Romance and BOUNDARIES - a brief chat.

[@star13r1te]

Very important, and also so so so difficult to stand firm with the boundaries you've set for yourself.

[@PostTraumaticVictory]

It’s so difficult to assert and enforce boundaries. It’s almost impossible. It’s almost too painful. But it’s absolutely necessary! 💃

[@Haferkoko]

This is so important! You shouldn't need to tolerate people who make you uncomfortable.

[@abstractmodule4574]

You make great points as always. Thanks for doing what you do, Kelela.

[@PeachyPrincess123]

Such an important topic - love how you covered it, and love your look today! 💕

[@PostTraumaticVictory]

Thank you! 🥰

[@grindsaur]

Yes, so much. Still it’s F’ing difficult. Any tips on how to safely detect your own boundaries (or where they should be), in particular while a situation is ongoing?

[@willowmoon7173]

Thanks for the awesome content again and hope you are doing good. I checked out your Etsy and love the fidget rings! Also love the keyrings/ go fetch key finders and will definitely be buying one from you soon. I have been trying volunteering to get me used to be around people and working again and thought id suggest a video/blog subject, maybe about ways people can volunteer to get them used to working, or the types of jobs that can be bearable for us 😊 I'm trying conservation work at a local woodland and have found some friendship and peace in the woods, and it feels good to be physically working. But I also think working at a doggy day care for example could be good, or dog walking. Just thought I'd say. But hope you are well, take care 💕

[@CanadianMum444]

♥️✌🏼 I hope you have a good day. Good video. So difficult to do for some of us but absolutely necessary.

[@PostTraumaticVictory]

Thank you! I hope you also have a good day! ✌️💚

[@orestes1984]

Yep, so many times, pushing in on part of people's boundaries. No means no, actually we are passing stronger laws right now here in Australia. But it's not just sexuality... I've realised I never set firm boundaries with most of my childhood friends or family, and that means them kicking in all over the place. Probably like most people with trauma, I think you feel somewhere never the same. I think you did a video on it one time. Well, basically you're right, if someone says no, or fuck off, it means exactly that....

[@jcmauthe]

More annoying that you have to keep reinforcing boundaries you've already established. No means no, pls..