures can have a show of their own... lol

[@CremeDeLaCreme01]

😂😂😂

[@jamespraise3464]

🤣🤣🤣

[@siphesihlekhumalo2932]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ednakwazise5436]

😂😂but they add some juice to the story

[@maqibooi7957]

🤣 🤣 🤣

[@SoulisticMommy]

She speaks of respecting the wife, but how are you respecting the wife when you're already sleeping with her husband? I mean really, is this what we women do to each other?! Yhuu as a married woman I cringe as I watch this... Great interview though, I respect her transparency.. Bafazi pray for your men..

[@lesegoyv]

Not a wife but this woman needs prayers cause soon the whole South Africa will full of side chicks cause they are graduates.

[@mologadihazellegodi8626]

@@lesegoyv that is my fear, she needs to be stopped.

[@buhleskhosana8045]

It is your husband’s place to respect you.. There wouldn’t be a sidechick if he didn’t let it happen.

[@helliebrown2078]

Pinky doesn't have to respect you, u ain't married to her, that energy you have of stopping her. Use it to your husbands.men go out look for side chicks. The minute you guys except that amadoda we u are actually failing u. Then we as a nation will move forward regarding this matter

[@SoulisticMommy]

I don't think yall understand me. I know the husband is supposed to respect me first, the side chick owes me nothing. But what happened to Ubuntu? What happened to sisterhood? We know how messed up men are but you as a woman, why are you accepting his proposal? Why are you enabling the men? Deprive them off that need to cheat by standing up for each other as women

[@SincerelyPearlM]

Its when she said she's a rape victim that i knew she deserves a big hug, love and therapy❤

[@zolekamkhwanazi1560]

Pinky's honesty is top tier! I respect her for that...beautiful interview Relebogile

[@TheMtitilizo]

Our stories have a tendency to reveal parts of us that need healing. May we heal, especially for the stuff no one apologized for because shuuu 😢

[@AJ-ls7tn]

I pray that I may heal....especially for the stuff the side chick didn't apologize for...her participation helped to destroy my marriage to a place of irreparable damage

[@MsTrashie]

I Remember Pinky from Pastors kids reality show and she always used to talk about being a side chick... I see the girl has stayed on brand 😂

[@precioussimphiwentini179]

She stayed on brand indeed 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@nwabisapbodlo3246]

Really, that long ago? Damn she's a professor moes 🤣🤣

[@bree2457]

😂😂😂 I remember

[@leratorose-marynthabi438]

She has a school for side chicks even🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@siyandamavuso6828]

When I watched I knew it was her. She was a party girl yho. Vuzu had hits shem. It opened our eyes.

[@LM-he7eb]

Relebogile be interviewing and counselling at the same time

[@owamizuma7565]

true😢

[@xolani2321]

Exactly she was delving deeper into the abuse story but pinky didn't like it. She just lit up when she starts to talk about her business 🤔😅😅😇😅

[@owamizuma7565]

@@xolani2321I thought i was the only one who saw that🙁Her story is touching...She maybe using this side chick thing as a way to self harm /or heal from her past trauma .😔

[@Nicole-og6df]

Agreed! i commented something similar on another video.

[@justasithought1592]

OMG what Rele is wearing 🥺🥺😍😍😍 to die for

[@ZoeOnLife]

I don't even judge Pinky, I feel compassion for her. I am hopeful she will find her way out of this funk she didn't put herself in. The damage is deep...

[@mulekahkabongo2799]

EXACTLY WHAT I WAS THINKING. THIS PERSON IS CLEARLY BROKEN

[@MarciaSilva-qi1vj]

Very very true

[@Tsidyannamohapi2381]

I pray she gets healing and begin to trust. This school is going to break many families

[@Techbill247]

Healing from what?

[@Favoured16]

Exactly

[@Teboza1]

@@Favoured16 Mac G this would be a nice opening for 2022

[@Malachingandu]

Watching this made me realize the kind of Pastor I should never be to my Children. Can't imagine protecting my name at the expense of my own daughter's life. From the start I could tell Pinky was hurt and finally it came out. We pray she heals😭🥰. Much love!!!

[@mphomohlabula8164]

This lady needs professional help in order to deal with her childhood trauma. I'm not disputing how it has played a role in how she sees life today but what she is doing is not right at all. Yes , this world of side chick's has always been existent for ages but I doubt there was anyone who was this proud about it. Married men cheating on their wives is nothing to be glorified and what I have realised is that women are enablers of this. How do you live with yourself ,knowing that someone's wife doesn't feel good enough about themselves because you are busy with her husband? Also, with such high statistics of HIV and stds , how is this okay?

[@motheofoundation2729]

Don't worry about another person's life, she knows what she is doing.

[@unathibodlingwe2400]

So many languages in South Africa and you chose to speak facts😫🙌🏾

[@tanakanyamuzinga9562]

Word🔥🔥

[@mphomohlabula8164]

@@motheofoundation2729 No babe. We shouldn't be endorsing Jezebel tendencies. If you see nothing wrong with disrespecting people's unions, what God has put together then it says so much about your character. I wasn't gonna worry about it if it wasn't posted here on this channel. The fact that it's posted, shows that I'm allowed to have an opinion .

[@mphomohlabula8164]

@@unathibodlingwe2400 The comments I've seen shows that South African girls haven't learnt anything from the Tshegofatso ( may her soul rest in peace)Pule's situation. They first wanna experience it themselves and it will already be too late.

[@nombulelofihla7519]

This is just sad. She has accepted being 2nd and doesn't seem like she will ever think she deserves 1st place and deserves to be the only. This woman is broken 💔

[@mampoiapathiamopeli5500]

yep broken indeed

[@ayandakhumalo8692]

Strange coz she comes from a good home. Her dad is present, good father.

[@拿哈-p9u]

She's in so much pain,hope she finds healing and gets out of that dangerous life before it's too late. She's living on the edge, literally

[@makgotsom799]

A man won't marry a sidechick but he will destroy his whole family for a sidechick. Let that sink in👌

[@tshepishochuene1280]

True... same way a woman will always be willing to destroy another woman's marriage.

[@makgotsom799]

@@tshepishochuene1280 when a man courts another woman whilst married he is giving her permission to ruin his marriage

[@Christy_Shongwe]

@@tshepishochuene1280 only people in the marriage can ruin thd marriage. The other woman did not make vows to anyone.

[@tshepishochuene1280]

@@makgotsom799 Yes I agree, but both parties should be held accountable. There are women like Pinky who are well aware that a man is married, but will cheat with him anyway, all in the name of "Helping the marriage"

[@tshepishochuene1280]

@@Christy_Shongwe Yeah True, but someone else is always willing to plant that seed of destruction from the outside. This time it's Pinky

[@JeanetteMoseneke]

Relebogile is an amazing interviewer...how she came full circle on the emotional detachment. Her body language & voice changed when she started talking about the rape. I hope she finds healing 🙏🏽

[@deliwemona-molele1556]

The thing is, whether u respect or don't respect the wife, things r bound to change in the home front in more ways than one. So dade slow down and try n focus on your healing. I don't think its gonna come for as long as you are on this route. Jesu akasale abuya stru, kubibibibi n kubuhlungu

[@Nokss87]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@BontleSibuyi]

The scariest part of marriage summarised …

[@gracenovie]

She’s honest but in a lot of pain. I wish her healing 🌼🌼

[@jeanneloji5680]

Yohh marriage seems like a scam 😂😂😂😭😭😭 . Like married men just want a stable care giver who assists with finances, feeding him , having a reputation of being " married " & a father . So they then get a sidechick to live out their fantasies.... its something else yoh ah

[@malehlohonolo8463]

Lmaoo not every man hey, yours might not be like that.

[@isiphilendakisa1440]

"stable care giver" tjo 😭😭🤣

[@jeanneloji5680]

@@isiphilendakisa1440 its the truth!! Wives are stable care givers , cook , clean , take care of everything in between

[@hlogiledwaba9669]

Spot on👏

[@tebogom.2206]

Love this comment

[@rebekahkingbello9560]

The channel growth is amazing. It was just like 8k. Congrats Relebogile! Love from the States.

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you Rebekah 💕

[@kms708]

Amazingly growing , beautiful I started following this channel at less than 2k subscribers...so obviously the channel is amazing Relebogile you are the best. ..your guests are so amazing too.

[@badmilk_]

I love how everyone is a qualified psychiatrist in this comment section.

[@92Kandee]

Has anyone diagnosed her with a condition here? I haven't seen that..

[@buhleskhosana8045]

Lol yhoo abo “she needs healing” “she needs to find Jesus” 🙄

[@jaydee6178]

People are allowed to have an opinion and to share it 🙄🙄🙄

[@makwesemaepa7645]

I was just thinking the same thing. Psychiatrists galore!

[@nozimbalimogoane8390]

Yey...🤣🤣🤣

[@posh812]

I feel so sad for Pinky. One day she will heal, love herself and find someone who will love her just as much.

[@banyana6515]

And karma will bite her coz her husband will most certainly cheat on her and inflict the pain she inflicted on other women. She is sowing what she will reap later😏

[@nonhpapo8543]

Loving yourself is key,hayi nokuthanda imali mali labantwana

[@Vv-fl2rm]

😂🤣😂 it’s so hilarious how you women want to bring Jesus and karma on women like pinky but still stay in marriages and crawl into bed with men you know are cheating with women like that. Women they persue by the way 😂🤣 where is the karma for your husband breaking his marital vows and using single women to do it?

[@banyana6515]

@@Vv-fl2rm I sued BOTH hon. The hubby and the side piece. Life is too short to be unhappy. I never wanted to be my mom who stayed with my dad and she wasn't happy. Walk away from the toxicity. I am just amazed that women boast about sleeping with attached men. If women like them didn't exist there wouldn't be so much heartache. Why stay with a cheat? Why give a man so much power over your life? Nah I can't do it. My ex lost his job as a doctor, literally he is done with the medical world. That was his karma. The trollop he cheated with is still solo and trifling and about 100k poorer when I was done with her. 100K pounds by the way. Get a good lawyer. A shark. And deal with them. I don't believe in people wrecking lives and getting away with it.

[@chintzrose]

@ Banyana, but why are men pursuing women when they know they're attached? They're even pursuing other men now❗ ...and more than half the world's problems are Instigated by men, who have issues of childhood of narcissistic adults around him if environment...so basically blame game won't get us anywhere

[@tirelomasenda]

Her background stories is heartbreaking. Living in a world where you're not able to trust can't be easy💔💔

[@kgabomolele3346]

What? Business 😭😂😂?. I don't even want to hear anything about women empowerment from women like her, because what is empowering about hurting another woman because of a man, nonsense. Very sad how a man can easily come in between women,very sad. Even if her story is sad I don't think we should shy away from calling out dirty business, that's just me, it's not only her thats hurt, she's also hurting other people nge business yakhe

[@Afro_Sims]

Some things really don’t deserve a public platform

[@ambomateijennifer7207]

Seriously.... Like what the hell?

[@katlegomhlauli8423]

It’s like we are celebrating side chick tendencies

[@lydiantk8704]

You can say that again, people are trying to normalize things which are not normal

[@LM-he7eb]

@@lydiantk8704 It started when we publicly normalized forgiving cheating men. And applauded wives who forgive cheating.

[@sewelamariaramantjana9547]

They do deserve its something that happens everday everywhere

[@tanatswataruvinga]

Pinky reveals something really important. Men treat their side chicks with more respect and dignity than the main woman so more women are choosing to be the side chick.

[@leyland2725]

Nah y'all choosing to be side chicks cause you wanna hoe around with many men without a problem

[@ishmaelnmakamba159]

It's temporary. Another will come and another and another but the wife stays

[@mampoiapathiamopeli5500]

Ishmael that's very much true✊✊✊❤Wife stays that's the bottom line!!! side chick is just temp being used for pleasure that's it,rather get a man whose not married to be that wife and queen.

[@lifewithtshidiedza381]

😂😂😂😂side chick will never be written In the programme when a man dies😂😂😂

[@ndiboe_m1496]

It's sad to know that she does this all because of childhood trauma. Indeed When you teach yourself to listen to people's stories, you learn grace.

[@tselaneralake2797]

lol I know Pinky since she was 15,she’s just a brat,there’s no trauma here

[@SuzetteKhiba]

@@tselaneralake2797 ha 😯🙄

[@Namy689]

💔💔💔😭😭😭😭finally it make sense… i now understand Pinky…. “ emotional detached” she is broken 😭😭😭😭😭she is angry towards men💔💔💔💔because she was raped.. .. her life being messes up etc… she is so broken 💔💔💔💔💔…this thing of appearing happy in the public yet broken inside… she is so broken… understandably so…

[@thandolwethu_SibuM]

This are so awkward conversations but very neccessary cause things are things that happen daily. Thank you Sisi Lebo❤

[@sylviamangope9695]

This lady is honest the difference btwn her and other side chicks is that she has no regrets for her decisions.living her life.

[@lesegoyv]

Hehehe never trust an appearance or how confident one is about their actions, people wet their pillows with tears after every interview.

[@92Kandee]

@@lesegoyv FACTS!

[@luciaMohlalaD]

Thank you for the episode❤and thank you to the Principal for sharing her story❣

[@stellamooibedi9027]

The fact that she's scared of being the main because she's scared someone might be a sidechick to her husband is questionable, then again who am I to judge.

[@princesslelaka1844]

Sidechicking does get tiring

[@Nicole-og6df]

Now that right there is a contradiction 🥴

[@stellamooibedi9027]

@@princesslelaka1844 ka nnete and I guess you will also eventually want to belong onne someone's first

[@Just_Mishi]

I think its the control thing, as a side chic she can control the whole thing but when being a main she can't really control the relationship.

[@tanatswataruvinga]

Maybe she thinks that it's better to be in the know than be tricked.

[@CMdluli09000]

Is it safe to say she's running a virtua brothel?

[@motheowalerato701]

Basically

[@josephinekimani110]

Yes,she is promoting prostitution,and earning money from it,repent girl

[@lollymadikiza3174]

@reward wards,brothel? dat crossed my mind..

[@KenakoMultimedia]

"Do you think there are any faithful husbands out there" Pinky's response; "Yes there are, SHAME" hahahah

[@katlegondaba466]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Skinny_latte]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@buhlemthembu1713]

I like how real she is.

[@jeanneloji5680]

Like a cycle of brokenness 🥺🥺🥺. No man

[@zozibiningqula3316]

She is not well

[@mokganyetjimphahlele4551]

She killed me when she said "what I always tell my students". Imagine.

[@lyzmuamoeko3989]

I was once a side chick in 2016, man was married. He then asked me to have his child. Did i not run for my life, it's not always glit and glam. Ever since that incident, I've been with one guy, not side chicking, i have a child with my boyfriend. I'm sending love and light to Mashange. She needs to forgive and heal from her trauma. Was a rape victim myself, dealing with it helped me

[@thequeenfan8209]

Well done and i wish you well!!!

[@mzansifamilyvalues8040]

Black fathers let's turn things around and take responsibility for our kids and women kzbin.info/www/bejne/oIS2fqx8gtKJmbs

[@magdelinemakgatho6115]

I don’t understand what should happen after watching this episode though… like should we applaud side chicks or what ? Like I’m so confused 😐 😕 🤔 we can’t normalize acts that result in breaking people’s homes/family/relationships. Yes people cheat but that’s not something that should be glorified or embraced.

[@natasharad2986]

Well said my sister. 🙌

[@tawandamhene7400]

While we shouldn't normalize it she is being honest and talking about the reality on the ground. She also mentioned that both men and women cheat. It should make people rethink the whole institution of marriage.

[@motherofcubs]

What a bore, I didn't know that I will be so confused by watching this. I almost regret watching it

[@hinyikiwilemithi4855]

💯

[@kennethvolwana7799]

@@tawandamhene7400 Thank you sir 🙏🏾

[@sanelemeyiwa]

Bare monna ke selepe oa adimisanwa. Whether Pinky speaks about it, opens a school, or is a side chick herself, it happened in history and it will always happen.

[@whatshername-again]

Same as everything like rape, murder, robberies, lying etc. It has always happened from the beginning of time but still does not make it right. I actually blame the guy in this instance for opening the door to this nonsense

[@sanelemeyiwa]

@@whatshername-again I never said it was right. If we spoke about morality, we’d find that most things aren’t “morally right”. I made this comment in response to women saying that Pinky is wrong for even having the school.

[@whatshername-again]

@@sanelemeyiwa I wasn't attacking you. I was adding to what you were saying

[@porscherebukeporsche4301]

Jubjub is coming for you and your students. 😂

[@relebogilemabotja215]

😂

[@sanelekhuboni3267]

😂😂😂

[@Mabobo333]

🤣🤣🤣and leave no desks unturned.

[@moosesoundsmusic6352]

🤣😂🤣Its going to end in Tears

[@zimkhitha.h]

Hlekiselan 😂😂😂

[@melaluxe8195]

Ladies, you must always look out for yourself first, men are unreliable. This woman knows what she wants from her relationships and she is relentlessly pursuing what she wants. I can't be mad, even though I'm not for cheating.

[@melaluxe8195]

@@zozibiningqula3316 Little commitment, financial gain and good sex.

[@chuenephago366]

Men are Unreliable? Is reliability a gender thing???Im just asking to understand your point, not fighting.

[@sev7397]

Women love to be put the fear of men into women's hearts lol

[@fatsomots1923]

if anyone is planning to use her services please be safe , the thought of ladies meeting up with random men makes me so nervous

[@xolani2321]

That's pimping right 🤔🤭

[@zozibiningqula3316]

How about advising them to heal ? And go to Jesus

[@xolani2321]

@@zozibiningqula3316 right and perfect solution

[@lollymadikiza3174]

@@xolani2321 😂

[@mrsrabz7821]

My sentiments exactly @Fatso you hit the nail in the head!!

[@brimasinga4905]

It's so sad, my love goes out to her. She's hurt and broken. This is why Jesus Christ died for us.

[@sfisothecreative]

She needs deliverance this one.

[@brimasinga4905]

@@sfisothecreative true

[@Vv-fl2rm]

No she is living a life that is separate from yours, a life that is considered controversial because it doesn’t fit in with the mould of what you were socialised for. It’s doesn’t men she is hurting or broken 😂🤣 that is what you would like to believe to sooth yourself in your judgement 😂

[@duduzilemaribe]

This was really unpacked. ❤️love this show

[@relebogilemabotja215]

Thank you

[@juliawilbardtpetrus9043]

I watched this with so much shocked...how happy she is being a side chick amazed me😊. Her energy is tiring 😂..she's busy but hey I hope she heals. As a married woman I wasn't even offended😂

[@zeegwebu3298]

The married women part kills me

[@sibabalwemangali4491]

I remember this girl from the time she was on a show called "Pastor's Kids" and she did a lot of things on that show that left a lot to be desired. She does things for attention and this new era in her life highlights this. I hope she finds the healing she so desperately needs.

[@aminatakunda3674]

Ud be surprised how many married women are side chics for other married men.. Pinky is an angel compared to those🙌

[@evodiamashamaite9556]

That's a story people aren't ready for, so so many.

[@xolani2321]

@@evodiamashamaite9556 start the story and then let people know my c.

[@zozibiningqula3316]

She is not an angel you can’t compare wrong with wrong same Whatsapp group

[@Christy_Shongwe]

That just makes all of them all crap. There is nothing noble there.

[@banyana6515]

😲😳😲😳

[@mmashabanemogoboya7686]

There's always a story behind. I know a lot of ladies who changed after being hurt, we need to take care of each other and make sure we heal from the hurt.

[@neziswamaram7108]

I hope she heals 😢, this isn't normal

[@reabetswemailula376]

YEAH that is exactly what I thought, she is really broken shem

[@CremeDeLaCreme01]

What is not normal? These things happen all the time . We just don't talk bout it.

[@lungisilesokana498]

This girl love her job yooooh she is so happy 😂😂😂😂🤣🤭🤭😂

[@LM-he7eb]

😂😂😂😂

[@evodiamashamaite9556]

I'm trying to not laugh but 😂😂😂

[@xolani2321]

She gets lively when interviewer asks her about her business instead of the abuse incident 😅😅😅😅

[@moyahabontwagae653]

🤣🤣🤣

[@tip-z2398]

Iyoooò futhi umeseshaya izandla ekhuluma ngoCansi haaaaaa!uPassionate uGirl....she is the female version of uBab'Mseleku

[@rethabile4127]

When she said "unless you're a pastor's kid you'll never understand" I felt it sis🥺😭 PKs stay under scrutiny mxm

[@ipelengpali7644]

Pinky sounds like she trying to prove a point, immediately there are boundries, she rebels. O rata to be in control.

[@MaleboOldjohnTsindi]

I am a survivor of sexual abuse. It’s possible to heal and trust again. May you find healing too 🙌

[@TJ-my9nh]

Relebogile your show is so relevant

[@mrandmrsb5250]

Praying for total healing for Pinky. The bible tells us the Lord is closer to the broken hearted and those crushed in spirit. I believe that one day,she will have that encounter with God.Rape isnt a good thing to experience,it messes up ones life especially if one is destined for greatness. Love and light to Pinky and thank you Relebogile for your awesome heart.