Urologist Explains how to break the cycle of porn addiction

[@RenaMalikMD]

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[@JoseCoss64]

Although this type of apps are made to help people, they pose a big privacy and security issues as they pretty much see everything that you are doing and collect info about it. I did a little bit of research about this app and it turns out they had a security breach last year, which exposed their users personal info to malicious people

[@davislouange1781]

What causes morning wood?? Thanks

[@hirozzayz8164]

Do you have onlyfans? I'd subscribe

[@nategin9009]

@@hirozzayz8164 seriously bruh

[@harrisonwells2908]

Wtf why would anybody make this app Thank god my parents are no tech geeks and i m grown now But people in there are fcuked up

[@SudhishabChinnu-ft9ly]

I never thought subliminals could make such a huge difference in overcoming addiction, but Borlest proved me wrong. After a couple of weeks, I felt a massive shift in my mindset. If you’re stuck in a cycle, this could be the solution. You’ve got nothing to lose.

[@lordnicoo3250]

What are subliminals

[@videolover1489]

Thank you, Dr. Malik; I have been porn-addicted for 15 years. Now, I am 32 years old, and I have struggled with social life and depression. I never had a real relationship with any woman, and I know any good women dont want a relationship with porn addicts. I have been on the road to recovery and holding myself accountable. This video is beneficial to me. I am sharing this life story so other people can see that they are not alone.

[@virginboi4654]

Feels bad for ya as you DO want a relationship. But for those who don't porn is like a blessing

[@bobopatchnosuke229]

You are not the only one. I'm glad to know I ain't alone. My issue was thinking I'm the only one suffering with this addiction and I'm glad we can go on this road to rebooting together.

[@taylors3149]

same man but not 15 years I've been watching since I was 14 now I'm 24

[@videolover1489]

@@taylors3149 I start watching at 15 and never quite until now. I spend 10 hours watching porn and never leave my apartment when I am off.

[@wewegomb]

You can married another porn addict, there are many women who also porn addict.

[@brentduanefoster]

To all who are struggling with this addiction….wait, let me change that. To all who are WORKING THROUGH this addiction, YOU ARE NOT ALONE, and you have the support that you need. No judgement here whatsoever. Let’s heal together!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@straightouttavoid64]

What worked for me was slowly increasing time between every ,,session,, :D . Like with any other addiction you cannot just break all contact with it at once! you can increase time every time by one day, or maybe one hour and so on, slowly building discipline and other things to focus on and it will work. We are all gonna make it!

[@aqualemon6453]

Stay strong bros

[@thakortushar07]

With you

[@victorecheverria94]

🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@Ahtnagarp]

@@straightouttavoid64 i don't stop porn addiction, just getting a good job, and get a girl and marry her, then do porn in real life, lol

[@kwantumangaliso2562]

This is the 1st time in 6 years that I've gone a week without watching porn. Its not much but for me its groundbreaking. I'm working through the intrusive thoughts and I'm glad to say I feel way better about myself and the relationship I have

[@ThePursuitOfWisdom-G.S.]

Keep at it man!!!

[@liamross7]

Good job dude, keep going

[@avingabani4037]

I am 18 years old and I'm watching porn for last 3 years twice a day on an average there would not be more than 2 days where I haven't masterbated but from now I will gonna make change.

[@ukchris64]

@Itzxsandy Have no shame, your mind will crave what you cannot get, in my case of being older, of course younger women will feature in my mind, if not in the day, then especially at night in my bed,nothing wrong with the off five knuckle shuffle.

[@kassandravalentine]

Good job, but don't feel guilty for watching porn. Sexual freedom is beautiful. Don't let anyone tell you that "sin" exists. You are accountable only to yourself and go and enjoy your life. I love porn and I watch it every day, but I also do many more things, I enjoy my sexuality, and life life to the fullest! LIfe is too short for you to allow someone to dictate what you do.

[@hayatobonds7736]

I think porn addiction is just a small part of a much larger issue: our over-reliance on instant gratification to allievate stress, anxiety, or negative thoughts/emotions. Actively trying to resolve problems in our life is hard because it takes time, requires us to exercise patience, self-control, and perseverance.

[@mike2tuff380]

preach brother

[@santosh34556]

​@savinaymasram4519 Avoid sweets sugar chocolate watermelon etc to avoid lust feelings.😊😊😊 Bramhacharya since last 6 months.

[@bigbootyboy420]

There is nothing wrong with being horny. Normal human emotion

[@JROCC205]

Chocolate is gonna be hard ​@@santosh34556

[@Tomas_F.]

It is SO AWESOME that great doctors started to do these educational videos on YT !! I first found Dr. Mike, now more and more of you. What a great time to live in! Thank you so much!

[@Butterballz23]

This video doesn’t apply to me, but I wanted to take the time to say what so many others have mentioned in previous videos. Thank you so much for addressing so many of these types of topics on your channel in an inviting and non judgemental way. There are so many videos I’ve watched over the past few weeks after finding your channel, pertaining to a myriad of topics; some of which I’ve always wanted to ask about and just never did and others I didn’t even know I wanted to know. Your method of delivery is clear, informative and well organized. You give the impression that you truly care about your patients and viewers, and that’s so vital in effective health communication. So thanks for what you do!

[@TheCocoaDaddy]

Well stated!

[@deadandblue]

Well coming from me years ago I used to enjoy it but as of today I don't a real relationship is becoming more of a bad joke so is virtual love its always bought i taught myself abstinence so I stick alcohol and cigarettes plus coffee i been socially isolated and withdrawn been lonely for years so giving up on love is a better option for me and to my defense im still a virgin been depressed since I was 14 what I enjoy is nothing really but always saw life for me intolerant

[@sheepdogprotector5154]

Dumping hard

[@davidtebbitt5537]

Doesn't apply.🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Crazy-77]

Doesn’t apply to me either. 😉🤫

[@joshuaokoro-sokoh2993]

This is something most people needed to hear. Not beating yourself up, being kind to yourself.

[@Eamonshort1]

Not beating yourself up, and not beating yourself off.

[@roderickspencerjr.2482]

Thank you for posting this for those who struggle with such things that affect them very badly🙌🏽💛🙏🏽🙇🏽‍♂️.

[@thembamokasi5279]

Yytyyyyyy 750kg. Tll. [.

[@coreyandrade2258]

Today I’m marking my road to recovery from porn addiction. This is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time. It’s been hard to have normal relationship with people and I struggled to find pleasure in sex. Mentally draining me and now being aware of the affects, it’s time to put an end to it. For anyone who reads this who has a problem, I encourage you guys to do the same. Wish me the best and I wish all of you the best :)

[@Paoabarai]

How's it going after day 6?

[@mannydestine2994]

Same here let’s do this 💪🏾

[@Captain_Kel]

I started around the same time you did. Im a month strong now.

[@GamingBros654]

@@Captain_Kel how are you feeling after a month?

[@Captain_Kel]

@@GamingBros654 Im feeing pretty good. My penis health is great right now. I did relapse after about a month and 1 week, but im 2 weeks strong again and i dont really have cravings to watch porn or anything like that anymore. I really feel like my brain is starting to rewire itsef for the better. Im dating girls at the moment too which really helps with not wanting to watch porn. What people say about stopping porn will help with anxiety is 100% true too. Im not sure why but after about 3-4 weeks my anxiety is no where near as bad as it was when i was chronically masturbating. I used to get panic attacks when smoking weed and now i dont. Overall im fed up with the endless cycle of porn and masturbation. I wont allow myself to get trapped in that cycle ever again.

[@sageisnotaplant99]

I’ve never struggled with porn addiction but I’ve seen porn addiction effect other people. It can be really detrimental. I’m glad a video likes this exists

[@sanuniroj1198]

Women don't get addicted to porn. Even they don't watch it

[@captn4114]

@@sanuniroj1198are you a women?

[@topseykretts7608]

@@sanuniroj1198 All of these "anti-porn" videos are simple "male-shaming" 101. Funny how there are ZERO videos on KZbin preaching to females about the dangers of using sex toys (vibrators) for masturbation?? Sex toys are incredibly popular today with females.....I don't know an adult woman who doesn't own at least 2 or 3 of them. Men use "porn" for the exact same purpose females use sex toys. Men are visual and women are tactile. But yet, not one of these videos EVER bring up this issue. Why? Simple....because "female" sexual behavior is NEVER to be criticized. Total hypocrisy!! EVERYTIME someone posts a video on porn use, they should also talk about "sex toys" the EXACT SAME WAY!!! But they won't....and they never will....because that would be "shaming" females.....and we all know that can't happen. We can shame men and their use of "porn" but we can't ever criticize females using sex toys for the EXACT same reason.

[@Musicman995]

@@sanuniroj1198sorry to burst your bubble but you are objectively wrong bro

[@DistortedPhaneron]

​@@sanuniroj1198How many women have you even been with broski?

[@6729solarwolf]

Hi, blocking didn't help because I can easily unblock them. What worked for me, was not quitting cold turkey. However, I assigned days for the activity and that helped me look forward to those days. Usually, it is 2 days a week. Also, that helped with discipline and scheduling. Hopefully, this will help someone else too.

[@colind333]

does taking a break gradually like going half a month or so at a time?

[@joessy523]

I surprisingly am using the same method

[@iamawuss]

I’m going to try this having tried the cold turkey method and failed constantly.

[@skatkat5029]

This was helpful

[@hoii962]

​@Matthew Kahn I totally understand

[@evanseka4054]

Thank you, I stopped watching porn when I was 13 so I don't have this problem anymore but it still took me 2 YEARS to quit. That sh*t is devastating.

[@innotafanofanyofjlbjlbissd6777]

I’m stunned by that comment but good for you

[@evanseka4054]

@@innotafanofanyofjlbjlbissd6777 Why does it stun you, may I ask out of curiosity?

[@iammar1159]

@@evanseka4054 Probably because you were so young. If you stopped at 13 and it took you 2 years, then that means you would have had to have started watching when you were 11

[@evanseka4054]

@@iammar1159 Yeah, did you know most children start at that age, I'm just happy that I quit so early, most people will tell themselves that it's okay "Everyone does it even girls", so they let it stick and then it becomes addiction then it becomes a health issue.

[@stevenm.njogu2014]

That God you able to quit at a very young age, what I have discovered by reading the comments is that, the earlier you start watching at a young age the more its difficult to quit,may the Almighty God help his children.

[@turbojakob3000]

Day one. The likes I get will be the number of days I'll be clean

[@3emure]

Please do 15 days at least you got this 🎉😊

[@crisprcas09]

…times 3

[@tertiusstrydom6784]

Please be strong and go the full amount of likes and good luck

[@robinkhatsernov476]

Rather than trying to get a certain amount of days, common wisdom in fellowship programs says you should take it one day at a time. Just for today

[@Youngpada121]

@@robinkhatsernov476this currently on day 5 but I’m just living day to day.

[@ferreirog]

There is a major difference between an “urge”, OCD and dependency. The advice given for an “urge” is great and telling people that they need to seek professional advice for OCD and dependency is excellent.

[@Robosapien-jj1zy]

I'm on day 3 now without porn and it's a real struggle. The longest I've ever stopped was 1 week after realising I had a problem. Even after just one week I could feel a positive difference in myself.

[@basiljacob1786]

all the best

[@lefteristassis7155]

Keep trying man, it's a difficult process and setbacks will probably occur. A lot of people can relate to your story, myself included, as i am someone that has a lot of guilt whenever i search for sexual scenes on KZbin in the last few years. I am trying to stop it completely, after quite a few setbacks, and i am in a better place now, although wary that i can slip any day, as i have trained my mind for a long time to search these kinds of things. Before that i strugglled with the same guilt when i visited pornographic sites and stayed there for extended periods of time, totally exploded with dopamine, and it's a pretty vicious circle. I was sometimes thinking that it's ok, a lot of people do it, but i got used to watching other people have sex so much, that trying to meet someone that i care about and have an intimate relationship with them has become an unattainable goal for the time being. As a result, a feeling of worthlessness pretty often reemerges, as i have not been in a relationship for more than 8 years now, and it was a relationship that i made mistakes and hurt someone that didn' t deserve it. So lots of guilt, compounded with psychological issues made the vicious circle of seeking pornographic and now sexual material become a reality. I am sorry for the length of my reply, i did not mean to talk about myself so much. I send you all my heartfelt wishes that you have a life fulfilling and prosperous, with good and loving people around you. 🙏♥️

[@Uncle_Smallett]

You know that you still can masturbate? Just restrict yourself from corn or imaginary sex at the time, feel real sense of you doing. Need some effort, like meditation, but wiring in brain become healthier.

[@thebadass6122]

Can you give us an update on your journey?

[@alimohammad-dp7om]

Any update on your journey friend

[@utkarshkumar730]

just losted a 15 days clean streak and here i am to start again and rise strongly. anyone reading this, wish me a good luck. we all will conquer it

[@padminisriyalatha3320]

Again

[@MohamedAmine-jv7yw]

Yes , again but this Time with 30 day in nofap jornye

[@danielsykes7558]

I grew up in a community where any porn use was considered an addiction. I appreciate your measured approach. I'm currently taking significant steps away from pornography in order to be more mindful and it's been interesting to start the journey. I'm not counting what days I do or don't, but I started the journey like a week and a half ago. We'll just have to see. But thank y'all for this supportive space

[@Rayo_fhop-e]

Every activity must be limited, anything above the limit is harmful even if it is healthy

[@briancaleb9761]

The porn epidemic is underrated

[@marcusdavis5599]

@Anonymous Talker who whines?

[@alphaguy1028]

Because it’s Taboo. Sad . NoFap/NoPorn all the way!

[@phrobss7149]

@@marcusdavis5599 People who never understands

[@Andre87191]

@Anonymous Talker it is really bad and it is an addiction, it isnt too hard to quit if you want to though. Ceasing smoking is harder. Initially.

[@andreuschristy8448]

@Helmut340 I've found that the physical addictions have no hold on me yet when it comes to porn and gambling I can't stop. I've smoked cigs since I was a teen yet I can go several months without in and not even think about it. Same with weed. Same with any drugs I've taken. I've gone on benders where I've done lots of coke throughout a weekend and just felt repulsed and didn't touch it again for years. But porn man... can't fucking stop.

[@danieljosenaval]

Thank you, this is an enormous help! Porn addiction is something so hard to battle honestly. I generally know these things from my profession but it's really nice to hear it from someone else.

[@ShadowPhoenix82]

Even beyond porn, this works with everything. This is SO much better than telling someone to "know yourself". Like, what does that mean? This. This is what it means, and this talks you through HOW to know yourself. How to observe and document your body and mind to better self-analyze and self-actualize. I absolutely love it. 🥰

[@edwardthompson8982]

Watching this video months after gives me goosebumps. Truth be told I was broke and used pornography and masturbation as a means of getting away. The moment I got busy and had something doing my priorities changed. Early this year ago when I first came across this video, I was on the verge of being homeless, broke and dealing with insecurities. I could barely stay outside my room for long. Thank God for change and the man I am today. I own multiple houses, debt free and I live my best life without letting my insecurities control me.

[@kendrickmason2577]

Glad you're in a better place.. . How did you pull it off within such a short period?

[@edwardthompson8982]

[@Karim-bi4ht]

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[@edwardthompson8982]

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[@ivinset96]

Hello, graduate addiction counseling student here, I just want to reiterate what so many have already said...THANK YOU for informing so many in such a non-judgmental way and for being so thorough and accurate with the information you provide on such a wide array of topics. Love this, please keep doing what you're doing! :)

[@matmetalhead6]

It is so hard, I've been fighting this since I was 16, now I'm 20. The bad thing is that I didn't realize it was becoming an addiction, I thought it was just my desire for women and that it was normal for my age. What makes everything harder is that I am such a lonely guy, I really do not have friends in real life, I'm always feeling numb, depressed, and alone. So, from where will my motivation come from? I really wanted to have real relationships with people, but when I see they don't like my companion, I fall once more into the abyss of fake love. It's all about a fantasy, and my dream of being loved by a woman or something. I will keep fighting...

[@Lunaticbeing]

Exactly same situation for me too Bro :(

[@matmetalhead6]

@@Lunaticbeing keep strong man, let's do this together

[@Lunaticbeing]

@@matmetalhead6 Bro i still done that.... I'm shamed of myself. What can i do? Really i wanna overcome.

[@stevenm.njogu2014]

Love yourself Bro first before you are Loved by anyone else, and learn to be happy by yourself too but most of all make God your best friend and you will never be disappointed.

[@trilll6]

Porn is what’s stopping you from getting into a relationship, and it’s killing your potential. You realize it’s a problem and the effect it has on you so you have to learn to hate it, and link it to why you haven’t reached your goals

[@LeeEverett1]

As someone who used to watch daily, sometimes even more than once a day, I'm finally free. It's been over a month since I've watched p0rn and I have no desire to go back. I already feel so many improvements to my mental health that it's worth it. Guys, there is hope. Right now my confidence and self esteem are high, I feel turned on looking at real women right in front of me, and actually have incentive to approach them and get their number. P0rn will destroy your dating life.

[@भारत-फ9त]

100 right.

[@biffin1123]

What if the real women are not interested in me. How am I supposed to sate my need for companionship and sex?

[@__meilleur]

@@biffin1123 yeah life of us ugly people 😞

[@biffin1123]

@@__meilleur technically don't have to be ugly. Women have schemes. They look for something specific in a guy which depends on their personal fantasies, what they see on media and their current needs. They put up rules and excuses to keep all guys away until they meet the guy/girl that conforms all those criteria they put up. Once they do, they break their own rules and make excuses as to why they like him/her.

[@johnhonai4601]

@@biffin1123 Women are hypocrites?

[@TheGreatWhiteCount]

Thank Jesus I found this, I've started a relationship and I love her so much, I know porn addiction can lead to awful fantasies and it can create trouble. I want rid of it before it creates trouble.

[@azizadil709]

I don't even need a therapist, I've got you Rena! Love you for this mate.

[@ice319]

Dr. Malik, thank you for explaining the difference between using pornography casually and an actual addiction. There is a big stigma of shame when it comes to porn, and the conversation isn't always healthy due to that shame. I'm glad that you established what the problem is and what it could lead to. Thank you for your content, ma'am!

[@junedhussain6252]

Thank you for your hard work. I think the problem is that we live in a sexualised society now compared to before and it is not helping. The trouble is that banning pornography (I know its not the subject of this video) is not as simple as it sounds as there is a bigger market for it then before. I'll admit did watch porn before and I used to enjoy it but that was only like once a week sort of thing. However there was a period of time when I didn't watch porn for nearly two years until the covid crisis hit and I started watching porn on a rare basis usually lasting two hours or more. No one really mentions this but I notice a trend when TV shows that contain sex and nudity can also lead to people watch pornography as well. The thing with mainstream tv, netflix, disney+ shows (that contain sex and nudity like sex/life and Pam and Tommy), the choice of nudity is laughable and ridiculous as they tend show female upper nudity but not female genitals while they show male penis.

[@phnmyt2428]

You are like a relief for so many people ☺️ thank u doctor ♥️

[@zoilo87]

35 days here! I am so happy I reach this pinnacle. I notice a lot of changes on my perspective on woman and life, i think you should probably try it to abstain it too its worth it. Promise!

[@himanshusharma1202]

congratulations 💐💐

[@abhishekgupta2434]

Dr. Malik videos are always most informative on. KZbin… doing really noble job for the society in real, not on paper like rest …. Thanks Dr. Malik

[@Akira282]

Thank you for focusing on this serious issue. Many men have this issue and are paralyzed by it.

[@brianjohnson5995]

So we've been married for 40 years Sex stopped a few years ago. She won't talk about it. I'm left to own devices to address my situation. Your videos are very insightful. Thank you so much!

[@warrior224100]

Thank you so much for this video I am currently struggling with this addiction and it has affected my life tremendously. I'm was at my breaking point until you made this video. Every other sources that i attempted to try always wanted money out of me when I really just wanted to hear what steps I should take to help me. I will definitely try the app's trail and I do have a friend in mind to help me with this. Thank you once again you have no idea how happy I am to just hear proper steps to take without joining some seminar or paying for a service. You just helped me save my life. THANK YOU!!!

[@TXP9]

It’s hard to believe that people spend money on porn anymore, when so much of it is free online.

[@creampuffkuru9878]

-looks at only fans people- yeah i wonder why they spend on something that you get free, maybe they get a kick for spending i know theres a fetish for financial stuff humiliation but maybe thats just because im asian and like having money more.

[@eizendragon5141]

Onlythots?!? Sheeesh, cornhub premium is more economical to be honest.

[@SparksForces]

Well that’s the problem it’s not free you paying for internet that helps contribute to it. But lots of websites have freebies before they sale you full stuff they want to see if you like those products. But to answer your question yes they have tons of free ones so it more likely easy to get hook on it especially if you are 13 year boy going through maturity changes.

[@songsofalifetime8508]

@@SparksForces Kleenex Tissue are not free :-)

[@ajdynamo6866]

Speaking from past experience, it's easy to get suckered into buying porn when there's a scene you really want to see but the full video isn't available for free. That's a tactic they use. They'll put a 5 minute vid on a free site then force you to pay to see the whole thing.

[@readerspubb1973]

I do ask for any that believe, please pray for me. I’ve been battling this for years now. And I’ve tried many times but have failed. As of now I will try the blockers. Thank you Doctor.

[@michaelthorn6215]

Very informative Rena! I've learned so much from your content. All the subjects you cover, makes me more informed. So, Doctor Malik, Thank you for you service. This is from me a military veteran to you...A Soldier of medicine. Again, Thank You.

[@brienor]

I had a problem with pornography when i was young .... I finally beat it. But seriously keep keep up the always informative content.

[@robertroberts2822]

you're cheating yourself. attractive women are very hard to get unless rich or good looking yourself. may as well enjoy the cornucopia of pleasure porn offers. Just think only 40 years ago, MOST men never got to see a legitimately attractive woman naked EVER.

[@Brand.on18]

ba dum tss 🥁🥁

[@ricardopaul6989]

Thanks again & God be Praised in ALL THINGS...Keep them coming!

[@Truthspeaker-o1y]

I quit porn a year ago and my story is funny 😂 I was fed up with the fact that nowadays interracial porn means a white women and black men. Whenever I used to search porn I always got some interracial porn with the same combination 😂. I found it slowly disgusting. Whenever I found this kind of category I immediately stopped continuing to watch more. Suddenly I stopped searching porn on the internet 😂. But now I am very thankful that in an awkward way I stopped watching porn. And now I am having a very happy and healthy life.😊

[@Prometheus1706]

Thank you. You just gave me the shot of hope and positivity that I needed.

[@BukshanMulindwa]

I like how she explains everything. Can't wait to see her at 2million subscribers this year..

[@riyadivine5078]

I don't know but really I didn't stop watching porn for a period of time I would then stop watching all this for some months or weeks, later I would go back to it. It started to become a problem when I think I would not watch it but I ended up watching. It became so that oh I am not watching these stuff and then later in the day the urges got a hold and I did watch it. I wanted to fix my attention span or stop using that much of my electronics but stopping this addiction was the first thing to do. After procrastinating for probably seven years or so, I am gonna stop this addiction. I give myself a challenge to stop it and get normal without watching all this. A great idea is just to keep track of the dates like with duolingo or other games where having a streak makes you more motivated to continue learning or playing that game for some time. Thanks a lot for this video, it is very motivating with simple tips and only 6 minutes...

[@mishkaberuashvili5069]

I'm 26 and it goes for years already. At first thought it would be easy to quit, but no. Now it affects on many parts of my everyday life and searching for everything that would work and help me to break the cycle

[@David-he1ni]

Body building, heavy lifting helps,vanish completely...stonger body gives a reward strongerr mind....ohhh it's physical...

[@David-he1ni]

Certain subjective of the presenter, who is a professional, a doctor indeed, discussing on issues of dopamine hormone; that the subject might have become dependant on. Due to sedentary lifestyle, the activation of such limbic system, vigorous activities can promote muscular development that leads to certain hormone- testosterone; and correct certain activity of brain. A scientific fact indeed; without various side affects of drugs, an alternative means of ways were suggested supported by medical science.

[@thegingerburpeesguy5596]

you start watching it cause you're already depressed and lonely and it's a way of feeling good but then watching it makes you feel bad and more depressed cause of the effects of long term porn and porn addiction have so it's just a vicious cycle

[@SparksForces]

Yes but we here let you guys know your not alone we struggle and fight this war to and positive encouragement with tough discipline we can help together overcome any addiction. So if you depressed or no someone people let’s get you guys encouraging help I struggled myself years so I understand. I don’t want anyone to feel depressed

[@qal4real372]

@@SparksForces same bro

[@marksmith2738]

+ one

[@sahil__________04]

I stopped porn addiction by listening to music and spent time outside, this way my interest in porn was end 🙃

[@kellykempkilroy]

Well done!

[@bendover7841]

Music is my cue unfortunately

[@ethansilverstein26]

Hey guys I don't usually comment but I'd like to share my story. I am 15 working through this addiction. I was introduced to porn at age 12 because of an ad that appeared while I was watching a show that was supposed to be for kids. I feel it is ridiculous that this addiction can affect people around my age. Teens are supposed to be working through school, making new connections, and finding oneself. For this problem to be toppled on to that is insanity . I find some people actually get into porn on purpose because it is so normalized now, without realizing the affects of it. I tried many ways of trying to get rid of this and one day I thought I would try praying to God. I feel like God has been showing me the answers and recently I started reading the Bible. I pray for anyone who's been going through and I wish all the best for you

[@AnonymousUser-ss2qr]

Wanna race to 100 days?

[@dylankremers8957]

What a lifesaver, thank you dr. Rena Malik

[@mjchecksfield914]

Good for you for taking on this subject. We still have a hangover of cultural shame attached to our sexuality. Instead of dealing with the reality of our biology and trying to manage that in a constructive way. Compulsive and addictive behaviour is something that threatens us all from many angles and pornography is one of them.

[@HRZ1352]

Very informative and professional, please keep up the good work!

[@6last3d]

been addicted since the age of 9 because of a man that had the link in his bio. i was curious and clicked it, since then at the age of 9 to now that i’m 16 i’m still addicted. we’ll get over this together.

[@happymolecule8894]

You'll never stop

[@posadist681]

@@happymolecule8894 wtf

[@bendover7841]

Get well soon kid. Don't listen to this bum.

[@6last3d]

@@happymolecule8894 5 months clean 🤷‍♀️

[@CopywritingYTAccount]

@@6last3d I am happy for you nena!! So far in my current journey I am able to keep myself clean for about 1-2 weeks at best. What strategies did you incorpaote in your life to keep yourself clean?

[@Culex51]

Just wanted to reach out and say thank you for making this video and the previous one.

[@LiXiang2715]

I'm making 18 days steak of nofap right now! I decided to avoid porn and masturbation. And I feel better now since I started my journey.

[@themonster3231]

thank you Dr. Rena Malik I have been thru counseling, online and in person over the past 5 years and have gotten more useful tools 'turnkey' in this lecture then all this time before. Thank you,

[@SinnohGreen]

A short video like this really can’t explain the complexities involved in this process. Blocking porn doesn’t fix the problem for everyone. If you’re like me, you’re going to be constantly trying to break through. There are always loopholes you can find. Doing the hard work in finding out your triggers, finding your motivations, finding alternatives that can give you dopamine, are what’s really going to help.

[@barrysmith8920]

@Randy marsh Good for you, I hope your life is more in order now 🙏🏽 I also quit alcohol almost 73 months ago, not a drop since. But quitting porn is MUCH more difficult. My new Filipina girlfriend is answer to all my dreams, so now I want to quit porn immediately. I will do it, the challenge is accepted 🙏🏽

[@marksmith2738]

@@randymarsh2901 "especially music performers dancing in barely any clothes singing songs about how they love getting fucked, and this was one of the first things i saw when i turned the tv on today. Lol"... Funny you should mention that. I will never forget the time that I took my then teen-aged daughter (maybe 15 at the time), and her friend to a ballet performance (they were both heavily into ballet at that time) that turned out to be (completely unbeknownst to me) half done in nude or semi-nude attire . Quite a turn on for me but one hell of an uncomfortable moment at the same time being I was there with my own daughter. Later in the car ride home when I mentioned it, they both thought I was being a pervert. Now that I think about it, that was probably 15 years ago (she's 31 now) but just goes to show how easy it is to be triggered even when you are NOT looking for it."

[@SabotSender]

4:10 it’s Barney. We get that Barney feeling.

[@alew2677]

I enjoy your content Dr Malik keep up the good work😍

[@nithishms1321]

I am 31 year old I am addicted from 15 years not easy to quit I am suffering from short term memory loss, difficult to concentrate, depression, anxiety my life half destroyed....

[@rotatorcuffs8140]

I used to have those problems a long time ago. It's easy to blame porn and make it a scapegoat in that situation. Especially if you come from a religious cult background with jaded views on sex. I'm not saying porn is good, but in my experience those symptoms were caused by things like a lack of exercise, bad sleep (insomnia), anxiety/depression from past traumas and maybe even unwarranted guilt. I would say if you want to quit porn, forget about quitting porn. Focus on and do the hard work of improving the rest of your life and quitting porn will naturally follow.

[@haldoomo6752]

Same age and yeah the same !

[@jwavada]

This is all so true! I completed rehab and felt great. However, I slipped up again a few months later and so I have decided to go back to rehab. I am proud to say I am back in rehab; I am sorry to say that I slipped less than 48 hours after my do eat new rehab session. However, I’m not defeated or depressed about it. I am not under the control or in the grip of porn like I was more than a year ago. I am going to once again be where I was when I completed rehab, and I am going to feel even better than that, because I will make porn addiction part of my permanent past. It’s not part of the continuing story, but part of the past. The chapter will be closed officially and I can begin the next chapter.

[@KondwaniKasaro]

I was on 49 day streak without porn but it sadly ended yesterday but now I'll go for 120. I'll extend it with every like I get

[@MelvinZebra-if3zz]

Wow thats sad

[@MelvinZebra-if3zz]

Why u did u end

[@Boogey_Man_123]

I need this! My addiction is such a problem! (Glad tou're bringing this up)

[@pablojuan94]

Great videos Dr. I like the way you explain issues that are common on peoples lifes. Thank you Dr.

[@ryansturdivant2661]

Dr. Rena Mailk has such a beautiful spirit

[@33drewster]

Yeah, pornography gets worse the more u view it and can become an addiction that take more from you than u realize, I'm working on my issues, I have heard if u exercise or find hobbies to replace idol time, that usually helps

[@SparksForces]

True true but I found that for myself the more I workout more I’m pumping up more hormones and testosterone and boom 💥back again. But I learn about willpower and fasting that help a lot hobbies and friends helps a lot

[@dalabu489]

@@SparksForces The only comment i really feel. Workout, hangouts with friends, but can't stop to do that from time to time.

[@CopywritingYTAccount]

exercise, keeping yourself busy with a routine definitely helps a lot! I am speaking from experience btw

[@mikelevels1]

I really needed this. Thank you so much.

[@Dman425]

The people who tell others to not watch porn more than likely have no issue getting laid on a regular basis. Easy for them to say

[@enhyddeonu]

To the peoples who struggled the same addiction as me, we must stay strong and heal ourselves and we are never alone. God is always watching and put the kindness inside your brain. Fighting everyone!! ❤

[@SparksForces]

Thank you Dr. MALIK We thank you for doing this video cause a lot of men and woman need to see this how powerful porn can affect us humans. The way we imagine things and act is differently it will be good if we can help get people help and advice on this so they don’t fall into the temptation. Great work Dr. Malik 👍🏽❤️

[@soul2squeezy439]

Thanks Dr Malik, i do suffer with depression because of this. I knew it has some connection to it :(

[@Jim_L]

What I don't understand are the people who PAY for porn. There is so much free porn out there that if you watched hours of it a day for the rest of your life, you would still never be able to see it all. So as far as addictions go, from strictly a monetary standpoint, this is the cheapest one on the planet.

[@1bozina]

GREAT SUBJECT!!! Thanks Dr. Malik :)

[@keithclark8030]

I feel hopeless. I'm 56 and have been hooked since my mid teens. I hope someday I will win over this.

[@keithclark8030]

@jazzyj2182 I have. I don't plan to give up. Thanks for the encouragement.

[@karthikvijay5678]

thanks so much for this helpful and informative video Dr. Malik

[@kevinrodriguez2376]

I struggle with porn. It seems like it has crossed over to ED issues. Thanks for this video.

[@c-mc]

yeah same I have ED issues due to porn, it sucks

[@Mecca188]

Same

[@JWiLLfoReaL]

Same here. It’s so frustrating.

[@marcuschavez8411]

Was it like a long progression that you noticed?

[@keyballa]

Same. But it’s curable fellas. Stay off of porn and masturbation for 60-90 days and ur brain will heal again. It’s hard but it can be done with time and discipline

[@the3dotsguy...610]

The cycle lasted around 8 years now. There is no way out. Ive ruined so many relationships over this with people i loved.

[@adammartinez1630]

“I hope my daughter becomes a porn star when she grows up”, said no parent EVER! While Dr Malik’s advice is invaluable and greatly appreciated, we have to stop giving porn any kind of normalcy. While it does cause harm to many who watch it, it causes even more harm to most, if not all, who make it. If you think these women are not emotionally damaged and there’s nothing wrong with it then encourage the women you love to make it... The truth is that every time you use porn you are causing emotional damage to the women you love. Your kids know what you do and you’re reinforcing those kinds of behavior with them - this is what daddy pays attention to so that’s what I need to do to get his attention. And even if your wife consents to watching it, deep down it’s building insecurity and resentment. You’re sending a message that she’s not good enough to satisfy you and you need something external. Porn gives you a quick emotional boost without putting the work in. If you would invest that time in loving, nurturing, and cherishing your wife (and especially if she sees you nurturing your children) she would be all that for you and more. Watching porn destroys her trust in you and confidence in herself and distorts your children’s view of what a healthy loving relationship looks like.

[@NightLifeDJs1]

"The truth is that every time you use porn you are causing emotional damage to the women you love" You're not a licensed phycologist or therapist, why are you judging us and these women? What gives you the right to speak for others with such statement? I'll tell you one thing buddy, I among millions of men that have watched or watch porn HAVE NOT CAUSE DAMAGE TO THESE WOMEN, that is their choice, that is what they choose to do for a living, don't judge you have no right.

[@HARI25able]

Porn gas been around since the beginning of civilization. It is the most normal job we known actually.

[@NightLifeDJs1]

​@@HARI25able That is correct, good point. So who is this guy to say we are damaging women, so then since the begging of time woman have been emotionally damaged? His entire post is full of judgmental bs, I'm thinking maybe he is the one that has damaged a woman or two in his life.

[@adammartinez1630]

I’ve been in the medical field for over 25 years and have worked with groups to rescue women out of human trafficking for nearly 10 years. I’ve worked with many clinical therapists in rescuing and rehabilitating young girls. In case you’re thinking that trafficking is just snatching people off the street that is only a small part of it. Most women are groomed into the lifestyle. Jeffrey Epstein is a clear example of that. He trafficked thousands of girls and never kidnapped a single one. I’ve seen the other side of the camera and I know what many of these girls have been through. And some of them are girls. It is estimated that about 25% of porn you look at are girls 14 to 17 years old. Just because it says 18 and legal doesn’t make it so. And just because prostitution has been around for thousands of years - and porn is just prostitution on film - doesn’t make it normal. It just means that it’s typical. Typical is an expected behavior but normal is a healthy and functional behavior. There is a huge difference. The biggest problem is that people refuse to acknowledge the problem. Just because you don’t see the damage being done doesn’t mean that it’s not happening. We could argue back-and-forth but I would just encourage you to do some research on your own. I can post some resources later to get you going in the right direction.

[@mumblerapkilla5406]

@@adammartinez1630 You claim 25% of porn features minors. Do you have any sources to back up those claims?

[@deon521]

why don't people just help others without promoting something here we all need to make money but there's a time and place for income but these people must state their actual intent straight from the get go !!! blockerX is definitely sponsoring this video. it's not about escaping porn it's about subribing to a porn blocker app

[@Kurpy-9]

Plz guys like so I keep getting reminded

[@TheTroupeMasterGrimm]

I discovered pornography at a VERY young age (around 12) after the death of my father. Now as a 17 year old depressed kid with ADHD and severe anxiety, I really want to break the control it has on me. I’ve always wanted to get a long lasting girlfriend and begin to do more social stuff, and this video has really helped me in the last 6 months. I’m 4 months clean and I have nothing but thanks to you. I’ve also started going to therapy to help with my depression and I’m so grateful to you for sharing this info

[@Pilot-Ali]

The best way to avoid this addiction is to indulge one self in busy tasks. There is no another alternative to it.

[@Paoabarai]

Cut off your internet, tv, mobile network connection and live off grid for a year or two

[@Lechiffre3585]

@@Paoabarai I'm planning to fo exactly that

[@mihirbharmal8459]

Try easypeasy method

[@newkiller4457]

Another method (which imo is easiest way to overcome)is by experiment yourself by trying to see what it's like to masterbate without porn. During those days you'll gradually naturally not only stop watching porn, but it's far easier to resist the urge as you naturally have gotten bored with masturbating without the use of pornography, so you instead to masturbating as a total whole.

[@Lukas47424]

I am a teenager that has this problem. This will for sure help me out. Thank you.

[@AnonymousUser-ss2qr]

Wanna race to 100 days?

[@Lukas47424]

@@AnonymousUser-ss2qr sure

[@AnonymousUser-ss2qr]

What day are you already on right now?@@Lukas47424

[@AnonymousUser-ss2qr]

Chicken huh? @@Lukas47424

[@bluesky6985]

It's an addiction 😫 that is hard to beat

[@Victic005]

Hahahaha

[@christopherfife6463]

🤣 i see what you did there

[@Lechiffre3585]

Well played

[@mihirbharmal8459]

Try easpeasy method

[@lukethibodaux790]

As a short male it is a lonely existence. women seek a male aprox 7" taller then themselves and at 5'5" I do not measure up. I turn to alcohol and porn to numb the pain of loneliness but I still feel it no matter how much I drink, abstaining from both does not change the outcome, trust me I have tried. You cannot fight genetics and you cannot fight biology all you can do is play the hand you were dealt and there have been countless occasion that I have wanted to kill myself but my deeply religious upbringing prevents me from doing so. I struggle to look for hope in this sea of disrepair and there is no light on the horizon. Now at 42 years old I am too old to even hope to start a family and even deep religious roots struggle to keep me grounded, not sure why I keep trying but I still keep some measure of faith.

[@clintonstanley4512]

She decides to show a tat bit of clevage when talking about porn addiction, everything went over my head 😂

[@joelhorlen20-zk3xr]

Yes, very distracting. Especially for a porn addict.

[@Photik]

Not really.. Lol

[@noodlebot12]

This video is very simple to digest and ultimately helpful. Thank you.

[@bobbruce4135]

Great points. The Cure: Be tall and a 10 on the looks scale. Otherwise, legalize the oldest profession. Or, end up divorced after a loveless provider role. Peace.

[@moocowp4970]

@Ronin The Second Its important to realise that porn, or using sex work services isn't bad, nor is she saying they are. It's only bad if doing those things has negative consequences on your life that would be avoidable if you didn't use porn/sex services.

[@archiebunker7688]

A survey was done among women who were shown random pics of men and asked to rate their looks. The women said that 85 percent of the men pics they looked at were below average in looks. Go figure!

[@archiebunker7688]

Porn leads to hookers and hookers lead to ice fishing shanties. But soon the hookers will be out of work because of an explosion of gay males setting up private gloryholes and that way a person's looks really dont matter.

[@samwallaceart288]

At least for me porn and sex are totally different parts of the brain. First time I got with a woman I was freaked out by how _not porn_ everything hit me. It's something I wish people talked about more. Porn isn't sex, it's dissociation.

[@PoolService-x3h]

My addiction started the day the internet came out. 30 years is enough. Time to get help. I’ll definitely give it a try.

[@lytnin88]

Is Blocker X the sponsor for this video, Dr Malik?

[@MrDontcareify]

I’ve quit porn but I haven’t been able to quit the sexual fantasies that are porn-related or porn-influenced. So honestly it’s more than just quitting a behavior. It’s also about finding something to replace it that is hopefully in the same vein, unless you’re looking to be a celibate monk.

[@POPDATA]

The temptations are everywhere too

[@zanetorres1291]

I'm 23 fit and healthy, going to college and has never had any intimacy. I've dated girls but when it comes time, I'm never in the mood, and I think it's because of my addiction.

[@zanetorres1291]

I'm sorry but I've watched the video, and this won't help at all... I'm doomed

[@kaneinkansas]

I've always wondered about the impact of pornography upon the brain and the mind. I believe there are some things that you just can't un-see after you have seen them. I personally avoid like-the-plague anything that I think is un-reversible or difficult to reverse. Things like cigarettes and tatoos are high on my list of things to avoid and loathe, and I don't understand people who wade into these types of things so blissfully or at least whithout any circumspection. Pornography is one of these types of things for me. I'm not sure what impact it has on the mind, but I suspect it has one. I try to maintain my autonomy - free will - control of local motion. Maybe this kind of approach might help others. Its about freedom. Pulling one's self away from orbiting one planet so one can explore others as one chooses.

[@innotafanofanyofjlbjlbissd6777]

You should have 1000 likes for this comment but you don’t cause people are looking for flash not substance

[@JordanAndAirwaves]

True, the “ try anything once” approach can snowball

[@usa11227]

Dr Malik is awesome. Great channel 🙏

[@JakeBamf]

Watching her ain't gonna help.

[@surajkumar66195]

😂

[@michaelward2082]

cover screen with a towel

[@zangalord]

That Ignore tactics is the one that has worked for me. When the thought comes, Ignore or overcome it with a stronger drive. For me, it was the mindset that I need to earn more money, it conquers every urge for vices.

[@richardsoderkvist6383]

Also thank God and her for her very good advice. Thank God 29days no pornography and masterbation feeling so much better in different ways determinedti keep pressing on to total deliverance freedom overcoming victory. And have faith in the Lord for the right special someone in the right way place and time again Amen.

[@ronswingz1567]

Amen brother we are on this journey together 🙏🏻

[@nitinkapoor1369]

should i call it addiction if i watch it regularly but like can stop myself for eg in 2022 from july to nov i didnt warrch it cause i was focused on my studies if i can control does this video stands for me

[@stevenm.njogu2014]

Amen to God be the glory

[@HaroonShoukat-x8e]

Jesus Christ bless you abundantly from Pakistan

[@alinlawson2506]

Thanx Doc! Very informative video! I’m trying to break the strings but the urges are really strong! I will keep trying and not beat myself up if I back slide! Thanx again!