How your Masturbation Technique Might be Ruining your Sex Life?

[@slimsantilli4476]

When I was a kid. My dad told me if I kept doing that, I would go blind. I said " Um.. dad I'm over here" Update: 10k likes. I wish my mom was alive to see this.

[@maxfrax333]

Lol.

[@adammitchell5683]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@titaniumman_22]

Mine said the same…I told him I’d just do it until I needed glasses.

[@angloaust1575]

Safer than creating unwanted pregnancies but better to be pure and holy!

[@b.o.1951]

😂

[@mikekrusz6789]

I love how you talk to us all like everything is so natural,which it is but you explain it in a no judge mental way! Great job as always Doc 😊

[@chrismathis4162]

Because it is natural and there is no need to feel guilty. That’s religion talking.

[@mariogmajner6549]

@@chrismathis4162 Nothing wrong with being chaste.

[@chrismathis4162]

@@mariogmajner6549 The word chaste comes from old French meaning virtuous, therefore once again implying those who engage in the natural biological act of sex are somehow not virtuous.

[@xcq7222]

​@@chrismathis4162 that's satan talking. stop coping buddy

[@dovydas4483]

Stop fapping

[@HakeemTheDream616]

I'm glad to see someone supports my lifestyle.

[@Jwill_15]

How long is it

[@free3956]

hi pls can i have ur mail id

[@exquisicy5429]

💀💀💀​@@Jwill_15

[@Jonas_Albert]

Masturbation IS a sin!!! I love you, and God loves you!!!🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️❤️❤️❤️ Just because you feel like you wanna do something, That doesn't mean that it's Ok or acceptable to DO it. Your sinful urges are not what get you to hell. And you ARE not your SINFUL URGES, They are the devils misguidence, and IT'S NOT YOUR IDENTITY!!!🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️❤️❤️❤️ Your actions ARE WHAT GET YOU TO HELL, NOT YOUR URGES, THOUGHTS, AND FEELINGS, WHICH OFTEN ARE MADE TO SEEM OK BY THE DEVIL MISGUIDING U!!!, and if you keep living this way, and don't turn to Christ, and don't try, and do your best to stay away from said sins, then You're headed streight for hell, and it's the same for EVERY SIN!!! But if you turn to CHRIST, Ask him for forgiveness, and ask him to help you to give you strength to NOT SIN, and to RESIST TEMPATATION, and you try YOUR BEST to stay away from sin, and ask JESUS for forgiveness when you fall, and ask him for strength every time you fall, and you try your best to not sin again every time u fall, and ask God to fill you with the holy spirit, and to let the holy spirit guide you each, and every time u fall, then JESUS will help you, and will forgive you of your sins, and you'll be clensed by the blood of CHRIST, and you'll go to heaven, and the slate will be wiped clean, and all your sins will be forgotten!!!🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️❤️❤️❤️ But remember to not use Jesus as an excuse to sin or as a get out of jail-free card so you can sin freely, and if you have done that or end up doing it, then do what i said above. TURN TO CHRIST, OUR ONE, AND ONLY LORD, SAVIOUR, AND GOD, AND TURN AWAY FROM YOUR SINS!!!✝️✝️✝️🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️ IN JESUS CHRISTS HOLY NAME I PRAY THAT YOU TURN TO CHRIST, AMEN!!!✝️✝️✝️🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤

[@betamegamer213]

Its bad biblically

[@krischampion4435]

Laughed so hard at the guy squeezing the juice out in the gym. Needed that. Thanks.

[@oldenslo4141]

Brings back the old song that Led Zepplin brought back, "Squeeze My Lemon...."

[@Rockstar-jl4ri]

Same lmao 😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Rockstar-jl4ri]

@@oldenslo4141 love that song

[@davdo399]

And the cover pic with the guy grabbing on tight probably

[@secretlyaddictive8800]

I don’t think it’s that bad 🫦🥹😍

[@franciscaruso751]

I love that you talk openly about this

[@cachi-7878]

Oh please, can’t you see she gets off talking about this?

[@naveensharma7478]

She is a doctor. Know in depth knowledge

[@contrerasj87]

So far marriage is the only thing that ruined my sex life. If I had known there would be little to no sex in marriage I would’ve stayed single.

[@edsonnokanogueira8012]

If u live together, why u hv less sex? I live with my wife and we never had a week without sex

[@josuedelaguilarios2387]

If you had remained single, chick would have been rejecting you day and night, chick wouldn't have given you the time of day and you would be MGTOW now. So chill out, at least you got someone. Sex is not what's cracked up to be

[@christopherjameswright9614]

Bruhhh she's cheating on you bruh

[@Amsyprologic]

She dosent like you anymore in that way or she is cheating. Have a serious conversation with her about this. This is the first sign that something is going on. 2nd sign is if she is constantly telling you off about anything that you do and how you are not doing it the right way.

[@1Whitetail]

Amen brother

[@gogetit083]

This woman is great...the way she speaks is so comforting.

[@portfolio91]

And, very very hot.😻

[@ericb2605]

This Doctor has the sweetest softest voice ever , my speaker was up high and unlike other annoying people voices she still sound soft and sweet , yes I respect her as a professional but she has the best voice 🤗 love her post

[@smisomazibuko7625]

I am glad you have finally opened peoples eyes on the damages of PMO

[@RebeccaWood-zi5yi]

Submission to Allah

[@Silly_LoomisYT]

@@RebeccaWood-zi5yiallah isn’t real

[@cool_name123]

​​​@@Silly_LoomisYTbelive is believe and dumbness is dumbness u are the perfect example of the latter

[@Ronlaer]

Finally someone that's really understands what they talk. Death grip in masturbation is very difficult to deal with it. You masturbate a lot and you get use to masturbate that way you can replicate with your partner, and to get rid of it is quite difficult. Thank you for the video was very interesting. Continue with this great channel.

[@js0988]

Death grip doesn't exist in Europe where we don't mutilate childrens genitals. This is a thing in countries who mutilate genitals.

[@harsh3936]

@@js0988 Not true, i am not circumcised but i am dealing with death grip. It has sort of ruined the real sexual pleasure with my partner.

[@Ronlaer]

@@js0988 I'm European and I'm dealing with dead grip. Like was said in the video, the vagina can't reproduce the same grip of a hand and because of that I don't have the saem pleasure of my partner and my partner feels she not pretty or can't give me pleasure. What she explain is total true and the answer given up in the video was the best one so far. Please continue this great work.

[@TheBakingSlave]

@@js0988 This is false, stop spreading misinformation. I have been with several partners who were NOT circumcized and still had issues with deathgrip. As you can see by other commenters you are wrong.....

[@TheBakingSlave]

@@harsh3936 Exactly.

[@mariocalderon8703]

Masturbation should just be a simple pleasure; Don't make it a habit! Thank You Dr. Malik

[@TheBoi87]

It becomes a habit for sexless unpartnered people, we’re real vile about the subject commenter!😆😊💯

[@mariocalderon8703]

Telegram

[@waynelancaster4676]

Tell that to those of us that are married

[@Fletch8714]

Like The Doc Says If it Doesn't interfere with your Daily Life, for some it helps us sleep better when we achieve orgasm before bedtime, and that tank never runs dry, and safe sex alone or with a partner is the only way to go!

[@TheBoi87]

@@Fletch8714 It keeps you sexually active, an aware of your sexual identity. Some of us have not had partnered sex in so long..haha. But, good points!

[@matthewhughes1950]

On the bicycle seat thing this is why it's really important to find a really good seat. The channel gap in the middle of the seat is super important for not putting pressure on the nerve cluster down there. Bottom line, dont cheap out on your bike seat if you plan on using it a lot

[@jamshidrr]

Just buy a noseless 👃 sit

[@MrTresBN]

I really like Dr. Rena's approach in these videos. Calm, comforting and most of all informative. I really can appreciate that. If I would've known she was in my area, I probably would've tried to schedule consultation with her instead of the Urologist I went to see prior for my last routine check. Great informative videos. Although the subject matters don't always necessarily apply to me, I still like learning and incorporating some things/techniques/suggestions when warranted. Good info that I can use and/or share.

[@tommac21]

Because she just finished pulling hers

[@tommac21]

And how she can do this. While talking BS the whole time

[@mikesciales9768]

Thank you again for an intelligent presentation. This is all really good to know. You're teaching the High School Sex Ed course we all should have had. Well done.

[@TheWefikus]

@jessicaj9743what are you talking about, Jesus himself jacked off regularly. It’s a canon event.

[@tommac21]

Oh please don't encourage this total nonsense

[@JAPARICAN50-50]

She said a great way for self pleasure, relief stress and sleep better she also forgot to mention a great way to save money and avoid headaches

[@nickhousman6222]

Lol

[@Bruglie]

Hahahaha

[@QBama100]

😂😂😂😂

[@AshleySpeaks4U]

Well, keep in mind that those stress and headaches go both ways. Ladies can really have a rough time of it as well. (((hugs)))

[@tiattahiscupcakecandykatan2453]

I came here bevause I am having penial pain testicle pain lower abdominal pain as being punched in the gut, it hurts when ejaculatiion but doest hurt when going pee

[@dankmemer2774]

“If you want something done right, you do it yourself” ~ Master Oogway probably in Kung Fu Panda 5: Death Grip of Destruction

[@Zeegoku1007]

Nah I think that was Tun Szu..

[@dankmemer2774]

@@Zeegoku1007 ah yes, in his famous book: “technique of peace”

[@serbu4169]

A *hand* is most useful when it is empty -Cumfucius 8==👊==D

[@adnanorochi3761]

@@Zeegoku1007 u mean "Sun Tzu"

[@dhirajgawande007]

@@adnanorochi3761 you mean zun ztu

[@jemkey6930]

Always love these videos. I can pause the video and leave the room so dad can get some much needed information. He won't schedule a doctor visit and he certainly won't talk about "private" things with them, but he will watch your videos and sometimes he will talk to me. I wish I could schedule an appointment with you for him, anyway thanks for the education.

[@x-man5056]

Consider blue tooth headphones. You should be able to easily move about your house and listen, great for music too. If you get over the ear ones you can even vacuum and listen.

[@chrispompano]

Hi Jem, my long-winded, but concerning comments keep getting deleted. I also take care of my mom, & its hard to get to a Dr.s office, so we do telephone office consults, & we get labs drawn in the home, but I end up being her clinical advocate & always discuss new UTI or Bacterial Vaginosis symptoms for her with the Dr. which makes her & me very uncomfortable to talk about. As I mentioned in my last deleted comment, "Laughter is the Best Medicine"!, especially about private topics like this. Play the very funny country music vid about older male problems for your Dad by: Toby Keith - As Good As I Once Was. That should inspire him to get the very necessary help he needs to take a big step forward. But I'm the same way also as your Dad, so much embarrassment over my issues no Urologist could help with, but thru years of persistent research, I think I found the miracle pill called Low Dose Naltrexone (LDN) for prostate pain. Would love Dr. M's opinion.

[@jemkey6930]

@Charming Chowder though dad and I have had some conversations about adult things, we are a single parent/child household, he doesn't talk to me about "personal" pains or problems. That is the point I am making I can put on one of these videos and give my dad privacy to get some much needed information.

[@jemkey6930]

@@chrispompano yes, a few months back my dad strained himself lifting railroad cross ties building a fence. He asked for some ice and I told him to lay on my bed (we only have one in our camper) and I went outside to give him some privacy. I begged him to make a doctor's appointment but he stubbornly believes things like this will pass. I'm just hoping some extra information will help him see he needs to be examined sometimes. Financially I can't argue my point very often.

[@canalhonkventura440]

@@jemkey6930 Ok maybe crazy to hear but... you just need 2 passports. One for you and other for your dad. Then go to a country where medicine is good and cheap, you can not only let him see his "private" issues but everything else (teeth, eyes, etc) and you too can do a checkup... And of course have good trips and build good memories with him..

[@ADAJ3KINGANGEL]

Man i’ve been doing a lot wrong. This channel is very important.

[@KpxUrz5745]

My mom always said it would cause blindness, but I told her I would stop when I need glasses...

[@tswelopeleseleka9641]

lol

[@jlr194]

It's fun

[@tiverejosiah7126]

Yes it does

[@josephfdent]

so that's why I'm wearing bifocals. Your mom was right 🤣

[@Portlycranium]

I hope I clicked like cause I am almost blind from not stopping. 😂😂😂😂

[@lostcause7594]

I though masturbation was ruining my performance. I would just keep going all night and never finish.. but then i realised that my choice of partners was the issue. Women that think opening their legs is the only part they play in the whole thing dont offer the stimulation and interaction i require to finish! Funnily enough when i stopped dating shallow women the problem went away and has never returned.... touch wood! LOL

[@manuelsomera9960]

I think I had that problem regarding traumatic masturbation syndrome when I was a kid coz I thought masturbation was a taboo. Thank you for your informative discussion regarding this.

[@wokeclub1844]

Any tips on how to stop it?

[@bendover7841]

​@@wokeclub1844Stop....doing it. Take a break for a month. The next time you do it, do it properly. It also gives your dick a curve which may be a good thing or a bad thing. But Premature Ejaculation is definitely not worth it.

[@vanbeet5105]

​@jessicaj9743🤦‍♂️

[@ichosolemanuel6048]

Jessica you know God doesnt exist right xD. When you die your brain doesnt get blood anymore and after a few minutes its perma broken!! You cant just respawn in "hell".

[@MH_VOID]

@jessicaj9743 perpetuating lies made or supported by somebody ashamed of being a bastard causes extreme evil.

[@michaelmotyliwski4216]

i watch you because your so open,no issue is off the table.

[@TheLastGuardian30]

This is really informative! I’ll try to encompass these tips while masturbating, and try using lighter sensations in the future too

[@RebeccaWood-zi5yi]

Wife back door not allowed ect

[@eliejose1828]

The more you know your own body the more you live a happy psychological, physiological and physical life.

[@Firedog-ny3cq]

Truth.

[@RebeccaWood-zi5yi]

Wife back door not allowed ect

[@RebeccaWood-zi5yi]

​@@Firedog-ny3cqwife back door not allowed ect

[@robtam7529]

I started working out regularly over a year ago. I started working squats about 5 months now into my routine. I find that along with weight loss, it has helped a lot with morning wood.

[@swskitso]

Morning wood is just a symptom of being relaxed. Stressing yourself will reduce it. I am sure you have heard the myth about military food containing salt peter to prevent erections, the truth is basic training puts you into a constant stressed state of exhaustion that henders morning wood.

[@coasteyscoasteys]

@@swskitso Lol sure doc

[@robinwagner7397]

Funny cause this guy at gym told me that the more I do squats, the more hornier I'll get🤣

[@Flock_Nation228]

@@robinwagner7397 it’s true! When you work on your legs, your body produces more testosterone. You can use it as a means to get better in the gym too ex: do some squats or leg presses before doing chest..

[@robinwagner7397]

@@Flock_Nation228 yeah I felt it the next day. I think I'm gonna do it before I see a girl again🤣

[@BradAaronTaylor]

'Habituation' - This can _definitely_ apply to women as well? Some of the toys they buy.. do things that the male anatomy couldn't ever possibly replicate.

[@x-man5056]

If your girl has a vibrator in her drawer, she'll need it to orgasm most likely. Best to not fuss about it, it's too late. Learn to incorporate it in your love making. It could be fun. Just make sure it's always fully charged up.

[@3DJapan]

Some thing goes for guy toys.

[@dlavarco]

All I can say about that is, so what. lol

[@azazel673]

Yes, it also happens with women. But they can stop using it and eventually relearn to feel pleasure without the toy.

[@knightstar1312]

@@azazel673 guys can also stop the frequency or grip of steel and eventually relearn to feel pleasure.

[@aldrainegarcia8715]

I'm a teenager and Thanks for this, i think I could get a self discipline from this thanks Doc.

[@elamahmarvellous9499]

Stop,it will literally stop your penis from growing since you are in your formative years I am speaking from experience

[@miked5789]

IMS & getting over it, is something that I was unable to quantify beforehand. Very interesting & comforting to hear it from a professional.

[@arnabbose3256]

Masturbation makes me calm, composed, focused, creative, and extremely productive. It is something that I would consider my first discoveries at a very early age and shaped my scientific career. Thanks to the bliss.

[@eligreg99]

@@accidentcellar6307 Yeah idk when I stop I have the most vivid dreams it’s ridiculous but if I do it it relaxes me

[@angryvaultguy]

@@accidentcellar6307 yeah that usually happens when one tries to get out of an addiction, if you can't function without masturbation then your property depended on it. After I tried nofap I successfully did it and yeah I to felt on edge but after that month I stop needing to jerk off. Try nofap again

[@angryvaultguy]

@@accidentcellar6307 good on you buddy trust me and many others that got over masturbation, if you feel like your gonna relapse remember would you rather go through great pain but in a relatively time and achieve self respect and freedom or live a life of short burst of happiness controlled by the amount of times you masturbate, I also had to ask myself this when doing the nofap challenge

[@lester2144]

I didn’t watch the video but I was thinking, if I had a sex life, I wouldn’t have a reason to mb

[@ellkir1521]

A man and his wife decided they needed a code word for sex since their boy was now getting older. They decided that the code word would be type a letter. One day the man was working in the shop and sent his son into the house to say "he needed to type a letter". She sent the son back with the message "their is a red ribbon in the typewriter". A couple days later at the dinner table she said she's "ready to type that letter". He responded with "that's ok, I hand wrote it in the shower".🤣

[@Aquamayne100]

Dr. Malik is the best!

[@brianmatthews4149]

She's a cutie

[@brucekilby9957]

It's this the reason folks live together. Why do that stuff when you've got a nice lady or guy in your life. The M ain't as Good as your partner.🎅👰

[@endofd-d7c]

@@brianmatthews4149 her face is long and big

[@nobodysreal5830]

Sounds like your dealing with the opposite when masturbating.

[@baroqueobama6199]

Her only problem is, she’s pro masturbation.

[@derbistheeternal2947]

damn girl u freaky asl

[@derbistheeternal2947]

didnt ask but ok@jessicaj9743

[@terryrutherford2114]

41 years of it. Thanks for the video Doctor!

[@The_Mind_Journey]

Are you still single..

[@RebeccaWood-zi5yi]

Wife back door not allowed ect

[@RebeccaWood-zi5yi]

​@@The_Mind_Journeywife back door not allowed ect

[@crabbycreates2943]

Masturbation IS my sex life. I'm 73, married for 37 years, with no marital sex for many years. I probably do have an idiosyncratic style since my technique (along with some use of THC vape) is what brings me pleasure. There are some variations, but the good ol' stroking of the knob is what does it. Freedom from concerns about how to please my partner is also a turnon.

[@RcH382]

welcome to the club

[@free3956]

hi can i have ur mail id

[@qa7d516]

What a pathetic ...

[@danapixel]

when your'e uncircumcied, you won't experience death grip

[@anim8torfiddler871]

Best discussion of the problems I've run across. Thanks. New subscriber.

[@Fiberglass_Insulation]

If I can't sleep, fapping is literally my go to. After fapping, then cleaning up, this wave of extreme sleepiness just hits me hard and knocks me out instantly.

[@jaydentyler3234]

😂

[@Spiritualwarriorrecovery]

That's very destructive.. Get help.

[@Fiberglass_Insulation]

@@Spiritualwarriorrecovery I would, but I don't know who I can look up to. No therapists in my area as well.

[@scapegoat1313]

"Im not gripping it too tight or jerking it too hard.... she just needs to toghten up and show more enthusiasm..." 👌

[@joshklaver47]

As an intact guy, you shouldn't need lube to masturbate. The foreskin provides a lot of lubrication, and helps to retain the natural lubricant produced by your body. The idea of needing lube to masturbate was spread by American pop culture. It's not really a thing in countries that don't circumcise.

[@RM.....]

I’m circumcised and I never used lube. Once in a while I would use it just for a change. Only time I use lube now is if I’m going to edge for a few hours.

[@goldstein10493]

I'm cut and I almost always jerk it dry, no lube.

[@damiencampbell8320]

​@RM..... I think it depends how long your shaft is. If your hand will fit along the shaft without coming into direct contact with the glans, lube is unnecessary, but if you're a little shorter or have big hands, it can be hard not to bring the hand in contact with the glans and that can get uncomfortable.

[@QeeQee1]

The sad part is I have seen numerous urologists, MDs and endocrinologists for my ED in the past one year and none bothers to even send for a scan or imagery! They all start by saying: there is this pill (Cialis or Viagra) like I am an idiot or just off the boat not to have heard of them! Can you believe my urologist in CA on first visit stared to talk about pumps? It is all one sad and depressing medical world! Most doctors have zero interest in your well-being which is truly heart-breaking! I also called D. Malik's office many times to no avail. It appears KZbin pays more; but thank you at least for sharing your knowledge here.

[@thinktank6871]

Jonathan, you ever had a root canal ?

[@QeeQee1]

@@thinktank6871 Yes

[@thinktank6871]

@@QeeQee1 based on my personal experience as well as many case studies infected root canals may cause impotence. Most of the root canals are infected and these are silent infections . You can find lots of literature and books about the dangers of root canals and how they effect your life quality.

[@QeeQee1]

@@thinktank6871 How would I know if my rot canals are infected if I do not have any signs/pain?

[@truthlemonade9793]

Your makeup game is on point in this video. I didn't expect you to say mouth first when you said, "For a man it could be a woman's mouth, hand, or vagina."

[@And-lj5gb]

You mention using internal fantasies instead of external fantasies but the problem is when you are an imaginative person, you can very easily push things so far that both external fantasies and real sex start to feel unattractive. I think that's what happened to me. And I find it'much harder to forego thinking than action so I don't think I'm getting out of this. At least I don't feel like trying too hard because when real sex starts to feel unattractive, you're not too bothered that you're missing out on it.

[@Merloc909]

@And - That might seem like not a big loss..... it becomes an issue when you find someone special. Also, in life, its a good idea never to be a slave to a habit or thought process or object or drug. Better to be in control than controlled.

[@And-lj5gb]

@@Merloc909 - thanks for your answer. Yes, it may be an issue when I find someone special but I have not been truly in love even once in my life so I don't find that fairytale very realistic. Also I can spin your narrative of not being a slave to a habit or thought process or object or drug. Sex drive can be a powerful force and I very much enjoy the thought that I'm not going to do something stupid or otherwise disadvantegous in order to get sex. I'm not fooling myself that this is my way to hapiness but it definetely has some upsides.

[@ceejaydaniel2287]

@@And-lj5gb lol that didn't spin anything. All you did is support the "not be a slave to a habit or controlled" comment. U basically just agreed by stating everything about sex drive. That or you may wanna do rewording of some kind... Hope love finds you bro don't give up

[@bronsonleach3573]

@@Merloc909 It is really difficult for autistic men like me to get a girlfriend for various reasons. Many of us suffer from hypersexuality and for me personally I do not feel comfortable walking into public without masterbating at least once a day to keep the edge off. Many people think we are A sexual or just not interested when in fact we are we just don't know how to talk to people. I am higher functioning so it is harder to notice it in me but a lot of girls just find me creepy I don't know why but they do. I have to wear a mental mask when I go out in public very few people know what is under which is just plain depressing.

[@And-lj5gb]

@@ceejaydaniel2287 - I'm not a native speaker so I may have said something that doesn't make sense but I believe I used the same logic to reach the opposite conclusion, hence I felt like I was spinning it. I might have misunderstood the person I was replying to, though.

[@michaelstrangis8742]

Thanks for all the information! Your channel provides lots of answers to questions that can be awkward to ask! Great channel! Thanks

[@tommac21]

Well for the love of God don't believe a word of it. Except maybe when she mentioned women which wasn't much. Not 1 thing she said about men is true. Of course how would a woman know. All she did was mention bogus reports

[@RebeccaWood-zi5yi]

Wife back door not allowed ect

[@BlockedByYoutube]

Yeah I was a nasty addict to it at one point in my life. Nearly ruined my own marriage cause of it, when I was younger in my early 20s it just never made sense to me why it would upset my partner and cinaixering growingup as a teen shed expect that behavior etc, and I listened and was realizing yeah okay I can see that, and it sucked, but I cleaned up and my wife really appreciates it now, and just spending extra time and hitting the gym really removes your mindset from corn (yes I had to spell it that way) marriage has been rock solid for the last 8 years and everything is better with us and I'd hate to go down that route again. Hitting the gym and working out really clears your mind from it if you find it a struggle to get away from it. Even if you don't have equipment or no membership, calisthenics always helps too.

[@Greg-yu4ij]

Good for you, bro. My wife used to get desperate for the “first shot” especially after several days. This used to throw my systems off. If life is busy you could go a week and now you’re control over timing, libido, etc goes away. Eventually she realized it’s like an exercise and she made sure I was taking care of it. She never fully lost her insecurities about it until I encouraged her to use the man in the canoe to help her get there on occasion. Cancer sucks.

[@reykolog5183]

but how did u resolve it, how did u eyaculate?

[@NoName-zb1gm]

I started when I was young like 10 years old not knowing what I was doing. It relieved stress I was having because my parents were getting divorced. I love women but can't imagine giving it up and waiting until a woman is ready for sex.. But as I'm getting older the urges aren't as great so I could probably incorporate my desires into an actual relationship.

[@sarahalderman3126]

Just find a partner with a higher sex drive when you’re ready for a relationship. People don’t stress that enough, that vastly different sd’s can be very difficult for either party. I know this personally as I have a much higher sd than my dh which did prove difficult during the first 15 or so years. Just saying, if you’re already concerned about this I would definitely make it a point to take that into consideration when selecting a spouse.❤

[@tommac21]

Don't be a quitter. Or let this woman brain wash you.

[@sarahalderman3126]

@@tommac21 uh ok then…

[@captnhuffy]

Many times, almost always, a woman will undermine (or even destroy) your sex life. Never let anyone get between you and release. Go ahead and take the RISK of getting involved if you don't mind RISKING everything, and losing your wealth and health.. you can hope for a better sex life w a woman, but don't expect it. p.s. re Sarah's advice, Men should never, never, take life advice from women. Her perspective works for her because women are wired differently... Women can find partner with higher drives easily, men rarely can.. unless they are gay. Also, women seem to need a man to do the work for them, or a device with a motor.. Men's needs to get off are far more straight forward.. point in fact we don't even need a woman, at all..

[@K2P715]

@@captnhuffy The best comment on here about a man's mentality. Great post!!!

[@marek100play]

Simple thank you, all in one explanation to all strange questions. I feel more confident now.

[@tsurek]

Thank you so much Dr. Always very helpful, backed by education, science, and studies. Thank you!

[@jsullivan2112]

What studies? She just said that there's extremely little data for one of her claims (the traumatic one). Did you miss that?

[@RomanoPRODUCTION]

Rena, my daily dose of ED cure. Thank you Doc.

[@mikehawke2172]

I've been a death grip user my entire life, my partners like it because I just stay up for an hour because I don't really feel anything.

[@MannyAguilarJr]

I should try this. Wanted to try something like this but partners didn't want to put in the work. Pretty much just ducking as fast as I can and build the stamina.

[@stke8593]

But can you even enjoy it then ?

[@mikehawke2172]

@@stke8593 no, but she'll like it and make you a sandwich afterwards.

[@mikehawke2172]

@@vbw4501 how is it a problem then?

[@qa7d516]

What a pathetic

[@katok4809]

Monday 5 December 2022: Doctora Malik is wonderful to listen to. I am not use to listening to a woman talk so openly and calmly about all the aspects of sex and men's issues such as prostate and masturbation and Cialis and Viagra. Her husband is very blessed to married to such a pretty and knowledgeable woman. If I was her husband, I would be a bit embarrassed. Two thumbs up to all of her advice.

[@aleximalmgren5301]

I am more comfortable with a woman .

[@brentduanefoster]

Wow, so much information to take in. You’ve done it again, Doc!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@hedleypanama]

I love this woman! I remember a female peer intern who got in love with urology so much that makes her become an urologist!

[@pavan162]

There is a epidemic of post-majucatory ejaculation. Especially in subjects who are clinically sedentary and can't go on for long even though it's 'hard'. They are tired and has to reach climax with minimal work like masturbating

[@PattyGotTheFatty]

As serious as this is I can't get over the term "death grip"

[@vizioax2]

The fact she couldn't even say it killed me

[@avirazian]

Thanks Dr. it takes a lot of courage to seak of this topic. And your insights will help many people including me to a healthier lifestyle...

[@tommac21]

It took even more guts, to flat out lie on social media. I would have said a lot of " balls " but as you can see she doesn't have them. Therefore she shouldn't be talking bullcrap about men

[@dask1516]

I can definitely say being in Fantasyland ruined my first marriage it was just too much for her to handle and it changed the Dynamics of our relationship LOL.. I just hope she never tells anybody about the shit that her and I used to do together intimately LOL But it was really really hard to have regular normal sex without incorporating that fantasy so I can say that porn absolutely will ruin your sex life took quite literally more than a year to kind of start returning to normal and still if I think about that fantasy I got to stop myself

[@RobCLynch]

Years ago my then wife decided that she didn't want sex anymore. One day she was asked by her doctor how her sex life was going. She replied that WE didn't have sex anymore. The doc replied, well one of you isn't having sex anymore.

[@colindeer9657]

Thank you. A very helpful presentation for both sexes, I thought, although slanted obviously towards the man. I do not think it harms his partner to know these physiologically damaging patterns in behaviour. ( grip etc ) I also believe that this set of ED type ( end result scenarios ) is quite common among men who regularly attend to their own sexual needs. As a nurse and one who’s had to do my own research to improve my own health , there are many ways to improve the status quo of a man’s erectile function and nutrition is a major factor. Exercise’s specific to purpose etc and involve the partner. As hard as that sounds. Love making is a gourmet not a pkt of crisps. Men need to learn a different language and approach to love making. I look forward to seeing your other work. Cheers. Colin 🇦🇺

[@RC-Heli835]

Your opening pics are so hilarious!🤣😀 I always try to have some sort of Dr and patient fantasy going on in my head in these rare occasions!

[@nikoswildcard1191]

Thanks for this. My mental equilibrium needed that... It had been broken to pieces lately

[@0HARE]

Thanks for a great informative episode, Doc. It’s good to learn that I’m boringly normal.

[@3DJapan]

I say mix things up. Sometimes toys, sometimes hands, varying positions, etc.

[@someguy2135]

Great advice! It also makes masturbation more pleasurable! Variety is the spice of masturbation and partnered sex.

[@someguy2135]

I just made this point before seeing your comment.

[@richardkremmen7811]

This is a very a very insightful, useful and completely credible, important vid, thanks!!

[@AppleBottomJ]

I don’t think it’s necessarily touching yourself but what you are watching.

[@mikeharrington5593]

So useful these practicalities are discussed in such an open & normal way. Another aspect to perhaps consider is that most forms of mass media (not just pornography) promote the idea, & condition the minds, that instant self-gratification is good.

[@christophermiller3031]

Uhm... Are you not forgetting all the haters on sexual freedom? JSYK majority of the world are religious ... And that means, as the Christians believe, billiions of people will burn in hell for eternity for such behaviour. It is literally only a recent trend that woman are not being treated like an object to be primarily used for sexual gratification. I want the progress, but we need to remember all the stages of society that got us here.

[@ibot2157]

@@christophermiller3031 Man what the you on about, women are now used as means of sexual gratification more than ever. And now the opposite is pushed, if you're not being promiscuous and hedonistic, you're a loser and a square.

[@POVskimboarding]

Are there consequences to not masturbating enough? This is obviously in the minority, but still a valid question to ask because of the NOfap movement that is encouraging men to masturbate much less often. On top of that, there is the so-called semen retention. These are actually very popular ideologies that are discouraging men from masturbating.

[@alicaramba7680]

You should check the meaning of word 'ideology' before using it. Next, non-masturbation definitely is way more better than fapping. Why? Because of masturbation you narrowing perception of woman, sex, yourself and life in general. It becomes psychological problem which eventually impacts your daily life and not in good ways either, though you might think otherwise before reality becomes so clear you can't any longer lie to yourself, you are screwed. Second, you don't need to masturbate at all. It won't have any bad consequences for you. Thanks to nightfall men's reproductive system cleans itself from dead cells, excess of sperm and other waste. If you masturbate a lot likely you didn't experience nightfall for a long long time. And it is true for heavy fappers 3 to 6 months of non-fap is needed to recover fully. Try to not masturbate and not consume porn for two weeks and you should experience a nightfall. It likely will be very weak, without erection, nevertheless it will be a sign your body can function as it suppose. Next, nightly erection will follow, likely very weak too but in time it will recover. That's if you don't have more serious medical conditions which should be treated first. If you don't have ED, then it's entirely down to psychology. And 90% of it comes from the family. And it's extremely hard to embrace and to live with opinion your parents are far from perfect or even good, or even better than average parents. Either you suffered from too many negative abuses and very little of positive encouragement, either your parents were overly loving and controlling, which led to fear of other people and woman in particular, because your psychology perceives strangers should be even worse than family which eventually lead to masturbation instead of having 'normal' relationship and sexual bond with a woman.

[@pawemaliszewski9324]

It would be my question also. I heard masturbation is good for Your prostate. So .. how much is minimum to have a healthy prostate ? It's a strictly medical question. For doctors. And please, don't write some long paragraphs about what You think is good or bad for woman, family or anything author of this comment WASN'T really asking.

[@DMSProduktions]

Prostate CANCER!!!

[@DMSProduktions]

@@alicaramba7680 Flagged for misinformation!

[@DMSProduktions]

@@pawemaliszewski9324 I flagged him for misinformation!

[@pjroo]

0:26 I don’t think this dude is doing it right…but he looks happy 👌🏼

[@spankythemonkey9828]

When you notice one arm is bigger than the other, it's time to switch arms. ✊

[@hubertharmon]

One arm Popeye's the other arm skinny

[@harry31619]

@@hubertharmon or like when Quagmire found out about online porn.

[@hotrod2321]

I can't use my left hand. I have tried but it don't feel the same. Always go back to my right. Lol

[@ianstewartorr8455]

@@hubertharmon why’s popeye,s cock never rusty because it’s always in olive oil

[@billsoderholm3125]

Yes! Too funny!

[@Julian2Sounds]

Recommended books: When The Body Says No; The Cost of Hidden Stress - Dr. Gabor Mate. The Myth of Normal - Dr. Gabor Mate.

[@benjaminortega5437]

This is really wrong 😢😢😢 Dear Dr. Malik, it’s no surprise to not see any comments in a language other than English. My mother tongue is Spanish and I can’t understand very well the subtitles in that language. My understanding of the content when I’m reading those subtitles is like below 40%. If you see this, please, consider changing the translator! There’s a lot of literal translation, in other words, the least difficult translation that there is. That means that your translator doesn’t think too much on the understanding of the audience. That, I think, is the main cause of me understanding so little. I tell you this because I’m studying English-Spanish translation and I see that your content is pretty relevant for all viewers! And really I would wanna see your channel grow! Good luck!

[@edwhatshisname3562]

I've done it until there were raw spots before, though that was a while ago. I don't feel like I need nearly as much "relief" as I did when I was in my teens and 20s, so for those who are younger and struggling with this, there's some light at the end of the tunnel I guess.

[@fubartotale3389]

Speak for yourself.

[@ShadowPhoenix82]

"ultimate form of self-pleasure"? I don't know, I feel like ice cream is the ultimate form of self-pleasure for me 💕

[@rururu5630]

Both are pretty close. They both make me hate myself afterwards.

[@archstanton9547]

Maybe you should try both at the same time.

[@Carlos.Rivera]

Dumping diarrhea

[@manbearpigwa]

@@rururu5630 well you need to think one step ahead. having ice cream doesn't make you feel good afterwards while choking the chicken does

[@tejoramyemineni]

she is serving humanity

[@413x398]

I get ED dealing with female mental dysfunction far more than any physical situation could cause. Faaar more.

[@RcH382]

That must be why i had a near 50% failure rate when whoring around

[@413x398]

@@RcH382 I am a human "cat", therefore I have to actually LIKE a girl before I can function with her. Displays of stupidity, narcissism, and non-logic will deflate the situation in a hurry.

[@An-Honest-Citizen]

That death grip at 3:12 though, it couldn't get any firmer!

[@dameanvil]

0:46 🚫 Traumatic Masturbation Syndrome: Masturbating in a prone position can lead to issues like low sexual desire and erectile dysfunction. 2:15 💀 Death Grip: Using an overly aggressive grip during masturbation can desensitize the penis, making it difficult to climax without increasing stimulation. 3:24 🖐 Idiosyncratic Masturbation Style: Developing unique masturbation habits that cannot be replicated with a partner may hinder sexual satisfaction during partnered sex. 5:02 🩹 How to treat painful masturbation: If experiencing discomfort or difficulties, take a break from masturbation, try different techniques, and consider seeking help from a sexual therapist. 7:34 📈 How much is too much masturbation? There's no exact number, but if masturbation interferes with daily activities or becomes a preferred activity over socializing, it may be time to reassess habits.

[@tomgmaples]

I've heard circumcision can cause this because of the numbing effect. Losing the protection of the foreskin and rolling gliding lubricating functions of it make it necessary to have more friction. They do make prosthetic coverings to protect the glands which returns a lot of sensitivity in time I've Been Told it can come back as quickly as a couple weeks keeping the glands covered until it gets rehydrated and sensitive.

[@jonnycassh7765]

True ...also think circumcision plays a big part in this too ...especially when it comes to tight/death grip and being rough , due to the numbing effect ... I would not be surprised to find that Penile Fracture mostly happens to circumcised men , that would make a lot of sense

[@Sw87sw87]

I got circumcised in my 30s. No regrets.

[@jonnycassh7765]

@@Sw87sw87 I've heard that some guys don't care about loosing some sensitivity as long as the wife/girlfriend likes it...hope it was your choice and was not pressured in to doing it ..but if your happy good for u . Bruce Jenner also did his/her "thing" too ...and is also happy with no regrets ...cheers.

[@Sw87sw87]

@@jonnycassh7765 I had it done on my own terms and while single. I had good results I guess. I noticed zero decrease in sensitivity. If anything it made the orgasm way more powerful than before.

[@jonnycassh7765]

@@Sw87sw87 Hey ...if it was for a genuine medical reason(s) ,like an overly tight foreskin etc, then I 100% support u ...

[@DR-wo8in]

First comment 🤧🤧... Yours videos are very knowledgeable maam 😀

[@feargodkojo6121]

The issue is that I want to marry Doc She's so wonderful

[@Dislob]

Ikr. I wish my significant other was this smart and knowledgable. High value women are rare.

[@DMSProduktions]

@@Dislob She's non western, so it helps!

[@anik5579]

In that case i want to be your bro and help her at home with routine chores when you are off for work😊

[@Alsatiagent]

The last time I used internal fantasy the subjects were Shirley and/or Laurie Partridge. The old man was a good sport and left his Playboys in a living room cabinet.

[@franknew9001]

Wow, that was a long time ago, as "The Partridge Family" was on prime time from 1970 to 1974. I always thought that the mom, Shirley Partridge (Shirley Jones) was hotter than Laurie Partridge (Susan Dey) back in the 1970's. 😊😊

[@rc2464]

So don't use a pair of pliers?

[@Infinitenumberofzachs]

You’re not alone bro

[@Sergeant_Bradford]

@@Infinitenumberofzachs*s a m e .*

[@immortal5670]

Man.. are you leaving in 3rd world? World is moving up to vice clamp, you are still on pliers? Really?

[@PixelGliderr]

💀

[@bobdillon1138]

It can be a sad grubby habit for some men however more woman should do it preferably while i am watching.

[@skaruts]

But wait a minute: applying more grip strength can be caused by difficulty in reaching orgasm, rather than the opposite. Applying more force does help reaching it (as does stroking faster), and if one really isn't able to reach it gently, then one can hardly be gentle about it. There are physical or mental health issues that can make a man unable to reach orgasm gently, and which can lead to this problem. Or in other words, the "death grip" may easily be a symptom, rather than a problem.

[@aidantuckwell9191]

What shes getting at is IF its done too much/too strongly in order to achieve orgasm, too frequently (we all experiment after all) then it can be the cause of problems, by physically causing damage. Put it this way: to feel relaxed you may need to go for a run, and then you may get a blister on your foot. But you wouldnt blame the blister on the need to feel relaxed

[@skaruts]

@@aidantuckwell9191 What she's getting at is besides my point. I'm disagreeing specifically with what is the root of the problem.

[@markfurchtenicht8274]

Imagination or not always pleasurable I would think. Just curious if you do it. No one can do it like your own self. Don’t mean to be out of line.

[@ikazukison2]

I finished in the first minute of this video, never saw the rest

[@mrzerotech2810]

Luckily I use my hand and think about sexual experiences in the past that I had or fantasize over a person I like and I’m trying to give up porn for good even tho I don’t watch it a lot

[@captnhuffy]

Bingo! This is healthiest imo. If you look attractive women in your area will flirt, which fills my "spank bank" -- alternatively use porn prior to wanking, not during, and images instead of video.

[@tonyguill6209]

Well,off hand, I'd say it was informative

[@someguy2135]

I have to hand it to you. That was clever.

[@Clixy]

Cmon guys,these jokes are getting outta hand...lets take a break

[@bobmanfre5083]

Dear Dr. Malik, My Urologist recently told me that I have to stop masturbating. I asked him why. He said 'I'm trying to examine you!'.

[@subh_8208]

Lol.

[@RobertHurleyJr]

Dude at 1:58 is dead serious about finding a particular saucy scene.

[@Aldotronix]

fuckk i have death grip, the sad part is you don’t realize it until you are with a partner

[@qa7d516]

This is something no one probably is going to tell you about. Jerking off and watching porn are what cause death grip. They kill sex drive with partners. They make you hide in your bedroom like an absolute failure and addicted sick piece of trash. How does death grip go away and get back sex drive? When you stop beating your meat because this activity can only be done by losers.

[@Johny40Se7en]

Wonderful video. Very down to Earth all the way through, nice one.

[@Pentagathusosaurus]

I don't know why the algorithm brought me here but it feels personal now KZbin

[@itzleonardoo]

Same, I got recommended for no reason and this is very personal KZbin, they know too much 😂

[@wadepeterson9170]

Beat it like it owes you money

[@3BDALR7MANxF]

Man the analogy killed me 😂😂

[@Uwugodslayyy]

Lol

[@johnaballew3]

Best comment of the day! I laughed so hard I lost my death grip!😅

[@jaxsonmonis9555]

Very informative and delivered very well. Good advice for all 🙌👏

[@beeboy2306]

Hi, doc. Can you make a video about vulvitis? I think a lot of women out there need to know about this matter. Thanks

[@ginagombroski65]

No.

[@beeboy2306]

@@ginagombroski65 what No?

[@ginagombroski65]

@@beeboy2306 ok....yes.

[@bliice-tk5568]

Im so glad you covered the prone masturbation thing. I never knew that was the correct name of it. Im currently trying to stop to resensitize my penis

[@pdzombie1906]

Always helpful and interesting, Dr. M. Thanx!!!

[@tommac21]

Your even funnier then her 😂😂😂

[@turboman2019]

Thanks Dr Malik for your observation and advice about such an important but obscure topic for men,always looking forward to your content.I have a non related question,my wife got a pap smear examination and she said that it was extremely painful,her Doctor was male,is that a typical complaint?

[@Velo1010]

What gets me is self pleasure sounds innocent but according to the Bible it’s a sin. Nevertheless I do it a few times a week thinking about these two girls I work with.

[@yourneighborhoodfriendlyme4242]

Don't worry about it. If God is really that concerned about such small things, I don't think any of us are gettin in to those pearly gates in the sky, my friend. Hopefully you get to make that coworker fantasy a reality one day with one of them. Just don't get in trouble with the job over it, of course. Maybe when you quit or they quit. Idk. Best luck!