Forgiving What You Can't Forget Bible Study by Lysa TerKeurst | Session 1

Have you ever felt stuck in a cycle of unresolved pain, playing offenses over and over in your mind?
You know you can't go on living like this, but you don't know what to do next. And you just don't know if you'll ever get past it.
In this six-session video Bible study, Lysa TerKeurst has walked this journey, wrestling with deep wounds that feel impassible and struggling to move forward. And she's discovered that, to find life-giving freedom, we have to let go of our bound-up resentment and resistance to forgiving people who've hurt us. With deep empathy, therapeutic insight, and rich Bible teaching coming out of 1,000 hours of study, Lysa helps us:
- learn how to move on when the other person refuses to change and never says they're sorry;
- walk through a step-by-step process to free ourselves from the hurt of our past and feel less offended today;
- discover what the Bible really says about forgiveness and the peace that comes from living it out right now;
- identify what's stealing trust and vulnerability from our relationships so we can believe there is still good ahead; and
- disempower the triggers hijacking our emotions by embracing the two necessary parts of forgiveness.
Forgiving What You Can't Forget: Discover How to Move On, Make Peace with Painful Memories, and Create a Life That's Beautiful Again - bit.ly/30Eby2c
Lysa TerKeurst is president of Proverbs 31 Ministries and the #1 New York Times bestselling author of It's Not Supposed to Be This Way and Uninvited. She writes from her gray farm table and lives with her family in North Carolina. Connect with her at www.LysaTerKeurst.com or on social media @LysaTerKeurst.
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[@juliewhyte122]

This is not easy. (Forgiving) Dear LORD please help me.

[@dianetayman366]

Forgiveness does not erase the memory and mental flashbacks.

[@freshliving4199]

But forgiveness does erase the pain.

[@stefaniamirri1112]

Nor the fact it is us to will be paying the consequences if what has been done to us.. But we can forgive, the Lord showed me, if we see how our aggressor were put in our own same situation way before becoming aggressors. They rationally even think to display behavioyrs opposite to those if their abusers, or gaslight themselves and all those they also manipulated to believe so that they are different and good. They fall totally in the trap I would have fall too if I did not accept the Lord to show me what was realky going on tgere, cause I couldnt so bljnd I was to the truth by thay enCaging realuty I my self was caught in. Our Savior opened my eyes,and when I asked Him..but WE are paying the consequences of these unwanted things done to us!..He replied to me:" yes, but now you SEE me, NOW you CHOOSE ME and so YOU KNOW TO DO NOT BE ANYMORE ALONE, they still dont. Pic up your cross and walk, cause YOU KNOW where you are heading now. Serve me, be mine, there is work to do before I come back" and this huge feeling of URGENCY towards two dates, like a range of time: 2024-2026. I am scared, as I have no idea if those dares are d clusiveky for me/my life/my family..or for the world..but I report these dates everywhere, as He us coming back for real, and peple MUST KNOW IT IS TRUE

[@Bike4Life231]

How do you forgive someone who is continually being emotionally, mentally, financially and sometimes physically abusive to you and your children? How do you walk through that every day, knowing there will be more because he's still stuck in your life and your children's lives? I have the Lord in my life, but I just cannot do that at this point. I pray God will work in my life so that sometime down the road I can. I need the abuse to end before I can get there.

[@catherinebennett2948]

I understand when I have a flashback I pray for God's help I forgive again. I ask God to heal and comfort me. Hope this helps .

[@dianetayman366]

@@stefaniamirri1112 and Bike4. i have noticed through many years of living and ministry that most and not all men who are not born from above regard adultery as a very trivial and insignificant event. Women view it as a rare irreplaceable glass vase shattered on the floor, shards, ruined. she then walks through the glass with bare feet and it takes her decades to pull the 100's of sharp pieces of glass out. But the adulterer is perplexed because he views his actions as taking a pleasant and pleasureable walk on a sunny day. and this is wherein the trouble lies. The woman is in literal shock for decades. if the man when discovered would stand there like men of old and ripp the buttons off his shirt and fall to his knees in utter despair. remorse, and regret with rivers of tears, if he beat his chest with his fists, if he would humble himself before her and his broken children and seek forgiveness.... if he repented, renounced and laid it out ...but no he does not do these beautiful soul gestures. he is sitting there in all his cheap counterfeit glory stumped and confused trying to figure out why there is broken glass on the floor and everyone around him is bleeding and limping and wounded. To him his deeds were not serious. Adultery and cruelty to wives and children has millions of pieces to be contended with after it is revealed. After forgiveness, it is still all work on her part every second of the rest of her life. Jesus was very stern and vocal about adultery and it was not trivial to Him because He saw the carnage afterward. Just like in the physical realm, the eventual result is thick and twisting scars. Spiritual scar tissue just like physical always reminds us it is there when we bump into it.

[@karencasanova9769]

This lady is so real, so honest and relatable. Thank you for a powerful message.

[@rachelgriffore24]

I have been made to feel bad about my struggles with unforgiveness, but you help me to feel more human about it, i truly appreciate this ...as well as the steps in taking to let it go.

[@isaacali8695]

Forgiveness is really the only way to deal with your enemies as you let go and let God.

[@Egh0127]

Yeah but it's not as easy as when people say "forgive" um yes we have to forgive people that's not the point, the point is people need to learn what to do with the pain the emotional and mental pain they have from being abused or hurt by someone. I can forgive someone and still be hurt by what they did....

[@Egh0127]

They have to learn what to do with their pain so that they don't go on to hurt others or themselves. Healing can be Godly too and it's necessary...

[@Katherine-zk5zj]

​@@Egh0127 Watch the ultimate Mordecai channel on ex Jehovah's witness Katherine's testimony on the home page

[@angelanicoletti3330]

Amen.

[@sherrymorris5564]

I spend the pain! I do this by serving all the people who are in need in some way. The pain dissipates very quickly.

[@jessicamadorma4943]

I have never ever felt so connected to someone in my life. I feel like you are speaking all about me.

[@dinabarraza8958]

Well I guess I don’t need therapy anymore 😅 Possibly the best podcast I’ve ever watched. Thank you.

[@peggydietz6148]

Forgiving for me is setting me apart from those that have hurt me beyond words. I cannot have any reconciliation because they do not acknowledge or take any responsibility. This tells me to forgive them and let them go ; release them for your peace . Take the high road. One can’t make another resolve hurts with truth telling. They dismiss their behaviour, so walk away and let distance begin. A little love afar for those birthday and holidays , but stop with it there.

[@patriciaalbertson5183]

Reconcilation can only happen when both parties parcipate and move towards a healthy relationship...

[@marykaylor7337]

The only people who are afraid of "truth telling" are usually the ones not telling the truth. Psychology 101

[@ilovesunvalley]

Thank you for that. Not being seen (and harms done not accounted) is a core wound of mine. Walking away from the insanity is the healthiest thing I can do.

[@peggydietz6148]

Hey teammates on our higher ground to take . One thing I find very helpful is writing down various quotes , Poems, scripture and lyrics of songs that better use their words I so lack but can use another’s to express myself . I am building a recovery project for women recovering from trauma . Journaling is one of the first on list to begin. They will make several journals with the title for each one to gather inspiring words that will bring healing . Titles such as, grief , forgiveness, hope , affirmations and validations . Song lyrics , loneliness, betrayal, it is so refreshing to pen what is within you .

[@erinconner-desilvey927]

Thank you so much for the video. I am still recovering from my husband's affair, almost 4 years now but with God's help, we are in a place I never thought could happen.

[@brensteward1904]

As a Mom who gave her life to her 4 children, this forgiving vs. forgetting is beyond painful. Due to an unexpected and helpless injury several years ago, I was left in the care of chronic pain doctors. Surgery had left a metal plate and 9 screws in my humerus, and I was in excruciating pain. There were many dark days of pain and ultimate addiction to the painkillers I'd become dependent on to get thru the day. Three years ago when I finally WITH GOD'S HELP was delivered from all addiction, I gathered my children around me and begged forgiveness for anything and everything I'd unintentionally put them thru when I wasn't even aware due to the addiction. One of those 4 children, 4 years later, continues to remind me of all I did wrong as a Mom during those dark days. He refuses to attempt to forget, rather, he uses every opportunity to remind me. So forgiveness without at least praying and working toward forgetfulness is worthless. I don't believe God remembers our sins, in fact, the Bible tells us in essence that when we go back to God to apologize again, He doesn't know what we're referring to. My son's refusal to try to forget have me in a mental prison on earth.

[@cbeth9209]

I understand I think it might be a matter of forgiving self..may the peace of God be my portion and your portion in Jesus name ❤❤❤

[@cyohe8643]

You have done what is right in God's eyes. You have been forgiven by Him. Remind yourself of this when your son attacks you. Immediately start praying for your son when he attacks you. Your son is stuck in anger & bitterness. It's on him...not you. *hugs*

[@ercieberwick1513]

"As far as the east is from the west, he removes our sins and remembers them no more."

[@brensteward1904]

@@ercieberwick1513 , dear one, thank you..I awakened in the night just now and saw this notification.... you will never know the power and comfort of your words.... bless you, dear one ❤

[@brensteward1904]

@@cyohe8643 , I just now came across this, had no idea there was a reply. Thank you, humbly, for the encouragement. Your words, inspired by God, I believe, bring comfort and soothing to my soul. While my son continues to be abusive and painfully cruel, I keep reminding God, "he's yours, please work in his heart ". Thank you again, precious child of God ❤

[@elainewinter8626]

Forgiveness is real..writing down people to forgive is a great first step! Then as we actively forgive them when they come to mind we can forgive them again instead of reflect on what they did to us in life! It is very healing to our hearts first and enriches our souls! And I know that God is very pleased with our sacrifice to forgive!

[@ashleydowns7037]

3 and 6 are me

[@suzesinger6762]

'Overlooking - an offence' .... is using the grace which God supplies us with. Each time it happens ... we can become ...more Christ - like.

[@fashakinbanke3671]

I ended this video laughing because this video speaks so much to what I said to God in prayers, and to the questions I have had as well. Also corroborates my study of 1cor13:5 . God is really kind and this is just an encouragement to anyone reading this to be vulnerable with God and allow His word teach, correct and guide you even above your feelings/emotions.

[@jackieoesterman6688]

Everything is so true. The pain just doesn't go away, and mine has been years and years. What do i do?

[@jacktripper8726]

You read the book?

[@jacquelinemcgowan8164]

Thankyou so much, finally someone who qualifies to talk, not because you have got it all right, but for being honest, and still struggle, i am way past those who think they know but offer advice when they least do not qualify. Bless you i am struggling so much, has probably most if us are in this life, but then history hasnt ever been easy.

[@judithkellerman612]

I found especially in society as long as you give and give, all is fine, but when you need them, there is always some excuse. God has taught me to say No, buying a plant is so much more rewarding gives me more joy and pleasure, brings me closer and closer to my creator

[@paulajeanredditt841]

Trust in the Lord with all thine heart. In all thy ways, acknowledge HIM, and HE shall direct thy path! Proverbs 3:5-6

[@Linda-bj3bb]

If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 God requires repentance.

[@BlessAnonymous]

This must be God for me. He has been dealing with me a lot. I have to cease praying 🙏🏽. Thank God for you sharing your pain that you deal with as well. God works in us and mode His children daily. He knows our heart and He knows we trying to change daily. That’s why He said in His word repent daily. Thank God His mercy and grace. Be in courage. 🙏🏽

[@richellepeace4457]

All I've ever known... Just remember that if you are expendable so are others. Everyone has their cross, let them carry it because no one helps you with yours. And you are struggling with a season, try a lifetime. The weakness is you are willing to have these people in your life makes you socially needy. Benefits are for the betrayers.....

[@SunnysBibleASMR]

It’s hard when they are still living and cheating with someone only couple years older than the oldest child- it’s soooo hard - when they buy a house with her behind my back while I was away - they were house hunting on my 50th bday and our 10th anniversary… and knowing a year later I’m still crying and they still together but neither are even asking for forgiveness and act like they are justified some how Im supposed to be finishing about 12 books but I can’t seem to finish these books - and well Lysa- I met you with my mom at the first KLOVE FAN AWARD- and you told me to make my bed every day- to finish my book- well I still don’t make my bed and still haven’t finished a book 😂 and well my mom passed 4 months ago from the vaccine - lost the husband and then the past weekend he sold our house and now I’m in a camper in another state alone BUT IM MAKING MY BED- IM CLOSER TO GOD AND ALL IN TO START DOING ALL GOD WANTS ME TO… so I’ve learned about forgiveness and pain and purpose this past 18 months and the pain is so worth it- since finding the purposes that God has shown me through it… I know I will testify and boldly speak for God so the spiritual attacks hurt and are real but GOD WILL USE THESE SEASONS OF WEAKNESS IN ORDER TO SHOW HIS STRENGTH AND SO HE WILL GET THE GLORY IN OUR STORY - Amen 🙏

[@aestheticiantrishmccarty1317]

They will pay for what they've done in some way. I believe that. Praying for peace and healing to you and your children

[@rhondajohnston1744]

We have so much in common, the conversations we could have together. Praying for you!

[@kaviannaydenov3834]

La

[@manda-panda]

My husband of 13yrs did the same, left w a literal prostitute half our age, he started using meth w her. I was unable to conceive but they have a 8month old baby now. He cleaned out our account & they moved in a hotel together before I even knew what was happening. Left me w absolutely nothing. I thank God I can live w my Mom again. It's been over 2yrs now, but he refuses to sign the divorce bc "he loves me" 🤮Right. It's so painful & awful but 2yr out I'm finally starting to feel motivated to make my bed everyday, take a walk, envision a future w/out him. So many of us are going thru it right now. Stay strong Sis 🤍

[@nagadyabrenda2567]

😅 wahoo needed to hear all these. And to find some one who actually knows the pain, struggle throughout the process of forgiving and when I feel ur healed something new happens and you react so bad. 😔😢 Get reminded ur not yet there. But if all of you guys have made it then can't wait to make my bed tonight meditate on God's Faithfulness.

[@dewolfeFSP]

I found your videos and I'm struggling with this as well. You speak out for women but as a man I am dealing with a divorce that has me feel the same things. It's so difficult when you try to heal a relationship and they push away even harder and become hateful. I forgive fairly easy but then get walked on.

[@graceburks9406]

You gotta keeping on casting your bread upon the water it's gonna come back home on every wave Those are words of a song by Kenneth Copeland

[@barbsmart7373]

Gee. I really know what you mean. I haven't watched the video yet. But I hope you know that people can become really unbelievably nasty. In my life I have tried too hard with various hateful people. Sometimes it is better to walk away and not try so hard. A messy divorce must be a bit hellish. I have had 4 people be unbelievably destructive and cruel in the last many years. They are all women. They are not happy with themselves. I am an easy target because I have not had strict boundaries. I am the scapegoat for 3 sisters. My daughter takes after me and has a narcissistic partner. She is becoming destroyed by him. But I don't think she will leave him. She can't get anywhere with him being a narcissist, so she frequently takes things out on me. It is because I am always there for her. My girlfriend calls me the cat that gets kicked. I have to back off completely until the next time she's in a good mood or wants something. I found with my sisters that the better I became- more capable, more trusted by people, better off financially, or anything, the more they appeared to hate me. Envy was a big factor. Narcissistic rage was a huge thing. Dad pulled a mask off the sister who thought she was perfect. I believe women can be unbelievably revengeful. I just wish you all the best with getting through your divorce. I really identified with being forgiving etc.

[@cathyandresiak]

@@barbsmart7373 I agree that some women are very envious and can hurt other women deeply. I have come to believe that women are very good friends if you are doing bad and hurt and have gone through a really bad breakup and you are crying all the time, then they are kind. But if you are doing well and they think you have something they don't , looks, money, great boyfriend then they turn on you and can become very nasty and actually try to ruin you. I have come to realize that they would have to feel awful bad about themselves at the core of their being to treat a good friend or a sister this way. I have learned to set boundaries and I am careful who I get close to.

[@Linda-bj3bb]

We use people to get what we crave. This is emotionally demanding on the person or people who we are using. Our expectations may not be met, which then lead to disappointment, followed by hurt and anger which then leads us to “punish” others or ourselves. Our craving should be turned towards God and trusting Him to fulfill our desires and needs as He has promised over and over again in His word. His promises are wonderfully good and upright.

[@suzesinger6762]

@@cathyandresiak ...Hmmm - I 'get' you ! X It seems that the more authentic we become - the more secure. Their problem - is the opposite. ;)

[@hoademo965]

What a beautiful message. What if? I need this in my daily life practice. Lord, please help me to practice and work hard to rule over my emotions and grow in faith. Blessings to everyone!

[@Maggie005]

🙌🏽

[@JamesAustinHall]

God bless you mentally, physically, spiritually, and financially in Jesus name amen!

[@judithkellerman612]

Thank you, we are dealing with a very wicked ungodly person. He is full of darkness, worships idols and has money, so he thinks that he can rule...but Jesus is the light that breaks any darkness, my daughter is busy divorcing him. Narcissist, the king of this Hallelujah GID IS FAIR, FAITHFUL AND GOOD ALL THE TIME, 24/7 Your teaching is helping me a lot. 🙌

[@Adventureswithbecky]

The root word is for commune which means to say in ones heart or to think. Anger is not a sin it is when we act out in sinful ways from a root of resentment, bitterness or evil motives. Anger in itself is not sinful and to be hurt and think about what has happened to heal and move forward is not sinful. Not every wound passes and God doesn't expect it to. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting it simply releases the destructive anger, bitterness and resentment go. Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation all the time either. Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn't.

[@cristinadistefano2698]

Thank you Lysa for being so transparent. It blesses so many! You have blessed my life, as well as many others in the Proverbs 31 ministry. I pray for you.

[@reneebanbury7066]

This was sent to me today & even though it has been months since you put it on here … it’s the perfect timing for me! Thank you!

[@user-fl3rc6nv4x]

Hi I feel for you. I too have struggle with forgiveness from Birth to 77 and realised my needing to please has caused people to treat me abusively. So by taking responsibility. for my weakness look for insightful understanding stand up to bullying, it works we can’t change them only ourselves . Carol N.I.

[@jesserussell7242]

After going through our horrible divorce with my first life Melanie and the fact that Melanie doesn’t want to be friends with me or talk to me anymore that really hurts me and also being assaulted in 1999 by my little brother Cory because of druggies and dealing with also the fact that my family was on drugs and alcohol I am learning how to trust God even in the midst of all the painful stuff that I have done. and this was my first divorce that I’ve had our marriage annulment it was very painful for me. It’s dumb ass thank you for posting this on KZbin for those like me that are really hurting and the need of healing.

[@nnekolo6183]

You will be fine dear. I know it. I pray that the Holy Spirit will always let you see His Presence because He is always with you. Cheers and God bless you 🔥😁❤️

[@jesserussell7242]

I know because of what Melanie did to me I know they’re gonna be healing and I believe in God has another woman in mind for me even though it didn’t work out because of the fact that Melanie’s family wasn’t supportive of our marriage they got in the way in fact some of them got in the way and others were very supportive. I have had to learn to forgive Melanie after what she did to me which was very hurtful and when she told me that she didn’t want to be friends with me that really hurt me as well I think it’s better to have the spirit of forgiveness than to have the spirit of bitterness.😢

[@karenortega2046]

I need a bible I don’t have one. For me it was the justice.. it was unfair but learning that some families ( his) didn’t think I was worthy. I am deeply emotional and he never understood that.

[@FrancisFallah-bw8mn]

I will always be by your side

[@brightgreenleaves]

I had some aha moments! Thank you for this video ❤ My aha’s - Life isn’t fair meaning that we won’t always get an apology we won’t always get to an even playing field and to know this makes it easier for me to let go to forgive/let it go so I can be at peace I have to be OK with making peace with a person/situation with no apology bc that’s just how things go sometimes - that’s part of the rules of the game of life … it’s just the rules I didn’t make them lol It’s been incredibly difficult forgiving a friend who was outright more cruel to me than anyone has ever been that I can think of. I’ve been longing for him to apologize and he has not and I don’t think he ever will. After this video it is helping me understand that’s just how life can be sometimes so knowing this it has created some space for me to be more at peace with things and moving forward and to not seek revenge or wanting to hurt him back so he can feel pain. I don’t know if I will ever speak to him again I will work on changing my perspective so hopefully I can stop thinking about him much sooner than later.

[@suzan2309]

Yes thank you about the message of triggers cycles Forgive myself first then others it’s a process and it’s good to get support and yes we forgive first it’s hard but necessary. It feels unfair but God does reconciles if both people take responsibility if not then yes it is hard to be in their life because we will be blamed for every future thing in the relationship. It feels all one sided sometimes.

[@franceswitham8214]

What if. Indeed. I sure need to hear this over and over. Thank you.

[@AprilOuellette-bs5zi]

That is a great book.I own that book and I highly recommend it

[@robyn8413]

Please help me forgive more I say I do but still holding it

[@cdriv6542]

Can I just sit at her table on a daily basis! Lysa absolutely address my emotions to a T! Been through a lot, Jesus help me through this process and please forgive me and be patient if it take a bit. 😢

[@cathyandresiak]

Very good video, This is so important for everyone. God Loves us so much that He does not want us to wallow in hurt and pain and if that is what he wants for us we have to want it for ourselves because we are made in His image. God wants us free of all these bad feelings because He knows it is hurting no one but ourselves and He does not want us hurt and bitter. WE have such a Loving and Merciful God!

[@stachiano]

this is such a necessary message - so many nuances! “cycling in and out of thoughts and hijacking emotions” thanking God for using this beautiful woman ✨

[@lauriepolden6594]

I was raped by my brother-in-law at 11 years old. I told my sister years later, she didn’t believe me she accused me of sleeping with him. I realized them that my pain was never going to heal that I was never going to get past it, but no one would help me through it, it became an obsession of anger for me. I hated her I hated him and I didn’t know how to forgive until I found God when I for gave him finally, I realized he didn’t own my pain anymore I did…. I was able to forgive him, and I stopped hurting, but I’m still not able to forgive my sister she still alive he’s passed away. I still wonder why she couldn’t believe me, knowing who he was she lived with him she knew what he was, who he was, how he was, when she divorced him, she said he was abusive. I’m sure he was more than abusive. She has some warped sense of family. She doesn’t want her children to know who he was the truth about him. That’s sad that they have to believe something because she doesn’t want them to believe the truth, the truth is he had to face God and God punished him and he will punish my sister as well for the pain and the hurt and the lies that she is told over the years about what happened to me so I leave it to God and I forgive, and I will someday forgive her to probably after she’s passed it will be easier because I don’t have to listen to her lies anymore

[@vvg376]

My husband of 4 yrs next month started pulling big stinks two yrs ago- they were shocking discoveries he secretly went about doing in his phone and one was w two if his female coworkers and of which involved other women via a dating app. My world and view of him and reflection on myself was shattered and for the past two yrs the worst part are the triggers which have led to the biggest and embarressing fights and abuse. I flew w our 1 year old daughter to tco some personal business that I needed to tco w an old court case w a relative but I realized that my husband and I needed a break for a but to focus on working on ourselves individually and w God. Just recently, I have learned that when my husband yells at me, I have learned to take a step back and listen to what he has to say ... I sat back and listened and what I heard him saying underneath his anger and harsh words was frustration and fears .... In this process, I have learned that when I listenreally hear out what otherperson us ttying to say( removing the focus from myself and justifying) I am really demonstrating love towards that person. His attitude quickly changed and when he facetined me 20 mins later he apologized and expressed his love towards me.... listening/hearing brought connection. Please pray God will keep working in his heart and my heart and that he and I will both commit this to God and each other.

[@MaryMargaretteWhite-ek5tn]

You acknowledge it....feel it....until it longer hurts.

[@ritadougherty4526]

I still don’t understand forgiveness… My oldest daughter was murdered and the way she was murdered required me to make the decision to take her off life support… The person who is suspected of poisoning her was with me and my other two daughters in the room and sat there and watched my daughter dying once I made the decision to take her off life support… At the time while this was going on I had no idea that person was the suspect… The detectives told me later that although this person is the main suspect that there isn’t enough evidence to convict him and that it’s not likely that we will see justice in my lifetime… At the same time I feel guilty of making the decision to take my daughter off life support… Like I feel like the person who poisoned her (he poisoned her over a period of time with antifreeze) I feel like he only started to kill her and that I ultimately had to finish what he started by taking her off life support… How can I forgive both that horrible person and even myself? I live everyday thinking about the commandment Thou Shalt Not Kill and that I had to make that decision to take my daughter off life support and ultimately end her life

[@lorischellenberg3219]

So sorry for your loss and all you’ve been through❣️ You didn’t kill her, the poison did. I can’t imagine what you’re going through…😢 As to forgiving the other person? I’m trying to forgive my (now ex) hubby for walking out on our 2 daughters, and myself. Youngest was suicidal but made it🙏🏼

[@SlavicGirl.]

My deepest condolences. What a situation, but in Jude 23 we read what we should do about such individuals. It was him who murdered her, not you! Hope he is in prison, definitely he is in psychological one, there is always crime and punishment.

[@patriciaalbertson5183]

No. You did not do anything wrong.

[@JKshandle]

I am so sorry. Life support is artificial...so I don't think life support is wrong, but taking someone off is simply surrendering them to God.

[@jln8186]

Yes yes yes...and yes...when your own mother doesn't appreciate that I left my life and grown kids and friends in Maine to move across the country to Illinois to take care of her after my dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer. Zero gratitude

[@suzesinger6762]

After years of abuse from the inlaws and the husband, most of which ...nearly destroyed me. And if I did not REAlly trust God to avenge and vindicate me ......I might as well - take mySELF out. !?!? I have forgiven the inlaws - and they spiralled out of my life after confrontation. My husband....thinks he can keep on abusing me ...and I should keep forgiving him. I did - but affirmed that I no longer trust him.

[@zibratesmom-giftsforlife8751]

So helpful… I love your willingness to dive into what Gods word really says. Thank you, Lysa, for being real with us. You and your team have been life savers for me these last several months.

[@elizabethash4720]

We need to understand and know grace to forgive.

[@annemariemalan724]

Thank you Lord for your unconditional love and Mercy and forgiveness.. I went in a spiral of trauma Since I was a child, anxiety and stress was building building blocks that blocked my vision and talents and my whole beeing. I met Jesus in person in, and immediatly sence His Love and Peace above understanding.. buy His example on the Cross, while He, the only righthess sinless on earth, had to die on the Cross for our sins, made me tremble and can till this day never forget His words on the Cross..Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are going.

[@jodie3671]

There are many days that I don't want to be alive anymore

[@andreejohnston516]

I’m sorry you feel that way. I struggle with it to. More so when I’m around my abusers which is family. I attach to curiosity tho which helps me feel that someday God will give me rest. I keep hoping and praying cause I’m 58 now but it’s all I have left

[@teriwiddison1181]

Thank you for sharing, was in a 18 year marriage to passive aggressive covert narcissist. Forgiveness is possible. It has taken me awhile to let God help me with this. Your words are so helpful in understanding Forgiveness.

[@fikilekubeka6389]

Thank you for this beautiful and uplifting message. I needed to hear it. God bless you❤

[@missmlb3842]

These videos are really speaking into my life.

[@kathleenkayk]

Charle Stanley, Forgiveness

[@conniemartin9468]

Excellent, if give me hope that we can forgive anyone! God’s word is so good

[@elisabethb.2392]

Yes forgiveness is key… and EMDR changed my life and numbed me to the ptsd that came out of the pain…

[@ericaburley9491]

Need for fairness, this spoke to me as I think 🤔 sometimes thi isn't fair....

[@athomeskincare8346]

She is very deeply understanding human being.

[@ryksce]

needed this :( thank you for this message

[@ladycj6345]

I SOOO needed to hear this!!!!

[@jamesorosco9490]

God be with you. How helpful this has been is the way God works. I pray that God use me as it feels in my heart at this moment he has ustedes you. Amen and Amen. Keep keeping the faith. Really this manner of communication is new to me yet I see now more I see all things are Gods.

[@patroberts1111]

Awesome perspective, ty.

[@Czibs111]

Lysa, D day for me was Nov 11, 2019 It has been a super tough 4 years. My family, my world was torn completely apart. I ultimately used your techniques to forgive - God stepped up and I was able to forgive. I learned so much from you!

[@lindamullin3414]

Her book Good boundaries and good byes and You're gonna make it and Forgiving what you can't forget so helpful in digging deeper personally.

[@ROSITALJ]

Glad a friend shared this with me ❤

[@jijiprasad2055]

So helpful, have to listen to this everyday ❤️❤️

[@TheLifeofDreaxo]

Thank you for this

[@sharonpovroznik9600]

Needed this so much, Thank you Lysa

[@rosasalas1437]

Thk u so nuch God is using you , to heal others on forgiveness, your the one God choose to forgive too show us too, Thk u so much ❤️ Teach us Teacher Thk u.

[@sunnyadams5842]

Lysa!! It took untill halfway thtough the video with Leslie Vernick, for ne to say OH MY GOSH!! That's LYSA!! We read your books in Bible study and boy-o Boy did I enjoy you. And here you are 'in person'!!! With a topic so timely to my process. That was great. Then, I thought Di'd ho watch something else, but Gid tossed me here. And the message is perfect for what's been on my heart for days now. I couldn't name it. God is AMAZING Thank you - Everybody. Ok jying duen sbd jyst absorbing nuw. ❤❤

[@xavierthelegend5576]

My What If is what if the person who hurt me is doing so much better than me while I’m still feeling bitter? What if the person found joy while I’m still depressed? What if the person is doing good deeds that pleases God while I’m still stuck here wondering if God favors the person over me even though the person has sinned against me? Where is the justice in this?

[@kimmoore-sexandthebible9143]

Thank you.

[@nitz3012]

I really appreciate that lengthy list on why you didn’t feel qualified for writing this book. I have a situation in my life where I had to distance myself from a friend who has a pattern a abusive words toward me and has decided I am the bad guy for doing this. It has crushed my spirit for the last couple of months and I have desperately wanted to reach out and apologize just to appease them but my husband says it’s time to let her go. I feel so unworthy as a Christian because I know I have hurt her by doing this. It feels good to hear a list of someone who loves the Lord and knows they are still loved by the Lord and yet still realize we can’t walk in perfection. I’d appreciate prayer for my broken heart.

[@nitz3012]

@@solivia12 blessings to you as well. My heart is slowly healing. It has been good and important for this time away. I didn’t realize how personally damaged I had been from it and how reconnecting too soon (or at all?) wouldn’t shown me the areas in my own life and heart that need reflection, care and healing. It still hurts but God is still good. I will pray He leads you towards healing as well and that this friend finds what they need on their own path.

[@pravinagovender6641]

Forgiveness lightens the heart

[@ashab.807]

Thank you for this ❤

[@justice8563]

I’m so bitter and resentful with all the different abuse I’ve endured. Forgiving them would only give them my okay to continue. Plus they don’t care one way or another to even receive forgiveness, because it’s always my fault. Could you give me a prayer to help with with the bitterness and resentment that I’m dealing with.

[@2Chor5_13]

Forgiveness is not the same as acceptence! You shouldn't accept what they've done but forgive for your own sake, to feel well in your soul. But to not forgive is, like someone said, to drink poison and hope they die. ❤

[@cyohe8643]

Heavenly Father, please help Justice let go of bitterness & resentment towards the person mentioned here. Help Justice to understand that forgiveness of that person brings release from bitterness & resentment. In Jesus' name, amen.

[@justinebenavidez1519]

This was soo helpful and I shared this with my family. Thank you soo much!❤

[@lanacain]

Go asked Hauser. He's won so warm and giving

[@barbarakenney8288]

Excellent video.

[@oksanajoy87]

Everything she describes so true what I'm going through! Wow

[@denisetaylor8683]

Gods’ perfect timing

[@kristineellithorpe4251]

I THANK GOD for you!

[@sheilalopez7498]

Thankyou Lysa!😊

[@FrancisFallah-bw8mn]

With God All things are possible

[@TheKingsPrincess88]

Thank you ! 🥰🙌

[@SavannahMares]

Lysa!!! 🙏🏼👍🏼

[@sarahball-ruck846]

Thank you

[@christinestone7732]

This touch because me I relate to all of it. It's so hard to forgive I am a work in progress..

[@Jodie29687]

This is soooo good. 🙏🏼

[@kathyzager9426]

Wonderful study. Thank you!

[@shantadebbarma4290]

I forgive n can forgivee for fault of mine n ours but on other hand i was also not forgiven coz of mine honest sincere humble..... Yet i leave it unto HIM wat i want to say is i can forgive n vil continue to forgive as long as it takes yet i can't forgot...... Thats the thing in my life that iam stuck with........

[@Sngbrd1001]

Hmm. How does one forgive a narcissistic parent who "requires" your assistance now that they're old, have obtained a spouse that is in WORSE condition than they are because of OBVIOUS sin and is now dependent on his wife's only child, as his kid would never do a thing for him yet they both refuse to quit their OBVIOUSLY destructive sinful ways? They've given me a place to stay but then threatens that place if they don't get the treatment THEY feel they deserve from their child. They want to always be the center of attention, yet know almost nothing to carry a conversation beyond close family you no longer know because your folks moved you 2,000 miles away from them while you were still just a child. I know God wants me to honor my parent, yet I receive no honor from them. It feels like a neverending sliver I cannot remove that has become infected with resentment and anger towards her behavior. It is unacceptable to both God and me, yet someone with narcissistic perconality disorder will not stop. I forgive her daily, but I am sick of the death by a thousand cuts.

[@nataliegattis7297]

Yes

[@michellesellick6827]

People take your kindness for weakness because you keep on overlooking the pain they have caused and you keep on forgiving them even when others have told you that they could never forgive them, but now i take everything to God in prayer and i work on forgiving but i can't forget

[@shirleyann554]

Most definitely.. 😢

[@charvankerck9617]

until we put others first and develop a Christ attititude of mercy and forgiveness as he forgives us, we will put US FIRST, and keep blaming . rise above the blame, and be Christ's like .

[@jamie8082]

It's hard that the idea of being yourself that you love the most and feel attached. Don't give up though it's only 2 parts of forgiveness from God.

[@tljrow5702]

Recently I made a phone call to an ex. I apologized to him for holding on to anger and resentment towards him. As long as we think we’re justified there is no freedom. I was so freed when I finally let it go.

[@fashakinbanke3671]

High five sis !