How to tidy a messy house when you just don’t know where to begin!

[@esthermeabh3771]

Omg. A woman who didn't clean her house before she video tapes her "cleaning house". Where have you been? Love this! Thank you! By the way- you're doing amazing!

[@UktiJuma]

@@esthermeabh3771 how dare she not be fake lol!?

[@gailbarton9011]

Finally a real human being with real issues and how she is slowly but surely working to overcome them. Not these perfect looking house goddesses where the house is already in perfect order. Thank you.

[@judibyrne5839]

My dear, I am 74 and get sidetracked the same as you, procrastinating is my life, and I am living alone, no kids , and the grandkids come to visit on the weekends. You are a great role model for young women who have the same issues

[@htmc2022]

Hey Remi I’m for sure 40+ years older than you but finally figured out I have the same problems - so you’re way ahead figuring out your challenges and figuring out how to cope with them! So bravo, you! ❤

[@jas8815]

Just a suggestion for those who may be couch potatoes, or older, like me. When I'm watching TV, I make sure that EVERY time a commercial comes on, I get up and do something. I'm really good at cleaning or tidying in small bursts rather than longer sessions. I find that I'm amazed at how much I can get done this way. I wish that I could do a marathon of cleaning, like you, but I'm much older, and we all have to find what works best for us. You did an AMAZING job and should be really proud of yourself!

[@UktiJuma]

@@jas8815 that's amazing well done to you in finding a way!

[@lovefortruth3414]

@jas8815 that's my approach! I alternate between smaller spurts of cleaning and tidying vs tasks and activities on my todo list thst I can do sitting down vs breaks from both I had to train my brain to embrace not to get ALL the thing done at once and let the house become tidy gradually by the end of the day. It saves my sanity as well as my back lol.

[@kimberlylamantia7794]

Plus you don't get to rot your brain with boring commercials lol 😊

[@lovefortruth3414]

@@kimberlylamantia7794ol yup!

[@lizettequintero4277]

Omg I used to do that too 😂

[@ateliercarousel]

Thank you so much for raising awareness to ADHD. One of the terrible things about it is how invisible it is, and how hard it is for people without it to understand how it feels when that brain automation you developed to survive childhood, now highjacks your adult attention whenever you simply want to do a set of ordinary tasks. I hope I still get to see a time where the first thing any doctor asks is whether you have ADHD. It's influence on life is that massive. And until that time we need people like you who help everyone tackle the disease on their own with sheer, honest force of will. Great inspiration.

[@remiclog]

Every word you said, perfection! Thank you! ❤️

[@Copper_paws]

All the holistic r❤remedies are great but my father is a MD here in the USA and my entire family is ADHD. I think you should really consider taking ADHD meds. My husband went 2 years with diabetes undiagnosed and now is 49 with stage 3 heart failure. He was a AVID Pepsi drinker. Now he does drink diet drinks or Sweet Tea but with Splenda not sugar. Plus it has caffeine.

[@bethweeks5943]

👍🤗❤️🤗👍

[@scalylayde8751]

I can't believe you get hate for showing your messy house. As someone who struggles to keep up on housework, nothing is more demoralizing than clicking on a video like this and seeing a home that already looks clean as the "before" shot. Your house looks like mine and I find that comforting

[@531katie]

Haha. I think those people who send her hate mail really need to get a life.

[@Crazylab1616]

Why would you get hate comments? It looks like you live there, you have kids, and you have a life. You tackle the job when you need to. Well done.

[@clamh84]

This was a really helpful video, not just because of the excellent content, but also for the honesty. It’s rare to see a content creator talk about the realities of working class life in a normal home like my own home.

[@Roslyn-b7t]

Girl. I cried after the video. I thank you for your transparency and the encouragement thru your words, energy, and actions. This content was #1 for me. Thank you for sharing your content and deep rooted story.

[@staceydemory3845]

Procrastination is not really a sign of laziness. It is a person struggling with decision making and trying to do the “right” or more so “perfect” solution. You become so anxious that it turns into no decision, which affords you some relief at that moment. A job half done is better than a job done perfectly that never happens.

[@snl4742]

Well said and so true.

[@aut0magikul]

I agree I struggle with that and I don’t know why or how that happens then I’ll cry and just go to my room where it’s clean and say forget it then wake up overwhelmed again I write lists and I can’t remember where to start

[@lizrichard3137]

@aut0magikul I'm the same way, it's exhausting and depressing. These videos help though, especially if I clean "with" them - like someone is here helping

[@alexisseals2238]

Wow, this has been me the past 3 years. I also manage other people's lives for a living... by the time I come home and have to mom my amazing brilliant and Autistic little boy as well as train his new service puppy.. I'm pooped and so over whelmed.. I get an anexity and panic attacks to the point of migraines, and then I'll avoid and sleep all day. New busy work and single mom weekly routine approaches, and I then find myself remarking the same to do list I've made for the past two weeks and so on... then I get discouraged and talk smack to myself about how pathetic my time management and duty prioritizing skills are... pretty much non existence when it comes to managing and caring for myself. Then comes depression and so on and so forth... That whole lather, rinse, repeat thing... Thank you for this video!

[@nancybrooklyn]

I’m in the process of moving.. and the overwhelmed is the word! Where do I begin! I enjoyed watching you tackle your chores.. and your English accent is soothing.. as I’m American😊

[@sheritablackburn2962]

I love that you talk and don’t play music throughout your videos. Hearing your story is inspiring.

[@laurelsternberg5861]

Hello from an American ex-pat in Israel. You are sooo likeable! I appreciate your honesty and humility. You did a great job on your voice over, filming and editing. Your video is encouraging and helpful. But your sweet personality is what really shines through. I feel like I found a very nice new neighbor, albeit a few thousand miles away. God bless you.

[@rosemariesanchez1338]

It's so refreshing to see someone have a messy house and put it in order just like us ordinary people do. I hate seeing someone with a glamorous updated house saying they have to clean and in 5 minutes it's all perfect again. I often get distracted from one chore so your idea of the list sounds perfect for me. I'll be starting that tomorrow...thank you so much for this wonderful dose of reality!

[@d.c.copeland2137]

As someone with ADHD and a very cruel inner critic, hearing the way you talk about being compassionate with yourself is so heartwarming. Thank you for this video, I have saved it and will watch it often! Keep being wonderfully kind, and know that you are a fantastic mum!

[@cathsrq]

I do laundry started first then dishes and trash. Hearing the washing machine and dishwasher running are music to my ears! Great vid.

[@amieroberg9258]

Omg I love this video. Sick of watching videos of people cleaning their already clean homes. And your personality is fantastic. I could see us being besties

[@irenemoreaux4446]

Dear Remi. What a fantastic video. I thank you. I am in my 70s and can SO RELATE to everything you said. I was a single mom for quite a few years and I felt so frustrated at times because my energy level was at a low. Working full time then working with my son. I loved helping him with his schooling, but I wish I had had a bit more money to spend on him and more energy. Please. Take it from another woman, you are absolutely perfect the way you are. You do so much for everyone else and like most women, we tend to not take as good of care of ourselves as we should. As Imaged, I too am noticing I can get sidetracked quickly. Very frustrating, but I quite beating myself up about it. I have learned to say no when I know I cannot take on a project for someone. Your candor about tackling a huge project is truly appreciated. I have one large room I absolutely must organize but I keep putting it off. Take good care of yourself.

[@gailhawkins3134]

Don't knock yourself. Pat yourself on the back. You're helping others who feel overwhelmed too! Well done!

[@jessgetsdressed]

This is the first video ive seen of yours and i think you are so encouraging, down to earth and good hearted. Well done on this even if it was a year ago. ❤

[@paulinebarbour162]

It's great to see a realistic home & tidy up. Most of the time the homes you see on KZbin don't even need cleaning 🙃 you're fab 🙂 x

[@katiemilton4821]

I love the idea of the list being short and then adding on another item as one is finished. This is SO clever.

[@leaharchambault5796]

Girl, nobody should judge you for HAVING a messy house, they should be impressed that you’re cleaning a messy house. We ALL have had our homes get messy, the point is to get it cleaned so it doesn’t STAY messy. ❤️

[@LemonEyesNL]

Indeed!

[@annemariemaythews]

Messy house happy kids it only takes a couple of hours a day to clean up do it while the kids are at school love your videos ❤🎉

[@annemariemaythews]

I am not judging anyone all I said was mess house happy kids and u can tidy up when their at school or nursery I lived in a house with 5sister that wasn't tidy at all time not by a long shot

[@sallykelley3453]

Girl..I am soooo PROUD of YOU! And you're seriously speaking my story! I love lists too & thank you for all those supplements that helped you; I will try them too. Thank you for your vulnerability and sharing this amazing & helpful video. Xo

[@southernlady5085]

Sometimes the reason for this sort of mess isn’t psychological but physical. For those with physical pain or disability, it becomes a matter of being in too much pain or experiencing exhaustion from ongoing intense pain, to keep up with cleaning. It becomes easier to drop things because the pain won’t allow you to function properly. I had a relative whose house was a chaotic mess. She was a neat freak until a neurological problem brought uncontrolled pain in her latter years. She was highly disturbed by the shape of her home. Yet, at the same time, she also told me that when experiencing the most intense levels of pain, that the pain controlled her life and kept her from cleaning her home or folding clothes, or cooking a meal. She said that the pain “swallowed her up whole.” I’ve never forgotten that phrase. She didn’t have a moment pain-free, even with meds. But to think that the levels were so intense that she felt she ceased to exist, is frightening. As a younger woman she did everything from being a successful businesswoman to world traveler to wonderful homemaker and mother. The disease changed her. One day she could bend over to pick up a dropped sweater and the next, it was absolute torture for her. And she grieved that. She grieved what she had been and what she had become. And because of the cost of meds, she couldn’t afford a regular cleaning service. How many seniors live like that? It seems like we don’t speak enough about what chronic disease and/or pain does to a person. She felt real guilt and was in a situational depression because of the state of her home as well as the lack of control she had over her life. Ten years before, she could have cleaned everything without a problem. I helped her keep the house as much as possible, but I was attending college and working at the time. Eventually she went to assisted living where she had cleaning service and meals provided. She bounced back from the situational depression to a great extent in the assisted living center, but there was always a core of sadness that remained due to the pain. She felt the pain had won. Perhaps it did to a certain extent. But ultimately, she received the help she needed to live the best life possible in her condition. In my way of thinking, that was a win ultimately.

[@LatishaEarnshaw]

As a young stay at home mum with anxiety, especially when I’m struggling to do the house, you’ve made me feel less alone with this so thank you 🥰

[@remiclog]

I’m so pleased to hear this 🥰

[@kristykanen9315]

I feel bad for your kids.

[@monica7143]

@@kristykanen9315 what an awful thing to say. I imagine her children are quite well and happy.

[@tamsin1975]

@@kristykanen9315 so you're miss perfect? Quality time with your kids and a pristine organised house hub? Not possible unless you pay for a cleaner!!

[@kristykanen9315]

@@tamsin1975 I'm a disabled 71 year old, never married no children. I just recently had to accept help for some housekeeping chores. I have had roommates who were lazy and or hoarded up my home. I must be " perfect " or an obsessive compulsive " clean freak", because there's nothing on the floor of my house but rugs. furniture and shoes. 🙄

[@colleenovo1084]

I cannot say how much I appreciate your video. You have spoken to so much of my life. The chronic disorganization, the guilt, the ADD, the low self esteem because of it all. The not being able to afford the helpful gadgets. Forget about any haters. People like me appreciate this so much!

[@ADayInTheLifeofLori]

I have struggled with clutter all of my life. I am always grateful when someone posts REAL videos about genuine challenges!

[@rosemarybaxter9120]

That was me years ago when I had a husband and three children. I always wish I had followed my granny’s advice (she had six children). She said, ‘Don’t put it down. Put it away. Simple advice, but life changing once you get into the habit.

[@JaniBartholomew]

Awesome I cant believe how much you got done in a short time gives me hope ❤

[@alexmelendezrolon872]

Ok straight up this is the best cleaning video I've ever seen for people with ADHD and Autism. Like...the list idea where you just start off with writing your first two most important tasks and then add others as you cross them off is so smart so that you don't get super overwhelmed just from the list. And as you cross things off, the house slowly becomes less and less overwhelming which makes it easier to keep going. Thank you so so much, I really appreciate this.

[@ahaley3292]

I like that your home is actually dirty when you start to clean it. It doesn't motivate me to watch someone basically clean a home that already looks perfect. I appreciate you!

[@eileenconnolly1834]

Do you never use a tea towel to dry your dishes?

[@UktiJuma]

@@ahaley3292 yes 💯 agree! All these other vloggers start off with a clean room and then overreact by saying omg this is soooooo bad. These videos actually make people feel crap!

[@beeTheEngineer]

THIS!

[@conniemedlin09]

I'm 60 years old and have raised 5 kids. I was diagnosed with ADHD at age 40. It helped me to understand why I struggled so much with keeping my house organized and tidy. I wasn't lazy. I'd be working at it all day but you çouldnt tell. I read many books but couldn't consistently implement their ideas. I eventually started doing almost exactly what you did in this video. Make a simple list and tackle one thing at a time: toys, clothing, shoes, garbage, dishes. Same idea for cleaning: all the mirrors, all the hard floors, all the beds, vacuum all the carpet, etc. When my kids were home they would do it with me. It might sound silly to some people but it worked for me. I liked your video. I'm sure it will help some people.

[@GlowupMommies]

How u got to know u have adhd or its just mom's brain? I feel i have developed adhd too

[@barbarastankus9753]

I used to step in and clean up the family mess. Then I set new rules. Everyone is responsible for their own mess. It’s rude and disrespectful for anyone to create a mess that someone else has to clean. I provided bins for trash, hampers for dirty clothes and organized drawers for clean clothes. Everyone made their own bed, washed their own dishes, and tidied up what was theirs. Mutual respect.

[@2smartieslaura]

Well done! As it should be. Plus, family members take that mindset and those skills with them the rest of their lives-- sets everyone up for success! 😊

[@ktwhite8995]

I never send funds but you have made me feel that there is finally someone who understands what I go through trying to clean. Thanks!

[@yvonnebuchanan5027]

I’m 54 and I’ve been messy my whole life. I absolutely love a clean and tidy home, it makes my brain go quiet. I’ve had high powered jobs which allowed me to employ cleaners but my husband died recently from cancer, I gave up my job to care for him and now money is tight and I’ve gone back to being as messy as I was as a teenager. Now I’ve watched your video I feel like I’ve found a kindred spirit so I thank you Remi, firstly for being so honest and secondly for inspiring me to give your method a go. Keep going with your videos, they’re great! X

[@elizabethjones2521]

🙏💞

[@jeanfoster8979]

I’m so sorry for your loss, don’t beat yourself up for being messy your dealing with brief, be kind to yourself. X

[@erinhurlock5521]

I greatly appreciate your candor ❤ As an empty nester who's nearly 50, I've finally found a way to make laundry easier. I sort my clothes based on where they get put away. All my hanging clothes go together, my folded clothes are together, etc. It's the only way I've found that makes certain all my clothes are put away. Blessings to you and your family!

[@issaextras6549]

Well done for sharing your real life experience. I too often feel overwhelmed with my home and I do not know how it gets so untidy after a deep spring clean. .

[@villagesteader3552]

Getting distracted is so easy…my solution used to be that my best friend and I would clean each other’s house once a week, dusting, floors, bathrooms, and that type of thing. It was amazing! Alas, my best friend is now waiting for me in heaven and I am caring for my Mother, which is a whole other challenge…I’m not young like you but watching your video made me think of good times in the past! You are wise beyond your years. Love from the USA!♥️

[@loribragg2947]

I am a retired cleaning woman; I cleaned houses for 27 years. Now at 62, even though I'm rather OCD, it can be hard to get motivated to clean, because I've been doing it since I started washing dishes at 4 years old! 😂 So, here are some helpful tips: Your list was a great idea. It breaks it down into smaller tasks. But daily cleaning is key to keeping your home orderly. So, what I do when I'm tired and overwhelmed is choose one relatively small task, like clearing a cluttered table and cleaning it. Then I'll reward myself with maybe a ten minute KZbin video. Or I'll clean a whole room top to bottom and then allow myself a 45 minute break. I have five parrots, a rescued Cottontail rabbit, and a large garden I maintain. I also run a small online business. But this method really works! Also, I'm a serious deep cleaner, so I can get bogged down in one room and lose time. I've learned to pick a room each week and deep clean it over the course of the week--baseboards one day, ceiling fans another, etc. If you need really good cleaning tips, I'm happy to help. I can clean just about anything, lol. For starters, get yourself a good quality spray bottle and mix one part dish liquid to about 5 parts water. As soon as a meal is over, layer the dirty dishes in the sink, spraying them with the dish liquid from the bottom up. Let them set about five minutes. Then come back with either a paper towel or pre-wash cloth and do a quick wipe and rinse and stack them next to your sink. This is a great way to keep dishes from overwhelming your kitchen. Because maybe you don't have time to wash all the dishes right then--but when you can come back to it later, they won't have food hardened on them. And start teaching your children to help. Use a reward system. I started folding laundry and washing dishes at the age of four (I stood on a chair). While this is a little extreme, children actually need to feel useful and helpful. It's good for them! 😊

[@ella-and-her-cup-of-coffee]

This are really good tips! Thank you very much ❤

[@nhabinezabudara8797]

Good wolker you are!!👏👏👏

[@stephanieoregan]

To anyone giving this wonderful lady a hard time: GET STUFFED Thank you for sharing ❤

[@Karen-ur6mm]

I've dealt with depression since losing my son and felt overwhelmed with cleaning.. But your method worked like a charm for me since I'm scatter brained also... I found it easy to make a list of 2 things to clean out of each room and then moved on to next 2 and was able to tackle the whole house clean... THANK YOU SO MUCH!!

[@annamcbride6163]

Thank you for the video!! I am 66 , and still struggle with my house!! I love your accent, and your personality!!! You did a GREAT job!!!!

[@keithmarj]

There is nothing more motivating than a friend you haven't seen for a while messaging - "I'm in your area - I can be with you in 20 minutes". Believe me - that 20 minutes can generate a LOT of cleaning and tidying! 😄 Well done you!

[@sallyocallaghan1452]

Thanks! You just made my day! Not because you straightened up faster than anyone, but because your voice and story filled me with delight. Your sincerity, honesty and your ability to remain true to yourself are calming to we who are fighting the same demons. With gratitude, Sally

[@erickaprice4789]

I absolutely love you!!! You are so real and honest. Thank you for helping me feel so not alone in my struggle!!!

[@Good2GoFreeUp]

Yes, that house was pretty messy. However, there's one thing that I can 100 percent guarantee you: You're not alone. Many, many people lead such busy lives that their housework piles up on them until it's as bad as or worse than the house in the video. A lot of people ask your same question, "OMG, where do I even begin?" You've helped people to answer that question. Thank you for that.

[@meloniepluth5037]

I am 56, much older than you, and no kids left to keep up with, but I remember. I could not have felt more proud of you than if you were my own daughter. And so much of what you said made me think of my own life and others I know. You keep doing whatever it is that you're doing. You are a wonderful inspiration. And videos like this should not be shameful!! As a matter of fact, you inspire me to do something I've been talking to my husband about and that is videoing us cleaning our junk rooms! Scary thought. Because I feel more inspired watching people cleaning/clearing things that actually need it, then all the videos out there of people who are already OCD and near freaks showing me how to clean the already clean!!! Loved this video and you!!! ♥️♥️♥️

[@TheAkimino]

I know this is an old-ish comment but I wanted to reply because it genuinely moved me. You're around the same age as my parents, and I wish I could hear them saying things you've said as I sometimes struggle to keep my living space tidy. I wish you all the best.

[@meloniepluth5037]

@@TheAkimino thank you ❤️❤️

[@renlish]

I think what I love about this process is that you don't do a huge long list to start with, but break it down and add on as chores are done. One less thing to be overwhelmed with.

[@reginamoody7720]

I have struggled my whole life with organization and clutter so I get it. I’m getting better as I get older. Thanks for sharing.

[@threelilies9453]

Here's something I learned from my elderly landlady: clean up your pots and pans while you are cooking. She always amazed me by how clean her kitchen was right after she finished cooking. Best advice and example I ever had. 😊

[@vonnie4781]

That’s what I was taught, do it as you go!

[@nancyinthegarden3160]

that’s what I learned after 50 yrs if cooking. I also learned during covid to cook the food you can before too tired after work. Cut veg, marinate the meat, get whatever you can prepared before you are too tired to cook. also have heAlthy munchies while preparing bc it’s sometimes stressful to have another thing to do. Don’t come home r dry night and work done more. take 2-3 nights and plan what you’re going to do. maybe all the laundry, maybe food shop, but do t leave all work for. the weekend. it leaves us drained and not rested. never stop learning how to do better. I’m now, making lists of chores and distributing them to others in home.

[@MsMirage171]

I cannot thank you enough for this video. The shame and guilt I’ve been carrying around. You have blessed me in knowing I’m not alone.

[@Mamafish68]

Right!!

[@NuckingFuts56]

Hi 👋 Ms Mirage. Ikr! You’re not alone. “Lynn’s video was the fire 🔥 that I needed! I went to both dollar trees yesterday. I’ll keep you posted. I have until Christmas… 🎅🎄 *Update* I gave myself a couple weeks to clean up and organize using both dollar “stores and I feel like I got a whole new home for 2023 leaving 123123 and a clean 🧼 🏡 Thank you!

[@barbaramobley8845]

Remi you're not going to believe this but you have even helped me! Im 72 yo! Im messy but love to have everything neat. With complications from old age i can work maybe 30 min then need to rest. My problem with that is i get involved with KZbin or games and sit way too long. I know i need to get up and get out, do things, see people while I'm able but i spend all day trying to just get everyday housework done. I like to craft, sew, garden and get upset with myself that i don't allow myself time for those things. I truly believe that your list making suggestion completing one thing at a time will help me and encourage me to go a little longer before i stop for a rest. Then writing the next thing will excite me to get back busy faster to get it done! I'm going to start now! I moved about 1 1/2 mo ago and still have boxes sitting around. If i can finish my chore list (and its not as long as yours--no toys, and such as that) and then put up a few things or even empty one box it will lift my spirits so much! Then maybe i can get outside and get my flower garden going or go see an old friend!

[@emilythompson3605]

I’m 75 and I am inspired.

[@hp-cs7mx]

Using a kitchen timer set in the next room helped me move.

[@shag6414]

You sound like me. I hope we both get back to doing things we enjoy!

[@beccat2593]

Watching this whilst signed off with depression. I have ADHD and your"rambling"is like therapy for me....I'm out of bed, tackling my mess and bodydoubling ! Actually smiling because you are real and showing we can do this! Thank u so much.

[@veganmama2five397]

When I am overwhelmed I always wash the dishes first, that is usually enough to get me in the right frame of mind :)

[@remiclog]

I love this. It really is such a small thing sometimes that can spur you on to get more done isn’t it! X

[@kerriblick6899]

Dishes and laundry those are the 2 things that already make the home feel so much cleaner and soon as I hear that washer it gets me started

[@angelanailen8604]

Sorry meant trial medication ❤

[@carolinemottram9495]

You are amazing ...keep going you really normalize my life you are so honest and upfront..Another subscriber 😬 I can resonate with tones of your experience ..How you go far xx

[@levieenrose7646]

Me too.

[@morgancha1272]

This is amazing! Finally a realistic “tidy up a messy house” type of video. My place gets like this (sometimes worse) but when I see people online posting tidying / cleaning their places and they aren’t even messy it’s so disheartening because I feel like such a slob. It’s become even worse since I had my first baby a few months ago. I also find myself never knowing where to start and just getting too overwhelmed and giving up. I will definitely try your method! Thank you for this ❤

[@Larapalms]

I am 62 years old. I have never heard of executive disfunction before, but I have had it all my life. Thank you so much for taking the time to show me an amazing way to work through it. This is so awesome!!!

[@janetparfitt5502]

Really love this vid! I struggle so much with mess and sometimes I feel so ashamed and overwhelmed by it all. I've always been messy and I just figured that was how I was and I could never get anything tidy. You've really inspired me to have a go and do a little at a time. Thank you so much!

[@yesiownfrodo]

Your voiceovers are very well done. What's missing is the 15 minute whole family tidy up at the end of the day. It will take the pressure off, and make it fun. Everyone stays together and works together. My parents had music we put on and it was only 15 minutes and it works. I'm now an adult, my son is now on his own, and I noticed that when I forget the 15 minute tidy at the end of the day, the house goes in the toilet. Hang in there.

[@beverlybenson9981]

Love your transparency. I'm 77 years old, and there are days I feel overwhelmed. It's just my husband and me with three cats. Some days are good. Some days are bad. As my grandma told me years ago when my children were little, "In a hundred years, no one will ever know you had dust bunnies under your bed." ❤

[@bitrudder3792]

It’s true that in 100 years most people won’t remember us at all. But your quality of life can be affected by those dust bunnies, especially if they are under your bed. Why not treat yourself to a cleaner space that is going to have cleaner air to breathe? Indoor air quality is a health hazard people don’t think about. I’ve seen people get sick sleeping in rooms that have dusty books, and require asthma medicine. A friend of mine who got into essential oils started cleaning her house with an all-purpose cleaner infused with a powerful antimicrobial blend, and after one season she commented that this is the first year that her family wasn’t continually sick during the winter. Another friend has lived in two houses with mold issues, resulting in so many health problems that they ended up bankrupt. Even though I am a nurse, I’m not a clean freak: I do think we need some germs to keep our immune systems in good shape, but I can’t deny that people do get sicker In houses with cleanliness issues. Your feelings of overwhelm may not only be from being 77, they may also be from a body overwhelmed with sensitivities. Especially with pets and all the hair that they typically generate. I literally buy HVAC filters for one relative as a present because they have four dogs and one cat, talk about hair! Her husband is always sick, he’s allergic to pets and would rather suffer with allergy medicine. It is compromising their income, because he has declined promotions because of his health. Love yourself more, decluttering and cleaning are two great ways to do this. So are simple things like being outdoors to watch the sun come up and the sun go down, and it put your bare feet on the grass or the dirt, or last choice, on the concrete. Stay hydrated, take a touch of pure sea salt when you drink clean water throughout the day, maybe half a class at a time. Oh, and don’t wear glasses or sunglasses or contact lenses when you are enjoying these outdoor times. These actions help modulate the response of your immune system so that it doesn’t overreact or under react so much, and it’s perfectly free to do. Except buying the sea salt and maybe the filters needed for clean water. Your grandma gave you wise advice so that you didn’t worry about cleaning in an excessive way at the expense of things that really matter. But you can give your descendants both that same advice, and more, based on the wisdom that you have acquired throughout your life. Blessings on you and yours!

[@Terri-y3r]

THIS IS MORE NORMAL THAN THOSE HOUSES THAT ARE SPOTLESS! THANK YOU FOR HELPING ME FEEL NOT ALONE GOD BLESS YOU 😉

[@SUPERIORWOMAN]

God bless you THANK YOU for showing me that others have homes that get like this too. My heart is broken, I lost my son a year ago to a fentanyl overdose and I've lost my ability to fight on some days. I want my home clean during the holidays. You gave me hope. THANK YOU .

[@bluemacaw1473]

I am really sorry about your loss. That must be devastating on a daily basis. Please know that there are people that care about you, and want you to do well.

[@TheMrsebanks]

Have to say to expose yourself and home like this is really commendable. Thanks for this .

[@lydiasolanki461]

Finally a realistic cleaning video. I also get frustrated and feel paralyzed when things get too messy. It helps to see step by step how you manage the housework.

[@CesMoniqueVitan]

its comforting to know I'm not alone in feeling this Thank you

[@MySemiSortedLife]

#truth

[@hannahgoldie1373]

Thank you for a very relatable approach to overwhelm. So encouraging and down to earth and lots of honest self care ideas and tips that feel quite attainable. Cheered me up and got me motivated👍🏼 Bless you.❤I😇

[@jolynngood2746]

I battle depression and I have let my small apartment get way out of control. Watching your video and listening to you tell your story makes me feel like maybe there is hope for me yet. Thank you!

[@Ohhappyday764]

Me too.

[@nicholethechronichousewife480]

Same here! Enough is enough! Time to kick my depression right in the butt and put my mind on the right track again!

[@basinball1]

I was meant to find this today. Chronic clinical depression depletes my motivation and I often stay in bed to avoid the mess. I’m messy, my son is messy and autistic so both of us are overwhelmed. I love your method and am going to try it. Wish me luck - and motivation! I’ll keep following you to keep the mojo going. Thank you!

[@remiclog]

Wishing you all the luck and motivation! and I hope this method worlds for you! X

[@rc7659]

I love reading all these comments, look how many people are truly helped here.

[@CarmieDunk68]

I suffer from depression and no motivation. Be encouraged with the little things you get done each day. My mother would ask me, "how do you eat an elephant...one bit at a time. I take pride in cleaning one corner and if that's all I can do that's okay. The next day I take another bite at that elephant. We can do it!!!☺️

[@KristaAndersonPhilipps]

Wishing you luck boo! You got this, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

[@KristaAndersonPhilipps]

@@CarmieDunk68 So true, and so beautiful!

[@TemperenceTheGinger]

I love your idea of only putting the most important tasks on the list and then only adding more after crossing the completed ones off! I think this could really help my ADD brain to not get so overwhelmed. Thank you for the tips and for being so open and posting. Women should SUPPORT other women, not tear them down. How dare they call themselves a “feminist” and then go after another woman for something as simple as how they clean their home, what they wear, etc., we MUST support one another and build each other up💜 Edit: grammar

[@joannacorbett3522]

I know I am crazy late commenting on this… but today I had my kitchen to tackle… and I was struggling, so I searched and this video came up for me, and you had me crying… because someone understood!! Thank you!! I am so excited to watch more of your videos!! You not not only inspired and motivated me but talking about your struggles has helped me move more too!! Thank you!!

[@stabbykat]

First, I think your doing great. People that don’t understand how the mess happens and judge you for it have never had to be in your shoes. I had to stop working for pay when my grandmother who I took care of after became completely bedridden (dementia for ten years before) I also have rescue animals including some I had to save from a feral heard of cats I try to care for they would have died by morning if I had left them. I have a husband as well who works all the time to make up for me not being able to work for pay anymore, I’m the only one taking care of the house, cooking, caring full time for grandma and the animals all the cleaning etc.. I was in an accident that almost killed me n I couldn’t move for months, I’m still trying to catch up now and it’s impossible when I’m in pain. My house went from order to chaos and has been that way for awhile. I also have never owned a dishwasher I am the dishwasher 😂 I also don’t like coffee and I’m very caffeine sensitive, when I need some caffeine once in awhile I will drink a Bai, it’s got about 55-75 mg caffeine depends on which one you get. I’m glad your phasing out the soda a little at a time it’s the best way to kick something so your body isn’t overwhelmed with detox symptoms. I lost my favorite kitten yesterday after two weeks of caring for her, she died at the vet n I’m so heartbroken I’m not motivated and tired but your video helped I’m gonna try to push through and get some things done💯❤️

[@samanthawyse8378]

Not me actually crying because your mess matches my mess and i don't feel alone anymore

[@Girlsgirl82]

SAME!

[@cjvisser-johnston3969]

more people out there like us than you think

[@bevee3711]

In a world of “fake”, thank you for your honesty and transparency. Makes me feel like I can do it too!

[@jayhope3785]

One thing that really helps is having less. That means you have one crockery cutlery set and you wash as you use them. The less we have, the less we have to clean, wash, dust etc. Really works for me, and the minimalism means your space looks roomier too. Just a share. Be well 🎉

[@tnliz1448]

You absolutely have the greatest common sense attitude, so realistic. Thank you. Don't let people's comments bother you. You are wonderful.

[@lindamoreno6485]

i agree you are wonderful and realistic!!!

[@jeneckhardt5482]

I was just watching true crime videos and have no idea how I came across this but I started watching and I swear it was like you were talking directly to me!! I'm just the same! I struggle with depression pretty heavily and my house is never clean. I'm 45 and married with 2 young girls ages 12 and 9. (I have a 21yr old son but he moved out) My house gets trashed sometimes less than a day after I bust my butt and break my back cleaning it so sometimes I think why bother doing it at all. It's so overwhelming and I never know where to start. Yes, my children should be helping but getting them to do it is world war 3! And my poor husband deserves better. He is a clean freak! It didn't use to be this way. My first husband died tragically at work in 2004. He had a a son, who is now 21. I loved cleaning, all of it. After he died, of course I was never the same. I wish I could get that motivation to clean back. I am so happy that I came across this video. I'm going to subscribe and go watch the rest of your videos! I think it could help motivate me. Thank you for having the courage to post this. People's homes are usually a private thing and rightly so, so I really do appreciate your courage. Thank you all the way from Ft.Worth Texas!

[@lwinkfein]

I'm bipolar type 2 and my house swings between a disaster and clean and tidy. I get so overwhelmed that I just want to go back to bed, then beat myself up for being so useless. Then when I feel better I'm able to cope and am happy. Yes, the to do list helps. I give up, but later I can manage one small thing. Today is clean the fridge. It might not get done but it's at the top of the list and even one shelf at a time is better than nothing. One shelf is starting on the job and encourages to be more. The struggle is real. I'm 71 and this has been my life.

[@BrooklynMariposa1030]

I think you are SUPER adorable and I could listen to you talk all day long. Thank you for being vulnerable and transparent. It helps me to know I’m not the only one who has an out of control mess from time to time.

[@benicio1967]

I couldn’t be more serious when I say I genuinely love and respect you for this. You are so honest and nearly everyone can truly relate to how our homes can get out of hand. I can’t tell you how much I admire you and appreciate your candor. This is actually a gift of encouragement for so many of us who have those times in our life where we are just absolutely exhausted and overwhelmed by the day to day demands that life can put on us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. ❤❤❤

[@tyanneh1]

This might help with your laundry situation. I have a basket for each person in the house, all of their stuff goes into their basket, then I have a 1 basket for towels and linens. I do 1 basket at a time, and when it's just one persons basket you don't have to sort it out into 2-3 different rooms, you just go to that persons room and put it away. That has helped me so so much.

[@debbiewindsor6834]

Agree organisation is the key and teaching everyone to put things away, I did this from the get go with my daughter, she’s still a bit untidy but her dirty washing is always in the linen basket and her clean clothes put away.

[@janice2992]

​@@debbiewindsor6834 Organisation what's that? Can I buy some? Does it take up much room? My flat is not big enough so I need a small organisation. It sure sounds good.😘💐

[@debbiewindsor6834]

@@janice2992 Organisation - This word derives from an Old French verb meaning "to combine into an orderly whole." It is not a commodity to be purchased! 😘

[@RebekahR213]

It's refreshing to see a real person dealing with real life. It's amazing you figured yourself out so early in life. Took me twice as long. I'm stubborn and didn't want to admit my short comings. Thanks and God bless.

[@christfollower221]

Thank you for being Vulnerable. Many of us suffer in silence with ADHD and this is a regular issue for those of us with big families. Thank you thank you thank you for making us feel less alone.

[@vonnie4781]

I won’t lie, I personally can’t relate to the mess! I was taught very young “do it as you go”! Listening to you helped me so much. I realised that we just aren’t all the same! I respect you for what I watched you accomplish in this video, the way you explained yourself and your acceptance and understanding of yourself! The reason this helped me is because I have a daughter-in-law just like you in her housekeeping! We are close because she doesn’t have the mother influence she needed growing up! I’ve tried my best to teach her, to no avail! She wants to, she just can’t get it done! You’ve opened me to a new understanding! I want her to watch this and maybe she will relate to you in a positive way! I learned so much, not housework techniques, I learned a new way of acceptance. Allowing my daughter-in-law to be who she is and work on theses issues a little at a time! I think you are are awesome! You’re doing a lot of good by you being you! Thank you!

[@aliciadeffes9959]

Sometimes it’s so clear how God works through people and even chance meetings though a KZbin video that popped up. God bless you for allowing your mind to be open and see your daughter-in-law’s struggles. And that she’s not lazy, she just needs to adapt skills in baby steps - and not beat herself up. Trust me, negativity and statements of disapproval and judgment replay through our heads All. Day. Long. I’m so glad for her sake that you are able to put judgment aside so you can meet her where she is in your support of her. I (now 50) wish all these young mommas courage, faith in themselves, and the belief that they and their kids are worth a better living environment. My house might have gotten this bad when I was struggling with severe depression a time or two - but mostly I did see my younger self in her and loved how she has explained things and her realizations and thoughts as well.

[@sandratalbert9578]

If she has children, and if you don’t already do so… offer to take them to your house so she can have some alone time to do what she wants to get done. Nice you are trying to understand we all do things differently.👍👍👍

[@JanaAndrews-v2n]

I am 64 years old and I have struggled with executive dysfunction my entire life! You are helping me a lot! I am ok IF I can get started, but I am paralyzed trying to begin. You hit my nail on the head! Thank you thank you, and keep on truckin’ .

[@bitrudder3792]

I had an Epiphany when Flylady said “you can do anything for 15 minutes.” I figured if 15 minutes was good, so was five. And so was two minutes. The more distasteful the task, The shorter the time I put on my timer. Just dividing things into categories is brilliant. But if overwhelmed, it’s perfectly OK to say that you will only pick things out for two minutes if that’s all you can handle at once. Generally once we get started, we find we can do another couple of minutes and so forth. I use the 2-5 minute rule for the tasks that repel me the most and break those tasks down into the tiniest steps possible. And sometimes the first task is “Think about what the very first thing is that I have to do to do this, and write it down.”

[@terryheatwole6153]

What I liked: your positive approach being reinforced by your background choice of motivational cleaning “partners,” your reinforcing positive actions by checking off your accomplishments in real time, and your accepting love of yourself. Making these videos and saying aloud your personal goals, sharing them with thousands of strangers is so empowering; it will bring you all the success that I, and others, wish for you. Along the way, we might start loving ourselves a little bit more and feel less alone.

[@remiclog]

This comment has made my day!! Thank you! ❤️

[@geeandreid23]

I appreciate your bravery and compassion in putting yourself out there in order to help others. I don't know many, personally or professionally, who would do that. I am the hoarding case manager in my county. So many people think people are hoarders when really, myself included, they just get behind and suddenly it is overwhelming. Now there is no place to start or end in sight. Thank you ❤ Thank you ❤Thank you ❤

[@ArrowOdenn]

I'm moving house in 10 days and COMPLETELY overwhelmed by the amount of packing I have to do. Watching this and sort of thinking of the packing as tidying (only into boxes) is really helping. I'm going to combine my lists with timers so I can take a break every 20 minutes or so, hopefully that will stop me wanting to cry. Thank you for your help.

[@huntresskyfire7]

Thank you so very much for posting a video showing what a real messy house looks like and real ways to deal with the executive dysfunction. This is so so helpful.

[@remiclog]

So pleased you found the video helpful! X

[@elizabethevans8210]

I am so impressed at how you tackled the house and especially how you control the things on your list. I’m a huge list-maker and don’t always get everything crossed off, keeping your list shorter and focussed is genius!

[@faerielady5744]

You have no idea how much this has helped me. And it was timely. THANK YOU. I AM SUBSCRIBING.

[@lorrainegoodrich698]

I think you're my sister from another mother. I'm so glad I found you. I'm really not alone. Thank you for making this video

[@shaunie7473]

As a 38 yr old single woman with no kids, I’ve always felt overwhelmed with my chores and this video has made it easier for me to be a bit kinder to myself, because I always judged myself so harshly thinking I had “no excuse” for being so untidy. I was never this way and gradually found myself slipping into the hole of mess after every unpleasant situation in my life. It was actually a pleasure watching this, thank you for the helpful yet real content.🙏🏾

[@ericaengle2500]

Sister, you are speaking my language. I, too, have gained so much weight since Covid, been ill frequently, and am overwhelmed by my clutter. Thank you for being genuine and providing some much needed motivation! This video popped up on my feed at just the right time. ❤

[@sickofcrap8992]

It's good to know that there are others out there that are like me. God bless you for putting up with the hate from the judgment brigade! You're better than me on that count! 😂 Best wishes from "across the pond." 😉

[@Drippy_Catt]

I’m a messy person, and my boyfriend is a messier person. I have autism, and he has adhd. One of the biggest things that has helped me keep our life in order longer, is decluttering! If you have less stuff overall, then less stuff piles up or gets unorganized. I do about 3 loads of laundry a week, that’s all our clothes and our towels, because I’ve gotten rid of so many clothes. Same with dishes, I’ve given so many dishes and pans and (good) containers to goodwill, and our dishes don’t get to the heaping pile they used to. My decluttering tip is just to make sure everything has a home, and if it doesn’t, make one or get rid of it. It doesn’t matter if you do the konmari method, swedish death cleaning, or my new favorite one, pretend that you’re moving and ask if you’d really want to pack something, move it, and unpack it. I find that to be exceptionally motivating to get rid of stuff lol I hope this helps someone else like me! ^_^

[@cassykent1964]

This was so helpful! I’m someone with depression and anxiety and I’ve always been a messy person. You have lots of great ideas and even watching you clean is helping me. Thank you!

[@elizabethfleck6536]

58 yr old, ADHD, depression, and I can totally identify with you. "Overwhelming" is an understatement. Executive dysfunction is a new phrase to me. . . . But remember, "normal" is simply a setting on the washing machine. Thank you for this enlightening video.

[@xradelox]

I love that! “Normal is just a setting on the washing machine” 😻🙏🏻

[@heatherclark8668]

I went out with a guy who had been taught, from a very early age, to do as much housework as he was able to, given his age. Not only did he learn valuable skills, but it was ingrained in him that housework was just a routine thing that was no hassle. He didn't see it as a chore but as just a part of life Even young children can make their own bed, put their dirty clothes in the laundry hamper, pack up their toys, rinse the dishes when they have finished eating etc. I admired this man's mother for training him so well.

[@Ad-Lo]

KZbin just recommended this, and it has BLOWN my mind away! You are so personable, relatable, positive, practical, sensible and an excellent teacher! I love the video and your voice overs! Thank you! You are such a gem! ❤

[@bettyschultz7487]

Ditto!!?

[@bettyschultz7487]

(supposed to be all !!!!)😊

[@iowagreen8932]

Your very first idea is brilliant: don't put everything on a list at once. Put two or three priorities down and add more to the list as you cross the first ones off. Thanks!

[@JacquelineUnderwood]

There’s also an app called tiny decisions, if choosing what’s most important is too overwhelming in the moment, putting all the biggest tasks you usually have to do on one of their spin wheels would remove the decision making from it while still ensuring you at least start on something

[@astrid-anna]

I REALLY love this video! I have ADHD and living alone can be a bit tough. My executive dysfunction has been really bad lately, so it’s a bit difficult to keep a clean home. I tend to get quite embarrassed that i let it get so bad, and feel even worse when i come across “how i tidy up” videos on KZbin, where they first of all, don’t really have a mess to begin with, and secondly have all these expensive gadgets that makes it so much easier. So my point being, it was so nice and refreshing to see your video being realistic! It was really reassuring for me, and made me feel a lot better about it being okay my house gets messy, and it was some actual useful tips you gave! So thank you so much! It was just what i needed today ❤

[@kibbylollabee1259]

I love the executive dysfunction term. I am a widow living alone and so when I survey the messy big house I live in, I know no one else made the mess. your approach is so forgiving and so mentally healthy. I have enough money to hire cleaning help but I have to tidy before they get here!

[@amywesselman4298]

11:45 am You are enough. You are human. You are doing what works for you at this moment- you are inspiring many others by showing a real home and how easily messes multiply! Thank you for sharing!!! ❤

[@Spy-v6z]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one watching this right now! It just sucks you right in!