JORDAN PETERSON | The "Peterpan" Analogy (Lecture)

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[@SchoolofPeterson]

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[@icebreaker9006]

TURN TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST BEFORE ITS TOO LATE, GIVE YOUR LIFE TO HIM AND START WALKING IN OBEDIENCE, WITHSTANDING FROM ALL SIN AND WICKEDNESS, JESUS SAID THE PATH TO HEAVEN IS HARD AND NARROW, AND FEW FIND IT. MATTHEW 7:13-14, HEBREWS 5:9, JOHN 14:15, MATTHEW 7:21-26, 1ST CORINTHIANS 6:9-10, JOHN 3:16-21, JOHN 10:7-8, MATTHEW 10:26, AND LUKE 13:5. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

[@ryaniverson3555]

peter (PAN) !!! PAN GOD 😤 !!!

[@traviselrod7803]

Here is a theory I have...Peter Pan will eventually become an equivalent of Captain Hook and Captain Hook used to be an equivalent of Peter Pan. Look at the way Captain Hook lives his life. He has a group of men that he is in charge of, all of them behaving immaturely, and Captain Hook lives in fear of time. Peter Pan is essentially living the same way. He has a group of boys he is in charge of, behaving immaturely and Peter Pan lives in fear of growing up. As time eventually gets him (gets older) and if he does not mature, he will be clinging to his childhood that he wants so desperately, becoming more tyrannical over his men as his fear increases, living in even more fear of time.

[@thomasbledsoe4251]

I agree with your assessment. Boys who don't grow up become insecure men

[@Baalaaxa]

That's a good theory. In a sense, Peter Pan and Captain Hook are one and the same. Just one version is the past, and the other one is the future him. And he is his own worst enemy. They are two sides of the same coin, a boy who never grew up and a man who escaped his responsibilities.

[@CoreIntegrity]

Agree! I think it is understood as a split archetype. My father was a hook figure and I had dynamics with men that had a Peter Pan like quality: magical and fun but basically immature. When their shadows arose though it was just like father, even if the conscious identity was more “pan” than “tyrant”.

[@9w96b6]

Very thought-provoking!

[@proletariatpashka1956]

you’ve done a better job than jbp

[@abramjessiah]

i'm 37 and feeling his words hit hard. Because of him I'm doing the hard things to make that change though. It's never too late.

[@1995yuda]

Holy shit, man. I'm 29 and feel like you do lmfao. I just cannot decide what I will be doing for the rest of my life, it's an impossible question. But like JP said - either you choose, or it chooses you.

[@charlottetheartist327]

it's alright guys. It's already something you can do your good at and makes you different....it's something you might have silenced long ago and feel better towards others about doing. But I now have finally discovered that when I was 5 and wanted to write Children books I had something there. I never thought of it but when I was bored I would doodle stories and at random times in my life. I now finally am a copywriting author on Amazon and Barnes and noble. Charlotte Orterb, the butterfly and the coconut tree. Writing Rabbit. Richard the world's fastest whale. 5 🤩 stars

[@1995yuda]

@@charlottetheartist327 Hey Charlotte😁 Thank you so much for the uplifting message, that's kind of you. I looked up your books on Amazon and they're adorable, judging by the description and reviews. If I had kids I would've got some haha... I'm so happy for you that people like them! I think it's incredible that you've decided to do what was in you ages ago and just took action and made it happen... JP always says it's a good idea to re connect to your inner child once you've matured enough to do it in a healthy way. Since I wrote that comment two days ago, I had some time to think deeply about things. I decided to open a Philosophy and Mysticism KZbin channel. Those subjects make me happy and I get lost in them like a child, like you do with writing children's books! It's time I do something I am drawn to and believe in, but of course I have a business model around it so it's rewarding when it comes to money. I don't know if you though about it, but you can open a youtube channel where you read the books you've written to kids online, and you can use illustrations software like Doodly. I think there is demand for that, and this can be very lucrative if done right and consistently. This can also be a way to sell more of your books by getting exposure. Just an idea for you to think about. Thanks again for taking the time out of your day to write such a caring message to a stranger🙏 If you're a mother, I bet you are the best mother in the world❤

[@arycochet9904]

Good on you man!! 💪💪

[@charlottetheartist327]

@@1995yuda awesome 😎 I'm going to subscribe to you. And if you Google " Richard the world's fastest whale....." My only attempt to making videos about my book SHOULD POP UP. LOL. I WILL DO THIS SHARING FOR CHILDREN. I LOVE THAT YOUR SUGGESTION WAS A REALLY GOOD ONE. UPLIFTING AS WELL GOOD LUCK GOOD VIBES. WITH YOUR NEW PATHWAY IN LIFE!!!(THE BUTTERFLY AND THE COCONUT TREE WAS ILLUSTRATED FOR CHILDREN AND WRITTEN FOR THEIR PARENTS. BASICALLY MY BOOKS ARE FOR ALL AGES. I AM A MOM AND I TRY TO BE MY BEST, THANKS FOR YOUR VOTE OF CONFIDENCE. YOU JUST GOTTA STAY "IN THE DIRECTION OF PERFECTION"

[@susandrydenhenderson6234]

I’m a 63 year old woman. He describes my downfall exactly. I had lots of potential. At school I found all the subjects and all the sports laughably easy and everything interested me. So how could I choose anything in particular to pursue? I drifted. Likewise, the men I encountered. None ever committed properly. I was attractive, popular and happy, life entertained and interested me. Then quite suddenly, it seemed, parents and siblings died, all my friends were absorbed by their large family circles and successful occupations and I am absolutely alone for weeks at a time without any visible achievement and no selling points. Heed the warnings Jordan gives.

[@TheLastSecretGarden]

I'm experiencing this at 34. I suddenly lost both (all) of my siblings last year, and now my parents are seemingly unbearably old. I no longer have my siblings for company and comfort. It's become absolutely essential for me to have children / start a family, but it feels like it's already too late, and my partner isn't ready. The only friends around are the ones who don't want children. It's a very weird place to be.

[@toddleahy8002]

@@TheLastSecretGarden unbearably old ? They gave you life.

[@TheLastSecretGarden]

@@toddleahy8002 Congrats on missing the point of what I wrote entirely. Good lord.

[@toddleahy8002]

@@TheLastSecretGarden I'm missing the point lol you don't get the basics but keep on working at it.

[@TheLastSecretGarden]

@@toddleahy8002 Oh my god, your reading comprehension skills are insane. By "unbearably old" I meant that they are so old that it brings me immense pain at the thought of their remaining mortality. Once they die, I have no one. I have no siblings, I only have my parents. When they die, I am alone. I love them deeply, and they are old - almost 70. The pain of that reality is unbearable to me. It's a turn of phrase, not derision. Understand?

[@christianjoachin4639]

I’m genuinely jealous of everyone who had him as their teacher 😢

[@Reac2]

Or father/family

[@normaaliihminen722]

@@Reac2 i would be blessed to have him as my teacher.

[@icebreaker9006]

TURN TO THE LORD JESUS CHRIST BEFORE ITS TOO LATE, GIVE YOUR LIFE TO HIM AND START WALKING IN OBEDIENCE, WITHSTANDING FROM ALL SIN AND WICKEDNESS, JESUS SAID THE PATH TO HEAVEN IS HARD AND NARROW, AND FEW FIND IT. MATTHEW 7:13-14, HEBREWS 5:9, JOHN 14:15, MATTHEW 7:21-26, 1ST CORINTHIANS 6:9-10, JOHN 3:16-21, JOHN 10:7-8, MATTHEW 10:26, AND LUKE 13:5. GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

[@hiitstam]

Well you now have him as a teacher too! 🙌

[@josephpa05]

It’s crazy how much he has changed

[@Colten133]

"You're sacrificial whether you like it or not." Very profound Dr. Peterson.

[@MrTambourineMan.]

Reminds of Bob Dylan saying “No one is free, even the birds are chained to the sky.”

[@taylorpatton1359]

Whether you realize it or not

[@palmereldritch7777]

Oh my, i don't worship the old Abrahamic god of Sacrifice your own Child and obey. Nor the one killing a lamb to seek advantage - poor lamb indeed, Christian god was always a baby eater. I'll run along with Apollo and Dionysos. Ah, they had some cruel stories too, but only for refusing to partake of life and enjoy it. Well, not Cassandra, but she fornicated with Apollo out of Pride, not out of Pleasure.

[@nartmaxxing]

Christ.

[@nartmaxxing]

@@palmereldritch7777 Most coherent pagan. Your knowledge of the bible is limited.

[@malloriegoodwin342]

as someone whose childhood will be officially ending in roughly a year and a half, this was oddly comforting

[@siddeshpatnaik794]

enjoy your last year of bliss, you won't get it again

[@icookfood5680]

It's comforting to hear at 40

[@lasthope3237]

How old are you

[@TheJimbo1791]

Siunds like you are 50

[@theotherside6436]

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[@keithandersen5013]

"who the hell wants to be Captain Hook? First of all, he has a hook..." lol.

[@aiduff8607]

Siiiiiick!

[@thee1337noob]

“Plumbers, they’ve saved more lives than Doctors.” 🙏🏼

[@blyntzbugg]

So true

[@Suscida]

I'm 33, he's talking about me and I've known this to be the case for a number of years now, I'm the Peter Pan of my social group. I used to be viewed as popular and driven despite still being quite Peter Pan like, I had a lot of interest from women around my age (and older) but over the past 5 years the only interest has been from much younger women and even they aren't interested for long once they discover how little I have to show for myself. I became 'comfortable' and didn't have to work properly for money from my mid 20s and it really sapped my drive, it's led to a real lack of drive and it's a real rut! Can't complain though I have a nice life and for everything else only myself to blame. Thanks Peterson

[@k1xnt]

it's never too late. i was the see way up until about 27 when my daughter was born. not that I'd advocate parenthood as a means of 'snapping out of' being a man-child (unlike my situation, atleast you're aware of the problem) but it definitely lit a fire under my ass. i know they're complete Chuds, but listening to people like Jocko, David Groggins and even Joe Rogan motivated me a lot to get to the gym every day and attack daily life. it's been a month, hopefully you've made some changes since commenting. leave those young girls alone though lol, that sort of dopamine hit and the following withdrawal is as bad as any drug. an easy cycle to get caught in

[@thegregorymacurpodcast8696]

"Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who somebody else is today." That is one of his rules. Small incremental gains become cumulatively beneficial. Start making some sacrifices today, start small. Good luck.

[@DCWoodWorking]

You seem very aware of your current situation. That means you know how to fix what needs to be fixed.

[@marialuizadeoliveira4784]

It’s never too late.

[@1995yuda]

@@k1xnt You rock dude. God bless you.

[@KeithCasey973]

Fan Theory; Wendy’s father is a character manifestation in Captain Hook. This isn’t important for Pan, but for Wendy. Wendy is by far ready to grow up when you see her sing to the lost boys. Peter Pan sits in his room alone upset, while wearing the Indian outfit. He still wants to play and try roles without committing. This is also why Peter Pan avoids Wendy’s kiss in the beginning. Also notice he seeks out Wendy, because she possesses his shadow. Perhaps a women are the biggest reason we as men wise up and mature.

[@anastasia-fr1gn]

Interestingly, in play productions of Peter Pan the actor who plays Mr. Darling also plays Hook. Disney continued this in the animated movie and the live action movie did as well.

[@andrewrivera190]

I think that’s very profound. When looked at from Biblical sense Husbands are commanded to love their wives. Over the past few years I have been thinking what that means and I’ve realized that one of the elements is becoming a man of strong character to support your wife. That what love is, it’s sacrifice, but when you sacrifice something you do gain something in return. We sacrifice time and energy for skills and knowledge. Hence picking your sacrifice. The saying is woman challenge men and men challenge the world or something like that. I am not sure if I am interpreting this right but to me it sounds like “Woman cause men to see their own insecurities so in response men challenge the world to overcome those insecurities and in the process gain the attention of the woman.” I know people gag at traditional gender roles these days but traditional roles are a mark of maturity. The thing is, I think real maturity isn’t making these choices because society says so but more about contenting with them and carving your own path but in a way that not only benefits you but the people around you too. The problem is, if Pan is the immature boy then tinker bell is immature woman. Tinker bell is obsessed with her appearance and is superficial and tries to get Wendy killed because she Peter Pan would mature if he ended up with Wendy. These day girls are selling their bodies on only fans to man children. The man children get false intimacy and the tinker bells get money and false gratification.

[@ross9865]

You should chek out original version of peter pan

[@lesliezeihan8497]

Thank you for your contribution to our lives!! This is such a great video! I am 63 and was a manager in a grocery store in the Natural Vitamin Dept! I worked hard for that position. Then after a rotator cuff surgery of my right shoulder, I did not feel like I was physically able to properly perform the tasks needed, (also had terrible complications with my hand from the surgery) and so decided to step down and just try being a cashier. It actually pays almost as much as I was making, but not all the responsibility. Well, I am rediscovering the child in me as to what is next? This position is actually more physically demanding than I had thought, so, I am trying to reinvent myself again at 63. Not easy!! Like you said, people look and you and just do not see any potential. It is now my job to help new employers see me as an asset to their business because of my life experience! Also, I want to send you my prayers for you and your wife. Also, your sweet daughter whom I also love to listen to!

[@humberttoller3593]

I hope you still doing good

[@charlottetheartist327]

I hope you are also. Sending prayer to you and others like you.

[@metagen77]

This is why some people hate him, they can not tolerate being shown their reflection.

[@carolmiddlehurst5484]

Cop out answer

[@metagen77]

@@carolmiddlehurst5484 Got a bad feeling about yourself?

[@Keys879]

100%

[@davidrobinson9507]

People don't hate him because they don't like being shown their reflection, sorry you are wrong. Educated people pity him because he's a pompous idiotic word rattling constantly upset trouble monger and a detriment to the advancing of civilization. He was so unhappy growing up that he decided to take it all out on his society with his makey- uppey theories. He's like a televangelist without a Jesus. I get more meaningful messages reading cardboard signs .

[@Kel__C]

@@carolmiddlehurst5484Haterrrr. Looks like he described you.

[@Baalaaxa]

As a kid, I loved to watch Peter Pan. As a man, I love to watch Peterson.

[@raystargazer7468]

Peterpanson.

[@aservant1284]

@@raystargazer7468 Peterson Pan

[@hshshudhdh6533]

lol

[@Isakamunavi]

Peter son

[@Isakamunavi]

Pan Pete son

[@michaellewis8876]

As a Canadian because of you I've rethought of ending it you helped me jordan peterson trying one day at a time.

[@ryanh.2078]

It's a wonderful thing that everyone can see something different in a story. That's what makes each and everyone in this world so special, Is that we all see different things in a story or have different favorite parts or relate to different things in a story. Everyone has thier say and though some may be more popular than others it's okay because somewhere out there another person understands and likes your take on it. It's an amazing world.

[@BlackSlimShady]

Always come back to this! Great video

[@animaniacjokerman95]

Student: May I use the bathroom? Jordan Peterson: This is the Peter Pan story...

[@gtxcaliber760]

Thank god i found this guy at 20, especially with no figures to look up to, let alone father archetypes. Im also joining the military and have felt a calling to becoming a good adult man, but peterson always puts it into a good perspective in a way where i can verbalize those emotions and thought processes that I've felt over a long period of time. I definitely know what it's like to feel like a Peter pan but i know what it's like to feel freedom from that mental cage, even at my young age, I've never felt like staying a child was a good thing but was afraid of sacrifice until a certain point. Instead I'd carry this nihilistic point of view which certainly didn't help. It took me a while to find and experience the upside to sacrifice and hard work, feeling that gratifying sense of accomplishment towards a goal that would better my situation in the world and towards my development was really an awakening to me. It told me I'd better wake the hell up and pay attention, cause if not then the world will pass right by, then one day im gonna wake up in pure misery at age 30 wishing i could start over, and by then it's really hard to recover. And so in many ways I understand what he's talking about, not only conceptually but through my own experiences in life. So i use my experience and findings to help other younger kids or my fellow peers who are in their own ruts, of course nobody can truly solve someone else's problems and it's very dependant on if they wanna listen to you or not. But you can always point them in the right direction or lead by example, then maybe they'll open up and you can show them where to look. Anyways, that's my TED talk. Psychology sure is an amazing subject and i love to learn about it.

[@technikal270]

The military would be proud to have someone like you. For the smart, fit, and disciplined the military is their oyster. Do not fool yourself into thinking you are none of those things, you are all that you want to be and become.

[@karna5998]

I'm turning 20 next month, I feel like I'm wasting away my days by just escaping from what I need to do. I know on a logical level that it is necessary to have a goal and to keep working towards it, but on a emotional level I have a tendency to go "eh I'll do it eventually"

[@LucasChosen]

Im in the exact same position now. I hope it worked out for you, and I hope it does for me.

[@tangbein]

You're still young. Don't waste your 20's. It is the most defining decade.

[@orton4357]

@@tangbein worst thing to say that he is young, you give him an excuse for not doing anything, obviously he will not do anything with such attitude. I myself 25, yesterday I was 20, and I feel like nothing has changed for known reasons, so you need to do something now, you will be older and see how kids do so many things and go ahead that you may only envy, start doing something and good luck

[@tear728]

For the love of God don't do that - smack that part of yourself out of you and find something you love doing. Most of my friends put in ZERO time or effort to develop themselves in any meaningful way during their 20s. Rather they spent their time playing video games, goofing off, and working deadend jobs. Not one of them ever had any less opportunity than the other - they just chose to waste time. Now that we are all turning 30, these same individuals are as miserable as they have ever been. They did not take advantage of their time and they are paying for it dearly. It's very hard to see. If having a specific goal is hard, at least have a vision of your future that can be pursued tangibly.

[@applianceshop]

20-30 years do some stuff to get you going but for thelove of god have fun

[@Dommie222]

What makes Hook a great movie is due to the toptic of this video: that Peter Pan realizes that he has to move on from being a forever child in Neverland and finally grow up, sacrificing a careless but also a meaningless and superficial life in Neverland for a responsible but also more full-filling life as a grown-up family man surrounded with loved ones, while Captain Hook becomes the man-child who refuses to grow up and move on, and though sacrifices the chance for a new life in order to continue his pointless and downright childish fued with Peter, only to end up as a lonely and broken man with nothing to show for the life-choice he made.

[@veerchasm1]

If you ever look into the origins of the Peter Pan story Jordan’s words take on a more powerful meaning

[@gun3ro]

I am a foreigner living in Thailand and I can see this Peter Pan Story every single day. People over 30 or even much older, which couldn't take the turn and stayed in their 20s, hanging around bars, talking to girls, no responsibility or whatsoever.

[@juliuscaesar1062]

It's a trade-off, im the end everything is neutral

[@AverageAngel]

You mean Peter Pan for the men in Thailand?

[@tangbein]

Could be a lot of men who have divorced their wives and just aren't interested in white women their own age.

[@rickshae1525]

There are not many responsibilities worth bearing in the contemporary western world.

[@danielgriff2659]

meh, I blame feminism. Women offer nothing but misery these days. Why choose voluntary slavery? For kids? So I can father a child that will hate me because the schools taught them to? No thanks.

[@therearenoshortcuts9868]

Peterson vs Peterpan never a dull moment

[@markferguson7563]

Dr Peterson, I'm a veteran public speaker of 45 years. I first spoke publicly at the Sydney Domain and a slew of venues since them. As it occurs your Peter Pan dissertation is a parallel of what I have espoused on a few occasions over the past 30 years. So it's pleasing to find someone of your calibre expressing the same genera. As for students getting into debt it, too, is something I've been duly condemning here in Australia.

[@1995yuda]

Wow, that's incredible man! To share that line of thinking with peterson is no joke!

[@paulinesmagic9591]

I wish I had found Jordan Peterson when I was younger. I would have had better insight on life and decision making as an adult.

[@simonjbrand]

What he conveniently omits is that often with these adult children he's decrying there are adults who consciously and unconsciously strive to keep these wo/man childs in their stunted infantile and infantilised state. 'Adult children' are often conscious of this situation but when they are having to resist with their immediate circle these dynamics it's very hard, often extremely hard to break away from this environment. It takes years and years and that is if they are successful in 'escaping' this pervasive invisible force field.

[@WimblesElderberry]

my faourite part in peter pan is when wendy talks about wanting to be a wife and have a family. that part really stuck out from my childhood. ill never forget the dragon of chaos with a clock in his stomach, it left such an impact thank jordan beef peterson.

[@vincentg150]

How can you not take one sip of that matcha shake for an entire 8 minutes?

[@joesgotya9930]

Here’s where I’m kinda lost with this…. Iv lived in CA my entire life (I don’t recommend btw) and I have worked with a lot of Latino/Hispanics within a multitude of different jobs… They are great guys and they work their asses off, never complain and love their families…. Here’s is the thing … a lot of these dudes are 26-34 and live with their parents. I’m not even just taking about single males, but also married guys with kids…They live under the roof of their folks and nobody would dare accuse these guys “failing to launch” as adults, but when a white American guy finds himself under his folks roof for “whatever” reason, he’s a failed, outcast?? …. Like WTF? .. is that Peter Pan?, or do white baby boomers like to talk down to a generation they don’t understand themselves?

[@leeluv96]

No, many cultures have multiple generational households. It's normal.

[@tear728]

I'm not going to say having your independence is not important or that its not important for you to develop as a person away from your family. That being said, the way our culture idealizes this is extreme and I think you are right in associating it with baby boomers. They come from a time where the US was at a peak growth cycle - this is when you could move away from your family with an ordinary job and not live paycheck to paycheck. It was Manifest Destiny 2.0 and there was money to be made anywhere. My great-grandfather raised his family and could afford a house in LA during the 50s as BARBER. So, unsurpisingly that sort of scenario became the normal expectation for adults. However we are in the opposite position. We are in a major decline cycle right now. I live in SoCal so I know what it costs. 2.2k a month for an average apartment. Average home price is 750k. $6 gas prices, high food costs, stagnate wages. I don't know many people that truly live on their own. They are either at home still, have roommates, or are married. Even some of those who are married still live with their parents. Unless you make a really great living, it's very difficult to live by yourself here. That's just the time we live in. "Communal" living will become more common simply out of necessity. Until there's another growth cycle of course.

[@anastasia-fr1gn]

I think it also depends on if they are contributing to the household. Eventually though, I think it’s ideal for them to buy their own land/property.

[@susandrydenhenderson6234]

You are taking “leaving home” too literally. It’s about a psychological and emotional maturity. You can practically contribute to the economics of your family home and become an asset rather than a burden without physically leaving the building. You can leave the building for another city but still be an emotionally and practically dependent child.

[@Lasaro7499]

Im single living with my divorced mom. Let me tell you living with parents is normal in every culture except white. In my book its ok as long as you are pulling your own weight financially and have a life. As for couples with children living with grandparents, it has been normal for thousands of years. A social construct wont change it. The part that may get tricky is when inlaws get too involved in the marriage. When a white tries to shame me about living with mom, i ask them if they have an extra 1000 a month to pay for my rent. I rather have that money in case something comes up.

[@nasaman23]

Idk why choosing to keep your inner child is labeled as a disorder...

[@avacadonacho]

There is definitely something to be said about that.

[@JoshAlicea1229]

Well, when you try to carry your childhood around in the big world, the child inside us tends to complain that the world is too hard. Then, we fail to mature because that child is pulling on us to stay. But if we put it away somewhere safe until we have properly weathered the world into maturity, we can eventually go back, (usually after becoming parents), and we can recapture the child inside of us- and we can enter the Kingdom of God properly formed.

[@DoglinsShadow]

Thank you for uploading this

[@jameshusentoff2953]

This is 100% my friend Greg. He is a substitute teacher and said oh I could have been a doctor if it wasn’t for my injury. He has recovered from his injury years ago. His brother is 30 and doesn’t work and his parents enable it. He just plays video games all day. No idea what they are going to do when their parents pass away.

[@yeeticus7206]

I used to think this about my friend, I just found out he’s starting therapy. I’ve come back to this video to finally send it to him because I know he needs to see it. Ur friend deserves to see this video even if he takes offence to it

[@gregorypaul3228]

One of the best anologys....in lfe. Hands down. Hook is my favourite film too.

[@andreshernandez1180]

Peter Pan is the bad guy though. The original play was going to be called “Peter Pan the boy who hated mothers” but they changed it to “Peter Pan the boy who wouldn’t grow up” to avoid getting the mothers of the kids who would see the play upset. He kidnapped kids and when they grew up (because they actually never stop growing up) Peter would kill them. Hook is supposed to be a kid who escaped getting killed.

[@maisondav1d]

What? Is this JM Barrie novel you're talking about?

[@andreshernandez1180]

@@maisondav1d From the original play, before the novel.

[@andreshernandez1180]

@@maisondav1d The original play was actually called *Peter Pan the boy who hated mothers* and although it’s catchy he realized moms taking their kids to see the play wouldn’t approve so he changed it to *Peter Pan the boy who wouldn’t grow up.* There was no Captain Hook originally either.

[@piyushgoenka6087]

I watch this video everyday at night to keep reminding myself not to stay Peter Pan for the rest of my life and to convert my pluro-potentiality into the actuality of a frame

[@waterbourne9282]

The universities are Pleasure Island. 🎯

[@RidiculousReviews-ii9ky]

This hit hard. I'm a grown ass man who loves videogames, then my baby was born. I still foolishly bought a Nintendo switch and PS5 and tons of games on sale. I saw another sale recently and reality hit me like a ton of bricks: even if my favorite game/s where free today, what will happen after I download them? They are not getting played in the foreseeable future. I'm considering leaving the hobby altogether, I want to change careers and earn a living by doing something drastically different, if I ever want to do that while caring for my daughter and still keep my current job (during the transition) I have to get rid of this distractions. Instead of having fun with videogames, I am enjoying the happy times with daughter(she's in the terrible two's so it's a little rocky LOL)

[@tional5266]

Pan is an ancient god that blocks maturity- especially spiritual maturity

[@李广鸣]

It's really the sum up of my last decade !

[@TheClassicWorld]

Jordan spoke about women as judgements (as ideals are judgements). But, he is also a judgement, of sorts, as men can be. For example, Jordan's judgement made me quit porn -- namely, things like this (among other things, such as health, my own sense of morality, and some other sources). His comment on Tinkerbell in this video is completely crushing.

[@kevinmael3862]

I remember when I was in my early 20's I was desperately trying to find experience to avoid being the 30 year old with no experience.

[@matthewmurphy5429]

That narrow period of restriction and growth is a term I use and personally had called thresholding!! Enduring the restraint untill it passes to become stronger once it resides

[@HoneyPleaseBeSerious]

I love these metaphors. Late 40's now. I barely made choices by the skin of my teeth.

[@yolodolo9143]

Good to know I'm doing atleast 1 thing right in my life.

[@souza151]

Title: Puer Aeternus's Flute: A Play in One Act [The stage is set in the enchanted forest of Eternia, with lush greenery and twinkling lights adorning the scene. Puer Aeternus stands center stage, holding his flute, while Puella Aeterna watches nearby with wonder.] Puer Aeternus: [Speaking to the audience] Welcome, dear friends, to the magical realm of Eternia, Where dreams come to life and the impossible becomes real. Behold, the tale of Puer Aeternus and his enchanted flute, A story of youth, music, and everlasting pursuit. [He begins to play a sweet melody on his flute, filling the air with ethereal music. Puella Aeterna listens intently, her eyes shining with delight.] Puella Aeterna: Oh, how beautiful! Your music enchants the very air, And stirs the depths of my soul with care. Puer Aeternus, your flute sings with such grace, A symphony of dreams in this magical place. Puer Aeternus: [Smiling] Thank you, dear Puella Aeterna, your words ring true, But it is the flute that holds the magic, not just what I do. For each note played carries a tale untold, Of adventures in realms where mysteries unfold. [As Puer Aeternus continues to play, the forest comes alive with enchanted creatures dancing to the music. Suddenly, Wizard Senex appears, his presence casting a shadow over the scene.] Wizard Senex: [With a mischievous grin] Well, well, well, what do we have here? A young lad playing music, spreading cheer? But let me tell you, dear Puer Aeternus, Your flute-playing antics are beginning to vex us. Puer Aeternus: [Defiantly] Wizard Senex, what brings you here? To spoil our joy with doubt and fear? My flute may be simple, but its magic is true, And I'll play on, no matter what you do! [Wizard Senex chuckles ominously, waving his staff and causing a gust of wind to swirl around Puer Aeternus. But undeterred, Puer Aeternus continues to play, his music growing stronger with each passing moment.] Puella Aeterna: [Stepping forward] Wizard Senex, why must you interfere? Can't you see the joy that Puer Aeternus's flute brings near? In a world filled with darkness, his music shines bright, And brings hope to all who hear it in the night. [Moved by Puella Aeterna's words, Wizard Senex's expression softens, and he nods in acknowledgment.] Wizard Senex: You speak true, young one, your words do ring clear, Puer Aeternus's flute brings joy far and near. Forgive my intrusion, I meant no harm, I only sought to test your strength and charm. [With a flourish of his staff, Wizard Senex disappears into the mist, leaving Puer Aeternus and Puella Aeterna to continue their music in peace. The enchanted creatures dance joyously around them, as the stage fades to black.] [End of Play]

[@theenglishchat]

This Starbucks commercial is wild

[@foster7517]

my whole life is a reflection of this story..my name means keeper of the forest i was born on christmas which peterpan was a christmas play..im a capricorn/goat my whole life i told myself id never grow up an i didnt im 33 an still look sound an act 18 lol and my moms name is wendy🤣 and thats just the little stuff this whole story reflects my life so much that im freaked out

[@demois]

Dude. My name also means keeper of the forest!! Wout - Wald in German

[@BipolarBowler]

Growing up is overrated. It feels like turning into a robot. Seems as though one of its main perks is looking down on those less successful as yourself and hating your life.

[@fortitude1208]

Growing up is have a family.. and when you got family this period must hapen. Its like that. You dont wanna let early life but you must, or everithing will blow up

[@avacadonacho]

Facts

[@palmereldritch7777]

Reading body language : why is Peterson clutching his chair as if it's going to fly away ?

[@tzeccentric7848]

I also think one thing about Cpt. Hook is also his hook. He’s the adult who lost a particular _hand,_ maybe it’s a particular thing he can do with his hands, a talent. But he loses it, and what is Hook in personality? He is angry and bitter.

[@kanyeedigit9215]

Maaan hes stretching the shit out of a story whos original inspiration is alredy widely known.

[@camden7806]

any young men know EXACTLY what he is talking about

[@jamesfitzgerald1684]

All men know exactly what he is talking about.

[@Vamps4vamps]

Nah man Wtf is he saying 😭

[@andrijastojanovic1553]

even the makers of peter pan didn't know that was the message

[@1995yuda]

They don't have to, it's unconscious

[@andrijastojanovic1553]

@@1995yuda i dont think it was uncoincious. i think they wanted to portray the beauty od being a clueless child with no worries in life.

[@andrijastojanovic1553]

sry for the gramar

[@1995yuda]

@@andrijastojanovic1553 If you'll listen to JP's lecture on Pinnochio, he explains how the Unconscious influences every piece of art, even if the art is made consciously/intentionally. So it's both conscious and unconscious. It's not just JP who says this by the way, this is just a fact of life since our unconscious rules us while are conscious awareness is just a small % of our brain/consciousness. JP provides all the evidence to support his argument when it comes to his Peter Pan analysis, you just have to listen carefully. I would urge you to watch his other lectures about the Unconscious since he's the best guide to get your right foot through the door when it comes to this complex and esoteric reality.

[@XxLostFinalGirlxX]

The author of Peter Pan wrote it thinking about his brother that passed away at 14 because Peter Pan is the boy that won't grow up just like his brother.

[@heynhamnham]

I think I've been suffering so hard from this that I didn't even expect to live enough to become adult, the idea was to die at 18 years old. Now my psychologist keeps asking what's my goal in life and I can't even tell her that I wasn't even planning to live this long

[@osososo]

I had kind of the same Idea. It's depression and suicidal tendancy in a way. Don't get comfortable would be my advice. I'm almost 23 now, but at least want to grow up and live. Although, you won't ever be normal. Figure out how to integrate yourself. And know, that fundamentally your character is already defined and can't change much.

[@shellystephenson4577]

I'm sad your thought process has been like this....there is a lot of good if you choose it. Choose to do good...help others...that will begin opening your eyes to purpose and true joy and love. I couldn't wake up in the morning without Jesus! He is my freedom, my refuge, my peace, my joy, my comfort, my strength and my salvation! I hope you see this and I will say a prayer for you!

[@prittyugly86]

Just watched peter pan 👍👍

[@andyhammy7874]

Roughly speaking 🙂

[@lorenzojavier-av]

@@andyhammy7874 This killed me. Thank you.

[@tspoon772]

Love the songs

[@jolouis1610]

Answer and advise, long life learning.

[@bw5187]

Entrepeneurship instead of corporate slave or starbucks turnover statistic

[@thecrummycook6955]

Then you're a liberal. Roughly speaking.

[@brucey168ify]

What he talking about vs think vs and u will understand vs thank u my father

[@YeshuaAboveAll]

Just subbed. Keep spreading truth Rc

[@danielgriff2659]

I just watched a Short that pointed out that Captain Hook was really trying to rescue the boys from Peter Pan.

[@Allen-eq5uf]

Me at 53 and I’m still too young to get married and have children. 😂

[@m.n.d5949]

Thats 1 way to look at it. Theres a difference between growing up and maturity though

[@savannaschwenzer7489]

Hey! Does anyone have any ideas about how Pan and Peter Pan connect to the refugee crisis in Arab countries? A boy named Alan Kurdi washed up on the shore of Greece and many named him “the boy who never grew up”. Any ideas?

[@tangbein]

I feel like the main problem I have with growing up is leaving the potential for sex with young attractive women behind me. That's definitely the one biggest thing which I think affects most middle aged men and old men. To walk around with the physical attraction to young beautiful women without being able to hook up with them.

[@KB-eb8dj]

“Endless rounds of part time starbucks jobs” , now we’re not even employed! I don’t know what’s going to happen. How can I even find a career and get married and have a family.

[@lesliewoolnough7871]

I didn’t think of it as sacrifice, I thought of it as long suffering 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@raystargazer7468]

Old infant is my new go to insult. xD

[@georgechyz]

An adult is an adulterated human, someone who would perpetrate adultery and spoil the entire world by erecting huge corporations that poison the world. Jesus, calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven."

[@georgechyz]

@breadandcircuses8127 It's from Matthew 18:10. My path involves following the intuition and conscience that emerges from what Christians refer to as the Holy Spirit who resides in my heart. That's the path of the righteous aka meek who inherit the earth according to all major religions: Judaism, Christianity, Muslim, Hinduism, Taoism, and Hopi prophecy.

[@bengtbengt3850]

Remember, this is all just roughly speaking.

[@Msundrestimated777]

Peter Pan is a demon that trap’s children. Captain Hook got away from the weirdo Pan

[@catsmews]

In the thumbnail, Peterson is using Apple Vision Pro; such a seer.

[@RobertKempf122]

As a 43 year old who still lives with his mother and has had little in the way of employment, this really horrifies me. I may be done for.

[@luamfernandez6031]

are you alive?

[@jonmetaphorist1327]

All I see is that the whole analogy is a tragedy man can not avoid. Captain Hook is basically the real model of men.

[@Mobuku]

No. Hook being in Neverland should give you the hint that he isn't model of men. He is in the same sorry state as Peter Pan, but even worse because he's older with wasted potential. The model men didn't appear here because they're actually out there working in the real world and raising good children like Wendy.

[@Thehappybirder]

Just remember that in the story, Peter Pan is the bad guy.

[@ljm7161]

Tinkerbell being the Fairy of Porn took me out 😆🤣

[@emilyconcannon]

Just realized Jordan likes matcha frappes

[@blackbombchu]

I'm not worrying. I kind of decided it's about thinking what comes to me a making sense so I kind of decided something like "Each time of myself is in charge of itself" doing what comes to me as making sense on how to do things right then. Maybe I could do one job one year and a different job another year. However as a fact, if the universe had different laws of physics and we were created all at once to live in a hyperbolic space with a curvature of -((50 m)^(-2)) randomly scattered with a density of 1 per ((50 m)^2) throughout all of the infinite hyperbolic space and death was nowhere to be found and we were all going to live for ever and weren't going to die and there's no long distance communication and those were the laws of physics and we couldn't do anything to radically change it, first of all, we would probably keep random walking and the density of people would remain the same because I think that's what the math says. Secondly, our minds probably would have adapted to consider each time and place a separate independent environment to be dealt with one at a time with no power to control any of the others, we probably would have adapted to find in normal to focus on one at a time and do things our own way that we feel like doing right then and there. And we probably would keep doing things that way for ever and find it normal since it's been like that our whole entire lives. Maybe at 30, we would have gained awareness that that's what the laws of physics were and why it ended up adapting our minds so well and then feel thankful that those just are the laws of physics. Thankful meaning acknowledging that we would have encountered a real problem if they worked differently and seeing "I guess that's good" but not really paying attention to how it could have been and focusing just on doing what we enjoy doing and not much on how it could have been practically dismissing how it could have been. But in one sense, we maybe would have remained like children for ever always feeling free to deal with each time and place what ever way we feel like dealing with it right then and eventually start the habits of always dealing with it separately and independently of earlier ones using our own thinking from scratch and then claimed that it's the best way with a lot of joy in it now that it is our mind and would have really enjoyed it for ever because that would have actually been how we thought because the problem of nature throwing us so much power was never coming to force us to adjust our minds the hard way when it comes. In actuality, the laws of physics would have set us on a path. However, we wouldn't see it that way and we would see ourselves as roaming free because the laws of physics are just doing it for us and we don't need to think about what they're doing. But we would have a little bit of awareness of it and why it's working. Maybe we would be out of environments that are truly so fundamentally unique and different compared to anything we've done before or major fundamental changes in our thinking from anything we've done before because anything that had the potential to get unlocked in our minds would have already been by the age of 30. However, that doesn't mean we couldn't keep interpreting the environment right then from scratch with low awareness of the past as though you hadn't done it before when you had. And now once we have the habits of interpreting from scratch, we would claim to never tire of life. We would be interpreting from scratch and enjoying it and having our past buried in the sand. In one sense, we would be pretending we're conceiving of higher concepts than we did 5 years ago when we aren't by just asserting with our pure abstract thinking "This object is higher than anything I could have conceived of before" even though it's not the case and like seeing it that way but it means interpreting from scratch and the joys of it, not seeing it as the thing we already looked ahead at. Then it would feel normal that the next one is eventually coming because this one is the future self of an earlier one and we can see that. We would be like "I can kind of see that in actuality, the next one is eventually coming. However, there's no need to anticipate it. I see it only through slow advanced thinking. But I'm really focusing only on this one which I am interpreting from scratch. And I can see through slow advanced thinking that when it is the time of the next one, I will interpret that one from scratch and enjoy it and feel at that time like this one had been lower but it's something I see through interpreting this one from scratch and enjoying it and have some buried in the same awareness of the past and seeing that that is my idea of what it means to say this one is the future self of the previous one" and it would feel normal to feel like the next one is eventually coming but not impatiently waiting for it seeing that once it is the later time, we want to interpret it from scratch. We're be like "We have a 10 year away future self because it's the thing my 5 year away future self sees as it's 5 year away future self. However, once it is that time, I will see it because I see it as my own 5 year away future self just like I see my 5 year away future self now because and not because it's the thing I already knew was coming. And similarly, in 10 years, I will see that I have a 10 year away future self of my own for the same reason as I see now that I have a 10 year away future self." We would be doing a similar thing for the past but have more awareness of the past than the future. In one sense, it would be a though there was no 5 years from now so when it is that time, it would be as though we lived longer than we thought we were going to rather than shorter. And I think that if those were the laws of the universe, that would be how I thought. Maybe in actuality, my mind will become so different and adapt to the environment but I would know that in actuality, my mind would have gone a different way if those had been the laws of physics all along. Maybe by thinking without being so aware of the thinking and planning your doing and doing it through slow advanced thinking, it might be possible to remain sort of child like. Then if the technology to beat aging gets invented and can cure aging within 5 years, then maybe when I'm in my last 5 years of life which is probably about 50 years away, maybe I would take the treatment and see through slow advanced thinking that it's kind of nice to be thrown another later environment and think about it with a lot of joy because it's the same habits of thinking I had all along and be like "It's their 5 year away future self, not mine. I do everything like broken telephone through nearer future selves." and wait till then to take the treatment.

[@ANGEL-eh6pd]

Excellent...

[@fangsclaws]

2:14 - that is not a happy day -damn, that hits so hard

[@karenohanlon4183]

There is a disconnect with the Pan story. I think it reflected the generation of women and men in the class from which J.M.Barry came. I just dont see it in the boys from hood or the gals. I just dont think Wendy types ever existed. In any class Wendy not Tinkerbell was too fantastic.

[@petyaivanova1820]

The sad truth is that nowadays I can see too many veteran teenagers, especially among men.

[@ninabambinabambina2304]

I'm a 41 year old female & I'm worried I'm like this. 😒

[@ame38]

You can come out at the other end with a bunch of new possibilities at Hell 4:10

[@JeanneDArte]

This Analogy is so important ~one thing I would add is that Wendy's parents here are described as wonderful people, that knew how to parent!! That is for many many many children not the case. And I too feel like the friends of mine that build a rather solid prosper life for themselves have something in common: They have parents who either did a really good job at parenting or who acknowledged the fact that they need outside help, and got the kids the help they needed in a timely manner. So if you, like I, have watched the video and felt like, damn, this is what I've been doing and you have a family background that plays into all of this, don't beat yourself up for walking a really really rough path. Let's take this message and own it, make the change, it is not too late. Being a very lost girl at 27 still, befriending very dark thoughts in my head, this video sparked some hope in me again that the trains have not yet left the station.

[@robertimmanuel577]

There’s a book about peter pan syndrome. I’m currently reading it, and you’re not wrong. Peter pan types are usually children who grew up with parents whose marriage is messed up. It’s not an official mental illness but it will slowly eat and gnaw at you as you get older.

[@spider-man2888]

I think Peter Pan has a perfect life. All he does is have fun & go on adventures everyday, He has eternal youth & only really has positive thoughts

[@chrischerry3109]

Does a perfect life exclude romantic relationships? Does a perfect life exclude responsibility?

[@spider-man2888]

@@chrischerry3109 Yes

[@statik47]

How old are you? Perhaps you're too young for this type of wisdom....?

[@ConstanceWhenever]

Tinker Bell is an anima figure. Most of the disney films have anima and animus figures. Beauty and the Beast is the most obvious one. I don't know if you could say a story written in 1904 necessarily would have Tinker Bell representing pornography though you could apply it in modern times to that if you wanted to be vulgar. In Ex Machina they made the AI girl essentially an embodiment of Gleesons anima and in that they did base it on his pornoggraphic history.

[@netfish69]

we are all the lost boys. time to wake up. remember your happy thoughts. ascension is closer Every day now. the dark are running scared. hook won't be able to keep control much longer.

[@terrysmith1210]

Peter Pan as long as you can! Travel the world, enjoy yourself, tomorrow isn't guaranteed to anyone.

[@joshsauer4725]

“She’s like the fairy of porn” Oh buddy, if only you knew rule 34…

[@yorickroumimper]

When i was seven i never looked at PeterPan like this.

[@dopeylove1469]

I’m starting to think that Peterpan was ultimately a analogy of a narcissist life and mindset

[@lavennia]

I feel like this dude literally said nothing, idk why you guys are nutting in the comments. He started a thought and jumped to the next, and never finished it... And tinkerbell is the fairy of porn??? lmao

[@blackvoid5560]

You won't get it cuz you're NOT a man.

[@jadel-masri7532]

Peter pan is my hero my favorite hero with spiderman

[@TheCakeIsNotLie]

how do i move on? i move on from my own world to a pointless life of mediocrity. how can i give that up?

[@Misteraren]

Wow 🤯 👏

[@georgem5589]

What makes Peter Pan so great? It's a 'functional' mythology, meaning it's undergirded by truth, and all truths point to God. Unlike today's popular entertainment where man is centered, to the detriment of entertainment.

[@TinyLegs]

This hurts as much as my incessantly growing white hairs. There's a reason I stumbled upon this video. Wanna get a kick in the face? Watch the new Chip N' Dale movie. Their audience is YOU. ME. All of us.

[@ericanderson7059]

The Little Prince has entered the chat . " Draw me a sheep " .

[@TheGamerfreak1555]

Is this still applicable in the version of Peter Pan where Pan is the villain and Captain Hook is trying to save the boys that Pan is kidnapping and killing