Saying Goodbye and Letting Go is Hard to do...

[@RobertMoseley]

Of course I am keeping the photos, or at least, scanning them in. Taking photos and scans of documents and things. However, I don't need these documents about houses that are sold, or certificates to people who are dead, there is nothing to be gained from it. I don't want some homeless person wearing my Mother's clothes, I would rather throw them in the trash. I don't want these things to "live on", I want them to be as gone as the people are, it's over. That's the point. I'm not interested in wondering who is out there wearing my Mom's coat. I want this chapter closed.

[@EHmasterjedi]

Thier things helping other people is a great way for their loss to have a more positive meaning

[@mantafahrer5346]

I experienced a similar story with my mother in 2021, my condolences for you! I know with the phone, sometimes you argue, sometimes you scold. But you mean well and want to protect your parents, but you love each other and that's the main thing.

[@canadaguy1234]

My mom and grandmother loved rummage sales and thrift shopping so as it comes time to get rid of their stuff I donate what I can because I know thats what they'd like. But there are some things I'd also want gone and not have to think about who has it now or whatever happened to it etc so I can see where you're coming from.

[@cjmarsh504]

I know it's hard to throw away something you cherish so much, and hope you can recover from the recent fire you had. I lost my mom nearly 25 years ago man.

[@irishgip71]

EVERYONE IF U CAN! CALL UR MOM. Thanks for this video sir. I’m calling my Mom now to listen to her voice. She’s 80+ and in great health. Thank you again sir.

[@mikekozi-lester3887]

Hi Video 📹 Bob nice video 📹 and workmanship sorry about Your family!!!! And hi Hippie

[@bryanammeter4450]

Lost my Mom and Dad its so hard Bob Much ❤

[@420911929]

Thanks for sharing this Bob. Praying for peace in your upcoming days brother!

[@daltonbower1553]

Oh my god, I’m so sorry

[@alexandersalarms5380]

Indeed it is, life can be tough as hell. Hope you’re able to get back to normalcy

[@lasseystad3266]

Know the feeling from when I had to deal with my mothers things after she passed. I also threw everything away instead of selling or donating it. My resons were simply I didnt want to see my moms things with some one else. Same with her clothes. Didnt want to meet anyone in town wearing her clothes. Just saved photos and some small figurines that meant the world to her. Keep strong Bob. Regards from Sweden.

[@MyKingdomForAK9]

I inherited my father's fine wardrobe, at age 33. With your mindset, I, too, didn't want to see anyone in our county wearing his apparel. Gave it all to an ex that lives 200+ miles away. 😅 (He was happy.) Upon my mother passing (12 years later) I, again, selfishly, wouldn't allow her clothing to remain with other nursing-home residents. So many stages of grief. We only do what is right, for us to heal.❤️‍🩹 For our moms . . . 🕯

[@electricandlspower]

Thanks for sharing this I lost my mom today she was 77 also. She was in Florida I'm in Minnesota so it was a goodbye when she had a stroke in December. She had a hard month and half. Life is short. Enjoy as much as possible. I don't have much of anything sentimental. I really don't know what I would want.

[@saunch621]

I completely understand emotionally and mentally what you are feeling. I lost my dad 30 years ago and my mom 27 years ago. I still have 50 % of their stuff. I finally, this year I finally said I have to get rid of their stuff. I am so emotionally attached to the stuff. Anyway, I say keep a few things in 1 tote, that makes you think of of the ones you lost. I have a pair of slippers, a hat and pajamas of my dad's. I am going to keep a few pieces of clothing of my mom's. Like you said, we need to get rid of it, but it's hard as hell.

[@angelarowe3472]

You’re absolutely right it’s hard letting go. It seems like we’re not being respectful if we don’t hold onto their things hoping that they’ll be coming back at some point but like you said it gets to the point where you have to do what you gotta do, you’re not erasing them from your life, you’ll always have the memories the pictures and some of the precious items that they and you have hold dear into your heart with myself. I’m the only one besides my baby brother that’s left in my family. Since I was the oldest, I had to take care of everything with my mothers things my brother things along with some of the friends that I’ve had in my lifetime, but like you said it gets monotonous and it gets to the point where you have to do something about it. Anyways, you take care be safe and thank you for sharing. Have a great safe day.🫶🏻❤️🤠

[@vincentbarnes7839]

I went through the same thing with my mum bob and it is hard mate. I put here ashes in a pot with a rose tree her favourite plants and put it outside my front door so i can go and talk to her whenever i want too

[@tsohgallik]

Time, experience goes by and we can't hold on to everything

[@tedted6029]

so sorry to hear all that mate you are a great dude, sorry for your losses and yeah people grieve in different ways. you will be feeling better after letting go of some of this stuff. thanks for sharing mate.

[@KegRatnRoll]

Thanks for sharing Bob. Letting it go… So hard. Memories aren’t let go.

[@nigeldewallens1115]

My mum passed away and It is difficult! I had to live with her whist her health got worse until she passed away! I know the pain you will still have, perhaps you can keep some things perhaps? We all have to deal with it on our own way! Regards from me in the south of France.

[@wingerfan1]

Before you get rid of your mother's clothing, you might see about having someone make a memory blanket/quilt out of some of the fabric from her clothes.

[@stuartburden3968]

It's so hard not to let go of sentimental things Robert. Really really hard. I wish you luck.

[@brianlassiter5302]

Definitely keep a few items of your moms. Just maybe a few things that remind you of her. I lost my mom recently and I’m glad to did because once they’re gone you can’t get them back. Love your channel!! So sorry for all that you’ve had to go through.

[@tiddums1151]

If you have a lot of garbage, you're doing good in life.

[@shadbear8181]

Sorry for your loss brother. They're still with ya. Just in spirit.

[@Jaz23uk]

Very emotional brother. You do have to cleanse though man, you are correct. Here's to new beginnings x

[@ub4it]

I am so sorry about your mother Bob, i can't even imagine how you feel and felt being kept away from her when she was in the hospital, that is horrible!! God Bless

[@frankhiggins9408]

So true about your mom my mom the same way sorry for your loss my friend letting go is never easy keep moving forward never give up great videos hell yeah 🤘

[@HAMRADIOJOE4178]

SEE IF YOUR SISTER WANTS ANYTHING.

[@joewoz20011]

Bob, I agree with you. I look at it as you can't keep everything because it starts to be too much to store. I myself would just keep a few of the really important things.

[@T_Smooth_]

You should give Hippy that white van that you bought off the lady that was living in it. ❤

[@stormcop55]

I lost my father in 2020 and because of covid i was not able to be with him. Lost mom in 2022 as well. Letting go is so hard!!!

[@sinformant]

Donate the clothes at least, but not to good will.

[@MrJTRfilms]

I second that. Avoid good will. Find a local place that will actually benefit the community.

[@billygarrett8842]

The rose lady wow what a flash back to the late 90's... we would see her at a bar called cowtown country on beach and belknap selling roses on saturday night and was such a sweet lady and sorry for your loss. I recognized the cowboy hat and basket

[@upholdthesecond92]

That must be a very difficult process. I hang on to stuff almost as bad as a hoarder. It’s the keepsake stuff that I can’t part with. Can’t imagine how you feel brother 😮

[@paulshakarian3046]

So sorry about your Mom. You are a good son to take care of her the way you did. That's rare nowadays.

[@lioneldickerson1550]

Bob, you need to keep the family photos. Feeling for you from across the pond.

[@Scotts_Blocks]

WOW Bob, thanks so much for this awesome look into your amazing family. I know Mom was cool, she raised you! And WHATEVER you have to do to "Let go" is up to you to decide.

[@SparkyTuttle]

Everyone says goodbye differently. Both of my parents are gone. The only way I could let go was to give others a chance at using what was still good. I've had friends, bury their loved ones, get up the next morning and start throwing everything away. Let your heart heal it's own way.😢

[@backtoobasics]

My hearts with you man

[@stuartpatray31]

I understand and sympathize completely Bob. My Mother passed away in 2021 and my Brother passed away 5 months later. I had to remove Mom's stuff from her house and my brother's stuff from his house by myself. It was emotionally difficult to remove and dispose of 50 plus years of memories of my life with my dear family. My Mother and Brother are cherished in my mind and heart. But I had to say goodbye to the material things so that I could move forward....

[@Proverbs31_25]

Thank you for sharing with us Video Bob i've been there and it's very sad process throwing away things of my Grandmas @ her home after she passed & it was very sad meaning i understand and it's taught me to keep it simple in my later life now both my grandparents and parents are gone too now and my Grandmother still had sales tags on many of her clothes too - so sad truly that was 2006 January - wow 19 yrs ago seems like yesterday. still! you're a great son - you did right by your Mom 🙏🏼 i remember a lady that use to bring roses into the Clubhouse long ago not sure if it was your mom (?) Respect & much love for Vinnie and Darrell 💜🕊️ we save our happy memories with loved ones in our hearts Peace ✌🏼🇺🇸

[@SoCalCrawlers]

Thank you Bob for this Insight of your life and history. I really liked this video. Thank you for sharing. 👊👊 Have a great day dude

[@StephenCole1916]

Sorry you're having to go through this. Once you get your office set back up, maybe take all those family photos and scan them into the computer? They can be cleaned up in software. Keep the originals of course, but the scanned in ones can be pulled up and looked at whenever you want. I lost my dad in late '21 and it still hurts. He had lived a long life and worked top secret stuff with the government that we'll never know about as he took those secrets to the grave.

[@notuptome]

My mom Star she passed away February 10th 2023 she qas 69 yeara old and my dad passed away 10 years prior he was 62 I miss her everyday and everyday.She used to call me and would just ask me what's you doing Thankfully I still have voicemails from her so I can hear her voice She wasn't amazing woman For 30 years She worked As a waitress for her mom and well when grandma decided to close hee last restaurant at At some point my mom and you're working for a Assistant living facility in memory care The first place she worked that a lot of her memory care Patience that she Would see would be people who used Have her as a waitress and they would ask If she is there to take their order. Just wanted to share a little bit about my mom to you Videobob thank you for sharing about your mom and family.

[@jeffmorrison579]

I bought that same Breville toaster oven and the display went out second use .

[@RobertMoseley]

Had ours since 2015 and it still works fine, it's just stained after the fire.

[@jeffmorrison579]

@@RobertMoseley Funny thing I'm in Pensacola fl with record snow fall and it got cold last night and our heat pump couldn't keep up and it came back on .

[@ScaleModelKitReview]

❤️❤️❤️❤️Sending prayers to you and your family.

[@Jane_Dow]

Bob What areas did your Mom sell her Roses ?? I used to see a very small Lady, that sold roses around some of the little bars. They called her the Rose Lady. She was a very sweet woman. I wonder if it was her, last I saw her was the start of 2000. ????? :~)

[@thunderrobots1980s]

dumps usually have donation stations

[@shadygingergarage]

I feel your pain Bob. Lost my mother in 2008 and my father last year. Still have my Stepfather though. Trying to spend time with him as he is 75 years old.

[@Chipsanity2024]

Probably another fake video

[@neofreak91x]

yes is hard my mother passedway last sunday I already threw all her personal things

[@MahlonbandNet]

It's hard Bob. I get it.

[@joemode101]

Sorry to hear about your mom Bob it’s soFN hard to loose a Parent I just lost my dad 2 years ago he died for his birthday he would of been 73 he was my Hero this Covid thing got him after a mild stroke watched him in hospice died three days after my mom just gave me his gun Collection This Christmas Tore me up Bad so I feel what you are going through

[@raymetcalf3928]

Bob so much could be said... Life is something.. Bless you man!

[@JohnHonda101]

My Mother died 3 days after her 63rd Birthday back in 2010, she was also a smoker her whole life, lung Cancer is what finished her off. Like you I sometimes think of her and feel the pain, sadness and also remember the good times, keeping lots of stuff doesn't help much, all the good times are stored in our heads.

[@Jane_Dow]

Closure If you really cared about someone. Its hard. Sometimes very hard. Depends on the person, but for me, my Mom was the hardest.

[@Andy-in-Spain]

Donate it! People in the CA fires could use them!

[@motercycle80]

Sorry Bob I do understand what you mean been there

[@westtoast74]

One of your better videos in a long time. Glad to see it.

[@nicholasnarcowich9163]

Better go through all that stull, or.... let it go... Not.

[@DoingMoreKustoms]

Well done Bob, cheers.

[@strongandco]

If that dump was in the UK they'd make you wear a hi viz jacket and hard hard hat, there would be brightly painted railings all round that hole, there would be safety signs up everywhere and walkways painted on the floor telling you exactly where you can and can't walk. You probably wouldn't be allowed to take in a trailer that size and you'd have to book a time slot , each time you visited and be restrited to one visit a month. It's an absolute joke.

[@michaelprosperity3420]

Throwing things out in a dump is wrong if it can be donated for others to use. I donated all my parents' things to AMVETS and it took no time at all.

[@rstofleth]

I know exactly how you feel man It's terrible and I felt the same way when I had to deal with my parents especially my mom I felt like I was throwing her away but I wasn't I was ripping the Band-Aid off just move up to the next level move on my mom and dad are in my heart I talk to them everyday but I still have a bunch of stuff of theirs that I'm going through but it's so weird your story with your mom was almost exactly like my mom's story with me only she didn't smoke but my dad did He smoked like a chimney until I think he didn't smoke his last two weeks of life but he was in total hell He had cancer just riddling his body My parents were great people and I love them to death actually to life I feel you bro.........

[@panagiotisharos9625]

😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

[@BlainsTube]

12:04 Same with my mom, only it was a nursing home, November of 2020. 🥲 I feel very strongly that the isolation of so many of our elders contributed to their passing. Bob, I feel you 100% in this video. Thank you for sharing this time with us. I know it dredged up lots of emotions, some good and some bad.

[@user-pq6fi5ny4i]

So sorry for your loss, Bob

[@PAUL-MH]

I stil got my mum shes 70 years old she doesn't look it though she looks so young. But she has major health issues she suffered a brain hemorrhage many years ago so i want to look after her make sure shes not going to have any epileptic seizures. My mums cool like video bobs mum same sort of life. she's a lady that always does things her way we moved around quite a lot when i was a child. We do everything together i take her to dinner take her out and make sure shes okay. She has a ton of stuff in her house it will be hard when she dies going through it all i will miss her so much!

[@Lego9215]

Love bang&Olufsen ❤we just picked up a 2023 audi sq8 prestige and it came with the $5k advanced audio option, the upgrade includes 23 speakers with rising acoustic lens tweeters from the dashboard with ICE power amplifier 1920 watts seriously the best audio I have ever heard. Definitely recommend anyone who loves bang&Olufsen to take a listen

[@damrellbob7914]

You can call various organization I know u are not crazy about good will but if u call them or the salvation army you set it out and they will pick it up no hassle the salvation army helped my family a. Lot after our place burnt down when I was a kid right after Christmas that is why I think they are good to donate to.

[@keepontruckinoutlawlife1248]

So sorry this happened to you. I never knew you worked for Vinnie Paul I would love to have them books you have please don't throw them away. God bless you and your family... remember Vinnie Paul once told me LIFE IS A JOURNEY NOT A DESTINATION... RIP Vinnie Paul Dimebag.. and your sweet mom .

[@SigmaSigmaB]

Nah bro you cannot let them go just cuz they are burnt they still kick ass! And they probably sell good online to your fans man! like i mean your bob man!! Also rip to your mother man and your brothers🕊🕊

[@MASS_ONE]

sorry bob 🙏 sendin love n prayers

[@compactc9]

I have some of someone's ashes. It is a very special thing to have, but I also don't view it as being the person, or not the part of them that matters. That part still exists somewhere alive and well, we just can't interact with them anymore, which is sad.

[@timw8228]

Sorry about your mother. I took care of mine for 4 years and she also had COPD. During COVID was a horrible time. I had to keep everyone out of the house. I couldn't handle her passing away in a hospital from COVID alone. I still have a recording of her talking that I listen to sometimes. I face the same issue with what to do with her belongings. I haven't touched much of anything. After 2 years I finally disposed of her medication. Here locally Habitat of Humanity has a restore that takes donations. I know I'm not donating to Goodwill.

[@mrwicked7]

I'm guilty of throwing away perfectly good or sometimes even new clothes. Between work, family, kids, and everything else there's just not enough hours in a week to do anything extra. I barely make enough time to visit my elderly parents which makes me feel bad too.

[@brianwells4507]

Get yourself out to see them! Even if just to sit and listen to their day? You're gonna regret it otherwise, but moreso they're your parents.

[@bayareaknitter]

I’m really sorry about your mom and brothers. ❤️‍🩹 My parents are in Oklahoma, and my dad is 90. I’m dreading that day. I need to get back to OKC for another visit soon. 🥺

[@Actrealsurprised]

I’m sorry bud. I know it’s hard but we have to go through it.

[@kobbetop]

You never get over the loss I guess. The shock goes away but it stays with you forever. The things that could have been. The stuff reminds you of that in weird ways and I get that it’s better to let go sometimes of useless junk even if it has some meaning to it. Ikea stuff is junk already at the store so I don’t feel bad throwing it in the trash…

[@7.3life]

Know exactly how you feel, I lost my stepdad, dad, mom all under a year in 19-20. Still getting rid of stuff I've kept from them. People say it gets better with time. It doesn't. You never get used to it.

[@ScottBly-vh8mw]

I lost both of my parents in February of 2023. They passed three weeks apart to the day. Going through their house was tough. I finally just walked away from it all. I knew I wasn't going to escrow, so I left the house with stuff still in it. It was just easier than going through every single box and drawer. Going through that process is when it really struck me that life is not only full of firsts, it's also full of lasts. The last time I saw them alive, well and happy. The last time I talked to them on the phone. The last time I walked out of that house knowing I most likely would never walk back in. It's more than just tough and unless someone has been through it, it does seem that just getting rid of it or walking away from it is lazy, selfish or uncaring. For me, walking away was in itself closure. Throwing unopened boxes away, for me, was closure. In a way, therapeutic.

[@plektosgaming]

Every time I move I get rid of almost everything that isn't required. I have about 6-8 bookcases (which do this neat folding trick as well) full of books, CDs, and other things, but I'm working on scanning and digitizing all of those as well. As it is, I can move from one place to another in about 48 hours and about 8-10 trips in my small SUV. But he's 100% right - we hold onto stuff that just doesn't matter. Photos, posters, memorabilia, sure. That old mic stand that sort of works or that printer that only the scanner works stil, or those tools from my dad - those are going next ( because some of the tools are good, but do I really need a separate small toolbox with 20 screwdrivers in it? 4 will do - the others - just donate.

[@tony-yp6qk]

Another great video has always bob and Rachel and pokey bear 👍

[@salieri2121]

Same thing happened to me. My brother has been gone 10 years and I still can’t let go of his third grade report card among other things. It’s just things but it’s their things. I feel like I’m holding onto it until he comes back. But he’s not coming back… ❤

[@showcasecharlie11]

It's extremely hard to let go of things. Especially your parents. When mine passed, it was torture trying to decide what to keep and what to not keep.

[@vinceargado9892]

Dude,, I am so sorry. I know things have been rough for you, losing your family, your house burning down. and whatnot; but trust me when I say that even though it seems hard at times, things will get better. I send my condolences

[@JWjalone]

You are amazing son! Thinking of my son and he tries to call daily but is active in the military.This is very sad and I give you my condolence. Yes I smoke cigarettes, and around the age of your mother… thank you for your time and of the grief

[@skip686]

I understand the process, it's essential. Sorry for your losses Bob.

[@gregrorabaugh564]

Hi, a new look and perspective. You have had your share of bad luck. Donate the good stuff so people that have had bad luck , have some piece of happiness. Just a thought, been in your shoes as far as my mom. I still have stuff in storage. I am going to take the extra time to donate the good items. I know my mom would like to help others.

[@richardc6038]

Bob i going thew the same thing Now i lost my mom jan 6 2025 all those i am liveing with my dad things are Not the same

[@escapetoparadise2226]

Tears in my eyes listening. It’s so true. Live your life the best you can! The whole Vinny empire thing really hit me, like tore down the house ect. What’s left? Music of coarse but when we are gone who cares. That’s tuff to swallow.

[@MG2000MDPHD]

Still have all my mother's handmade quilts and such. After she passed we got sued by my siblings. The oldest one died at 56 pancreatic cancer, a couple of years after suing his little brother that just became a Dad. Karma who knows, does nothing to heal wounds. The other two are still alive. My bro was 15 years older than me had many cool things from the 60s. His wife passed a few years after him with no kids, I guess her family made bank selling his stuff. All I wanted was to hear I'm sorry.

[@diysecuritygear9594]

I feel bad for giving this a thumbs up. I agree though. I like the finality of just throwing it out. Done. Emotionless. Done.

[@Thegogoyears]

My mom and dad died in 2023. Letting go of their things was very hard but extremely important to my mental health and the mental health of my sister and brothers. Like you said, we still have the memories and pictures.

[@LeeTheVet]

Thanks for the update, Bob. Chapters in your life have to be closed at some point. It's emotional, but necessary. Love the red spider web design behind the truck cab.

[@dlions9068]

Isn't the eames chair at 1:34 savable? Doesn't look so bad in the video. That could be taken apart, cleaned and restored maybe? I hope it's okay. Lovely chair that one.

[@SilasChapman]

Really could have gone to be reused by people that’s what we did

[@compactc9]

Letting go of their things is different than letting go of them and what they mean to you, but it's a hard thing to separate.

[@cathpeterson1944]

keep the pictures and sentimental things, your mom was a beautiful person Bob 🤗 hugs to you

[@MrJTRfilms]

Goodwill is a terrible organization

[@charliemartin-k7m]

Maybe so but atleast it’s free to drop stuff off there unlike the dump

[@MASS_ONE]

I cant watch this one tho sry bob n everyone i wanna cry. catch u on the next one

[@alexsystems2001]

My Mom lives with me and has for the last 13 years. It’s had its rough patches but it’s been worth it.