Opinionated Groom Has A List Of RULES For Wife’s Dress! | Say Yes To The Dress Atlanta

Julianne Poe wants a simple and straightforward dress, but has to worry about appeasing her husband who's set her a list of rules he wants her to follow when choosing her dress!
From season 8 episode 5.
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[@mia7065]

Sounds like she needs to say “NO” to the groom. Very toxic start to a marriage…

[@Liz_678]

Agree!

[@mel924]

It`s a double whammy since his Mother backs him. I don`t blame the bride for wanting to elope, she would have had very little say in the planning & so much drama from his family. She should have said NO to the groom & his toxic Mother.

[@betha.6279]

The groom is an immature idiot!

[@teremoanatuau8837]

You are absolutely right!! This is her wedding as well and she has no say in her dress. What the hell!! Girl you need to run!! This is just awful and I believe she will grow to regret not having the wedding to share with her family and friends.

[@tishguzman5116]

Yes...I see domestic violence in her future. RUN 🏃‍♂️ from the guy and his mother.

[@traceyhuntstreasure2890]

Don't worry Mum you will get to go to her next wedding. I can't imagine a strong girl like this will tolerate a control freak for too long.

[@WhirledPublishing]

That's what I said - "within a few years", this CHILD will grow up enough to assert her own identity and enjoy a real man - not some controlling freak show.

[@darcyjorgensen5808]

EXACTLY!

[@Claireannette77]

@@WhirledPublishing I LOVE THE WAY YOU WORDED THAT

[@WhirledPublishing]

@@Claireannette77 Thank you!

[@WhirledPublishing]

@@Claireannette77 That groom's mother took such pleasure in asserting his insane obsession with control.

[@s.w.d4010]

Is this not alarming to her family??? I’ve never ever heard of a groom that had demands about the bride’s wedding dress. That is very controlling on so many levels. Good luck to this woman.

[@missalipally]

I watched her mum’s face when they were talking about the rules the groom had set about the dress and it looked like she wasn’t at all happy about it but didn’t want to rock the boat.

[@karenacton3854]

“He knows what he likes……..”he has worked in a mens store” so he should focus on what he is going to wear, let her choose what SHE likes. She is going to regret so much about this marriage, you can see it in both her and her moms faces. Would love to know how this turned out.

[@carolefraser8194]

Yes and men wear so much tulle don’t they.

[@georgielancaster1356]

@@carolefraser8194 Lol

[@georgielancaster1356]

What year is this? SYTTD just vomits up repeats ad nauseum.

[@brockreynolds870]

@@georgielancaster1356 from 8 years ago

[@brockreynolds870]

I found her on facebook and looked at her wedding pictures. She didn't wear the dress she picked out here. She wore just a PLAIN white strapless dress with no lace, no bling, no embellishment of any kind. It looked like she wrapped a tablecloth around her body and got married.

[@emmad9344]

If I was this bride's mother, I would be devastated she's marrying into such an obnoxious and bullying family

[@opheliajadefeldt9123]

Is this bride too stupid to realise what she's doing.........my dog, unbelievable.

[@maisaperola625]

Amei o vestido com pedraria, lindoooo

[@missmay713]

I would be genuinely frightened for her. These aren't just bully behaviours, they're red flags for abuse.

[@patriciastark1951]

@@missmay713that mother in law is a real piece of work

[@christinatutt3629]

RUNNNNN!! He’s separating her from her family even before the wedding!! And the level of control….HELL NO!

[@jilld6839]

If Jordan is so opinionated about the dress she wears then maybe he should pick out his own to wear on the wedding day 💅🏻✨

[@bebbychad7607]

Exactly what I was thinking!

[@zarahsgarden2097]

Lmaooo

[@anne7192]

All I have to say is Yes. 😂

[@janiemiller6267]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@tamipierce5916]

😂😅😂

[@lisasaunders4835]

The groom's "RULES" ARE ALARMING! BIG RED FLAG! And the fact that the groom's mother is all on board with her son's demands is even more scary! Really makes me wonder if the bride is the one that wants to elope or is that just what the groom wants! Hope she realizes it before it is too late!

[@tinydancer7426]

Eloping doesn't solved the problem of his penchant to control her. BIG RED FLAG that she can't see it because of those damned rose colored glasses she is wearing.

[@kieraethan]

Another big red flag is that he is isolating her from her family and friends. I hope their marriage has been happy.

[@Widdekuu91]

My ex had rules for me, he already decided in his head what I would be wearing, from hair to veil to dress to shoes to make up. I asked if he would be wearing something I liked (did not even know what yet, but I thought of a lengthy dark coat, kindof over-the-hip length and some decorative subtle details on the shoulders) but he said he wanted to wear a shirt, jeans and a tophat and run into the altar (not onto...into) on chop suey. My suggestings on veil (double veil, a very-seethrough one in front of my face) and dress and shoes and hair, he felt were stupid and ugly. He also hated the music I picked out and told me not to hold a bouquet. I never married him or even get engaged.

[@EngelavanWyk-t9u]

The groom and his mom is going to rule the whole marriage

[@thisrebelheart7513]

Sounds like an abusive relationship forming. Controlling what she wears? Really?

[@kimberlydonahue7241]

Also not letting her parents be at the wedding.

[@nathaliedrozdowski6380]

So sad to see that .

[@karaW10]

Right. And the fact that the family were putting his opinion forward so forcefully above hers, 'no straps'...the straps looked gorgeous. A sad situation.

[@kelligray1848]

Exactly what I am thinking

[@marysuekeasler9638]

I agree. He is so controlling that it will lead to an abusive relationship. Seen it happen before

[@cyflym11]

The poor bride's mum spent a lot of time pursing her lips and looking away every time one of the groom's 'rules' was mentioned. I feels she's not happy but is trying to avoid a row because she knows she might not see her daughter again. Even the bride had a sad little moment when the future mother-in-law said "he'd like something a little more form-fitting" but then she said she didn't like the dress. I think she was covering up how she really felt. I've got a bad feeling about this marriage, at least for the girl anyway.

[@dreamsofturtles1828]

This may be a case where Mom has to let her daughter find out the hard way. If she remains loving and neutral, the girl will, hopefully, come to her senses . Who knows how long it will take. We all have our Journeys.

[@Liz_678]

I hope she doesn’t marry him. He and his mother will rule her.

[@snsn7251]

Trouble ahead for sure

[@kalyps30]

For the first dress, when they said that comment, she said she didn't like the dress even before stepping out.

[@melissadurante1450]

Her Mom knows he is no good

[@leo-rp1ps]

if my fiancé tried telling me my mom couldn’t come to my wedding i would’ve laughed and given the ring back immediately

[@suemount6042]

Me too, thousands of ground rules from the groom it would be bye bye from me

[@jzwalz51robin45]

Same for the grooms mom

[@rickysandefur700]

I would show that would husband the door!

[@ScarlettOHara-zn8dn]

Yes, doesn't matter if you elope or not, you can have whoever you want. I'll only marry a man if he is on page with me having a grand princess wedding

[@jzwalz51robin45]

@@ScarlettOHara-zn8dn good luck with that

[@MothmanOnline]

Her smile immediately dropped everytime her MIL mentioned one of her fiancés rules

[@lesliemacpherson3204]

I wish she knew that that nagging feeling inside her is not going to magically disappear after they are married. I hope the best for her, though.

[@lawdeedaw0803]

Run. RUN from that mother in law and her toxic son.

[@amphoteric]

this show needs to have info on abusive/toxic relationships in the dressing room like how bathrooms in doctor's offices do. it's just messed up how nobody said a thing to the bride about this

[@NobodyNobodytrustNobody]

That would be smart yeah

[@kezzokav5905]

Great suggestion.

[@Nadine-bv3jm]

You are not seeing every single second.

[@helentaylor7132]

They're selling wedding gowns--it's not their business. They can have their thoughts though!!

[@marinastrez]

Awesome idea!

[@Doll_Lil5210]

The groom and his mom are waving their red flags. Run!

[@lindahobster7480]

Jordan’s mother has raised a controlling man and we all know where that leads

[@amydumas573]

where does it lead

[@zg2253]

@@amydumas573 abuse, controlling toxic relationship that will never end good.

[@ytubeytube3882]

Instead of being ashamed that she raised a controlling piece of garbage for a son, she is proud of it and enforces his toxic “rules”. I highly doubt that a wedding planner wouldn’t want her own wedding! She said HE didn’t want a wedding and hated her showing him dresses, the eloping was his idea which she agreed to because he is emotionally abusive. Her shame is evident when she sees her mother crying. I hope she leaves him and can do so safely.

[@wiebkke]

And I found the bride’s instagram - still married and mother of two now. I really hope they’re happy and he doesn’t control everything now, too :/

[@JanessaStuckey]

@@wiebkke what is her insta?

[@2ndChanceAtLife]

I hope someone she trusts will explain to her what she's getting herself into. I would avoid him like the PLAGUE.

[@kp4911]

She wouldn't listen if they did, sadly. She's in too deep. As a therapist, I've seen this so many times. At least 1/3 of my clients are people who have been destroyed by narcissistic abusers. Things have to get pretty bad before they will finally leave or the narc discards them for someone else.

[@lauraclaire]

Me too

[@puppypower7166]

But she won't listen shes already in love with him they are gonna be married so why does it matter to y'all

[@Janae2000]

@@puppypower7166 why does it matter? Hun. Let’s stop being naive. It matters because this will influence other woman to think this behavior is ok coming from the groom. It is not. And we must speak against these types of males at all cost to protect future women.

[@mickehogan3230]

Idiot groom probably wanted isolation in a park. r

[@Briael]

If a man is this controlling before you marry, then you run as far and as fast as you can. You are NOT his possession for him to control your decisions and what you wear. I hope this young lady is ok, and has a strong support network around her for when she needs help.

[@charlotteelizabeth12]

The fiancé is throwing up huge red flags already! And his mom is enabling that controlling behavior…

[@Karina_Engr]

I hope this dude see this episode and reads the comments. He should be ashamed for putting those silly restrictions on her like that and sending an enforcer. I can't imagine what happens behind closed doors. 😕

[@robertschwarz8042]

BIG red flag with that groom wanting to control her dress

[@00AppleBlossom00]

His mum is an enabler for sure.

[@lunabelletheinsane]

If my fiancé gave me a list of "rules" for my dress - I'd have a list of reasons to walk away. Trust me that I'm going to choose an amazing dress and love it because I love it. End of story.

[@heatherwolmarans8287]

The definition of eloping is to 'run away secretly in order to get married'. So perhaps not eloping....? And that fiancé sounds SO controlling it's frightening.

[@cyflym11]

It seems to me as if his mother approves of his controlling ways as well. She seems happy to chip in with his 'rules' so the bride doesn't dare stray. The girl loved the second dress then was more or less 'told' that she didn't like it after all. Even with the third dress she wasn't happy until she'd made her change something about it that she liked. She turned it into just another plain strapless wedding dress. So much for 'fashion'.

[@WhirledPublishing]

Well, she'll have her real wedding in a few years - with a real man.

[@kristinracicot]

It really is and why isn’t her mother being so agreeable to her marrying an abuser. No doubt about that, even her mother- in-law is afraid of her son. Why are they running away to marry? Please I know it’s too late but I hope I’m wrong. I hope she’s safe and happy.

[@MBAinternetmktg]

The bride is just as bad, plus throw in the mother-in-law for more drama.

[@kp4911]

@@MBAinternetmktg It's more complicated than that because of the psychological implications of being enthralled to a narcissistic abuser. You lose your identity and everything becomes about pleasing that person because of how they manipulate and gaslight you. They devalue and chip away at you slowly. It's the analogy of the frog in slowly boiling water. You have no idea it's happening until your in crisis. Everyone around you may see it and try to tell you, but you dont' believe it. The best example today is Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. She manipulated him like a pro and his friends and family tried to tell him to slow down, but he refused to see all the red flags and the next thing you know, she played into his paranoia,controlled him, isolated him and separated him from his family.

[@bronwyn117]

OMG. Run! That groom sounds like a control freak.

[@acalkckja]

*I believe we're all aware that any reality show demands a level of drama be included, but I have never seen a comment section with almost 100% agreement that this groom, and his mom, are as toxic as we have ever seen. This episode made me almost grieve for the future of a stranger.*

[@deebrown8133]

That mother-in-law is going to be a nightmare

[@cia1223]

Don’t worry mom, u can be there for her next wedding 😉

[@МаринаАлейникова-ф9ъ]

Finally an optimistic comment

[@brandywineblogger1411]

Excellent comment!

[@deniseandrews113]

Or a witness at the divorce hearing!

[@Herrera_70]

if she's still alive by the time her current marriage ends.

[@puppypower7166]

@@Herrera_70 ik

[@katherinebenitez7401]

If a spouse has “rules”, RUN and run FAST!!!!

[@marials9245]

This screams red flags all over the place, omg. A man deciding what she can or can’t wear? Really? Girl I hope you didn’t go through with the wedding. Also, her mom is absolutely lovely and kind, very supportive of her daughter, no matter what

[@georgielancaster1356]

Someone said they have 2 children

[@nate2759]

@@georgielancaster1356 Sad, bringing children into this unhealthy dynamic.

[@katherinezimmerman6997]

I would agree if he were that controlling with everything she wears (like day to day). I’m willing to give them both the benefit of the doubt for the wedding, though, since it’s for both of them. I’m pretty sure if the bride here said she vetoed certain colors for the groom’s suit no one would bat an eye.

[@tamitami9275]

"He is very Opinionated" His number 1 rule. So so sad for this girl and what is coming!!!!!! Wow she is in danger, and what is worse he is supported and encouraged by another woman, his mama!

[@GreenClean662]

I see Narcissistic traits. controlling, isolating her from those who love her. It will take time for her to see it.. she still naive and young. Sad….

[@shreyabhattacharya4662]

She will spend the rest of her life living up to what he wants. This sort of controlling behaviour is a red flag to me personally! And what bothers me mkre is the groom’s mother sitting there and being the spokesperson for her son when really it should be her telling her son that it is what the bride wants to wear that she should wear and he should learn to respect his wife and her choices

[@beverlystewart1096]

No. She’ll spend the next couple of years trying to live up to his expectations and then divorce him.

[@shreyabhattacharya4662]

@@beverlystewart1096 That is the best case scenario I guess, unless she calls it off ! 🤷‍♀️

[@deztheray8935]

Or they just came up with this narrative for good TV, you got to remember “reality tv” is only loosely based on reality

[@haleytruslow7200]

If a man cares that much about the details of the wedding dress I’d be worried he’s either controlling or gay. Either way, it’s a red flag. My ex was super controlling and abusive and he had a lot of opinions about what I would be wearing if we got married. My current boyfriend would marry me in a potato sack and would barely notice the difference.

[@victoriagriffiths4205]

Well if something happens his mom will never tell. Scary way to start your marriage

[@dreamsofturtles1828]

@@victoriagriffiths4205 She will tell the girl to stop crying & try harder to please her son. TOXIC.

[@betha.6279]

Exactly! My current husband said" what would you like darlin,and how can I help you?" He made my wish for a no stress beach wedding happen and it was very special! My dress was my favorite ocean blue with little water crystals...and not even expensive lol. I picked it out, and he loved it . Maturity in a groom matters!!

[@noblevictory2200]

Did you see what the groom was wearing in the pictures of him? Especially in the picture of the day he proposed..... OMG he's in shorts and a plad shirt and she was in a lovely dress.... Oh but hey, HE KNOWS ABOUT MEN'S FASHION, RIGHT 🤔

[@Southernly]

Probably gay or bi. Men’s clothing store was a big giveaway. No Christian, God fearing man would intrude on his wife this way unless he was frustrated with his own internal turmoil.

[@CAC_1985]

The groom’s mom prioritizing her son’s opinions over the bride gives all kinds of red flags😳😳😳

[@Tammisherry]

"Mom is this breaking your heart?" "Yes" We all know how her heart is really breaking 🥺

[@pollyannaprinciple5860]

So they are basically eloping because "he" wants to elope and she has to pick the type of dress that fits "his" criteria. Seems weird to me.

[@treehouse2902]

I think this is probably the outcome of a family fight, as in, who will contribute how much to the wedding, and his his controlling ways. So the answer was no one goes to their wedding; elopement.

[@pollyannaprinciple5860]

@@treehouse2902 I would probably file for divorce before I got married to him.

[@sarahniccolls4290]

I just can't wrap my head around saying you want simple and nothing flashy, you just want it to be him and you, and then buying a wedding dress. If you want it to be simple, just wear a dress you already own.

[@beverlystewart1096]

Wear jeans and a sweatshirt.

[@eedwards4603]

It would be interesting to see how this marriage turned out. Are the parents paying for this dress for a wedding they aren't invited to?

[@kathyletterman7461]

TRUTH! She will be raising that entitled boy all their lives!

[@bdubs9040]

It was pretty easy to find her on Facebook. She’s still married to him and has been since 2014

[@CasperJonas]

She also didn’t wear the dress??

[@meoshie]

​@@bdubs9040 can you post her profile link?

[@cbisme6414]

It seems she's may have been there more for the advertising of her wedding planning business, but it didn't work out well!

[@MC-qb1jg]

Wow! Say no to the groom and his family. That she would deny her mother to see her get married is heartbreaking.

[@applecoreize]

I can understand the groom having opinions but to actually make rules is going too far imo. This is one decision that should be 99% her choice.

[@fabienneclavier5984]

100%, not 99%

[@psychicangelathomas]

Oh boy! We all know where this is heading. I have never understood why some women opt for a controlling partner. And, to have her future mother-in-law there to enforce her son's wishes is pitiful.

[@angelica7543]

Trauma-bonding..

[@barbararomero3965]

Right.

[@moistsalt]

@@angelica7543 bingo

[@Anne-pk8gs]

@@angelica7543 Flying monkey MIL…

[@debc2019]

Pitiful indeed.

[@melbailey5234]

So basically this bride is not allowed to have her own opinion! It starts with the wedding dress but won't end there... He will be even more controlling once she said 'I DO'. And the mother knows her daughter is so much involved with him that if she would say anything her soon-to-be-in-law will ensure she won't see her daughter anymore. So sad.

[@beeme7515]

The future husband and mother-in-law will rule her life forever. She has my sympathy.

[@emiereardon4618]

Why should he get to decide what she wears? It’s HER dress. She should have walked away. She immediately changed her mind as soon as the mother said the fiancé wouldn’t like it. So awful.

[@breannaxoxo3850]

“He has great taste” but hates everything about wedding dresses and isn’t a woman. He and his mom called lace and tulle netting ffs. He gave her a list of nos and only said yes to form fitting. It’s icky

[@MsWarriordiva]

Mother-in-law is kind of a pain!!!! At least Mom realizes it's her choice! If it looks great on her, he SHOULD love it too!! Don't listen to everyone else!!

[@puppypower7166]

Exactly ik she's gonna regret marrying him but it's her choice

[@blessedlupupa3592]

You can tell the mother is very disappointed with the daughter's choice in everything

[@brandywineblogger1411]

Maybe even the groom? 🤔

[@blessedlupupa3592]

@@brandywineblogger1411 very true

[@riatruthseeker9489]

The groom sounds AWFUL and the mother-in-law is such an enabler, feel sorry for this bride

[@Dreymasmith]

My god, he controls her this much already. Don't walk away from this marriage - RUN. Run now and don't look back. I'm genuinely frightened for this woman and what her future holds.

[@brittanyofhouseblackwood]

"He would like something more form fitting"... that was absolutely disgusting to hear 🤢 and I feel so bad for her! She's settling and this was really hard to watch

[@ummwhattheflipp]

i feel so bad for this poor girl. you can see the way her smile stops as soon as monster in law starts talking. she needs to say "no" to her controlling groom and the mother who's enabling him.

[@Waffles84]

Sounds like her fiancé and his family are very controlling. Comes across like she is not going to be allowed to make her own decisions. This is going to be a very difficult and sad relationship. 😢 She said she only wants to make him happy. She is now going to lose herself in this relationship forever neglecting herself. If he loved her he would have said sweetheart, whatever you choose you will be beautiful in it. I am marrying you not the dress.

[@kathyabraquet578]

Exactly! If she doesn’t like it now, just wait, it’ll double or triple the misery. His Mom is just as bad. You saw the brides face not being too pleased when his Mom brought up the rules. I’m as nice as the next woman, but I don’t think I could had just sat there and not said a word. Her and I would have a come to Jesus meeting in a private room. Surely her Mom has to see what lies ahead for her daughter.

[@puppypower7166]

Exactly

[@noellarash367]

Not only is she marrying the man… she’s also marrying his mother… “Run Girl”

[@Ilovepalmtrees-cx5ms]

So true that includes Karen.

[@dianehail1150]

Mother in law needs to shut up!!!! And so does the groom!!! It’s HER DAY!!!!!

[@moonhunter9993]

He doesn't want her to have HER day... hence the elopement. He doesn't want the dress to make her feel pretty but for him to show he got someone with a nice figure who won't upsurge him. He's a narcissist. RUN.

[@vickimorgan2961]

If the groom is that picky about HER wedding dress, she is in for a lifetime of criticism. Run, girl!! Run!!

[@nancyoyola292]

In my opinion the groom and his mother has no saying on what the bride wears! When I got married the only person I took with me dress shopping was my mom. 43 years later i still stand by my decision!

[@KatiaA436]

Oh her mom knows things the bride doesn’t realise yet.

[@HomebakerN]

What the heck !!! Is the groom....girl open your senses your mom is crying! That silly guy cares for nothing!!

[@phylmar1]

Is she crazy?? Dump this awful fiancé and his Mother!!! Who doesn’t want there own Mother at there wedding, especially a Mom who is as sweet and kind as she is. I could tell

[@phylmar1]

She is as heartbroken Shame on this young woman. You can do a lot better

[@puppypower7166]

@@phylmar1 yeah well she's not gonna listen they are still married and have two kids

[@MrsSlocombesPuddyCat]

Well some people want to elope. Doesn't mean they don't love their mothers

[@dreamyemony]

She's very good at changing her mind to alone herself with the groom's wishes. It's very Stepford.

[@treehouse2902]

If my groom came at my family like that, he's done. So many handsome men in TN and she picks this one.

[@rosesweetcharlotte]

This is very common. Many women feel like they have to have the same opinions as their man. And they find men who will happily go along with it and then get mad when she has an opinion of her own.

[@dreamyemony]

@@rosesweetcharlotte thankfully I found a man who has no problem with me having my own mind and stating my opinion. If we disagree about something I want to wear, how I do my hair, etc his view is, it's your body, it's your decision.

[@catgirl6803]

@@rosesweetcharlotte There's a reason so many women are unopinionated and always say "whatever you want" to their man. They actually don't want us to have opinions. Men would always call me demanding or bossy because I'd speak my opinion when asked. I've had so many friends change their personality every time they'd start dating a new guy.

[@SouthernBelleReviews]

Yes to the Stepford. You could see her face change.

[@MaggieBer]

"he knows what he likes and he knows what looks good on her" ...... yeah nope

[@august1763]

"This is all actually happening. I AM the bride." This poor girl hasn't had it sink it that it's HER wedding too, because no one will let her have any input...such a sad sight to see.

[@dizzymindy6024]

Thank you for giving the mom her moment, it pains me to see the mother of the bride left out.

[@samanthac.349]

I’ve been the bride who wanted to buy the dress that would make the groom happy, and I ended up years later looking at my wedding photos feeling unhappy with a lot of things on my wedding day. It also set a precedence for the whole marriage. I wish I had also not forgotten my own happiness, too. Sometimes, lessons are learned the hard way. I try to pass on that wisdom when I get the chance so other brides don’t make the same mistake.

[@queenoftut]

I get that, honey. I married the man I THOUGHT I loved because I wanted to please my daddy and because I was pregnant. I was literally crying while walking done the aisle. My Daddy said "you don't have to do this if you really don't want to." But I stuck to it just for my Daddy. Since it was a quickie wedding, we hadn't spent a lot of money, but I didn't want Daddy to pay for all of it for nothing. I think the total cost was about $1,500, and even that small amount was over their budget. We made our party favors, which were tiny bottles of soap bubbles with a small wand and birdseed as the "rice," my cake, his cake and all the snacks for the guests. A lot of people from my church were there (about 100). My dress was a style that was popular at the time (1974), the dress itself was a maxi-dress with burgundy as the main background and a pretty beige flower print all over it. It also had some thin lace on the sleeves, and a sweetheart neckline. My veil was a very pretty lace shawl that I pinned to my hair. Unfortunately, my husband threw out all of the wedding pictures in a rage and he burned them. That's how he reacted to get his own way in insignificant arguments. I had one more child 4 years later. The last straw was when he threw out all the cloths that I had saved from my first child, and were being passed down to my younger baby, I filed for divorce and he continued his affair with a married woman at the place where he worked. He had been cheating with her for over 3 years, and she was almost 10 years older than he was.

[@samanthac.349]

@@queenoftut So glad you got out of that situation.

[@MLMLW]

I'd never let my groom be in control or give me rules about what I'd be wearing on my wedding day. That's a huge red flag to me. My husband didn't care what I wore as long as I showed up. Lol. Secondly, I'm heartbroken for her mother that she cannot attend the wedding. I get the couple wants it to be about them and it is their day, afterall. Maybe they'll have a party after they tie the knot so everyone can celebrate.

[@Sew-Ronica]

Momma knows that after the honeymoon phase, all those rules are going to become overwhelmingly restrictive.

[@AmySarahSmith]

The mil should keep his list to herself. It’s her wedding she should choose what she likes.

[@BarbaraBecker777]

I agree. Now we know where the son received his programming from. Hope the couple can fit in marriage counseling in their busy schedule.

[@jujujupiter]

My heart goes out to any woman who can’t make a decision without their partners input. Of course, some decisions a couple makes together, but when a man list his must haves for the woman’s dress, it’s a warning sign.

[@nette49]

NEVER bring your future MIL to shop for your wedding gown! She is pathetic. And her son is obviously just as obnoxious and controlling as his mother. The whole object of choosing a dress is to completely surprise the groom. She needs to be stronger and tell that MIL to hush

[@tinkeramma]

Ironically, my MIL was a much better support than my mother. That's still true 16 years later.

[@linguan1270]

I don’t think she wanted to bring her MIL I think her husband forced it

[@chapstickaddict435]

I'm bringing my MIL. I absolutely adore her!

[@caripete3]

Red flags. Red flags everywhere

[@trudy285]

She's a people pleaser. I feel in some ways I've just been re-introduced to my former younger self. Who's groom and his family put the bride through hell before, during and after the wedding and the divorce. I hope I'm wrong about this sweetheart of a gal. Brightest Blessings to Her!! ☺️✌️❤️🦋🙏

[@joannebewley1338]

This bride seems to be quite satisfied to twist the knife in her mother's heart. She's already being isolated from her family. I fear this is the sign of an abuser. The control he is exerting through his mother is chilling too. His mother seems quite anxious to exact every preference too. She has memorized them all. Somehow I don't think they will manage to choose exactly the right dress. Trouble coming.

[@lindahuelle4362]

If the man I was marrying decided the dress I wanted was not right, I’d dump him in a minute. That just shows how selfish and shallow he is. Btw, she’s beautiful in every one of the dresses she tried on

[@carol_english]

His Mom is a monster/ sociopath. No awareness or clue about the feelings of the bride’s mother. If the son is like that, the marriage is doomed.

[@Supiel]

the eloping thing feels like the grooms influence too, and she doesn't want to be the center of attention....tragic, she should be, she deserves it whether or not her fiance wants a wedding yikes

[@easyveganfoodie]

I felt the same! Maybe she was using elopement was a way to limit the amount of time her family has to spend with him to ensure they don’t try to talk her about of it.

[@BabsChannel]

Lol, you think all women want to be the center of attention on their wedding day? Are you thick?

[@SandraS64]

Talking from experience it’s incredible hurtful not having your mother to the wedding. It still hurts to this day and I can’t get over missing my only daughters wedding, the only chance to be mother of the bride, to sit there and watch her get married and enjoy seeing all the attention on her. Writing this has made me cry yet again 😢😢

[@amandaalbury9817]

Sorry to hear that happened Ruth. Hoping you are okay. NSW Australia

[@SandraS64]

@@amandaalbury9817 Thankyou so much for that Amanda. The worst thing was not knowing why I was excluded. It hurts all the time especially as they had an awful wedding at Las Vegas, it was cheap and nasty and I know before she met her husband she’d never have done that in a million years so I presume it’s him. I don’t know but if she’s happy that’s the main thing but every day it hurts. I have to get over it and not be a misery but it was for girls thinking of doing it please please think of your mums because the hurt lasts for a long time. I’m so grateful for the kind words xxxx

[@amandaalbury9817]

@@SandraS64 Hi Ruth I found your comment tonight I am sorry in delay. You are welcome, hoping it helped. Your situation I hope you can see/speak again some time to your daughter. It is very sad when family turn on each other. I identify with you Ruth in reverse too. It has happened to me with so many family members over decades, it's been more than exhausting. For my preservation, I had to think about me first and again this time, my heart has been injured and causes stabbing pain. After 6 months of assisting parents in 2021 to 2022, they were abusing my kind nature, having moved 2 hours away from my husband, our animals, our home and stopped attending interviews, I went to help them and it was complex in what I did and achieved. They took their.....? on me. I can identify with you Ruth, a hurt heart/headspace causing emotional termoil and yes it is so hurtful, because we are left not understanding why they (said or did) what they said and/or did. Their birthdays are tomorrow and then 2 days after that. I am dammed if I do and dammed if I dont. So I decided late tonight I will call him tomorrow and her two days later, wish them happy birthday, keep it "short and sweet", well that's the plan. As they are unable to see what they did and said to me. I have to look after me first, for my self- preservation. Hugs to you Ruth, from me in NSW Australia

[@SandraS64]

@@amandaalbury9817 my mother turned on me because I separated from my husband. She was vile but turned it all on me. My sister took her side so things were pretty bad until my daughter and her husband made it very clear I wasn’t welcome at their wedding. I was told it was their wedding and they’d have who they wanted so I had no input. I’m ignored by my mothers side of the family and I was suicidal, I couldn’t cope with all of the hurt. I’ve got my sons thank god and my partner plus my dads side of the family so I pulled myself back from the edge and I’ve cut myself off from all 3. I’ve always been weak, I can’t stand arguments and will go out of my way to avoid them, do anything. It ended up me being the doormat. I’ve always been afraid of my mothers temper and it made me weak. Getting there now, but I still have my moments. I’ve always gone out of my way to make sure I wasn’t responsible for someone else being unhappy I can’t bear it. My sister would never answer my calls or speak to me on fb and when I got upset about it she really went for me. Called me Delusional and paranoid but I knew I wasn’t. My mothers doing. Thanks for letting me know I’m not on my own xxxx

[@vb3287]

What is the point of buying a big expensive wedding dress if no one is going to be there to share your day. Did no one in the family see all the red flags that show that she is entering into a controlling relationship, if he is denying your family the chance to be with you on such an important day of your life, he will start to alienate her from all her friends and family.

[@lifesjourney65]

This one has all kinds of heartbreak written all over it. Good luck to her is all I can say

[@samiestewart6109]

I’d be so hurt as a mother not to be included. Could have just had immediate family members for ceremony and go out to dinner afterwards. The finance sounds so controlling and I’m sure this won’t end well. The mother in law sounds like trouble. I don’t know how she could hurt her momma like that.

[@elizabethbatten8514]

He made her choose between him and her mother. Classic abuser isolation move.

[@writerinprogress]

Exactly. Me and my husband didn't want a big, grand wedding either, so we decided to get married in a beautiful tropical garden in Hawaii, 1,000 miles from where we live in the UK - but we saved the money that would've gone on the reception venue and other fancy bells and whistles for a more 'public' wedding, and spent that instead on paying for all of our immediate family to come out to Hawaii with us. It was wins all round - we got the no-fuss, private wedding we wanted, and our family got to be there too AND have a great mini-holiday out in Hawaii.

[@oldageisdumb]

@@writerinprogress That’s the way to do it. Just because you don’t want a big, traditional wedding doesn’t mean you have to exclude your family

[@ДушаМитровић]

Never saw a girl being so cruel to her mum like this one. 😢 Poor mum

[@joyceyoung9571]

How selfish of both of them not to include their parents. Her poor mother looked absolutely heartbroken.

[@Samantha-dv4je]

He seems abusive. Watching this gave ME anxiety, so I can’t imagine how she must feel

[@darleneparker6111]

List of rules? That's a big No for me. Controlling you before you're married. Run!

[@rachelmm05]

This episode is from a few years ago.. I'd love to hear an update with her and her husband... I understand the idea of not wanting a overly complicated wedding, but to elope away from family doesn't make sense.. They could've just gone to the court house or justice of the peace, get legally married there and move on. Maybe have a reception ,nice dinner or party afterwards. She such a beautiful young lady I hope she found her voice in the marriage if not she will lose herself trying to always appease her husband.

[@Loeka]

A quick google search shows that they're still married, with a kid

[@L.Spencer]

She looks happy. Didn't wear this dress, though. And it looks like they had a big reception, his fb has a pic of him dancing with his mom.

[@ceramicvases]

i was pretty shocked she's only 33, time has not been kind to her

[@lisamelroy2855]

@@ceramicvases Walking on eggshells all the time can do that to a person.

[@onytha99]

@@L.Spencer what is his fb?

[@alimichalkan8046]

Goodness gracious it is difficult when you are not even able to control your own life. How can you allow a man or someone else to dictate what you wear?

[@marysheffield190]

I don’t know why they couldn’t just have immediate family so their parents could see them get married in Colorado, then go to a nice restaurant to celebrate. When I got married, my Grandfather at age 90 out danced everyone else. I’m so grateful I was there to see that.

[@georgielancaster1356]

How long ago was he 90? Was he a WW2 vet? (I'm a bit nerdy)

[@lisamelroy2855]

What a lovely memory to have of him! 😊

[@ZukiChrome]

As a dude that was in a narrcistic, controlling relationship for 5 years, the minute I heard "...sent me with rules..." tons of red flags went up and I cringed. And it started out with "...I have some rules..."

[@krisztabucsi2954]

If the groom is so toxic and controlling over what is she wearing he will control her whole life! This is a major red flag. Apparently they are still together but she didn’t choose this dress after all 😅 probably he didn’t like it.

[@onytha99]

how do you know? tell me her ig pls🙏

[@guldenakdemir2493]

Yep, she doesn't want all the attention on her yet she is leaving the most important people out of her life out. I would not be as supportive as her mom and would have had a lot of conversations about the red flags in her future son-in-law. If I am not going to be able to attend the wedding, I am out so you can do it all on your own.

[@lisaparrey1343]

yes she could have just had a wedding with parents or close family, even away like where they are having it but very selfish to shut out your family

[@jacquelineduran8213]

This girl will never have an opinion and he will ultimately separate her from her family, he’s already doing it. He is dictating how they will marry and cutting her family from the weeding. This is her little girl and mom has been waiting for this moment giving her daughter away. . Mother in law was a jerk.

[@mlp-violet-star]

So many red flags I thought the Fire Nation was attacking.

[@ginasalazar7761]

You already know she will be controlled by her mother in law and husband. What a way to start off a marriage 😥

[@judyterrell3692]

Oh boy let's see how long this marriage lasts

[@Y2K-3]

they've been married for 8 years now and have two kids :(

[@EadsB7002]

@@Y2K-3 disturbing... it only gets way worse once kids are in the picture too

[@emmetlover206]

@@Y2K-3 The poor girl. I hope she has any the power over any part of her life.

[@ramenomirice2767]

Well you will be surprised how many women stay in abusive marriages. He is controlling and she loves it don't think why it wouldn't last .

[@viridia1526]

@@ramenomirice2767 it’s hard to get out of abusive situations. Especially if you think it’s ‘tough’ love or something.

[@sciencechus7243]

A groom should appreciate anything the bride wears that makes her feel good and beautiful

[@ABC-pr7rb]

Poor Mumma. To miss out on her Daughter's Wedding. I bet it was the controlling Groom who chose the no guest rule. The Groom and Mother In Law is so controlling. She will never have a say in her life. It's disgusting

[@jworth7203]

Red flags everywhere on this. Hope she’s okay. 🥺

[@sheristewart3940]

My advice to this bride, "Run from that control freak!"

[@McCarthy0000]

So nice of the consultants to show the party what would have been if bride had a big wedding, since they won’t be involved on the actual day.

[@kimberlypatterson3568]

Wanted something just for us. We got married at the courthouse with a couple close friends as witnesses. I wore a wreath of flowers in my hair and a white long sundress and held a small bouquet of flowers the groom wore a suit and tie. It was perfect for US…BUT getting married is a union of two families! I had my mom plan EVERYTHING for our church wedding and reception afterward. My mom even chose my wedding dress because she has incredible taste! My mom got the church wedding and reception she always regretted not having with my dad. We all had a blast and EVERYONE was included. It’s so important to allow your loved ones to celebrate in your new union. ❤

[@debstone2154]

Nightmare groom, nightmare mother-in-law. If this was my daughter, I would be very concerned.