Many Black Women Don't Know What to do with a Good Black Man

[@gregfoster2305]

The second year of college, psychology class. There was two sistas that said in class that there was no good black men out there. I was one of two black men in the class , we just shook our heads. The professor and two country white women challenged them and they could not give a reason...this was the early nineties and even today you can feel the anomosity just walking near these young black women....????

[@assaa5069]

Makes perfect sense. How is someone supposed deal with someone isn't what they are use too. Good men are foreign to them. A lot of them like the power they have over a man. A man who isn't shit is easier for them to control.

[@RomWills]

Truth.

[@dontex7]

It's sad as a Black man you have to act like a jerk or a douchebag just to get some respect...I see why Brothers are heading towards other races...SMH😐

[@RomWills]

It is a shame.

[@sigmatheprince7416]

I notice young black women never say; there is a shortage of good black men but the middle aged and mature aged black women do. There's only a shortage of good black men when there appeal is shorten due to her aging. It's add and subtracting. The dude they want later in their late ages are already gone to time and marriage but those same dudes is what they need and want but isn't available or if they are available, that dude isn't interested anymore. Black women can't expect a good dude from 2005 to still want her in 2016 and beyond. They actually think they still have it but the woman ages like milk and men age like fine wine.

[@RomWills]

BOOM!!! And there you have it.

[@keirons5098]

Hollywood Black 100000% true black women only want a good man when they have passed the expiry date and have multiple kids living as a single parent

[@jjredwood2059]

Hollywood Black So fucking true. I wish i could give 100 likes

[@mikeboard4801]

This is 1000 percent accurate and I experienced several times in my early 30s. I admit I am lucky being raised in a grounded household that had a big influence on who I became. By 30, I had a masters degree, no kids, a middle management job with a small office. In the company, saw a woman who I liked and asked her to lunch and she said yes. Instead , I saw her hanging with the toothless cafeteria cook when we were supposed to meet. Another example when a woman turned me die was when I learned she thought I was not street enough. Granted, as I got older I did find black women who appreciated me but when I was younger I could not figure out what was wrong with me. I later realized it was them not me.

[@MrAmbassador11]

People attract what they put out, you get what you give and you are who you date. In general, women will not admit that they are not spiritually developed enough to enter relationships with certain types of men. Then, in an effort to protect their egos, they say there is something wrong with these men. If you are a decent man and find yourself "rejected" by women because you are decent, like the man said; don't take it personally. In essence, you really have more important (much more important) concerns in life to think about than what women think. There is not a woman on the face of this Earth that is in any position to define you.

[@RomWills]

Well said.

[@Drrck11]

My honest and frank opinion(s): 1. When I was high school, many of the black girls never gave me the time of day. I wasn't a thug, wasn't a star athlete, nor was I the popular cool guy. But the white girls and Asian girls liked me a lot. So who do think I spent my time and energy with? That was my first steps in dating outside my race. 2. Good black men are also smart black men. They are not going to limit themselves to just dating black women. They will most likely date, marry and settle down with a woman of another race. This is wear the dilemma lies for black women, because that good black man is now off the market. And now that this good black man is married and settled down in his life, his wife and children will benefit from his career success and income while that black woman will have many boyfriends...but no husband. This is why so many black households-particularly in the inner city areas-are head by a single black woman, and no man in the household. She'll spend a good amount of her time and energy running back and forth to social service office for benefits and to the court for child support from the men she laid down with and became impregnated by...while that good black man is living a comfortable life in his traditional family unit. This is a harsh truth from some, but it is the truth of what is going on when it comes to relationships between black men and black woman and why black woman find it hard to find a good black man.

[@henrygarner4649]

I still say "Waiting to Exhale" was the beginning of the end for American Black Male/Female relationships. I'm not surprised your questioned stumped those sisters. Most don't even know how to be women today. Sad state of affairs but ever am the eternal optimist and worker! Thanks Bro Rom!

[@RomWills]

We didn't know it at the time bruh. I think it was decent work of fiction. I didn't think women would treat it like a bible.

[@henrygarner4649]

Me either. Who knew hair hats (weaves that look like the just came out of the pack and were slapped on the woman's head) would catch on either...but I digress. LOL!

[@patton1909]

They know what to do with a good man: play them

[@shuntavaisjohnson86]

True

[@trapgod3441]

@Unfinished Business yeah after he takes you on numbers of dates, pay a bill or two and loan you money for hair makeup and your prescription medication

[@depy2762]

oh shit

[@jyoung904]

trifling brothers are comfort zones and decent brothers are not comfort zones

[@RomWills]

True.

[@chrisboyd4706]

+Rom Wills you know what I completely agree, because there was a time where a pretty attractive light skin girl with a college degree had approached me and asked for my number, keep in mind I have no college degree but I do have a car and work, but I also dress well and take care of myself and I've never been about thug interpretations and acting out I've always followed the creed of "say what you mean, mean what you say" and I tell you what a lot of black women say they want that but it couldn't be farther from the truth, they actually prefer a dusty thuggish dude to keep an eye on while the good black man doesn't want to cheat them hurt them emotionally or physically, the good black man just wants to love them is all.

[@millionshadesofdarkness2165]

Chris Boyd yeah i been through it. Now im a savage out here with these women lol. Hopefully one day i find a black woman that is marriage material but i dont see it happening. i will most likely end up marrying a latina or asian woman. pump and dumping black women though since thats what *they want.*

[@keithlamont8208]

you know I learned my lesson the hard way in my twenties. I wasn't love and as such I give a hundred percent and what are you doing I was cheated on and this chick gets pregnant in his duties and I'm so weak bro lmao. it's just a lesson learned but I think God that that happened because I'm thinking that could be me with a baby with her and now I'm in a whole different city living the life of my dreams it was such a blessing

[@staticshock7748]

jyoung904 J I never thought about like that.

[@erictbrown1]

One of the reasons I don't do that nice guy shit anymore. And I have no problems dating outside of my race.

[@RomWills]

Seen.

[@LordMetalSonic1987]

Whenever I hear a black woman talk about how she would make a good partner for a black man, she always says something like "I'm educated", "I have my (multiple) bachelor's degree(s)", "I have my (multiple) master's/doctorate degrees", or even "I have a stable career/own a business". What you NEVER hear them say is: I) I am a good woman II) I submit to my man III) I treat my man like a king IV) I cook and clean for him V) I do whatever to make him happy (within reason, of course). These "educated" black women never lead off with the qualities that (would) make them good wifely candidates, but they always lead off with their education and/or their corporate success. Why? They know deep down that they are NOT wife material. They can't lead off with something that they don't have. A degree doesn't make a man's dick hard. Corporate success isn't going to want to make a man want to claim you or come home to you. Why do you think that the high-school-dropout white girl that works at McDonalds, Waffle House, or (dare I say it?) Wal-Mart was able to score that handsome, dark chocolate, educated/rich/stable career, tall brother with the chiseled jaw and washboard abs, while Ms. Educated-With-25-Degrees-Black Woman, is stuck at home, surrounded by sex toys and worthless niggaz like Dirty Dick Rodney, Doo-Dirty, Pookie, RayRay, ManMan, etc.? It is because the white girl is HUMBLE and knows how to treat a man.

[@RomWills]

And there it is. I tell women that it's more about the woman's physical appearance and personality. Men looking for pleasure of body and peace of mind.

[@LordMetalSonic1987]

Rom Wills Many times, its not even about physical appearance. A man generally just wants peace of mind in a relationship.

[@RomWills]

King Metal Sonic That's very true. Looks can fade but a peaceful woman is like gold. That's why some average looking keep a gang of men around them.

[@TheOlmonroe1]

King Metal Sonic.... roll this up because you smoked them with this.

[@dionbush5560]

all day

[@joefromdc]

maybe after black woman finally realize once again that life is a team sport, not a competition with ur men, then things will change. at somepoint from what i can see blackwoman dranked the coolaid

[@trickywily2823]

Joseph Monroe it helps that Trump won...even though he's not the best selection. . these bitches are passed off

[@joefromdc]

Patricia Grady lmao. if ur into animals dnt let us stop u

[@aarongray1981]

Man another great video! Im so tired of women talking about how the man didnt take care of his kids, irresponsible, no good, etc. Problem is women a lot of times choose no good men to begin with and ignore the warning signs.

[@RomWills]

I keep reminding women that they choose the men they deal with.

[@pslink6437]

From my limited dealings with women, I've come to the conclusion that the average woman's worst enemy is their own emotion or another woman's emotion. The reason being is that when you take logic out of the equation, all that's left is emotion which majority of the time will lead you in the wrong direction.

[@RomWills]

Correct.

[@busyrand]

The description of the "Too Good To Be True" brother describes half my Chapter's Fraternity Brothers. When you relax the height requirement, the description fits ~90% of us. We've always been here and can be found in a multitude of different outlets. The sad thing is, most women we encounter fold under the weight of being presented with what they want, and lurch into failure avoidance behavior where they sabotage things before it gets too far.

[@simondubois2]

What type of black man are black women encouraged to desire? Music is the main definer for them. Who they are not encouraged to find attractive are decent and educated black men.

[@RomWills]

Correct.

[@deebeautiful84]

a former friend of mine was this way. She was in her late 30s when I was in my early 20s and she loved thugs. She was educated but she had a well paying job and only dated guys she had to take care of. She was seeing a teacher foy a hot minute but admitted he was boring and went back to her abusive thug boyfriend. I didn't understand it. While I have had relationships not work it wasn't from being beat up and mistreated badly. She absolutely like no good men, I think the victim role felt comfortable and she had a need for dependent men.

[@RomWills]

That's very common.

[@williebeaman652]

Women like chaos and emotional roller coasters. She was already imprinted by the hood dude, shes a lost cause.

[@lsporter88]

So true. I've experienced it. Always got play easier when I was being a little dirty. Grew out of that phase thank God. Great Video.

[@RomWills]

As always, thank you brotha.

[@TheThinkingMansTemplar]

I lived this with my last chick very sad.. she was so used to losing she couldn't tell she had won finally ..

[@youngboi24]

DAMN LOL

[@RomWills]

GHXST GXD, I've seen this situation so many times.

[@djmichaeltimex4511]

my situation also homie.

[@RomWills]

Guy King Damn that's deep! Good way of looking at it.

[@bluejay6956]

Me and my brother agreed about black woman can be more sensitive, emotional, and dislike a very good educative black man's stronger self-esteem, honesty, intelligent, lot of since of humor, and personality for no reason. All they want is to hookup with bad boys and ugly trucks from the streets that treats them dirty!

[@RomWills]

That's a factor.

[@jordanmoore9318]

Like that man said in why did I get married. So use to losing you don’t realize when you won.

[@RomWills]

True.

[@doncalypso]

Rom Wills, the Godfather if Game has spoken and prophesied... let the church say "Amen" and don't forget to donate your love offering to the PayPal Ministry.

[@RomWills]

Thanks brotha.

[@doncalypso]

Any donations to the PayPal Ministry yet? Do I have to get on the organ?

[@RomWills]

doncalypso I haven't even check. Play that good music anyway.

[@toreyburse1324]

Ron as usual, you make some good points. And not knowing " what to do" is exactly the problem. We learn by observing. If you never observed a good man being loved , respected, and trusted, then how would you know what's involved? That creates a legitimate handicap. Its just emotional and social instead of physical. But like physical handicaps, they can only function in a handicap friendly environment... Who makes a living taking advantage of "emotionally handicapped " women? Pookie, Ray Ray, married men , jack leg preachers. How? The implied contract is this: I'll let you use me , if you dont reject me like my daddy did. In other words. they pretend to accept them all the while taking everything they got.

[@TheOlmonroe1]

Get your scuba gear because this is deep. Thanks my brutha Rom.

[@RomWills]

You're welcome.

[@marlothomas9911]

Crazy Uncle Rom.... Too good to be true. They talk about how bad and worthless men are, but when a good man is presented to them, they don't, won't,and can't step up to the plate to answer up. Not wasting my time, energy, and effort anymore. If you can't handle me and what I present, I'm gonna keep it moving. Point blank

[@ron6126]

I do understand. I treated my last girlfriend very well. She broke up with me because she said she was scared of how much I loved her.

[@jaimesmith2266]

Ron Damn thats truly sad she was so used to being dawged out most likely smh

[@LDubzz86]

Almost threw my phone when I read that comment

[@samjackson1101]

your right about all of it I see this on a daily bases it's funny how they run away it's like the Bible say in proverbs 28:1 love the message

[@KeithBassJr.]

another irrefutable delectable classic as David Carroll would say...Lol. This video was on point.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@justfrank7070]

Yea it's sad but tru...sometimes it comes from growing without a father or a good male role model in their lives while they was young. Btw can u do a vid explaining the pros and cons on dating older women?... I'm between 27-35 so I wanna get a cougar now 😀..I'm serious

[@RomWills]

Check this video out, kzbin.info/www/bejne/nWbCgIehi79pepY

[@terryt3058]

Greeting Sir Rom... I find that in our culture most not all of young women never seen one. Unfortunately mother's having children out of wedlock started a pattern of what is out of order. Not teaching self love and honor accepting men in the homes. Never exhibiting actions and roles that we are to have as woman and man. I myself grew up in a single parent home mom did marry later in life. Prior to that i always believed the woman was the head she had to do it all. But by trial and error in my marriage i evolved now i can tech my children a better way. Peace and love🙏

[@MikeJones-ne5ko]

Rom wills u are black Jesus is there a way I can talk to u for a second I've purchased all your paid videos I just have to get to the ones on your website you've really made a difference in my life I swear to god thanks man your a blessing

[@RomWills]

Just hit me up privately, www.romwills.com/contact-rom.html

[@jholliday3]

This needs to be heard by more people. Excellent observation of this common scenario in our community

[@WiseLady7]

It is not difficult to take care of a good black man. Give him the following and he will love his woman for it: unconditional love, create an environment of peace, rest and cleanliness, respect him, give him a lot of sex, affection, appreciation edification, and praise (admiration). Support his vision/goals/dreams and build with him. Feed him HEALTHY meals cooked from "scratch"…no microwave food, fast food or junk food! Lastly, women should eat healthy and work out on a regular basis in order to remain appealing to their men. :0)

[@RomWills]

Well said Luv.

[@ledonahentley4488]

WiseLady7 Everything you wrote is true, and you either learned that through relationship experience or you were taught that. So many sisters were never taught how to be a woman. My mother never taught me and so many of my friends weren’t taught either. The cocaine/crack epidemic took our ‘mothers’ away and grandmothers were overwhelmed. God has been my mother- bringing people into my life who could pour into me, plus I was willing to listen and learn. I hope to do the same for others.

[@WiseLady7]

@ Ledona Hentley, Yes. You are correct. Experience and the sound advice from a wise, nurturing mother (she has been happily married to my stepfather for over 43 years), aunts (one married to my uncle for over 60 years), female cousins.... even via a sea of wise masculine men in my family....such as my stepfather, brothers, uncles and male cousins (who are all happily married to their spouses). They would sit down and tell me many times how to love a black man. There were additional people who also gave sound advice, such as spiritual leaders in the Church. Let me tell you.....THEY WORK, TOO! The problem is that there are SOME (but not all) black women, who aren't willing to cater to their men in the way I mentioned above. As a result, these same BW end up losing their men to OTHER WOMEN WHO ARE WILLING TO LOVE AND CATER TO THEM.

[@Sage1821]

Sad but true.

[@RomWills]

Yep.

[@TheImplerazure]

Awesome video with great wisdom. Thank you.

[@RomWills]

You're welcome.

[@326ka8]

I love your outro.you introduced me to mia miata a great singer.

[@RomWills]

326Ka Yes she is.

[@mrjonathanjackson89]

It's so frustrating on the real!!!

[@RomWills]

Many feel the same way.

[@BGSIBMOR]

I guess you'll get 10,000 views...lol

[@Expert_Of_Opinions]

I have met more than a few women who would admit that they know good men. They say that the problem is the good man just doesn't do it for them ( they are not attracted or turned on by the good men ) For some strange reason, the man who dogs them out and has babies on them is the one that turns them on.

[@nononsense2396]

Thank you so much for this.

[@RomWills]

You're welcome.

[@MoveInSilence23]

Too bad we don't have time machines to which we can take this back to the late 80s-mid 90s

[@RomWills]

Too bad.

[@jehoramisrael7374]

Nice lesson

[@RomWills]

Thanks fam.

[@Shel1021]

I know good black women who have career jobs. I also know many that have carried men helped them out and then were mistreated by that man. They never thought he would never betray them. When it happens its shocking and a tragedy. Its hard to get over. I still love my brothers.

[@RomWills]

A true man is not going to be comfortable allowing a woman to carry him.

[@rickhoelie7114]

How much you wanna bet that at the start it was obviously that most of these men were bad boys. But no. no no.. These same females you are talking about, that once only got a wet coochie from Ray Ray and Pookie , now suddenly wanna complain. Sorry sis. Next time better!!

[@missk3429]

Rom, I see some of your points but I don't completely agree with them. I think that the woman's father and the men she grew up around influences her choices in men. The area she grew up in influences her. Her mother influences her. If her father, uncles and all the men she grew up around were a hot mess, all she will subconsciously attract is a hot mess. When a woman is like that, she doesn't see good men. And if the good men she her, they seem to avoid her or seem to be not attracted to her. This goes on for a long time before some brave nice dude takes a chance on her. (That poor dude.) He will catch hell. She will be angry, hardened, and out to get hers before he gets her. In her world, all men get (dog) women. This is all she knows. It's an ugly cycle. All this stuff is Jim Crow related, when it deals with black people.

[@RomWills]

I talked about the father's influence in my "Womb Imprint" video. If you remember I reference the imprint in this video so there really no point of disagreement. You have the right insight on many of these topics.

[@KO55]

Miss K. Well Said..

[@ledonahentley4488]

Miss K Yes, that’s why it takes spiritual growth to overcome ALL of that. And before that light bulb comes on something has to happen to wake you up to pursue spiritual growth. Some never wake up. I would’ve never woken up if I didn’t know how to ask God to pull me out of every mental and emotional stronghold. I couldn’t help the circumstances I was born into but I wanted out.

[@HatterFamily]

I'd like to learn and try how to be with a good black man. Every relationship whether working, friend or intimate is a learning experience. However it takes 2 people to learn and work together.

[@RomWills]

That's true sis.

[@reverendministerwillie5494]

Kick They WHAT ???😂😂😂

[@james11462]

100%Correct

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@nophiliamurphy8749]

I'm doing with mine right now!😂❤

[@reverendministerwillie5494]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂she got a WHAT😂😂😂😂

[@djjustice8772]

My religion reality some people can't handle the truth like two talk hate the truth that's not smart

[@TheFilmSpace1]

So true!!! I been dealing with this

[@looneytoons8012]

I know women like this, it would take too long to go into it from a female perspective. I would hours or even days. I would also need my man's help with it, because he has first hand experience. 😔

[@RomWills]

Common problem.

[@KINGRODP]

10:35!!!!.... BINGO!!!

[@RomWills]

Yep.

[@kwakubomani]

Real Talk!

[@mikeprat1]

shared!

[@nativearain7110]

That's right!

[@djjustice8772]

What's smart good leaders make good lisoners that's what we need moore of if u got potintial u can grow twogether and help each other make and get ahead haters will bring u down positive people will bring u up and embrac Montana twogether

[@oakdaddy3676]

Rom , I have the same problem . about 3 yrs ago I move to florida , and going into a year 1 1/2 there i was not sexual with any women yet . I didn't see any thing that catches my eye , and alot of the woman here look rougher than the men , even the young women are hood and thuged out . guys that i'm friends with keep saying just fuck something . but i have to leave my side of town in orange park , to go 30 miles out to see some woman that looked worth maybe a good relationship .

[@RomWills]

You may need to leave that area bruh.

[@oakdaddy3676]

been thinking that for awhile now . but i finish school in late march . i'm in my early 50's , and don't want a female that can still breed babies st the drop a dime . i am taking to other women from other races . alot of these younger females are looking for older men(sugar daddy's) to take care/pay their way for them . i know that it dosen't matter the race , but the women are more thirsty here .

[@reverendministerwillie5494]

Good in bed good men..a WBM...Treat them Right...be too good To them ?...it's Not that it's a Shortage 😁😂

[@darrianjackson2117]

Thx you bro!!!

[@jay-kq5kv]

Other than take advantage

[@thatguyfromthe6eh649]

💯✊

[@ER1CK1NG]

#Game

[@knowthyself2119]

It's getting really crazy listening to these kinds of videos, however, I like to see things from a man's, black man's, a logical point of view. Or what I mostly feel as logical. Even why I question logic is because all I'm hearing & seeing is bashing. And from some bw's videos as well. But, why don't we stop bashing for a sec. Just for a second. Now, The video states 'most women'. Why don't you take the bw who DO know what to do with a 'good black man' & deal with them. Let the ones who 'Dont' fall by the waist side. Point plank, I don't allow them nor brothers who are not interested in bw to hurt me. To me, men like that are called 'damaged goods'. Also, you are what you attract. If you don't like what you are attracting, become a better person & stop bashing.

[@RomWills]

No it's not bashing. See too many women consider anything critical of their actions as bashing. The problem is that the Black men have been shamed into not speaking up. The problem is that too many want to run around with their heads in the sand or only listen to men who say what they want to hear. No more because that way hasn't worked. If you don't these videos don't watch them.

[@knowthyself2119]

Rom Wills Yes it is bashing, and many enjoy it too. The problem is that too many of us are complaining about it. As I said earlier, you are what you attract. Change or go with the few that you do appreciate. Now, I do understand that some bw have this entitlement thing going on, especially when they have absolutely nothing to bring to the table. And the ones who have degrees are another situation within itself. But, no other race is bashing each other but us. Don't you see how crazy this is. And I would stop 'watching' your videos, but their are so many on both sides & it's sickening. Help the situation, don't make it worst.

[@RomWills]

Know Thyself First I strongly suggest you do search on MGTOW or MRA. White men are saying the same things about white women. And please don't try to sound metaphysical with me. *Herukhuti enforces Maat, with brute force if necessary.*

[@knowthyself2119]

Quote what you want to quote. But, I guess we live in a world where people are going to have have a difference of opinion no matter where it gets them. I'm not saying you wrong in what you say. Black people in general are messed up in the game. Look around you. For real. It's going to get worst before it gets better. Change or deal.

[@RomWills]

Know Thyself Actually the quote was to see where your head was at. Now I know.