Sam Fender - Spit Of You (Official Video)

[@samfendermusic]

This video is so beast! It was the most amazing experience to film with Stephen Graham, genuinely one of the best actors this country has ever seen & such a lovely bloke. So proud of this one!!

[@jm6646]

this video is amazing Sam! you are so really amazing i'm so proud of you, i love u

[@dennisxavier6044]

Me encanta! Eres increíble 💯✨

[@Sarah-LN]

It really is amazing. Never felt so many emotions watching a game of pool 😭😭😭

[@AllThingsFender]

proud of you!!!

[@kaja.filipowicz]

This is so beautiful, love every second of it❤️

[@eleonora1333]

My old man passed away last year. Due to the pandemic, I wasn't allowed to visit him in the hospital where he withered day after day, alone. He owned a bar, where he used to organize live music events. I remember our grey and sad town coming alive during these events, little bit happier, little bit more alive. The nights pretty much always ended up in red (he had the habit of offering to drink to everyone) but he never really cared that much, all he wanted was to share his love for music with anyone who passed by. He loved his job so much and I guess that's why, despite being a loving father, he was never really present when I was a kid. We started to get closer in the last three years, more or less, bonding over our shared love for music. I remember him constantly asking me to go with him to that concert there, this vinyl exhibition here. But I also remember me constantly refusing because I was battling depression, thought still thinking that we could eventually go, once I got better, that we still had time. Joke's on me because I got better and he got worse and time has run out now. This song has brought back lots of unresolved feelings in me. Thank you Sam, perhaps I needed this.

[@rhythmativedance4228]

Moving story

[@zolfodor4835]

Much love to you ❤️

[@Gaztronaut]

Wow. This comment is poetry. So poignant. Best wishes to you!

[@emm9062]

Sending you so much love. Thank you for sharing this with us.

[@polinatrubinova3573]

Thank you for this story. Sending you love and support

[@markosborne9297]

I’m a 51 year old man and I can’t tell you how much I love this lad’s music. He’s a generational talent. Look after him.

[@danielcharles7413]

About the same age and you're so right Mark!🙂

[@ptiger7177]

He's a breath of fresh air and can actually sing

[@nakmas73]

He’s absolutely fantastic… I’m 48 btw

[@barbarawood5425]

Fab singer, lovely voice

[@alexanderfrantz5299]

same age, exactly same opinion here … every once in a while a talent like him comes along to keep me believing there’s still great music around

[@Harvester236]

When he played this at Glastonbury, a man next to me teared up. I asked if he was okay, he told me he lost his father a few months prior and had only just mended their relationship in time before his death. I gave him a hug, being thankful for still having a father. This song really speaks to a lot of people.

[@oldandnew1234]

JJ he needed that hug. X

[@pazz4life859]

respect brother

[@rogertaylor5328]

Same.... can't listen to this with out either singing along n choking or tears..

[@LesleyTanMortyMortisha]

Me mam left me and me younger sister when I was 14ish, I still cannot forgive her, me poor dad never knew what hit him, and it wrecked me life, yes, she is dead now, still cannot forive her

[@LesleyTanMortyMortisha]

And also from North Shields

[@ScottBolger-bj3bx]

Lost my middle son, only 29years old due to addiction. He was a beautiful person,caring , funny strong hard working & handsome. I miss him so much. This song connects to me. He was a spit of me & I hope some day I will see & meet with him again. Had a great 9 months with him before his passing. God bless all who has connection through this song.

[@simonbest3855]

So sorry for your loss

[@kab8711]

So very sorry for your loss. Heartbreaking. I fell in love with this song when I lost my younger brother to cancer.

[@narcleptik]

We've all lost someone close, and these songs bind us together like a bridge ❤ sorry for your loss.. dearly

[@shenny.d]

I’m so sorry for your loss 😭💔

[@copperboom4703]

Sounds like you had a good relationship. I’ve never felt a real connection with my dad, he’s been there my whole life but there’s just nothing. I mourn for it sometimes. Sounds like you had something special. Stay strong 💪

[@joeevans266]

This was my relationship with my dad, i cant remember ever having any deep meaningful conversations with him, not many i love yous or hugs but i always thought the world of him, he just wasnt that kind of person with me. He was a big drinker and had a toxic relationship with my mother which created a pretty terrible home life for many years. I was about 17 and came home from football practice to find out that hed walked out on us, i was upset but wasnt surprised, i had a little cry on my own in my room, punched a hole in my wardrobe and that was it. I didnt hear from him for months, had no idea where hed gone then finally got a call, he was living in Spain. Over the next 12 or 13 years i had minimal contact with him, not through choice but he would be constantly changing numbers and i couldnt get hold of him, i did manage to fly out to see him 3 or 4 times in those 13 years and he never returned to the uk. I was 29/30 and got a call from the British consulate, he was found living homeless on the streets and had been taken in by a charity, i was told he seemed to be suffering from memory loss, was in a bad physical condition and would keep disappearing. I booked a flight out on my own straight away to search the streets to try and find him and found out hed been taken to hospital, i found out where it was and got a taxi there, he was almost unrecognisable and he had no idea who i was. He was diagnosed with vascular dementia, a kind of dementia that can be brought on by drinking. Over the next 3 months he stayed in hospital and between flying between the UK and Spain i would look after him, buy him clothes and the kind of things he used to like, cut his hair, trim his beard. In that time he would have spells where his memory would come back, hed know who i was and we would talk like wed never been apart yet he also seemed to be totally unaware of the situation he was in, then he would just stop talking and hed start staring straight through me like he had no idea who i was again. Although he had spells where his mental condition seemed to get better his physical condition rapidly deteriorated. I had to return home to the UK on Christmas eve as i had a 6 month old baby, was self employed and had a house to pay for, i just couldnt keep spending any more time and money out there. That was the last time i saw him, i woke up one morning about a month or so later to a voicemail from a Spanish nurse saying that hed died, it was in Spanish and i barely understood a word but i knew what she was saying. Im 35 now with two daughters and the older i get the more i keep seeing my dad in myself, we look and act almost identically. I never questioned any of the things my dad put me/us through and he never acknowledged it, i never asked him why he left. I wish i could meet him again as an adult because i feel like i only knew him as a child and the older i get and the more i learn about myself the more i start to feel like i could have understood him. I suppose on a positive note its given me the self awareness i need to aknowledge my own faults and i can use that to be the best father to my daughters i could possibly be. RIP Dad, i still love you x

[@thaimasterful]

Lovely message mate, i think we can all learn from our painful experiences which will make us better parents and its a shame you didn't get to an age where you could perhaps have that adult conversation and understand the "why" man to man. My situation has made me try and be and more open with my son as i want him to be able to tell me anything without judgement as i never had that.

[@joeevans266]

Thanks a lot Neil. Looking at some of the comments on here it seems a lot of people had similar relationships with their dads, i wonder if its a generational thing that men in those days just didnt open up and talk about what they think, how they feel, there emotions etc. Il admit i find it hard so maybe that attitude has been passed on and maybe passed on through men for generations before. I remember reading something that said how it takes a strong person to be the one to break that mold and to stop those traits being passed on to future generations (our kids). Maybe its our responsibility to do that. All the best to you and your son.

[@niallmc9020]

Extremely moving comment, wishing you all the best pal ❤️

[@aleem5197]

very moving. Hope all is well now ♥

[@phoebeel]

Man your story brought me to tears. I appreciate how much love and forgiveness you have in your heart and I wish you that you'll get that love back from all those around you. ❤️

[@TheRetroFuture]

The best musician of our generation. I am honoured to be here to witness this mans growth. God speed Sam x

[@lewissadler97]

Too fuckin right !

[@zolfodor4835]

Well said mate.

[@sam_cfc_8730]

Too far.

[@tornonet35]

I described Sam as a generational talent to a friend of mine just yesterday. It's a gift to be able to put to words how so many of us feel about people we love and ourselves, and make it a banger all at the same time

[@BoutYoungAnnaLee]

Good song writer, maybe the best. But not best musician by a long way.

[@JohnGrayOnline]

My son just sent this to me - simultaneously disconcerting and heartwarming - it actually made me cry, and now I look at these comments I see I'm not alone ... thanks son.

[@mike7002]

He talked to you mate!

[@Simbabhebhe]

Hope you called him.... It's your cue. And you should be so proud you have a son with that bravery. It'll give you a future family you won't unless you got back to him...God speed John

[@vickenator]

I'm here with everyone else who had a "complicated" relationship with their father. And I'm here with those of you who never really got the chance to correct it before he passed. Thanks, Sam, this song gets me every time.

[@waynedavis5833]

Yep

[@rocks813]

As a 17-year-old who's yet to experience more of life, this song and the entire album hit me. What a breath of fresh air in the toxic pop culture in my generation.

[@scottnorman4334]

What a life you have ahead of you. Enjoy it.

[@drvren030]

I gotta say it: Don't go under mate

[@ProFam311_2]

Are you 17 going under? XD

[@rocks813]

@@ProFam311_2 Luckily, not. Lol

[@angelahonan9395]

So much life ahead of you. Wishing you all the best and the fortitude to weather the tough times. Hugs.

[@lauraengelhardt3896]

Whoever ist responsible for the artistic representation of Sam‘s music is amazing. There is not 1 video I don’t like. It captures the mood of every song just perfectly. And I’m always sooo moved afterwards. Especially here: very good acting and so relatable! And now I want fish&chips and a camping holiday!

[@ebonyorgan7437]

I know that he used to work with Vincent Haycock (the cinematographer) but I’m not sure if he still does !

[@billyt5657]

Pretty sure this one was directed by Philip barantini :)

[@johnfran3218]

When things were at their very worst: 2 Suns, Cross in the sky, 2 comets will collide = don`t be afraid - repent, accept Lord`s Hand of Mercy. Scientists will say it was a global illusion. Beware - Jesus will never walk in flesh again. After WW3 - rise of the “ man of peace“ from the East = Antichrist - the most powerful, popular, charismatic and influential leader of all time. Many miracles will be attributed to him. He will imitate Jesus in every conceivable way. Don`t trust „pope“ Francis = the False Prophet - will seem to rise from the dead - will unite all Christian Churches and all Religions as one. One World Religion = the seat of the Antichrist. Benedict XVI is the last true pope - will be accused of a crime of which he is totally innocent. "The time for the schism in the Church is almost here and you must get prepared now" "Arab uprising will spark global unrest - Italy will trigger fall out" The Book of Truth

[@theandrew1319]

The 'Borders' music video always hits me so hard.

[@billyt5657]

@SAM FENDER 🎶 odd ball

[@Astridologist]

This song was close to making me cry when I heard it but after seeing the video I’m bawling. My dad and I get along but don’t talk and when we do it’s typically about my brother. Two weeks ago my grandfather died and I saw my dad cry for one of the first times in my life. A week after that my dad got diagnosed with a blood clot. I think it’s time I learn to talk to him, life is precious

[@michaelpearce8733]

Lovely comment

[@suttladsutton1623]

Love your dad while you can. My dad passed away really suddenly last year. I miss him terribly and a piece of me died when he did. Life isn’t the same. I know he’ll be looking down willing me on my not so good days to carry on. You’ve still got the chance to tell your dad and show him how much you love him. Make every day count because when they are gone it’s horrible ❤️

[@tigerskiss1986]

I listened to the whole album driving from Kirkcaldy to dundee. Honestly one of the best albums I’ve listen to in a long time. I don’t have a close relationship to my dad, now he’s older and got dementia and I see him slipping further away, song literally pulls on so many heart strings. Sam just has that rare quality of making the listener feel like they are the only ones who listen to him in that way of an undiscovered artist. Such a talent and humbling singer.

[@chelseachelsea572]

This song is about a man’s relationship with his father not a woman. Please listen to something else

[@Astridologist]

@@chelseachelsea572 I beg your pardon? I made a comment about my relationship with my dad not a romantic relationship? I thought that was made quite clear by the amount of times I mentioned my father in the comment.. Edit: if by chance you meant “not a woman” in the sense of this only being relatable to men and their relationship with their fathers, kindly stop telling me to listen to something else. Having a rough relationship with your dad has nothing to do with whether you’re a man or woman. That way of thinking goes against everything Sam stands for.

[@hayleydavis4820]

My dad was an abusive alcoholic. He died back in September. He put us through hell, this video totally got to me. This combined with seventeen going under has had me bawling tonight. Bravo on an amazing song, a brilliant video & you've found a new fan in me.

[@penguin0075]

Sorry to hear this 😢 this song definitely evokes so much emotion for a lot of people and their Dad.

[@aldozilli1293]

The great thing about this man's stuff is even if you didn't experience anything like the subject matter it takes you there as if you did, you can appreciate the pain.

[@sootyginger4388]

Made me cry for sure. Such a talent.

[@davidcooper3274]

I get you brother

[@kriscowley3241]

Snap ❤️ I really hope your scars have healed. This and 17 going under go right through me too for the exact same reasons ❤️ I hope you’ve healed friend.

[@glendacash1962]

I'm a 70yo woman, and this song broke my heart. It speaks to men and women. The music is great, but especially in the refrain. I just want to put my hands up to the sky! Good luck, son, in your life and musical career. May you go far, and be happy with it!

[@thejonnybell]

Rarely do I hear a song where both the music and the lyrics sum up exactly how I'm feeling. I'm 34 and don't talk to my dad because he is an emotional abuser and it's something I struggle with every day. Last night I went for a drive somewhere quiet, had this on repeat. I cried and cried and cried, it was exactly what I needed. Thank you with all my heart Sam!

[@gethighonlife11]

I feel you JB. I'm kind of in the same predicament', but unfortunately, it can't be resolved. It has been 28 years and my father refuses to act correctly. I'm done being sad. A hug to you, my brother.

[@thejonnybell]

@@gethighonlife11 thanks man! Really appreciate the kind words!

[@andy_J_11]

Also 34 and in a similar situation bud. Many guys out there with clueless fathers who no doubt had clueless fathers themselves. It doesn’t take the pain away however. People like us will rise and set a better standard ✊🏻❤️

[@gercarney6623]

To all those sons out there with a dad still alive that they don’t talk to …. Go talk to him ! He still loves you, try to understand his life and story ….A lot of men Leave their families as a sacrifice to the happiness of all in the house. Yes there are lots of men who should be alone but there are a lot more who crave the love of their children ! Don’t wait until it’s too late go try to offer an olive branch and talk …. I wish my sons would, I know that for sure. I have tried to talk to them ! Now I’m just lonely old man of 58 still loving the little boys he left behind many years ago wanting to know them as the men they have become. ❤

[@vodcancoke]

It did me too

[@samgill7542]

This is potentially one of the best songs I’ve ever heard

[@mcelwainhd8149]

Cant stop listening to it tbh

[@Manos-de-Piedra]

@@mcelwainhd8149 same bro same

[@joemckeon4587]

This is one of the rare songs for me i instantly liked it and cant stop playing it over and over

[@Andrew.baltazar]

Trumpets at the end are so beautiful

[@Rubbafingaz1]

@@Andrew.baltazar It's a saxophone but I get what you mean 🎷🎷

[@crescendollsx]

This song hits hard. Emotional, beautiful and raw. I love how Sam writes songs on topics which we usually don’t talk about or hear in music these days. I grew up with an absent father and it reminds me of my turbulent love-hate relationship with my mother. I can’t stop crying.

[@vacuumhelp]

Same 🙌

[@ptiger7177]

Same mate keep your head high

[@sapphirerosehip829]

Sending love to you

[@TheEscapistttt]

same ♥️

[@thomasjones7663]

I'm 33 still struggling can't even listen to this

[@tomtoshack]

The working class have always made the best music and this lad is no exception. A wonderful talent!

[@britnatzaredemocracydenier5922]

Listen to Louis dunford exactly what you would like 👍

[@tomtoshack]

@@britnatzaredemocracydenier5922 Thank you, I'll check him out!

[@Nutsferatu]

They've turned the weans against us!!

[@Calrobbo333]

Now this is one of the best sounding guitars I’ve heard in a long time sounds like 12string Sam fender

[@richardmcdougall233]

There's a grit , working classes are always trying to prove their talent. Not a bad thing as this song shows

[@MarcusShaw-j6h]

My son was born just over a year ago now and there were many times i struggled mentally with providing for my family and trying to be the best father i can. I had so much stress but felt i needed to keep it bottled in so I be a rock for my wife. There were times i felt like giving up but I came across this song and it gave me such a new lease of life. I sang it my boy everynight as it felt like a way to connect with him and made me realise i was doing a decent job as a father. Saved my life really.

[@Annie-ez4ol]

I wish you well.😊

[@jweb-qj6jl]

Sounds scarily like when my son was born. I’m normally fairly confident, but never felt so out of my depth. My head went. Constant worry & stress, my health suffered, still on tablets for high blood pressure now. I always felt I wasn’t good enough for him. Never felt so low, yet I had a beautiful baby boy. I really struggled at the beginning, I had some dark thoughts on how to solve it. Didn’t tell anyone how I felt as I feared I’d be labelled as a bad dad. He turns 4 in 2 weeks, he’s my best mate, I’ve been blessed. Baby boy number 2 on the way in April. Finally got to grips with it, feel so much better. Mr Fender certainly helped. So thanks for your comment Marcus, I’ve never expressed any of this, I understand what you went through & I’m glad you came out the other side.

[@Annie-ez4ol]

@@jweb-qj6jl That is wonderful. Your son will bring you much joy and you will be a source of inspiration and strength when he needs it later in life. As the mother of two adult sons I know the pleasure your little boy will bring and I’m very envious. I wish you all the best.

[@antw8884]

This kid is the real deal, I’m 42 and waited a long time for the next genuinely brilliant songwriter to come through, I thought they had dried up !

[@lucabrasi3964]

Shut up

[@UbiquitousRomp]

My 19 year old lad sent me this song as I'm not seeing as much of him as I would like after splitting with his mum 3 ears ago. Se we call it our song now....THANKS Sam

[@christophermunton9623]

I totally relate to you. Just got things back on track with my son, he's nearly 21. I wish you well.

[@ianwaghorne8169]

That's a brave public post mate. I can relate to it and I wish you both the best ❤️

[@UbiquitousRomp]

@@ianwaghorne8169 thx..you too mate

[@markgalloway4129]

Amazing 👏

[@milannovakovic455]

🙏🏻

[@reganharv]

as if the song alone didn’t make me cry enough

[@chelseachelsea572]

You cried over a song? Bro you’re gay but you’re a British male so it is to be expected

[@mattlilburn7203]

@@chelseachelsea572 Pathetic. If you cant feel emotion through music are you even listening?

[@lozc7577]

@ Chelsea Chelsea . you sound insecure mate . Go and have a chat to someone

[@beanz2566]

Ignore the trolls mate, getting emotional with songs is nothing to be ashamed of!

[@OneIsDamned]

​@@chelseachelsea572 you probably don't know who your dad is😂

[@ZuzuOfficial]

This made me cry so hard. So fucking honest. We need real northern influences like Sam Fender in our lives and I’m so glad he’s out here killing it. 😭🙏🏼

[@MBGA2025]

Powerful 🤘💫

[@KarlHungus99]

“It was love in all its agony” Those words hit hard. In my life love has caused me a lot of agony. What a beautiful song.

[@brandinrobertson1212]

Tell you what Stephen Graham has got to be one of the most underrated British actors I love everything he’s in ❤️

[@craigsmith9446]

I agree 👍

[@chrisynwa4716]

I wouldn't say underrated at all mate. I think every person alive knows that this bloke can act, his emotional barrier is off the chart. I love him. And he is diehard LIVERPOOL FC FAN!!! YNWA.

[@morganmooguitar9961]

No way! He s done loads of stuff. Venom movie This is England. He s been in kasbians video major drama s on ITV and the BBC! Remarkable actor

[@juliequinn2668]

Also he's gorgeous x

[@vincentharrison9408]

Best British actor by far.

[@CarlosRadiografico]

If only I could talk to him at least once again... My dad passed away when I was 21 and miss him every single day of my life. Thank you for this masterpiece and for a biblical new album, Sam. Tears of joy and gratefulness for my feelings after watching this.

[@mickking5042]

and my son aged 33 passed away 5 years ago my friend - this song makes me weep for him - agreed incredible song and singer

[@adrianhines1198]

My Dad passed when i was 21 also,i feel exactly the same way as you mate,26 years later and i still wish we could talk

[@MCroppered]

I recently lost my dad too to a heart attack. This song got me when I watched Sams performance at Glastonbury and he had stage visuals as all the family pics, a lot like my dads funeral. My dad was my best friend and we talked but not always. I’d go through torture to just have a conversation over a pint with him again.

[@CarlosRadiografico]

@@MCroppered ❤️

[@paulat.8998]

What a song, what a singer, what an actor, what a video! Sensational.

[@radosawradosaw180]

What a guitar!!!

[@philipgrabarski3775]

As a South Wales valley boy I see so many similarities with my friends in the North. My dad was a miner hard men .there was no way on gods earth could you sit down and chat with my dad . Love your music Sam. You have brought back respect to the British music industry .

[@jonasgustaf]

I've never heard more powerful lyrics from music in the last 10 years. This is powerful

[@Nkipker]

This song makes me appreciate my Dad a little more.

[@Nkipker]

Update he likes the song too and got a hug out it

[@matthalfremmbertohydrate1672]

Tale as old as time.. got damnit if it isn't the hardest thing in the world to make peace with your dad when the communication is haltered by intergenerational trauma and social suffering. I felt every damn word of this song in the guts. WHAT a songwriter you are Sam. Hats off!

[@nigelrowland2397]

Sam lad Am a fellow George,n Yr tracks burn my heart, am 50 n dnt see my laddie n th pain hurts so bad Any followers over wor Sam take note Av nowt left t live for but carry on on th off chance Any lads n lass,s n similar paths, Grab Yr bairn by both arms n don't let go Peace......n up th mags

[@nigelrowland2397]

Am one ov those dad's very local(tyneside)n u think where all lovers Av not seen my boy for 11yrs n as each Yr goes by more over me dies Dad's gud or bad r not th same friend Good n happy day wife Yr laddie.... Respect

[@RICHARDTHEBEANS]

My generation (I'm 44) was all about Oasis for me. Sam Fender is the best since, in my opinion. Can't wait for the next album.

[@benpalfrey6580]

Two of Britain’s finest within in the entertainment business in one video. Sam couldn’t have picked a better actor, hats off to whoever made this happen. Absolutely superb 💙

[@rebelcheese5301]

@Blue&Green I wonder if that was the point.

[@rebelcheese5301]

@Blue&Green I was thinking the message was more "I came from you but I'm nothing like you" and using an actor who doesn't resemble Sam was meant to visually illustrate that.

[@roxysimmons]

Going home on Friday to the UK after 14 years of being ‘stuck’ in the USA - haven’t seen my dad for that long. This just stabbed me in the heart. Can’t wait to see him and tell him I love him.

[@emmav7682]

"Every bit of me hurting for you." This really resonates with me, watching my dad in so much pain after mum died.

[@CiderHead]

Hope he's doing ok mate👍

[@ligitxvenom5964]

Anyone else remember Sam putting this on his insta story when he came up with the guitar riff for this song?

[@valaeeria]

Me 🙋🏻‍♀️ it’s still in one of his highlights on insta!

[@nicolasphillipson7347]

over a year and a half ago aha

[@samgriffiths7609]

Yep! Totally different tune to what I expected but great nonetheless

[@jasyres2165]

Mate I've got it screen recorded on my phone!!! Knew it would be a belter

[@valaeeria]

This video is a piece of astounding cinematography. I thought that the music video for Seventeen Going Under was moving, but let me say that once watching this one, I feel that Spit Of You is far way more poignant and stirring in my opinion. The plain, honest scenes about a dad and his kid going through the motions together and facing them, it’s something which can only convey pure bliss and beauty to the story. Words have a tangible identity when portrayed on screen, which means you can relate more and more to them. As usual, tears rise to my eyes as I write a comment under one of your mv’s.

[@idrinkmilk282]

Cinematography ? Lol what? The videos good but cinematography is not what makes it that way. You understand the word?

[@valaeeria]

@@idrinkmilk282 could you please explain why cinematography is not what makes it that way? Spill the tea, wanna know more about your insight.

[@BOOMSHINNY]

No disrespect and I agree with the comment, but I refuse to believe that Patrick Bateman didn't write that comment sitting in his raincoat

[@valaeeria]

@@BOOMSHINNY sorry what? 😂

[@BOOMSHINNY]

@@valaeeria kzbin.info/www/bejne/rKuxZKSFYtaWbrc

[@lala_land86]

Just come across Sam after someone on Facebook shared his interview on BBC breakfast with a massive hangover and he was instantly likable, honest and funny.. I'm 35, and I hate most music released now adays so I read more about him and the meaning of his songs before coming here and listening to them... Well I am hooked! He's hooked me under for the first time since I was a teenager listening to house and dance classics in the 90s, he's brilliant and what an inspiration to young kids today. I wish him the biggest and the best career ever, and he will give his mam everything he dreamed of because he is a breath of fresh air in such a horrible world. His mum must be bursting with pride and she should be so proud of her son because she has done a wonderful job of raising him. So from a new fan, I will be following him now and supporting him by buying his albums and going to see him play live. A very lovely and fantastic story with so much more to come and I wish for the best. What a fantastic normal lad... And I hope that his head is abit better today 😂

[@guyjackson8685]

Sam Fender and Stephen Graham, what a great combination

[@SuperJohnnyAdventurePants]

51 yrs old and watching my relationship with my Dad in this video, and hearing it through Sam's words. He's just recently been diagnosed with Cancer, and I want to be there for him, but still always the endless anger driving him makes me love him a little less each day. I can indeed talk to anyone, but not him. Thank you Sam and Stephen for putting my thoughts into your words and pictures.

[@adderon]

He's having a fucked up time working (or not working) through his griefs. Stuck in anger. I'm there with my parents still after decades. Hang tight you're working through it even if he can't.

[@nazzy11x]

“You kissed her forehead, and it run like a tap”. I’m sure there’s alot of people who felt a lot pain hearing that line. Sam Fender you’re generational. Game changer.

[@adrianhines1198]

I never kissed, the worsted decition of my life x

[@PhoenixFury123]

What does this line mean? Am slow.

[@mrboy9786]

@@PhoenixFury123 i thinkt what is ment with that is the last kiss on the forehead before she goes 6 feet under

[@lukeisapanini]

@@mrboy9786 and then the running of the tap is just crying a lot

[@mrboy9786]

@@lukeisapanini yea man. The lyrics says things so differently but still in a way we understand.

[@ccarta192]

Wow this song is my Dad and I in a nutshell.. never could talk to him In a meaningful deep way. My father really missed out on having a great relationship with his son who loves him very much..

[@gravesyy6696]

Preach. Many of us are in the same position :(

[@puglife6550]

This is what music was created for. The emotional connection, an ability to relate. A rarity nowadays. Well done Sam.

[@Yabushiga]

Hes here , the musicaian this generations been yearning for . Proud to witness it

[@lima621]

Hi, A Native of North Shields here. This song struck a Chord with me. I live in Germany and don`t get back much. I had no contact with my Dad for many years but I did have, and did take, the opportunity to make my peace with him when he became terminally ill with Cancer. He always said I was just like him....a spitting image so to say. He realized toward the end that this wasn`t the case. I am many things that he wasn`t precisely because of how he was. Growing up in the 60/70`s at the bottom end of the social ladder in Shields was , let us say, an interesting time. Times were hard and our parents did the best they could, or knew how to under difficult circumstances. Thanks for the song 🙂

[@dylankelly2107]

Amazing song.. relatable. My father has been emotionally and at times physically abusive growing up. This was my relationship with him. He'd smash glass tables and hurt my mother, but at the same time he was always good at providing for us. I'd always cower in my room until I heard my mother scream. But it always stuck with me, I never managed to grow out of that fear and eventually I began to talk less and less to him as an adult. It wasn't because I hated him.. just he wasn't a close person to me and never was. He now resents me for it, but I just can't talk to him. And I can talk to anyone.

[@jenniferrussell9649]

He doesn’t deserve your love. He should be coming to you for forgiveness. He’s had his chance. You’re more of a man than he’ll ever be. And he knows it. Must eat at him daily. Sam’s written your song.

[@paintitblackblack9910]

my father was the same mate and totally understand

[@joshuadunn6201]

When they played this song at glastonbury, I was overwhelmed with emotion and had tears rolling down my face, my girlfriend hugged me. The way this song captures my relationship with my father really hits me, thank you sam for that moment. What an incredible artist.

[@sandyme1973]

Sandy here from America loving me some Sam Fender.. Your music is truly amazing and I love it from across the pond!

[@eitero]

No matter drunk, no matter sober. This song hits the true depth of emotions any time. It transcends away from life, jobs, friends, family, love and makes all of those things disappear and swing right at back at you at the same time. Reflecting in the most powerful way possible.

[@champagnepooch4871]

Honestly....This is the kind of relationship I had with my Dad. This explained in 4+ minutes what I had been struggling to explain my most of my life about my Dad. He passed 4 years ago. In any case thanks for the music. Keep it up mate. Talented Man.

[@shabarney]

❤

[@tautliners]

The height of British talent in one video, Sam Fender and Stephen Graham together can't get any better than this.

[@naomiaustin7813]

This was my Dad with his Dad. Such a complicated relationship made worse when my dads brother died of meningitis aged only 2, my dad only 8. He left the north west aged 18 to come to uni in Newcastle & never went back home. He vowed never to be like that with his kids. He was 80 last week & has never stopped hugging his 3 daughters & 4 grandkids & tells us he loves us every day. So proud of my Dad & so proud of my fellow Geordie Sam. X

[@Crockeeey]

I’ve grown up my whole life living single parented with my mum, I lost contact with my dad by the time I was 8. I never received a birthday card, a Christmas card, a text a phone call. Nothing. I’m 21 and still haven’t spoken to my father since I was 8, he could be anywhere in this world, and I’d never know. This song relates to me massively, “I can talk to anyone, I can talk to anyone. I can’t talk to you“ Dad if your anywhere out there I’m sorry I was never enough for you to love me or want time with me, maybe in another life you will. You’ve taught me a lesson in life though and I thank you for it. That lesson is to never ever disown my own born like you.

[@markbarclay02]

He's read, he's listening, he's thinking and digesting what you've put..he'll respond soon. #GodBlessJumpyShot

[@podbay]

Great song. I'm 69, and am loving Sam Fender. And hey - there's Stephen Graham in the vid!

[@beefchops1400]

What a song….simply superb! Stephen Graham and Sam Fender are British treasures we need to protect and cherish in this horrible world! Peace ✌️😎😊😍

[@Eliza.HawkeyeJane]

Music is emotional. Music is therapy. Music is Life.

[@adambarrett8732]

I'm 37 I wouldn't know where to start with making things right with me and my dad but love this so makes me think of him every time I hear it but also makes me cry every time too! One day dad!

[@matthewchorlton8657]

The last was Noel Gallagher…I’ve been waiting for many years for another generation defining songwriter, I think this is him. What an incredible talent you are Sam Fender.

[@redhillred1980]

Agree... I'm 41 and this is honestly the first person who's songs mean so much for me. Quality

[@James-gm5up]

Alex turner?

[@raybatley]

When I got told I had bipolar and I had to tell my dad just love this song xxxx

[@Totalavulsion]

Reminds me of my dad. Left me, my brother (who was very unwell - “i remember, the sickness was forever”) and mum when I was 13. That was in the late 80s. Minimal contact beyond that, which has gone on to almost zero over the last 20 years. The last conversation we had was me calling to tell him my brother had died from complications of the illness he’d lived with for years. And then normal service resumed ; no contact, nothing. The thing is his actions have left me empty and feeling like I had something to do with it all, like I was never good enough. The emptiness, void, is pushed aside every day (ignored even) but it’s always there. Sam should be especially proud of this song. I think it helps to comfort and connect with people even when they feel alone. And now I’m a dad and I try so hard not to become the person that brings me so much unhappiness. Yet even in his long-term absence, his legacy lingers. I hate him for that. “I can talk to anyone. I can’t talk to you.”

[@ImHybrid]

The collab we never thought of but needed!

[@jockeydef]

I lost my dad when I was 8 and, despite the meaning being different, this song still makes me think of all the amazing times and chats we would have had. Top class tune from a wonderfully talented bloke.

[@cali4482]

Titre après titre, album après album, cet artiste rend ses lettres de noblesse au rock et sa musique n'en devient que meilleure. Thanks Mr Fender 💪

[@johnpryce9044]

Feeling very melancholic every time I hear this one.

[@craigyk22]

This song sums up my dad and me. He’s 68 I’m 38 but we struggle to talk to each other unless it involves me kids. Still love him. Our relationship is a result of a father working away for 10-15 years to provide for his family that I’m great full that I don’t need to do.

[@ritch8088]

Don't leave it until it's too late. Take him out for a pint, and tell him you understand why he had to work away so much! My dad died when I was 23 and I would do anything to go back in time and thank him for grafting 7 days a week to provide.

[@katielewis7764]

Such a heartfelt sing about (I think) a relationship between a parent and son/daughter who has been let down by their parent(s) and still love them dearly and just begging to be able to connect with them again but it's so hard. They wish to embrace and communicate with them but it seems impossible after time.....Sam I absolutely adore your music. This is my favourite. You are already a star but so proud of you!!

[@crivi2677]

Been soul searching and this just hit me like a train. I forgive you and love you pop.

[@darasimiibitayo]

I love Sam Fender he's a true artist bc I hadn't even watched the video yet but I knew it was a strained parent - child relationship

[@GarrethCollinge]

This is my favorite song sam my dad passed away 10 years ago i am the spit of him and love and miss him every day this is definitely our song cheers sam 💙

[@scotty8543]

Well where do I start. This song and video truly depict my life and how I feel. Every time I hear or see it it makes me cry, sometimes joy, sometimes sadness. I've been fighting a mental health battle for over 6 years, lost my ex wife, nearly lost my sons, new partner and family. I'm still here fighting and will never give up but it is hard to truly let go of your inner feelings, thoughts, fears and expectations. Every day is a new battle in the war but I'm still winning. Thank you for this wonderful creation Sam and Steven.

[@fifthdimensionfooty9471]

This guy’s music is fucking phenomenal.

[@smoggyben]

My dad is also my boss so over the years we’ve had some major disagreements and fall outs. But we could always sit down and have a beer watching the football, just discussing life. Makes me appreciate that whilst my dad might not always be my favourite person, I can always get on with him at the end of the day.

[@martinquigley6937]

What a song, I’m cutting onions here man 😭

[@iMaskyy]

I never had a good relationship with my dad, he never bothered with me as a kid and he turned to drink when my parents divorced, which led to him getting into heated arguments with me. I guess sometimes you can relate to music a lot and this song certainly reminds of that time and how I felt about everything. So, thanks, Sam!

[@stevenpanter46]

Sorry to hear that mate.

[@clairerichards1448]

"Cause it was love in all it's agony "is possibly one of the most heartfelt lyrics I've heard ,just beautiful honest sincere and sad all in one line !

[@TarnishUK]

That just left me in bits. I never knew my father beyond a handful of vague childhood memories and two occasions in later life when I met him, the last time shortly before he died in 1992. I didn't realise how damaged I am by it until recently. One positive I can take from it is that I'm determined that my son who's ten at the moment will never be in doubt of how much I love him.

[@stevekolodzey3395]

I'm really bad in allowing myself emotions and showing them, but not, when I am listening to Sam Fender!!! Such a talent. Goosebumps!

[@robynblackshire6146]

This was my dad. He could connect with any and everyone but his own kids. It wasn't until I was in my early 30's before he could finally speak to me like a human being. I guess he figured he was getting too old and needed to connect. He passed away February 2021 and I miss him dearly. This song just brought me to tears.

[@leejt101]

I've never known who my dad is and this song makes me think of him and at the same time everyone else's dad. Sam does that. Amazing songwriting, artist & Awesome song!

[@jenniferrussell9649]

So sorry you’ve never known your dad. Hope you’ve had decent role models in your life. But it sadly nothing replaces a GOOD dad.

[@choc_chip]

This hit home. North/South, father/mother, son/daughter, it's the same story. A brilliant theme, and so well done.

[@taniaspence4879]

This is like watching my son with his father. My daughter with her father. Me with mine. Brilliant resonant capturing of the unfortunate reality of a lot of failing fathers. Heartbreaking. Thank you for this masterpiece x

[@colliejane39]

I have followed his career since the start,I am an adopted Geordie (moved there age 10). I'm old but love music and this guy is exceptional. His lyrics blow me away. Nobody does it better. Keep well Sam, and keep sharing your talent ❤

[@Dan-yj6bv]

I miss my dad so much. I writing this as I've jusy my mum last Friday. Suppose I was looking for a sad song to force the tears out. I feel so alone .. I'm a fucking orphan at 37 . Why me . Don't know why I end up listening to these songs as they make me sad .anyway . Just want anyone to know you ain't alone Xx

[@kevinoneill6300]

I was a orphan at 33 it sucks.

[@nicklasgustavsson1722]

Been a while since a song gave me goosebumps. Sam Fender never disappoints.

[@adrianhines1198]

That's quality for you,superb artist

[@joesweaton7952]

It's incredible. Never loved a artist like it before, he's unreal. Jeff Buckley was the last . Sam's going to be incredible 😍

[@RobFinlay]

These tracks are blowing my mind - real songwriting, so rare to find these days. Lyrics that connect and resonate. You've shown us truth and it means everything. Utterly beautiful Sam.

[@davidadams245]

This song resonates with me. Mum and dad divorced when I was small and this song basically is a mirror image of my relationship with him now. Not sad in anyway just a great song that tells about real life and relationships. Fender you are a genius!

[@Mawds69]

So I'm a new Sam Fender fan. I'm a Gen-xer. Listen to what I know. Classic rock, 80s music etc. Sometimes will dip out to listen to modern stuffs, synthwave etc. Had a 1975 radio thing on, kinda like them. And a Sam Fender song came on. It was this song. And it was a soul punch. You know that feeling. A song comes on. You have never heard it before in your life, but instantly you soul aches for it, and cries for it. It was this song. I looked at what it was.. Sam Fender. Okay lets listen to more. AND MY FUCKING GOD. How have missed out on all of Sam's songs. Absolute quality. Instant fan mah dude.

[@swc97_]

I’m going through stuff with my old man. I listened to this tune when it first come out. He sent it to me a couple of months back. Made me cry. Still does now after listening and watching this music video about 10 mins ago. Touching song for me and my dad. Amazing from Sam Fender helps me through hard times 👏🏽❤️

[@hairyass666]

Takes a real man to admit his true feelings...respect to you pal...👍😎

[@chris_mckenna99]

Seen Sam live twice now and both times have been absolutely insane. I love this song live, like this & acoustic. Unbelievable song and meaning behind it. Love Stephen Graham too, perfectly cast.

[@benhoward4294]

I totally understand the sentiment of this song and video. I hope My daughter never feels the same angst as what I felt as a young lad. Love Sam Fender. Proper top lad 👍👍

[@ryankaiser2592]

I had to watch this video a few times and read Sam's bio before getting the full gist. Dad was a bartender. Super fun but often ignored him. Just beautiful.

[@eddieupchurch9156]

This kid's smart enough to hire a good Sax player, says a lot about him and his potential. In my 50's and jamming to his music!

[@markstephenson5328]

Can I just say this isn’t Sam’s best song over the last few years..it’s the best song by a mile by anyone for the last 5 years.I heard this stuck in traffic coming home from Newcastle on Friday,bear in mind I live miles from there & my family heritage is there & I’d been in the area for a couple of nights,I could see SJP in the distance which I’ve not been to since before Covid,then the Angel.This song comes on & instantly reminds me of my childhood & grandparents so I’m barely keeping it together by this point.I’ve listened to it a few dozen times in the last 2 days & it shatters my heart every time.I don’t think if I go see sam I’ll be able to stay in the room if he plays it but I just want to say it’s the most beautifully written song because it’s strikes a chord on every listen & despite leaving me in pieces I have to hear it..sorry for the essay

[@hmccoubs8738]

Probably one of the only artists that songs really have moved me. When you can receive and relate to the picture in which he paints it really makes the lyrics more that just a song. This man has done things for me that people in my life haven’t through a song.

[@jsudworth]

Sitting in my truck in a hotel parking lot in Grande Prairie Alberta , having a smoke. & beer knowing exactly what this song means ….. you know how to write ‘em , that’s for sure !

[@nikolaneighbors2710]

I thank God every day I have a great relationship with my son. I really try to help guide him and keep him from making the same mistakes I did and of course I am lecturing and preaching sometimes so I have to stop myself and realize that he's like me and at the same time not like me. I asked myself what it takes to be a good dad when he was born and rest assured there are plenty of folks willing to tell you how to do it. In my opinion the so called advice givers are really not sure what to do. I think the important thing is to simply be there for him. Great song BTW.

[@niamhhardaker3268]

Isn't it so relieving and great when someone says all we hurt and feel with their words in music. Absolute genius this guy is. Soul singer. To all who have lost nd loved. Pain makes us who we are along with all the other great moments in life

[@vicnolan]

This is how my Dad felt for his own dad. My Dad is the best and I can talk to him at anytime I want. He wanted that within own Dad but realised it was never gonna happen. He made the change with his own kids. I love my dad with all my heart and can tell him anything. Thank you Dad. You are the best ❤❤❤❤❤

[@AllThingsFender]

💯 lyrics 💯 vocals 💯 instrumentals 💯 acting 💯 cinematography absolutely love this poignant and honest video, i’m looking forward to the next one for get you down, so proud of you sam ❤️

[@RR-pw5nb]

The song is exquisite......it brings me to tears every time I hear it.