The Ultimate Power of Saying No

[@SenaShimotsuma]

In Japan, it is extremely hard to say no to others due to hierarchy but I feel that there is something beautiful about learning to say no in a place where the majority of people believe it is impossible to be done hahahaha 日本では、「いいえ」と断ることは文化的に難しいですが、大多数の人が「そんなことできるはずがない」と思っているこの場所で、「いいえ」ということを学ぶというのに、何か美しさを感じていますｗｗ

[@Naturenerd1000]

Giving someone a direct no is actually very appreciated by the other party since it gets rid of the uncertainty of waiting for your answer. It allows the other person to adjust their plans ahead of time.

[@antonyzhou6602]

Yes and no. In a real corporate world especially Asian countries when 'the other (senior) party' asks you to do something, they do not expect you to say no. You will be risking your career by saying no all the time.

[@TB1M1]

Not necessarily! At work when someone says no in my experience it's not truth, then you go and talk to others and the no is actually a yes.

[@christianemichelberger8245]

I am 70 yeas old and love to hear that you as a young man are thinking so deeply about how to live your life. I also lived the life I wanted to live though I never thought about it much, and I can tell you, I am so happy to look back on my life. It was exciting, led me into dead-end streets and out of them again, one big adventure.

[@AhmetKaan]

*To all the dreamers out there. Follow your dream, believe in your dream. Because dreams come true, if you have the dedication to give your all...*

[@prkwttprkwttt746]

A modeling agency needs to offer him a contract.

[@高橋直也-j1m]

As someone who used to live overseas for a while like you did, I’ve gotta say I’m completely with you on what you’re saying here. We are inclined to change ourselves to satisfy other people’s expectation at the expense of our desire and need. It is true that it’s gonna be extremely difficult for us to be consistently true to ourselves, especially in a social environment, but I do believe that it’s worth it.

[@YoNorton]

Keep it up, Sena. You’re making a life that is truly your own. That’s wonderful.

[@sallybutton6237]

My greatest anger comes from feeling I’m being forced to do something I don’t want to do..so now when I get that feeling I simply say a firm “no”..it works folks, try it 😎👍

[@rinaaaf]

There's a time when we have to say yes or no. Personally, as an introverted person, i prefer staying home all day rather than meeting with friends. However, in order to keep a good relation to people, I say yes in some chances. Being warm with people is a common culture in my country, even toward the strangers.

[@uus3212]

Enjoy

[@AliAkbar-qn4wh]

I feel so good when I see your videos

[@VeeRose8888]

Good for you. I'm so happy for you. Keep rising shinning star.

[@Jhadochan]

セナさん　大好き　＜3

[@goblogjp5475]

really loved how you changed the taste of your videos into life motivational videos 👍

[@dreamingvisionaire]

It is amazing that you can practice saying no in Japan. Being over there many times myself- like you said saying no isn’t part of collective Japanese collective culture. Excellent points made!

[@lksxwyb]

THISS... I REALLY NEED THIS ! 💕

[@merrickying4264]

This is an essential part of a healthy philosophy for living.

[@andreascrank5429]

Great video ! Great Content !! I often say these same things to my wife , she has a job that works her hard but they treat her like she is just another number . Sometimes you have to say no, and just focus on what makes you happy for a change .!

[@christophersmith3341]

This one really resonates with me. Thanks!

[@MrBillybathgate5]

Facts

[@nijinomonogatari498]

Very true. Thank you for your videos. You inspired me to start and do well on my own channel. More power Sena san.

[@nijinomonogatari498]

@Heidi the Eclectic Vagabond Thank you very much. Stay safe and more blessings to you.

[@minaliseaa.2788]

Thank you so much ! The way you're talking about this topic is really helpful 🤩It really shows that it requires dedication and patience to work on ourselves with the aim to consciously act for ourselves and not to conform with others or common social criteria..

[@danielimpastato3466]

Excellent as always. Glad you have discovered the balance between saying yes and saying no in life. It gets more precise and beneficial with age (I've discovered.) My own mantra is often "What HAS to be done today and what will still be there tomorrow or next week or next month?" Usually works out. Not always. 🙄Thanks for the excellent content and superior thought you put into your videos. 👍

[@LMays-cu2hp]

Thank you for sharing. Happy Holidays to you.

[@SenaShimotsuma]

Cheers for watching this video!

[@ptharusa3272]

Insightful as always and a affirmation to many who align with the positive beliefs

[@jimjimgl3]

Your video reminded me of a trip I had to Japan (I'm a photographer) for work and I hired a local Japanese assistant to help out. I so clearly remember asking him, Hiro, if we could do this or schedule that and sometimes his response would be "I think so...". I learned very quickly that Hiro's "I think so" meant no! I became very comfortable working with him once I understood his inability to say no to me. And in my life I have been saying "no" for a very long time. Just this past week I was on a shoot for a large US consumer brand and I was invited to a dinner after a long day. I said no and went home instead and relaxed and recharged for the next day's shoot. I just have to think that I will be hired for how I take pictures and not how much I drink with associates at the end of the day...

[@walcotttang6946]

Thks for sharing..i totally agree with you 😙🤗

[@MD3XTER]

You are making great content! Just wanted to give you a nice reminder! ❤️

[@jemaixvi]

What an insightful content 👌

[@RedTitan5]

Your very inspiring sir.. Great perspectives... Your showing us how to live a happy life.. I'm an introvert and always felt hurtful... Thank you for this video sir.

[@Primasanto2011]

thanks for this video now I have the courage to start saying no to my mum and teachers

[@RobertSD26]

Very wise

[@johnoblackwell785]

Hi, so glad you say on I,m 69 and a ex hairdresser and a yoga teacher and one year ago moved to the south of Spain dy the sea in a small apartment and how love saying NO more each day , keep on road year on my brother love & Peace always. Jack John

[@DC-sg3je]

セナさんほんまに格好いいなぁ　いつか機会あれば会って話してみたい

[@timavram7459]

Such an amazin perspective on this! Looking forward to the next video already!!

[@AliAkbar-qn4wh]

Great video as always

[@SenaShimotsuma]

Thank you so much!

[@Skyscrapers1]

This topic is one of the reasons why I decided to study abroad when I was 13. I was a guy who really hated the custom we Japanese usually call “Jouge Kankei“. We tend to say YES when the custom is there around us. It used to be seen in many situations from our school life to the entertainment industry when I was a teenager. In my case, "Bukatsudou" was it. Luckily I was able to experience studying abroad from the next year. Now it's been more than 15 years since I came back to Japan. For some reason, now I can accept 50% of the custom as Isaw lots of pros and cons of saying No regardless of your situation during my abroad life. Life is fun, I still have no idea what type of social custom would be suitable for me.😅

[@Sarahhh_Klein]

🙌

[@donaldtrump6600]

before you learn to say no, you need to have the courage to be disliked at first place.

[@SenaShimotsuma]

That's true :)

[@greenwomangreycat6278]

Wise man ...

[@ralphrph]

As always, very informative! Thanks sena!

[@Pwt9x]

Big love for u

[@AMINE8905]

i ll listen your advices and say no to my boss :D

[@ThiệnĐang88]

Love you

[@rodrigostorm8956]

My brother actually asked me yesterday how to say no in japanese and i had a bad time trying to explain to him even though knowing that is いいえ because japanese ppl never refuse with "no".

[@Nani-zj7lb]

かっこいいです

[@bogartmotomoto8222]

What laptop do you use ?

[@jimverdalupan9510]

wew

[@TB1M1]

Not sure about this one. It seems like thesedays in western cultures people say no probably too often as if that is the default psychology ( not being available increases your value). I always say yes to everything, but then add caveats if other things come up. For example it's often not helpful if you ask a colleague and they say no without further explanation.

[@INFP-T50]

His face looks half Japanese and half Korean.

[@sirhorsechoker]

You know where it's ok to say no? In the south lol nobody does anything. It's just all trees and people pretending to work. The bar is lowww. You get to say no all the time though lol

[@honguenloh4612]

😍😍😍😍

[@alenaduplantier4505]

You look like an asian Chad😍😍😍😍

[@dominicportelli1100]

You look very handsome with beard and miustache.

[@dominicportelli1100]

Moustache