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You are an internal object, so whatever you say is emanating from the inside, is perceived as an internal voice (an introject), akin to the narcissist’s internalized BAD object! This is why it is easy for the narcissist to convert you into a persecutory object.
Your speech is filtered via the cognitive distortion of grandiosity, so it is frequently perceived as challenging, manipulative, and threatening, or at the very least injurious (hypervigilance or paranoid ideation).
The narcissist deconstructs your speech to reveal hidden, true meanings.
Narcissist reframes your text to conform to his narrative and shared fantasy (confirmation bias). Coupled with his dissociation, this means that large parts of what you have said are completely and unconsciously ignored (dissociated).
Narcissist attributes to you what he believes that you should have said and then acts on this confabulation as if it were real. He carries out in his head dialogues with these imaginary texts.
Attribution error: whatever you say reflects who you are, not your choices. This reflects badly on the narcissist (you are an internal object) and results in aggression (rejection).
Narcissist pays more attention to what you haven’t said than to what you have actually said.
Phatic communication, echolalia, palilalia.
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[@sashagoldsmith7883]

I’ve always been baffled by how anything I say is experienced by the narc in my life as me being nasty. Now I get it.

[@tiffanybluetarot]

Agreed! If something you do can be viewed in a bad light - even if it’s giving them a compliment - they will twist it into one of the nastiest things & biggest fights imaginable. Makes no sense!

[@dv8578]

Yes! I finally understand after 24 years of Torture! Free at last!😅

[@jeevangijo1943]

​@@tiffanybluetarot🎉kzbin.info/www/bejne/gmKnl6aDp66tbaMsi=8UVTSelRfvFavWux

[@raegen5618]

Yes! I’m also “recently “ released from the narc prison.

[@ahmedal-qatou5406]

This is 100% true and Golden conclusion: "Narcissist pays more attention to what you haven’t said than to what you have actually said."

[@patriciawallace3577]

Can victims then start to do this themselves after years of abuse?

[@samvaknin]

Yes. Watch the NA Healing playlist.

[@brianne571]

I think that's smart narcissist or not.

[@peymanghorbani6390]

The best definition of narcissist you said is”nobody is home” that is it.

[@jasonschoemehl]

basically what I've always said. That their is just no one in there. So they create their own simulated reality.

[@Supported32320]

Yep and they definitely seem like it, too. I have NEVER met one that is particularly profound in thought. They don’t have the mental bandwidth for deep thinking and consideration and it shows. Once you start talking about philosophies or something that requires a lot of consideration, they’ll agree and copy what you say or parrot the most generic thing that everyone else says. Then again….. lots of people do that. I really really wanna hear Dr. Sam Vaknin’s thoughts on that!!

[@jasonschoemehl]

@@Supported32320 Yeah copying and pasting in real life is pretty common for a lot of people. But for the majority of people who aren't narc's. That do that it's because of some defense mechanism or their self confidence and social skills just haven't developed yet. And they can out grow it. With narc's it's literally all they can or ever will be able to do!

[@erikkasepiphany85]

They are a human black hole, nothing but void. 🕳️

[@jillr.austin1103]

Wow, you explained it perfectly. If, they want happy. The day is Happy. If,they want angry it's going to be a horrific day. Pick Pick, at every word, every move you make. You never want them to have what they want. You're so,negative to them. He's exactly correct. You can't say anything right!!

[@lenanordmark3710]

Thing I most often say to my mother " Are you listening?" and "Did you hear what I just said?"

[@velonico]

Wow you too? It's been a problem of mine since childhood... I'm like... I'm using English and logic... 😂😢

[@GothicCitrus]

I felt so validated to hear that the inability to understand social interaction in narcissists seems similar to autism, I never heard anyone else speak about this but it made my encounters with narcs (who I confused as being autistic) so much more clear

[@TheEliza1110]

This could explain why narcissists are paranoid - their perception of reality is completely different due to voices in their heads.

[@RosaGlez-ls1oz]

💯

[@tanyabell7748]

Right? Ex was always thinking someone is staring at him... thinks he being talked about Kept door locks. Paranoid!!!

[@Itsmelaurenc]

I’m constantly accused of saying things I never said mere seconds after speaking and at times never even said a word. I one time Responded that a the voices in your head well we can imagine the wrath that received for dare calling him crazy. Of course I never even said crazy. The loop 😅

[@ManTCore]

It is connected with jerry marzinsnky work with schizophrenic ppl. The same voices/demons degrading ppl.

[@MattShine11]

@@laurajermak6986we dont all have voices. The voiceless people outnumber the voice people. They have no inner voice, and they do not hear themselves think.

[@pagie2467]

To me they hear a completely different conversation. You're not a real person and they are having a convo with themselves really. If you explain yourself, you're calling them stupid. If you try to justify your actions, you're trying to manipulate them. If you defend your actions, you're playing the victim. If you don't respond, you don't care about their feelings. If you raise your voice though, it triggers joy and happiness. It allows them to meltdown followed by a tantrum. In my experience they live for those moments because they sort of love the drama being chastised so in turn they can degrade and humiliate you. Hope I'm making sense.

[@samvaknin]

Time to watch the video.

[@pagie2467]

@@samvaknin I think that I fear that there's no hope so many of your videos scare me.

[@sarahshirazi5693]

You are sooooooooo f right in every word you said. This is exactly how it is spot on. 👏🏼

[@JB-sw8db]

The only thing a narcissist thinks when you were talking to them is “what’s in it for me? “

[@CubanSavage856]

THE INFAMOUS WORDS:WHAT CAN YU FOR FOR ME?... 🤦

[@samuelpayne5460]

This isn’t narcissism. This is basic reciprocity. Every time you ask something from someone, you should offer something of equal exchange in return. The fact that you make this statement shows me that you’re using “shame” as a manipulation tactic to get your way or to get something without offering an equal exchange. Your statement is actually an admission of your own narcissistic tendencies.

[@JB-sw8db]

@@samuelpayne5460 that is some great armchair, psychology. It’s too bad you have no idea what you’re talking about, but you are a good bullshitter.

[@samuelpayne5460]

@@JB-sw8dbI’m not upset or frustrated in your comments bc I do find your style quite entertaining, but insulting me instead of telling me where I’m wrong doesn’t help further understanding.

[@JB-sw8db]

@@samuelpayne5460 so you want me to understand that you’re wrong and have no idea what your talking about? I’m not here for advice, I simply made an accurate comment.

[@stellap7624]

Thank you for this talk, I really needed to understand why my former Husband kept painting me the enemy, no matter how kindly I spoke to him or treated him. I knew he was making villains out of everyone he meets, sooner or later, but I didn't understand the process.

[@Regina-le4fj]

I have enjoyed your videos over the years. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@novairene6880]

Same. It is so confusing. I asked him why I kept becoming the enemy. I never got an answer. I was so confused. I don’t think it will ever make sense. Probably because my brain does not work like this, I can’t understand what it is like to feel this way about someone that shows me love and kindness. It hurt in such a devastating way.

[@lyndatelford4370]

Everyone is the enemy

[@tiffanybluetarot]

⁠@@novairene6880same. So hurtful & confusing. It made me start to doubt my own reality. Yet, whenever I asked him for specific examples of what I did wrong, he could never name a single thing. Not one.

[@wannaburster]

Two options: - Either that's not about you - Or he'd been implanted with an idea in his mind, that render you as an enemy. In that way it can be very potent, viable and persistent, nourished by iterative confitmations, reappearing in different shapes and forms. Professor Vaknin had made a parallel with "mind snatchers" in one of his lectures. Even if that's a metaphor - it is a very precise one.

[@ericawolfe7055]

That makes a lot of sense. My mother's a diagnosed narcissist. And I can say I walk away from conversations and rethink about everything that I said. How it could be interpreted. So used to having my sentences deconstructed and used against me.

[@Supported32320]

If they can’t get at you with those kinds of tactics then they start playing dumb

[@thresabeasley1812]

I was always in trouble with mom, I would try to figure out, “what just happened “

[@marciloni12]

Mine too. Anything I said, posed as an opportunity to demean, judge and attack my character.

[@maryvera123]

Trying to step into a narcissist's shoes is so alien but at least I can somewhat understand how their mind works from your brilliant lectures. Thank you, Professor Vaknin.

[@andyhasan8069]

This is my sister!! Always turns my words into something negative when it isn't. Alway had to walk on eggshells with her until I had enough, now it's no contact. Best thing I have done. Wish I did it a lot earlier. 😢

[@CubanSavage856]

The Hardest thing to do .... Is stick around.... It only gets worse .. there very good at taking KINDNESS FOR WEAKNESS.... 🤷🏼

[@Holly........]

This explains a key aspect of my relationship with mother. When I wanted to have an emotionally honest conversation with her, she would say “why are you yelling at me? Even though my tone of voice was calm and measured. My words were always twisted and I was so frustrated. This explanation of Sam’s is spot on and crystal clear, and I am grateful for it. Truth sets us free, even if it is ugly and depressing at first

[@juanitarichardson7024]

This is so sad. That means i will never be able to love and support my elderly mother. That is very painful. 😢

[@jacquelinedollard5791]

Thank you you’ve just described my interactions with my new manager. And why I am leaving.

[@stilljustval]

Keep on going; i went thru it myself and got a much better job.

[@jacquelinedollard5791]

@@stilljustval thank you! appreciate the encouragement.

[@anniesouthern9051]

Same. Sucks but necessary to get out.

[@JankaLeucorrhinia]

Only now do I know that my conviction was correct. During a discussion leading nowhere, I closed the discussion with the words: "this is not what I said, this is your distorted perception of my words"

[@crooksomebody1138]

I'd listened to this channel last winter after ending a relationship. I'd gone no contact, and the behavior from her afterwards was bizarre. Stalking, showing up at my home, etc. I allowed her back into my life from May to October---I wouldn't recommend it. By October, I'd cut it off again. I at least got closure for myself and will never look back. I was drained. Her inner dialog vs. what I actually said was unreal. Whatever she is, I have zero energy for it. It was the most alone I'd ever felt while in the company of someone.

[@catherinerodgers9470]

This has been happening to me for years. My husband doesn't understand anything I say. I have tried and tried to say things kindly and it just doesn't work. He also cannot remember what I say or how things really happened. This episode was the best yet for me, thank you for letting me know what is going on. I will change my strategy yet again but this time I will put less energy in, and maybe I will be less frustrated.

[@MaatSekhem]

And take time for Your needs...they don't & can't change. Much love & strength to you. 💙💎🦋💎💙

[@catherinerodgers9470]

@@MaatSekhem Thank you for your kind words.

[@MaatSekhem]

@@catherinerodgers9470 I've been there most of my life, so v much appreciate the struggle & lack of self worth we end up with. You Deserve to Live & Be Free. What helped me finally leave the narcs behind was this: I Cannot Serve the World if I am endlessly grovelling on the ground. If that makes sense. Everyone's journey is different, just Know You Are Worth Real Respect & Love. He can't help himself, I'm not trying to play the blame game, etc. Much much love & strength to All who battling with this. 💙💎🦋💎💙

[@alisongilroy5304]

I think its like hearing Charlie Browns teacher

[@Supported32320]

🙄😂

[@tiffanybluetarot]

Funny you made a Peanuts reference…! I always say dealing with them is like Charlie Brown trying to kick the football with Lucy! 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@lisagavin5418]

THIS time, I'm gonna do it! THIS time, he's s going to hear me!! Then, I'm knocked out, looking up, seeing stars, and wondering what went wrong. (SO glad I left him.) ​@tiffanybluetarot

[@caroldesarnoNeNe45]

OMG.... I fell on the floor reading your comment..... I do the Teacher all the time when dealing with these animals. Waaa....waaaa. ..waaa....waaa. Yes.Ma'am..... waaa...waaaa...wa.a No Ma'am...... Waaaa...wa....wa.... Great Comment....😂

[@Shelley-j2y]

Bottom line they are nuts. Get as far away from them as you can.

[@dv8578]

Excellent video! I enjoy all your videos! Thank you so much for sharing. I have been in the Worst Nightmare of a Marriage (if you can call it that) for 24 years. I have apparently Wasted all my time and Energy trying to make it work, and trying to help him, arguing with him every day, being Criticized, Manipulated, and controlled, almost Dead now! I finally Understand it. I have been telling him all these things you describe, for years. I have left several times, Regretfully went back, I can’t go back anymore ! Freedom at last at 60 years old with a lot of Health Problems!

[@MrTang-qo9wm]

They're all brilliant but this discussion especially so.

[@curtiscarlson8958]

Seriously though, wonderful explanation, not just a shallow look at Narcissism but a concise discussion of how N works inside the N's head and how the N interprets reality. Very insightful and very helpful.

[@lyndatelford4370]

I tried so hard to have a conversation with the narcissist but I just could not no matter how hard I tried

[@Supported32320]

I have it just depended on which one i was talking to and what the parameters were. When they do tune in they seem capable of offering minuscule bits of information but ive never seen one coherent enough to offer complete thoughts. They’re fragmented thinkers even to the point where you have to ask some of them what they mean because their speech is garbled.

[@christinasuarez8032]

You’re a treasure, Sam. I have written a lot of inspired philosophy because of these deep dive discussions on your channel.

[@gosiaborowska3858]

Oh my god, this is so spot on. Everything you are saying reflects exactly my experience from "friendship" with a male narcissist. I was always shocked how such a smart guy can change so much the meaning of what I said. Or even very often - of what I wrote. I know that he was re-reading my messages many times and still getting them completely wrong.

[@annc6417]

Wow! What you said within the first 2.5 minutes is what I just experienced. Your entire talk explains this person I was talking to perfectly. The relationship becomes a double edge sword because I want to go no contact because I don’t want to be disrespected, yet, if such a narcissist isn’t really in charge of his own behavior, well, that’s where my understanding of the problem gets me stuck. Yes, that’s on me. Self analysis to survive. That will include listening to some more of your insightful videos. Thanks Sam for sharing!

[@rtt3166]

This bodes very badly for humanity. If we don’t realize how we’re subconsciously behaving out of conscious and unconscious trauma and mother wounding? It’s divine when authenticity ever occurs! Literally divine in the purest sense.

[@tiffanybluetarot]

Re: @13:06… indeed. He constantly accuses me of “verbalizing” him. (He speaks in cursive sometimes!) He literally needs to be spoken to with the magic words…otherwise, I must have some ulterior motive in what I’m saying, or I’m out to cause him some sort of negative outcome. Yet he can’t name a single time I’ve ever done anything like that! He’s pretty convinced I’m public enemy #1…only out to cause him grief and destroy him […] He basically accuses me of doing the exact things he does to me. I’ve never treated him poorly or even told him ‘no’ to anything! 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@CubanSavage856]

WOW 🙋🏼We're in the Same 🚢.... My NARCISSIST HUSBAND OF 10 long Draining YEARS is the EXACT SAME.... It's the WORST FEELING WHEN THEY ACCUSE YU ... Of EXACTLY WHAT THEY ARE DOING 🤦

[@tiffanybluetarot]

@@CubanSavage856 💯

[@mariaholmqvist993]

I think you should be up for the Nobel Prize. Thank you !!

[@AH-qq9ts]

Thank you so much for this video! I have listened to many of your videos trying to understand the things within my marriage. Yeah, when everything started to become worse I was trying to find answers and yes, I was also becoming upset with my narcs behaviour. Now after all the knowledge I got out of your videos I can't be angry on my narc anymore because unfortunately I simply have to accept all the facts. But I feel a lot of anger coming up inside of me of such parents who were causing all that shit to their own child. Within 3 years a live of a human being is destroyed before real live has started. I just hope that god will find the right punishment for these kind of parents.

[@marvinmoya-od5uc]

Sorry you have to deal with this but also keep in mind its not your fault and just because he has a deep issue that he did not ask for its not your job to "heal" him or aceept the pain that it will bring you. Accept its not his fault and also that you must take care of yourself and cannot fix him.

[@zulftreerain8991]

I loved it, my gratefullness is with you

[@thecosmicvoyagers]

Great point for the clinicians,

[@MsOdingod]

Great video!

[@izasztrubel7545]

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your work and commitment

[@mdjulker9]

What a great explanation....I have been through and tried to make her understood that its not what you think......thank you Prof Sam

[@kosmos229]

I loved the video. It explained perfectly a couple of questions I still had on the introjection process. Thank you.

[@aliaamohamed4304]

You are amazingly perfect professor

[@KR-fb7gm]

Sigh, I wish I could help him but I can't. He knows he's struggling and empty inside but mistreats everyone around him

[@xeniakern7607]

Brilliant

[@RaniEnergy]

just received Malignant Self Love book, so excited to read it.

[@samvaknin]

Thank you for your business. Please post a review of my boom on its Amazon page.

[@DilfuzaKHaydarova-e1p]

Thank you so much Dear Sam Vaknin

[@infinitedestiny6328]

I like your sense of humour.

[@Barbann-u2q]

I usually have to think about what I'm going to say to my husband ahead of time and get the information in at most 3 or 4 sentences or he gets frustrated and/or zones out.

[@Misinformed_lol]

I know exactly what you’re talking about, being in a relationship like this It’s exhausting… my husband died last year and I’m still coping with exhaustion and trying to figure out how to communicate like a normal person

[@sheilayagodzinski5747]

You're lucky you got 3 or 4 sentences, I get one.

[@Onyxopus]

Sam thanks for giving us the option but of course we love to hear you speaking why would we miss the chance 😊

[@sarahrondo2890]

Well that makes a whole lot of sense!

[@sara37193]

Just so informative👌

[@OneAdam12Adam]

I remember reading your work first before anyone else knew the concept. This was back in 2006. It's scary how it's gotten more pervasive.

[@samvaknin]

I actually started my work in 1987!

[@AnnetteCurtain-tc4mh]

As a narcissist, trust is my issue,it's not because I want others to feel pain,it's because I feel under attack in many situations,people say I need help,but who's looking after me.

[@christophemouawad6971]

I had the same issue with my ex-wife. She was completely paranoid and interpreted every tiny bit of conversation as an attack on her and that I am never satisfied and sometimes that I am trying to put on a show of kindness and understanding while she can see the wolf inside me, etc… she was so vindictive and would act out when I tell her that my intentions are to find a common ground where we can communicate healthily. For her it was that she talks but I never understand and communicating with me is useless and then comes the stone walling and passive aggressiveness and the smearing and the devaluation. Any act of kindness is interpreted as if I wanted something from her. I lived hell for 11 years. Now I can thank her because it was a powerful way to discover myself and find a way to get out of my religious beliefs which led me to endure that much. This lesson has cost around a 100 000$ in assets and money. What an expensive lesson 😅. At least Sam is spreading awareness for free 😂😂😂

[@dominique-valois]

Trust isn't the issue, the perceived shame is the issue.

[@skachor]

"But who's looking after me?" Is that your response to the people who claim you need help? As in, they recognize that you have difficulties but never actually want to help address them?

[@charingcross7945]

Annette....you need to look zfter yourself. I am assuming that you are no longer a child, therefore you are responsible for seeking out professional help. It is available, but if you do not do something, nothing will ever change for you.

[@ASaltyGurl]

I'm assuming you're an adult, if so then you need to take care of yourself, as an adult. Since you are narc, I doubt you have been taught how to take care of yourself. And yes I know about narcs. I have one who's 70 years old but has the brain capacity of a 5 year old.

[@eveforamerica7321]

The “gaze” is real.

[@DeanErskine-go8cs]

I wish I could show this video to someone but silent the part every time you say the word narcissist so they dont automatically shut it down and ask them if this is how they think. Like a secret test to see if they are a narcissist.

[@BalderJakobsen]

Exactly what we need

[@BalderJakobsen]

Brilliant

[@rebekahjette6304]

A person with NPD is kind of like the mad hatter during the tea party from Alice In Wonderland🫨

[@aliaamohamed4304]

Amazing Amazing Amazing

[@curtiscarlson8958]

im sorry, what were you saying? I wasn't listening cause I was thinking about how smart I am that i don't have to listen..... hahahaha

[@lenaduggan4697]

Dr. Is there ever a time when a narcissist agrees with their negative interject?

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel for “mortification” and for “mort”.

[@larisas8925]

Yeah that’s true are used to reject me every time until the last time I said that’s it no more and I just filed for divorce which is almost 40years

[@dreamtimelotus7894]

I have gotten accused so much about manipulation when i was cincere and superised by this accusations and shocked. Also he manipulated a lot. If things did not go his way or he wanted something from me. He used manipulation a lot

[@Foolwithouthumility]

Damn it, I'm in the discard phase of my Narcissistic father. He is building a case on me........I was only ever an internal object of idealization to him. Well, the lack of interesting and questions into my life and interpretations were kind of a given. Funny enough, I have more compassion for his condition with this information.

[@Sadbuttrue-ThatSwedishGirl]

My Ex thought anyone who said hi or talked with him wanted to have 6 with him, even his psychologist he said. I said no, that they say hi or talk with you doesn't mean they want to do anything more. Jesus! 🤯 Not surprising we are not together anymore. His mind worked in scary ways. He also said that women don't have feelings like men have🤯 I made the mistake of not believing him bc I thought that wasn't possible he could believe that but I was very wrong. BUT, he was the most charming and attentive (read manipulative and controlling) person that I have ever met! 😅 I have heard he is incarcerated now. I hope he stays there and I'm just glad I survived.

[@larisas8925]

Living with a narcissist almost for 40 years he never say good morning and when you sit with you in the table and you talk to him he used to close the eyes😂

[@brandonp8294]

I love the thumbnail!😅

[@beno8983]

Thanks God! ;)

[@edigabrieli7864]

Wow! Lectio magistralis 👋

[@Berlinetta-h7p]

I used to think my mother just heard "wah wa wa wa wah wa wa wah" (aka Charlie Brown's teacher in Peanuts) whenever I spoke to her. 🤦

[@superespiritual1553]

I'm so curious about any links between autism and narcissism. I wonder what the future will bring in terms of findings here.

[@samvaknin]

Search the comorbidities playlist.

[@shirlxx]

Could be covert narcissistic reaction to fall a sleep when you have a longer serious talk with him?

[@samvaknin]

Yes. It is a passive-aggressive reaction intended to frustrate and hurt you.

[@MaxPlankton]

Yep, it has taken years to realise that the destruction of healthcare of our family elders, exploitation of them for huge sums of money was probably due to narcissism of the individual concerned. Nearly destroyed me too!

[@lesleygonsalves8763]

Completely agree on the link with Asperger’s or autism .

[@truebalticamber]

Any time I was trying to talk about somthing she always acted and many times let me know I somhow try to manipulate her. If she had to apologies she would do it and then say it was my fault, i deserve this. Later on when I started to chalange such appologies she twisted story or found some oposite sample to tell my emotions or feelings were inapropriate as if she knows whats better for me then I know myself

[@mayaczerni]

Abt the voices can u help with conceptualizing eskizofrenia and this you r describing... thought it was both for a loved 1 but I am a bit lost.. If u have smthing up abt this let me know I will aprecciate and search for it tomorrow. Gnight!

[@tiffanybluetarot]

“Now why would you do this?!” […] I find I ask myself this same thing after it all goes to s#*t. Especially on Sundays, it seems. Nothing is sacred to him.

[@nemesister5109]

Any hope of healing , ever, for a narcissistic?

[@samvaknin]

Search the therapies playlist.

[@anthonyat2401]

Is there any hope at all to survive a relationship with a narcissist? Or, is leaving, the only solution?

[@samvaknin]

The only solution - unless you are an inverted narcissist.

[@susanhogan439]

I’ve been with my bf who repeatedly mimics hand gestures from movies and tv shows. It’s so odd and discovered it’s called Echopraxia. He displays high Narcissistic traits . Where does this all fit in?

[@larisas8925]

You are right used to call me crazy until I actually went to my psychiatry and make power of attorney over me and wanted to admit me to psycho hospital the man is lost

[@SkyWatcher929]

omg i have some of these traits i read into what someone says and how they say it thinking they might be tricking me but i was married to a narc for a long time but its been 10 years since i escaped but can i ever trust fully? or be normal?

[@larisas8925]

The truth Hey Cuz to much damage I cannot forget what they used to do just damage my brain for one side keep coming back to me

[@sheilayagodzinski5747]

Then they don't want you to talk, now I get it.

[@alejandro_vallejo_calvo]

Not really. They do want you to talk, as far as what you say always validates their inflated ego to the degree they deem appropriate. If you don’t talk to them about how wonderful, great and superior they are, they will take your silence or omission of explicit compliments as a covert way of denigrating their clearly evident (for them) greatness. Except for the devaluation phase: then they will twist whatever you say or don’t say as an attack, insult, mind game or attempt to depreciate them.

[@rebeccajean9806]

Question, the narcissistic’s mother died 35 years ago. He posts memes about her, missing her and her irreplaceability. Yet, he never speaks of her in real life. The narcissist adopts another maternal figure, the wife of a Hells Angel. He refers to her as his mother, but has never called her mom. Is it possible that he was actually trying to replace his mother with this woman, with the aim of rescuing himself ?

[@samvaknin]

Watch the shared fantasy playlist.,

[@tiffanybluetarot]

I’m guessing he’ll try to sleep with her, if he hasn’t already. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@kristin_NZ]

They are just filtering for keywords, to my mind.

[@nemesister5109]

I was hoping for your thoughts, my 15 yo acts like this a lot. Wondering we hat I can do ? Is it a teenager phase?

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel for "teen", "adolesc".

[@lieagain]

Do victims take on their internal voice and spew it back at them? It seems when victims react to the abuse, the narcissist doesn’t defend against the verbal degradation.

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel for "entrain" and also the comorbidities playlist for CPTSD.

[@truebalticamber]

Imagine this she was treating me as two separate entities, where one negative me myself, and positive my body hairyness 😂 she was talking to my body part, kissing goodby. She also talks to her stuffed toy.. At first it looked as cute maybe but later got me worried, since some stuff was bayond logical and real. When I asked for clarification on some stuff she was not responding

[@sqrfoot6548]

He's your mother !!

[@HaydenAndrewScott]

What does a narcissist hear listening to this KZbin?

[@lucasx7005]

What is your view of having father that is Narcissist?

[@samvaknin]

Search the From Child to Narcissist playlist.

[@thresabeasley1812]

I was married to one for 44 years. Many time I wanted to die many times. He died recently, l am going through a healing now. He was a 👿

[@dreamtimelotus7894]

My ex had a lot of word salad and egolaia and saying yelling repeating random words all the time. Drove me crazy at one point in the relationship. It became so annoying, even yelling the random words in my face. It just made me uncomfortable not knowing this was a joke or some disorder. . It was as if he was trying to get attention like that but it was more like a teenager would try to get attention. He wanted the attention and if he did not get it positive than negative. Insulting random people by yelling out silly things ya sometimes someone was laughing. Mostly looking at me confused. Never could pinpoint what it was. So i found out of was a part of autism also. But he is not really autistic i think. But the staying in the teenager fase is so regoniceble for me. He was like that But also knew how to act like an adult. At home or with close friends he let the normal mask off. He actually said sometimes to me that he thought he did that because he had a hard childhood. It was because of the attention though So if i ignored it than he went to my son or even his friends. And he acted like a teen under them. So they all liked him. Maybey our relationship stopped working becouse i did not found his behavior funny anymore. I did not adored him as much as i used to do. When i was in love and this behaviour made me laugh. He stopped doing it with me around because i started to hate it. He Just went to an other audience. Interested. how does a part of a person doesnt grow up. Im not taking about the inner child and stay playful. No im talking about being stuck in a fase , in teenager attention seeking fase

[@samvaknin]

Echolalia.

[@samozni]

How does one work through this?

[@samvaknin]

Search the channel for “speech”.

[@samozni]

@@samvaknin this one? kzbin.info/www/bejne/roiog4Vsfsqpbqcsi=QG44xv6rPqzsWrkR

[@larisas8925]

Yeah to control me actually also clean me out with money with jewelry bring me to bank crap he don’t have nothing until I find out I’m living with a narcissist😊

[@boundlessone]

Beware the pessimist

[@HassaanAlhodhaifi]

is the conception of God by each cult an avatar?

[@samvaknin]

Religion is a delusional disorder and “god” is an imaginary friend, an internal object.

[@philipstewart4474]

OMG… I’m a narcissist

[@alejandro_vallejo_calvo]

In case your self-diagnosis is right (it may not, until confirmed by professional clinicians), the fact that you consider you could be, publicly, opens up the road to healing the potential mental distortion. As they say: ‘the sky’s the limit’. Even if you just developed minor or mayor narcissistic traits, you definitely have the power to work on them with therapy and your own commitment and willpower. Best wishes on improving yourself no matter what.

[@philipstewart4474]

No, I’m right… I’m a narcissist

[@arkadysoldatov6962]

There is a perfect anthem for pathological narcissism in this song Asmodai - Nightmare Sometimes I realize I am floating in the endless sea of my mind Sometimes I realize I am the enemy I am the ghost in the machine False reality I am your god I am your nightmare Dream of me I am your god I am your nightmare Wandering through the woods I am hopeless I am blind I feel the rush The blood pumps Through my hollow veins I am the enemy False reality I am your god I am your nightmare Dream of me I am your god I am your nightmare False reality I am your god I am your nightmare Dream of me I am your god I am your nightmare Forgive me Fallen angel I am your god I am your nightmare

[@hyionno]

Eu tive um ex narcisista igualzinho meu pai, eu perdia a paciência com ele distorcendo as coisas. Eu o chamava de esquisofrenico, e perguntava se ele era mal caráter ou burro porque parecia proposital. Quando mandei o pé na bunda o maluco (burro) ficou me perseguindo pela cidade por quase um ano. Coloquei ele no tribunal, e ainda perdeu. Povinho insuportável. Sumi até dos amigos em comum, porque ele ainda ficava tentando tirar informações de mim com conhecidos em comum. Se até do meu pai narcisista me afastei, imagine um namorado. Vou dar atenção é para quem me ama e quem merece.

[@Misticmiatarot]

lol 😂

[@patriciawallace3577]

Could this have anything to do with why a narcissist might mouth the words someone is saying to them as they speak? If not...any reason why? Anyone else experience this?

[@samvaknin]

Time to watch the video through to the end (echolalia).

[@nobody46820]

YES! It's as if they are lip reading and mouthing your words at the same time. When I noticed this, and moved my lips as little as possible, this just inflamed the situation even worse. When I've cornered these "Whores of Satan" when I spoke plain English, and asked. "How did you get from what I said to what you've said?" No matter which "Whore of Satan" I damn near had to beat an answer out of, always said the same/similar thing, "I don't know," Clearly demonic control/influence.

[@Abhisheksengupta923]

What does "shoshanim" mean?

[@RobinHenson-of8cf]

Look it up.

[@andyhasan8069]

It's Hebrew for Lilies or stringed instrument.

[@RobinHenson-of8cf]

@synchronis346 I wasn't being rude at all. Bold of you to assume. Stating a fact, and everyone has access to that any second.

[@philipstewart4474]

Or, hear me out… I Think I’m a narcissist