Common Mistakes! Don't do THESE when YOU approach a Filipina

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

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[@paulfreespirit]

I think being friendly and polite, goes a long way anywhere in the world!

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

Absolutely true

[@douglasdague4901]

Saying "Hi" best first word to start a conversation. And always be respectful during the conversation.

[@edwinkirkland8856]

Thank you guys

[@Eeasy-wq4ss]

Thanks again guys 👍🏽

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

Our pleasure! Anytime

[@erickbpresident4512]

Thanks for the info 😊

[@Barrybh90]

Ive been speaking to my Bisayan GF for over four years bow after meeting online and in person.. I feel blessed to have been accepted by her family and have been given the fantastic nickname of "Creepy White Guy" by her cousins, I am aware this is just asar and I speak to them whilst video chatting but they do like to make fun of me.. which I suppose is a way of treating me like family.. But Id be deeply offended if this term was used about me by strangers.. good hob Im a gentleman and have learned to speak a bit of Bisaya which helps when meeting new people .. cannot wait to get back in May

[@tombarnett8078]

Just make sure she has a few extra pesos in her pocket on her Mom's B-day

[@MG77740]

It’s a good tip on avoiding the exotic word. I will say this that many Filipinos do know the American meaning for this word as being uniquely beautiful. The problem is that since there is a negative local interpretation of the word, you just can’t use it. It’s like if the word pretty meant ugly. Even after they know, their brain still thinks ugly when you say pretty. Personally, I tease my wife with the word exotic. She knows that it’s “sizzling hot, sexy and naturally beautiful”. What’s different about the Filipinos is that you can physically compliment them without them feeling objectified. They go through a lot of work to take care of themselves and look nice. They deserve to be complimented so it’s nice that we can express appreciation for their beauty to them. Just be discreet and polite. If the girl is super outgoing and funny, you can use a little more humor and flattery. It depends on the girl so just use common sense judgment. In the US we know that we can’t physically compliment a woman. It p@sses me off just thinking about how much I resent not being able to compliment a woman. Never, ever put up with that. Just date normal women, wherever you can find them.

[@mickymicheal2589]

I love the video great points to start a great friendship with someone there in Philippines

[@nursesteve2004]

well, I never had to worry about approaching a Filipina, because the Filipinas all approached me first, LOL.

[@billharrisjazzbluesandmore7948]

Really awesome video thanks

[@theSFCchannel]

First part I respecfully disagree. I met my wife by BOLDLY walking up to her singing in her language at the top of my voice, whilst in a Supermarket. She loved it she said ;when I saw you approach me, all i saw was a good looking, intelligent, confident and VERY creative man expressing interest in a unique way.' I was part shocked, embarrased but very very flattered when you introduced yourself by singing in my language and you don't have a bad voice either' I replied:' you must be tone deaf! :p'' In my view expressing yourself confidently (but not arrogant) and in a creative way breaks the ice.

[@thedreamer9011]

I don't understand why you disagree with Roger&Ismi. Based on your own explanation, you didn't just whistle, you sang in her own language which Roger&Ismi mentioned as a good thing. You also said that she was embarrassed which tells me that's not the norm when approaching a Filipina. What worked out for you was the fact that your wife now, found you attractive and you had a good singing voice. I'm sure if it was the other way around, she would've feel disrespected. Same in the West, if you're attractive, you're not a creep, but if you're unattractive, you are a creep. P.S: Filipinas like when a man showing interest by singing to them.

[@theSFCchannel]

@@thedreamer9011 Actually no: Looks only get you so far: But it doesnt lead to a longterm stable marrage, being a ptoprt man does and stuff this new-man rubbish as that was just invented by a bloke who can't get any Matress Mambo. Its about being confident weather one is Gwapo or not, when time goes on and looks fade into maturity then one must have something else that is attractive.. For example I only gave my wife two promises that I will also be true to her and that she will NEVER be bored. What one person finds attractive another may not, so if looks are only a tiny factor then other things must come into play. I met her in my early fourties and she is 15 years younger than me and at the time a PHD qualified doctor also showd interest in her, but she married me as simply I know Existential Philosophy and am cultured. But then again what can I say' The Proof of the pudding is in the eating' and we have been married for 7 years with a child together.So we must be doing something right :P

[@theSFCchannel]

@@thedreamer9011 IN good looking to a Fillipina is very rarely about physical looks. Good looking also means, cultured it could also mean intellitent or educated it could also mean a confident person. You could have all the physical looks in the world but if you dont have it 'all going on in other things' then you will have nothing. PLus I am British anyway so cultured and learned is more or less a given-unless one is a CHAV. I have seen what one could call ugly gargoyle-like short men whom, barely have a penny to rub together with another, being married to long tall statuesque women and what attracted their partners was confidence and culture. As I said CONFIDENCE is good looking, being cultured is good looking, knowing other languages other than your own is good looking, being interested in their culture that is finding out for ones self without relying on KZbin channels to tell you, is good looking. Being outgoing and extrovert is often seen as good looking. Physical looks are only a tiny little doorway and nothing else. Even all the above is only a gateway but what actually won her over at the end is knowing AND understanding the works of Cammus, Kirgegaard, Neitszche, Jean Paul Satre, Colin Wilson (The Outsider) Fyodor Dostoevsky to other completely differing topics to Fred Hoyle and DR Chamdara Our Place in the Cosmos, to knowing massive parts of the Ancient Sumerian language and culture (having been on archaeological tours in Iraq). Looks are only a tiny doorway but it by NO MEANS wins the other person over in the long term. Of course my wife has much to teach me also, she compliments me I am more driven, egotistical and extrovert whilst she is more reserved and patient. We compliment each other THAT is what makes a marragie last. She has taught me to stop and take a breath, I have taught her to stand up and be counted and stand up for herself. She is the stability whilst I am the ambition and change, its a good marraige. Plus she knows I metaphorically worship the ground she walks on and it is well and truly returned as we both won each other's respect. Please consider this in the future.

[@bornahyard1]

I sure wish I had seen this video YEARS ago! I cannot tell you how many female Pilipino I have winked at thinking I was being charming.

[@thebigmann81]

Asking for directions or the time is away to open the door to conversation that can lead to more. Exotic to me is rare one of a kind and beautiful above others

[@sizzykelly]

Nalingaw ko galantaw ninyong Duha sis ☺

[@udirtypuppy5174]

a mistake i once made to partner was to raise my voice and be aggressive towards another man who needed correction in our group of friends. i protected our group and turned around to see my love sobbing. i scared her and will never make that same mistake in front of her again.

[@thebigmann81]

I been there. In the United States we taught as a man to protect by means verbal or physical but it definitely can put fear into a filipina. So we definitely need to be very cautious and know when is right time to go into protection mode. My situation was a little different. We was in the states and a homeless addict was threatening some kids in a store well the kids I didn't know but never the less they was kids. I was not going to allow this. I raised my voice but made it worse the man tried to attack me. Luckily I had trained in Kajukenbo for many years. Before I knew it my wife was crying. In one hand I felt bad because she was crying and afraid on the other hand I knew I did the right thing keeping the kids safe.

[@donaldevans2064]

Childish and immature.

[@verlandohenderson5364]

You're both beautiful people. I love you both❤

[@stevenwistort9903]

New American subscriber.🙂

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

Welcome aboard brother. Thanks for the subbed.

[@sacred-mountainwolf6928]

Lol good show as always

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

Thank you

[@rashidswaleh1933]

Great video. More don'ts would be useful. I discovered that a beckoning sign with the hand is offensive to Filipinos. I am not sure why. It's those small every day things that have a different meaning that can ruin a day or even a relationship. We all assume the other person knows what we mean and sometimes we are just wrong. Please be our Filipino culture guru.

[@im_a_ukie8951]

dammmm..there goes my whole game plan🤣🤣🤣

[@killermed95]

😮 Thanks for the advice because I'm a winker. I'll have to practice not doing that😬

[@riderretired5258]

My experience says if you even acknowledge the existence of another female still alive, you’re in trouble.

[@scottford6055]

I actually had "ssssss" and "Hi friend" done to me and my brother when we first visited the Philippines for the first time. What did we do? nothing because we knew what they wanted.

[@jonathanacosta4566]

I was with a Filipina for 10 years, me being born in Hawaii Ilocano/Visayan. We had a rough time at first but we manage to love each other. She let her Passpor expired and she had to marry a 95 year old tata to stay in Hawaii. No matter what love her forever.

[@matthewsturm5063]

I have a habit of saying Hello to everyone. Is that OK?

[@davidfisher5140]

Oddly, another Filipina said you should do the phone number pass?

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

Why you should give your number to a stranger?

[@scottbrown321]

@@RogerIsmiVlogs Because she is too shy to talk to you in public. This gives her the chance to communicate with you if she wants to. Also, you don't lose the chance of never seeing her again. I think it is a good and safe move, but be discrete, as not to embarrass her. She can probably text English better than she can speak it.

[@whitedragon153]

I was also shocked that these guys said that too. lol

[@johnteill_]

Now I'm lost because pea said it's best to give your number on paper...that way you don't give her embarrassment in case her English isn't strong

[@perl26]

I think it can work, but 50:50 50% probability that will contact u if they are still single, find u interesting, and attractive.The other 50% will find u creepy, they already have a boyfriend, and not interested to u.

[@free2roam674]

I was going to say the same thing, but I think it really depends on the situation. I was just there for a month. Always smile and never complain. Be kind and polite and be a gentleman. I absolutely loved it there and I am going back soon to retire there. Women appreciate being complemented and usually are quick to complement back. It was Shangri La for me after living in Canada, where most people will not make eye contact much less talk with you.

[@anteperic2836]

What if they are winking at you first

[@nemelendez]

I would approach her feeling my shirt fabric. Me..excuse me could you feel this fabric. Do you recognize the material? Her...no Me..Do you think it's boyfriend material? 🤣😁

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

Nice moves LoL

[@theSFCchannel]

HAHAH I made a mistake with my wife a few months ago whislt we were in Malta (somehow it ended up good) Now we were all sitting (her friends and I) at a cafe in the outdoors part and underneath the table was a bouquet of flowers i had bought that was intended as a surpirse for my wife. Anyway as we were eating along comes a young Italian actor couple arguing whilst winding through the tables, throwing their hands in the air and being all very dramatic. When they got to the other side the stopped acting the arguement and sat down, I suddenly leaped to my feet, clapped and shouted BRAVO BRAVO and threw the bouquet of flowers (that was supposed to be a surprise for me wife) at them. Now looking around the table whilst I was sat there were looks of shock and horror on their face and I said' what? WHAT they were acting it was a bit forced and dramatic but i thought they were pretty good' To which they replied 'They aren't actors they were are REAL couple arguing..........then my mouth fell open and then it was the turn of my wife and her friends to laugh at my mistake. Wifey then said it is this sense of fun and 'never a boring day' is why I married you.

[@willardpinson1197]

Mahal Kita

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

😍

[@rashidswaleh1933]

Are Filipino languages really dialects of each others. Wikipedia classify them as distinct languages. My friend here in Canada says that even though they some are close, he says the similarities are like those between German and Dutch, or Italian and Spanish. He is offended when they call his Waray language a dialect.

[@thebigmann81]

A lot of that stuff is rude everywhere not just the Philippines 🤣😂

[@Gmantrini]

Just use eyebrow 😊

[@timsn4346]

You guys are awesome, fun and enjoyable to listen to. Is ok to say; help help, I’m exotic? 😂✌️ Great job guys.

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

LoL. That's funny.

[@davidtesler1198]

I have never had any problems approaching a Filipina other then they are shy. I most certainly never met the types you both describe but I am sure they exist. Most Filipinas in Luzon are intelligent enough not to be intimidated and I am sure it is probably the same in other places. If a man is not decent in his approach it matter nothing if he is Filipino or westerner. Keep doing good videos

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

Thanks, that makes sense David.

[@TryCryingIntoThis]

My asawa came up to ME and asked ME. How's that for a change? 30 years later......

[@atomicvagrant7686]

I usually demand a date with a Filipina by stomping my foot while pointing a finger at her and in a loud voice say "You will have dinner with me tonight!" It has not worked yet but I am hopeful it will soon.

[@badujabar9410]

Getting too close to stranger & tap her on the shoulder is also rude & invasive .. In the West if someone steps into your personal space you step back or stretch your arm & ask for this much separation before even getting a word in..

[@edwardleonard3072]

Do manners like, please, thank you, excuse me please, miss, mrs. pulling out your chair seating you, opening doors. And many others. Are they recognized there?

[@anteperic2836]

Stalker vibes😂

[@michaeladams9250]

You know what really weird, Filipina Pea says just the opposite she says like at a store. After greetings and a little bit of conversation. You would write down your name and number and say maybe we could go have coffee somewhere. But with a hundred different languages there I'll stick to English.

[@gibblespascack1418]

There are over 120 languages in the Philippines. So, choose your words carefully.

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

Absolutely

[@timothybush9633]

Hi Roger $ Ismi♥I'm an American Musician so I Know I will be Awkward😵Thanks for the info to make me more Gentleman😀

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

Show them that you're a gentleman.

[@timothybush9633]

@@RogerIsmiVlogs I am and I always am respectable to Woman even when I was a Hard Core Musician I even come across an Shy☺

[@gabeghiby6935]

I like your videos guys, are so entertaining and also informative at the same time... @Roger... bro'... I heard you also on your stream - I hope your daughter is already feeling better - I hear you associating winking to a girl with flirting, you said it's like flirting... well, we should define what flirting means, to avoid confusion... in the west, flirting means showing attraction and/or trying to attract someone, and that is indeed very similar to winking in the west, which also means showing attention and trying to attract attention, so you can eventually start flirting... when I say flirting, I mean with good honest intentions, for real, not just for the fun of it, or with malicious intentions... so, to conclude, OK, winking may be perceived in your culture, as weird and maybe creepy - even if it's not - but what is wrong with flirting..??.. smiling at a woman, trying to attract her, being attracted to her, and making her compliments, that's all part of flirting, so I don't really get it, Roger, when you say: "winking is like flirting"...ok, so what? what's wrong with flirting?? just by making a woman a compliment, that's flirting in and of itself, so it's nothing wrong with that... well unless she's married or already in a committed relationship, but you get my point, if she's single and available if I compliment her, I am already flirting with her by default... so, maybe you should define what "flirting" means in your culture... in the west, it's nothing wrong with flirting, when done with true intentions of course...how else we'd show interest to a woman, if not by flirting with her, which includes smiling, making her compliments and such things...

[@rashidswaleh1933]

I think Ismi answered your question. She specifically said winking means in Filipino culture "I am ho..ny" to me this is beyond flirting and into creepy territory.

[@gabeghiby6935]

@@rashidswaleh1933 right right... I saw that... but Roger said more than once "it's like flirting"... this is what I don't get, what's wrong with flirting?? If I compliment a woman it's like flirting, is in fact pure flirting...if I wink at a woman it's like flirting?? So is flirting wrong?

[@timhnc75]

I kind of don't agree with that last one A lot of times you'll. See Somebody. That's at work and there not allowed you give you there personal info . So you can give them your number or your facebook information they can contact you later..

[@walkingboss]

What you shouldn't do- give money to her family, they get used to that real fast. They think Americans come from streets paved with gold.

[@philippinesOneLove]

I am English ,, I Always say Gutom na Gutom ako ,ikaw ya 😁😋😋 Gusto mo makaon 😉😁😊😀😀🇵🇭❤

[@Wuestenwiesel]

#8:12 I just thought about a really cute opener: "Can you show me the direction......to your heart" Using my atomic smiling, i think most Filipinas will melt away....or call the police...for harrassment :-D :-D :-D

[@markshaffer68]

Another great video. So give us a few things that we can say to them in their language so that we can be practicing! 😉

[@nemelendez]

Well you are exotic. Not many good women left🥰

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

😂🤣😂

[@richardneugebauer1244]

Thank you for your advice. i was already in Visayas. I did nothing wrong. I was polite, gentleman, I conversated, smiled etc.. ... .... and than I was asked for phone number and money... ... It is too complicated, friends. I go to Thailand next time. there it is much easier.

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

That's a red flag if she asks your number and money.

[@steveng.7269]

Respectfully, women are women all over the world.

[@paulscarlatella5945]

Ismi the most beautiful women on you tube

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

You made my day, Thank you Ismi here

[@paulscarlatella5945]

Dude she is happily married woman. Girls like to hear a compliment especially if it is true its no big deal grow up.

[@lojwa.animals.runitrats]

Lol you xan ask 10 flipina flipino the same direction question an all will most will not know an give 20 different direction...lol

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

They point using their lips

[@nemelendez]

We point using our chin🤣

[@stout1226]

Can you explain why Filipina is over protecting with their husband? Explain why? Is that really normal.

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

We will answer this during our Live today brother

[@markbrave]

Respect is vital as Filipinas are shy when in public Guys do your homework before going to the Philippines, learn about the culture and learn a few words in the local dialect Filipinas are not into PDAs for instance

[@-whackd]

So If I say I want to go on a vacation to some place exotic, Filipinos will think I want to hunt rhinos and orangutans?

[@nemelendez]

How about if I pssst and then wink at her,😁

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

That's double meaning

[@hanglee5586]

Bring a banana with u. 😉

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

😂

[@nemelendez]

What's with the bananas?😉

[@johnnypastrana6727]

Traveler going sideways going through turnstile is going to Bangkok. 🤣

[@willardpinson1197]

i cant stand USA girls whispering... talking behind my back

[@williammiller4464]

Don't worry, when you get a pinay they still talk about you. Just to your face, to their friends and in a different language 🤣🤣. Helps to learn some of the language. Yes you are right about the great American buffalo ✌️✌️

[@tonyr6700]

Would they be offended if you say , “ you have beautiful eyes, I know I will never have eyes like that , but it’s possible our kids can.” Lol

[@luckybo3864]

someotmes funny how it seems you guys think usa people are so “ different “ all these rules are the same for usa men approaching usa girrls ... wow you guys say “ tapping “ touching a stranger is ok ? winking in usa means the same also lol its not different here . ao funny how you guys think of usa people also i hear before videos you guys say as if americans are so “ loose “ or easy to sex for example its not “ supposed to be true here also “ usa has many conservative people your guys information based on usa people seems VERY “ not so accurate “ our ways are not so different then “ yours “ people are people... yes we have differences but its not so different... i like you’re ask directions advice but it has nothing to do with being in the phillpines it can be used also here in usa and same as compliments all are universal ways ... also exotic can can be offensive in usa also all is thensame

[@anteperic2836]

But traditional women are an endangered species

[@gabeg.7203]

You say not to do all this what about if the Filipinas do that first are they in the wrong for doing that. What is the real problem here lol

[@RogerIsmiVlogs]

a red Flag

[@scottbrown321]

Sorry, love most of your content, but this was cringy. You want a foreigner to change his culture to Filipino, and worse, you want him to become a women. Wow, I will just be myself and let her figure it out.

[@rashidswaleh1933]

😂 I can't count the number of times I was told to speak English and stop using a terrorist language because "this is America" when I am having a private conversation with my brother. I think what is expected is that you adapt to your environment, not to change your culture

[@toknnomad1424]

I've hit on and dated tons of pinays in manila.. I've always been "proactive"..which has nothing to with not being a gentleman... it's never been a problem.. And who winks?? lol.. are we in the 70's? lol I've always given my number to pinays.. never had a problem. Gotten lots of dates out of it..