How to Date Yourself When You're Living Alone in Japan

[@domeshane]

I don't know why I find her videos so enthralling. It's just a person doing mundane things in Japan. And yet here I am, thousands of miles away, watching intently.

[@marycooper2]

same here. Still thrilled and can't come up with a reasonable cause...

[@lulo4712]

Same here. Maybe it feels relaxing.

[@ChefWife67]

lucia gonzalez I just wrote that same comments on one of her other videos....it IS relaxing 😎

[@suziek888]

Maybe its something we yearn for unknowingly...

[@ezaazis5078]

Same.

[@LaoSoftware]

Japan is so clean and safe for single women. I can live and work in peace in Japan. That's my dream

[@noneofyourbeeswaxquinton]

Meanwhile I'm running from my car to my apartment door every evening. The lives we lead on this little planet. 😂

[@suzienada7253]

i have heard about subway touchers and jerkoffs but i don't live there so idk for real

[@danofthehour4822]

Suzie Nada every country has its dangers. From what I’ve heard, there’s generally very little risk of assault and other street crimes, but a more of issues around train harassment and shoplifting kids.

[@mandiraexotic]

Do you speak Japanese?

[@thecynthiadouglas]

I live in Chicago. Your town looks beautiful. I love your videos. Thank you!

[@DioneN]

I date myself all the time even though I’m in a relationship. No one treats you better than you! I take myself for lunch alone all the time, and I prefer to see movies by myself.

[@siemelonoranksenamun]

Good for you, sis! :)

[@blahblah1438]

Me too

[@alaaismail9337]

Ecxactly

[@rubyrose49]

I love going to the movies alone :)

[@esto11213]

@Sequoiah Dreams as a frequent solo movie goer, I always love watching movies alone. It is a little difficult for the first time thinking people around will judge you for coming alone, but think of it like this way the person besides you probably would never even meet you ever again so what they think shouldn't even matter and more often than not people don't really care that much they're just there to watch movies. A good idea would be to get a ticket where its kind of empty or maybe a corner one. Definitely recommend going to movie alone once this corona virus is gone. Hope everyone stays safe

[@gmagain]

One of the most interesting things I saw when i went to japan is the little kids going to school by themselves. That would never happen here in America... too unsafe.

[@flufflepuffle]

Well there are monitors at points on the route. Usually bored old people, haha. But yes, it is very nice and safe.

[@heavlenly]

G.M. ? I walk home from school sometimes and never ran into any kind of problem. And I’m from California, LA. It kinda annoys me how people always compare America to other countries. You got nothing better to do but bring America down? Idgaf about this stupid video now thanks to your comment.

[@gmagain]

Helen H um I was specifically referring to little kids. Are you a small child???? If you parents let you walk to school by yourself they are irresponsible and child services must be called asap!!!! Although, judging by the fact that you use youtube, you are probably already in your mid teens and at an age were you CAN walk to school alone. So my comment has literally nothing to do with you and in America we NEVER see small children walking to school by themselves no matter what you want to believe.

[@gmagain]

Margarita Kulyapina can you elaborate? Monitors as in old people monitoring the route to watch the kids?

[@gristen]

@@heavlenly geez fickle much?

[@itsallaboutkim7283]

When I become a mom I forgot to take care of myself but after watching this maybe I should go for a date for myself just like old times 😂

[@nomumbling1608]

Was thinking the same thing myself :>

[@carolesydney]

Me too I'm always doing mom stuff, maybe I should take myself on a self date

[@loredanarosca9720]

Same here. I am a new mom for a 11 months olf baby, and i totally forgot to take care of myself...

[@determineddi2044]

A happy mom will make a happy child. Don't cheat yourself. I know it's easy to put family first but be a person, not just a Mom or wife.

[@emilkytea]

I have to admit, dating myself in Japan was a lot more fun than where I live now, in Canada, hahaha. You can go anywhere without driving since the trains are so efficient or you can just bike anywhere safely without having to worry about getting hit by a car, & the food is cheaper & you don't have to tip.

[@RandomPlaceHolderName]

I like living in Canada but I agree, there's a lot that needs improving. People tell me to get a car when I tell them I take public transport...

[@barbarabehring1016]

minha filha vc ta reclamando eu moro no brasil, vc sai de casa sabe nem se volta, melhor date é netflix. ta no lucro amada, aproveita hahahaha

[@taniaannisa1580]

1:18 "... Away from my love one, family, and friends. I learned that you don't have to feel lonely when you're alone." That's powerful! 😊

[@xxbutterfly1973xx]

I know I may sound silly.... I‘m a 46 year old mom of two teenager... but this video brought me back to me... ❤️

[@aussiejubes]

You've been in Japan four years without your husband? That's such a long time, you're obviously dedicated to your plan which takes a lot of sacrifice which is so difficult & good on you. You've found a lovely way to pass time & not feel alone, by having this channel & make moments count. I don't know when you made this video or how your hubby's visa is coming along but good luck & I hope he can come over & live with you soon!

[@lovingturnip]

Oh gosh, when you put the two bills into the machine I got so stressed out! I've never seen it work like that before, especially where I'm from. If you put two bills in where I'm from the machine would possibly only read one bill and you would lose the other!! I love the fact of 'dating yourself' - I do this as well to enjoy my own company at times despite being married. Its refreshing to just have a day to yourself and enjoy your own company.

[@mimsley5]

I thought the same thing!

[@mirandastoker9999]

Japan never failed to amaze me. The cashier with no staff lol, 2 bills read successfully, clean surroundings, the food and so many other things. I'm glad I found your channel, Rhea. You are inspiring. Love your attitude and outlook in life. I need this kind of positivity, calmness & productivity in my life right now.

[@laylac699]

With a history of being single for almost 24 years, it has already become usual for me to go shopping alone and treat myself with some decent, real food. This truly helps me after I entered a long distance committed relationship, as I do not really feel like there has to be a man by my side to help me out with everything.

[@avalynn468]

This has such a good self-care message :)) I wholeheartedly agree, loving yourself is necessary before you can share that love with another person 💖💖

[@DK-210]

forever alone people are always on a self-date

[@jlex1049]

You say that like it's a bad thing?

[@dejachhun338]

This is such a nice idea... I always go out alone and feel kinda stupid (like all 👀 eyes on me)

[@lilyl38]

That’s literally me for life

[@lilyl38]

Deja Chhun I get how you feel

[@aussiejubes]

Considering she's married your statement is redundant.

[@reend706]

i do this all the time, going on restaurants, watching a movie, shopping, even went to a concert alone and still had tons of fun. my friends find it weird, so loner-like hh but i always tell them being alone doesn't always mean you're lonely ://

[@rainingwords5775]

Me too 😀 🤗💓

[@liscatcat8756]

I do this cos I have no friends at all . I find it strange if you actually have friends 😂

[@BeaSnow]

I really like how relaxed, positive and normal you are. You enjoy the simple things, you eat delicious food without being a maniac about diets and calories, you seem to be at peace with yourself - that right there is the true key to happiness. I really love watching your videos, they are both soothing and aesthetically pleasing. I'm only curious about why you seem to deliberately hide your face, but that is your choice :)

[@は私です彼の名前]

Bianka Barova I cannot speak for her...but maybe it is more about the message than the messenger?

[@jenniesmith90]

I agree with you on these videos showing her calmness and she is comfortable in her own skin. But its for vlog video purposes, so I doubt she lives like this every single day , or eat like this every single day.

[@niyu4218]

Im not in a relationship but its ok for me to do things by myself. Im just sad that "beeing alone" is such a missunderstanding thing. There will come a time when youre thankful for the moments you spend with yourself.

[@francescaross345]

I am OBSESSED with this series. Calming. Like ASMR everything so simple

[@simonariviera1677]

Starbucks in Tokyo looks extremely clean and polished.... exact opposite of London 😂

[@aishab8022]

I never used to go out alone but after becoming a mom i realized how important alone time is,i love takin myself out on a date.i lived in japan for 3 years,after i drop my son to haikoen i would go out the whole day just to enjoy time alone.

[@Evelyn-dh7vc]

Your message is so true 😊 before you can share yourself with anyone, loving yourself is required first.

[@missmirusrobinson6913]

Hey Rhea, since i started watching your videos I can say I have started to slow down, be a little more mindful everyday and in turn I am more calm and less anxious. Please continue your vids love them and you're a beautiful soul.

[@jessicah3450]

I need to do this for myself. The hardest part is building up the courage to go out, but then once you're out most of that anxiety melts away. ❤️

[@KG-mx5su]

I love doing self-care. My self-care nowadays is just going to Starbucks, drinking my favorite Caramel Ribbon Crunch frap and enjoying a cheese danish. I read with my Scribd or Kindle Unlimited or I just people watch. Then I go window shopping at Target or Michael's. I know, people would probably say, why spend so much on coffee when you can save it! True! But I earned that money and I can spend it however I want without any guilt. I put away money for retirement but why wait until retirement to enjoy little things.

[@L1ttlef0ot]

When my boyfriend was away in a different city for college, I made myself feel better by taking myself out like this. It really helped a lot, and is a good way to appreciate the sights and sounds around you and not stew on things that bother you. Like, not ignore them, but accept them and continue to enjoy things.

[@bdctrans70]

I hope that your husband watches these Vlogs. I know what it is like having to be away from your loved one and waiting. Many Blessings for you two when he can be with you again. Wonderful videos.

[@xoxoctbr]

Me too, Rhea. I pretty much am dating myself. I take myself out on dates all the time and I don’t mind it - I’m treating myself and I love it, it feels good! I try not to overindulge though, hehehe..

[@alexccen]

Your video was very informative about Japan living, thank you! Hope you're still enjoying your solo dates 💚

[@melancholymagica6877]

this makes me so happy I literally started crying!!! 😭😭 I'm in a similar situation where I moved away to a different city than all of my family and friends. loneliness is something I've been struggling with for almost a year! so thank you so much for this video tbh it's inspiring 💜💜

[@dangokissu]

When I first went to a movie by myself, I loved it so much. I don’t like seeing a movie with company anymore 🤣

[@gladitsnotme]

**watches videos, feels solidarity with fellow single lady homebody with similar lifestyle. reads **11:48** and realizes i am the only one alone like a chump lmafo**

[@desertrose00]

gladitsnotme ha ha ha! Her husband isnt there so of course she will go alone for dates... cannot go with another guy 🤣

[@Slashy.]

This is the best self care- taking yourself on a date!

[@chrisng1320]

Your eyes look so beautiful Rhea! Love to watch your calming video before sleep!

[@carmenz8955]

There are many things that I always want to do, I see people on social media going to diners late at night with their significant others, bars, parties, or even going to having breakfast in the morning. I've always wanted to do something like that.. especially going to a diner late at night.. I don't know why it sounds like such a nice thing to do but one night I just gave in and went there alone. The waitress looked at me weirdly for a bit when I said "table for one" but sitting by the window with breakfast for midnight and a some tea was the most relaxing thing I've ever done..

[@JB-vd8bi]

That sounds amazing!

[@gen-xhippie4899]

I love the video. It is a good reminder to take a break and just enjoy being yourself every once and awhile.

[@PotatoCouch666]

I took myself on a date a week ago. I went to my hair appointment. After that I went to a cafe and then I went to a Japanese restaurant to eat some good food. It was fun! Great recipe for some self love!

[@ElizabethT45]

I have always done this! I love to read, so I will take a book or magazine with me and have a coffee or a lunch, and enjoy the food and the atmosphere while also enjoying my book. I never feel self-conscious. I also go to the movies alone if no one else in the family wants to see it but myself. I enjoy my own popcorn and whatever the guilty pleasure movie is!

[@yvonnegonzalez2773]

Your lunch, and dinner look so deelish! Looks so clean and not loud. Speaking for my self, I feel we Americans can be loud, and have to many distractions. Thank you for sharing.

[@ashikamiyu2604]

Oh ootd huh? I guess i will never see her face. Wait her face..this is the first time!!

[@rinoaheartilly4769]

ashika miyu IKR!? She’s so pretty!

[@Dr.Dumpnpump]

she has very nice eyes, doesn't she?

[@belmarmom]

I must have missed her face. At what time in the video was it?

[@rinoaheartilly4769]

belmarmom 1:38 ^_^

[@Sallystarw]

Darrel colored contacts

[@michellesunshinestar]

I love taking myself out on dates. I like going to the coffee shop down the street. I love eating by myself.

[@Duana-5034]

I love Japan! People are polite, organized, everything clean and safe.

[@asiantyrell6733]

Love yourself first! An icon once said, If you don’t love yourself how in the hell are you gonna love somebody else. You inspired me to start making videos in Japan!

[@peanutbutter9229]

asiantyrell I miss Japan!

[@nocolopa28]

This is such a wholesome video! I love the attitude you have towards spending time alone.

[@annafreyya7393]

I don't get it when people say they feel intimidated when eating alone in public... It seems like a foreign subject for me

[@katiethomas5889]

When I had work until recently, I would do this Fridays after work. My husband took my daughter to play cards/dinner with his family and I would usually do laundry, or dishes and cook a simple meal and then relax after work. It was a nice routine.

[@NoviHirena]

The technology in Japan is so amazing. I wonder when can I go there? Omg. Really interesting to order something and pack it by myself.

[@rrondon3280]

Self-dates are the only dates I can get.

[@stephtulloh7109]

I took myself out on a date because of this video. It was amazing, i ate what i wanted and watched the film i wanted at the cinema, i had all the snacks to myself and on the evening i didnt have to shave my legs...now i can honestly say that was the best date ive ever been on. 😊

[@Sensiblereader]

I always enjoy the time being alone... Sometimes riding bike after office hours gives me strength.

[@lynettebunac3159]

My fellow Filipino! Loving that you can speak Japanese and live this life! I am envious!

[@cielo8551]

Aw you’re such a gorgeous woman with a soft personality. These videos are so relaxing. I’m always rushing my life and you make every video slow down time to look around you and appreciate life. I love it. It’s a breath of fresh air everyone needs

[@abivaliz8217]

Four months ago I took myself on a date to Japan! Solo travel it’s amazing

[@rambosweat]

I love the sounds of summer in Japan.

[@itschelseakay]

You have such a healthy mindset! I'm so happy you took yourself on a date. And I bet your grandmother loved the purse. I loved seeing how clean your city is! Even the trains, busses, and taxi! I live in NYC and you put us to shame. There is no reason for us to be as dirty as we are. I think a big issue is people don't care about the mess they add to the city. When I first saw your trains had cloth seats I immediately thought of the dirt and sweat from people, but you can tell the trains are pretty clean. Cleaner than the subways here even with the cloth seats! (we have plastic seats) I grew up in upstate New York though in a small town and it was very clean and filled with fresh air. But our cities need work to stay clean. I want to visit Japan one day.

[@nljn6724]

I started taking myself out as a teenager,still do it now in my 40s as a Married mum

[@soniabesri4254]

I looove treating myself out for eating, shopping et going to a movie. So relaxing without anyone bothering you 😄

[@minnukanakala]

My mind is blowing literally watching the technology japan has 👏

[@kasturibisoi8818]

Those roses are really cute and looks so peaceful. First time I saw them and became overwhelmed.

[@fitrisella8222]

i am a mama of 3.. i really appreciate my me time and usually spending it by walk alone and having lunch alone.. it really a stress relief for me..really love ur video..keep it up

[@The_holly_and_the_holy]

Thanks for helping me stop fearing being alone and using the time to practice self care and self love. This is actually so helpful. You are doing a great job. As well your videos are so calming and aesthetic.

[@Rose-yb9xi]

I LOVE you're channel! So glad I found it🙌 So soothing and interesting. Really calms me and I love the positive affirmations you have for us to read! 🌷 Thank you😍

[@Klebkatt]

The Japanese taxi looks so nice. My brother drives one here in the states and there's really nothing nice about it save for a clean car. I like that there's a barrier between the backseat and the driver for protection. Wish my brother's taxi had them.

[@peterpam6336]

I love watching simple life daily vlogs and they're mostly in Korean but i'm so glad to find a Filipina living in Japan ❤ love your apartment and aesthetic!

[@elizabeth1703]

I think someone made a good point, it depends on what country you're in or how independent your family/culture was growing up. I've been raised extremely independently so I feel more comfortable going places and doing things on my own... because I don't have to compromise on where i want to go or what i want to do... but that's just what I'm used to. I think there's peace in being able to be by yourself, know yourself, care for yourself. I'm working on finding peace being with others. My boyfriend and I have a really great relationship, but we are both very independent people and tend to do our own things. I need to find peace in numbers!

[@bexcharole3794]

I hope and send my prayers that yoru husband gets to Japan safety

[@ranjeetagomes9100]

Yes that date for ourself heals me too.

[@viciouschrisss]

I love your videos - so relaxing. Thank you for sharing!

[@illustrado23]

This video warms my heart. This reminded me that it all starts with how you treat yourself and feel about yourself. Instead of feeling sad about being single, it makes me hopeful and I look forward to the day when I will have a love like that between you and your husband! Also it's fun to eat out and shop wherever and whenever you like :P

[@v.gallard8326]

5 videos in a row! It was my first time stumbling upon your channel today and I was already hooked. Loving your simple calm living. 😘

[@kelbeegee4454]

Coco Chanel is my favorite perfume. I have worn it for years and years.

[@smellycat00]

I always took myself on a date 😊 I live in a different city so i dont have a lot of friends here. I always go out by myself.

[@AnnoyedOwl]

The noise during the summer (i think the cicadas) is exactly like the one in animes. when i visited Japan a year ago i was stunned at how much it resembles the landscape in anime. Also, i absolutely love your channel and the messages you're sending the viewers. We need more people like you in this world

[@menakbell]

I love how you motivate yourself and also live your life to the fullest.

[@ewka3402]

I really love your chanel! It helps me a lot with my own self care. "Love yourself first before anyone else"

[@susanngin3481]

Yes, nothing wrong being by yrslf on a date.... shopping, eating at restaurant, going movies etc. ... in fact is a form of relaxation....no rushing, hurrying or waiting....all by yourself take sweet time to explore. Its truly enjoying n relaxing....hw blessing it is. ..

[@luciabporf]

I love dating myself. I can go wherever I want, I can eat, watch, buy whatever I want. Meanwhile I think about my stuff, wishes, problems. It makes me so good. I wouldn't change it for anything.

[@foodhunt-vlogging-cooking]

Rhea I have no words to express my feelings about your videos. I feel so contented and relaxed after watching your videos. Your videos make me realise that how important it is to take take of yourself and feel yourself special. No matter you have someone with you or not. We should always be grateful to God who has made us beautiful and healthy. Usually our busy routines don't make us realise it. Being a working woman and a mother of two I should also get some quality time to pamper myself. You are indeed a great inspiration for all those who barely get time themselves like me. If not 100% then I will surely try a life at least 50% of yours. Keep uploading more inspirational videos about Wellbeing 😊🤗🤗

[@iLove2Rhyme]

Rhea, you are inspiring for me. I am a single woman moving to Tokyo in April 2020 and I have been nervous about being alone. After watching this video I feel much better about looking forward to my own company

[@Aida_aj]

In japan i learned that solitude wasn't a bad thing. I enjoyed visiting different places on my own 😊

[@hekatejayne2238]

I appreciate your video, I will never get to see Japan other than in videos like yours. Thank you.

[@OliviaCo]

It’s fun to be alone sometimes, for some peace and quite time

[@ornanongnoppiboon1895]

Wowww, the evolution in Japan is so far from Thailand. I love how everything is so convenient! I want to live there once!

[@6a6ylam6]

Thank you for sharing your days with us Rhea! You seem so pure of heart. I'm happy you got to see your grandmother, mine is very special to me too. She spends half the year in Russia and half here in Canada, its such a blessing when I visit my mother and see her. I hope you had a wonderful time together.

[@somethinelse0930]

Love this!! If you don’t enjoy being alone with YOU.... u may need to do some soul searching...

[@saher1285]

I dont kno how.. But youre videos are so soothing for me.. I always watch it before falling asleep... It just calms my mind instantly.. Keep sharing.. And thanks for all your efforts..

[@Ot12_L]

I always do this and it's indeed very relaxing. Being alone gives me a peace of mind. 😊

[@kaiplue]

I do this ALL the time! I have an S.O. but going to a restaurant and going to the mall on my own is such a pleasure.

[@sloppyy]

i have like nothing in common with this person but i really be watching every video

[@strawberryhoney420]

Your videos make me so happy. Thank you for your uplifting content xx

[@CopiaPerson]

Sometimes I like going out to the city on my own, look in some shops and buy some food. It really can be relaxing and rewarding. Great video!

[@maliahana]

Your videos are very calming. As much as I want to see your face or hear your voice like other vloggers , I admit this style is very unique!

[@PrincessPeach0123]

I love the sparkling floor of the bus! 😍

[@justinemaeschwier6793]

This is the kind of vlog I've been looking for! Great job ate! I really love your videos💕💕 everything is aesthetic 💕

[@khadeejabintebabar]

Love your videos. Simple, elegant and effortless joy.

[@monicakemal5927]

I came across one of your videos and i started binge-watching them now. I like the way you see life and motivate people through your videos. You seem like a lovely person. Love from Indonesia...

[@Beerinmyhand]

I love what you said taking yourself on a date means you don't have to rely on others for happiness you can simply make your own happy world.. thank you for sharing.. we enjoyed a lot P.s: you're beautiful inside out

[@hannahschneider9761]

I take myself on dates too! I call them ‘Me Days’ ... they are the best! So good for the soul ☺️

[@bvm2001]

Okay so that was a twist I was not expecting...Rhea has a husband. Wow, I really didn't see that one coming. I love watching these videos. They relax me somehow.

[@luvslyfe1]

Maria Bruno Did you not notice her wedding ring? Some travel abroad to work, be it international work in scope, teaching, military, etc...

[@bvm2001]

@@luvslyfe1 Yes I did notice a ring but wasn't exactly sure (some people do wear rings that aren't marriage rings and in some countries different hands mean different status, i.e., Spain wears wedding banks on right hand but in US it's the left) especially since she was showing how to enjoy living alone, etc. Now I understand and I certainly am aware of many in this world who travel abroad to work and leave loves ones back home. Very aware.

[@Smeedea]

I love the idea of taking yourself out and loving yourself. These days especially in America people are afraid to be seen out to a restaurant or a movie by themselves for fear of being judged for being "alone."

[@sheilagoldelaine]

I'm also an OFW and this is what I love to do once a month! Self-love it is!