Repairing the Identity Crisis | Ryan Romano | TEDxMountainViewCollege

[@viniciustavares6151]

"Perfectionism is the number one confidence killer" It hits me really hard.

[@poetmariachi]

I agree that being empty (in self-identity) leads to empty relationships. This is one of the greatest challenges we must present our youth: to challenge them to fulfill their true destinies, part of that: being human! Thanks for bringing so much energy to our TEDx stage!

[@DonteRicardo656]

I literally went through an identity crisis and drug/ alcohol abuse at the same time, for the past 8 years. As I’m approaching 26 years of age next month, I’m finally finding myself spiritually, I know what I want to do as a career, next step is to get my mental straight after I’m just now getting over addiction. The withdraws make relapsing so much easier. Lastly is to get my finances back in order.

[@codycoburn4334]

Keep up the positive mind set and create goals! You got this!

[@storageineed5325]

not much practical advice but the boost some people need to hear. thank you

[@vitalii9763]

Im sorry, but this sounds for me like: If you are sad, stop being sad and become happy.

[@groegar8711]

It literally gave no solution

[@potter5647]

Yo bro I want to be your friend

[@maebreezy.8336]

😥it's not that easy

[@ilikemydonutswithjaminthem5606]

exactly

[@yourpeergerick]

I have a friend who is experiencing an identity crisis so I started watching videos about it. Thanks because now I have an introduction to help him solve this. I do not want to send this video immediately because it is most likely that he will know my intention in trying to help his situation creating the possibility to shut me out. I fear that he may end his life if he continues to go at this situation. Thank you!

[@louxjoh]

you are a good friend. MAY GOD BLESS!

[@DarkDruid7]

Give us some practical tips, like...... Take opposite action toward your fear: "I don't want to live on my own, I want to move back in with mom" Move to a different country. Take a shot at life, not to the head. If therapy and meds are failing, switch therapists and/or meds. If still failing, research TMS treatment or acquire psilocybin mushrooms. As a last resort, go live with the monks up in the mountains.

[@Wismerhil]

Your comment has more meaningful information than the whole video. Thank you.

[@Yuseigo]

heh i literally love nothing about myself

[@88royalty88]

Not even your smile? What about the way you handle situations or try gratitude write 5 thing your grateful for..im grateful to wake up every morning with working limbs, im grateful for the sun(it felt so good on my skin yesterday) im grateful so on so on...write affirmations around you house "im awesome" " i feel good about myself etc...you got this

[@Yuseigo]

@@88royalty88 i just don't feel feel like I'm worth anything, it's connected to my ability to preform tasks so if i don't complete them with flying colors i just don't feel like I'm worth anything. I'm serious when i say there's literally nothing i love about myself but i hope to change that. a week ago i picked up learning the guitar and this time I'm serious about learning it i hope to impress myself one day if can get even remotely decent.

[@88royalty88]

@@Yuseigo you have to reprogram that mind of yours thats what im in the mist of doimg but you have to be consistent. You know if you didnt have this illness you would like alot about yourself so say those things and say them out loud. Start with saying im enough, im valuable, i love myself even if you dont feel that way say it anyways. Tell yourself that your healing and that things are getting better. I cant leave this convo without telling ypu that your everything and subconsciously you know it tool. You got this start working on yourself its hard but you can do it.

[@mementomori5374]

Pick up fitness connect with your muscles the fitter your body the fitter your brains will i promise you will transform completly goodluck

[@ainar9774]

And now? How're you doing? I sat to write those ten things and barely got three out, lol

[@mementomori5374]

Work that body people if you feel sad depressed just start with working out take anything and become slowly better and better at if fitness is a great one and you dont need anything for it you can do it everywhere goodluck

[@kimt8162]

He' nailed it. I"ve seen it time and time again. For me, it's been water. Yep, pools, oceans, lakes. Swimming. Beaches, sunsets, the feeling of water. Simple but it makes you feel amazing. Other people, friends, do NOT do it for me. They just want to dump all their problems on me. Yet, I'm always expected to be on the top of my game all the time. So my relationship, meaningful one is my time in the pool. It clears my head, offers good exercise, and has nothing to do with hearing other people complain. It cleans the soul. It reminds you there's a world out there without your keyboard.

[@the_evolve365]

This is so awesome. I am valuable, I am worthy

[@vanner66]

This helped me so much, literally see yourself as a gift from GOD for your doing his work

[@lexluther6917]

I'm going through this...hope i can get over this

[@rebellion613]

Most of the people will fit in rather than stand out ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@eyinadeflorence1432]

That's a great speech Knowing one purpose and having a personal meaning to life is really the starting point because once that's in place, self love will follow and a healthy self esteem will be built regardless of the challenges and life opposition one might encounter Then there wouldn't be room for voidness and emptiness and one's joyfulness and happiness wouldn't be based on any other fellow rather one will take responsibility for deriving his joy from within and from there will leave a meaningful life There will be a fulfill sense of worth that you're not just adding up to the statistics, neither are a a product of another biological mistakes and that will help you embrace your uniqueness and be positive towards life

[@theotherway1639]

Thanks. Another good resource is the mindfulness book "30 Days to Discover Who I Am" by Harper Daniels. It's online.

[@anthonytravis1420]

In summation: everyone keeps offing themselves. Dont do that. Just be chill. Youre cool, man.

[@gratefulandloved9505]

You can learn a lot from male confidence

[@s.elizabeth1753]

I'm 36 and I have no idea what I'm doing

[@billygodd6703]

exactly how I feel

[@blackjackmania9633]

I feel like that too

[@inspiringmorning587]

What he doesn’t know that this crisis are coming in cycles in people lives and you need a set of “tools” or exercises to get over them ! Is not just once in a lifetime !

[@Wismerhil]

6min video dedicated to the second leading cause of death between the age of 15 to 35 [1:35] should explain a lot on why that is the case...

[@rebellion613]

Life changing speech

[@melo7825]

good points, but how?

[@bcsuser]

You're really amazing

[@heatherpierce9123]

Excellent video. But you should think of including trigger warning because you discuss suicide, just a suggestion, because some of us are very fragile & sensitive. Thank you for sharing!

[@mikimiki8342]

Sheeeesh

[@bahrain7274]

4:05 ... thank me later

[@rudolph1899]

Thank you

[@Tochizzy]

Man this didn't answer the question

[@tgbaaauk]

This needs 1M views at least

[@BIGGELATO]

If you think you'll get anything from this, even though it's a "Ted Talk", you'll be disappointed. Click on another video, don't waste your time.

[@Nikita-me6mi]

someones ego is hurt

[@BIGGELATO]

@@Nikita-me6mi sure was, 2 years ago.

[@AceH1gh]

What a water pouring

[@madisonperkins5399]

I'm a perfectonist 😃

[@angelmemory00]

My aliases change every other day on every social media possible.

[@jrj-tube9212]

Why deos he kinda remind me of Danny duncan

[@TheMudcat7]

What bruh

[@blessingchika_]

I love me some more

[@Van_Wyk]

This didn't help me at all, you don't come and do this ted talk to only tell your story, give statistics and give a pep talk, you do this ted talk to actually help people and tell them what to do to actually find themselves and how they should approach it, I'm not saying I could do it better because I actually came her for help, but this is not it.

[@Smokejumper861]

And that is how a narcissist is born

[@animeprofiles2077]

At this point the sounds of "Who do you want to be ?" Who do you want to become?" All this B.s is pointless

[@علي-ش7ث8ب]

*O man! what has deceived thee and emboldened thee against thy Gracious Lord* *Who created thee, then perfected thee, then proportioned thee aright?* *In whatever form He pleased, He fashioned thee.* *Nay, but you deny the Judgement.* (Quran)

[@ilikemydonutswithjaminthem5606]

Unhelpful!