Addicted to Mr. Goodbar

[@IWantMyVisionBack]

All men, or women for that matter need to be observant and calculated. I seriously don't understand how men can miss certain signs or ignore certain signs from a woman. If you are going to marry her and bring children into this world by her, you definitely need to find out about her past. One's past is extremely important. Once people reach a certain age, they are most likely not going to change their habits and behaviors.

[@RomWills]

Correct.

[@OklamaJr]

They tend to ignore the redflags out of lust thats real for Women And Men

[@alvinhollingeriii2562]

I'd Rather the Goodbar addicts that never marry instead of the ones that do and are unsatisfied. Alot of this it mitigated when a man becomes his superior self , all or most aspects of his life is on point and he is confident of it , he does not just count on his social or sexual success to attract and keep women. If alot of men do the work, go on that personal journey , they will be able to attract woman that will be satisfied with them and have good relationships, and will know when they have a woman who has self sabotaging issues that run too deep and have to be resolves with her own commitment to work on herself...ususally by herself. Do the work. Be that Superior man, stop trying to make certain women see your worth and be with those that do, but be your highest level, mentally , physically, Financially , spiritually.

[@RomWills]

Very well said. I've met Goodbar addicts who refused to deal with other types of men. I have more respect for them because a man will always know where he stands with them.

[@jaygunns]

Alvin Hollinger III this exactly my idea of how a thinking Blackman should operate.

[@alvinhollingeriii2562]

Deborah Yisrael Nope its more Nonmangamous Men than mostly monogamous one. The contemporary culture in the mans life determines whether it is overt or covert. The issue is how structured the practice is. One man and several women can stabilize a culture if the family is structured or it can desaobilize it especially of the sex is creating alot of children. Such as our current culture. There are men however attractive they are to several women, just want one woman. That guy is rare though. Most monogamous guys are average men. Theres a large sector of women ignoring these guys because the attraction, the "Vagina Tingles" arent there, and I believe, their egos are not sensitive to reality. But they try to make it work nontheless LOL!

[@jaygunns]

That's why if I'm getting to know a woman and she lets me know that I'm "not normally the type of guy she dates" then I stope dealing with her immediately.

[@jaygunns]

Paul true. Could also be that she's used to swirling or anything.

[@RomWills]

Jaygunns, You have to do that. A man needs to know how far he can go with a woman. A man can still have sex with a Goodbar Addict but he shouldn't catch feelings. He should never marry her.

[@jaygunns]

Rom Wills exactly. With those types of women I make NO emotional investment.

[@mrcssylvester]

Prof. Rom. I just got into your videos through a reference by Oshay Duke Jackson. This material has made a big difference in my life. The breakdown of dynamics in black relationships is on point. As a black guy, I was always attracted to black women. As I got older I learned there were African women and black American women that had different values and morals. So naturally I leaned towards African women because they were always warmer and had that understanding of the family dynamic where a father plays a leading role. When I was making mid-level money I would always encounter black women that would treat me non-select, but women of other races would look at me as valuable. I never understood it. Now that I make double what I used to these same black women treat me select, but its not based on my character, its all material. That feeling was imprinted on me, now I honestly I would date a foreign woman who makes minimum wage than date a black woman that makes a high salary and throws around her degrees. Even worse the bw that I have encountered always seem like they want to lead which leads to the women being viewed less feminine. Thanks for all your advice.

[@RomWills]

You're welcome. I'm glad to hear that you are doing well. I love African sistas. They are strong minded but know how to stay in their lanes. My kind of woman.

[@missk3429]

Good video. This video made me remember this "goodbar" I delt with. He told me that "once he got through with me I would be searching and begging for him". This dude took pride in hooking women. We were intimate but I didn't get hooked. He kept trying to add "Oral" into the mix. He told me that it was what I needed. I was too hard/manly. I knew he was trying to get in my head /control me so I refused the Oral and put him in time out. I hate mind games and control freaks and ego maniacs. You know I got that pink slip ready. SMH

[@RomWills]

He definitely didn't have you hooked because otherwise he wouldn't have to ASK for oral. You would have just given it to him.

[@D.Anderson]

Classic movie that illustrate that, Casino, Sharon Stones character loved James Woods gave him money etc for years.

[@RomWills]

I have to check that movie out.

[@D.Anderson]

Yes bro its a early 90's movie with Robert DeNiro as the lead but Sharon Stone character always had the soft spot for the what if imprint guy!

[@RomWills]

***** Naw, I guess I need to check it out.

[@abysmalvsmarcus]

DeNiro fucked up when he married her tho. She even told him she wasn't the marrying type.

[@FGAlele]

Starting 2017 with a {Boom}. Great Discussion.

[@RomWills]

Thank you.

[@MoveInSilence23]

Goodbars... I just love that word. Reminds me of some Cool J spitting game back in the day.

[@RomWills]

It goes back a long time.

[@donavin51]

Great video. I’m combining through the archives Uncle Rom and staying on my square.

[@donnelladams340]

LLcool j was calling himself Mr Good bar a long time ago.

[@sniper11n.d.34]

Don't look at the past...the past is their to search. If you wanna know her better and trust her beware of the past. Her past is what she is now so you need to now as a men. Love is blind...that's for kids. Professor Rom with the knowledge.

[@RomWills]

That's wisdom. Thanks for adding that to the mix.

[@sniper11n.d.34]

Good decisions make good judgments. I learn from other people their mistakes. You're welcome.

[@DenmarckAddams5657]

So Mr.GoodBar is a "Dopamine Dope Dealer 💉 💊

[@missk3429]

No Rom, he wanted to give it to me. Word is that he is a beast in the department. That is one of his weapons.

[@missk3429]

Some women are addicted to that and he knows it. SMH

[@RomWills]

Most women would have taken it.

[@missk3429]

You are right but comman sense should tell anyone that everything comes at a cost. Men are goal orientated and they like returns on their investments.

[@RomWills]

Miss K Truth.

[@missk3429]

:-)

[@TippiVeganGurl]

Sadly, Mr. Good bars hit a wall and hard! I know some...Better to get a release of feel good hormones (endorphins) in the gym working on yourself until you meet a nice respectable compatible person...

[@RomWills]

Truth! There are few Goodbars past the age of fifty. The ones who still got it typically evolved.

[@jaygunns]

TIPPI the Vegan this is what I do and it works.

[@RomWills]

Master Will I know what she looks like. She'll have a big following right away if she shows her face and body.

[@handled99]

How do you know if you are in the "goodbar" category or not, if you aren't actively seeking out women/relationships? I'm usually at work, at school, or at the gym, that's it. I'm just busy hustling building my life, haven't dated in a long time.

[@RomWills]

If women are constantly coming on to you, you're in the Goodbar category. This can happen anywhere, i.e. work, grocery store, school, gym, bus stop. Anywhere you may see women.

[@MrTone075]

or if women constantly give you eye contact, come close to your space... choosing signals

[@joefromdc]

Happy new yr Uncle Rom

[@RomWills]

Happy New Year Joseph!

[@AndrewJohnson-bj3hp]

Happy new year sir. Question. If you are with chick who is addicted to goodbars. Should you turn yourself into a Good bar to win her over or is it best to charge her to the game?

[@RomWills]

Charge her to the game. Find the woman that sees you as a Goodbar.

[@jaygunns]

Andrew Johnson its damn near impossible to overcome her imprint.

[@alvinhollingeriii2562]

Andrew Johnson A man can exercise courage in either reprogramming the womans goodbar imprint OR in letting her go in spite of having strong feelings for her. Ultimately you need to become a Goodbar and Success for yourself, to get the most out of your life and ATTRACT the best type of woman for you. For Men , sex is more maintenence of situation than pleasure, and for women sex needs to be more pleasure than maintenence of situation. Thats how it works.

[@alvinhollingeriii2562]

Andrew Johnson Seek to find a woman that can recieve your Imprint and reciprocate and respect, but that being said, master your art of sexually imprinting a woman. Too many men resent that they get no female action and resent working towards their highest level overall, beyond their raw talents and interests. We all should be full spectrum men with Fitness, Insight, Ability Etc. Our presence should be so powerful we make women subconsciously want to step their game up.

[@AndrewJohnson-bj3hp]

I hear you Bun-down, Jaygunns and Alvin. The common theme in your answers are knowing that you are a valuable asset and the fact that you have options so you can cut your losses. Thing is women shouldn't hide their mr goodbars, cause us guys don't mind women having sex buddies as long as they're honest from the start and SERIOUSLY planning on a relationship . Of course, we wouldn't go on dates, but we would just Netflix and chill til they're ready for a relationship. If not, at least it was a win-win situation.

[@redaquarian8665]

Rom - What are your thoughts on a woman who was "imprinted" by her biological Dad? How does that effect her views on men, Mr. Goodbars, Beta males, etc?

[@RomWills]

C Toomer, It would depend on which category she saw her dad. The womb doesn't make a distinction between a biological relative and Joe Blow off the street. She would tend to look for someone like her father and maybe subconsciously try to duplicate the relationship dynamic. She would have a tendency to go after significantly older men who are paternal towards her.

[@fredericjoseph8513]

Rom, thanks for you videos and the wisdom, what's the difference between a Goodbar and a guy who is simply "Select". Thanks

[@RomWills]

Two types of select. Goodbar is select because he turns women on sexually. Masked Men are select because of their status and power.

[@MrOrlandodh12]

lol that's reality

[@beyondlimitless5414]

Rom Wills do you believe in born natural and built goodbars? reason I ask is because after watching your videos and relating bits and pieces to my own life I can say with confidence that i am a Mr goodbar type. I remember some of my most earliest experiences in childhood where it might've imprinted me to shape my future experiences with women because I was aware that I was select amongst my girl school peers and neighborhood girls I recall watching my first porno at a childhood friends house that he snuck from his stepfathers room when I was no older then 10 or 11, after those first few scenes I figured out parts of women nature and it was very simple to me. I thought to myself " if there's girls capable of doing this on camera then I KNOW for a fact some do this in real life" and that was the seed implanted in my head for. life of being a good bar because when I gained more common sense and knowledge as I aged as a kid/teen my sexual experiences increased dramatically ONLY because I pushed the envelope with one then thought I could go further with another and I was already turning out every girl I could by the age of 15. I know you touched on women and men imprints some videos ago but what do you think about the Mr good at imprint to even realize you're. good at type?

[@RomWills]

There are some natural Goodbars. I would say that maybe 12 percent of the population is born with a natural tendency to become a Goodbar. Not that they will always realize that potential though. As far as imprint, young Mr. Goodbar tend to be the ones who hook up with the popular girls, teachers, and older women in the neighborhood. From a young age Goodbars will have women throwing themselves at him. You should check out my subscription site, www.connectpal.com/romwillsraw. I get into the deeper aspects there.

[@jamesdwilliams2605]

The R&B group Pretty Ricky has a song called “Mr. Goodbar.” I think they might have stole your concept 😂😂😂

[@RomWills]

LOL! Naw the term goes back to a book written in the 1970's called "Looking for Mr. Goodbar."

[@wallaceadam8034]

What does a Goodbar mean ?

[@RomWills]

It's an allegory to what women get from this man which is good sex. My mentor came up with the reference which is from the 1970's movie, "Looking for Mr. Goodbar." Many women see him like a good piece of chocolate.

[@wallaceadam8034]

Thanks Rom

[@MoveInSilence23]

Rom Wills wasn't Diane Keaton in that? Pretty good movie btw

[@jonathanphillips3680]

Unhuh...