Ryan Gosling on the Deal he made with his mother

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@SowingSeedsWithChristy 12 күн бұрын

This is an example of how parents can instill values in their children with "punishments" that actually benefit them rather than simply restrict them.

@chadbalogh6296 12 күн бұрын

Need ALOT more of that! Just simply taking the time, looking from the outside in. Think about majority of parent’s in this crazy, fast paced world. wrapped up with work, making ends meet, etc…! IMO really understanding your child/children, their personalities on what makes them truly tick, and motivate them with the simple idea of healthy trade offs like his mother did, at an early age especially. Not saying all parent’s don’t try, but overlook/don’t look and in doing so, can make it harder on themselves to raise their children properly, when all it takes is obviously attention, but again understanding what makes them tick(personality); which usually manifests at ages 3-6yrs old. I’m getting carried away, lol. Just imagine the more positive’s/possibilities of today’s society!? “Healthy beneficial punishment’s” for both parent/child, is what you pretty much called it👍! Point is, whether it’s family and or friend’s, right off the top of your head, I bet you could think of a good handful of them, that aren’t for say, looking from the outside in and struggling with their children, for all sorts of reason’s that so simply could be resolved, but just keep repeating their maybe ignorant way’s, consistently running in circles, the children suffer from it and in long run so does our society! SSL! Stay safe/have a great life!✌️

@SowingSeedsWithChristy 11 күн бұрын

@@chadbalogh6296 I appreciate your feedback. This knowledge I learned after observing my son not learning anything from more traditional punishments (deprivation via no playdates that week, or no tv, etc.) and then noticing him feeling bad about himself and trusting me less. So I decided to try and catch him doing even the smallest of things right or giving it a good effort. It actually seemed hard at first to retrain my eyes to look for and see the good behaviors bc as parents we simply expect good behaviors and so they're often overlooked, similar to the good child in the family. So I put more expression in my thank yous and praised even the littlest things he did right and it wasn't long before I saw the pride show back up in him. I then learned how to give natural consequences as his "punishments" that were related to any adversarial or disrespectful behavior. I had him go walk over calmly to pick up the toy he may have thrown in anger and have him show me the right way to treat the toy (rather than say take it away from him). No "extra" lesson involved. If he stole candy from a store, I'd go with him back to the store to tell the mgr what he did, return the item and apologize. No extra punishment. When he got big enough to hit to hurt off we went to a kid's karate class to learn self-discipline around using his strength. He had was already in 4 sports a year by choice and physical outlets were what agreed with him. So, yes, tuning into our kids is so important. If he was more of a reader we would have gone that route, but as it was I needed to augment his schedule with tutoring. School was for him something he wld have to endure until he got to pursue his own creative outlets (which he's now happily doing at 25). I know parents have a lot on their plates, but once they get the idea of praising even little things they're going to have to do way less disciplining and they'll have more enjoyable time with their kids. I'm SO glad I woke up and made the changes I made. I even got his school to try and stop giving kids simple detentions that taught nothing while they were being held over. That kid disrupting the class by talking during study time perhaps should be given an extra assignment to present to the whole class about what's a special hobby of theirs or a thing they do well or about their pet - anything to give them a platform where they are "heard." Maybe their talking out of turn means they have things to say, for example, and maybe one day become a news reporter! I got the principal to consider at least degrees of "offenses" by asking why should a teen who physically hurts another student get the same detention as a kid who is late to school 3 times (that might be their parents' fault)? Then we tried a pilot program where kids wld be awarded at assembly a certificate for having been nominated by a parent or teacher for doing an act of kindness for another. Sadly, only one child ever received the certificate (a child I nominated) bc the teachers could not change their habit of ONLY catching students doing things "wrong." The board reserved for nomination letters would have stayed blank if not for my posted letters. Then we wonder why kids feel undervalued or have a need to bully others. Anyway, your comment touched an old nerve I have about this topic. So thank you for your part in trying to elevate parents' awareness. :)

@recoveringsoul755 7 күн бұрын

Right. And discipline means to teach. It doesn't mean to punish or beat or harm

@hopinondeeznuts350 6 күн бұрын

Well, except the fact that he turned into the kind of adult that his mother would find to be a terrible role model

@Nicole-cf3kj 10 күн бұрын

Great advice! What a wise woman! I believe his mom should write a book “How to raise Ryan Gosling”.

@uncleverremarksguy 7 күн бұрын

"How to raise a Gosling" sounds to me even better🤣

@josephadiaz8343 10 күн бұрын

Ryan's a cool dude 👍♥️🙏✝️✌️😎

@ciaranmurphy2953 13 күн бұрын

Hes clearly never seen The Place Beyond the Pines! 😂

@dorisdeliz231 9 күн бұрын

Good for you Ryan by overcoming something WE ALL at times 😢get into bad habits!!!❤❤❤❤

@robogreek3157 12 күн бұрын

Jesus... Ryan gosling child photo had me looking in the background for Daniel stern and Joe pesci

@oolala53 14 күн бұрын

I wonder if he actually read any of the books. I remember distinctly about 20 years ago hearing an interview with Steven Spielberg and he said that it was a big mistake for people who wanted to do film not to be well read. I’m sure there are exceptions, but he claimed that your ability to imagine is actually greater if you are not depending on a visual stimulus. Speaking of wondering, I wonder if there’s any actual scholarly research to show that.

@jackwhitbread4583 14 күн бұрын

There is plenty of evidence and stats that prove people who read often have better imaginations

@johnnie99 14 күн бұрын

That's my problem man. I have 3 entire movies living in my head and I just have a hard time putting them on paper. It would obviously be much easier if i was well read. I'd like to think so. I just can't bring myself to read a book lol

@JudePi-jx7yo 9 күн бұрын

@@johnnie99 Writing is directly related to reading. But not sure forcing yourself to read will help much mostly it comes naturally to intelligent people who love language.

@redbullwife1 7 күн бұрын

@@johnnie99Audiobooks count. If you have a hard time making yourself read a physical book, listen to one. You get all of the same benefits.

@gazzyb85 20 сағат бұрын

@@redbullwife1 That's not quite right. Reading and listening use different cognitive processes. When you read, your brain actively decodes and comprehends each word, which sharpens your comprehension and directly improves your writing skills. Audiobooks are useful if reading text is challenging, but they don't engage your brain in the same way. For maximum cognitive benefits, you need to engage directly with the text.

@elusivelectron 7 күн бұрын

In summation: I have a fucking awesome mom.

@jenniferbaker8079 Күн бұрын

Ryan you are the best can ever

@theyaya2502 6 күн бұрын

It was then he learned he had turrets…

@SpicyChikenDlux 13 күн бұрын

My blue valentine

@othellokennedy4751 12 күн бұрын

Fuck yeah...

@jeffkidder5282 8 күн бұрын

I agree; life is better without swearing, really!

@vickyabramowitz2885 7 күн бұрын

Swearing isn't cool. It's just a bad habit.

@beccarochelt3945 8 күн бұрын

I also had a swearing problem I'm grade three. Mmmm Soul mates

@jenniferbaker8079 Күн бұрын

Ryan you are ken and nobody else can be Ken but you one day Barbie will see it on KZbin can get married I love you I love you I love you❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

@Mushroom321- 13 күн бұрын

😮😮👏🏼👏🏼

@MustafaKamal-ys9rw 13 күн бұрын

you didn't swear, but..

@KellieJK 15 күн бұрын

Could we make this deal with more actors? People say the scripts just reflect the way people actually speak but is art imitating life or is life imitating art.

@elegant_confusion 15 күн бұрын

💋❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥💋✨😘

@lucindanewcomb8769 14 күн бұрын

I first became enamored with him via REMEMBER THE TITANS. I use to be obsessed with that movie. May be the movie I’ve watched the most times.

@brandonguindon7455 14 күн бұрын

Get a GRIP GIRLS 🤣

@risasams3465 12 күн бұрын

Apologies but i dont get it. What Has hes done for cinima? Yes, yes of couse he's an incredibly skilled actor! Not referring to that . How do those 2 remarks go together? Cinima gave to him. Ok. I get it. But the rest.... ? How does him not swearing have anything to do with cinima?

@KrakenIsland64 12 күн бұрын

It's cut down a lot but I'm assuming he meant that what he was able to give back was good acting in cinema.

@alpa_chino5734 10 күн бұрын

By "what I've done for cinema," he meant what he had to do to see the movies - stop swearing, read the books... That is what he has "done for cinema."

@vivaciousom5347 7 күн бұрын

This is a part of the speech he made when accepting the Kirk Douglas Award for Excellence in Film at the Santa Barbara International Film Festival. He is so humble. Movies were so important to him as a child that he stopped swearing to be sure to keep seeing movies.