Rugby Player With Tourette's & Asperger's Has Dating Confidence Issues | The Undateables

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[@mstubeornottube]

Channel 4 --can't get it in US. If someone in US can please tell me how or guess I just wait til someone posts it here!

[@mariamtamer452]

Fear of rejection is so powerful .

[@JimmyStruthers1000]

Mariam Tamer it really is. It stops people from reaching their full potential for a lot of things

[@spidaminida]

Fear in general is so powerful. But sometimes you have to realise that fear and excitement are two sides of the same coin, and sometimes you can choose.

[@GTO2710]

Spot on mate

[@dzehliono8320]

Fear is what gets you thinking though

[@skybarback8233]

Bala manyake

[@ninjamatic5000]

it's like I'm watching an attractive physically fit version of myself.

[@ev4728]

ninjamatic5000 Same

[@vexgunneryt1981]

@@ev4728 do you not get the joke?😂😂

[@monsieurpoope5434]

@@vexgunneryt1981 hmmm he just said same?

[@owenhunt]

Except he doesn't have Aspergers because the real condition disallows you from actually having big forearms and similar. I had a really similar build a few years ago but my forearms would only look big unsheathed: with sleeves rolled up they are definitely not as girthy as his look here. There are genuine visceral issues in Autism that stop growth from reaching a high end point.

[@ganni1615]

@@owenhunt your comment is utter and complete nonsense

[@MLSoll]

He really is gorgeous...but you can tell that what holds him back makes him suffer a lot :(

[@LLHam-cd7hc]

His eyes are sad. Good looks don't mean as much when you are hurting on the inside and feel inadequate in most situations. He's so attractive that I think that most probably don't even bother getting to know him well - that barrier between physical appearance and a deeper emotional connection is hard to break down

[@1232-e7b]

I think most women don’t approach him because he’s good looking

[@kylemonkiewicz2803]

It the normal life of someone with autism

[@んやんまゆこ]

It's actually scary how ticks look kind of cute just because he's good looking. It makes me kind of sad to see that I myself feel different about people with the same condition just because they look different.

[@noneya7377]

Hes cute

[@ellashealthnhappiness5040]

んやんまゆこ Of course his TICs looks super cute, cause he's hot! So what? I have tourettes and asperger. My BF finds my odd things cute, cause he loves me and he's attracted to be as a package. ❤️ He doensn't pity me, cause am "broken", but rather sees me as unique. Wich I am, aren't we all. 🌈💕

[@1232-e7b]

It’s funny how these disabilities or conditions make an attractive person even more hot because we see them as more approachable whereas if an unattractive person has these issues they’re even less attractive

[@tobiaslawrence8928]

Because looks matter no way or either way you cut it they matter

[@joshyc2006]

@@1232-e7b attractiveness is a pretty decent trump card to fall back on, cheatcode!

[@bunkertons]

My partner has Asperger's with Tourette like symptoms and I love him more than anyone else in the world. I never thought he was "undateable" and if we ever got a chance to live our lives over I would marry him again and again.

[@godtastic4189]

Anne good for you best luck for the both of you. 👍

Anne well bless your heart darling, it's wonderful that you found that someone special to love you and love back. It seems to be a rarity, so many men are just awful. You're very fortunate. All the very best to you both x

[@cummywummiez]

What if he was fat

[@bunkertons]

Lol, my opinion would not change. Anyone who considers fat people "undateable" is "undateable" themselves.

[@D35troy3r199]

What if you become gay after your rebirth?

[@louispearson8306]

the problem is hes so physically attractive, that i imagine it will be impossible for people to break through that mid length relationship barrier.

[@Wyatt19961212]

100% correct, I have Aspergers (though perhaps more mild than he) and I’m reasonably attractive (though less so than he) & while I’ve had a couple relationships, the 2 longest only got to 6 months before they ended. Plenty of women seem attracted purely to my looks, but once I really start to reveal my private nature, things gradually start to go down hill.

[@CuteKristy179]

People only want to date him because he's attractive. That's sad, I'm sure there are people with Tourette syndrome and not so attractive and many people would ignore them. Sad world we live in

[@karenjamison2015]

I knew this when I was 8.

[@PeteS_1994]

He's attractive though cause he exercises.

[@callumjames84]

Pete S. that can’t be the only reason

[@PeteS_1994]

@@callumjames84 Yeah I agree

[@Rumblingbelly]

@@PeteS_1994 Are you fucking blind? He has good face genes and height etc. An ugly person cant do shit if he just exercises..

[@animefan3261]

I can totally understand this guy, I myself was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome when I was 14, it's mild but I do find difficulty sometimes with eye contact and I'm not great with conversations either unless the person I'm speaking to I feel is someone I could trust. I've never been great with relationships either, even though one day I hope to find a woman I could love and appreciate.

[@Kolenment]

You sound like me.

[@animefan3261]

NumericalDark you diagnosed with anything?

[@Kolenment]

Aspergers and Depression

[@animefan3261]

NumericalDark oh ok, how are you with them?

[@Kolenment]

The same as you. I slip up on words and I'm generally not that good in social situations but that's about it. As for the depression, well I kinda learned to embrace and live with it.

[@LLHam-cd7hc]

Not trying to romancise his condition but when he does that blinking tic like at 0:20 I find it so endearing

[@Mutiny960]

And if he were normal or ugly you would find it creepy. That's how the world works.

[@Lululululee]

deal with it

[@cletustheslob5237]

thats just cuz u think he looks good. same thing with women gushing in youtube comments about that severely autistic man who looks like a male model. thats what we call lookism

[@ellashealthnhappiness5040]

cletus the slob He doesn't JUST look good. He also has a nice personality. Those compered together is hot. I have the same conditions as him and I find his story very inspiring.

[@godisimaginary2334]

Fuck me, Jack Wilshere buffed up

[@bumblebeez1341]

he's bloody gorgeous!!

[@gabrielbellini4311]

white + german features, no wonder

[@Vexilator]

Gabriel Bello cough storm front cough

[@gabrielbellini4311]

Nah, I don't go to stormfront but in average, german features are really attractive while jews in average are smarter, this is just how nature works 🤔

[@Vexilator]

Gabriel Bello Well you arent a very bright one then

[@gabrielbellini4311]

I don't think that's much of an argument Vex 🤔.

[@rachelyisulboone]

This made me tear up because I can relate to him on so many levels. I myself suffer from Asperger's and know how hard it is to date. As a 26year old woman, I feel like I'm socially behind from most of my peers. But, I wouldn't have it any other way.

[@Leptyzz]

Rachel Boone I have aspergers as well, and it’s brutally difficult :/ dating and otherwise.

[@jaylamcgee8326]

He seems like a great guy and all it if he was ugly no one would even give him a second look

[@taintedsoul888]

/fit/

[@chilli.4798]

kek was looking for this

[@OhhZRB]

taintedsoul888 great

[@ThePROcrastinator8]

trill

[@animalmother5473]

Leave it out brah

[@senndhaboex]

brehs

[@lb3130]

I would marry him in a heartbeat. He has such a sweet personality and loving heart. What a great guy!!

[@cooliest2267]

You blackpilling bitch

[@solinelgonzalez8312]

he's gorgeous and looks so nice. hope he meets someone

[@greathornedowl1783]

Halo effect.

[@cooliest2267]

Blackpilled

[@gabrielrojas613]

So many incels in this comment section

[@tom_demarco]

@@gabrielrojas613 so many reasonable people

[@mikeallan7740]

@@gabrielrojas613 Did it work? Did she touch it because you used the word incel?

[@Marianita195]

Every now and then I remember Tom and I think "I hope he's found someone." Still keeping you in my prayers Tom!

[@Chris-vs6ll]

Marianita Bustos there’s always you!

[@cooliest2267]

Keep Chad in your prayers

[@horizonrising3216]

The problem is him thinking he has to be in a romantic relationship first. If he finds a girl he likes but they begin as friends, it will be less pressure on him and he won't have to worry about them leaving him due to romantic reasons.

[@hannah08108]

Well said

[@alexong2542]

Thats the problem with us asperger's. For us, it's either yes or no. We can't comprehend how friends could end up in relationships.

[@cuitlahuachuiqui6292]

Yeah, he is a autistic version of chad. Because he’s good looking musculair and had a firm good jawline, girls find him cute. And dont really care of he’s confidend or has good social skills. If hé was ugly or average looking, girls rejected him and see him as a Creep.

[@cooliest2267]

Facts

[@cooliest2267]

@Pen Bashiro, MD No that's a really dumb argument on the surface. Men who are ugly get called creeps because their appearances are "creepy". It's a social sitgma nobody likes to admit, but everyone seems to cover up as a way of saying you don't have confidence. Confidence only gets you so far. The law of attraction is first looks, then personality. It's not rocket science. And to say incels lack self-awareness is partially true because most incels are below-average to average and think the world is out to get them. Hence why a lot of them are socially awkward and then get angry when girls reject them. Some are even pretty good looking and have a lot of it in their head. Sad really lol

[@cooliest2267]

@Pen Bashiro, MD Nah just saying the truth. You got nothing to come back with lmao

[@cooliest2267]

@Pen Bashiro, MD i never said i took their stance lol... i said it's a decent viewpoint with some truth, but most of them are crazy

[@RazorHedgehog]

As a wise man once said, looks is LAW

[@robertjazz3613]

This guy is handsome like literally what girl wouldn’t want him he seems like a beautiful human being both inside and out.

[@marklion4338]

"Just be confident bro....." -Chad

[@turnip5359]

I had a coworker say that to me, I also have ASD. It did annoy me because I can barely make eye contact with customers but I always try to put myself in uncomfortable situations I guess

[@cooliest2267]

People in the comments are half blackpilled and half girls simping. Very brutal

[@RazorHedgehog]

​@@cooliest2267100% agree, most blackpilling comments ever

[@suddendee]

🥺 he gets overwhelmed when women get attracted

[@cooliest2267]

Blackpilled

[@siZeDcuBe]

Step one: Be attractive

[@bigbobabc123]

Henry Marshal be short and bald

[@Joshua-hz3cl]

Step two, don't be unattractive

[@IsolationJD]

@@Joshua-hz3cl well fuck

[@zitronentee]

Nah, Step 1 : be healthy. It will make you more attractive.

[@christopherkay6903]

Step two: have a fat wallet

[@HolandaChiquita]

I always fin it fascinating that it's so easy to spot someone with Asperger's. I've got some siblings and a few friends with Autism and Asperger's. They are the best people in many ways. But also very tiring at times, but every single day must be so incredibly tiring for them!

[@jreverie7018]

Ahh I feel you man :( I’m 26 in a few days and I’ve never had a girlfriend. I lost my eye a few days before my 17th birthday (went blind) and have struggled with confidence ever since. I have a fake eye that lags a bit behind my real one. I just can’t seem to ever convince myself I’m not ugly to woman, when it comes to physical attraction. And due to the lack of experience (non existent) I just feel like I’m just a total hopeless romantic. I am happy though, I make the most of what I’ve got in every other aspect of life, just not dating.

[@ChristoferKelly]

J M If it were me that lost my eye, or were to date someone who had, I’d not even consider a fake eye. The role and significance of the eyes in interaction is profound, that it’s unique out of any other part of the body, or even any form of communication, at being able to and, in many situations, essential to convey the intention of the person, and make evaluations that can’t be made in other ways. It’s why autistic people on certain parts of the spectrum have such a tough time interpreting the situation in a social context, or reading another person’s emotional state, since the eye contact isn’t feeding them about 80% of the information that the rest of people are being fed without conscious effort. So, something like a fake eye that lags (they all do), is probably consciously quite jarring to a person, but subconsciously, it’s sounding alarms in the brains of most people. Eyes are not only communicating the psychological elements of a person who may be sexually attracted to a person, or about to attack and kill that person, or may be incredibly disinterested in that person, but it’s not difficult to tell for socially aware folk. But it is a huge indicator of neurological function, which doctors use as part of a neurological assessment, since it is a commonly affected by many conditions in the brain, such as stroke, tumours, hypoxia, multiple sclerosis, or syphilis. And it also gets noticed by the effect of diseases outside the brain, in other parts of the body, such as the neck, the cardiovascular system, and obviously the eyes themselves. Someone with too much Botox who can’t move their brow enough to express themselves visually immediately appear to seem emotionless or robotic, and it puts others off. Any disturbance in any person’s visual field that isn’t shorter than about 5-10ms in length gets registered with surprising awareness. Unless you can reduce the lag time between synchronous eye movements to within 5ms, I would see how much difference you will observe in the way people behave if you remove the fake eye. A single moving eye is a huge improvement in how its perceived compared to a pair working independently. A single eye can communicate with equal efficacy as two normally appearing eyes, since normal eyes always do the same action in unison, so they aren’t providing twice the information that one eye does. The only message that someone can possibly get from seeing a one-eyed person is that the person was likely involved in a physical accident. This rarely, if ever, generates any value judgment, as accidents are acceptable to biological organisms that aren’t generally worried that their offspring will inherit the accidental loss of an eye. It’s probably why someone will more likely choose to have drunken sex with an average Joe who’s missing a leg and an arm, over a good looking person who can’t help his arms flailing around randomly. One of those gets passed onto the offspring, and the other makes someone feel sorry for them and that usually invokes a sexual impulse. Therefore, let them feel sorry for you and your missing eye. There’s at least a few good pity fucks that’ll raise your confidence, then you will see that you have the option of an eye patch, which makes you fortunate to be male, as, apart from Gabrielle, women won’t ever look sexier being associated with pirates. Men are fortunate that women associate it with danger, adventure, and rogering the cabin boy. Oh, and Johnny Depp. But in a socially derived context, women tend to care less about the way a man looks, and more about how he treats them. Unless they have an eye that lags, and then they have one more thing to feel insecure about when they never know where you’re looking. The eye patch isn’t even necessary. It’s not like you have a gaping socket and exposed muscle, though some would love that more. And a healed orbital region will have the same flesh coloured tissue as the rest of your face. So, while it’s hard to believe, people will be no way near as bothered by seeing the funniest version of peekaboo as you, and even that you probably won’t be able to see is a winner while your self-image is in the dumps, But you could be the king of Halloween if you took out the scary looking eye and put in one that’s hanging out by its nerve, and covered in blood.

[@eshaa4857]

U THE MAN DONT LET ANYONE TELL YOU OTHERWISE OK

[@bummerdrummer1649]

People talking about this guy: "He's so brave and has such a nice soul, I'm jealous to whichever lucky girl gets him!" People talking about someone else with these exact same disorders but they're ugly "Oh my god dude, just control your tics. God that makes you so unattractive and ugly." Only reason he's getting dates is because of how he looks. You know it, I know it. Let's stop trying to say it's not.

[@ryco4198]

Bummer Drummer you’re half right. Anyone who reduced his situation to his looks alone gripped the wrong end of the stick. It’s fundamentally not a case of “he has these issues but he’s attractive so it doesn’t matter”, it’s that “he’s has these issues and they have these impacts on him, as they would anyone, regardless of other factors”. Bring in his looks, bring in anything else - the real pinnacle is the fact that a condition is a condition.

[@mcpartridgeboy]

Only reason he is getting attention is because he is on tv, im a model and i have people comming upo to me in the industry telling me im really beutiful, im a 40 yr old virgin because of my aspeergers, women dont like very attractive men if they did i would have women around me always, yes women drool over me but when i talk to them they always get turned off by my personality, its happened for 40 years im way past my prime now and still women really like me for how i look and still i get rejected every single time by all women, its not his looks its being on tv ! if he came up to you and aproached you nervously and an ugly bad mannered dominat alpha male aproached you you would be off with the dominat alpha male quicker that a heart beat and i know this because its happened to me , AND HIM for decades ! in my case 40 years, dont fool yourself into thining a kind smart rediculously handsome caring loving guy can win you over, look at all your last boyfriends their all dominating abusive alpha males, not underconfident nice men, its sad i know women better than women.

[@RazorHedgehog]

Blackpill wins again

[@GFINHK]

He seems like a nice guy but has very low self-esteem as a result of his conditions.

[@greathornedowl1783]

Nice guys are only good if they are attractive. Nice guys who are average are misogynistic incel terrorists who only want to use women's bodies.

[@Walamonga1313]

He got lucky and unlucky. Some people just get unlucky though.

[@kylemonkiewicz2803]

He doesn't have low self esteem he autistic most people don't understand what that really means

[@kylemonkiewicz2803]

His looks have nothing to do with luck maybe the color of his eyes or his genes but he also has the same genes that produce autism. Autism isn't bad but most people don't understand that people with autism are social impaired. They have a difficult time socialize ing he must have gone through some abuse if he behaves in such a way

[@mrsmiley707]

@@kylemonkiewicz2803 you really understand

[@Sspratz]

To be honest, I have Aspergers and I’ve been in 2 real relationships. Now to get personal, most of the girls I meet and become friends with, I more want to be friends with benefits than a relationship so I don’t get hurt. I’m not flexing or trying to brag, the amount of people you’ve been with isn’t something to brag about, plus it doesn’t look good on you. I’ve been confident in talking to girls I like but actually building it up to a relationship is what I really struggle with. Hope that makes sense? I believe I’ll find the one when I least expect it.

[@isabelleandrews5381]

I have Tourette's (and a ton of other disorders that will take too long to list), and it totally messes with my love life. I don't let people in as much, so I've had much more friends with benefits than actual relationships. An actual relationship means being vulnerable, which could lead to me getting hurt, and I close up because of that. FWB is so much easier to handle, but I still feel lonely

[@jormungandr7527]

I have the same 2 conditions. Both mild but it still has a giant effect on my dating life. A lot of people ask me why I don’t date even though I’ve been asked out by a few girls. I tell them I have priorities and that I’m not interested but the truth is I lack confidence that I will be able to take care of the partners needs. And I always feel like I’m just gonna mess something up or embarrass them.

[@CeciliaCaramel]

aww, i want to give a big hug to him too. hopefully he will conquer his fears and find true love in the future.

[@BenFleury]

I completely emphasise with Tom. I’ve got Aspergers too and I’m shy to talk to women at a bar or ask them out etc. I’m not athletic like he is but since training at drama school it has given me confidence and kept me fit. Aspergers does have it’s downs but it has it’s pros like being active, having loads of interests and hobbies, but unfortunately is hasn’t given me a girlfriend. Family & friends say to me that whoever your soul mate is she is a lucky women, you deserve a girlfriend, you’re good looking, kind etc. I want to believe it but I think it’s just wishful thinking to be honest and being too optimistic. I’ve not exactly given up on getting a girlfriend but I’m not thinking about it too much anymore cos I’ve been doing that for years and is hasn’t led anywhere. Instead I’m thinking of other parts of my life I can develop and be confident at, and then one day it might lead to a relationship but it may not.

[@prissycorvin1306]

You will find someone!

[@BenFleury]

mangle 99 Thank you for your kind words.

[@prissycorvin1306]

@@BenFleury your very welcome hope your having a great day!

[@BenFleury]

mangle 99 Had a great day thanks :)

[@prissycorvin1306]

@@BenFleury very nice!

[@lewiswise7808]

I, myself, have Asperger's Syndrome and understand Tom's anxieties. I, like him, am an ambassador for a charity which helps people with this condition and have managed to stay employed continuously for the last 11 years. Whilst I am proud of these things, I, like Tom, have never dated or had a serious relationship. I have the same concerns and worries as he does and have never had the confidence to approach girls. Girls have approached me, but like Tom, nerves got the better of me, and I couldn't go any further. I have regretted that ever since, but at the time, the anxiety was so overwhelming the only choice was to run away from it. I am hopeful that this to change, but it does take time.

[@ironknobsteelworks4063]

looks is life.

[@TheJohn93226]

As an Aspie I've been through the same stuff, friend, got diagnosed at age 34 and am 36 now and a 240 pound bodybuilder and have a degree in law and also I am an IT-Engineer and have been working as such for many years now, so I know exactly how you feel and all the best!

[@owenhunt]

Your story spiralled out of control so quickly XD

[@mega-hb4re]

Shut up loser steroid boy.

[@EH5fdf]

His good looking makes everything else easier.... i swear to God if he had an everage look NO one would look at him!

[@Hydroxoid]

Sad but true

[@maya_jones3411]

LOL You should come to reality, vast majority of the human population is between unattractive and average looking and yet many many people find love and get married

[@Walamonga1313]

@@maya_jones3411 Marriage is a scam

[@AdoptedPoo]

@@Walamonga1313 yh and average men and lower end up with used women in their 30s

[@SpankinHands]

I worked in a building with a property manager who had aspergers and he very capable and highly respected -- he just didn't look you in the eye when conversing. He didn't seem risk averse. Fear seems to have Tom hemmed in.

[@madelinefigueroa7457]

The man is sensitive, charming, obviously considerate, smart and gorgeous. He has it all! I would love to date him. So what if he moves and says things unvoluntarily. There's men with mental issues, physical issues, etc. and we still date them and love them, why not a man with his condition?

[@spenser9908]

Yeah yeah, you're all about the looks.

[@sponish0]

Bill Murray from The Man Who Knew Too Little yeah cause I’m sure you don’t wanna date hot girls with great bodies

[@greathornedowl1783]

@@spenser9908 Isn't it funny how these THOTS never respond to all this criticism? I wonder why? it's because they know it's true.

[@greathornedowl1783]

@@sponish0 Any man wants that really, but man are realistic and usually settle for average women. Women on the other hand won't settle for anything but their fantasy man.

[@Fluffyolphert]

What's with all the men getting triggered in this comment section lol are women not allowed to find this dude attractive or something lol

[@carina5298]

He's 10x sweeter than 99.9% of the men out there. The people on this show seem so sweet. :3 I hope they all find amazing, understanding partners.

[@GNstudios1000]

So like your 99.9% of the generalizing cunts

[@trancemadmaz]

Sweet doesn't get you laid

[@greathornedowl1783]

@@trancemadmaz She means he's hot, a sweet unattractive guy is teh ebil incel.

[@josephang9927]

Women hate emotional men.

[@nlsdrf1290]

You say he’s sweet but if he wasn’t a chad then you’d say he’s a creep

[@kellerkramer9734]

He's beautiful

[@truthseeker000000]

He is such a hunk! He also seem like such a nice respectable and sweet man! I hope he finds a beautiful gal in his life!

[@alyssabarbeau9027]

He seems amazing, whoever ends up with his is so lucky!!!

[@birdmanuk]

Go for him yourself

[@sponish0]

i love how pretty much every comment is either from a girl saying how handsome he is or a snarky comment from a guy whos jealous of the attention he's getting lol

[@birdmanuk]

sponish0 more like guys who have female nature all worked out

[@sponish0]

birdman uk2020 I love how the guys who have female nature worked out are the ones who never leave their rooms and have no contact with women

[@greathornedowl1783]

@@sponish0 I'm what you would call an incel and a couple weeks ago I actually went clubbing with my mate. A few attractive girls even danced with me but because I have asperges I can't read social cues and can't hold a conversation for more than a few seconds so that night didn't end in success.

[@sponish0]

Le Perfect Soy Goy yet if you did get lucky I guarantee you wouldn’t be complaining about them being “roasties”

[@PersonOnEarth]

@@sponish0 "I love how the guys who have female nature worked out are the ones who never leave their rooms and have no contact with women" I got a hell of a kick out of this comment. So funny I guess because it holds true. Hilarious dude thanks for the laugh.

[@benwest7420]

The heaviest things we lift are our feels

[@rocketmoonshine9205]

All I could say is that you are brave. One day you'll find unconditional love.

[@stampiboy1]

This is on of the cutest show i ever seen❤

[@ironchad5656]

Mental health issues do not receive enough funding. The country would rather fund benefits for people who choose not to work.

[@Rachelcampbellll]

Leptin which are a minority... benefits go to people who are mentally ill and cannot work so...??

[@ironchad5656]

Yes in some extreme cases people cannot work due to mental health issues, or disabilities and that is fine, but there are many people who are just lazy, fat, or choose to have multiple children even though they know they cannot fund them. I mean that more money from the government needs to go towards treating and researching mental health problems instead of paying people who choose not to contribute to society.

[@Bill-rk8vb]

+Leptin Its on the spectrum of being a mental illness, lol

[@Sion.Ryan.Green.]

Leptin x

[@ironchad5656]

It is pretty similar ngl.

[@Shaqstheman000]

He's got such a beautiful soul! I can tell because of his beautiful face and body!

[@ellashealthnhappiness5040]

Why is everyone here being so negative and feeling sorry for us?? I don't get yall's attitude! 😪🙄 I have tourettes and asperger, and I find stories like this super inspiring and encouraging! 😍 Sure people like me will need to do more work to make ourselves attractive to find a romantic partner. Especially I, who was not born super pretty. Don't act as if you don't care at all, what your partner looks like. We all care a little at least, it is healthy. It is super unfair, but unfortenately the world isn't fair. It is a fact we must deal with. We don't need your pity, only your compassion. We all CAN make yourself look good, be a FRIENDLY person and gain confidence by WORKING for it! You don't have to have perfect genes to simply work on looking better and improving social skills. Good social skills are the key to being sexy. He is NOT just a hot body, he actually seems like a nice guy! I don't get, why you guys can not accept that hot people too can be kind and interesting people! ☀️ I used to be lazy and still complain all the time. Now I put in the work and complain less. 💪🏾 Nothing is perfect, so you will always find problems, when you choose to. Success only is achieved by focusing on solutions. I am not super good looking yet, but am working on it! 😁 I changed my own poor attitude over time trough therapy and other mental work: I am so much happier now and get more dates too. 💕

[@morg_ham760]

A true himbo we should all be like this man

[@floppycheese9369]

Rare footage of a king

[@yoloswaggins1579]

Asperges AND tourettes? Lol, this guy is a hero.

[@attomicchicken]

Mate you have more courage than some of us out there who are "normal". You have funny quirks and down to earth. You have 0 in the way of worry. Just work on hugging your mum and telling her how much you love her. She's the first lady you should impress. All the others come secondary.

[@DTOLL9000]

How can you not believe in the Blackpill after witnessing this?

[@johns966]

the Blackpill is?????

[@FfFf-gi1hd]

@@johns966basically the theory that looks are by far what’s most important in attracting the opposite sex. Basically this video is pretty strong evidence of the theory

[@az956]

It's so difficult to let that guard down. I suffer with Fibromyalgia and as desperately lonely as I feel, I just can't bring myself to risk giving my heart away. Someone can't love me, if I can't even love myself.

[@sianlewis992]

I am very thankful for him as I have Aspergers and Tourettes and I am 13 he is such an ambassador

[@mowilliams7218]

i wouldnt care if he had no limbs tf , ill take all that 💙

[@Bill-rk8vb]

Thats bs, you would look at an amputee with disgust

[@rachelbaker3295]

Thats what you say now ,No wliiylimbs,i bet you may feel different If it was for real

[@HomelessCat-x]

eh you seem shallow. id give you a month and once his looks wear off you'd probably bail. every girl likes to think they can date a guy with mental illness i can tell you from experience most cant.

[@HomelessCat-x]

every girl after dating a guy with mental illness for a few weeks "why are you always like this" "cant you just like idk push through it for a few hours and be social" shit like that they just have no clue most think its something that can be turned off lmao.

[@sponish0]

Yamaha Life not really a mental illness though he has Tourette’s

[@amberknowgood]

I hope he’s doing well today

[@nileyfan1998]

His so shy and sweet ❤️hope he finds someone

[@mstubeornottube]

I know people with Aspergers and Tourette's and it would be fine - especially when they are that sweet, gorgeous , modest , enterprising and giving back to community. Someone just needs to assure him they aren't going anywhere. Plus, we all have things that need understanding.

[@solitudeguard5688]

This is really upsetting. People are only going for him because he’s physically attractive

[@sponish0]

Whiterun Guard he’s also sporty, humble, driven, successful. Hes literally got everything going for him of course he’s going to attract women.

[@Rabbishekelberg]

It's how nature works you didn't know

[@shrimpanzee001]

In the land of the autists, the jacked man is Chad.

[@greathornedowl1783]

No, the man with the nice face is chad. Jacked autists without the nice face are gymcels.

[@djsubliminalreeve]

its not entirely true i'm a jacked aspie and barely slept around even if i did get female attention i would ignore most women out of anxiety

[@dathunderman4]

Le Perfect Soy Goy yeah this guy is definitely a chad. He disproves all the copers out there who say “I just don’t have a girl because I’m socially awkward” this guy has asepergers and Tourette’s and yet because he’s chad women lust after him

[@AdoptedPoo]

@@dathunderman4 brutal pill, now inceltears can fucking be deleted off of reddit. THIS IS LITERAL PROOF.

[@marckid93]

Tell him to approach guys, cause i’d say yes in a flash 🥰

[@puttputt524]

I have mild autism and didn’t learn about aspergers until this past year. I’m 30 and I’ve never had a girlfriend.

[@robbiemills4628]

Thats Basiclly me Rugby player with tourettes! And im nervious

[@ivanwashington3186]

his saving grace really is his social intelligence/TOM, which most on the spectrum struggle with.

[@leon.k9509]

Now imagine being a guy having all of those conditions, except being ugly, rip to that guy.

[@clair233]

Tom is back !!!

[@artisticafflair408]

Anyone with Asperger's or is on the ASD will understand how difficult it is to find someone, and if only you are on the spectrum only then can you truly be on someone's wave length. I know how hard it is like tom, my face masks how I think, and this makes it extremely difficult for me. I don't portray myself as to how I look. It confuses people and understandably so. They just see you for what you look like. I have been in his position too, it's so hard to not feel real connection with people because they are neurotipical.

[@MrBradlp1]

I really like his voice and he seems so sweet!

[@whonikki]

The thing that matters the most is your soul, the true person with Good heart!!

[@birdmanuk]

Nikki sure it does

[@ghostyvaessenofficial1284]

I swear its like watching myself i fully relate to this

[@ravlarrs4373]

Anyone else think this was Jack Wilshere in the thumbnail? What a legend though.

[@detroitmania]

I absolutely love this show, I think they are all so great

[@Mbeepyd]

Phwoarr. He is so handsome and endearing too. I am jealous of whichever girl ends up with him :)

[@Olivia-oi2dk]

He is such a lovely guy!!

[@laguna172]

What a total stud!

[@Joseph-ko2go]

I have Autism too, and this has inspired me!

[@AliceDepaul]

Guuuuuurl I wouldn’t mind his shyness and ticks

[@soraflower9308]

I have autism, and I use it for motivation. It's a superpower, not a disability. You just have to realize what you truly have verses the "normality" you don't.

[@alessandroricciardi7317]

He’s so freaking handsome

[@solitudeguard5688]

What a lovely guy he is. I have Asperger’s too, wish I had his confidence.

[@mellohi_disc7781]

“ASSBURGERS” OMFG IM DYING 😂

[@Inyourlap]

How can you not fancy such a charming guy?

[@bliss2958]

aww bless I would marry this guy in a heartbeat. why because he genuinely is a nice guy his illness doesn't bother me would love to build his confidence up and stand by his side like a rock

[@Bill-rk8vb]

pretty much you girls be saying you'd marry a potato if it were good looking, otherwise there are plenty of single guys down at the heath center for people with disabilitys to take your pick from...but you wont.

[@Fluffyolphert]

Bill go cry about it incel

[@AdoptedPoo]

@@Fluffyolphert this proves incels theory right though this guy is a fucking aspie torretes guy and hes gettign so much female attention, stop being such a little bitch.

[@raypurchase1239]

Good on the man. Keep going forward big man.

[@elterrible00esb]

Its all about your looks.

[@honieethesolarpunk4895]

Good for you tom getting ur. Bravery up

[@myathefuckingtankengine7295]

It sounds like she's saying ass burgers 😂

[@Shyautisticguy93]

I’m autistic. I have learning disabilities and I’m ugly. I have nothing going for me

[@tylerhill2202]

As someone with Asperger's I know exactly how it feels to feel like the odds are stacked against you. I've learned to take it one day at a time and to never give up. I wish you all the luck in the world and that you find the happiness you deserve.

[@natalkakot]

Aww he's gorgeous x and have such a good heart

[@pistachiodisguisey911]

Based guy hope nothing but the best for him

[@mannidee9922]

I feel like I’m watching myself this is so relatable

[@gerard4039]

I have a high diploma , very IQ , attractive as I am not being arrogant but yes lots girls try to attract me but I have aspergérs and was abused when i was young , so yea , I can do pretty much anything in my life apart getting a woman !!! I am super confident when it come to what I do ( engineering ) , but I can’t event approach a girl , I look very cool from outside if I don’t talk but ones I try to talk outside science and logic I become ridiculous , and I can’t do nothing about it , I run away from any situation where there is woman’s , in my field there no lots woman’s really , very rare ( aerospace engineering ), i look very confident from outside because I learned how to live alone , I am not scared of being alone as much as I am scared of being with a woman, it’s just how it is , I can fight, defend my self , defend event someone else but when it comes to woman’s and relations I am freaking terrorised , it’s life , shit life , well we are all going to die one day so I just try to live as peaceful as I can .

[@henkaistudio]

I have High Functioning Autism and I date a woman who also have High Functioning Autism and my friends and family and people say that me and her are rare despite this.

[@father042]

lol all these roasties in the comments calling him cute, if he was average looking no one would come even close to him.

[@sponish0]

clearly but hurt that women are paying attention to him and not you.

[@drewyetti]

You do bring up a good point.

[@greathornedowl1783]

@@sponish0 You must be a roastie. Shoo shoo toastie!

[@josephlinden1630]

sponish0 he’s telling the truth yet you feel you need to speak. What could you add?

[@andrewtucker94]

The incels have arrived - blegh

[@nobodysperfect06]

It's a reminder of my lifelong hatred of how guys, men, are always expected to make the first move or approach women, but that will never change

[@JamesBond-gm5ep]

0:36. And now Having just one long term relationship is a bad thing..

[@Cocopancake528]

He need a dominant girls who’s gona assert herself and not accept rejection. That’s the way to his heart

[@Sxm_8]

I’m literally the same as him except without the good looks

[@fairygirl101xt]

If that’s you in the picture you definatly have the good looks !

[@David98004]

Yeah you're not bad looking buddy don't be so hard on yourself

[@lextahsy]

I totally understand this so much. I also have some intellectual abilities and a lot of fears that keep me from being able to date but I’m positive I’ll be okay and if I can do it, he’ll definitely be okay.