How to Deal With a Disrespectful Teenager (4 Strategies That Work Wonders)

[@AskDanielWong]

What is one disrespectful thing your teen does or says that frustrates you? Leave a comment and let me know. Also, make sure to get your FREE quick action guide "10 Proven Ways to Get Your Teenager to Listen to You" here ➡ www.daniel-wong.com/guide

[@geettakkar236]

I’m I’m 😊

[@kokkyrubui9819]

He says I'm toxic, after disobeying anything and everything..I feel yak

[@m.b5046]

He keeps repeating “It's not your business”😏 could you please say what should I do?

[@tinaxinastle5462]

He says, I don't care. . . or will not respond to a question.

[@gooddoctor9542]

they say "not you business... what about doing it yourself.... give this advice to yourself..." one really knows how to make me crazy, smiles at me as if she was mocking me, laughs at my words and says hurtful words in wispher when she appraoches me ... that doesn't always happen, only when she is angry at me... i started managing my anger by understanding the psychology in her attitude, i think she feels insecure and her way as copymechanism is violance and aggressivity

[@MarkJones-yu1rs]

What helped me the most with raising my children was the book ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’. It is honestly a game changer

[@rvng3r95]

Even with helpful information, a good family can still have disrespectful children. The internet, social media etc is destroying today generation at a rapid pace..

[@MD.orion1]

Exactly they are being "parented" by every unethical and subversive influence via tech

[@bessiestephens5346]

You are exactly right. My 12 year old granddaughter had a fit when I asked her to put her cell phone down for a minute! She has never had chores , or any discipline. Her mom is an alcoholic and a mental wreck! Her dad do not discipline or give her any kind of duties. I have had enough! One thing I don’t allow is disrespect. She also hangs with another troubled 12 year old. My granddaughter goes to counseling but I don’t see any progress!

[@KBQuick81]

Absolutely right!

[@billiejean6662]

I agree wholeheartedly

[@bagelarmy.]

@@bessiestephens5346I think the greater problem is less that she likes your phone and that her mom is literally the worst possible role model

[@Jvgooch]

As a father of six daughters, one being 42 years old, 4 teenagers and one that just turned 12, I have had a variety of issues over a long span of years and of different generations. My teenagers, who have grown up with internet, social media and the Covid 19 pandemic, are a special generation of kids that traditional thinking has gained new meaning. It's as if they don't need or rely on parents when answers to their questions are fingertips away. What used to be the proper way to deal with conflicts or emotional differences with parents, have become rise to stress and frustration. I agree to a point on some of the suggestions you make on this video, but I also think because there is less parenting going on in the world because of single parents, long work hours, lack of time spent with kids and more access to internet activities that content can be fake information that kids become more confused than ever.

[@janisripple754]

Appreciate your support we are grandparents with our grandson living with us Post COVID-social isolation he did his senior year on line 1/2 his junior yr.. delayed development anger anxiety .. he even graduated cum Laude with AP classes.

[@twinflamecapricorn]

😭😭😭 so true

[@MD.orion1]

So true indeed!!!

[@thepetesmith]

The older I get the more I realize why the older generation acted and raised like they did. Society is unraveling.

[@mcawesomest1]

It’s a much different world today then it was 30 or 40 years ago

[@jozefchlabicz]

Yes, and those tips give you nothing

[@ntnsty]

So goes the saying: To be young and a conservative is to be insensitive - To be old and a liberal is to be a fool.

[@Zagardal]

"The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers." You know who said that? Aristotle. Society isn't unraveling, you're just forgetting how children in general actually behave.

[@Creoles.nature]

I'm trying to find balance because my 11yr old is on the verge

[@fatimabeltran1640]

Thank you, but sometimes i want to send him to a boarding school, because no matter what i do his is miserable.

[@rg555mg]

I don’t think this tips work at all. We have a teenager that has always being treated with respect, going to therapy and having an open space to talk about anything that could frustrate him. In return we got disrespect, lies and indifference. This doesn’t work. I’m starting to believe that discipline and strictness is the only way to raise a respectful person. Otherwise they just become too entitled. It’s unbearable.

[@Rachelya87]

Truth hurts sometimes… and people need called out on negative traits. Delivery matters… yes. But too much candy coating does not make them stronger, nor prepare them for the world.

[@Monah-u9f]

true, like we are tolerating, destroying not building them

[@goodsoul2607]

All this if we cannot tell, it is simply telling us to suffer in silence.

[@traceyreynolds8978]

Telling me that I have no right to expect her to do her chores...or anything for that matter, really frustrates me.

[@walqqr1]

Likewise, your kid has no right to expect you to give everything she wants and do everything for her all the time. If she has privileges like internet access or allowance, she has to earn it.

[@Monah-u9f]

​@@walqqr1wow brilliant!

[@Andreandre2xx]

​@@walqqr1 that's dumb

[@nazmakhatunofficial]

Mine rolls her eyes, pulls faces and mocks what I say. If I say they’ve messed the fridge up and she hears it, she’ll say it wasn’t us we didn’t do it why you blaming us in a rude way

[@melissabradshaw7331]

Talking back and not caring!

[@Dislexiananana]

Wow. That crap about being expected to follow rules???...I give my kids more freedom than I probably should, but helloooooo....welcome to the real world!!! We allllll have to learn to follow the rules of life.

[@Gigi_fromNY]

Exactly!!! This dude is delusional

[@jerrymiller5022]

U are a true enabler.

[@charlottepeukert9095]

I think, as a mother, I demand respect no matter what. I'm friendly, but in the end of the day, me and my husband are paying for them. And I don't accept being treated badly, just because my children's brains haven't develooed yet. I think, as part of the older generation, I don't have to engage in too much conflict, I can simply say no.

[@melissaphillips08]

As a mother, I feel like we are unappreciated in so many different ways. And I totally 100% agree with you. I demand respect as well as a mother no matter what. You won’t respect from me you must first give it. I am the authority figure. Therefore, if you want me to be able to allow you to do more, and to have more freedom, you must first show me that you can obey and follow the rules. I don’t know what this dude is talking about, definitely the talking thing can be fixed and changed as far as control. Yeah, you are being controlled because you’re a child and if you think that you can make adult decisions as a child, then you need to move out.

[@ascoolas_ice]

@@melissaphillips08 I am really feeling sorry for both of your children. Respect is never demanded but earned. What if your child too think like this? If you can't be merciful and ready to sacrifice your high ego, a bit, for your innocent small child, I really wonder your status of relationship! You are showing power of your authority to that poor fellow who just need a bit more love, a bit more care, a bit more relaxed person to whom they can share things! Shame! Of course, how will this get to your egoistic head!

[@IsChosen33]

@@ascoolas_iceso from ur opinion, as adults we don’t have all the needs u just listed right? Because many of us never ask to be here, and our children can say the same, yet that’s not going to solve the pandemic problem right? Some of us grow up the evil way, no basic training, yet we are still able to work n provide for our children, I’m not expecting my child to respect me honestly, just respect my rules, When a child attend school, the leaders at the school isn’t expecting for the child to respect them, but they must follow the school policies, especially as a teenager!

[@demiangarcia-monroy2564]

It is so much more effective to mentor and coach. I rephrase what my daughter said and then I ask her how she thinks that makes me feel. I get hugs and kisses and I am sorry daddy, I will try better. Also, work on strengthenong relationships before you need to use the relationship bond to tackle challenges together.

[@cloudfish1829]

Raising kids sounds like a lot of hassle..why do we even do this to ourselves? So we won't be lonely in our old age?

[@charlottepeukert9095]

I did all of this, but it didn't work with one of my children. All this advice is good, but you have to take into consideration that sometimes the situation is unbearable.I'm not even talking about great conflicts here. I experienced a slow, but steady decline of respect, dedication to family life, a chosen way of life I can't relate to and a frustration that there seems to be a total lack of appreciation for me and my husband. Although a lot of time has passed and were're not living together, the emotional distance hasn't really gotten smaller.Whenever there's a meeting that last for more than a day or two, tensions are running high.

[@hershalerv]

Idk if you’re still on here. My 16 daughter has been on my last nerve. She is 1 out of seven. She is the third youngest. Mother passed away in 2020. My daughter has been testing the waters since. Being rebellious, low academic grades, needing her cell phone to survive, rolling the eyes, sneaking out of the house, vaping, missing school bus and I could keep going. I think corporal punishment would do her some good. However I will try some of your steps first before I get the wooden spoon like my mother use to do me. All of the selective words you gave hurt my head. I am not a God but a mere human with human emotions. So I will keep trying but she is on my short list. You’re more than welcome to stop by my house for a few sessions. We live in PA in the Lehigh valley area. I’ll even do a zoom call. Anything. I also need a vacation. Thank you

[@AnnettePeartBoothe]

The don't have any love towards their parents

[@niviamaeva]

Mine’s 12 and is all that and much more. 😞 you’re NOT alone!

[@willkiesel2961]

Tell her you love her! Everyday! I lost my mom at a young age. After she died I never heard those words ever again. I too did exactly what your daughter did

[@keythomas8116]

He can come by my house too. Better yet take them for the summer lol

[@leetos.4915]

I think i have to watch this about 100X more for my step teenage daughter

[@AskDanielWong]

Hope that helps!

[@Lmitdditin]

🫶🏽 Blessings to you mama

[@keythomas8116]

Step parents have it the worse. Trust me I know!!

[@carmenlangkilde5791]

This is wild, children and parents are not equals. It's not criticism it's teaching and guiding. This is half the problem with kids nowadays.

[@babykoala1700]

My daughter told me that with anyone disagrees with her, she takes as personal attack including parents and her friends.

[@cyp4504]

its like tolerating their behavior

[@mylifewithaspiehubby]

Yes! It is tolerating and that is not that bad. After all they must learn this skills for friendship purposes, work purposes, even romantic relationship purposes. Tolerating is not the same as tolerate am abuse behavior because everything should have a limit (a boundary). You should have your limit that they should not cross and they would have to create theirs for their adulthood life.

[@iamweno3858]

14 yr old gets A and B's. We reward him for grades, chores etc. Wifey bought him a phone. This boy still disrespect us and gets mad when we say NO!!

[@AskDanielWong]

Thank you for sharing. I'm sorry to hear about the frustrating situation. This other video that I've created might be helpful: kzbin.info/www/bejne/ioupaayQgbBlhtk

[@onipepperonni2088]

same here...what can we do?

[@patrickfujimoto1608]

Worst possible thing you can do for a child or teen is buy them a phone probably

[@bonnaferrao1847]

My sons are 13 and 16. My younger one is very stubborn and always challenges anything I say. He will always say I’m not doing much for him and he had a very bad childhood as he was in Creche and he never had mother’s love and was always alone

[@MeaOlsen]

Thank you for this video I am trying so hard to break the cycle of demanding respect, as parents we have to set the example I don’t think most adults were taught how to manage our “downstairs” brain, most of us were told to just “respect me” or else, most of our respect came from fear of judgement and punishments. We have to break the cycle teenagers are amazing and fun we need to give them space to be themselves!

[@LanietaBuiuqe]

I had a 15 years old daughter,now she lied alot and following the wrong group at school

[@Monah-u9f]

same😢

[@babykoala1700]

Exactly my 17 years old

[@jacquelineclauson4891]

My daughter is always in her room, she doesn’t spent enough time with her family.

[@hellomarisolmo]

WELL, ask yourself if you are someone you would hang out with. We need to provide guidance, love, and support. Also sometimes teens like alone time, it might not be you.

[@onlinemedicalandsurgicalco3185]

Mine too

[@babykoala1700]

Mine is either sleeping or pooping when she is home.

[@wautapusongu2439]

My teenage son talks back while I'm talking to him. It becomes annoying when he continuously does that...

[@ascoolas_ice]

Does it hurt your ego? Do you expect or want your son to be a deaf and dumb? Or only dumb? Why do you want to raise your child to be a labour or worker who only listen, get oppressed?

[@goodlifewithjin3102]

I'm so glad I found your channel. Really love your parenting tips and looking forward to watch more.

[@AskDanielWong]

Thank you so much!

[@MerceditaLeelin]

Thank you sir for the reminder

[@AskDanielWong]

You're very welcome.

[@marilynsaenzdeviteri6009]

I run around for my daughter as she participates in many sports. I’m a single parent , I work long hours … she does not appreciate what I do, she talks over me , she behaves like she’s the adult and gives me orders and demands ! Sorry I can’t tolerate this. I love her , I die for her but don’t walk all over me. I agreed with some people here the covid , social media have done immense damage to these kids . I drive long hours , barely eat , move my day for her completely for her but she feels she’s entitle to it. She’ has a big mouth and talks over me. I feel so under appreciated, my life is devoted to her , but no appreciation for what I do is so discouraging. She has so much freedom but the more disrespectful she is the less I want to do for her. It feel like emotional abuse. I lived this with her dad , I feel I’m relieving that horrible marriage life I had

[@Gigi_fromNY]

I am so sorry to hear that! :(( I’m in the same boat as you!

[@basmaabdi31]

Thankyou so much...concrete and well articulated advice. It's a gradual process,with teens you can just focus on the moment or situation...getting over stressed over how they will turn out or their impulsive behaviours will spoil the current communication. Parents must work on being calm and ready that some things will not be in their control.

[@EltonFulton]

My son Ethan is 17 and he always gives me the cold shoulder

[@luzmariij4695]

This is the best advice I can get. It makes so much sense to me. Thank you!

[@AskDanielWong]

You're welcome!

[@doreenwong5392]

Daniel, these are excellent tips! My 8-year old grandson was "eavesdropping" while i was watching your video and he remarked that parents of younger children should listen to the 4 tips, too :)

[@AskDanielWong]

That's great to hear :)

[@alannarainge9851]

I don't know if I can think of just one thing. My son is very disrespectful he lies about everything (big or small). I cant trust him to do the right thing, recently caught him smoking in my home an he tried to lie about it. Its like nothing I do is good enough and I have 3 other kids that need me as well and I feel drained with just him, that i have nothing left for my other children

[@DivaofHipHop]

🙏❤️

[@willkiesel2961]

Something that really frustrates me is when my teen complains, blames and criticizes other people if he doesn’t win at a game or feels he did not shine. He only says negative comments and it becomes frustrating to show him how to look at things as positive. These conversations start to escalate because I feel I cannot communicate and show him that it is not the way to speak of people

[@mlzahed]

As parents we are preparing these kids for life. They will have bosses, managers, government regulations that they have to follow even if they work for themselves. Someone will always tell them what to do. Your boss or Uncle Sam could care less if you pout, stomp, and throw a fit. Your boss will throw you out of employment and Uncle Sam will throw your butt in jail.

[@kasun1752]

I just gave my teen power to do a task that was creating lots of stress between us, and she completely calmed down, it was like a different person, but I took a lot from me to do.

[@hemalathaanilkumar64]

Very helpful 🙏🏻

[@AskDanielWong]

Glad you think so!

[@ellebell9139]

I've always respected my kid, i dont have very many restrictions at home.... I give her leave to express herself and i listen and i care and i act like it.... But she actively tries to upset me all day... No matter what i do....

[@DivestedConfessions]

Because she needs structure and discipline

[@ellebell9139]

@@DivestedConfessions she has that more than every kid.... Air and food too. Lsr

[@SoulStonee]

just take the damn phone away, stop being nice. There has to be boundaries, if not she will take everything for granted and do whatever she wants. Learn to say no

[@DivestedConfessions]

I don’t believe you. You say she tries to upset you all day no matter what you do, but you admit you don’t have much restrictions at home. Get it together as a parent you’re the authority

[@DEVENDRA..2006]

Actually because of my child behaviour,I am getting frustrated and getting,dipression,, every min I am thinking of him ,he should be good person,

[@PixiTabs]

You put into words what I’ve been trying to explain to my husband, but you explain it more logically lol😅

[@AskDanielWong]

Thank you!

[@carolyntravis5696]

Thank you for this video! Its so important for parents to evaluate their own behavior and disrespect that tends to fuel children's misbehavior. The "traditional ways" of parenting have often left children scarred, perpetuated abuse, and now we have grown adults who don't know how to model humility and kindness for their own children. For those who are willing to lay down their pride and actually contemplate their ways, this videos for you!

[@jacoblowe8426]

As a teen myself this is interesting to learn

[@michaelmcginty2766]

How about just yelling at them and making them do what they're supposed to, you know, like my parents did. I hated it, but it worked

[@michellebaca1024]

I tell my son to please clean his bathroom and he tells me that that’s my job that I am the mom and that’s my job.

[@100favorite]

Just don’t clean it for him and let him bear the consequences. He will be pushed to cleaning it himself. Do less talk more actions especially with boys. Girls need more talk.

[@LatoyaBenskin]

Great tips ...I am actively seeking to review my approach to my son.

[@AskDanielWong]

Great!

[@jennifermannfitness]

When I ask him to be home by a certain time and he's always late with excuses.

[@gabireicher6337]

Excellent parenting video! Very important science-based advice

[@AskDanielWong]

Glad you think so!

[@LearnwithKrishna]

I give him time to behave n take action but he waste time n results are at risk.. As a single mom n financialy weak so i have to remind him not to waste time n preparr well

[@Callitout-kl1uq]

My kids would revolt if I tried to reduce their screen time. Just tonight, my son glared at me when I asked him to give me his phone. His room was a mess. His homework wasn’t done yet. I was being unreasonable in his view. Until someone tells me how to fix that situation none of these ideas will help .

[@leslielou4970]

I try these and have for years and they don’t work on my teen. I wish. Thank you though.

[@Opal5674]

Teens in the US know they have all the power because they know no matter how they speak to you that you aren't allowed to physically discipline them or you go to jail nor are you allowed to kick them out of the house until they are 18. I can only stop paying for my sons phone, get rid of video games and computer. I cant make him help around the house either because mine is so stubborn he would rather stare at 4 walls and never have phone or games again rather than do what hes asked.

[@sexyblackjag]

Stop buying anything other than peanut butter and jelly and fruit for the house. Don't work, don't eat good food. Simple.

[@meganpearson2643]

Any suggestions on a child disrespectful because the coparent allows it? How can you navigate that when they’re getting away with it majority of the time?

[@100favorite]

Very simple just tell them different people have different rules and different tolerance levels.

[@keythomas8116]

This sounds similar to a friendship. I get the coach mentality and the “I” statements but at some point it turns to a negotiation or a “let’s make a deal” mentality. What do you do with that? The power thing within limits, I’m a little fuzzy on that. I think that should be elaborated on much more for a better understanding. I am quite curious. How were you raised Daniel? Did you have similar upbringing with this same message? Or did you learn this as an adult?

[@aliciablitz9784]

I dislike the immediate arguing or denial without even thinking.

[@jod5834]

thanks!

[@AskDanielWong]

No problem!

[@debleeann81]

Bossing me or telling me what to do

[@neenaafzal1205]

Thank for helpful sugestion

[@AskDanielWong]

You're welcome.

[@felicityaddison3212]

Saying he doesn't care, refuses to do anything he is asked to do and that he doesn't want to be in our family.

[@leoncarlier]

Mine does exactly the same.

[@Ghost-face_baby_jonkler1400]

He will tell me to “chill out” when I am expressing that I am upset with him

[@TheSarahSunKissed]

Wonderful!

[@AskDanielWong]

Thank you!

[@ThaiNguyen-rn1xf]

i have giving up the teaching . it just easy to do the work and go on. avoid frustrates . they will grown up when turn 18.

[@Natural_africanbeauty]

My daughter don't like to listen to me or her teachers. She's rude and disrespectful. She just wanna have fun and not do school work. I've gotten so many complaints abt her in school. It's frustrating 😒

[@NewEnglish860]

This is stupid Tough love and hard nosed parenting is what kids need now more than ever. Take the phones and consoles laptops and tablets Tvs and make them earn them back w good behavior. Period

[@cloudfish1829]

This is a 15yo boy from an online community. I'm not his family. Apparently, his parents doesn't let him use social media, except for our small online server. I am 28. At first, I tried to coach him, I was respectful and all that. He didn't respond much but kept talking about his situation. He displays toxic traits like judging other ppl or saying sarcastic things to them. One day, he tried to do this to me too, and I wasn't having that and changed the topic in a dismissive way. Eventually after some more weeks, idk why but he started judging me, giving me silent treatment, then when I was writing about a bug bite in the server today, nothing serious just little daily life things, he said "...just no." I asked him to clarify what he meant, but he decided to run away with silence. :/ Super frustrating

[@toniaortiz5254]

Excellent pointers!

[@AskDanielWong]

Glad it was helpful!

[@sonamlucky2045]

She says you guys never do anything for me and never love me

[@trishelllarson2306]

My teen girl (16) thinks there no point to say bye to her grandma because she doesn’t think there’s a point to get to know her so why say bye to her. She won’t give anyone a chance to get to know them.

[@danikeebler1662]

I got tons of YOU statements. At 57 years old I was diagnosed with a learning disability they never questioned. It was always me rather than them asking me why I struggled so hard. It was beyond my control and not the expert in neurodiversity. . I was just expected to keep up or get verbally assaulted.

[@yourfriend4170]

You are great! 👍 thank you!

[@AskDanielWong]

You're welcome!

[@Nochkata]

Telling me I am not her mother, telling me she doesn't wanna live with me...

[@Alonzo5821]

I’m right there with you

[@brooklynphillips4697]

I'm getting the same treatment 😢

[@Monah-u9f]

why it happened to us evenif we are doing our best to give them the best. sometimes i had thughts of giving up or leave

[@jeanettecarp4527]

I am also a pretentious idiot. I watch crap on the media, I am a loser, I can do nothing well. You might think I insult my daughter as well. Wrong! I don't even feel like calling her names.

[@janeshic]

i feel frustrated when my son use vulgar languages on me, cover his ears when i just want to say something to him, stay in his room most of the time to avoid me ...:( i feel so hopeless on him ever will talk to me anymore....sighz

[@food2loseweight-thefreshma278]

I’m have been staying calm and respectful but her behaviour is getting worse

[@food2loseweight-thefreshma278]

I’m scared of my teen daughter she’s violent so I don’t talk to her anymore

[@azraiseatingnoodles02167]

he says "shut the hell up or I'll slap the shit out of you" and in my anger i responded with "i will do that too." and then i had to leave the room so i wouldn't scream... did i do something wrong here? - genuinely worried

[@farahazate2778]

My Tacious girl always saying I am gonna leave home when I am getting 16. Very small reason she getting upset. She’s not listening to me and she is very disrespect. Please guide me. What should I do?

[@jensmithe3624]

Playing video games on the phone and talking to parent at the same time.

[@KapilKhatter]

This comment section is heartbreaking. But I’m leery of all the teen-blaming. So few parents taking any responsibility at all for the situation

[@adianezhernandez5877]

Cutting me off in conversation, I know…I know …are you done now.

[@Marzenarg]

if they are rude to you in the first place, saying "how would you feel" is a bit ridiculous here.

[@DavidRichardson28]

Nah. I'm just not going to put up with the disrespect. She can stay with her mother and have a wonderful life

[@demiangarcia-monroy2564]

I'm sure that is a much better option than prioritizing your relationship with her and treating her like a human being.

[@mylifewithaspiehubby]

If you are not sick, this option to be evasive to the responsibility to raised a teenager and build deeper bonding is maybe more inside of the comfort zone. That is also a lesson for a teenager when a parent doesn't wanna deal with them, the feeling of rejection will have a cost for you and the teenager.

[@DavidRichardson28]

@@mylifewithaspiehubby it is of no cost to me. Her mother alienated her from me after I got married. She comes here and creates absolute hell, turns my home upside down. I will pick up when she is grown. It will cost her and it will be her mother's fault. No way I'm going to deal with the headache of kissing my own kids ass and her mother's ass.

[@cleander97]

You will regret missing this time when she is grown up and you are old and she doesn’t want to have anything to do with you.

[@DavidRichardson28]

@@cleander97 I doubt that but if I do it's just a choice and a trade off. Hopefully she will see the way her mother is when she grows up.

[@FHIPrincePeter]

Good practical advice. No fluff.

[@AskDanielWong]

Glad it was helpful.

[@nicolewishom2328]

My Daughter doesn't feel she should do chores and I have to keep repeating myself

[@hildaharo2526]

Low grades i have issues with them

[@danikeebler1662]

I work in a middle school. I understand the comparison to prisoners. I also work with students with IEPs. They are even more under a microscope than Gen ed kids. The one thing rhey have in common is they have no fun in their lives. As school budget cuts dig deeper, the art, music, creating new things no longer exists. I ask kids what they did all time off, they shrug their shoulders and tell me video games, TV and sleep. The parents took them no where and did nothing...just like a prisoner in solitary confinement. When they get punished, they get more of the same nothingness. In my day, fun was taken away. These kids have very little pleasure or fun to take away. Good behavior is not rewarded with fun or acknowledgment. Why bother???? It won't be seen. It also steals their ability to dream of the future , explore who they are as people and see their strengths. They need to see a world out there worth working towards

[@kawshikalam2855]

These are probably the worst possible advices. Man , get your kid out of that publoc school . Thats it. Even if that doesn't work. Then just hand them over to child care. In the earlier times there were provisions to take physical actions against kids who are disrespectful. That was the best. Too much freedom is dangerous. In this era if you try to beat your kid for somthing that is harming others. You get called from child protective service and as they wont allow you to teach lessons to these kids/teens, then they should be the one managing them. Parents go through a lot while raising a child and when they grow up to become like this ( disrespecting and causing harm to others), then parents just should leave them alone. It's a small life, if it"s not worth it, dont sacrifice your happiness for shits like this. I am sorry to put things like this but the policy of this country is the one who is responsible.

[@b8sh]

Using F word so casually all the time..

[@100favorite]

I’m glad I found your channel 🎉🎉🎉

[@AskDanielWong]

Thank you!

[@50toinfinityatleast]

Can’t listen to them if they won’t talk. 😢.

[@MD.orion1]

Yes patents do all that and stull the distespect and entitlement and swearing and refusal to do any chores etc it goes on and on.

[@topwreckfleece]

great video

[@AskDanielWong]

Glad you found it helpful

[@joshjones4014]

Being 43 I'm confused with some things. I might be wrong, which I have no problem with owning if I am, but what I hear is when i grew up I was to be respectful and accountable, we were raised outside then news had to remind parents they had kids at 10. Being the only child I wasn't the spoiled only child, I was the you are responsible if your friend breaks something in our house then it's on me type. Also if someone disrespects you then try to resolve, then don't entertain, then make them if they insist on harassing. But now I'm an adult I'm supposed to give my kid more power than I have in the only place I have it? When the kids now aren't accountable and believe they just are never wrong. They don't know how the world works because they grew up inside, they never lose because they get rewarded for losing and now can be disrespectful to their parents because they're no consequences? So at what point do they learn reality? In the work force, bosses aren't going to pretend they have power. If respect is not understood early then accountability for actions is not learned because that is respect in the self and from others. If respect is not learned early then understanding authority and power is not learned. So like now we have people who think they can make decisions but not the consequences, they think communication is them saying whatever they want and then ignore the other part of conversation like they do online, while they are being told mean are weak, not needed. My job as a parent is to raise a productive good person, but in order to be that you have to know who they are. You have to lose to overcome the mindset that you win all the time. You have to acknowledge mistakes to learn from them. You have to struggle to know what you are capable of when your back is against the wall. Right now you a society that nobody knows who they are but demands other people to meet expectations that they have but they aren't the weakest version of person they could be. They can't handle pressure now and end up snapping and hurting themselves or others. All because they were raised to be a false level of respect.

[@LB-hi6zc]

The words "whatever" or "Ill try" are like a redflag to me

[@kainaat001]

Model the behavior of😅 this does not work with every teen. Some teens's parents, model a good behavior, and the teens don't behave or learn. Not every theory on everyone works

[@vickistanton8007]

Why? Why? Why? Questioning every instruction.

[@AranaPeters-w3j]

Don't look me in the eye or try to look at their phone while I'm talking.

[@LearnwithKrishna]

I respect him, no tonting n calm ntry my best but he don't like even I say a single advice... He always blame me for the things I don't say or do... Just to prove his misbehave is right

[@gundraandesta6457]

Over 1400 years ago Al Qur'an describes "And We have commanded people to ˹honour˺ their parents. Their mothers bore them through hardship upon hardship, and their weaning takes two years. So be grateful to Me and your parents. To Me is the final return. Al Luqman verse14."

[@kissifusa]

Gaslighting teens my stepdaughter does it all the time and I don’t even know where she learns it from

[@jtmplmbr4465]

The wild thing about all of this is the concept of a teenager is a post WW2 concept and through most of human history there were two phases in life, pre-puberty and post. Once you went through puberty you were viewed as an adult and expected to act as one.

[@AskDanielWong]

Yes, I learned about this a while back and I find it interesting too. It's interesting that there were even powder monkeys a few hundred years ago!

[@vanessamagel5119]

Don't forget to add this new generation has too much freedom of everything !

[@narengbamshantadevi1602]

Excellent speech 👍👍👍