Revamp Your Style: Top 10 Tips to Avoid Frumpiness Over 45

[@robinspencer9611]

WOW! Being clean and wearing a smile is always appreciated ! All the rest is superficial !!!

[@brandywalkenten9085]

Take what works for you and leave the rest behind. Like the pms

[@twelvesmylimit]

@@brandywalkenten9085 Why are defending Lisa so hard in the comments? She doesn't care about you.

[@Anna-vz5tn]

Dear Lisa, I have been a subscriber for several years and I always felt you came across as a kind, empathetic and mature woman. The way the woman in the elevator was described and dissected was not with the maturity of a 50 year old woman who would have a mature perspective. It was not kind. Nor was it empathetic. It was tactless and it made me disappointed in the lack of kindness. I was once a single mother juggling a couple of jobs. I painted my nails to make an effort. I lacked the time and energy to always look 100% polished. If I had the inkling that people judged me this way, I would have been devestated. Not to mention that some people can only afford used purses or shoes, especially in this financial climate. I would ask of you Lisa for some perspective and true empathy towards others. We all deserve this little from strangers who don't know us.

[@brandywalkenten9085]

Ridiculous.

[@Pi2.718]

50 years old? . .. God, I didn’t know. Lisa looks very good, but I thought a very well and nicely done 70 year old, rather …

[@radbaby3]

​@Pi2.718 seriously?

[@polynesia8733]

Anna, your statement is very judgey. .. this is a style channel so I don't see lack of empathy just good advice. Don't wear any nail polish if you don't have time to take it off when it chips. People should look somewhat presentable. It is called good manners. It shows you are here to fight another day. Be courageous and live. Don't check out of life. Not about money but shows you are engaged in life

[@julibooth7640]

“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way that she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It's the caring that she lovingly gives and the passion that she shows. And the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.” ~~~Audrey Hepburn

[@brandywalkenten9085]

@@adlka3127 what’s your problem

[@PrimalBelle]

I love Audrey Hepburn. She was incredibly stylish. She's a style icon because her outer appearance matched her inner beauty.

[@polynesia8733]

Audrey also wore Givenchy and Christian Dior. So don't be so judging

[@jujuhowell4594]

About the lady in the elevator, why judge maybe that’s all she has you don’t know her story. I’m surprised you didn’t follow her to the parking lot to she what kinda of car she drove. You should count your blessing and not judge others and remember where you came from.

[@brigitte8040]

When you talked about the woman in the elevator, I was ashamed of you. I hope never to meet you in the elevator and be looked down upon like that.

[@katem6861]

That’s a little harsh considering Lisa is very open and honest with us and most people are not. I think she felt compassion for the lady because she appeared unhappy

[@allisonwatson1690]

Exactly. You obviously made this video with good intentions, as a fashion lover, for other fashion lovers. If YOU left the house looking like the women you described negatively, YOU would feel “sad” or like “something is wrong”. But to insinuate that THEY feel that way because they look frumpy (in your opinion) …that’s just projecting your own feelings onto them. They may not care, they may be completely happy, they may have just been in a rush that day, they may have different priorities from you…the pity isn’t necessary. But again, I’m a long time subscriber and I know you have good intentions…just wish you would have left the photos/descriptions of other women out of this. Makes it feel a little icky.

[@angeltrumpet4035]

@@katem6861 Lisa open and honest??? That’s hilarious!!!

[@gingerandnemo]

@@angeltrumpet4035 wow! Why even watch her videos if you feel that way? And what exactly do you feel she has not been honest about?

[@gingerandnemo]

@@allisonwatson1690 I see what you're saying but let's be honest, every one judges everyone. Lisa is just being honest about her feelings and I respect her 100% like you said the woman she mentioned may not care, but we are all still going to form our own opinions, right or wrong. It's just human nature.

[@mohegangirlfreeman9238]

I hope no one judged me before I got out of living paycheck to paycheck.

[@kcmarie3774]

I'm a stay at home mom on a tight budget and the thrift store is my best friend!

[@FlyWon]

@@kcmarie3774 same here!

[@EH-MiM]

I always keep in mind especially clientele like victims of domestic violence, homeless populations, less fortunate, etc that what they have on may be all they have to their name. So I don’t see them for what they are wearing I see them for the beautiful person that they are. Unfortunately we can’t all be as fortunate as others. God looks at the heart not the outer person. I know your channel is style and by no means am I judging you. I am just saying you never know where that other person is coming from. Acceptance and a smile can go a long way. Feeling someone cares and values them may just save a life. Or at least give them a glimmer of hope to keep going to empower themselves for something greater in life.

[@victoria.galvin]

I have loved & admired you for a long time, but the way you talked about the woman in that elevator felt...hurtful. I don't know. I truly hope no one ever judges me in that way. I'm all for dressing my best, but life is life. You never know what someone else could be going through. ❤❤

[@wackywardwoman]

YES!!! Her comments about the elevator lady is why so many ladies that have social anxiety and feel everyone is judging them about being ugly or not being able to dress nice. This video in no way helps anyone…period. It’s just out right judgemental!

[@amymharmon]

My heart is broken i would never judge another woman’s nails or clothes or shoes

[@livelovely4681]

Not to be rude, but what the eyes see is what the eyes see. We judge people all day everyday it's how we protect ourselves. It's how we scope out a scene without interacting with it.

[@gingerandnemo]

@@livelovely4681 exactly

[@-Angela-T]

I couldn’t agree more. 😔

[@eliza7557]

Wow... Blown away by the callous judgment you made towards this woman. I'm honestly tired of people like you who are overly judgemental and critical of others. It's sad that there are people who do this... Please look in your heart and find more compassion for people. You honestly do not know what they go through to simply point and judge them when you have no clue who they are or what's going on with them.

[@yeahweburnstuff]

Why are you here then?

[@angelpace4616]

If you say that you care about helping other women be their best and then act so judgmental about their appearance, it does not seem like the nicest or classiest way to act. I am truly disappointed in the way that you spoke about other women in this video, so I hope that you will acknowledge that it was wrong and learn a valuable lesson from this mistake. I always watch all of your videos and I do not want to believe that you would intentionally look down on other people, to make yourself feel superior.

[@DayByDay48]

How do you know what other women have going on their lives for you to judge them like that? Depression, illness, maybe her elderly parent is sick and she cares for them. Not everyone walks in YOUR shoes.

[@brandywalkenten9085]

My father is terminal. Right now isn’t my best because I’m exhausted. I found the video extremely helpful. I don’t feel any kind of judgement at all from Lisa. I liked the video and found it very helpful. It seems that you are over emotional

[@ThePrincessnady1]

@@brandywalkenten9085 You’re not well, Brandy. Try to take it easy.

[@michelea.4835]

The evaluation of the woman on the elevator broke my heart. To assume that the only valid reason for not dressing/grooming as you see fit is because someone doesn't feel well is to assume that we all have the same value system - we do not. Perhaps she just does not care about clothing and prefers to put her time and energy into helping homeless people, serving orphaned children, or helping widows. Perhaps her value system has her wanting to make meaningful changes in the world rather than worry about her clothes. I'm not sure as many people care about being 'stylish' as influencers think.

[@amymharmon]

Lisa I have followed your from the very beginning but this video is so disappointing judging women. The way you spoke about that woman’s flip flops was appalling “ I just don’t want you to look like that”. Who cares if she had purple toe nail polish and her nails were long. You need to humble yourself honestly Lisa. Lisa not every person can afford what you can you come across every judgemental and everything is your opinion/style. We all have different styles that’s what makes the world go around not everyone will agree what “the perfect floral” is. Ladies don’t wear a giraffe shirt around Lisa you’ll be judged bc it’s not current. This isn’t a video about not dressing frumpy it’s about dressing the way you think we should in your style. “Don’t be too” this or that. Unbelievable.

[@gingerandnemo]

Sounds a little judgmental...no?

[@amymharmon]

@@gingerandnemo yes exactly what she said

[@gingerandnemo]

@@amymharmon completely judgemental. If you didn't like the video don't watch her channel.

[@mariavillosa4645]

We need that Come on! Lisa is great in explaining facts No sugar coat

[@deborahparker7227]

Lisa, why were you so judgmental of that woman in the elevator? You don't know her situation. Some people may not be able to afford new shoes. Some people may not have the time for pedicures. I find it sad that you feel the need to judge other women like that.

[@vivienneadams3539]

As a Christian i am sure you are aware of the saying “Taking the plank out of your own eye, then you will see clearly to remove the speck of dust from your brothers” or in this case, your sisters. I don’t comment usually, but i felt somewhat disappointed by your observations and lack of empathy of the poor woman on the elevator. Most people have many more things to think about and deal with other than the perfect lipstick, handbag, shoes and superficial things like that. Sorry, but not the comments of a mature woman, who should know better. Judge not lest ye be judged!

[@vivienneadams3539]

@@HollyL56 luckily we are all entitled to our own opinions and mine is a valid comment, just like the many, many others on here. You are mistaking judging for an opinion. Have a great day. Luckily i will do whatever i please and the day someone tells me to move on and i actually do that, will be never.

[@kellytrout2837]

Says the person who is “judging “

[@awesomepossum2435]

Perhaps time spent reflecting on how others perceive you would be time better spent than casting judgement on someone you know nothing about. You are a very sheltered simple person…..it’s a big world out there.

[@laila9269]

Good lord, what an unpleasant, judgemental attitude. Pride comes before a fall, dear Lisa.

[@EH-MiM]

Amen!

[@brandywalkenten9085]

Huh?

[@sunnybcgirl1025]

This just makes me feel sad. There are not many posts I think of days later but this is one of them. I know you meant well but your lack of empathy and judgmental snobby attitude far outweigh any fashion advice you hoped to give us.

[@janejoyce4122]

There are so many things I want to say and respond to in this vIdeo! My personal style is very different than yours but I USUALLY enjoy your videos and look past the fact that in my opinion you try way to hard. If I was judging you I might even say there must be something lacking in your life or point out your less than perfect aura, I love my athletic style. I am not chasing anyone else’s style. I hate high heels. If I was judging you I would say the kitten heels you wear look awful. But that would not make you feel very good. I will just leave it set right there. You say the shoes that probably have the “ imprint” left when she takes them off but then praise Birkenstocks. Hmmmm my pricey Birkenstocks definitely have my footprints embedded in them and they go great with my style. I could have easily been the woman in the elevator. While my husband was on his deathbed this summer and spent 3 months in the hospital at Duke where he had an emergency heart transplant you would have seen me in the elevator wearing a sweatshirt that was a 2xl (because it was on clearance in the gift shop), comfortable shorts and a pair of slides with compression socks which I also bought in the gift shop because my feet and ankles were swelling so much from living in an ICU room for months. Here is the thing I could really care less if you think I looked frumpy but I don’t need anyones pity because my aura seems off or sad. I rarely make comments on videos good or bad but this one just rubbed me the wrong way. I think because your description of the woman was so very specific. You have been thinking about her, she really got in your head. I wonder why. If I had to guess I think you will be carrying her around with you for a long time.

[@DebbiAnn2]

Well, here is a question for you. Just who are you to feel sadness when looking at other women and how they dress and deciding that maybe they have given up? How do you know what is going on in anyone’s life and why they put the outfit on that they do to go out in public. I have three autoimmune illnesses and sometimes I am bloated from medication that I take and I have to put on something very baggy or I’m very embarrassed by the way my body looks! I haven’t given up at all I am fighting tooth and nail to stay well! I really can’t believe a grown woman your age is making comments that sound like it’s really coming from a junior high school person

[@dlh5001]

This video made me sad. Judging other women is just so not cool. Most women have to work, get their kids ready, are busy, have to financially take care of themselves, are going through sicknesses... so many things. This video just really rubbed me the wrong way. I'm sorry.

[@thereluctantretiree4372]

I enjoy most of your videos, but this one brought me back to your website to make a comment. While I do not believe it was certainly not your intention, but you came across as mean spirited when talking about the lady in the elevator. Perhaps you should have introduced yourself and offered to take her shopping for a new outfit. And, in regard to ladies who clutch their shoulder bags, we do that to hold the straps on our shoulders. Were you making fun of us? I can just say I am surprised and disappointed in the tone of this video.

[@kittensmittens2529]

Perhaps 'elevator woman' didn't look at you because she was afraid?

[@wendigo1919]

You can pick up on energy... in this case, the energy of judgement.

[@bagobeans]

Or Lisa looked down on her...

[@paulinemarvin2620]

I cannot believe that you said that!!! Lisa is one of the sweetest people on this Earth. I can't believe that she would look down on anyone. Get a life!!

[@sussannekeith5676]

This was not a good video uplifting women. Not everyone has your sense of style or resources to buy extremely expensive clothes, shoes and bags. let’s get real here in this economy. You spend thousands of dollars on getting your “outer” to look better.. your inner is so much better. We need realistic videos with some luxury thrown in.

[@TimeTraveler71]

I’m sorry Lisa, I was a little taken aback with this video..however it did make me take a hard look at the log in my eye. Thank you for that. God bless you..

[@busterbigcat]

Yes to a kind makeup and hair video. This video to me was lacking in kindness. A smile and a hello feels good to yourself and others

[@cherylsHTX]

I have watched you for a long time, but I have to say I'm disappointed in this video. While I am sure your intentions are good, you come across very judgmental, especially when you described the woman in the elevator. I'm not sure she asked you for your opinion of her and what you did and said is exactly why women for the most part are not united. The woman on the elevator is probably like me, she has a busy life, working, taking care of her family, and other things. Maybe she is a single mom trying to make ends meet. We can't all sit in the lap of luxury like you, Lisa and look down on others. Some of us have things to do and it's really hurtful that you would be so judgmental. Things are hard enough right now and some of us don't have the luxury to sit around and contemplate ourselves. Some of us are going through a lot and are just trying to get through the day. You just came across with a complete lack of empathy. Like you have never struggled a day in your life. Think twice before you judge other people. This video literally ticked me off with you. You say you want to help women, but you just come across witchy, and rude. Total lack of maturity. Not a good look on you, Lisa.

[@sussannekeith5676]

I will wear whatever I want, with any label on it as long as it looks good.

[@r.m.1986]

Omg in my 30s after having a baby even my grandma is judging my appearance and expects me to look like when I was 17 or in my 20s. Very sad.

[@Jamie_Behm0310]

I LOVED this video. There's always going to be people out there judging and then those who judge you for judging. Every single person who calls you judgmental are making judgements themselves. Anyway, I felt that your intention was just to encourage people to care enough about themselves to put at least a little effort into their appearance. Also, For those who are in a rut and feel frumpy or need a refresh, to just give them some ideas to think about. Taking care of your appearance can have a big psychological impact. Thank you for your perspective. :)

[@tanyawood275]

I could not believe my ears...I have been a subscriber for years and am appalled at your judgment of the woman in the elevator. You say you want to help women feel better about themselves but you ripped that woman to shreds! You remind me of the "mean" girls in Junior High!! Shame on you!

[@nikkivenable3700]

This video felt hurtful and classless. Lisa, please do better.😢 We women are already harshly judged by ourselves, first and foremost so we don’t need someone else doing it. It’s one thing to judge someone in our minds(and we all do it) but to say so out loud and for thousands to see and hear? Nah, we don’t need that. The world sucks enough as it is.

[@catheyashburn433]

I agree, maybe, you might notice it, but you never say it out loud for so many people to hear.

[@catheyashburn433]

@@Emm.Emm. totally. I already feel bad about leaving my house, for a quick errand, without putting effort in. Now I'm reminded how women "do" judge you and that is depressing.

[@brandywalkenten9085]

If you are being harsh on yourself, perhaps therapy would be helpful. If you took it that she is being snobby, I think you may have self esteem problems. She hit the nail on the head for me. I’m here for the motivation. I’m not putting my best foot forward and I know it. But I can admit that. I’m here for these videos.

[@catheyashburn433]

@@brandywalkenten9085 the overall video was enlightening. I agree with Lisa and I do get dressed everyday even tho I am retired. Hair, makeup, jewelry and perfume. It makes me feel better. The detailed, publicly, picking apart the lady was not classy and sent a negative message to many.

[@GreatMindsSeekTruth]

@@brandywalkenten9085 I agree with you 100 percent! This motivates me to want to put forth more effort. Looking better is a tool that affects our confidence. Personally, when I look better…I FEEL better. Self-confidence is like a mental muscle…everyone is born with it but not everyone puts forth the effort to strengthen it/flex it. I think people these days become offended way to easily.

[@heidij7374]

You have such a wonderful way of speaking from the heart. I noticed a lot of comments about the woman in the elevator. I didn't take it as unkind at all - I think what you are saying is that you want our outward appearance to reflect an optimistic, joyful aspect of our personality instead of the sad, tired aspect. And I appreciate your suggestions for how to do that. Your videos are informative and fun. Thank you! ❤

[@juliehagg6985]

How sad you had to make one of these trending videos.

[@kristenrogers9029]

😂😂😂

[@ArtJourneyUK]

Oh. I was hoping this would be less judgemental and superficial and more constructive. Not all women are as into fashion and are able to spend *all* their time and focus on clothes & makeup and other frivolities. Some women work on more important causes than pampering themselves 24/7 which means that painting their toenails comes far behind other things such as getting classes taught on time, helping sick people or keeping the industries you rely on going.

[@ginkodragon]

Lisa, you are just the best! I love our advice! You are spot on about being yourself, but updating it! Yes, how you carry yourself, your convidence is as important as the clothes!

[@MdePinksdeWobblette]

All this from the woman who spends thousands to go nowhere and do nothing 😢

[@gingerandnemo]

This is her job!

[@mariaramos6724]

@@gingerandnemo yeah to be a nasty judgemental person who puts others down to make her empty life seem better!

[@gingerandnemo]

@@mariaramos6724 Why do you asssume her life is empty? You do realize you don't have to watch her videos, right?

[@mariaramos6724]

@@gingerandnemo yes I am very aware of that thank you very much but I am also entitled to view my opinions on how she acted in this video. I have watched her for years but she really showed herself up in this video, disgraceful behaviour!

[@MdePinksdeWobblette]

What would tell you otherwise?

[@jenniferrobinson404]

Hi Lisa,love this and agree but you know once in awhile i love leaving the house frumpy and I don’t care. 😊

[@triciamoore8391]

I dont know how you deal with some of these comments. As someone finally coming back into myself, i really appreciate your videos.

[@missylovestroy]

ok sadly i didnt like this video and i ususally love listening to your videos ,but i dont like people judging 😢😢😢. who knows whats going on in that other persons life , we should never judge someone on what they wear

[@catheyashburn433]

Sadly I have to agree. It made me feel really bad, the judging of the woman at the elevator. No need to point out, in detail, Her appearance. Usually I love everything Lisa.

[@barbr100]

There are many people that don’t care about fashion, like the woman in the elevator. I guarantee they are the ones not watching these videos anyway. There are too many fashion rules mandated by the infamous “them”. To me, keeping it simple is ignoring the rules. 😊

[@kellyhickmansreclaimeddock8099]

Prayers for the judged lady in the elevator ❤

[@Raven-xz7xp]

Lisa is so out of touch with reality,what happened to not tearing women down? You have no idea what many people are going thru in the world today.

[@marykspharler9289]

Lisa, Thank you for this content, & honest evaluation. Your Amazing & I love your style!! I am so blessed to find you ❤❤❤❤

[@katem6861]

I’m inspired when I see an elderly lady with a pretty lipstick shade on or with beautiful hair, reminds me of my grandmothers. I hope to still care like that when I’m in my 70’s!

[@Raaadome]

I'm learning from this "VdeooooHhee" and SoooOooOoo thank the powers that be I came across it I feel to sleep I was soooo Bored personality is key KEY no matter how perfect you look if you ain't got Personality your Doomed Froomed

[@TD_427]

You are so out of touch with the reality that most people live in.

[@celebrateyourroyalty1637]

I appreciate your work bringing this you tube for us ladies over 45. I am in my 60;s and I want to look "Full of Life" not frumpy!

[@MdePinksdeWobblette]

😢

[@latishacampbell5764]

Correct, we should not judge others...as many in the comments point the finger for the very thing they are doing themselves. ("He who is without sin, throw the first stone"). That aside, what I get from this video is Lisa sharing her tips on how to not look frumpy. I also heard her state, wear what makes you feel good. I do not feel this video is for that person who does not care about their appearance or Style. That person would not be watching. Nor did she say anything about spending lots of money. All of us here can look in the mirror and say whether or not we feel good about how we look. If you do 🙋‍♀️ awesome, if you do not then make changes. Maybe you did not agree with some aspects of delivery, that's fine. But do not judge her if you felt she was judging. I know I am stylish and got it going on at 48 😁🤭 and even when I leave the house in my sweats and sneakers, I am clean, coordinated, styled and intentional (btw, I work in a Warehouse as a forklift driver and still plan my outfits). This novel just to say, there is always a better way to get your message across but I trust that this is Lisa still having a love for women and wanting them to feel their best.

[@bstrong5016]

I know when I make more of an effort I feel sooooo much better. It is worth it to take care of ourselves, and it shows we have pride in our own lives. Thanks for sharing great tips that we sometimes forget when life gets a little busy/messy.

[@kata6691]

This was a good video! How can anyone be offended by an example of a stranger they never met is beyond me.

[@su5329]

I like your videos and I am watching them from the beginning. I don't like this video! I am from Germany/ Berlin and with your look, I guess some people would say you have an special style that wouldn't fit the cool modern style that's hip here where I live. Greetings from Germany

[@jennifero.7096]

I think about the purse thing, I don't think it's clutching for fear, I think its to prevent the straps from slipping of their shoulder... I have been guilty of this and I switched to a crossbody. This is a good reminder for me to step it up, great video!

[@lhb92]

100% my sweet grandmother who passed sadly literally said this to me when I asked her why she held her strap 😅

[@Kimmy-rh1ry]

I have been in this slump many times. I fall for fast fashion, then I fall for trendy fashion, then I hoard clothing from huge sales, only to turn around and donate most of it. It's always a vicious cycle. I realized buying fast fashion is just a waste of time and money. I started recognizing what I reach for a feel most comfortable in. I also realized what colors suit me best., which are whites, creams. Tans, beige. So now I shop those colors. I also now shop for my style only. I work outside the home in a school, so I'm most comfortable in leggings, tank tops, shells, short sleeve sweaters, with coordinating cardigans over top. It's easy and simple and I don't have to overthink things in the morning. I've decluttered my closet of thousands of dollars of styles and pieces I never wore because most of it was impulse buying. I'm also thrifting pieces now. Higher end classic pieces that stand the test of time and timeless. I only have about 35 pieces in my wardrobe now but they are quality over quantity , and classic and I can mix and match easily for dozens of looks

[@mariavillosa4645]

Wow love the content The thing with the bag! OMG that’s me The dresses…. Wow Thank You thank you

[@SometimeAgo65]

I agree with your view on many of these style mishaps but Purse Snatching can happen anywhere. Once it happens, you would hold your purse too, lol. Where I live, it was unheard of but then it started happening as women were shopping, or leaving the store. They would run up to the unsuspecting victims and rip their bags from them and were long gone before any officers arrived. I do get your point but still...Always Be Aware! ❤️

[@kellyloper]

Great information! I’m shocked at the negative, mean comments! I’m 63 and a flight attendant. I wouldn’t dream of going to work without my uniform clean, pressed & in good repair. Sadly I see many of my younger co workers that don’t even own an iron or bother to remove their chipped off nail polish. To me, this is a “frumpy” unkept look. I appreciate your tips & examples!

[@missloretta]

I am encouraged! You know I wish you could do a video on how to dress your husband! My husband needs new clothes and neither of us know where to begin.

[@donnanixon7949]

Hi Lisa I couldn’t agree with you more. It’s so easy to fall into a slump and it is sad. When I felt depressed years ago I just covered my body in big baggy clothes. Being playful and happy shows in your attitude and clothing.

[@LisaLisaD1]

I know, me, too!! Thank you, I appreciate that!! 🥰 Lisa

[@Casper-jx1zd]

Excellent advice! Thank you for always sharing and wanting to help us ladies! Blessings to you and your family 🌟🙏🌟

[@LisaLisaD1]

Thank you!! 😘 Lisa

[@susancarty6638]

I will be turning 61 on November 11th and i think i dress very nice and yes iam true to my style.

[@LisaLisaD1]

YAY!! We all stray a little but as long as you come back and enjoy it!! ❤ Lisa

[@hopehope8116]

I enjoyed this video- so helpful. I know your heart Lisa. I feel you gave the best tips in the kindest way. Please continue this series.

[@GenXtothe7thPower]

Ha! I look like the frumpy version today, lol…but in my defense, the day was full of cooking and chores…so…

[@LisaLisaD1]

I get, believe me!! I wore my walmart sweats today!! 🖤Lisa

[@GenXtothe7thPower]

@@LisaLisaD1 Well, today is a “see the outside world day”, so I am going to implement some of your suggestions! We have the same taste in shoes and handbags, Lisa! I have those same black fuzzy Birkenstocks (just ordered a month ago), the same Versace slides in white (which I’m trying again after deciding they weren’t comfortable enough after 1x wearing them 3 years ago) and I think you have the fuzzy GG Gucci rubber wedge Sherpa boots, too? Anyhow, today is a no frump day :)

[@stargazerbird]

The prime reason we end up looking frumpy is weight gain around the waist and boobs. When I was overweight I just had to wear both wide jeans and a baggy top for comfort. No way I wanted to show my shape! Now I am getting back my feminine shape I look way better in clothes. The same outfit looks radically different on different shapes. Same with shoes. If you are heavy heels and smaller shoes are painful.

[@Catherine3385]

Exactly. I also lost weight and a tshirt and jeans that look good now, looked frumpy before.

[@annacris1005]

Great advise Lisa! Love this one a lot. Yes, hair and makeup! I am 75 so maybe some tips on how your Mom wears her hair or does her makeup that would be a great help!!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@LisaLisaD1]

I thought about that!! Will do, I will get a list of her fashion faves!! 🥰 Lisa

[@angelarose6602]

Lots of good points as usual. How can you demonstrate what is 'right' if you can't say what is less desirable... midlife brings its own challenges regarding health and beauty.

[@sharonthompson5715]

With all due respect, because I believe I understand the intent of this, but your execution comes off as so condescending and says more about you than the women you are judging for poor fashion choices.

[@Raven-xz7xp]

Exactly, but she won’t see it that way.

[@peggyroher6157]

No, and based on previous comments she's made in other videos....she won't care.

[@pjenyart]

9:59 no Lisa I love all of your videos the sunglasses don’t interest me but I’m sure they do a lot of people because I wear glasses so you can’t have 100 pair of prescriptions. Are you a big broke or I would be but everything else of course I love your clothes that you pick out even though I’m not that thin, but I love your style and I appreciate all the tips you can give us. This are out and about that much so keep on with the videos.

[@shannonandrews2649]

She is trying to help people look and feel their best. She is definitely not the type of person that is judging other women but obviously you are.

[@JLW224]

What if you struggle financially?

[@kathrynsanburn9383]

I love this…. Thanks for helping those of us that want to be helped.

[@baruti847]

Why is this transgendered person critiquing women? What on earth makes them qualified to do that???

[@LSG7771]

Please send this video to your friend, msgoldgirl. Her clothes are 2 sizes too small, jacket sleeves 3-4” too long. Joggers almost every day with heels. Too many colors in her outfits. I don’t see how companies choose “influencers” to represent them although in her case, it’s mostly Walmart. On the other hand, the woman you mentioned not looking so good is probably someone just trying to get by in this awful economy. One an influencer who has no style/taste. The other sounds like she’s struggling. Big difference.

[@juliegray2579]

First of all you're commenting anonymously. Second you've posted this comment on someone else's channel instead of the person you talking about. The point being you should really think about why you aren't willing to put your name on this comment, take ownership of it, and send this video to the person you are insulting yourself.

[@amandazplace5663]

I think you may have misunderstood the purpose of this video. I think it was intended for the viewer to make improvements to themselves, not others. Yes, Lisa used an example in her real life (elevator lady), but I doubt she would confront someone directly. That would be terribly unkind. ♥️🇨🇦

[@karahorner2103]

This is rude. Her name is Marnie & I disagree with your opinion.

[@LSG7771]

@@karahorner2103 You’re rude to attack my opinion.

[@LSG7771]

@@juliegray2579 My opinion is none of your business. Wasn’t directed to you, therefore, you have no need to respond.

[@christierocheleau6959]

I have been sad off and on for quite a while but ur channel and advice is bringing me back! I love ur videos! It's the shot in the arm I need to keep me motivated! Thank u Lisa! ❤️❤️❤️

[@missloretta]

Wow I thought you were so much taller than you are! I guess it's how you dress very interesting! I might have to throw away a pair of capris.

[@klarab2234]

I am guilty of this. I went through cancer treatment this year and when I lost my hair, eyebrows and eyelashes and gained weight all I wanted to do was hide myself under big, baggy athleisure wear. I just wanted to hide and not be noticed because of how I felt about my physical appearance. Now that my eyebrows and eyelashes have grown back and I have a short pixie hairstyle I am starting to gain a little more confidence. I don't feel 100% like myself anymore but it's getting better. I bought a couple of new dresses for summer and a few new makeup bits to inspire me to make an effort again with my appearance even though I don't always want to. Great video Lisa.

[@operamom6639]

Those " frumpy" or baggy clothes you wore should not be seen negative! They gave you the comfort and tactile support you needed during a very difficult time in your life. Sometimes comfort makes for a better and happier person then trying too hard. After a certain age one should not worry about impressing others or what other people think. We need to stop judging and taking inventory of ourselves.

[@ShellTay32]

It sounds like you've been through a lot this year. I know I don't know you but big hugs and love to you as you get well. ❤

[@stephaniefox9701]

Amazing breakdowns Ms. Lisa!!! GaaaaaaaH so on point! I enjoyed everything. Handbags, sunglasses, jewelry and blazer’s hit me 100. A handbag 👜 that fits you from every angle, a smallish galleria of sunglasses hardly ever on repeat, small/medium hoops both silver and gold, wedding band if you are and a statement ring for us empty nesters and a watch that fits your style as your handbag does. Finally the blazer that simply says…she slays. Of course a little dose of every single category you spoke about… Those I mentioned happen to be my faves. I can’t wait for your hair and make up take on it all. Much love, lovely lady❤

[@nicolewily4846]

I work from home so I don’t dress up- But I agree you should try to keep up your appearance and *TRY * To be your best although it is subjective , like ART!!! For too many year s I thought my style was my mom”s, or would try to seek her approval in my style-until I figured out we are different. Much to her dismay:( I got way into the big flowy dresses this past summer and Loved it!! It felt very freeing not having a “shape”.

[@anetabondyra2068]

Great video Lisa! You don’t have to spend a lot of money to look good all you need is to put in some effort but unfortunately people are so busy with stressful life we’re leaving that looking good is not on their priority list.

[@stickman1215]

Lisa, this video really resonated with me. ❤ I have done a major closet purge. If it doesn’t make me feel beautiful and amazing, out it goes. It is amazing how knowing you look your best makes your entire day better! I refuse to be invisible even if I am 61. I see these sad ladies every day and I just feel so bad for them. 😢

[@LisaLisaD1]

Thanks for sharing!!

[@carlasmith4777]

Great advise on overdoing certain things and sticking to classic styles and colors ... to me oversized blazers look sloppy and not put together :)

[@MyMaria1224]

Great video Lisa! You’re right on point with everything you said!! Always helping us Lisa!! ❤❤❤ would love a makeup version 😊

[@LisaLisaD1]

YAY! Thank you, that one will be fun!! 🥰 Lisa

[@anahutcheson6579]

Lisa another fantastic video I would love to see an updated basics video. Thank you so much for the tips.

[@atmoms2]

You're my daughter's age, I think I'm your mom's age. Would your mom consider doing a fashion /make up/ hair video with you?

[@snowyskylar8821]

The cottage core look is big here in Australia ATM. But as an older lady, I'm not sure I can wear it, and not look like Miss Marple. Lol

[@LisaLisaD1]

I saw Cabin Chic and Coastal Grandma, too!! Something for everyone, and I love that!! 🥰 Lisa

[@mayapapaya77]

Omg seeing you in frumpy clothes is weird but really shows the difference it makes when you just put in more effort! I'm guilty of just wanting to blend in but honestly nasty ppl want to make you feel bad about looking nice. Jealousy is bad amongst some women. I've been trying more and more to create my style again and be confident. Thx Lisa! 😊

[@trsimms]

Thank you for your candor. I was one that gave up several years ago after a few life changing events. I started watching KZbin for paint/design inspiration and stumbled upon a few fashion, makeup, skincare influencers for women over 40. I was gobsmacked that I had become apathetic in my appearance. I purged my closet (donated) and created simple stylish outfits from closet inventory. I ordered items from Sephora to add to my basic look. Final step was hair ~ just long enough that I always pulled back in a darn hair tie. Highlighted, growing out, and only silk scrunchie at night. I feel more confident and am enjoying life so much more. Your humor, love of your family, and nod to Diet Coke make you one of my favorites to watch.

[@MyBboy2009]

Would love to see you and your mom in a video! She sounds like a classy lady who raised you to be the lady you are!

[@jancollier8653]

Have to be rich to follow her in shopping 🛍️

[@victoria.galvin]

Lisa has said in the past that she doesn't want to share her parents and have them be subjected to the hate & ridicule people are capable of online. x

[@livelovely4681]

@@victoria.galvin Smart woman!

[@luciannedemarco6296]

I'm 58 and want to be a better dresser. I go with "safe" items because I don't like to be seen. I do love monochromatic pieces, classic yet current. Please consider doing a video with your mom. Would love to see what you would wear vs what she would wear. Thank you!

[@libertylady8462]

I used to wear a lot of skirts, dresses and shorts when I was younger and stopped wearing them as I got older which makes me sad and one of my resolutions for 2023 is to dress how I feel and be more feminine.

[@_Fresques]

Just started following this channel & it's literally my favorite. Love your sweet spirit! BTW it's not critiquing to give an opinion & you repeated multiple times "if you like it do it". I thought you were spot on when you said she seemed to have a sad aurora & I'm sure she is but if that's not how you're feeling try not to project that. I knew I was going to like you when I saw you all dressed up with flip-flops on.

[@LisaLisaD1]

Thank you so much!!

[@kathleenkalt3852]

It was Coco Chanel who said to take something off before you leave the house.

[@kimberlyvinson970]

Hi from Fayetteville NC 😊. Loved this, Lisa. You can just feel your love for helping other women feel their best 💞

[@chrissym7228]

I applaud you! I know this kind of video is challenging for you and years ago you would have never even approched this topic with a 10 foot pole! So you have done amazing and wonderful advice because you are in you're groove! We all know how much you care and hurting our feelings is so something to not be concerned about! Really! Need to do more! Love it

[@jdg493]

This is one of my favorite videos that you’ve done! So helpful and informative. I would love to see a basics video. Also a video on affordable stylish handbags.

[@VanessaIrene._]

I love this lady ! Subscribed

[@Lynnck]

I agree 100%. In a perfect world it wouldn’t matter, but we need to dress the way we want to be “addressed”😊Awesome Video Girl!

[@susancarty6638]

Hi lisa i have always said less is more .im in new york its gets freezing cold here .i love the winter cause i could wear my boots and sweaters

[@LisaLisaD1]

Good coat, Good Boots and hat and you are set!!! Thank you, Susan!! 🥰 Lisa

[@susancarty6638]

@@LisaLisaD1 yup i just got a new coat and a few pair of boots cant wait to wear them.

[@PatchworkSchoolhouse]

Holy crap ladies! Talk about missing the point! I’ve watched many of Lisa’s videos & she always comes across as empathetic & trying to genuinely help women find the best version of themselves from a fashion standpoint. Using the example of the women at the elevator was to illustrate that if we can put in the effort, we should. She did say that she thought there was something going on with her so that her appearance wasn’t a priority. The point was, as you’ve obviously missed it, was that if you can put the best you forward, do it. If you’re not able to, you’re not able to. This channel is a fashion advice channel to get ideas on dressing, appropriate styles, etc…All this hullabaloo is somewhat overblown.

[@Corrans]

❤❤❤❤

[@Brublondie1]

Hi Lisa! You have some really good ideas here and it really hit home with me. I moved from sunny FL to Portland, OR 3 1/2 years ago. Shortly after I got here the Covid pandemic hit and I was cut off from the world. I got to the point I was wearing sweats all the time and didn’t even bother with makeup. I was in a huge downward spiral and it was really difficult for me to spin out of it. I missed my friend and family, I missed my FL sunshine and depression was setting in. I had a talk with myself and made a decision that every day I was going to work out and then shower up, put on makeup and put on a nice outfit, nothing fancy but look pretty when my fellow came home. My mental health really started improving when I did all of that. Your outer appearance does truly often reflect what you are feeling and going thru. Putting a little effort in your appearance can help change that outlook as well. Thank you for your happy demeanor and cheerfulness and the good tips you bring to the table. Be blessed!!!

[@SaraFrenchCountryCottage]

Brublondie1~Same here! Initially moving to the PNW from sunny S0-Calif was quite an adjustment. Especially when we can get anywhere from 7-9 months of rainfall! But, slowly over time I grew a great appreciation for the abundance of nature's beauty offered throughout the seasons. Now I look forward to the autumnal foliage and the occasional snowfall. Enjoy, Sara

[@dvanhottie]

Enjoyed this one. Yes to basics, hair, makeup and anything else you come up with!

[@brendao649]

Thank you this has helped me

[@snowyskylar8821]

You are so inspiring Lisa. God bless you and your family 💐

[@LisaLisaD1]

Thank you, Skylar!! 💗 Lisa

[@naomiquale]

Love you Lisa! I have been subscribed for over 10 years and think you are so kind and I love your style tips! Keep rockin it girl, you are AWESOME!