Unlocking Forgiveness: Overcoming Church Offenses to Find Healing

[@RitaSpringer]

How have you been able to walk out offenses you've experienced in the church?

[@brightembers1284]

I think the only way is to have a real relationship with Jesus and remember that it’s not about me. I don’t expect perfection from people just like I know how far I am from being perfect. “The love of God has been shed abroad in my heart by the Holy Spirit”. I wouldn’t say I’ve dealt with it well either. It’s caused me to wander from God, to sell myself for comfort in a way. Seasons where I was, spiritually speaking, like Gomer, hiding in my woundedness because I didn’t yet have the maturity to confront what was happening. Ultimately the Love of God kept me. My heart was never far from Him. His patient waiting until I was ready to respond. But if I didn’t have a basis in the Word and truth and in a life of worship, idk that I’d have made it. We’re all in need of The Savior.

[@frostyneal4081]

Honestly I went to Jesus and want to take some time letting him heal me before I ever do anything else in the church. I don't don't need to spin any other plates until I'm healed. He loves my songs to Him and I love singing them to him.

[@robertkendall1037]

As a young man I went to Pastoral counseling to try and sort out my pain only to have them put the blame back on me. That was way back in the late 60's. My childhood was filled trauma and abuse so their response really compounded the pain. Im now approaching 70, involved in a wonderful Vineyard near me but I'm asking Jesus if I've ever really forgiven those pastors way back in 1968-71 that increased my harm. Time to listen better and see if there is more repentance needed. Thank you for this

[@patriot4amer]

In my humanness....NO IN God's GRACE...YES Earthly journeys need heavenly GRACE

[@patriot4amer]

Broken and wounded Christians need a safe place to heal

[@andrewcrawley8607]

This was so timely! The communication methods of parable vs direct !! Having walked into a meeting being direct and it all blowing up on me.... Thankyou for sharing this

[@patriot4amer]

Love the transparency and true connectivity on this podcast

[@robertkendall1037]

The past part of your discussion? Story vs direct is spot on, so good. Thanks for this. So wise

[@warmsunset62]

Rita - this is soo needed. Issues that we CARRY and unnecessarily. We have '' expectations '' of, about others. They also to a degree, them of me. Yet, the communication........ Important we hold Jesus Christ very firmly/strongly F I R S T others like me and you, we are humans. We are soo flawed. To n o t have such expectations from others, soo reduces...... our openness to being wounded and hurt. But the beautifulness of Jesus Christ - with Him, we c a n be fully open. Hold onto Jesus Christ very tightly F I R S T. ....... Doing the will of THE FATHER.

[@melindaferreira9879]

Wow . " Get right with the Lord so that he can right our bad behavior.." I'm chewing on this.. 🙏🏽

[@judithball4404]

@RitaSpringer Thank you so much for this word. So encouraging and also so challenging. Praise God for your wisdom and experience. God bless you abundantly 🕊🙏🏽

[@charlottebarclay4631]

Aunty Rita you are so right. Didn't know all this craziness happened in the church.

[@patriot4amer]

Awareness of our own human limitations to forgive.....leads us to call on heavenly GRACE...to impower our wounded soul to FORGIVE...

[@dawnmiller8461]

Gosh, I don’t know if Rita will ever see this… But I wanted to say a BIG thank you, for addressing this topic. I stumbled (I know the “stumble” was Holy Spirit directed), on these podcasts talking about church hurt. I’ve felt called to ministry my whole life, and this past year, swore off church forever, because of all the junk I’ve seen and experienced within the church walls. The perspective and wisdom you bring to the table on this subject, is unmatched, imo. You truly have a mother’s heart, that allows for frank and honest conversations, that are VERY hard for others to have and actually see breakthrough. Just in the couple of podcasts I’ve listened to, such healing has come. It feels like balm being spread on my heart. Thank you for being so honest, and willing to talk about the hard stuff. You are an absolute treasure. ❤

[@warmsunset62]

Yes Rita. To move on in Christ - i need....... to abide in Christ. Seeing that leadership are also h u m a n - no more and no less than me. From a place of healing - there comes a strength that was not there before. to KNOW the abiding - ha a depth of abiding more and more in Christ and Jesus Christ alone. [humans will always disappoint - but Jesus C Christ still - ever loves and stays on in loving.

[@jodidorothyroberts6696]

This is incredible! What a lesson on communication

[@desormais22]

That was a mind-blowing revelation there…depending on who you’re speaking to, it matters whether to speak in parables or directly…wow. This would’ve helped so much had i understood this all these years ago, but no time like the present 😅

[@melindaferreira9879]

Oh my gosh.. yes.. I so appreciate the ugly honest why.. I'd rather be hurt with truth than comforted with a lie or a vague answer.. be brutal with me.. so I can learn..

[@frostyneal4081]

This has really helped me face my hurts that turned into bad behavior. Anger ,hurt and cutting opinions towards other leaders. Thank you for honesty and transparency.

[@lydiasmith4995]

This couldn’t be more timely. Thank you.

[@SarahElizabeth-qe5bs]

So incredibly true

[@cindylou82kingdom36]

I LOVE this! I so appreciate your wisdom and transparency and desire to follow His voice in every situation! I am inspired to do better where I am called to do better. Thank you so very much!

[@CandaceFriedrichs]

I had to begin to understand (and I do not do it perfectly) that these scenarios actually shine a light on my places of woundedness. Not saying that these are not validly horrible experiences (as Tim Keller called it "the wilderness-ness of our lives), but I had to begin to reframe everything in order to understand those negative experiences are kind of where we are being discipled, refined in the fire, by Jesus. It has helped me to see that the messy & hard is how He changes me, how He leads me more truly into the identity He bestows on us .... what others think of me is not my business, and letting go and letting God is how we can overcome - surrender, right? Not holding on to it, which for me, I can only do by crying out to Abba. And if He gives the opportunity to me to have a hard conversation with someone I am struggling with, to be brave enough to be honest. I'm not saying it is easy. It is hard. But He is WITH us in it.

[@HappyHolyHealthyLife]

Thank you! Can you make a video on how you learned to hear God's voice so clearly? ❤🙏🏽🙌🏾🤗

[@patriot4amer]

1..realize our human limitations 2..call on God's loving power..GRACE 3..Allow GOD'S GRACE..to impower

[@gabrielamorales9846]

Thank you so much for this teaching ! I really needed to hear this!! So much wisdom and love!

[@ouroboros822]

This is so helpful. Thank you! I Had the same experience!

[@michellecampos7455]

Omg this is so true. Sometimes the inner workings of the church is worse than secular jobs. All the rules and regulations. Ugh.

[@lovenomsomarie844]

Would you believe it if I told you that God asked me to start a study on this same thing? 8:58 Thank you.

[@warmsunset62]

to put Christ FIRST. Ask this question to myself is w h y w h a t - is the reason as to why and what am i doing what / why am I doing ? m o t I v e ....... m o t I v e ...... to be found in Christ f I r s t . So that when the misunderstanding / misguided response returns to us. We fall before The Lord - that Gods love RULES and REIGNS . He is the one who carries me. The church is N O T perfect. To see the church as God does. I / me -- in myself in Christ have to move one and mature in Christ.

[@doobee125]

my earlier comment was automatically deleted.....hmmm...another unsafe place???

[@moniquewrites9046]

Sometimes KZbin will delete those it’s a glitch

[@GreenCrusher1968]

I will take a true pastor any day over a preacher who just has pastor as a title but has no clue how to be one.