How to Resurrect Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse: 9-fold Path of Healing

[@annettehunter9743]

It was the cruelty that broke my spirit. I got sick during the marriage and the cruelty was horrendous. I left him 6 months after major surgery. I wasn't well but I was determined never to let someone treat me so badly when I was most vulnerable. That was in 2007 and it was Professor Vaknin's book that saved me. I am a medic and I knew there had to be a diagnosis for the behavior so I kept researching. After months I finally found Professor Vaknin's book. Finally it all made sense. Forever grateful to Professor Vaknin. He was the first person to explain NPD and unlike other channels, Prof. Vaknin speaks from his peer reviewed research. No gimmicks. He is a genuine expert.

[@HuGANityNsanity]

I have a friend with a very similar story.

[@Ola-is4yp]

😢😢

[@ThomasOchsenfarth]

I participated in being mistreated for 3,5 years until I realized this isn't healthy behaviour and it is 0% rooted in me. Dived into psychological illnesses and through youtube recommendation I found Vaknin. First I was horrified how deep a patholocal psyche can root, then I was armed with the information necessary to go against the mistreatment with unwavering conviction and confidence. Thank you Vaknin. This battle would have never been such a clear win for me, if you haven't claimed the territory and invited us to join.

[@PracticalPeptides]

You are truly strong. You will inspire many people by sharing this message. Many of us felt the same about coming across Professor Vaknin’s work, that in gaining a genuine understanding of what we were dealing with, that allowed us to finally get a foothold on our own salvation. I hope your life is beyond amazing and beautifully free.

[@Coco-og7zw]

@@ThomasOchsenfarthPlease share where to find the information you’re referencing here on how to go against this horrible treatment.

[@fastingcoach9711]

1. attention to body 2. regulation of body 3. protection of body

[@heatherwagar5868]

I hate the fact that there are so many of us suffering to reclaim ourselves. I feel crazy from grieving the person I used to be. It’s a daily battle that I refuse to give up on healing. I hope it ends soon

[@susanwallcraft1864]

Hang in there. It's a slow process. One step forward, two steps back.

[@jeanroth159]

You took the words right out of my mouth. I too can't stand the fact that so many others are going through this. I also grieve the old me. I refuse to give up but I must pray for the strength to carry on.Love,hope and much strength to you💗.

[@daniellebarea9710]

@@jeanroth159🙏💕

[@daniellebarea9710]

@@susanwallcraft1864🙌🙏🌷

[@lucastchikhinachvili4073]

Pray to Jesus and he will heal you

[@af3111]

My family destroyed my life. It has driven me insane. My identity was obliterated and i no longer know who or what i am. Its very depressing. I hope i can recover and be who i was before abuse.

[@desidudes78]

i'm in the same boat too... i feel like i'm putting the pieces back together splinter by splinter... it's so sad man. i hope you make it brother. i think we can do it.

[@Surlavie]

I think you cannot fully go back to who you were, im not sure that’s possible but the good news is you can work and create a new version of yourself that is strong and sane ❤️🙏

[@maritlebliss]

I'm at the other end of this family disintegration. All the resentments and hate I was unaware of until I made a stand for my handicapped siblings 10 years ago. I am just this week having some huge revelations about the trauma of betrayal and how I was holding so much fear. Fear that other people I love and trust could do this to me anytime. I spent lots of years examining myself, trying to understand everyone's point of view and motives but had completely cut myself off from them. It's your path now. Most painful thing I've ever experienced other than my dad dying when I was young. I was in limbo for years and so were my immediate family. I have resolved not to fear, to understand that I am safe now. I've learned loads and deep down I know I'll be alright no matter what happens. You are loved.

[@Mimi-rs9cr]

@@maritlebliss Thank you ❤ 🫂

[@PowWowDAO]

I don't know what happens next but we can walk there hand in hand

[@sysye]

Stand up for yourself. Make sure you're not a people pleaser. Impose your boundaries and leave at the first red flag ✌️

[@1legend517]

Some of us deal with this years or decades including from our own families and are only just learning about it in middle or older age. You got lucky.

[@Maa-Pepi3NZ]

I had no contact 4 years guy Narcissistic. I'm get improved recover my self worth. Be stronger and positive. ❤😀💪

[@n.i.3514]

“Your mind has been invaded by a Trojan horse.”

[@Irreverente-o4r]

Thsnk you Professor Sam. The best quote. "GO AWAY SATAN"😂

[@inastoetzer3231]

It does get better with time. The disorientation took me several months to leave.

[@reginawilkes5100]

Try years, not months. God bless you.

[@1legend517]

You're lucky yours was only months. Some of us deal with this years or decades including from our own families. You got lucky.

[@daniellebarea9710]

The disorientation 👌 spot on! 🙏

[@desertangel100]

Wow! This is the guidebook for survival. It would make at least the top ten as a manuscript. I need to watch again and take copious notes. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

[@henamarkel7570]

yes.

[@thedirtfarmer3654]

The most powerful, healing, and meaningful words I've heard, ever. Deepest Gratitude to you Sam

[@janiced.hatcher1272]

100 thumbs up 👍

[@melissahogan7339]

Your resurrection video was powerful. I will go back to it often. After being married to a genuine NPD for over sixty years, I've been floundering for the past three years since my husband succumbed to cancer. I 'm living alone for the first time, painting large canvases, going back to being a beginner playing classical piano music , writing poetry. Although I am doing fairly well at most of the elements you mention, I now see ways to help myself to create a better balance , inner and outer, to become less anxious, more proactive, to shake off some paranoia and still feel safe. I appreciate the simple structure of your talk and the earnest delivery.

[@graceandjalia]

Thank you prof Vaknin! Not just for the content but for the encouragement to turn the content to teaching material to help survivors of narc abuse. What I usually do is just to refer them to your channel via sending them your link, yet this is a gift that bears repackaging in different forms. I'm going to listen again and again too, it is like a tonic for the soul. Once again, thank you ❤

[@LexisG23]

@@graceandjalia as a daily listener to Sam, these have been the most consistent references of impactful lessons 4 plus years IV experienced personally

[@greeneyesthatsatisfy]

I truly believe Sam Vaknin is saving lives with his videos. I have spent the last 2.5 years listening to his content over and over to be sure I understand the dynamic so I can be sure to stop the pattern going forward not only for myself but to help turn the tide for my children.

[@AG-iu9lv]

It is a soul tonic! I feel whole & sane & genuinely hopeful for the first time in years.

[@GloriaBryant-q6n]

15:00 😭 . Treat , love and care for and protect yourself from yourself and others as you would a small child . Your child and do not accept anything less from yourself or anyone else . Thank you Professor. Your teachings should be mandatory for our youth before exiting/graduating , preferably beginning at sophomore and forward .

[@M-iy4tf]

Walked away from the narc 25 years ago I’m still f’ed up in the head

[@RD12349]

how so

[@M-iy4tf]

@@RD12349 brain fog and depression

[@1legend517]

​@@RD12349If you ask, then you've never experienced it. Be grateful..

[@1legend517]

​@@RD12349Some of us have family that ruined our lives.

[@Eln9380]

I’ve been stuck in the same loop for almost a decade and it hasn’t gotten better at all despite all the therapy.

[@newtonmetereu196]

This video is a gem, thank you professor.

[@henamarkel7570]

indeed.

[@cecillekinnear4585]

I do try to be positive and always strive to enhance the life giving properties of living. My health is declining and how I so yearn for small gestures of love and support from my family but all I get is me having to be available to hear them all talk about themselves. My husband and son in law love to dominate the conversation about technical things like water pipes and cars. I'm so alone in spirit I just want to die but of I were to express this everyone would blame me for being melodramatic. Often I have to nurture myself many times a day. Only God hears my prayers.

[@papagreco]

Just wished to provide you with a bit of encouragement from a stranger who has been a victim of narcissistic abuse. As Prof. Vaknin referenced ground yourself within the physicality of your body. You can start with nutrition and proper hydration. Migrate to a protein heavy animal-based diet, cut out sugars and carbohydrates. Take a bioavailable magnesium supplement as well as D3 and K2. Get some sunshine and exercise. This all sounds simple, but it will help with depression and is a starting point to reverse your condition. I’ve learned that nutrition has a much larger impact on mental health than even the professionals credit. 🤗 if your community lacks suppoery seek out a therapist.

[@beesknees5441]

I'm sorry you're in such pain ❤️‍🩹 It sounds like you could do with making arrangements to exit the situation... I was in a very similar position & it's psychological & emotional abuse... I've since quietly distanced, then cut contact from those I needed to ✨ I'm still working through some stuff, my faith helps immensely 🙏💖 From what I've experienced; the sooner yourself & son have some distance from them, the better for recovery from their toxic influence on your wellbeing & it can be put behind you both 🧡 I wish you well in recovering, take care 🌸

[@liliaaaaaaaa]

God bless you & stay positive & do what you can to practice self love, self respect & value yourself, & search for positive people in your life who share your values, morals & ethics. ✌️🙏👍

[@audbod4140]

I was like that for many years. I stayed too long. By the time I left, my autonomic nervous system was wrecked and I'm now dealing with chronic illness. Please get out before it's too late ❤

[@mariad9126]

Clear, concise, and tremendously helpful

[@Kelli-q5s]

My last 4 relationships have been with narcissists now I'm thinking how messed up am I

[@bdr33gm]

Thank you Doctor. Sincerely. I am thankful for your wisdom and guidance.

[@MrOliver110]

Ein Höhepunkt Ihrer Lesungen, eines Ihrer wichtigsten Videos - haben Sie herzlichen Dank für Ihre Hilfe.

[@ericawood9714]

Brilliant. I will also watch the playlists suggested to others commenting. Thank you, Professor Vaknin!

[@kellyelaine1976]

This simply is profound. An existential guide to living.

[@ssentieri]

Thank you for this video. I have been searching for a way out of my emotions controlling me from the abuse I want out. These are THE QUESTIONS I NEEDED to hear.

[@woobielocks]

Omg this is so helpful! As a person who grew up in hospitals after leaving narcissistic parents, having narcissistic psychiatrists who only criticized me and so on, I feel like this is what I have always wished someone would have said in the beginning. I need to watch this on repeat. As a woman on the spectrum this is so confusing for me, figuring out what to believe and from who in regards to what I am supposed to act like. I appreciate the way you explain things and I feel like you can be trusted. You remind me of the psychiatrists but you’re not telling me I’m awful and it’s hopeless, and I appreciate you. ❤ Great example of how to see the truth thank you 😊 I wish the doctors who oversaw kids in placements would take lessons from you, how you offer a path to being okay and valid. Thank you

[@AG-iu9lv]

This is so powerful. It's like you knew exactly what I needed to hear right now. I am on a literal detox vacation from my narc right now & found this right after waking up from a dream wherein I processed some of the results of the abuse. Thank you thank you ❤

[@maryvictor114]

More content like this please Sam

[@samvaknin]

Watch the NA Healing playlist.

[@marksac5080]

This guys is good, he has helped me a lot. I discarded my monster when I was being devalued. We were together for 4 years. First year wonderful, second year red flags, third year cheating, hoovering and devaluation, fourth year I slammed the door shut. I got away. traumatized the hell out of me. I am better now but still struggle. I'm slowly becoming reacquainted with myself. It's not easy but I'm doing it, one moment at a time. I'm proud of what I've accomplished thanks to Sam. Thank you.

[@Greyrock88]

WOW....Prof Sam this was absolutely incredible. So much to unpack in this one. You are so wise Sir..This format is great please keep doing self help / development content like this. I just went through a very difficult time and this was very healing and liberating. You hope you make this a course or self help book like you mentioned. You would help many people significantly with this information! This is one of the best I have heard from you and that is saying a lot. Amazing. I will listen to this many times. Thank you!!!!

[@samvaknin]

Watch the Life's Wisdom playlist.

[@Shannonrogersdancer]

Thank you Dr Sam 🌹 you've appeared again when I need you most 🌹you wonderful man 🌹

[@Shannonrogersdancer]

@Professor_sam_vaknin1 you're just a scammer 💩 Dr Sam isn't that desperate I'm sure

[@AndeThompson-ex6sv]

Brilliant! It’s difficult to comprehend my brokenness. Thank you!

[@art_illeries8274]

cliché but Yoga helped me so much in regaining bodily autonomy

[@elizabethmiller3384]

I’ve watched twice and now will take notes. Thank You!

[@Senarableuenn]

This is incredible advice and the most helpful information i need to hear after 5 months away from my fragile narcissistic husband of 21 years. I am so grateful to be out of the relationship but at the time i felt like i could not imagine one day without him. I truly understand the intensity of narcissistic abuse 🇨🇦

[@annhamer9558]

I am indifferent to the ex narc. I learned so many lessons. I needed to learn. Growing is painful !!! But so necessary...

[@prittike]

I almost never comment on anything but this one must be an exception. I hope someone will really turn this content into a course. Many have said before me this is nothing but a treasure. A thankyou is just too little for this. So thank you again.

[@RebekahLukey444]

Reality Guardian:-)! Yes! This is one of the best videos I’ve heard Thank you! Mental health/our relationship with what is real, reality , healthy view of the present moment I love what you said about being good to our bodies and minds, not to blame them Thank you so much for this video

[@timpulver5932]

Listening again to absorb.

[@OptimisticMaya]

Such a wonderful and helpful video! So healing. I will listen to this daily. It’s not just the content but also your delivery. Thank you so much Prof Vankin 🙏

[@samvaknin]

Vaknin.

[@EvasionSAS]

@@samvaknin😂 don’t play with this name

[@alinajeziorska5959]

Thank you prof. Vaknin

[@sharonrainey2320]

I am profoundly grateful and happy for your healthy and empowering insights. Thank you Dr. Vaknan.

[@ssentieri]

Im so grateful for your videos. Im taking the journey now and started my book. I imagine the many lives your saving around the world. 🙏 Gratitude truly.

[@_thecounselorisin]

Are you writing about your experience with a narcissist? Ty.

[@CatherineBradley-Neill-y7c]

Thanks so much. I needed a review to help in my recovery. I can not geographically move from my narcissistic neighbours and Landlord only interested in rent payment. Professor I wish I had of trained in. Psychodynamic psychoanalytic therapy. I completed Therapy 30 years ago but wasn't fully healed. But I wanted my life back, my career and a proper life with my daughter. I wasn't fit to deal with vulnerable people. Regardless of all of my post graduate training, qualifications and professional practice as a survivor and self perceived healed person I was vulnerable to bullying and narcissistic people. I was kind etc. All great targets for Narcissists and flying monkeys. Thanks I need to self focus more in my retirement. People please work at recovery. If not. you won't always read the signs of narcissistic behaviour. It can overwhelm again. Thanks 👍

[@samvaknin]

Watch the NA Healing playlist.

[@eugeneclarke672]

Thank you. Best advice I've ever listened too.

[@FennyxSky]

Thank you so much for doing this video! Words can not describe what this means to me and I will take it, I will put in to work every single step and also share it. Thank you thank you thank you!!!! 💕💕

[@waynerrice]

Much needed my good man. I recommend er over the weekend and prepare for work day when I work for yes for a narcissist

[@CynthiaMiranda-e1j]

Thank you again. On the road to myself!! You are a master of knowledge and care.

[@yulandarowe6166]

My body gonna make it just fine. It's the thing that grew inside me that has beyond dark ideas, desires aimed at every one of those things. Keeping it at bay is the absolute hardest thing I've ever tried to do. There is a part of me that wants, needs to let that dark do what it wants to. Scary

[@StargazingAxolotl-fz4lg]

Sméagol to Gollum: “I’m not listening… Go away and never come back ! “ It worked, he got better… at least for a while. Poor guy didn’t know about the other eight principles. Thank you, Professor.

[@anabandana666]

I needed this video!!! Thank you sam

[@sharonfuszard8861]

Yet again, thank you Professor Vaknin.

[@LexisG23]

Absolutely beautiful work

[@76_Red_Pills]

Outstanding! Best I've heard in years from many creators. Thank you!

[@wonderwonderdc9875]

Thank you … this has helped me a great deal it’s time to heal and move forward

[@marcinkrawczyk9107]

I ve watched this after been back from the cinema watching Speak No Evil (excellent example how boundaries are pushed by narcissistic person) Thank You Profesor Sam After being discarded 6years ago when left with heavy debt and fog around my mind(2kids that time 4/5yo)false accusations of domestic violence I was on my way to hell ( suicaidal,depressed ,fatal physical condition )some IT angel proposed to me that time Your Audition to students I watched Your Videos with another great psychologist Richard Grannon You saved my life You saving me again Thank You for this huge amount of informations and advice I’m still running circles but this circles are getting me step by step on the surface of reality I have to say also that reality recently Is getting insane with this super fast uncontrollable technology revolution where gap between legislation and progress create a huge field for Narcissistic Performance to be unrecognised as criminal activity (in many aspects of everyday life ) But this three Human Elements Body Mind and Spirit Being Mention in this video Are worked out with German precision I would say😊 Thank You Again For Your Effort and Time ❤

[@yildizadiguzel1940]

Almost every video is a lifesaver. Sam, you are a hero! ❤

[@carolyn3950]

Perfect timing for where i am at Prof.Vaknin. So well executed and explained. Many notes written. Thank you very much

[@missp1030]

Thank you!!!! Got emotional watching this. One of the best videos on the subject I’ve ever watched on KZbin!

[@LindaAuriemma]

Solid! Sold! Thank you, Professor Vaknin☀️

[@carolyn3950]

I would get bouts of diverticulitis from the stress constantly subjected to with my ex husband. He would hold his hand up and say I don’t do sick and walk away.

[@gabbypage6929]

My mother was always sick with diverticulitis because of the abuse and constant tension. Mum never really recovered.

[@maritlebliss]

This is so valuable!! Thank you.

[@sarahrodriguez4040]

I needed to hear this. Thank you Dr. Vaknin. Truly. Deeply. Many thanks. The confusion I feel can be so disorienting. I'm grateful for this guidance.

[@lorihuffstutler700]

Reality sentinel! I love that❤

[@LiliMalk]

Thank you, professor! Your thoughts and your actions are Priceless!

[@IntheMoment820]

Thank you Professor Vaknin ⭐

[@lizroman178]

Wow!! Thank you. Just what I needed!! 😢

[@asiars6348]

Thank you very much for your advices, I need them very much these days 🙏

[@homerover4990]

Thank you for your wisdom and insight. May your view always be from the mountaintop. I needed this. My love to you ♥

[@daniellebarea9710]

Holy Mother of Moses Dr. Sam !! You have just read my mind😳 as I was listening to the end of your video, the 9 points resumed, I was thinking “this would make an amazing course !”. I think it in the present and you say it from the past! I would be honored to document my application of this 9 point structure while I recover! Should be one hell of a Scientific Ride! 🐴🤠 Many thanks for your videos, excellent communication and a good dollop of humour!👌

[@marciadelorenaserramaia721]

Thank you, Professor 💐💐💐

[@gailwhite1478]

This video is deeply supportive.❤ Thank you so very much Sam.

[@lizmandelaine6863]

Thank you Prof. Sam Vaknin for this culmination of necessary information, explained and reiterated perfectly, in relation to my want of understanding, today. Summarization noted as; ARP, APM, VSR. Cheers friend & good day!

[@nadasadi7993]

Hello Professor Sam Vaknin, Excellent video as per usual!! So many insights and truths. I was born in Eastern Europe and have lived in the United States most of my life. Im grateful to have overcome very difficult situations and started to rebuild my self and life. I wouldn’t have been able to do that without your knowledge and others like you via youtube. Thank you for your work and humanity. Noticed your comment on the end of the video. Just wanted to ask your permission to translate snippets of your videos into my native language via KZbin shorts, so that I could help a lot of other people from my country of origin try to understand and heal their trauma from abuse and/or generational trauma. Will definitely credit your channel for the information.

[@samvaknin]

My videos are under the Creative Commons license. You can do with them as you please, noncommercially.

[@JoeVellaMalta]

Wow thank you Professor , helpful indeed

[@monika44k78]

I never knew who i am. It started from childhood. at 34 i ended in psychiatrist room telling him i dont know who i am.

[@marlenecarreno7893]

Thank you Doctor ! You have been a blessed in my live.

[@GordanaBambir]

Thank you professor!

[@DilfuzaKHaydarova-e1p]

Thank you so much Dear Sam Vaknin❤❤❤

[@Appellonia]

Wow. Every time I watch your videos, I am in awe of the information you share. Of how powerful, true, to the point and simple to understand it is. Thank you. So, so much.

[@queenofpeaceandlove1413]

Thank you so much Professor Sam Vaknin.

[@juliesummerfield5404]

Sam helped me leave the naro, I studied for four years under Sam.

[@rhodakeya987]

Oh sure! Great and timely advice. Thank you.

[@sam-pp9vg]

Thank again ❤

[@Александр-и7ж7д]

Thank you so much Sam! this was so timely and helpful, thank you)❤️

[@annemim6086]

Thank you so much

[@karenellisbrown8169]

The hatred he has for me and his children for seeing him for who he is and exposing him wears you down. Diminishes you, no worse feeling in the world

[@anmi5202]

Thank you Mr Vaknin! You are my role model! ❤

[@EdithGonzalez-y9c]

Thank You 🙏 🌹

[@FieldArrow-s7v]

😢 🙏🙏 VALIDATION MEANS EVERYTHING

[@IreneThomopoulos]

Very wise message!! You are much appreciated !!

[@chamilaschadlou3281]

I got cancer after 14 years marriage and he left me with my children and paid money to look after myself during COVID. I can promise cancer is lot nice than a narcissist

[@margaretwhelan1475]

Bless you. Thank you

[@christinas8782]

i must admit i struggle to agree with the “nothing is all bad” after my extremely abusive ex partner planned to kill both me and our child along with further revelations after the criminal investigation… he caused my son to be born months early with life long issues and he was on life support for three months… the legal system failed me as after 15 convictions and just 4 months in prison he is out with a higher paying job, has abandoned his child and is living the life. it makes me sick. i lost all of my belongings, home, money and the high blood pressure hospitalised me for seizures

[@christinas8782]

also his family and friends stand by him.. they blame me for him beating me and my unborn son.. throwing me down stairs and many other awful acts. according to his mother i made him lie, cheat and abuse us

[@christinas8782]

some of them believe he was innocent even after it went through federal court with video and audio of him committing these acts!

[@katadam2186]

He the same as them, that’s why they don’t give a care, stay away from the whole clan/cult

[@DamianSeverin]

This Video helps a lot. Thank you very much Sam. Your work is amazing 🥇👍🏽🤠

[@jamesmccann2350]

Thank you Professor !

[@CelestialLuna888]

Thank you!!!! 🙏 ❤

[@anitabriski]

It works,great advice and thank you!

[@MomMom-ov2gs]

Im struggling from this abuse and no one is understanding my reaction. People are using it against me. Please, any one have any ideas?

[@samvaknin]

Watch the NA Healing playlist.

[@mrbr0skii923]

Thank you Sam, that was excellent and exactly what I needed to hear today.

[@JH-td4mn]

Thank you Sam Vaknin, this is really helpful. I hope that you and your reality Sentinel are having a good day!

[@LifeIsGood1992]

life changing immediately!