How do you deal with a rebellious teenager? I don't recognize my child.

How do you deal with rebellious teenagers?
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[@shesharpe2701]

Social media has a great influence on these developing youth

[@raziarahiman7810]

I know it's really hard. I give them space but still they'll be on social media for hours and hours but lying that they're doing their homework. I don't know what to do. I can't see my kids being on social media for such a long time. I told my kids I have rules they have to follow. They can be on social media for only for limited time

[@surlespasdondine]

how old are they?

[@joshuaphilbert7995]

For the people in the comments, there's a difference with giving your teen some space, and completely ignoring them for months and years at a time. "Giving space" to me as a parent, is like observing and monitoring, instead of micro-managing every decision a teen makes.

[@OT-zs1om]

Yes the parents should chill out a bit however potentially chilling out can give teenagers the green light saying your free I'm giving u time. I'm 15 and although I hate being that typical teenager I also understand my parent pov. So both parents and children need to chill out.

[@MrKhurramshahzaeb]

100 💯 this ignorant sheik is give horrific advice. My daughter is acting like a whore. Instead of helping her be a good Muslim and be decent and educate why decency is the halal and good way, I’ll listen to this moron and “chill out” so my daughter can earn her way to hell fire. Please don’t listen to every “expert” on the topic internet. Get advice from multiple scholars and look at the teachings of Quran and Hadith

[@justmanette2152]

Very wise.

[@vermillionsky426]

Unless you have children you don't understand. My son ive been nothing but patient with and loving and he is showing to everyone that no one matters except himself. This kind of advice he just gave sounds like someone who doesn't know anything about children. I've raised other people's children along with my own. The baby of the family is the last to leave the nest. He's 15 and lies and steals. I don't know what to do because his behavior is getting out of control. I'm 33. I've taken child development courses and have a degree in psychology. This generation doesn't respect adults. The school system has failed our youth. Parents have failed. The economy is in dire straits. Parents' power to punish has been taken away. I could go on. Yes maybe this advice could help some but the reason some of our teens are in such shit is because parents have taken a back seat to their children's wellfair.

[@sanj33v]

I just took my daughters phone and laptop and took a week off from her school to detoxify her for her behavior.

[@vermillionsky426]

@sanjeevsarkar9656 that's awesome! That's a really great idea.

[@sanj33v]

@@vermillionsky426 Now the behavior is so nice, instead of beating me and my wife made her understand what is wrong and how to use internet, reminded her goal to be a doctor, and that we are helping you get there. The Instagram is not a good app to be in since the reels you see is a brainwashing agenda which will distract you from your goals. Tomorrow is her first day after this break, I know once back from school again the bad behavior and tantrums will begin, getting ready with punishments lol. Parenting is tough but necessary.

[@_NEW3RA_]

@@vermillionsky426Naa, his advise will lead the child strait to death. I have a lying and stealing son also. He has ZERO reason to do so. He’s 18 and has few months before he graduates because he got held back a grade. He wants to drop out. Just stupid. I have 4 children but only 1 that gives me a hard time and he has no reason to act like he acts. This is not good advice. I agree with you. This is someone that doesn’t have children nor know how to deal with them. Especially when he makes the statement “back up” “give them space”. Not a good idea with an iPhone or iPad in front of them.

[@donav7825]

​@@sanj33vI had a similar punishment for my 16yr old daughter and she ran away from home and told her friends she wanted to ✂️ my throat 😢.

[@randomgirl569]

I wish my parents could understand this.😢

[@nasjuro]

and you understand your parents^

[@zonepistolez9944]

Just makes sure you listen to your folks. They know a whole lot. And remember, it's better to be quiet then to try and get the last word. You will surprise your folks and they will be more chill with you.

[@surlespasdondine]

The parents are supposed to be the understanding ones

[@Nina_Medina]

There definitely needs to be a balance because my parents backed off, chilled out to the max and I ended up doing my own thing, gangs, drugs, in and out of juvenile detention centers and finally at the age of 16 my dad kicked me out the house and I ended up in the streets....but I thank God for saving me❤️

[@justmanette2152]

See, you found the secret in the darkness. He is your anchor. Always remember that.

[@nicholyse]

I feel like the more I read, the more I’m convinced we are parenting the best we know how. 14 yo very rebellious, lies all the time, trouble in school since the first week, drugs etc. I try not to be the hammer but everything looks like a nail right now. I did sooo many things as a teen and no one was the wiser because they weren’t involved. No boubdaries, etc. Not saying it’s good to overreact either but has to be balanced. Keep open communication, engage with them many times a day.

[@FukcAUsername]

May i ask how he kicked u out at 16? Bc here that is called abandonment and it's a crime.

[@JesusisKing03]

The problem with today's youth is that they have instilled in them PRIDE. Most are ungrateful, disrespectful, selfish and act as if the world revolves around them. Society has ruined households with their agenda. 😔

[@samoke4527]

"every decision we make is the best and only decision at the time with the information you have and the state of mind you were in" this is precisely we should guide the youth rather than dismiss them for their actions. Most parents and teachers are failing to guide their children.

[@macioz1760]

​@@samoke4527YES

[@erikdegby4652]

Exactly

[@zonepistolez9944]

True

[@njenkins2105]

He clearly don't have a teenager.

[@FatimaAlicookingwithvlog]

I am 16 years old and I tried to change myself but I couldn't I began to angry I can't control my anger may Allah guide me

[@saymasultana339]

Ameen

[@keopipheaktepi.2845]

Yes I agree as the teenager. Because my parents never try to understand my situation when I'm in that term.

[@MrKhurramshahzaeb]

This man clearly does not understand the parental view and if the kids are acting like this in puberty than clearly they do not fear Allah nor do they respect parents

[@saymasultana339]

I'm really concerned about your children if this is your point of view. He is talking about teens. How old a teenager is? You're bringing fear of ALLAH here. Let them grow. They will eventually learn. Parenting is not controlling but guiding. You can't and shouldn’t control another human being.

[@lolasathyajith4828]

The problem is this generation is getting alot of information on there rights online But nothing about there responsibility. Also the kind of films they watch and computer games they play online.

[@dazaiosamu852]

Oh piss off the older generation want everything to be Tailored to there every wim they act as if they can never be wrong and then blame every thing on the younger generation

[@BriannaandMaddison2011]

My mom doing that to my older brother: Him: becomes a dad at 15….

[@Dam1anPlayz]

What the f*ck

[@lilykarim3187]

💀💀💀

[@djjanjua5188]

What nonsense so if your child starts taking drugs or even sells it, yh give them space. More like give them responsibility

[@saymasultana339]

Bro, taking drugs is not a normal teen rebellious behaviour. He is talking about teenagers who are in the transitional period and act like adults. Some parents are so control freak that they legit freak out. My parents did. I'm 26 now. Because of their control freak behaviour I've become distant to them. If they understood me a little, we could've been best friends.

[@lifecoachsarina13.Warrior]

Boundaries and respect should always be maintained but with logic for sure with them

[@havocgr83]

Hey parents chill out. Don’t be all over teen’s back telling them what they are doing wrong and they know nothing. Then cut to reality… teens shooting, starting riots and now some people don’t fill safe going to events 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@lovebellabalbastro4576]

facts!!!! Louder!!!

[@moses2626]

He's not old enough to give advice on parenting a teenager 💯

[@deepashrivastava9188]

All rubish dont make teenage an excuse for taking parents for granted Space and care is always there

[@Stonefoxxloxxz]

When you chill out as a parent know your child is heading down a dark unknown path, I will give my children guidance. Let them know why it’s not safe and why they should reconsider. After countless conversations she chooses the wrong choice and end us with her out come. She asked for help and I will provide none. My help came when I was giving her wisdom and correction. She will now be humbled by reality in her own choices. Jesus said to train up a child In the way they should go and when the child wanders from the way, they know what way to go back home.

[@savysimon]

They don’t change… so this here is crazy. The ones who see their faults and genuinely are sorry are the ones that do change. But the terms who keep repeating the same BS will never. Dealing with this crap now. And it ain’t even my kids. Smh

[@SashaStreams]

Just gotta be their best friends, treat them as such and teach them to be a good friend back. Lots of dua's for guidance and plenty of exposure to the prophets

[@rudycorella6961]

Do you have a teenage daughter or son, because you like your 20 years old. Have you felt with a situation like this personaly?

[@GoodFencesMakeGoodNeighbors]

That's all fine and good, except when the rebellious teenager is being watched by a yoinger sibling. My rebellious teen is 17 and my son is 6 and he is very observant and my 17 year is doing things in front of him she was told NOT to. So, chilling out is not always the answer.

[@brainbomb.]

Children are seeing through the manipulation of their parents that they're parents disguise as love.

[@personmanin]

I hate that word transistioning. The rainbow movement destroyed it for me.

[@AdamHMortimer]

This is the problem. Parents coming to a young man with no kids trying to teach parents how to raise your kids. Sounds like the blind leading the blind to me.

[@AMANaca614]

Some of us we have children who are doing things we don't understand we install Bible teaching everyday and give them love and support 😢😢😢😢

[@ambetjov6300]

Praying

[@TheNewyawker82]

Chill out? When your teen becomes promiscuous, drinks alcohol, skips school, steals, lies and calls your wife disrespectful names? Horrible advice. I’ve got two teens, and chilling out does nothing but give a license to keep it up.

[@wyyuesnxg7233]

Subhan’Allah Alhamdulillah La illaha illa Allah Muhammadur rasulullah Allahu Akbar

[@s3ra9h1m]

Still no excuse to disrespect others. It’s why the youth are the way they are, no consequences

[@kmydesire12]

I give space but too much feet is no good. I will chill out but I’m still in charge of my home with 2 other kids to raise He still can’t respect my rules and respect that he has to communicate when he is going out or staying out late

[@bellashealingartistry8934]

Yes this is my situation. I don't recognize this child. He's being mean to me. Telling me he's not going to talk to me when he's an adult. Maybe me depressed and I'm so sad.

[@dazaiosamu852]

Good now reflect on what you did wrong

[@saymasultana339]

Try to talk to him in a friendly way. Act like a friend, not a control freak. Try to teach him religious aspects. Hope your situation will improve.

[@michelleoli4201]

I mean if you have a close relationship with your child, keep them away from social media, teach them morals and values, give them space when needed, but parent when necessary, i mean they turn out just alright. You cant let teenagers go wild to much. Exposing them constantly to worldy crap will get a stable mind lost in confusion. Just my thoughts. 😅

[@aishahlavigne7022]

How do u chill out when ur son, raising voice on ur face, demanding every right, grades are drop and asking money all the time..pls how can we chill..

[@EddieStor3]

More useless advice...

[@MrKhurramshahzaeb]

Exactly complete garbage and misinformation. He is teaching you what the shaytan would teach you. Get this western child raising methods out of here!

[@cherrybae43]

Like you yeah

[@RedStarAero04]

​@@cherrybae43 what are you? A useless teen with lack of love? Lol

[@Emaff531]

im so stressed bcs they wont leave me alone

[@justmanette2152]

And how would you feel if they died and you were exactly that... Alone!

[@Emaff531]

my dad i wont give a crap abt him but my mom yes my dad is aggresive and rude i hate him@@justmanette2152

[@cherrybae43]

​@@justmanette2152oh please you act as if the person hates their parents keep d*ck riding tho

[@dominiquejames4088]

Not helpful. I need better advice

[@fonyianzileke2518]

They actually know nothing, and for that reason should listen…

[@roberthumphrey9664]

But what about if they are going down a dark path at 14 and have no ambition . To say I’m happy to fail high school I don’t care . That’s the words that are coming out of our 14 year olds mouth . I mean lying sneaking out at 14 doing drugs cleptomaniac and I’m just going to sit back and let it happen ? I need some advice

[@Kate-hc5yo]

So when they dont come home...just chill out. Hmm ok...see if you do that when you're a parent.

[@joebello2214]

Whatttttt brother kids are like branches and limbs once they grow crooked nothing straightness them I got 3 kids had the 1st at the age of 17 I know parenting

[@milapenda6833]

My little brother is doin this juste now we had serious problème ....can you help ?

[@justmanette2152]

Jesus can. Pray like his life depends on it.

[@MariamSleiman944]

Subhanallah

[@supriyo_maity]

he is mad to be honest. if parents don't control there child in teenage then most of them will end there life ok? my age is 16

[@tasireN]

Space dnt work that much 😢

[@melaniefox4510]

me being a rebel when I was 8 years old

[@user-ii8sf9zh2s]

Amen 🙏 😊

[@meerameenuddin6488]

Can I have full video link

[@deepashrivastava9188]

Yes tewnagers are veryyy badvarrogant mostly to mothers. Then also we have to work for them

[@prasida7334]

By the time they take all their time they turn into useless brats

[@surlespasdondine]

no

[@0sakurako]

yeah no if i even breathe wrong im getting smacked 💀

[@hamsahealinghands5423]

He not got kids he no idea the moment he said kids need time I’ve switched is best to listen to Andrew Tate who tell you to discipline your kids he said himself Uk children are meesed up

[@surlespasdondine]

andrew tate has no kids😂😂

[@Tesseslife2342]

This doesn’t work 😮

[@surlespasdondine]

it does

[@Riwar847]

Wow!! Handsome, hot, sooo young.. But u teached me a Mom. Thanks gentleman🙏

[@zonepistolez9944]

This is good and all but the name calling and saying I don't need you. I guess, back up, huh. It isn't true. Give him time and ignore the name calling and him getting in me and his mom's business? Him parenting me? I suppose to fold? It's confusing. Naturally, I don't let back talk slide. I'll shut it down and we go back and forth when he needs to shut up.

[@surlespasdondine]

Back and forth is not productive. It's not about folding. Just let go of your ego and give him or her time and space.

[@user-hm3zj2if7f]

Back up into the delivery room

[@deepashrivastava9188]

Are kuch bolenege nahin to bigad kaye ge bhai

[@uncasbrook5396]

ALL IN ALL ITS JUST AH, NOTHER BRICK IN THE WALL!

[@erikdegby4652]

Don't worry, the Real World will NOT be patient 😂. They'll learn.

[@antrianewsome2463]

Right! I just told my son yesterday your head is too heard but the world will soften your ssa.

[@surlespasdondine]

They need patient parental figures to help them become ready though.