Sarah Paulson on Self Worth: "Being a Person is Not for the Faint of Heart"

How do you know your self-worth if all you have to judge it is the opinions of other people?
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[@innmyhumbleopinion]

One of my favorite actresses working today. Also really love watching her interviews as well. I love how she can get so introspective, without coming off as pretentious at all.

[@lovethyneighbour8287]

inn.my.humble.opinion word.

[@182Labyrinth182]

inn.my.humble.opinion Yess completely agree! love your videos btw!! subscribed to your channel at the beginning of the year for your ahs reactions but I really love your other reactions, livestreams, vlogs too!

[@innmyhumbleopinion]

Patient 4479 Oh wow! Thank you so much for subscribing and watching my other videos. I really appreciate the support. ❤️❤️ Love running into fellow AHS fans in the comments section of other videos, haha.

[@siriolsen7805]

Anyone struggeling should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Wish you all the best

[@AliceP.]

Oh my God that spoke so much to me... Actually while she was talking about acting and getting rejected in auditions I was getting tears in my eyes for another reason. I felt rejected by someone who matters to me recently. That made all my self steem vanish and I am/was trapped on self-loathing thoughts such as "my personality and looks aren't enough or even good at all, just look at how she's treated me"... Anyway, at the ending, when she says "I'm not just talking about being an actor... It's not for the faint of heart, being a person... It's hard". I don't know, it just spoke to me. About validation in general, in every aspect of life. How much of ourselves we put in other people's hands.

[@safeinmyheart1]

Truer words were never spoken. Thank you for sharing. 😊

[@theoffcamerashow]

I love it when our show connects with people like this. Thanks for watching!

[@danielr3522]

I could really relate to this, thanks for sharing. I think most of us have the wound of unworthiness, deep down, and we do look outside ourselves for love and validation; the problem, really, is that we believe that we're the inadequate person we imagine ourselves to be. It can be a startling thing to realise that, oh, I'm not the stupid/ugly/incompetent/useless [delete as appropriate] person I thought I was. (Though of course the question then is, 'If I'm not that, just who or what *am* I?')

[@WoahStyle]

What a beautiful interview. Sarah Paulson is so talented and beautiful and it’s nice to hear some worldly words of encouragement from someone as accomplished as her. This is advice we can all take and really allow it to help us move forward. So often I get stuck on “why am I not good enough?” when comparing myself to others and it’s so toxic. Thank you for this!

[@theoffcamerashow]

You're welcome!

[@authenticallynobody283]

I read your comment and when I saw the remark about comparing yourself to others, it reminded me of one of my favorite poems. You may or may not have heard it but I'm just going to share it. It is called Desiderata, written in the 50s, when America was in many ways, great. And it seems more timely then ever. It's stuff we shouldn't need to be reminded of, but its almost like my Bible. This usually sorts me out, do to speak. Desiderata Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs; for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals; and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass. Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul. With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy. Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.

[@jvlianastula]

@@authenticallynobody283 I know I'm late, but thank you for sharing this poem. It's really valuable and worth recalling!

[@earthandemily]

Such an interesting and universal problem. Accepting a judgement implies quite a bit of trust in that person's perceived accuracy. Do we trust the world? Ourselves? Who? I really like the way she described it

[@minuusha]

That's deep.

[@billllions]

@Neil Brown What does her sexual orientation have to do with anything

[@magnusr2196]

I haven't seen a second of her acting. Have just seen her as herself on KZbin, at Ellen, at other talkshows and other clips. And she is my favorite actress/human. I don't know anything about her, just what I have seen here, and I love her to bits! Sarah Paulson is one awesome and beautiful woman.

[@jennc8286]

"Never confuse your self worth with your professional success or failure" - Cherry Jones' mama's advice to her and advice Cherry gave to me and others.

[@stackels97]

So glad she has reached the level of success where she can use her voice to share this kind of message and insight!! She’s a gem!!

[@JesseStLouis]

Thanks you. I really needed to hear this today.

[@BlueFlames094]

This is why I love her. So wise and lovely.

[@spirit.sister]

Being a person is hard. 😢

[@tamarajay7676]

Agreed

[@StacyPowerhouse]

Niko Nanette yep

[@no.6045]

Pretty late to the party but you can do it ☺️

[@ViaMirage]

💯 truth

[@PS-qn4oz]

"It's not a meritocracy, it's a business." That's America, overall.

[@Leyuann]

or pretty much every society really :/

[@siriolsen7805]

Anyone struggeling should check out the Andrew Cutler protocol. Google «andy cutler rebecca rust lee» for a great article explaining the protocol, and search for the success stories, and «what not to do» as there are things that you might be taking that is hurting you, like cilantro and chlorella. Wish you all the best

[@rishabhbajoria2713]

That's capitalism

[@jordanmalone2547]

this reflects very much so in these times of distress. what an interesting time

[@saattlebrutaz]

Acting is not meritocratic but most other industries are more so. You can't get a job doing marketing campaigns if your background is making food, or rather, it's hard to do that. Most jobs are skills-based - acting jobs are just so rare that it's not going to be the same thing.

[@925209]

I can listen to Sarah Paulson and Rachel Weiz all day long. Sarah Paulson is so wise and articulate. I love how honest she is.

[@MrsBungle78]

Sarah Paulson is fantastic

[@vrtexmoon5126]

MrsBungle78 one of the smartest actresses.

[@timothyw98]

Her performance as Marsha Clarke in People vs OJ Simpson was a work of art, I couldn't take my eyes off her emotionally complicated performance.

[@dougalmackenziesmith673]

She's so wonderful and eloquent.

[@tasneemofficial6501]

she seems so intelligent and sophisticated always has the right thing to say, and attractive at the same time. I wish there were more people like her.. love you Sarah

[@Michelle-ew6ws]

Ahh! I love the way she thinks and all neatly wrapped up in a poised delicate shell!

[@phylipitaglioni1970]

Sarah Paulson is the one of the finest actors alive. Does not even really borrow anecdotes from somewhere else. Her misfortune is also treating people in real life with the neurosis that stems from cruelty. Forget your privilege Sarah when interacting with other artist. When you exercise advantage, you callously and needlessly break hearts. Somethings you do better and appropriately of consequence on screen.

[@arin6479]

I’m an artist and this spoke to me on so many levels. This is really what I needed to hear today. Thank you, Sarah.

[@irishmay9847]

Sense of humor and a deep conversationlist. This woman is dangerously amazing!

[@JusticeConstantine]

Sarah Paulson is such a great actress. I love the wisdom she bestows on just life.

[@ajtaylor8750]

Sarah Paulson nailed it. Self-worth has steered away from how we value ourselves and what we do in every-day life, and has become us valuing the opinions of others about ourselves, and it's led to people struggling to believe in themselves. If we get back to loving and knowing we're good enough, everyone could be happy.

[@ericabermudez4123]

her mindset is amazing

[@elegance7940]

i love her sm

[@toplel_]

she just... oozes confidence. it's really fascinating watching her speak

[@aishwaryagupta8103]

This video means the world to me because I often judged myself, underestimated myself and put myself down 💔 Feels good to hear her

[@BabyBearRudy]

Wow, I liked her before but after seeing a glimpse of her insight of how she sees the world for what it is, I just love her, she's awesome!!

[@angelicaterry3367]

Aside from magazines there really wasn't a way to keep up with favourites back in the day. I'm not really a magazine reader but the memory of Sarah Paulson in American Gothic was enough to keep me hoping to see her in further roles in the years that followed. It was a long wait.

[@jazmintabuena]

She's so human. Really rare in the industry. Love her so much!

[@maocharlisme]

So the actual quote is "it's not for the faint of heart: being a person." ...I love it! She speak very eloquently on this and with great nuance, insight and wisdom♡☆

[@bklyn2014]

Truer words have never been spoken. The most talented of people usually struggle the hardest to get what they truly deserve. I honestly feel that is sadly very true.

[@edabakb]

She deserves more recognition 👏

[@jakoblangenberg]

So incredibly smart and down to earth. Pure gem.

[@Dabro1010]

This lines up so true to a book i'm reading called 'The Silent Pulse' which goes into what being an individual means rather than just feeding a social ego

[@bicktoriousmedia4667]

Great interview. Gotta love a woman that can make you laugh and make you think.

[@JC-yy8iv]

It's very hard to really internalize this message though. The work of a lifetime, I guess. When she says that she would be the same actress if nothing had ever happened and she had to make movies in her basement or whatever... I feel it's probably easier to believe that when one HAS had the validation, you know? Like if that were really her situation it would still be true but I imagine she would have a harder time believing it. This is my struggle as a 33-year-old musician who hasn't "made it." I know I don't suck, and I know what I'm doing has value, but it just hasn't ever made its way to the ears that need it, and it's hard to truly feel the self-worth she's describing.

[@Project32HMT32]

J. Levi C. I really like your comment. I love this conversation as a whole actually. The idea that all of these big names are just people, exactly like everyone who isn't well known. We tend to believe that value goes hand in hand with recognition and that is both sad but beautiful. Sad because we can fall down a rabbit hole of self loathing but beautiful because we already are enough. Kind of like what you said about knowing you're good. You don't need screaming fans and your name on a giant screen to know that your work has value. It might make you feel even better about it if you had gained fame but you'll always be the same person you were from the start. You always had value! This is a really uplifting topic to me; just goes to show how amazing people really are whether they're famous or not and whether they believe it or not. But they should believe it! Value will always be there

[@par8835]

charles bukowski didn't become a successful writer until well into his 50's, but he always kept writing despite not finding the success he wanted. there was a period of time that he stopped, and so i can understand that in the situation there will always be a point where you begin to doubt if it's ever possible, but he kept going because writing was what he knew he wanted to do, he had to do it, whether the success came or not. when you have a love for what you do, you just can't stop doing it, even if it doesn't bring you success. i mean they all had other jobs, life didn't stop, but they still did what they loved.

[@toy.o]

she owns this heart

[@ericabermudez4123]

Luna ok me

[@mariarobles311]

Such inspiring and talented actress

[@Palindrome78]

I am going to be superficial right now but can we mention her cheekbones and how awesome they look?

[@icecreamtrip]

The Paulson strikes again. Great interview. Caught myself nodding, and i never do that. Wise words!

[@gianna1328]

This woman is incredible.

[@realityisnotlogical]

i needed to hear this from someone like Sarah. She is soooooooooooooo talented and funny and a real human being. I hope everyone of us can reach their dreams.... We have to stand straight against these bad people in this world. thanks for that short clip

[@motherhen7]

Such a pivotal point about self worth. SO glad she spoke about this. She really caught my eye in The Other Sister and since then she has been in so many good projects.

[@deltadawn2409]

OHMY, I just love love love her! But the work she has been excepted for has been her perfect parts for her, in that you can literally imagine none other. So thanks for taking all the No's to make so few incredibly fantastic Yes's, Sarah Paulson.

[@Maya-ju4ex]

Love Sarah. Great actress, funny, loveable, beautiful. She needs more recognition and gratitude for her work.

[@karenlm9062]

Just love Sarah Paulson....the more she speaks and says what's on her mind.

[@coolpotato7633]

This was so wonderfully reassuring and calming. Thanks!

[@IlGattonero13]

She is marvelous. And I like his minimalist, respectful approach to interviews.

[@soph7480]

She's so lovely. Seems like she'd be the best partner. Not being creepy just honest haha

[@soph7480]

not what i meant but alrighty!

[@Ahmed-zb8yt]

nasser wiz dude she is lesbian

[@bennyton2560]

Holland Taylor must be in heaven

[@soph7480]

@@monkymind4316 I know nobody accused me of being creepy I was just ensuring I meant it in platonic ways. If someone is being creepy then the word should be applied lol.

[@chrismadge5472]

Being told by someone you are not good enough or do not fit the role, will, always feel personal. I for one, have never failed to tell the one i love, that I love her, is appreciated, and with the all the good things, she excels at, i have always encouraged her, to do well, at her strengths, and will always support her for when times are not good for her, sometimes, it is so good, to just listen.

[@rufarojunior]

My hero she nails everything

[@Melanotia07]

I needed this.

[@MrSiasman]

I'm in a creative industry and do struggle with this from time to time. Thanks for putting words this.

[@JuliusLikesfilms]

Truly inspiring.

[@lhughes521]

I just love Sarah Paulson!

[@leonieweichelt5963]

That’s what I love about her so much! She is so funny and serious at the same time. She always gets me laughing but she also teaches me so much about life. She’s not just a great actress she’s slso a great you human being

[@angeldillemuthactor]

Wow! Really hit the nail on the head. I wish the full videos popped up

[@rogerbarrett1979]

My love for Sarah Paulson is stronger than all of my weaknesses combined. I have a lot of strong ones, but Sarah outmuscles them all by far. 😍😍

[@LucidMemories77]

This video really made my day.

[@lordofskull4267]

I needed this. 👌

[@cconaghty]

"Being a person is not for the faint of heart" absolutely true it's tough trying to make it in this world especially harder now with the pandemic it's shaken everyone to the core because life as we knew it has changed due to something we can't see or really control

[@billllions]

The ending of this made me cry

[@jrojas2520]

Sarah Paulson is amazing. She is funny and intelligent with a great outlook on life.

[@meemoo9693]

Wow. I loved this.

[@andreanicole178]

OH YES! Finally!! I was waiting for the day Sarah was going to be on here!

[@MargoMartin1]

So very very true "it isn't easy, it's not for the faint of heart, being a person". Geeze! It is rough being human!!!

[@shawnthompson940]

I adore her!

[@cshroy]

Thank you Sara , That is what I need to hear right now .

[@Mgc3270]

Looooove Sarah Paulson! So cool, so smart.

[@nataliastornello]

What a queen!!

[@musicbykg]

I would love to hear her story, she's one of the best actresses around, & it's somehow inconceivable that she wasn't recognised earlier.

[@prahas777]

For me, self worth equates to self love. And for me self love means: fill myself up with love. Meditate, do yoga, do tantra, use all the techniques available to fill myself up with light, with delight, with energy. Then I'm filled up with love; so "my" "self" IS love. A deep contentment arises. The question of worth does not arise. And this state is certainly not dependent on externals: jobs, auditions, talent, or reviews on E!

[@mariasoto8600]

prahas777 Some people confuse selflove with arrogance

[@FRNKNSTNmusic]

This show is a study in self-worth 💎

[@chaosdream21]

God I love her. Thank you.

[@mikebasil4832]

Thank you, Sarah, for your wisdom. 👏🏻

[@damonjones9606]

She's expressing my feelings, longings, frustrations in life. I have personalized it & I know it's not good

[@Dude411ish]

She’s awesome

[@TheGabe473]

Love your channel!!!! Keep rocking!!!

[@soph7480]

He has a show on Netflix. This channel is a culmination of clips from that. If you like this you should definitely check his show out. You can also buy episodes induvidually if you don't have netflix.

[@theoffcamerashow]

Or sign up for our monthly subscription at www.offcamera.com!!! Every episode on demand for $4.99/mo!!!

[@theoffcamerashow]

Thanks!

[@SunniBao]

Wow this was really amazing and she's so incredibly and sweet and strong and damn what she said was really moving to me. Omg

[@mgdkns6678]

Interesting perspective...

[@alexandras.6638]

Sarah's outfit is amazing, by the way

[@TrupimOkiemTV]

One of my fav screencrush since AHS Hotel.

[@paolabueso]

Excellent! Thank you so much for sharing this.

[@equalizer1553]

Wise words

[@SirCamera]

One of my favorite living people in the world today.

[@parileebijou6099]

I watch this with the idea that she cornered this guy in the waiting room of her psychiatrist's office

[@juliemolthop8980]

I fucking LOVE HER!!!! She IS her OWN PERSON and seems to really not give a shit about what people think of her. She loves and respects herself and that's ALL that matters!! Plus I TOTALLY admire that's she's in harmony and love with someone older (shout out to Ms. Holland Taylor, she's always awesome and amazing!) and has NO QUALMS about it. And why? Because she REALLY doesn't care what people think. She loves. Period. How cool is that?

[@SabrinaJohns]

her vocabulary 😍

[@Connieleveau]

I ❤ her.

[@rollstarify]

This is hits close

[@macegamma431]

Hmm. Okay hi Sam, I’ve watched Michael Shannon, n Galifianakis, n Jeff Bridges, n Ellen Page, n now Sarah Paulson, on your show. And I must say you have put these clips together wonderfully. Or you team has, good on them (or you. Whatever, these are great!)

[@marthadwyer2856]

Isn’t she wonderful. Can’t not acknowledge her talent and wisdom.

[@hessalynnemarie]

I’m have a bluejay flash back with this black and white ♥️♥️

[@JohnDoe-pb5cx]

She’s perf

[@4jonah]

Omfg this was fantastic.

[@no_name_yo]

wow

[@leobewley375]

Who are the 6 people who gave this a thumbs down? Who hurt you?

[@bennyton2560]

They hurt people and now they're called out

[@Leyuann]

it's really hard not to base your self worth on any external validation though..

[@johnbrooke6867]

Love it. Sure...some actors, writers, etc absolutely seem to deserve "it" and very often you'll hear that someone was over due for their "success" but there is still this element of "they got exactly what they deserved" even if there is a "finally" thrown in there. The reality is that some actors sleep walk their way into stuff. Such an enormous element of luck involved that I just can't stand the people who think everything is fair and everyone receives their due....you know...eventually. Bull shit. Some actors, writers,etc die before anyone has a clue how talented they were. Some die or just change careers and NEVER get the credit they deserve. I realize that's not what the Status Quo wants you to believe but that's only because they want you competing for the same part and being content with the crumbs that you receive in the interim. It works quite well for "them".

[@yesgregyes1416]

"Don't ever confuse your self worth with your ability to get a job..." or your ability to stop twitter trolls from feeding on anger, or your ability to get an ex-girlfriend to friend you on facebook, or your ability to win at badminton. #OffCamera