Riding in Cars with Boys

2 video clips-one, about being a bad mother and two, about how his son was what saved her life.

[@ilikeafrica]

"I think that sometimes we love people so much that we have to be numb to it, because if we actually felt how much we really loved them it would kill us." I love that

[@Josh934]

And feel that too

[@kimberleeroberts9873]

It’s completely true

[@allisonbeattie4738]

That quote has stuck with me ever since I saw this movie 20 years ago. I always felt like this is true because I love my family so much sometimes it feels like I can't breathe.

[@kimberleeroberts9873]

It’s true

[@ClaraZombie]

I love how she's like "I'm a terrible mother" and Jason is just like "yeah..."

[@mrandymcool]

She was getting high with her friend while her son fell into the pool. It took her a few seconds to realize her son was drowning. I say she's about 100% right.

[@DJoy221]

"I'm a terrible mother" "Yeeeah" :D Always makes me laugh in a terribly sad moment.

[@adaj472]

Ikr? Damn 😂

[@TheLovelylove]

Drew Barrymore was robbed of an Oscar nomination,this is one of the best screen performances ever!

[@spike16965]

I totally agree

[@svnsknz]

TheLovelylove agreed

[@homieblossom2550]

I think Brittany Murphy was robbed also

[@Makaylah13]

Lets not exaggerate

[@kendrellbolton1647]

Big facts

[@ChrisWolff2013]

We miss you Brittany =(

[@darthashizardprimecosplay9416]

Agreed, she was really good playing Luane from King of the Hill

[@Madio2008]

My aunt's life was basically exactly the same, so you can learn to appreciate this movie. It's real lives in America.

[@mialarsson4972]

It’s interesting to see how Amelia is with her mother in this scene - running over to Fay and cuddling with her. Bev’s and Jason’s relationship is complicated not only cause Bev is a teen mom but because she has a habit of putting herself and her needs and dreams first, before her son, often without even realizing she does it.

[@annamarievids]

"I'm a terrible mother.." "..Yeah." hahaha. I love this movie.

[@wordswrittenbyme2109]

This is one of the best most emotional scenes in the movie. I love it. Beverly being so honest with her best friend and faith giving it back. If she didn't love jason she wouldn't of saved him. The fact that she didn't think about herself at all jumping into that water says everything.

[@butterflyhippie123]

The moment she realized she did love Jason after all.

[@andrewcolinwilson1]

Yeah well, nobody is a perfect parent.

[@runnersdialzero1244]

I'm not so sure about that.

[@cynthiaababe]

"i'm a terrible mother." ....."yeah" LOL

[@andrewcolinwilson1]

Bev shouldn't think that way and besides, nobody is a perfect parent anyway.

[@BazTheStoryteller]

RIP Britney Murphy. We'll miss you.

[@chylamediaqueen451]

I connect with this movie so much . u feel just like her. I didn't have my kid at 16 but at 20. but the father is an abusive and doesn't have a role in our lives. and I'm doing everything on my own. it sucks. I had a best friend who was going through the same thing just like me and just like her in the movie but she ended up betraying me.

[@shinsukenakamura9322]

chylamedia queen how did she betray you

[@shinsukenakamura9322]

chylamedia queen fay didn't betray Beverly in the movie

[@dudetocartman]

@@shinsukenakamura9322 She did. She choose to move away and move in with her brother and not speak to Bev again. Fay betrayed her. She didn't want to step up to her brother.

[@NA-qn4zp]

hope you're doing better now miss

[@susancourchene3162]

Girl same 😢

[@sofierenee5336]

She would have been better off giving that kid up for adoption

[@desisarod]

Is not an easy thing to do... But yeah she should

[@alexine9806]

sofie renee it's really not.... Parenting is not easy that's why it takes to. so doing it on your own your bound to make mistakes and kids will definitely push your buttons innocently...and at times I want to pull my hair out and call it quits but I love my daughter more than that to put her thru the process knowing she loves me. and I'm really all she's got. unless your beating, or harming your child purposely than by all means give your child up

[@assyrianprincess3]

Not really, her son ended up being a very respectable young man who went to college. And she got her masters degree and became a famous writer.

[@Silvercentipede]

People can be accomplished on the outside but still fucked up. You can see the emotional wounds in him later on in the film

[@sexychula19]

Yeah but thankfully through all he turned out fine and turned out to be a really good man despite everything that’s what I like about this movie the most that he turns out ok

[@datickywickygurl]

i wish i was as profound as fay when im stoned lol. but seriously, i love this scene and i looooove what fay says about being numb to the people we love. this movie is just excellent in every way possible

[@DDios-ih9de]

I love this movie One of my favorite Drew movies

[@mariacolburn3300]

E.T movie ,she shined. :)

[@emmaq3250]

If you relate to drew in this, you might need to try and look at your parenting. If you think like this about your kid they’re gonna be damaged. My mom was like this towards me and it’s so hurtful, and I don’t think I’ll ever heal from it. And even if you feel guilty and constantly apologize like she does, that doesn’t make it okay either. In fact making yourself the victim and getting so upset just makes the child feel even worse.

[@sarabobara8458]

clearly you dont have kids cause EVERY parent goes through this. Ps, I am a child and family therapist. Slide down off that high horse.

[@maxfr142]

@@sarabobara8458 Just because most parents go through this, doesn’t mean they can treat their child as Beverly did. Jason is fucked up due to his mother... no one would have a chance if all parents acted as she did.

[@Mariagabrielaromano]

@@sarabobara8458my heart breaks for the kids sent to you. Parents can have this questions but that doesn’t justify projecting their pain in agressive ways to kids. If this happens commiting to learn healthier responses is important, otherwise the adult will be fueling a cicle where both parent and kid get more and more damaged. It’s clear some therapeutics approaches deepens long term harm just to help adults avoid uncomfortable feelings.

[@alysonc.3833]

One of my FAVORITE MOVIES TO THIS DAY. Especially when I need a good cry 🤍

[@ldcWhereJustFar]

I remember watching this as a little kid like 10 Maybe younger, and the scene when jason fell into the pool and almost drowned scared the absolute shit out of me lol. I think this is drew Barrymore’s best movie.

[@mimilloyd8690]

Mandella Effect!!!!! I swore it was "sometimes we love people so much we have to be numb to it, otherwise our hearts will burst." I wrote this on my wall.

[@Gracem2013]

MiMi Lloyd Weird. I remember it exactly the way she says it in this clip.

[@CarissaConti]

@@Gracem2013 It's not weird. You remembered it accurately. She didn't, and is trying to blame a fake paranormal event for her own bad memory. So tired of this "Mandela Effect" bullshit for every little thing that people can't remember accurately.

[@digicamerachick]

"im a terrible mother","yeah" lololololololol

[@andrewcolinwilson1]

How can she say that? She's doing the best she can. Besides, nobody is a perfect mother.

[@0dour]

"im a terrible mother!" "..Yeah."

[@nicoledaniellemanning4492]

0dour she was so mean to Jason

[@spike16965]

This scene always gets to me. Love this movie and she deserved an Oscar for this

[@DDios-ih9de]

I've felt the same way Still do.. About loving ones child

[@dandanmanlyman]

It's refreshing to hear from another woman. Nobody talks about the struggle of identifying with motherhood because woman are just supposed to identify with it naturally.

[@andreaante9103]

I just noticed that she like to have a daughter than a son but I think deep inside she loves her son

[@giaboud8110]

I CANT BREATHE *im a terrible mother* *yeah*

[@gttoblstr]

it has nothing to do with being a young mother... do you have children? if you do you should understand and can relate. im pretty sure that question has crossed all parents minds, even mine.

[@creepyshaka]

Omg I’m realizing now as an adult that they took ecstasy lol. Damn it’s crazy I’ve had the same conversation, not knowing that art imitated my life long ago in one of my favorite movies.

[@MA-rn2xp]

It was acid

[@melaniemills4505]

The one thing about this movie that bothered me is that Drew's character didn't seem to really bond with her child...she wasn't very affectionate toward him. 🤔

[@F12-u6l]

She blamed him for all her problems

[@Silvercentipede]

That was the point she hated him; this was a film about child abuse and I refuse to believe anything else

[@dandanmanlyman]

That's the point. The movie is about her conflict of loving her child but resenting him for making her a mother before she was ready and when she really didn't want to be. It challenges the way we look at women as being "naturally maternal" and how women who aren't don't have a place in society. And then, how children are badly effected because of it.

[@spike16965]

Because her character blamed her child for her not achieving her dreams.

[@spike16965]

@@dandanmanlyman great insight

[@SunBunz]

2:20 I was so pissed at her for being so mean to her adorable little boy. But when she finally admits she’s a terrible mother, and later finally stopped being selfish and said “I screwed up.”

[@cfinley81]

She is a PRIME example on why teens shouldn't have children and why they are not mentally or emotionally mature enough to handle it.

[@Bella-Mae0422]

​@@cfinley81you are absolutely correct but I personally don't want to believe that every teen acts like her when under that situation. I'm sure there are a few exceptions of good parents who are teens. Being a parents really is extremely difficult, rewarding...but my goodness exhausting.

[@rizwong7761]

"Im a terrible mother" "Yeahhh..." Lmao! Kid didnt hesitate!

[@andrewcolinwilson1]

Me: (to Bev from 4:45 to 4:47) No, you're not! Don't ever say that. Besides, you're doing the best you can.

[@jonathanfunnell4167]

bev should of waited til they came back from the movies to thank fayes mother

[@nummzy123]

I still can't believe she's gone even after 2 years

[@ryannriggan1700]

I can't believe that me and drew barrymore have met in life I've been a drew barrymore fan since I was in tenth grade and now that we know we've become really good friend's after all love rypie

[@pugfan6866]

Faye was a better mother than Beverly

[@junesalehi-little6496]

I agree

[@Bella-Mae0422]

Fay was kind, warm, genuine, compassionate, sincere.. all the things that Bev lacked. Bev really wasn't mother material.

[@pugfan6866]

Faye's parents were good grandparents, Bev's parents were shitty grandparents

[@sarabobara8458]

@@Bella-Mae0422 Its easy to be a good mom when you have a good support system.

[@Silvercentipede]

I’m sorry but when Brittany said that quote I feel it was bullshit and just her trying to say something insightful to make sense of the situation, or at least it may have been true on her part, Bev did genuinely hate her son

[@Bella-Mae0422]

Yeah, she blamed her son for why she didn't get to live her "dream".. then maybe she should have kept her legs closed when she was suppose too.

[@pugfan6866]

@Brittany923; she should have just given him up for adoption

[@katydid917]

@@pugfan6866 Especially after she found out he was boy since she reacted that way.

[@pugfan6866]

@Katydid91; you're right it was like that she did not want him because she had a boy instead of a girl. Even if she had a girl, she still would have been a shitty mother regardless

[@sithvsjedi9696]

Wow, this must be one of the oldest clips on KZbin. I love MDMA btw 🥰

[@robynlilly3635]

What were the real reasons why Fay's parents didn't like Beverly? Her and Fay have a great friendship. Ok I see that Bev shouldn't of called Fay's mom an ice crotch, but the mom didn't have to punish Jason by not taking him to the movies. I actually feel sorry for him for what his mom did.

[@runnersdialzero1244]

I'm thinking they probably (incorrectly) assumed Bev was a bad influence and was a big part of the reason Fay got pregnant. Just my interpretation, though.

[@Bella-Mae0422]

They believed that Bev was a bad influence on Fay and watching Bev throughout the movie she wasn't exactly the most likeable person and the way she treated her son majority of the time, neglecting him emotionally, treating him like a burdon showed how cold and selfish she can be. Bev cared about her son in her own way but kept blaming him as for why she didn't get to go to college and live her dreams. And I think Fays mom didn't want to take Jason to the theater after her "ice crotch" comment bc she knew that would be exactly what Bev would want, to have someone else take her son for a bit out of her hair bc it was clear that Bev never enjoyed mothering Jason. And she probably never even knew about the "ice crotch" comment until just then when she brings it up to her but bc Bev was already rolling on ectasy she shared too much info. Fays mother wasn't personally attacking Jason but not gonna help Bev out either.

[@katydid917]

They probably see her as the ungrateful narcissist that she is and considers her to be a bad influence on Fay.

[@sarabobara8458]

@@Bella-Mae0422 its not that bev is a bad mom for wanting a break... you have to remember she is a single mother and isnt getting a break from her kid the father is a dead beat so yes she is burnt out

[@Bella-Mae0422]

@@sarabobara8458 I agree but the end of the day Jason didn't ask to be apart of any of that mess. It just wasn't fair how she treated Jason majority of the time.

[@s.hfagun6603]

Anyone 2020?

[@NicholeSnickers23]

*crys* my favorite part. sad, my mother was a young mother, and I was too. I hade my doughter at 13...sad! lol but I felt this way too! I love her though, she will be 10 in December! O.o lol

[@loveablemeggy]

@JLOTZZ acid,it was a pill form back then and in the book it says they shared acid together

[@loveablemeggy]

@needles1987 nope acid. we dont see it in pill forms these days but it is indeed acid. ive also read the book and it said they were taking acid,and i dont think e was around in the early 70s

[@Mimilz6]

She kinda was a terrible mother!

[@TheAmandakev]

Michelle Lynette nah. she was just a mother.

[@toyboimaniac1661]

She got pregnant at 15. She did her best.

[@Silvercentipede]

No I agree she was a terrible mother, you can see the hate in her eyes when she looks at her son. Ray with all his unforgivable faults, you could tell really loved and had a bond with the child. Pregnant at 15 or not it’s not the child’s fault. It’s just a shame cos you can tell she was never really supposed to be a mother, or at the very least be a mother at a much much later date. I know people who got pregnant young unexpectedly and they love the kid to death and wouldn’t change anything, you could tell Bev would change everything in a heartbeat. I can sympathise with her at times but there is no one I feel more sorry for in this film than the child. Pregnant at 15 or not it’s not the child’s fault.

[@evelyntarawa7140]

Drew Barrymore Should of been REWARDED FOR THIS BUT ITS DOESN'T MATTER SHE AND BRITNEY ARE LEGENDS BOTH CONGRATS 🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤

[@0dour]

lmfao i love this movie

[@abigailmoore4058]

Is him drowning real I am bawling my eyes out here😭😭😭

[@erich84502ify]

Good acting

[@kristypersaud4914]

I have watch this movie for the first time riding cars in with boys,

[@morganira04]

BriTTANY!!!! Murphy

[@lovelyswimmer1]

What kind of pills were those?

[@morganelizabeth7883]

Ecstasy I believe.

[@karly2393]

she was soo meann!

[@junesalehi-little6496]

Who...Fay's mom?

[@kiturakhan4764]

I was a great mother and I would have been the best if I didn't have to rely on other assholes to help me.

[@dave1986R]

I thought no they dropped acid

[@juliafloreshernandez6854]

Did drew won a golden globe for this rol?

[@Dantheman14510]

Why do fay’s parents not wanna talk to bev?

[@katydid917]

They probably see her as the ungrateful narcissist that she is and considers her to be a bad influence on Fay.

[@jonathanfunnell4167]

Why wouldn't Fays Mom take Jason to the movies?

[@tylerwedell3750]

Cause Bev insulted Fays mom admitting calling her Ice Squash a million times

[@brianmccormick3837]

Regarding Jason, is it Cody or Logan Arens who plays him in this scene?

[@luannrgezxfhrghcdd7060]

Jason Jason Jason is every where ?

[@NoIdiots]

love it

[@JLOTZZ]

what were those pills?

[@keepingupwiththishotmess7304]

Acid

[@runnersdialzero1244]

tylenol

[@KidsPlanetTV]

Cool video, charityoh22

[@clazza01]

spiteful to jason

[@peteraustinnoto]

GO GO GO PETER AUSTIN NOTO

[@drequaunthompson445]

20th anniversary

[@JackLivesTogether]

Yeah

[@alwaysopen7970]

SO?

[@needles1987]

I think they're taking e.

[@dxmxo9427]

🤣

[@DrLeoMarvin241]

she doesnt even jump in to save him right away? she is a horrible mother in a shitty movie. The only good part is steve zahn reconnecting with his son at the end of the movie

[@Loviekinz]

"yeah we got knocked up" lol I like this movie