Reunion: Chinese Adoptee Finds Her Birth Family | Adoption Story

[@chennabay]

TIME STAMPS 00:00-00:40 Intro 00:40-01:35 Background story 01:35-03:20 From the Netherlands to China 03:20-08:25 The search: my time in China 08:25-11:25 Unexpected news 11:25-12:58 Preparation day 12:58-14:30 The reunion 14:30-16:48: Reflection 16:48-17:09 Outro

[@GraceandYJ]

I sobbed while watching this, I am SO happy for you! I am American Born Chinese and growing up, I also felt a huge piece missing from my life because I grew up in a small suburban town where there were barely any Chinese people. I grew up rejecting my Chinese heritage because I was bullied for being Chinese. I never saw China as a second home for me because I had very few memories there. It all changed when I went on my first real trip to my family's hometown in China at 24 years old. That trip made me see China as a second home, just like your trip did for you. I learned so much about my family that I never knew before because my family is pretty avoidant when it comes to talking about their past, since it's filled with traumatic events like starvation, illness, premature death, and a harrowing journey to America. I felt like a new chapter opened for me, just like for you. Now, I moved from the US to China and am on a journey with my partner to build a heritage seeking travel company that aims to reconnect overseas Chinese with their roots through root seeking trips to China. This story is a perfect example of the power of root seeking trips!

[@chennabay]

Hey Grace, thank you so much for your comment and sharing your story. I'm happy to hear that you made that trip to your family's hometown and could finally connect with your Chinese roots. I think there are many more who are on the same path and struggle to find a connection. It's inspiring to hear that you found that connection and are now helping others to find it! I wish you and your company good luck 💖💖.

[@leslietung1148]

Hi Grace ! Where can I contact you please? I am Chinese and would love to find my heritage in China 🙏🤞

[@joankline343]

Congratulations! I'm glad that you were able to find your family. Also thankful that you were adopted into a great home. Thanks for sharing!

[@志瑜杨]

I’m also an adoptee and I’m so glad for you ❤ I’m glad you have the support you need to process this.

[@SophiaTseng-ok1wk]

So glad you turned out so fine, so respectful, so full of positivity. You are an inspiration.

[@chennabay]

Thank you Sophia!

[@kimwoodhouse7891]

Thank you for sharing your story. The video is beautifully done and respectful to everyone involved. Best wishes for a positive path forward. 🙏

[@chennabay]

Thank you so much Kim! 💓

[@faithstar7454]

I'm a mama who adopted our daughters and also had a child by birth. I am just so happy for you that you have been able to find your birth family and can now have so many more people who love you in your life. I imagine that your adoptive parents are very excited for you. I think it's impossible to truly love someone and not want that person to be surrounded by love. Love- true love can never be selfish or self focused so for me I pray every day that my daughter born in China and adopted by us can have the same fortune as you have. We love her so much- we have been so blessed to have her a part of our lives and I want her birth family to have the chance to reunite with her and experience that love. And I want our daughter to feel all of that love too. It is my dream and I hope it happens one day soon. As for you- thank you for sharing this wonderful journey and isn't it amazing what has happened! It is only going to get better and better. I'm so happy you will go back to China. Embrace your Chinese family- you both have alot of lost time to make up for!

[@chennabay]

Thank you so much for your kind comment and sharing your story. Yes, my adoptive parents have always been very supportive of me and they were super happy when they heard about the reunion. They argue that love can be shared. You can have 2 sets of parents. Finding my Chinese parents will change nothing, they are still the ones who raised me. I wish you and your family all the best. I hope that your daugther one day will find her biological parents too. Sending you much love!

[@CatGrace66]

What a blessing to find you have more relatives. The way they welcomed you so warmly shows their character. Thanks for sharing your story. It is a beautiful reminder not to give up because the world works in truly magical ways sometimes.

[@dennisreeve8859]

What a wonderful life you have had! Miracle upon miracle! Thank you for sharing your story and allowing me to be so moved! It speaks well for ALL your family! May God further bless your honest needs!

[@emxjjk]

As an adoptee (from Changsha) very excited for you!! Congratulations ❤❤

[@RickyVang-ql9zz]

awesome girl proud of you ❤

[@ctgctg1]

Wow, so amazing. I am the adoptive mom of two daughters from China and one biological daughter. I am happy for you. I wish you all the best.❤

[@nick_at_nite]

Gefeliciteerd!! Erg leuk voor jou en je familie! Echt een leuk verhaal en bedankt voor het delen. Ik wens je veel geluk in de toekomst. Groetjes uit Los Angeles..🥂

[@chennabay]

Dankjewel Nick! 🙏🏽

[@tims4777]

I am so happy for you and I hope this gets a million views. 😃

[@chennabay]

That's so nice of you to say haha, thank you! ☺️

[@nicoleyee2331]

Congrats! I’m amazed you were able to connect with the orphanage, your foster family, and even the people who found you. How did you find the tour guide and get connected to everyone? I’m so happy for you and your family for this discovery, what an incredible trip ❤

[@kimberley6482]

Wow, thank you for sharing this special moment. I can't imagine how life changing this is for you. I am happy to hear you finally found them, you deserve it!❣

[@emilygarriott5165]

As a Chinese-American Adoptee I’m so happy for you and your biological family. God works in mysterious ways. I hope this day will happen for me too❤ God Bless.

[@chennabay]

@@emilygarriott5165 ❤️❤️❤️

[@angeliquemolgr26]

Wat mooi! I hope you will have a great relationship with them.

[@spudgn]

Bless both of your families. Thanks for sharing.

[@dominiqueparisi4618]

Wow what an amazing experience,your very brave but in the end of the day you are Dutch and your adoption parents are the one who grew you up . The same time your biological parents it’s good to get to know them and we’re your roots come from ,I would love to see your parent and siblings although I only saw one god bless

[@chennabay]

Thanks! True, that are still my parents and will always be! Just like I'll always be their daughter. Nothing will and can change that.

[@johnblake3863]

I am very happy for you. How exciting to have new siblings! Remember, we are all brothers and sisters.

[@yaboynielsman]

Congratulations! I cant imagine what you were feeling in those moments

[@lisawhite99]

So very happy for you. Two moms two dads. And also a brother and sisters.

[@Imposante-g8u]

Im so happy for you and family, 加油❤❤❤

[@chennabay]

Thank you! ❤️

[@pamwilliams6630]

Wonderful story. We adopted while living in China. My daughters birth mom found us when my daughter was 7 years old. She had lived with us since birth for we found her by our gate and got her surgery. I feel it was a divine moment, meeting her and her other children etc!!! Thanks for sharing your experience with us.

[@lilgeorge34]

Every child should be allowed to know who their birth family are. I am so pleased that you found your birth parents and family.

[@JacquelineBarnes-u5y]

You forget the adaptive family

[@lilgeorge34]

@@JacquelineBarnes-u5y I'm sure they have been told and agreed to her finding her birth family. I would hate to go through life not knowing where I came from.

[@chennabay]

You can read my video description!

[@mikaylaedeen4305]

This is amazing! I’m going back to China in December to find my family!!!! I’m also flying into Hong Kong!

[@herstorylives7405]

Praying that your story will have a happy beginning, as well.

[@mikaylaedeen4305]

@ thank you❤️❤️❤️

[@chennabay]

Wow, that's exciting! I wish you good luck!! 🥰

[@Jordan-ws6jy]

So happy for you! Many blessings to you and your family going forward 🙏

[@runningwater7873]

Everyone needs closure and you yourself has learned to forgive and move on. Working thru forgiveness is everything and yes you are an exceptional strong human being. Stay blessed and live in the present moment. Your family's imprint is always with you .

[@Sunrays256]

Wonderful story. Congratulations, so awesome that you found your birth family ❤ Very special story

[@chennabay]

Thank you so much!❤️

[@ivykaneshiro7554]

CONGRATULATIONS 🥰🥰🥰. I’m so happy happy for your completion of your wondering life. Here on you live life with happiness and full of many love for your two families and your partner. Is he your husband?????? He did a tremendous job supporting you through this journey. You were born LUCKY ❤❤❤

[@chennabay]

Thank you so much!! Soon to be husband haha 😉, yes he did a great job!

[@reneedoiron7560]

I really enjoyed your video- what a beautiful story! Thanks for sharing.

[@chennabay]

@@reneedoiron7560 thank you Renee!

[@mingluvsmusic]

This gives me hope as a Chinese adoptee searching since 2011. ❤ big congratulations on your reunion and hoping everything pans out!❤

[@chennabay]

@@mingluvsmusic Hi Ming, thank you so much. Don't give up hope, you never know what might happen! I wish you best of luck! ❤️

[@Rubianooo99]

You really captured your emotions well! Great video!🎉

[@johnanderson8096]

Beautifully Done... Thank you for Sharing!!! ✌✌🌍🌎🌏✌✌...........

[@chennabay]

Thank you John. I'm glad you enjoyed it! 😊

[@tgreathouse1964]

While our adoptions are totally different, I found my birth family at age 34. Your story was inspiring.

[@dorothyforrester]

What an amazing story!! You are blessed to have found your family!!

[@baalah7]

*Thank-you for Sharing* 🙏 *Nowadays many leave and disrespect their Parents/ Family / Roots & there are few who sacrifice everything to get back to Origins* ✨️

[@neleven4154]

So amazing to get the whole family back.

[@joannewynn4431]

I am adopted too. I loved hearing your story and seeing you find your birth family. I am so happy for you. God bless you and both your families!💕

[@chennabay]

@@joannewynn4431 Thank you Joanne for your sweet comment! I wish you and your family the best as well 🥰

[@LydiaColdgem]

Very beautiful video Chenna, i'm really happy you got to reconnect with your bio family

[@chennabay]

Thanks Lydia ❤️!

[@herbross4498]

Awesome! Gratifying Continue being thankful.

[@OdileAstrid]

I'm happy for you!

[@EmeldaLawson-x8i]

Wow amazing story❤

[@floor8787]

Strongest woman I've ever met ❤

[@Candid_Dynasty]

Congratulations love from India

[@tessamineur919]

Such a beautiful and hopeful story ❤

[@chennabay]

Thank you Tessa ❤

[@garycody1929]

Touching video. Thank you so much.

[@MaryJones-l5b]

Wonderful outcome. :)

[@gweisa899]

Thank you sharing what you have share. I am glad you found them. I am searching too not have luck finding my birth family yet from China. I am 25 years old. I am still searching.

[@Jaythecook]

Best of luck, never give up😊😊

[@gweisa899]

@@Jaythecook Thank you

[@Blueblackberry-ex2xc]

Pls don't stop searching. Keep searching until you find your biological parents. One day for sure you Will find them. Good luck.

[@gweisa899]

@ Thank you!

[@HannekevanDreumel]

Fijn voor je en ook zo mooi gefilmd.❤ lieve vrien ook.

[@chennabay]

Dankjewel Hanneke ❤️

[@springbreeze71]

I am Native American from US, and was taken and given to a white family "Sixties Scoop". I love your story, the piece that is missing is our CULTURE, people, and language. I have suffered my whole life bc of being ADOPTED, bc of the law of Assimilation in US. We are still who we were born.

[@chennabay]

Thanks for your comment and sharing your story. Beautifully said at the end, couldn't agree more.

[@JacquelineBarnes-u5y]

It's OK for a white family to love you but you are dismissing them for you culture....you can learn about your culture at anytime...l find you ungrateful

[@cyndeelou-i1e]

Our government in America is evil ..They also sterilized Native American women ..They also did a study on 600 impoverished black men called the tuskegee study ..Lot of these men had syphilis and they told them they get free medical..They never informed them of the diagnosis cause they wanted to see what the long term affects would be when they could had treated them with penicillin..

[@vperera2153]

Your adopted parents have given you " life!" What more could you ask ?

[@missy183]

Congratulations, God bless you. 😇❤

[@jessicashlager7193]

As a fellow adoptee, I can totally relate to your feelings. I also had a chance to meet some of my biological family and completely understand the overwhelming feelings of joy and apprehension etc all at once. Thank you for sharing part of your story.

[@nildaeslay3745]

Im happy your reunited with your bioligical family❤

[@muslimaashur96]

Happy for you ❤

[@johnhimal5913]

What a touching story...........❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@debbiecooper1677]

good for you blessing you and your fmily many happy times. from charlston SC. U.S,A

[@Suuuupbro]

Hi I’m very happy to see this story it on the story that Caught my eye and also has the Same life story…. And I’m From Boston

[@SandraChun-e5i]

I enjoyed watching this , did you learn Mandarin growing up? Best of wishes in your future!!!

[@riekske]

Geweldig voor je!👌

[@TTam-qk3ex]

Very happy for you .

[@archanakrishnaprium6166]

Godbless you All ❤❤🎉🎉stay blessed 🙌

[@cashbadger3209]

This is a happy but also sad story at the same time

[@jialinchen1501]

congratulations!!!

[@chennabay]

Thank you!! 😊❤

[@eliku163]

I found the adress of my birthmother when i was 20, i First Met her when i was 25. we adoptees need more time to Process things 🙈 I am happy for you, that you had the Chance to meet them❤️greetings from Austria

[@chennabay]

Wow, must have been a life-changing moment as well. Yes, when things like this happen it takes time. But as they say, great things take time haha 😉.

[@eliku163]

@ yes it was and i am very greatful for it🙏🏼

[@graysonedwards8875]

Tears, AND LOTS OF THEM

[@idi0t2]

I've beeb trying to find out about my ancestor's bloodline. All i know is where his tomb located. Some Chinese people told me it will be difficult to track it because of his position in society at that time. Actually, there is a Wikipedia entry about him. He's from a small village south of Huanggang who live during Ming Dynasty era.

[@lipoklkr5837]

There is no doubt about your family your little sister is exactly same as you only the difference is a little darker and little snow

[@jialinchen1501]

your boyfriend is very handsome

[@chennabay]

Haha, I agree 😊😉

[@eliku163]

❤

[@sbmedex3421]

Well, the story is nice but i doubt it brings joy to the adoptive parents...i can just imagine how they feel-- a sense of unintended rejection??? Adoptions are never simple and there is always pain for someone..

[@chennabay]

Good question. Just to clarify: They 100% support me and were super thrilled when they heard about my reunion. They believe that love can be shared and they know I will always be their daughter and will always love them. This reunion did not change their or my feelings towards on another.

[@petruspaningo2582]

I remember my parent, they are past away..😢

[@KakaLex-ye9fn]

Kamu masih kecil sangat imut dan cantik seperti boneka dan aku banyak tonton anak adopsi china karena sangat imut salah satu audri si bayi kembar dan kati

[@wendelclark6284]

一声叹息！i may visit huanggan sometime next year.i know people there very well

[@marywalker2896]

Sorry but any parent that abandoned me to be found are not worthy parents..I am an adopted child and so glad I was adopted at the age of five..but I am glad they made u happy..

[@DannySlay]

🥲🥲🥲

[@twingytwango6971]

I one worked with an adoptee from Korea. She wanted absolutely nothing to do with the culture or the country. She was learning Japanese and wanted to know everything about Japan......But not from Korea. I think her separation pain never healed.

[@doriswaddington2418]

Do you know what your dialect group is? 祖籍是什么？

[@esther-4345]

🥹❤️🫶

[@yogaforeverybodywiththeord9936]

I am confused that they had 3 other children - did they abandon them as well ?

[@twingytwango6971]

There used to be an adoptee from Korea who was a KZbinr, don't know if she still is. She actually went back to Korea and lived and worked there for a while. She found her family and found out she was an identical twin but they gave her away. Apparently her Korean uncle was the one who made the decision when she was born, saying she didn't look like she had good genetic qualities and so her parents just kept the other twin. The sad thing was, she and her twin didn't hit it off at all......and whilst her birth mom welcomed her into the family, the other family members, even her father was so distant. It was such a difficult situation for her because she didn't get on with her adoptive parents either.

[@adamm3163]

Im happy for you good for you cant have been easy

[@klaasvaak1185]

Beetje anticlimax qua ontmoeting met je familie op beeld, maar goed ik ben ook nederlander en die klagen altijd zoals je weet. 😅 veel plezier en succes met jouw verdere leven. 🙏🏻

[@theresafox4367]

Were any other siblings adopted out or just you ?

[@LehiBoy]

Excellent video! Well done. Curious if the DNA test used (seemingly a paternity test through the police data base) matched you to both of your birth parents? If it matched to only one you will want to retest them when you go back with 23andMe or similar just to confirm. The police DNA test is not highly reliable.

[@ellenbalgley9985]

❤ why u care about them !!! They didn't care about you . Your parents are the ones that took care of you !!! ❤ they should've been looking for you the way you look for them you found them they didn't really care all these years . Your parents are the ones that brought you up not them they not even family just people who give you a nice meal !!! They had this time to look for You !!! It's always like that always a child looking for the parent your parents are the ones that gave you everything you needed all these years !!! ♥️😔☹️

[@mikaylaedeen4305]

I think it’s cruel to say they didn’t care about her. You don’t know the families circumstances. Maybe they were looking for her. They also have very limited information about what happened to her. She can love her adoptive and biological family. To want to know where you’re from is not wrong.

[@ellenbalgley9985]

@ she shouldn't be looking for a family and she has a lot of lovely family where she's living she hasn't need them so don't say say it's not nice it's not nice what she's doing to a family now if I was her mother the real mother that she was adopted from I wouldn't like it that she would travel to look for a mother who only gave birth to her and she's crying over it boo-hoo

[@chennabay]

Couldn't agree more Mika! It's always easier to blindly assume things without knowing the real story.

[@tzejinchin3409]

Why does she need to say the “f - -k” word so many times?

[@kayethiel9912]

Totally unnecessary to swear 😢

[@yogaforeverybodywiththeord9936]

⁠Yes the swearing does detract from the story

[@alexhart7125]

Give her a break, she’s not reading the news on TV, FFS!

[@susanzink3086]

It “HER” story- to tell as she see’s fit!

[@javierfromthegggnetwork9657]

Calm down

[@fawziaanker]

Take the metroe....😂...Subway...

[@chennabay]

😂😭

[@annaglynn7314]

Why have you to use bad language ,it's not nice , and you expect people to watch your blogs, and also it's not very ladylike , A,G,

[@kimberley6482]

If it bothers you that much then don't watch 😂

[@vperera2153]

Agree. Would have been better without those words...

[@Amtcboy]

Maybe start with no cursing. Don’t make it part of normal conversation.

[@SelenaKnight-n7h]

Zakly! It's not cute.

[@kimberley6482]

It's her video, she can say what she wants 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Amtcboy]

@ Enabler

[@esther-4345]

Luckily not everybody is so easily offended by a few curse words😊

[@vperera2153]

​@@kimberley6482since we watch it , we can have a say on it. There can be an audience which finds it disturbing.

[@Marlyn-ql9qc]

Please refrain from saying"what a fuck" because it is a very disturbing word and you have young audience.

[@lars277]

When you cuss in English it is funny and cute. Like WTF. You should know the F word is not acceptable in the media and in regular American conversation. It is ok if you feel comfortable with your company, but not good in front of regular people, esp. children

[@chennabay]

First of all, I am not American, I am Dutch 😉. Here, using that word has a total different connotation. Second of all, saying 5 times the F word in a 17 minute video does not violate the KZbin regulations. This video does not "belong" to American media. Third of all, it's my own video and I have to freedom to say what I want. I only say it to emphasize how unbelievable every felt. It's my raw reaction/emotion. Meaning: it's not scripted. Fourth of all, I have no viewers under 18 years old. The video is specifically not recommended to children below 18. I hope I made myself clear 🙏🏽

[@twingytwango6971]

I cannot believe your parents actually left you outside on an open field!!! They put you out like a kitten no one wanted. They put you out and went on with their lives, how could they look you in the eyes? They never even tried to put right their actions and search for you.

[@ometofu]

I don’t know. Sister doesn’t look like you

[@Tjalie-j6i]

You know the reason.

[@Tjalie-j6i]

Nederlander ?

[@vickymoungam686]

WHY THOSE ADOPTIONS? I CAN JUST RAISE MY BROTHER OR MY SISTER’S CHILD OR MY COUSIN’S.

[@Travelguy1]

Sad what communism does to a country.

[@dewiisdewi8040]

She had 26 years to learn the language. And yet she didn't want to learn.

[@lw4423]

good for her and all that but i think the guy can do better than this unless he's super spazzed up