How To Make Any Guy Miss You

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

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[@patriciavasara1051]

50 yr old woman here who has been in many relationships. My advice: Don't act, don't play difficult to get, don't make him jealous because whatever mask you decide to hide behind will eventually fall of, yes: you will get busted sooner or later. Be authentic, be yourself. Have a good life that doesn't spin around men, have hobbies, passions and goals. Pursue them. Be happy single, but if the right person comes along and makes your life more amazing grab him. If he ghosts you or play games he was never the right person to begin with, better you figure that out sooner rather than after 2 kids and a mortgage. Have boundaries. Finding a good man who you're compatible with is not that easy and you will kiss a few frogs in the way. Don;t be scared. Life is short.

[@caro8712]

Thank you

[@cristie7154]

Thanks ❤️

[@cristie7154]

Yeah these advices dont realy work for a long term relation. ,,Don't let him see you'' when you live together? I have doubts.

[@orcuttcat]

Another 50 year old here , and I second this .

[@koygoddess7080]

Facts. 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

[@GenniferLee]

Women need to focus on themselves and not revolve their lives around pleasing men.

[@marialester1882]

So true...

[@jilldurham5498]

I do just that but it isn't meant to be with these men.

[@chae1461]

but yet we’re all watching this videos.

[@victoriahaas9364]

@@chae1461 but that is ok too. always have an open mind and be always a little detached.

[@victoriahaas9364]

they are simply not worth it. Just have a great life with our without them. not very important at the end of the day. So all this advice he gives is funny to watch and honestly exhausting. Just have fun out there girls!! don't take men seriously. They don't take us that seriously and this guy proves it with all this exhausting advice. hahahahahaha

[@rebeccajones8628]

Just IGNORE them. Go about your life. That works.

[@hersheykisseys]

That is true

[@rinnetease]

true hehe i just logged out my account for a day so there would be no notifs and so when i logged in , bruh i got the "i miss u" message from him LMAO

[@pamelalott433]

Awesome tips!! I really needed to hear this! Thank you!🙂

[@Angel-sh7bz]

一郎 lucky💀

[@sweetgirl4u247]

It does

[@TT-yf5qs]

I wasn’t looking for another full time job

[@sadiehill4764]

Girl same 😂😂😂

[@maribelsohan6725]

I hear you 😂😂😂

[@notoriouslysue]

It's not at all. It's worth it.

[@roshondarichard4049]

Kk Wats right

[@All_starrSquad]

Exactly.. I will stay single

[@xoxoemilyxoxo3922]

"Keep your social circle strong so you don't even have time to miss him." My social anxiety: "say what now?"

[@Dragonwithagirltattoo3]

Right? 😅

[@christinaradebe4487]

🤣😂🤣😂 thats me

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤.....

[@jessywest6206]

This wont work for me because i literally dont hang out with anyone, and i have literally no friends🤣 R.I.P Me

[@jessywest6206]

@@karenlong5282 thats so stupid. Nobody wants their toxic exes back. Get a life. You should have moved on to someone new. People like this are ridiculous. I have absolutely no sympathy for people like this.

[@ohlalamuah5832]

If you want a long lasting relationship stop acting like an immature adult playing games. Be wise and treat others the way you want to be treated....just saying.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

I mean, if the "golden rule" and courtship meshed that well together, that would be fantastic! Unfortunately, the are rules to courtship. I don't profess games in my videos, but rather shifts in mindset and priorities. I feel women fare much better by leaning back in the beginning, letting the man lead (because he needs that to feel invested in you) and making yourself a priority before any man. Once you're in a committed, long-lasting relationship, the rules change ("golden rule" all day!). But if a woman gushes her heart out to a man in the first month of dating him because she wants him to do the same in return, he's going to bolt. Sad but true.

[@ohlalamuah5832]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick coutship is a period in which a couple have the opportunity to get to know each other so why pretend to be someone you are not, why play the hard to get card to keep him interested, i mean if a guy really see you as a potential life partner he will accept you the way you are and if he doesn't well maybe he isn't the right guy for you and you need to move on. Please ladies don't sabotage your relationships with stupid games...put aside your fears and insecurities and be yourselves, give love without expectations, a wise guy always appreciate a wise woman who is not afraid to express her feelings.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@@ohlalamuah5832 I'm 100% OK with disagreement on this channel, and I think we might just be missing each other on this one. 🙂 Again, I don't promote games here. If only love and attraction were as simple as showing a man love right when you feel it (when he may not even be interested *yet* or on the same page at all). Either way, I appreciate your perspective here 😉

[@narcismebelgie]

Ryan Patrick If a man were available only once a week for some time, I would think he has a double life. ;) And arranging especially an event with friends - to trigger in him that you have other options. That’s also strategy. We have to teach people to develop selflove and from there we will do the right things.

[@ladennayoung2939]

Yep! Some people are full of games.

[@conniemaravilla2436]

I did this and he started thinking I wasn’t interested so he left me 😂

[@lonelybae3603]

Connie Maravilla yup it’s confusing

[@brookebenton8192]

😄

[@Sunflower-uh3em]

😅😅😅😂😂

[@La-Vie-Of-Sadie]

Samee!

[@gabrielladots5990]

1. He is not ready 2. He was not that into u

[@oliviah.4741]

Good God, Imma stay single...

[@cloryl5968]

Hahahaha...

[@aroura9633]

Ikr......

[@crimsonravenstarseed7799]

😆🤣

[@marybingham4173]

Sounds like way to much work😫

[@naomicarson9586]

When he said say no.... for no reason i cant

[@marah3298]

Men love the chase. Some women feel bad about doing these things, but the truth is, you’re doing them a favor. Men don’t enjoy relationships with doormat women. Always have strong boundaries.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yes and women shouldn't feel bad *at all* because men appreciate these things in the end. Great points, Mara! Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries! 🙂

[@marah3298]

Ryan Patrick aww, thanks for your response!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@@marah3298 You bet Mara! Thanks for watching and chiming in on these threads! 😃

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤.....

[@chrissynight6688]

Isn't that interesting that we do all this naturally, when we are not interested in a guy, and it makes him go crazy after us ?

[@kimberlyjanice8267]

In Monica from Friends famous catchphrase voice "I know!".

[@christinecarver1665]

👏 👏 👏 👏

[@GoldenLight22]

Totally true.

[@FarihaIslam-ji4kx]

oh god so accurate that it gave me goosebumps

[@NK-yo4um]

Yepppp😂😂

[@Elizabeth-mf3dn]

It sounds like having a second job 🤣😩

[@dianajohn5863]

You see😀😃😄😄😃

[@jenniferpratt060]

My God yes

[@Empowered_University]

😂

[@bluedeveraux186]

Yup a super laborious , mentally taxing one!

[@mefo5269]

Babysitting

[@chiarabales1768]

The thing is, I have tried this method of making someone miss me. Doesn’t work if he or she just doesn’t want to give a hoot. I think you have to live your life and let what comes come and what goes go. It is that simple.

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤.....

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤....

[@852AKong]

How To Make Any Guy Miss You- Ryan Patrick: Make yourself a rare commodity and prompt him to put in the work. 1. Don't initiate reaching out. 2. Be sparse with the details (not even in a long-term relationship; pull back on the things he doesn't need to know or none of his biz e.g. I'm busy NOT: I'm going out with my friends now but I can do Friday) 3. Don't be a yes girl (probably a doormat); say NO. 4. Showcase the goods, then remove them. Be totally present when dating him during first phase, but don't see him more than once a week for the first 6 weeks of dating him. 5. Host a group event, for him to see you socialise. Not to try to make him jealous, but just that you have other options when it comes to men. 6. Giving him the rare gift of intimacy (not sex the first 30 days; intimacy is not sex). 7. Be OK not missing him - don't idealise him; have him wondering whether he is missed. Keep your social life strong.

[@inesyh6561]

Goshhhh

[@lindseyt670]

Well I fucked up

[@momentsformoms9467]

Linds N lmao me too.

[@23magneta]

I did these things when I was young and guys ended up thinking I wasn't interested. Lol. It's best to just be yourself. Don't play games.

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤.....

[@sanazsu]

Well....I’m looking forward to meeting my husband....in heaven! 🤲🏾 😩 😂

[@christinaradebe4487]

😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣 you done ✅

[@christylarsen4971]

Yup im actually so sick of trying to date im looking forward to dying alone and having my cats eat me.

[@sanazsu]

@@christylarsen4971 Giiiiiirrrrrrrl 😩😆

[@nsingh323]

Well, if a guy is this complicated than I don’t even want him because I m a doctor and he should know that if I m texting him back I m interested oh him and please at 30 I so don’t need to play games with anyone. Just be honest and behave like grown ups and grow some spine because I have enough stress at work and don’t need that in personal life. It’s sounds so complicated to be honest and I wish I was into no one.

[@neardeathexperience1111]

I was about to join a dating site but this has exhausted me before signing up 😃😜🤣🤦‍♀️💁‍♀️🤷‍♀️ *taking a nap*

[@bjg4002]

Oh no not dating sites ,lol ! Married men hang out there!!! Trust me.

[@crownedone8837]

"Seeing him only once a week for the first six weeks of dating" wow, that DOES seem counterintuitive...but makes sense at the same time.🤯

[@itsjess2859]

“This isn’t a game” “You need to have a strategy” 🤷🏼‍♀️😩

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Yup! If you don't know where you're heading, love has a tendency to meander and go down some weird roads if you're not careful 😬

[@itsjess2859]

Ryan Patrick I love your information and honesty about it all. It’s great! Very insightful

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤.....

[@itsjess2859]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick oh boy i have been down some dark and twisted roads 😂

[@Anna-je8sg]

When a men really wants you it doesn‘t matter if you write him as soon as you see his message or say yes when you have time.

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤....

[@Anna-je8sg]

@@karenlong5282 god no please not I'd rather die

[@anneg7773]

@@Anna-je8sg lol 🤣🤣🤣 savage

[@Jihanf292]

It seems a lot of work. Screw him

[@margaritam.9118]

Jihan Faradilla but not literally 😌

[@aaliyahyasmin3158]

yes that's actually what I'm trying to avoid doing and its proven quite difficult...

[@yespls6260]

​@@aaliyahyasmin3158 Yeah I'm honestly just tired. I don't want to even bother dating anymore.

[@emmaytaccount]

If this is how men work. I seriously can't be arsed

[@margaritam.9118]

Emma Jones 😆😆😆

[@janeparsons9219]

I think it depends a lot on the man in question. If he has a healthy ego and good self esteem then all these things will probably work well. If he is low in confidence or traumatised then he will never advance himself enough to initiate anything. Not all men - especially as you get older are without flaws and a history that can make a person loose self confidence, that doesn't make them less valuable and your interest might be a game changer for them...

[@youcanEAD]

I am so happy that I didnt have to do this with my boyfriend. This is too much for me 😆. I was friends with my boyfriend for 12 years before we started dating so he fully knew and understood me. 3 years together so far and it's been the best!

[@ladennayoung2939]

That's good!

[@gavhlev2853]

Ladenna Young But one day he’ll get bored might be tempted to be with other women...

[@youcanEAD]

@@gavhlev2853 lol that's quite the assumption about a relationship you know nothing about. Anyone can get bored with anything. A guy or girl can get bored of someone playing games to keep them interested and move onto someone more willing to give them the attention they want as well. What it breaks down to is absolutely loving the person for who they truly are for a long lasting relationship. But that requires both people to feel that way. It's hard to find. I was lucky I found it. We have now known each other for 15 years. I think if one of us was going to get bored we would have already. We have had nothing but a blast.

[@youcanEAD]

@Cindy Lou it is! It's like one day it just clicked. I was actually talking about him to another girl and telling her how great and sweet he was and I was like wait....wtf am I doing? Why am I not with him? And then it just all came together from there. I know we are lucky. I have a lot of other guy friends that it would have never worked out with like this. But for him and I it did. It just clicked.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Glad to hear it's working out! "Friends first" is the way to go! 😉

[@Yani-lf9vl]

I need to stop watching these videos.. everytime I watch em I realize I eff'ed up all the steps! 🤦‍♀️ and now I feel crappy.

[@Dragonwithagirltattoo3]

Me too.

[@brokenwideopen]

Bhaha me too. But I am learning SO much.

[@Bogna1]

We are not perfect, we all make mistakes and many things from past, childhood effect our choices and way we act. Don't be hard on yourself, let yourself learn, grow and appreciate your effort and values. Good luck on your journey (I am also on my way)/

[@tracivela9137]

Same here.....😭😭😥😂😂

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤.....

[@keumnimlim2421]

Omg Ryan is saving you so so much time!! I'm surprised to see the whiny comments! I'm a single mom re entering dating scene after 10yrs, and I learned the hard way that everything he says is true. I would send good morning text every morning and be so predictable. Ryan, thanks for the content you put out there! So helpful!

[@rhondaguerra1236]

I think you have great ideas for new relationships. The only thing I would caution your viewers on is the being unavailable thing. It's important not to be to available, but my thing is if you don't have time for me, I don't have time for you. It's a balance and if it's off it could deflect a possible match.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Good point, Rhonda! I try to make that distinction when I bring up the idea of availability, but I'll really try driving that point home more clearly in the future 😉Thanks for watching!

[@saphy532]

Met a guy on tinder and i really like him. Been watching a lot of your videos

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤......

[@christinecarver1665]

I'm a doormat. 😔 I need to learn how to say, "No!"

[@sofiaelizondo154]

You are a princess and worthy of the best!

[@christinecarver1665]

@@sofiaelizondo154 Thank you so much!! 😄

[@samirj1387]

Is that really your face?if so,i'm into you cuz i wanna make you my queen and let you to be my crown

[@KristinThorisdottir]

Christine Carver doormat is maybe too strong.. however many people are codependent. Could it be that?

[@marsrock445]

That really hit me when he called me a doormat

[@jessiewilliams2150]

No one I like wants a relationship with me so...

[@susannejensen4295]

Same.

[@christmassnow37]

The one I have I don't want and the one I want only wants sex...go figure

[@mightyobserver12]

You're pretty

[@upserlivinthedream]

Same here Jessie! Keep your head up girlie! There's no way we are meant to go thru this life all alone. ;)

[@kallias.3503]

@@christmassnow37 you just described my life...

[@grisettramsey3902]

Sorry, I'm not the type of woman to wait around for something to happen by adhering to a set of rules. I listen to my female instincts and just say what I feel if necessary. If he likes you, he'll stick around. Some of these tips can backfire on you.

[@riehafsah4469]

Did all of the 7, he ended up thinking that I went out with other guys or looked for a chance to socialize with more guys Men ARE so complicated

[@BaibaVulgaris]

Well, its only logical :))

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤......

[@haleymoon657]

This is so helpful thank you. I’m trying to date for the first time in two years after my seven years long marriage and I’ve found it very challenging and at times hard to understand men. They reach outs tons initially and get you very interested but then as soon as you show them that you are they go MIA . It’s the strangest thing to me and I can’t tell if it’s because they have completely lost interest in me now or what lol I hate the game of it all.

[@drnicoleosaji3435]

In essence don’t give him your heart and don’t fall in love Wow they should scrap up all those fairy tale books we idealized love by

[@Misspennylemon]

Jesus, this is too much hassle. Guess I'm gonna stay single 😿

[@christinecarver1665]

😔

[@christylarsen4971]

Amen to much of a hassle

[@AnnetteMarieHairPrincess]

“Weeds out” the ones that aren’t that into you and you are left open for the right one, meant to be. Save you from drama, chasing (ew) , disappointment and wasting time. Sex: As my mom use to say “why buy the cow if you can get the milk for free.” That still cracks me up. She was right.

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤......

[@jasminelove101]

Yeah I agree , when someone sees u have spontaneous life, it’s good energy. And everyone wants to be a part of tht energy😍 it’s all about energy/good vibes. Like Chris brown said “let the energy flow” haha

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Totally good energy! Just make sure you're doing it for yourself so that energy is genuine 🙂And you're the first person to quote Chris Brown on here, I love it! Lol

[@jasminelove101]

Ryan Patrick yeah always genuine :) and thanks for getting back! Now Thts genuine because I know everyone has a busy life☺️

[@edamiame]

This video tells me to be the complete opposite of my personality and if these tips really work, I'd probably prefer to stay alone forever.

[@JulieMelillo]

If you have to manipulate, he really isn't into you. That said, do be confident and stand strong in yourself. That's attractive to everyone.

[@catherinagianella1896]

That's exactly what I was going to write Be genuine, be confident and cut the BS I feel sorry for men or women who have to play games...that s never going to be a deep meaningful connection. You will just attract people who love the chase.

[@olabalu6597]

All this is really great advice Ryan :). With my ex boyfriend I was answering and being too available for him, abandoning my own things. That was the most stupid thing to do

[@vivianmicheau3125]

I love your facial expressions when you talk. It's adorably funny.

[@Tyreyan]

You're different from the other date coaches because they don't give you the word or words and if they do it's just- eh. But your videos actually make sense, and you even told us the word was 'no' without forcing us to watch the video (I will anyway) and your videos have actually been helping with my relationship!

[@queenfenadez2174]

Hello I know a man who can help you Attract that specific person you want within 3days,he helped me me Attract my ex boyfriend back contact him [phone]

[@oliviadell5618]

When texting, however long he took to text me back during a text conversation, I try and wait at least half that time if not longer. In the long run, it helps me calm down.

[@mayfairmoore4518]

I have been listening to dating coaches for 5 years now..what I have learnt in all these is to love myself first and it has saved me from broken heart.. I like your take on this too Ryan..and I like your eyes

[@penelope5534]

I'm old and married now, but excellent advice. Wish you were around when I was still dating.

[@theletoutshow8675]

Amazing! I need to focus on myself and make myself better day by day and he'll end up fearing to lose the high quality of a woman that i am.

[@FreedomUninterrupted]

How to make any guy miss you:... Move on or Find something important to do!

[@michele8208]

This information is true. Always play hard to get. Always be unreliable, unpredictable. My grand mother taught me this. Men are very visual, image IS everything. Never try to please him, that BORES him.

[@svp5310]

Imagine Ryan Patrick being your bestfriend

[@notoriouslysue]

I've been listening to a few of your videos of advice to women. I'm older now and been married 25 years. BUT you speak truth. After getting my heart broken a few times when I was young. I actually thot up much of these things as well. Never be too easy or to hard to get... be a mystery, let your secrets tricky out over time. Make sure you look him in the eyes in the bedroom and never let him forget that night. Anyway... I was proposed to at least 100 times before I got married and stayed married. You are helping women who want to find a good man... so many feminists don't realize they will want a marriage one day.. and it will be too late. Oh, also the 'fear of losing each other' just a bit, is a very good point. You did a really good job!

[@sunandsea72]

So all men like Scorpios, got it. 😂😜

[@adjorkorsowah5270]

LMMFAO

[@melissalewis5383]

Men and women Scorpio’s we all ready know this! And why did I watch your video? Because I’m bored 😐 #scorpiowoman🤷‍♀️

[@libralove7343]

I was thinking the same.. this is a Scorpio tactic. I can’t....

[@jennifera9034]

HAHA IKR!!

[@kellyanderson7624]

Been dealing with a PSYHCO, CONTROLLING, NARCISSIST Scorpio, he needs to get over himself. Smh

[@mariflorvlog8917]

Ladies I didn't do anything to get a diamond ring on my finger,the guy pursued me,he protected me,he make my problems as his problems,we solved the problem together.I can tell you just be natural and and the real love will come to you effortlessly Godbless you all ladies 😘😘

[@sorayanasser558]

I would not want anybody who I have to play so many mind games to keep them interested. A healthy relationship should never be that much work.

[@queenofcups88]

Agreed!

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤.....

[@meljstephan]

I got ghosted by a guy after 9 months of dating, albeit very casual dating. Like he stood me up for a date, never explained why, and never responded when I asked to meet to discuss the relationship (when I was going to break up with him). I kinda figured by now he might miss me even a little but he seems happier than ever. I'm fine with breaking up because that's his prerogative, but I wish I had an explanation or any sign whatsoever that I ever meant anything to him 😒 We were friends before dating, too, so he just flushed 4 years of friendship down the toilet.

[@elisakrivas]

This sounds like a lot of work. Can't I just be myself and hope for the best? 😁

[@esthermbindu73]

Wow, i have really learned, the reason why i decided to look for advice is because i was married for only 3 years and he left me without any fighting, have been a lone for the past 13 years and now that my broken heart is healed I decided to look for a new love, thank you 👏👏👏👏👏

[@ferociouscherub9819]

Great video! Going on a girls trip & sending pics of you having fun is a way to have him miss you!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Thanks! Yes, but I wouldn't text him those directly. That would come across maybe a little too obvious if it's too early in the relationship (under 3 months). I might instead throw those photos on Instagram if it makes you happy. Maybe he sees them, maybe he doesn't. That way, it isn't manipulative because you're not married to any sort of result by doing that 😉 BUT if it's been 3+ months with him, I think thats totally cool.

[@ferociouscherub9819]

Ryan Patrick; Great point!

[@marah3298]

Yes! Men love to see you go out and have fun with others, and it’s a classy way to trigger his jealousy!

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

@@marah3298 Classy indeed!

[@urszula2169]

I'm happily married and still like to watch your videos. I find them empowering :)

[@frenchiegonewild7264]

Yep, everything that's easy attainable is simply boring and less interesting

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

No doubt! Thanks Andrew!

[@meenanaicker8999]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick guys I think my boyfriend is getting cold feet and I am devastated

[@nitz3012]

Haha! my (now husband) asked me out three times before I said yes and said he loved me several months before I returned the words. I wasn’t unfriendly or aloof with him we had tons of fun, I just knew my value and wasn’t going to hand it over until I knew he was the right guy. Married over 15 yrs now ❤️ I think I also knew his worth at the time too and wasn’t going to string him along if I wasn’t sure. I had a lot of respect for him too.

[@jodyjingles7968]

What a lovely read this was.... Good on you :-) . This is what all us single ladies are striving for.

[@WahineToa85]

I never initiate anything, i do me if they want to follow then follow if not im still doing me regardless. BYE and NO

[@maryannneary1356]

From a 68 year old twice widowed women back on the dating scene ..... my experience says making a guy miss you is great advice. No man of any value wants a woman who lacks a little mystery and self confidence.

[@TT-yf5qs]

Imagine always saying you’re busy and you both actually like each other, then he thinks you are too busy or playing games and he moves on lol smh

[@nata3467]

I find this exhausting

[@1stBornRubyRose]

So I don't need a dating couch but I love watching your videos. Good job Ryan.

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤..........

[@lifewithtamia5887]

I don't know how to react😂I'm pretty much the girl who did everything he didn't want us to do

[@agadorset5280]

Ryan.You open the new world to real women. I call you brilliant because what you teach is simply brilliant.

[@sweetsmarts3588]

F*** these mind games! Whatever happened to just falling in love?

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

When has "just falling in love" served anybody? If you don't know what to do with that love, how to nurture it, how to grow it.... how the heck does that benefit or serve anybody truly? Love involves *work* and most people don't want to deal with that part 🙂

[@sweetsmarts3588]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick Falling in love why I got married and stay married for 13 years until our son died from SIDS...Thank you very much! 🤨

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

I’m very sorry for your loss, Sweet Smarts. I feel for most people, love ends up becoming much more complicated than the act of “falling” itself. It isn’t the phase where love ends up or settles(I.e. The “honeymoon” phase); it’s simply an entry point, based on my response to your original comment.

[@sweetsmarts3588]

@Pizza Passta I will agree with that! The mindsets of people have so changed. Relationships take time, which people act like they don't have anymore.

[@sweetsmarts3588]

@Pizza Passta I appreciate any video that warns you of pitfalls, regardless of what they are. I guess I'm glad I'm in my late 40s instead of my 20s. At this stage of my life, I'm not hoping and waiting for someone to "wife me" and give me a family.

[@trevorjohnson1749]

Great advice I was going through a difficult break up used this technique and now my bf and I are back together thank you soo much

[@scottblain539]

Seems like a pathway to a shallow relationship that’s bound to fail eventually.

[@bonnieklapel1825]

Wow. No wonder I’ve been married and divorced 4 times. As well as a few long term committed relationships that went to hell in a hand basket. No one has ever told me the real truth about men before, and those that hint at it want you to spend a bunch of money on some course which I can’t afford. THANK YOU FOR MAKING YOUR VIDEOS AND NOT TRYING TO SELL ME A BUNCH OF PROGRAMS THAT I CANT AFFORD. There might actually be hope for me yet because I’ve pretty much given up on it and I was resigning myself to spending the rest of my life alone and lonely, when I really want to have the companionship and intimacy. I hate the dating game. I hate mind games, or feeling like I’m just being strung along.

[@onatnomramiel388]

this is a loooot of work😆im just gona be me,take me or leave me.

[@gillianba4240]

If we had only listened better to early 90s music... they all knew the tricks of the trade. I appreciate you a lot for your content!

[@missanthropy2251]

Can you make a video on what to do if you showed too much interest and were an open book in the beginning and how to reverse it if it’s possible?

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

This would be an interesting one! Noted! 😉

[@theresebryant2526]

Yep. Me too.

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤.......

[@susanavb91]

I started talking to a guy. We both made eye contact & we both agreed we felt great! He set up a second date, but he became “busy” with family & didn’t text for a few days. He would respond when I texted if all was well? He all of a sudden text me from an unknown number not specifying it was him. I called him to ask what that was all about. He didn’t answer. He hasn’t text back. We really did hit it off great, a week later, he started fading away. I don’t like mind games. Either you like me or you don’t.

[@gemimahapuch8980]

No it isn't a game at all!and i agree 100% all Ryan's teaching..such an informative.thank you Ryan you never fail to amaze us regard all your Relationships ideas and opinions😁😁😁😁👌💞💕

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Awww that's so sweet! Thanks Gemima! 🙂

[@peta7166]

Thank you Ryan I love your videos...I’ve stumbled across them at a time where they are so relevant 🙄 the saying “When the student is ready the teacher will come” is soooo true, thanks again 😊

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

You bet! 🙂

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤........

[@elinepols2831]

That awkward moment when he says don't be the first one to text/call but if your not yall are just not gonna text at all😂

[@anneg7773]

I think we should stop texting them and just say BYEE

[@lak1294]

This is the best video I've seen on what The Rules authors (from the 1990s) counselled. Bravo Ryan! 👍

[@anngreen3495]

While you were advising us to be sparse with the details (which I also read as holding off on the story of one's life); keeping our lives full; having preferences and being able to voice them, etc, I thought - how safe you are keeping yourself if, in fact, he's really not as into you as you would have liked to believe he is. If he really is not that interested, then you've lost nothing, and especially not your hopes.

[@tinacharm1678]

Lol Glad I found this! My dating life us a big mess! You have no idea.

[@LovelyQueen_76]

Some men love you saying YES! like he would pay for my dinner when we go out or movie etc. but I will PULL OUT MY CARD /money and say “I got it” and I would say NO. THEN HE WOULD PAY ANYWAYS. Just knowing I can take care of MYSELF is turning him on. Men love a Independent woman. And I now that we are together now. I don’t mind splitting a bill. He still pay. Haha. I love ❤️ that man

[@littlMousie]

Be loyal but never let him forget you have options. Be safe for him to open up to, and encourage him but don't be afraid to call him out for dismissive behavior. Treat him important but don't make him the center of your universe and rearrange your whole day around him. Finish what you were doing before you text back, apologize for the delay if it was longer than a half hour. Men are not complicated, they don't like to be chased, and the awareness of a little competition will cause them to focus on winning you. Be up front about what you want and what you are offering then stick to your boundaries. Every now and then tell him you will be out for the day and be out for the day, not hugging your phone...wanna make him smile? Partway through that day tell him you are thinking of him. Most importantly dont ever let him get away with not treating you how you want to be treated! If he starts slacking, tell him you aren't feeling it right now. Never forget that for every guy out there willing to treat you bad, there's another wishing he had the chance to show that other dude how it is done ;)

[@DaggetFireGirl373]

Make sure you tell them in the beginning that your just dating so it doesn't go into straight up boyfriend

[@ancoisnaude4087]

I am going to try that with my husband, almost married for 18 years.... He Must miss me, thank you Coach....

[@Peachiiiiiii]

Can you make a video on how to keep a long distant relationship going without face to face meeting or some techniques to make message not boring, please. Thanks

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

I've got anew video on long distance relationships coming out on New Year's Eve Sapphire! Stay tuned! 🙂

[@Peachiiiiiii]

Ryan Patrick Aw Thank you. Looking forward to it!

[@sallybroessel2210]

I think I have done EVERYTHING WRONG. (according to your video) and I don't think I can go back and erase what has already happened.

[@2020girlygirl]

How do you get them to miss when you are quarantined together?

[@Franzie2105]

Thank you Ryan. I will always say "No" now... 🙂

[@GG-rw8cz]

SUCH a good vid! So many useful tips 😀

[@Feathered_Moon]

They text and also verbally ask me directly if I miss them. This puts me on the spot and totally turns me off. It's full of weirdness and I feel it. I haven't missed them at all and don't know why they'd think I would. So I say, Miss you?? Why would I miss you? We don't know each other well enough to miss each other, why, did you miss me?? They'll say yes. I'm lost.

[@lylablueabdul5503]

R u kidding me? I love a man who says yes to everything I say. I was with a guy like that for a few years and he has been hard to replace. Rare to find. Ha ha ha

[@maryanne4606]

Healthy to keep perspective and your own life going too. Aside from his reactions. Just to be your rational best self when you do interact.

[@arbel7655]

Look, I know these are meant to help us understand the way men think and react but they leave me feeling disgusted and hollow for the games that "need" to be played. I get that you say it's not a game but I feels like that. It's a dance but a little ridiculous at times to be honest.

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

The problem is you're dealing with his subconscious mind a lot of the times. You simply have to communicate with that side of him differently than "straight conscious" communication. I address this really well about why it may feel like "games" in my video coming out this Monday dealing with *emotionally distant (and unavailable) men*, so be sure to check that out 😉

[@arbel7655]

@@datingcoachryanpatrick I will. I appreciate your thoughtful response given my whiney comment. I think I should forgo worrying about it until the exhaustion passes. Meanwhile I can prepare with your advice. Thank you :-)

[@karenlong5282]

I know a man who can help you get your ex back, was the only person that helped me get my ex boyfriend back after 5 years of texting him (+1..77..36..66..42 .. 81❤❤❤........

[@dalbert-cv2dk]

I wish I heard this advice when I was young and single.

[@lynlyn1593]

Why can’t we just be honest about how we feel geeezzzz

[@rosaliacali4545]

I understand what you are saying and yes I agree and yes its totally exhausting!! Strategies are for business plans, try being yourself and loving yourself first, if a man is smart he will recognize your value without you having to prove it. Life and relationships should flow naturally and shouldn't be this much effort. It's sad really that there is so much material that needs to be conveyed to simply fall in love

[@JSMIN-gg3xl]

But when I say no they always complain and be like “wow you don’t wanna hangout with me”

[@datingcoachryanpatrick]

Just be like, "Yeah I'll hang out when I'm available. Why don't you hit me up next week and I'll check my schedule." 😉

[@Be1smaht]

If I may. I think this whole thing can be summed up in a few bullet points. 1. Dont have a scarcity mindset with dating - do yo thang. Let him come to you 2. Be confident 3. Be High value - no sex or intimacy no games 4. Have a great life outside of guy.

[@annepro5548]

Like another lady said, I wish I had the guts to try dating a woman. Trying to date a man is just pointless.

[@gfilip1]

I used to love this one restaurant I went to regularly. Then I wandered into the kitchen. I never went back. Sometimes mystery is definitely necessary for the experience to remain great. You don't need to know everything. #ignorancetrulyisbliss