Rhonda Talks Relationship w/Dad, Her First Love, Grieving a Breakup, Infidelity + MORE -RLS

On this episode of Real Love Scenario, host of Real Love Scenario Rhonda Mclendon tells her Real Life Love Scenario.
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[@rhondamclendon1171]

I appreciate all of the love! Sharing can be super scary but y’all making it so so easy! 🫶🏾💜💜

[@lugerstorm6920]

The guy is a simp for even helping her out after she told him she’s not into him. Nice guys finish last. She knew she wasn’t feeling him but continued to deal with him because of his status. Manipulation at its best. Hope he’s living the “Free Agent Lifestyle” going forward but I doubt it. Body count matters.

[@leonlance271]

100% agree with you, the warnings signs were there. He just decided to ignore them and believe it would all work out.

[@jsample7543]

This is how good guys end up turning into bad guys.

[@adrianrice6396]

Exactly! she helped birth his villain story

[@Xplojon]

If Mr. Mature never pointed out that there was an issue - she'd have still been with him. She was content to be in that space because of how he made her feel, knowing that the whole time she just wasn't feeling him on that level. You wasted his time and you're selfish. I could have excused it if you were in your teens but in your mid-late 30s? Wow.

[@leonlance271]

I honestly feel bad for the ex, it seemed like he's an upstanding guy. Who made the mistake of marrying his partner. Who really wasn't ready to be a wife. The warning signs were there. He just decided to ignore them in hopes that she would genuinely love him. Thats why body count does matter for men. A woman with a high body count will more than likely return to their original habitat/mindset. This has less to do with intimacy and more to do with mental health and self worth.

[@seeatlanta1408]

She wasn’t physically attractive to him. What’s that got to do with body count? I will say this…if she wasn’t physically attracted to him then she should have let that be known in the beginning so they wouldn’t have had to go through all that, but trust me…physical attraction is EVERYTHING in a relationship. your proverbs 31 woman will always get dropped for a freak. Just because a woman’s man is still around don’t always mean he’s there because she’s attractive. Life is LOOONG my guy. You DON’T wanna be with anyone you can’t physically see yourself with for the long term

[@leonlance271]

@@seeatlanta1408 there's a term called Alpha widow. This refers to a woman who has been romantically involved with a man who she perceives to be her "alpha male" ideal, but the relationship has ended. The woman remains emotionally attached to the man/s, even though he is no longer a part of her life. The fact that she mentioned that she had been "exploring". Hints at the possible fact that the could have been in multiple relationships or situationships. Hence why I mentioned body count. Had she spent more time building a health relationship with herself. Rather than being in constant situationships. I believe both parties would had a better chance.

[@seeatlanta1408]

@@leonlance271 you can’t keep shoving broccoli down my throat and expect me to someday like it. Ok so let’s say what you mentioned is true, it doesn’t prove anything other than she likes what she likes. Now if you’re suggesting that in order for someone to like strawberry ice cream that you don’t introduce another flavor of ice cream for the person to compare it to then I think you’re setting yourself up for failure. Yes, past relationships and sex partners do play a big part in a persons future, however i just don’t believe that was this situation. The dude wasn’t her physical type and / or he wasn’t putting it down correctly. Nothing more nothing less. I’d challenge you to find someone you’re not physically attracted to and make it work and let me know how that works out. Nobody even knows what the dude looked like to judge because I guarantee if the dude looked like a Somalian war pirate wouldn’t nobody be saying a word about this woman. Everybody would say “ok I get it”

[@leonlance271]

@@seeatlanta1408 Firstly broccoli is good for you lol. Secondly what do you have against Somalia men (joking). All jokes aside Rhonda is essentially the example of what not to do with yourself and with your relationships. In my original post I mentioned that the man was also in the wrong. He should have spent more time veting her to ensure she would meet his needs. He lacked discipline as had he maintained a solid mindset. All of these matters would have either been dealt with or would have never happened. I appreciate Rhonda honesty but she need to work on herself before considering starting a new relationship.

[@3DGamer2B]

@@leonlance271yea you got a point but she clearly didn’t know that so that’s what life experiences does it teaches you the differences… Body count does matter.. For MEN and WOMEN… not just for women

[@darrenjohnson5001]

As a man you have to make sure that woman is physically attracted to you first. I was in this guys place before not as long (thank God) but You could be a top tier guy in regards to personality/morals/character etc. but if she is not physically and sexually attracted to you it will not work no matter how much you try. Better to realize it and walk away from jump rather than

[@kilamoblack7532]

This was hard to watch, but I think every young man should watch this video. You can't negotiate attraction. Either she is feeling you or she is not. Good men need to learn this as soon as possible to avoid frustration. I went through a similar experience at 18 and 19 and became a player for the next 3 years and brought pain to other women. It took me a while to get on the right path.

[@jayjonah83]

​@@eclecticvibes3868FACTS. I KNOW I've broken hearts because my heart was broken. some people never break the cycle

[@MrShades77]

Simping is bad for your soul and your mental health and he should never have spoken or seen her again

[@latoyahammond1491]

I just love Rhonda!!! Thank you sis for sharing!!🤎

[@traybae1353]

I love this podcast...keep up the great work...❤❤❤

[@godsangel67able]

The question I have is if she wasn’t interested in the guy why take marriage or anything from him

[@jayjonah83]

Short answer is, she started to like him. He probably treated her differently than she'd been treated before and he in essence, charmed her. He nourished her mind and spirit but not her body. In other words he had game just not dick game

[@mimimileigh2484]

Rhonda-girl, pickup up the phone. I'm a newer listener, but I'm calling to thank you for sharing. It ain't pretty tellin all the ugly that contributes to our wisdom, but it is cleansing. "You ain't no no saint, we all are sinners, but you put your good foot down and make your soul a winner. I RESPECT THAT." I thought you might appreciate a good tune. K, bye. ❤

[@relationshiprestored5016]

Thanks for watching! ❤️🙌🏾

[@Umdringside]

She seems like a nice person and learning how to improve. As a romantic partner she is pretty vile and dont think she deserves " what she is looking for". You can be both things and still be a good person. Some people just arent dating material.

[@Tellitlikeit]

Dude need the simp award asap

[@keshashaw7282]

Y’all doing good!! Keep going!!

[@AA-ig9re]

The story at 1:12:00 is why you don't bother with a girl who's not initially attracted to you.

[@tamikasmith6075]

I’m glad I discovered the podcast and episode. I relate to what she went through as I’m currently going through now. I’m dating a great guy but the sexual attraction is not there. I feel so bad sometimes because he treats me soo well and is very loving towards me but I just can’t get past my sexual needs not being fulfilled

[@relationshiprestored5016]

Thanks For Watching! ❤️🙌🏾

[@jeremiahmansaray2642]

It was great that you were very honest but she is the most selfish person I have heard from. I will be shocked if any great man will gravitate towards you. Wish you the best though

[@bearrilla9496]

Hearing stories like this makes it hard to date

[@jetwayjesus]

Turned a good guy into a savage.

[@ms.angiesworld8696]

This was such a GREAT episode! ❤️❤️

[@giegor28]

Great show 👏..pair bonding hormones for her are diminished because of ... 🤷‍♂️..

[@decorluv5395]

Loved this episode so, so much. Love you Rhonda! ❤

[@nvbrownnb]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 per usual

[@shannonminor9196]

Had me crying Rhonda!! 😢❤

[@mrh4306]

Love this content. Don't feel sorry for the guy at all. This is what happens when you try to use chivalry and romance to substitute for natural attraction, chemistry and flow. He KNEW she wasn't attracted to him, that's why he was so over the top with the flowers and anonymous notes in the beginning.

[@Xplojon]

Nothing wrong with shooting your shot - He saw a girl that he liked and went after her. She should have been more forthcoming with how she felt about him - wasted his time because of how he made her feel. It was selfish.

[@user-vl7fm8ck2m]

I woman could be in the wrong and yall would still try to put the blame on the guy lol.

[@Prettyrimaa]

Favorite episode.. thank you Rhonda for sharing alll this with us! Love you! & your Mr. Right is coming soon, I’m praying on it! 🤍🤍

[@RhondaMcLendon]

💜

[@briacasey2749]

Yessssssss Rhondaaa *Mona Voice*

[@claudewashingtonkevinthoma6527]

This was great! I have been wanting to get into Rhonda’s real love scenario…I see her a little differently now. Thanks for being vulnerable and transparent!

[@rhondamclendon1171]

Thank you!!!!! 🫶🏾🫶🏾

[@javanwatson8024]

Rhonda aka Aunt fluffy looks good!

[@adrianrice6396]

Y'all in Northern VA ? lol funny

[@3DGamer2B]

So are you saying having casual sex is a little easier to deal with based on different factors that play a part in your life????

[@Ana_theeofficial]

Thank you Rhonda for your transparency and sharing your journey with us ❤

[@JJ88371]

Thank you for your vulnerability Rhonda, I related on so many things you touched on and I shed those tears with you ❤

[@alanfortune3092]

I think Rhonda's intentions were in the right place and that she tried to get into Mr. Mature on a physical level At the very least she told him the truth. She made mistakes repeatedly throughout the relationship it wasn't something that she couldn't hide. At least give her that....

[@shahnazwillis3931]

That was a great experience of life. After such hurdles you have gone through. I DO HOPE NOW YOU COULD HAVE A BETTER PERSON TO SHARE YOUR LIFE WITH. STAY BLESSED FOR A BETTER FUTURE . ALL THE WAY FROM AFRICA TANZANIA THE COUNTRY SO MANY ATTRACTIONS.

[@konekassem303]

I mean her ex is the victim here...wtf are you talking about?

[@RhondaMcLendon]

Thank you. To be fair, my ex is a great man. Overall we just couldn’t make it work for romance despite our efforts, but we are friends today and big supporters of one another. Thank you for the well wishes! Sending you love and light all the way to Tanzania! 💜

[@Mari-vc5zn]

11:05 preach

[@joannepp2621]

Really liked this episode! Rhonda being a bit more vulnerable was a breath of fresh air! She is so precious, love this girl

[@jomo7002]

You won't find a man like that again in your 40s that you're also sexually attracted to we need to be honest it won't happen. You let a good man go by because of your own selfish desires. This is why I'm no way an advocate and never have been for having a hoe phase! All of my friends who have had multiple men are still single in their 30s and trying to find the right 'one'. Women under 21 take notes of the sort of path you don't want to take.

[@Practitionher]

Like Dre . “I can do this for hours , and hours , and hours “🎤 I’m an INFJ and this podcast speaks so much to my soul and my intellect . I too will be in the club like “tell me more” . Love love love talking about psychology and relationships . It’s the very fabric of Human Beings ❤ All publicity is good publicity . Hi haters 👋🏾✋🏾👋🏾

[@jesmcalli]

This woman deserves to be alone. What an absolute scumbag move to pull, knowing right out of the gate she wasn't physically attracted to him. But she took advantage of his gestures though. She probably ruined that man for the woman that would've actually loved him.

[@laurynricho1539]

I haven’t watched yet but i’m extra lit rn!! So here for Rhonda’s scenario and take on love! I remember her saying in an episode, not sure which, “The better you get at you, the better you’ll get at all the relationships you participate in.” and when I say THAT WAS A WORD!! that has stuck with me since, and i’ve genuinely been trying to get better at me and I see how interacting with others has become so much easier…. can’t wait to see what she leaves with this time, especially since it’s her story!! so exiteddd in my Kevin Heart voice!😂LOVE YOU GUYS❤️❤️

[@rhondamclendon1171]

Thank you so much! 💜

[@3DGamer2B]

And ummm ms Rhonda I’m doing the math over here. You was about 14-15 years old m,messing with a 25-27 year old. “Much Much older she says 😂

[@corymatthews6778]

So she used the guy for years just cause he provided a form of stability? No comment about this lady except fellas run when you see her

[@Bizrack]

This is why body count matters. He should've been with a woman who was just like him, more sexually inexperienced.

[@EezeeGroover]

I know why she wasn't sexually attracted to him. He was too nice. As much as women so they want that type of treatment, they feel like if a guy is too nice, then he's too scared to lose her because he has no options. The less options a woman thinks a man has, the less sexually attractive he is.

[@3DGamer2B]

I’m confused as I don’t know what… what you mean it wasn’t satisfying? You was in a relationship with him for a hot minute and you just now telling him,,, You too Mr. Mature… all these years go by and all of a sudden you questioning your sex life? I don’t like that in between fake stuff, You both overlooked this sex issue in the beginning( say you didn’t press for her cat for 3-4 months) Now all of sudden you put the cat on a timer,(talking about it been a month) If you want the cheese cuz just tell her…(😂😅) I’m sure she will oblige. Mr. Mature a lil weird, from the first 🚩 When he lied and was scared to tell you he was sending flowers.smh Then you turn around and let the cat out of the bag( open relationship) THE OLDER GENERATION (you look damn near 50) DO NOT UNDERSTAND YOUNGER WOMEN 😂 Trying to Marvin Gaye that thing He don’t know anything about PEACHES and EGGPLANTS 😂😅

[@Sexxylove28]

Wow thank you Rhonda for being transparent I learned some things with you sharing your story. I'm such a big fan of yall podcast. Many blessings ❤