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@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing in the right place, but to leave unsaid the wrong thing in a tempting moment. -Lady Dorothy Nevill (English writer, hostess, horticulturist and plant collector) 👇👇👇 Subscribe to my other channel, Heavens to Betsy: kzbin.info
@iddybiddyladybugleeza9093 жыл бұрын
My grandma used to say heavens to Betsy 🥰 I’ve had depression for many years. I’m an antique now my birthday was last week & I’m now an AARP member 😅 I have an adult son with autism, a teenager & a almost 2 digit. My happy place is with my plants, frogs, turtle (who’s older than my kids) lizard & snake I rescued, fury kids too. 2 kitty’s that were dumped off at my work back in November & truthfully they came at a stressful time but reviving them back to health was healing my heart too. Anyway I still have struggle days & nights but I also know what’s going on in my life will pass & isn’t permanent. Robin Williams broke my heart & I still can not watch his movies
@allyg94573 жыл бұрын
I’ve never had Facebook. People were terrible on MySpace and I never even gave FB as shot. Keyboard warriors are cowards. Try not to let them into your headspace. They aren’t worth it! Easier said than done, I know! You are so strong to share your self with us with such honesty. Your videos are super cute! I have always enjoyed your sense of humor but also your realism about life. And you’re so adventurous to live abroad!! The change in content was really interesting and equally enjoyable as your planty content. Keep it up Betsy!💐 What book did your therapist recommend? I’m interested…
@margaritastyle13 жыл бұрын
How did you know I was struggling with this today? Specifically leaving the wrong thing unsaid. This video in general is spot on and no, it's not just you. I'm not going to tell you to "just pay no attention", but rather shift focus to the fact that you helped someone today: Me. Thank you!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
@@margaritastyle1 This is a really wonderful comment. Thank you for watching my video, reflecting, and having this moment with me. I appreciate it.
@fatfrogfarm3 жыл бұрын
I am an older fan of you and your wonderful wit and humor. I grew up without any social media. Imagine that! We functioned so smoothly and peacefully and were not involved with so many people and their lives. We did not carry the weight of everyone else's opinions and woes. Oh that we could return to such simplicity and peace!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
I also grew up that way. Older than you think haha! I really thank you for watching my video and leaving your input. I hope you have a lovely day.
@julzgulz19923 жыл бұрын
I feel Covid has pushed people but also there is a growing lack of patience for different opinions and “others”. People have become more certain of their righteousness and quick to judge. I feel like we need a return to humility. No one is perfect. No one has the right to judge. Everyone has faults and flaws and makes mistakes. We should offer more grace, love, and acceptance of each other’s messiness and humanity. Sending love your way! You are lovely and human and completely precious to the world! I say this to Betsy and anyone reading this.
@heatherdegreeff10923 жыл бұрын
This is so true. Thanks for putting it out there so plainly.
@TheBonsaiZone3 жыл бұрын
A great talk Betsy, I only do KZbin, no other social media. If I tried to do more, I'd go crazy! The comment section can get you down at times, you get lots of good feedback and excellent questions, then you get that one comment that just hits you. The hurt feeling can last for days, even weeks. I enjoy the comments, but some days, I avoid reading reading them, just in case there is that one comment there to ruin my day. 99 percent of all the comments are really great and I enjoy the interaction with my very kind subscriber base, I try not to let just a few people take the fun out of KZbin. I have heard from other KZbinr's that it's best just to ban these few people from your channel and I have started to do this. I don't ban critical comments, just the ones that cross the line between constructive criticism and hate. Have a great day, you make many of us happy watching your videos!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Thanks a lot for your input and for sharing your experience. I agree that 99% of comments are positive but the brain likes a puzzle and when someone leaves a wounding comment it can really get under your skin. I have started removing deliberately hurtful comments, I don't want anyone else to be subjected to such negativity and if I have power over someone's hate puke, I will use that power to get rid of it. I appreciate your watching Nigel, I hope you have a wonderful day. Stay positive.
@sparklemotion423 жыл бұрын
I just want to say that this interaction is wholesome AF and it's nice to see two of my favorite KZbinrs being excellent to each other. Thanks to both of you for what you do!
@F4610-x5l3 жыл бұрын
This video felt like a chat with a friend. Thanks. I think many people can relate to the isolation and depression and its always refreshing to hear an open discussion about it😊
@wildshycherrybliss3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for talking about the pervasive perfectionism in the plant community, so refreshing. I don’t know you, of course, but from what you’ve said, it sounds like you’ve had a rough go of it lately… so, I just wanted to say that for the last couple of years, this channel has been where I’ve gone when I have “15 minutes or 2 hours in my day” where I just need a laugh. So, thank you for the content you create. Thank you for being you, Betsy Begonia! 🥰
@triciajohannes4123 жыл бұрын
Your channel is my therapy & I sincerely mean that. Im clairsentient (basically an empath on steroids) & there's no off button or tuning it out so last year & this year as well have been a testament to my mental strength. I'm thankful for channels like yours because you genuinely make people feel better. For that I just wanted to say thank you!!
@bethb79733 жыл бұрын
I adore your content and admire your bravery. It’s got to be hard to put yourself out there. ❤️
@WoodlandT3 жыл бұрын
I left all social media except KZbin a few years ago. It had become deeply toxic for me. Even still, the comments in many KZbin comment sections can feel so bad, deflating, enraging, depressing etc. But I really enjoy seeing positive & supportive comments. Those help me feel like there are still good people in the world. So it’s a double edged sword. My only solution is to try & limit the channels I watch to those with strong, healthy subscriber bases. I shudder to think how vile & toxic the social media platforms I left have become, if they were already such dangerously unhealthy places. I appreciate your frankness & transparency. I hope you get the support & positivity back that you put out into the world
@sclassicallyme3 жыл бұрын
When the pandemic started, my plants gave me a reason to get off of the couch. They gave me something to care for and talk to that wasn’t behind a screen, and now I feel beholden to them which is not quite a joyful feeling for me. I hope to find my joy in plants again, and I am glad you are taking care of yourself.
@sriku10003 жыл бұрын
About mental health and social media kzbin.info/www/bejne/mmqanoeErcuhY80
@b2h3163 жыл бұрын
I 100% agree with you. I think being pulled out of society and not interacting with people has made us less empathetic. When you add in the pressures of covid and conspiracy theories and fear it's just a recipe for disaster. I hope we can get back to where we were before or better
@nonakind3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate you, Betsy. I feel that way with social media. Their is so much drama and negativity out there and I want little to no contact with it; if I can control it. I myself don't go on Facebook and rarely on IG (once a week maybe for like 15 minutes). Life is too short to be chasing something thats outside my authentic self. I wish more people could be happier with who they are and not feel the need to portray a certain way for validation, attention, approval, or success. It's so refreshing to hear the rawness from someone on KZbin and was truly genuine. Thank you, I enjoyed this repotting chat. 😊🌱
@YellowPineappleHoyas3 жыл бұрын
My Buddhist teacher says, if someone calls you a dog, check to see if you have a tail...if you don't have a tail, then you are not a dog. With that said, Covid has brought out the best and worst in humans and even if we know we aren't a dog, repeated comments saying we are can be hurtful. Therefore, we all need to remember to choose kindness and practice compassion with ourself and others. If we aren't compassionate with and forgiving of ourselves, we are more likely to take out our problems on others and ourself.
@belindarocky9613 жыл бұрын
I relate to this a lot. I'm sorry that some people are garbage and spew negativity at you. I'm also a sensitive person, similar to how you describe yourself. My therapist always says "You're living in the ocean and some people live in a puddle" and I love how that talks about the way that some people just keep things on surface level only. And others take a deeper dive. Sorry to ramble..anyway sending love 💕
@Randaakarim3 жыл бұрын
I very recently followed your channel here and I have to say I really admire your authenticity and tone of voice. I relate to you so much and I'm sorry people can be mean. I feel very lonely, affected by doomscrolling, and I didn't know I'm depressed until I realized how desperately I need someone to talk to.. I think about how I don't feel like myself and then I wonder what being myself actually feels like, you know? But anyway, I'm glad you chose to bring up points that's not really about plants and just about life.. please take care of yourself❤️
@plantseveryinch90243 жыл бұрын
I totally agree I'm a empath too and covid and the isolation and the depression hit hard and I lost alot of my green babies in the exact same way I also found out I was severely chronically ill so it was a crappy year so I totally feel you hardcore !! You seem like a great person and I hope this year is looking up for you 😁🌱🌿💚 sending happy planty vibes your way !!
@deenoekuekinjuhuujahaa18043 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your video! What you said really spoke to me. I think if the past year should have taught us all anything, it's that everyone is always going through something and making other people feel less valid because they are afraid, sad, depressed,sick or anxious just isn't okay. I still remember my coworker randomly saying "there's always something with you!" referring to my physical health over two years ago and I felt so defeated in that moment and like she really did not believe I had actual valid health issues while I did rationally know I'm chronically ill. Sometimes one sentence can cut others really deeply and the solution is not just "letting things go". I found that reducing any contact with toxic people (IRL and online) definitely helps. I can't imagine how it must feel to have random strangers just comment/insult you. I appreciate your channel and I love your videos. Please take any time off you need whenever you do need it but I hope you keep making videos!
@sandyg87943 жыл бұрын
Hi Betsy! I really enjoyed this video, but then I really enjoy all of your videos! I always appreciate how you talk so openly and freely about subjects that can affect a lot us us. It's sad that so many people go through this, but it helps to know that we're not the only ones. Sometimes it feels so isolated when others around us don't really understand. I read in your response to Nigel that you are blocking the commenters that are just rude and mean. It must give some satisfaction that you can stop them from hurting you verbally. Good for you! Thank you so much for sharing!
@plantladyonamission3 жыл бұрын
Hi Betsy! First and foremost I would like to say thank you for sharing your experience with your mental health. I also am an individual living with mental health and agree with you that a concern of mine is so many other individuals suffering in silence, due to the stigma associated with mental health. Again appreciate you sharing ♥️🙏🏽
@Lulusjungle3 жыл бұрын
I think its ever more important to prescribe to self care and having a break for however long that may be from social media's. The Internet has invited people into our homes 24/7. There is no break from other people anymore. I used to come home from school before the days of mobile phones and the Internet and be isolated from everyone but my family and I would draw, read, listen to music and enjoy my own company for a short time. Now if I draw or read or enjoy some music I'm always "available" and connected to a device that is an open to my personal space. If someone texts me whilst I'm reading I'll put the book down and reply... its toxic. Alone time is a good thing. Too much alone time probably not but taking care of yourself and your mind is absolutely vital. Hope you're alright Betsy and I'm glad you've taken steps to make sure you're also doing some self care :) x
@stoobyderp3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you have been proactive with your mental health. Sometimes I wonder if therapy would be helpful for me. On one hand though, it would make my issues seem more real, and it would show me that I really can't handle them myself. That feels scary. On the other hand, it feels like it's expensive to even start, and could lead down an even pricier rabbit hole. I feel like I dwell on it for a period, then feel better and don't even think about it anymore for a while. Rinse and repeat.
@susanjohnson58243 жыл бұрын
I'm not a fan of social media but love YT you can't imagine how therapeutic your channel has been this last year, plant content has been a blessing. I too have gotten in a little too deep with the volume of plants but have given a lot away and am down to a number that I can manage. Thank you for putting on a happy face this last year and making our lives a lot easier.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Susan, that is such a kind and thoughtful comment. Thank you for that feedback. I'm so glad that my videos provided you with something you needed. I really appreciate your watching. I hope you have a lovely day.
@nnacroon73563 жыл бұрын
I've always loved ur mix of content! I came for the plants, I stay for the Betsy! New channel subscribed 👍💕
@sriku10003 жыл бұрын
About mental health and social media kzbin.info/www/bejne/mmqanoeErcuhY80
@andysplants3 жыл бұрын
Betsy! We appreciate you so much!!! Dont let those negative comments get you down, always remember how beautiful you are, inside and out! I dont know if I've commented on your channel before, but I love your content, your sense of humor is always on point, and I just wanted to express my appreciation! This video resonates with me a ton, I've been on a social media break as well, especially from Facebook, I can barely bring myself to check my notifications anymore lol. The part I related with the most is the part about depression and plant care. I got really overwhelmed by my plants recently, and then I got really depressed and lost a bunch of them, and currently I'm not taking in anymore plants, and it has brought me a sense of being content with the plants that I have:) I really hope that soon the world can start feeling like a safe healthy place again, and one day soon we'll be able to get out there and socialize/gather like we all did before:) Best wishes from Washington state!:)
@nicolekuster62152 жыл бұрын
Love your openness and honesty! Thank you very much for that! Hearing your voice during this time makes me cry inside with you. But I am so glad you are clearly (just by hearing your actual voice) feeling much better now! All the best to you! Much love
@Sunnyincalifornia20233 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this video. I sincerely appreciate your channel and contents! Your love of Hoyas and Begonias are contagious!
@Ch33Ch223 жыл бұрын
I wholeheartedly agree that the pandemic has made the internet a much more toxic place. There has always been that group of people that are happy making others unhappy but covid seemed to increase that group tenfold ++. At the beginning of the pandemic I got caught in a wormhole and was following posts that made me feel very lost, gave me anxiety, nightmares even. Cutting myself off from all social media helped me see things so much clearer and I was able to pull myself out of the rutt. I am back on now but limit the things I watch to stuff that make me happy. I also joined a few fitness challenges that really helped immensely w all aspects of my mental and physical self. I commend you for speaking on this issue, along w all of things you touched on in this vid, and thank you for trying to help others still caught in the wormhole. I will definitely be subscribing to your new channel. I love hearing your point of view and the way you deliver information and tell stories keeps me watching till the end. Thanks again for this video 👌
@grinstaspinsta3 жыл бұрын
You are spot on. 👌🏻 The internet has been angry lately, my friend.
@Stumpybear76403 жыл бұрын
Hi Betsy, good to see you. I too have been fairly depressed over the last 3 months. Directly covid related - isolation, constant low level stress, media missinformation. Gardening saw me through. Thanks for highlighting this problem. Love and hugs xxx
@rachaelnugent3 жыл бұрын
I'm not on insta or facebook or any of those things, so it's really just YT and 2 discord channels I'm also very specific with the content i watch -- mostly fitness, building things, and planty stuff. Also being in a foreign country and not having a lot of friends here, the isolation has been a real hit on my mental health. At the height of my lockdown depression i found your and Miro's video's very calming to have playing while i was stuck at home. 👌
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
I'm really glad you benefited from Miro's and my channels. Thanks so much for watching. And I can 100% relate to the isolation even if I've been in France for 10 years. You already feel like an outsider, the inability to socialize at all has been a hard hit. I really hope you start feeling better. Take care. 💚
@amandaramos85333 жыл бұрын
Thanks, Betsy. It's good to talk about this stuff.
@dragonfly_landing13493 жыл бұрын
this video is raw and beautiful!!! i started loving you years ago and will love you always
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Sara. I'm really happy that you enjoy my videos. Take care. 💚
@hollyhasegawa60953 жыл бұрын
Hi Betsy, so good to see you again, and I have to mention that since your surgery you have made an amazing transformation, so different and even more beautiful. I have to agree that this whole pandemic has been a challenge for a lot of people. For me it has been okay I actually finally got my divorce and back to my maiden name that was kind of a nightmare, Now that he is out of my life I am so much happier and calmer, he was so negative and narcissistic that I cried a lot and was sad most of the time. I replaced him with about 165 houseplants, and now have over 265 and I am at a place where I am happy with the ones I have and love taking care of them. I really like Instagram because I follow many planty people and have gotten cuttings from one sweet lady, and I agree that plants are plants and they are not always perfect, but the people who follow me haven't been mean or judgemental. Facebook does have it's issues and the people who are too political I just block or delete, Lol, I have seen some tic tok posts and they do make me laugh, so I might start following that. Thanks again Betsy and so glad that your life is getting better, I know mine is, sending love and hugs, bye for now.
@ashleywright21173 жыл бұрын
went through the same kind of thing with my plants last year, it made me sad to see them slowly dying of spider mites or not being watered and i went from over 100 plants to around 30 now. it's okay to be overwhelmed and scale down esp after what we've all gone through during this panini! your videos always brighten my day and i'm sorry you get mean comments, hope things get better for you
@maribelreyes51513 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing Betsy, I think i can say too I’ve been depressed almost 2 years on 11/5/2019 my father passed away and if it wasn’t for my plants , I don’t know how I would be right now, I have been collecting plants for a long time but last year I made a lot of purchases, my Hoya collection increased a lot!!, I don’t talk about my dad a lot anymore and I try not to cry anymore because all I hear is don’t cry anymore your not let him rest!!!!, but what do i do with all this pain and sadness I have inside ??
@B1gplantmama983 жыл бұрын
i love your sweater💞☺️💞 the plants are stunning too. Keep it up aye. Love your content
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! I'm obsessed with sweaters like this and I look for them constantly online. 😂 I need a friend who knits. Thanks so much for your support. It means a lot.
@B1gplantmama983 жыл бұрын
@@betsybegonia no problem aye. I am very excited for the sweater season as well. I need more for sure.
@ekfrasis76583 жыл бұрын
I loved all your films, and those about surgery moved me very deeply, it seemed you were alone in this situation, I am so sorry about that...glad you feel better now. You really inspire me and what you say makes me feel better when i am sad, you are so real! All the best for you
@msmandy003 жыл бұрын
I love you Betsy Begonia! You always make me feel good. That’s all. xo
@lilianelabellebelton3 жыл бұрын
There is so much toxicity on the internet. I think it DID get worse. BUT! I love you and your content and your personality and the way you shine. So, if you need breaks here and there you do it for yourself. Take care of you. We love you the way you are and we need you to be ok. I hope you’re feeling better. I’m sending hugs and coming from an anxious sensitive person I do understand you
@smuggafree3 жыл бұрын
Betsy I too do not go to facebook. I believe that it allows discord and hate due to what you said, people pick on others because they don't have to face them. Not much into social media at all. I think that you are strong to hang on to all of this. I have followed you for several months, since covid. Putting your life with your operation on film was just incredible. I don't know how you were able to do that. Anyway. I know what you are experiencing since I am a retired therapist. Hang in there, and I know that you will. You have humor and strength.
@stacieforesi54313 жыл бұрын
Thank you. I am so happy to see you are back! I was starting to worry when I did not see a post and it had been almost a month. Not that you can’t take a break… please do whenever you need to… it just this time we are in. It’s like a person that you might pass on the way to work every day, who is out doing their morning walk.. before if you do not see them for a few days you hoped that they were just on vacation and this year you just hope they are not sick in the hospital or to depressed to get out of bed. I love plants and gardening, always have. I can often gage my mental health on how I am tolerating and taking care of my plants. One thing I love about your channel (because your honesty) is that you have a love of all plants and not just the new, rare, popular ones.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
It's exactly like you said. When I go to the gym every day, 6 days a week and suddenly I don't see a guy who's normally there, I think "I hope he's okay. I hope he's on vacation." Meanwhile he has no idea some random person at the gym is thinking about him. 😂 I really appreciate your watching and your support. Thank you so much, Stacie, please take care. 💚
@jaznjaimee3 жыл бұрын
You are not alone!!! Keep on keeping on!!! 👍🏼
@pahderella3 жыл бұрын
I wish people wouldn’t be so mean behind a keyboard.. but it’s also apart of being human, people are not perfect and some people will never change. Please continue to stay positive and delete and block negative comments you do not need any of that.
@zetagundamzz3 жыл бұрын
I had so many of my plants die this last year. I know it was from neglect. I am seeing a therapist and it helps, but I definitely had to let a bunch of my plants go because they were not bringing me joy like they had before.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
It's okay. It happens to a lot of people. And I'm so glad to hear you sought therapy. Good for you!
@martinchada3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for being you, Betsy!
@judyemmerson41423 жыл бұрын
I check daily to see if you have released new content. Your videos make my day. Take good care of you, every thing else is not important.
@valiumsurbanjungle20413 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate to this entire video's content... 😒 Stay strong and safe Betsy. And I'm always there to chat. 💚
@sriku10003 жыл бұрын
About mental health & social media kzbin.info/www/bejne/mmqanoeErcuhY80
@earinvh3 жыл бұрын
Yay!!!! Missed you Betsy!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Aw thank you. I hope you have a wonderful day.
@earinvh3 жыл бұрын
@@betsybegonia I think you're a beautiful wonderful human being. Please don't let sick people make you doubt yourself. People are so mentally disturbed and they all have phones now and can share their negativity freely and easily. You are so cool and funny and it eats at them. I have been bullied my entire life. Nearly all my human relationships have been toxic on some level. It's hard to understand how broken people are when you aren't broken. I'm so sorry you have to see this ugliness, but remember sometimes that's because you choose to shine your light. People that hide and never share never see what creators do. You have to be resilient. I truly believe for creators this is a test. I love and pray for you in a human way and hope this meets you kindly. You have helped me through many dark times myself. Thank you.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
@@earinvh Wow, thank you. You really brought a little tear to my eye. I appreciate you, and thank you. Stay positive. Hugs.
@nadinemoonihoawa28792 жыл бұрын
I love your videos and you seem like such a nice sweet person. I am sorry that there are people out there that have to make themselves feel better by saying mean and hurtful things too you. You give me good ideas on my own planting and you have beautiful plants. Take care and breath🙂🙂🙂🙂
@brianna97343 жыл бұрын
I truly appreciate all that you do, and really enjoy watching your content! You are such a bright light, and I am so thankful that you continue to work to make more content that others are able to relate to and enjoy as well. You always bring a smile to my face when I watch your videos. It cracks me up when you talk to your plants because I do the same exact thing. 😂
@rnk957n83 жыл бұрын
Hi your so right about instagram I agree. Now im not into it as much either. Your looking great and takecare
@jenallen1113 жыл бұрын
I enjoy your videos! Thanks for keeping it real. 2020 was tough and things have continued to be tough. Let’s not pretend otherwise, yep.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Really, it's okay to admit we have had a rough time. No point in pretending we're doing okay when we're not. It makes us feel even more isolated.
@Kati-did3 жыл бұрын
I cannot imagine how hard it must be to put yourself out there and in front of people who could not care less about your feelings or well being. Thank goodness we aren't all trolls. Can't wait to see more. Glad you are finding help and trying to find ways to make you feel better. I know keeping my mind and body busy helps my depression and anxiety allot.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
I'm so truly grateful for you. Thank you.
@prideolea3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this video and the therapy suggestion.
@kimsmith82193 жыл бұрын
Betsy you look amazing!! I am old enough that social media does not faze me. It's often hard to believe how mean and cruel some folks are. I let so much go by and only speak if I have something kind to say.
@adrianagerdsen76023 жыл бұрын
I agree with you 100%!! I think you are very smart , well spoken person !!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Oh it's nice to hear because I always have to edit these videos down. 😂
@guang65753 жыл бұрын
The only reason I'm on Facebook now is because of some local plant buy/sell/trade groups. One of which is a "rare" plant group. I enjoy seeing the everyone get excited and sharing beautiful plants but it's also so frustrating to see plants only being "collected" because they have a status of being "rare". Another group I'm in is more for people beginning to take care of plants. I enjoy the community in this one much more. We had several plant swaps (when the pandemic was easing up a bit, and we were following protocals) where you bring plants, cuttings, supplies to give away for free-but you can also grab things that others are giving away. Many people have connected with other locals to talk about plants and even go plant shopping together!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
I think it really can be wonderful for stuff like plant swaps, etc.
@awkardbutawesome3 жыл бұрын
Hi! 👋 What was that book you mentioned about depression? I would be very interested in reading it. Lots of love ❤️
@angelatatasciore85593 жыл бұрын
Yes I would love to know also! Glad it helped you Betsy 💕
@shanr.94673 жыл бұрын
Betsy I am happy to see you are recovering well mentally as well as physically. I started watching your channel to learn about houseplants but your wit and personality won me over. Stay strong and keep shining bright! 😊 Oh and I love ❤ your channel!
@sharondriver24453 жыл бұрын
Glad you are back! Your honesty is refreshing!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Thank you Sharon. I truly appreciate your watching my video. I hope you have a very pleasant day.
@sharon_rn20663 жыл бұрын
So glad you’re back! 🤩 I agree with you 100% regarding the toxic, negative atmosphere on social media. Instagram is one of the worst but it seems to be spreading rapidly. However it’s not just social media because it also affects people everywhere such as the service industry- like the airlines, stores, restaurants etc. Instead of being grateful that life is attempting to return to “normal”, people are physically, mentally and emotionally attacking people who are just doing their jobs, usually with limited resources, short staffing and all kinds of new regulations! I’ve worked in the mental health field for over 30 years and noticed the increasing selfishness negativity for the past few years but it has totally exploded with COVID. Humans should be working together! Bullies have always hidden behind a keyboard but the venom which comes from so many people is beyond disheartening.🥺 I’m so sorry that you are a target for this and I’m so glad you’re dealing with it in a proactive manner as well as trying to help others. You are a beautiful soul! ❤️
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Let's do our best to focus on the positive and spread negativity. Don't respond to the bad ones. Thanks so much for watching and for your support. Have a wonderful day, Sharon.
@sherrykumar28833 жыл бұрын
Thank you for highlighting this issue Betsy. I believe that it is a bigger problem than many of us are willing to acknowledge. I too left certain social media sites because they did not make me feel good. I am in a much better headspace without them, with feelings of inadequacy, anger, sadness and envy pretty much non existent now. I am happier now than I’ve been in years. Heading over to your second channel now for more great Betsy content 😊
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Sherry. I honestly thought I would get a lot of negative comments when I posted this video. But I realize it was my own anxiety about talking about depression, social media, Internet toxicity, etc. Thank you for showing your support, you have no idea how much it means to me. I hope you have a wonderful day.
@miranda2663 жыл бұрын
Not gonna lie, I have really checked out of being a plant mom lately, and this video is a good reminder of all the things I need to do. Repotting, fertilizing, moving some kids, etc. My mental health took a turn and I have barely been watering them tbh :')
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
I don't mean to step out of line and give you unwanted advice, but please take it easy. Make a list every day of 2 things and just try to get those two things done. And I mean really easy stuff like "check my plants close up" or "water the plants in the one corner of the living room". And literally make a list that you can scratch or check off physically. Two plant tasks are a lot, especially considering everything else there is to do. You are not alone and it's okay. You're gonna do great. Thank you for watching and commenting. I hope you have a wonderful day from the bottom of my heart.
@miranda2663 жыл бұрын
@@betsybegonia Still watching but paused to read this, you are SO sweet! I am a student and decided to enroll in an 8 wk online calculus course for the summer to get the credit out of the way. To say the least, it kicked my butt. I am getting back into the swing of things and will absolutely be making little lists
@amandacountryman80243 жыл бұрын
I couldn't agree with you more! People suck so much more now!!! I'm grateful for you and as someone that's obsession for plants started during this pandemic, I value you and your videos so, so much! Thank you for having skim thick enough to do this! ! ! ! Me and my Hoya's thank you so F*%# everyone else! Much ❤ from Washington state! Now that I finished your video, I'm back to edit my comment... I work in mental health and have done so since before the pandemic. I treat patients with a form of ketamine that greatly reduces depression and suicidal thoughts. All I can say is that this last year has been extremely busy! I know personally how Covid has affected people and it breaks my heart to see. There is hope though. Do whatever you can to reach out. You are worth it. I promise! ❤ humanity
@LarrissaAnderton3 жыл бұрын
Hi, first time watching. You popped into my plant feed for youtube and so glad you did.
@jtovar5183 жыл бұрын
Social media. I quit FB yrs ago & I’m barely on Instagram & Twitter as well. I’m considering deleting them too. Peoples hatful comments, is truly THEIR problem. They’re are living in Toxicity, I have no time for that. I’d miss your videos if you ever stopped filming, so please continue sharing your talent. 💕 Have a great day Betsy!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Thank you. 💚
@nicolemorreau99773 жыл бұрын
What a great video! ❤ you Betsy!
@tasdefeuilles3 жыл бұрын
I used to like tiktok and still do sometimes but now I find that everytime I open it I see something upsetting and up end getting more anxiety from it 😩 or I get unrealistic expectations of what I should look like. I still like Instagram and I just don’t follow the people who make me feel bad about myself. I only use Facebook to be part of my local plant group 😅 never had twitter not visual enough for me. I’m excited to check out your new channel!
@astridekko92293 жыл бұрын
Lets hold hands 😂 Good to see you again 😊 I quit facebook in 2012 because I hated it. Then I quit, and came back a few years ago only for the (plant)groups, trading locally and sharing tips etc. I have no feed and I want no friends there 😅 because I don’t like that part. So now I love it again. I totally agree on instagram, I stopped posting pics of my plants because I felt all this pressure of perfection and likes. I kind of miss the part where I see how much my plants have grown. So maybe I’ll make it a private account and just use it for myself. I will head over to your other channel now 😊 have a great day 🌿
@wingspanbig3 жыл бұрын
You're looking great, Betsy. You seem in better spirits as well. I left Facebook 4 months ago. It took some weaning over the last year. Weird to say that but it was an addiction. I agree though, the toxicity has skyrocketed. So now it's KZbin and tictok. Trying real hard to limit my time on both. I love your content. Thank you for existing. I definitely experienced houseplant burnout. I gave away a lot. Don't regret it at all.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
I'm so relieved to hear someone tell me I seem in better spirits. I was really worried that my calm demeanor and the subject of this video would make people say the opposite. What a relief, because I truly am in better spirits. And it's also a relief to find that someone agrees with me in this regard. Please take care, protect yourself, and have a wonderful day.
@blooperthesquid82153 жыл бұрын
I know I'm a week late for this video, and I haven't even finished it yet, but my syngoniums had a bad case of thrips and they laughed at everything I tried and kept coming back. I tried an organic spinosad based pesticide called Captain Jack's Deadbug spray, and it worked after a couple treatments and it's been over a month and I haven't seen any of those pesky thrips come back, and my syngoniums have been putting out new growth, figured I'd give my 2 cents, good luck! 💚
@VickyHafler3 жыл бұрын
I love how you talk to your plants 🪴 I do this too (only when my family are out of the house 😂😂😂😂😂) Thanks for the video… you’ve been missed 😊 This video was uplifting for me and so needed.
@sriku10003 жыл бұрын
About mental health and social media kzbin.info/www/bejne/mmqanoeErcuhY80
@KittenCece2 жыл бұрын
You are such a gem 💎 Betsy, I adore you
@adamhummel32773 жыл бұрын
Love this video but especially… this sweater lol, it’s so cute and looks comfy too
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
It's my favorite summer sweater. 😍
@sairahsanchez18693 жыл бұрын
Great Video! Also just wanted to point out how good your staghorn ferns are looking!
@donnasmalley37133 жыл бұрын
Thanks for trying to help people! The plants look gorgeous and the post surgery look is perfect!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
That is so kind, thank you very much.
@sarahdoyle17283 жыл бұрын
Great one, thank you!
@oliveheadwhoa3 жыл бұрын
This was a great video! I'm going through a bit of a rough patch and also don't have the energy to give as much love into my plants as I'd like. I recently had a birthday and my sweet bf bought me multiple gorgeous, unique plants that I'd never had before....and all I could feel was overwhelmed. I really want them to stay beautiful because I appreciate him so much, but I'm so worried I'll kill them 😔 We all just have to take things one day at a time and try not to put so much pressure on ourselves
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Hey, thank you so much for sharing your experience. You know what? It's okay and everything is going to be okay. You are doing your best with respect to whatever you may be facing outside of plant care. Take care of yourself, above all. You are the most important thing. Please give yourself a hug from me. Have a good day.
@LukeAntunes3 жыл бұрын
Also, excited to check out the other channel!!
@izabark73983 жыл бұрын
Welcome back! I'm looking forward to watch the upcoming videos from the new you! What does your cats scratch on now since you got ridd of the cat tower?
@kathywilliamson94443 жыл бұрын
I absolutely feel the toxicity is out of control, COVID made it worse and I am willing to admit I was getting more toxic. I stepped away and feel better. I swim laps and getting back to the pool was a godsend. The first day back smelling the chlorine, I cried. Self care is important and than is for talking about it.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
I'm glad to hear you got back to what makes you happy.
@janetshepherd90623 жыл бұрын
I love the whole idea of kindness. But there are those that love to thwart that. When you let them get to you, they win. You have such a great sense of humor. I think you should come up with a good, kind, response to those folks.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
In my experience there is never a fulfilling response to intentionally negative comments besides removing them so that nobody else has to be subjected yo them. Thank you for watching, Janet. 💚
@janetshepherd90623 жыл бұрын
@@betsybegonia I meant something like, hope your day gets better.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
@@janetshepherd9062 Yes of course, that's the best thing to do. As my mom always said "kill them with kindness." I do try to be as kind as possible these days since responding negatively doesn't make me feel any better at all. But what I really want to do is send everyone this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pHXNpoqcdslqZqs
@verdigrisdreams18733 жыл бұрын
@@betsybegonia It’s a great link 🥰
@sierra7343 жыл бұрын
Thank you !
@JTOwens893 жыл бұрын
I don't use any social media, unless you count KZbin, and I never will. It's a cesspool of the worst humanity has to offer. On the topic of being the caretaker of a jungle and falling into a depression, I fully understand that and it's happened to me several times over the years. I just try to do the bare minimum and if I lose some plants before I overcome what I'm going through, so be it. It sucks and it can contribute to negative feelings you have about yourself but you've gotta cut yourself some slack. They're just plants, and in the future I know to stop buying so much so I'm not getting overwhelmed. Most of the time plants keep me from sliding into a depression though, so I'm certainly not giving it up! 😅
@peachettte3 жыл бұрын
You are so lovely and relatable! I think this hit you super hard because you had a vulnerable experience you shared publicly during this shit season. I'm sorry you got so many toxic comments, but please know that whoever is able to write that out, should never be taken seriously because they are an absolutely horrid person. I know this doesn't help it, but it's true about them. I'm happy for your surgery and breathing :D my grandma has peripheral neuropathy from chemo and I know how much that sucks. Sending you tons of love from Croatia ❤️
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Iva. Your comment means a lot to me. It was actually weirdly frightening to share this video and I appreciate that you saw that. I hope you have a good day. Take care.
@adeanaargle57393 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this video 💚
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
And thank you so much for watching and commenting. It means a lot to me.
@Regina_RockBudgets3 жыл бұрын
Oh my! I wish we were close enough for me to give you a huge hug!! 🥰
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Regina, for the sentiment. It honestly means the world to me.
@avaf10843 жыл бұрын
Great video. Very open and honest. 2020 sucked for everyone. 2021 not much better. Let's hope 2022 will allow us to live once again. To hell with the haters!!! Thank you, Betsy.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
We will get to a better place again!!!
@ItsLiam6373 жыл бұрын
You’re so funny, happy I found your channel! Just recently got into plants ❣️
@michaeljohnhalse3 жыл бұрын
I feel the same, about so much of this video. My KZbin channel is (slowly) gaining followers, I'm on a break right now because I'm moving, but whenever I post videos outside of plant-related ones, no one watches them, AND I GET IT, YOU CAME TO WATCH MY PLANT VIDS, but I also like books! And board games! And there's more to me than the plants I'm killing. I need to do better with my Instagram, I hate Instagram, but I'm on it for my board game business, so... it's there, but its SO fake. And it's the same with Facebook. I have a page I need update, and I don't even go on my Facebook Feed anymore. I've been using it to sell furniture we're getting rid of in the move, but that's like it... I've taken a step back from it all, but also like... I think I need to force myself into being more active on those platforms, because I have a tendency to just, *Ooops, I've been alone for a long time.* And that shit ain't healthy. Anyway... life's weird man.
@amberpixie85503 жыл бұрын
Beautiful person you are Betsy inside and out xx I'm a mum of 2 n got diagnosed with adhd Monday n it's caused me alot of rollercoaster of feelings .. went very obsessive with plants last Yr n came close to selling them all urgh hope I can get fixated on them again soon.. bugs are swamping them too I cba .. how do you deal with lack of motivation with plants if you get that ? Xx
@WilnaWanderlust3 жыл бұрын
I have been waiting for this cheerful and energetics video from you for quit long 🥳🥳🥳
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Aw thank you so much. It means a lot that you said that. I hope you have a wonderful day.
@deborah2693 жыл бұрын
May I ask what book you read that helped?
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
I didn't suggest it since it's only available in French and not English. It's called Dépression, Comment En Sortir (Dépression, How to Get Out of It) by Christine Mirabel-Sarron. However at the moment I'm reading The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk and it's very hard to put down. Super fascinating and highly recommended book.
@stevenmarriner96193 жыл бұрын
You are looking FABULOUS Betsy, xxx
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Steve. That's so kind and really what I need to hear right now, at the risk of seeming narcissistic. I hope you have a good day.
@Rayxster3 жыл бұрын
Getting some Bob Ross vibes with the calmness in this video 😆
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
I laughed so hard. I wish I were more like Bob Ross on a daily basis.
@diane40743 жыл бұрын
So here’s a comment for you, your were gorgeous before the surgery.. now you still gorgeous but with a perfect nose. You do you, sometimes I think fruit loops get off on leaving those negative comments
@LukeAntunes3 жыл бұрын
“Jazz cigarettes” 😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@hobbithabits3 жыл бұрын
Your nose is looking so good! I hope your leg is feeling better too! You got me into fuzzy begonias recently, but ive killed them all. Oops.
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
Begonias take a lot of practice. Even mine are not doing as well as I would like. I thought they had the perfect amount of light. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL
@gennyjustdownthelane89673 жыл бұрын
I always love all your content! What happened to your hand? I need to catch up on videos!
@betsybegonia3 жыл бұрын
It was just from the potting mix in the bucket. It looks really weird on camera for some reason.