Sex and Dating Advice for Teenagers - Mark Gungor

[@topant6102]

So true. Got married at 20, both virgins, and still happily married 24 years later.

[@siouxzanna65]

So refreshing to hear. it is hard to walk the line of purity but if we knew what impurity and crossing those lines really cost us in the long term we would desire it more. bless your marriage, be a blessing to others thru it.

[@stiffinniesaunders7373]

Top Ant wow!

[@paulsmomno1fan]

Same. 20 and 21 married 29 years this year.

[@QueenConsious]

Congrats I’m so glad to hear that

[@topant6102]

@@paulsmomno1fan So we must have gotten married the same year, 1991 right?

[@ineedhelpinmath100]

Finally. An honest pastor who isn't afraid of stepping on a few toes to educate the youth. No one ever speaks about the things we need to hear the most. The irony.

[@melgurr5893]

amen

[@queenytecson2357]

Chickylala yeah agree

[@-_Nuke_-]

That's what I fear. Educating the young on FAIRYTALES. No offense, this guy is hilarious, I love his stand up comedies - but, like every religious person - when it comes to educating anyone about his fairytale, we have to stand up and say no. This is *bullshit*

[@danielen359]

@@-_Nuke_- I would to know what part of what he said is bullshit or fairy tales according to you

[@-_Nuke_-]

@@danielen359 for example here: 1:06 "is because we are following the pattern of our secular culture instead of following the pattern that God sets for us" Say whaaaaat? The pattern that an imaginary being that WE created sets for us? What kinda bullshit is this? This entire clip is full of bullshit like this. Give me a break.

[@Vill-cz2vz]

as a young teen im so blessed to hear this.. thank you God

[@nikolagurjanov8642]

Same brother.

[@Kat-dn3vt]

Same

[@QueenConsious]

Continue to do the right thing

[@hankman1023]

Truth hurst doesn't it? He's telling the truth & most people don't like it, you only have two choices in life, either receive the message and learn from it or reject it and find out later how it would've been wise to accept it. Lots of facts given, my suggestion: learn it!!!

[@biologysciencedipen9322]

Honestly, sex before marriage is a one of the most serious problem of today's society.

[@waybachwin1747]

Falling under that pattern, though i agree.

[@carlbromley5257]

I think the lack of education in growing up years is a contributing factor, not so much in math and science but in respect and communications. Commitment and low expectations are also part of the problem. If you EXPECT half of married couples to divorce and you never gave them the skills to get through troublesome times, you will be lucky if only half of them get divorced.

[@matildamaher2650]

Exactly right

[@marajevomanash]

But we should not forget that we are a human first. The intent of marriage is to provide a stable environment for the kids to grow up in and a steady companionship for you. If you don't want kids, it shouldn't matter.

[@theresapetekiewicz1788]

I married young. We were both virgins but it was a disaster. I was only 23 years old he was 25. He was emotionally immature and self-centered to the core to the point where he was controlling everything about my life he pretended to be a Christian but I should have known better because he never read the Bible or had any desire to pray ever. The only time I saw him in church was when he was hunting for women to date. Outside of that he was never in church. I was the Young born again Christian and I trusted other women in the church to guide me and they said to pray and put a fleece before God and of God answers the fleece the way you prayed then the answer is yes so I put a fleece before God that was answered about a week or less later. I felt this must be God's will for me. It turned out that the devil is the one that answered the fleece not God. Now I know better but I went through hell to get out of this marriage. Never marry because you think nobody else will ever ask you. Never let low self-esteem be the one that makes the decisions for you.

[@breakingthemasks]

I dated a girl very briefly that talked about "putting a fleece out" the same way you did... And I couldn't quite put my finger on why this bumped me... But you nailed it. Satan can manipulate circumstamces in ways that seem like confirmations... So to those reading, beware relying on "signs" to choose a mate. Thanks

[@quantumfrost9467]

Theresa Petekiewicz that is soooo sad I am very sad to hear that.

[@theresapetekiewicz1788]

@@quantumfrost9467 thank you it's taken me many many years to finally overcome the pain and even bitterness but I get a chance now at my age to start life afresh old things are passed away All Things become new so I'm looking forward and not behind but it took me many years to get to this point my prayer is at other people will be wiser for my experience. God bless you!

[@quantumfrost9467]

Theresa Petekiewicz God Bless you too

[@pandanustrees]

I'm not particularly religious, but his message rings true to my experience. Lovely message

[@nyambatikwamboka7065]

This was a wonderful message and I thank God I found it. Praise be to His name, Amen. God bless you Mark Gungor. Keep on being a light for Jesus that shines to the world. Amen.

[@jeanhenry4303]

I was amazed how he was able to explain the REASONS behind the guidelines so well in just half an hour. I want to dedicate my life to spreading this message. That is how important it is. I showed it to all of my kids over the age of 10. (7 of them) Ages 23, 22, 18, 16, 14, 13, 11. They are all out in the world. Going to school, working, living on their own. I am so happy that I was able to show this to them!!!! They have renewed comitment to these values!

[@carlbromley5257]

While watching Dr Stanley this morning with my wife, I made notes in my notebook of a similar goal for myself. I use the hashtag #hwwcoc in FB and other social media... "helping where we can, openly Christian" is the meaning. There isn't a lot of content yet but all of Mark Gungor's videos are part of my focus. Prayers are welcome from anyone who reads this.

[@elizevdspuy]

I wish someone told me this 15 years ago when I was a teen! It would have helped me so much.

[@isabellekyra]

"you'll have a guy who's more in love with fantasies, than being a real lover to you." Oh wow.

[@amanijam9676]

you know i thought christianity is a religion that allow having sex before marriage but now i realize that it is not , true christians are really struggling in their bad culture , we as a muslim are encourage to not have sex befor mmarriage , but we have the same stupid culture that you have , that delay marriage by making it difficult . love and respect to all of you , i really love this man he is honest and funny

[@LongLiveTrueFreedom]

Well said Gungor, well said. This guy is telling the truth, that's why so many people hate on him, because it hurts, and as hell.

[@lilchristuten7568]

Only he's not. At least not in the first 5 minutes (which is all I have watched so far). God specifically created Eve for Adam. When the bible talks about marriage it says "what God has joined together let no man break apart" that means God specifically has people who he wants you to be with. 2 key examples would be Abraham and Sarah, as well as Mary and Joseph.

[@boazpilon]

@@lilchristuten7568 God paired Adam and Eve, by which He shows he matched men and women. He aims to match two people, but not necessarily two specific people. If anything, the Bible proves that by the exact examples you use. Joseph and Mary were paired by an arranged marriage. Mankind decided they should be a match. By including God into the marriage and asking for His bonding, then they receive the bonding of which God says 'let no man break apart what God has put together'/allowed to be put together. God sure used Joseph and Mary, but not because it was specifically about those two. God could have easily gone with Josh and Mary instead

[@boazpilon]

@@lilchristuten7568 I do agree that by the way Mark Gungor puts it in these first minutes, he can accidentily give the impression that Adam and Eve were not meant to be together. I had the same thought. I do encourage you to at least finish the rest of the video. I definitely believe he gives some really great opinions that sure get thoughts going

[@lilchristuten7568]

@@boazpilon Yes actually it did have to be Joseph. It had to be him for 2 reasons, because of his character, and because of his lineage. God chose Joseph to be the husband of Mary and the earthly father of Jesus, just like he chose Mary to be the mother of Jesus. He chose them both because of their character and their lineage. They were noth children of David (descendants), and Mary was the only woman who would give birth to the Son of God, and Joseph was most likely the only man who would take a pregnant woman to be his wife and refuse to have sex with her for the entire gestation period and then raise up that child as his own son until he was at the point he began his ministry as the Christ, believing that he was the Son of God. Now the birth of Jesus Christ happened this way: After His mother Mary was engaged to Joseph, before they came together, she was found with child by the Holy Spirit. Then Joseph her husband, being a just man and not willing to make her a public example, had in mind to divorce her privately. But while he thought on these things, the angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream saying, “Joseph, son of David, do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife, for He who is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit. She will bear a Son, and you shall call His name JESUS, for He will save His people from their sins.” Now all this occurred to fulfill what the Lord had spoken through the prophet, saying, “A virgin shall be with child, and will bear a Son, and they shall call His name Immanuel,” which is interpreted, “God with us.” Then Joseph, being awakened from sleep, did as the angel of the Lord had commanded him, and remained with his wife, and did not know her until she had given birth to her firstborn Son. And he called His name JESUS. Matthew 1:18‭-‬25 MEV Jesus was specifically speaking about divorce when he said "what God has joined together, let no man put asunder". A Christian is supposed to seek God about the person they marry, because marriage is a covenant that involves God joining 2 different ministries into 1 for his purpose, that being the case God has specific people for each person to marry (if they have been given the ministry of marriage). The Pharisees also came to Him, tempting Him and saying, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any reason?” He answered, “Have you not read that He who made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’ ? So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no man put asunder.” They said to Him, “Then why did Moses command to give a certificate of divorce, and to send her away?” He said to them, “Moses, for the hardness of your hearts, permitted you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. But I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery. And whoever marries her who is divorced commits adultery.” His disciples said to Him, “If such is the case of the man with his wife, it is not good to marry.” But He said to them, “Not all men can receive this precept, but only those to whom it is given. For there are some eunuchs who have been so from birth, there are some eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are some eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to receive this, let him receive it.” Matthew 19:3‭-‬12 MEV

[@boazpilon]

@@lilchristuten7568 I am happy to see you are so passionate about all this. Thank you for the thorough reply. I believe we are in agreement of most items, but our differences lie in details. I therefore hope my response is received in love. So, my response: I am aware of the lineage and prophecies. Therefore I should rephrase what I said. I believe that God could have gone with anyone within His preset boundaries. In the example we discuss for Joseph and Mary, He could have made or chosen two other people that fit the 'description'. He could theoretically have chosen Mary's sister or let a Barbara be born in that family instead of Mary. God is not dependent on any person. God can shape anyone to become the right person for something. Both Joseph and Mary needed to be shaped by the coming of angels or God speaking in dreams. They would have failed miserably if not for God. I believe that if God gave this level of shaping to two other people (who, again, fit in the same preset boundaries as mentioned before), we would have ended up with the same result.

[@samfordata]

He's God sent, I love his teachings. For he teaches with a sense of humor.

[@dalma_makes]

Thank you for uploading this! I really like Mark Gungor and his funny ways. :)

[@mcneillmama50]

We need to be talking about this in church. Kids aren't hearing it at home from their parents, except don't do it, the schools are so liberal they are telling kids anything goes and is acceptable as long as you protect yourself. what about the spiritual aspects of sex and intimacy

[@carlbromley5257]

@mcneillmama5050, I agree. At 30:09 in his presentation, Mark says we need to do something about it so here I am, TRYING to do something about it. Prayers welcome.

[@moseslesole3081]

Parents should teach their kids

[@tgbotg]

Thanks for the upload! So gonna use this for my teen Bible class on Wednesday. We're in 1 Cor 7 now, and some of them just don't get it. Gungor explains it so well, and makes so much sense. I appreciate his frank and honest approach!

[@timothywanjohi5248]

At least someone is talking in the way that I think

[@droundyCubby]

Sure glad I found this. My grandkids are getting this url from their grandma. This is so valuable. Wish I had it when I had kids.

[@MissSophieLoretta]

mind blown, I needed to hear this.

[@sweetjayrom]

I really needed to hear this... I pray many more teenagers find this message soonest because we rarely find intense revelations like this...

[@angelicg.8416]

FINALLY! Someone said the truth!

[@larrylandry6160]

He's a 100% right so much truth that all young people should really listen to. Society promotes sex and promiscuity what they don't tell you is if you live a promiscuous life as a teen and young adult your marriage will be just another divorce statistic or a very shallow marriage. God's design is the best plan for long lasting bond and love story with your spouse.

[@carlbromley5257]

@Larry Landry, my second wife and I found each other after each of us had a failed marriage behind us. God gives second chances. I was looking for a Christian woman and she was looking for a Christian man. We met, we dated and I proposed to her 3.5 months later. Three and a half YEARS later, we are both Mark Gungor fans and doing well in our marriage.

[@marajevomanash]

God wants different things for different people. What if he just expects some of us to date casually?

[@angelfromashes1792]

Wish I'd seen this when it had come out... I've definitely got a bit of work to do, which I already knew, but at least now I have a bit more motivation, conviction, and insight

[@maradee8220]

This man just made me open my eyes for real! good thing he's straight up and honest its truly refreshing, and he made some valid points. Too bad we live in a society where sex sells.. literally and there are a million different people telling us that in order to have a healthy relationship , a healthy sex life is necessary. What kind of BS is that? sex shouldn't be a building block to your relationships people. It's more of a bonus. I think his video "wait until marriage to have sex" was way clearer though as far as keeping it short and simple. In that video he made it pretty near impossible to disagree with what he was saying

[@framboise595]

+Mara Dee sex shouldn;t be a building block to your relationships people. It's more of a bonus. Sex IS THE building block to marriage because the BIBLICAL definition of marriage is being ONE FLESH. And sex is DUTY for both spouses , since God who is wise made a point in depriving both spouses of the previous authority they had over their own body before getting married. 1 Corinthians 7:5

[@111goutham]

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[@howardmccarthy5811]

Sorry, but you need to watch his 6 part series Laugh Your Way to Better Marriage. You are extrapolating his message to teens to marriage. He quite firmly believes that once you are married a healthy and ongoing sex life is absolutely essential to a healthy relationship and a well functioning marriage. 😊

[@jackjones3657]

Great talk for our youth. Rather than let the culture indoctrinate our kids let's tell them the truth early! I'm twice the age of these kids and learned something myself. Great content.

[@vanessamachado3474]

This guy is absolutely the best!!! This theory about adolescence is amazing! Why is it that they almost don't laugh...? He's hilarious!!!

[@nathanimadiyi3589]

Thank you so much. Guys, we are the generation that can change this. Let's not be quite anymore, let's not be afraid. God gave us a Sprite of Love, Power and of a Sound mind. Let's seek Jesus, and change this Nation

[@jaijhai2957]

I stumbled across Mark's videos and it makes so much sense. I too have clients that complain about the same things and now what Mark has said makes sense - i feel i have found the missing piece of a puzzle. Sexual urges - if we focus upon them then they will grow and multiply. What we focus on becomes our reality. If our thoughts are constantly upon sexual things then those thoughts will grow and multiply. Change the focus and you will find that sexual thoughts seem to diminish until we shift our focus back onto those sexual thoughts again. Sex is constantly being thrusted into our faces through every media outlet available to the public. There is so much direct and subliminal sexual messages being projected out there in music, videos and adverts on the TV and in the cinema making sure we focus our minds on sex all the time. Why is that? What is the purpose of all of these sexual messages? Why are we constantly bombarded with these messages? There is no need to suppress any thoughts because what we resist will just persist but its about shifting your focus onto something else like Mark stated try shifting your focus off sex onto something else for 30 days and see what happens.

[@framboise595]

+Jai Jhai We cannot escape sexual urges since we were made that way by the Lord , it was his will . It is like hunger or thirst. Thta is why he says 'better marry than burn '. Regular sex in marriage releases tensions and frustrations and shifts our focus to something higher since we know our needs will be fulfilled. It is like hunger . If you eat every day (except when you fast) , you don't even think about it . If you starve , it's something else . Same thing for sex.

[@jaijhai2957]

Fair point

[@carlbromley5257]

@@framboise595, slightly different for sex. Usually I eat three meals a day but my wife 'slugs' me if I suggest we go take a nap too often. That being said, she really doesn't hit me hard at all and, if she ever did, God would help heal the bruises. A happy marriage is worth it.

[@framboise595]

@@carlbromley5257 You "suggest" or you impose your desires like a true man ? Nothing is more arousing than male dominance . Have you ever read what the Bible has to say about the sexual obligation in marriage? Your wife has nothing to say but oblige since her body belongs to you. Please read 1 Corithians 7:5 The Bible teaches duty sex and unconditional sex but Gungor is a liar who teaches conditional sex. I know what I heard from him in his videos. It is appalling. The Bible says that we get married in order to avoid fornication. 1 Co 7:4 . How can we avoid fornication if sex is conditional ?

[@carlbromley5257]

@@framboise595, really? You're asking how can we avoid fornication? I'm thinking your religious education has been led almost entirely by men or 100% by men. My answer to "how do I avoid fornication without male domination in our marriage?" 1) By having mutually enjoyable sex in our bedroom or wherever else we want to. 2) By commitment to each other... not only our marital vows but all the little things we didn't think to add to our marriage vows. 3) By meeting my wife's needs, she is willing to meet my needs. To sum it up, I don't need to dominate or be be dominated. I agree that SOME women are turned on by male domination but, for those who have been the victims of sexual and/or emotional abuse because of men and at the HANDS of MEN, not so much. In closing, I'll copy 1 Corinthians 7:17 into this text for reference: "Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them. "

[@LilachLavy-Emanuel]

I don't agree that this is the only possible paradigm... but you bring up interesting points, and i like the way you relay it. I think that the world truly can not go backwards to the reserved place you lay out... and obviously is working for you. A few lucky ones... maybe can benefit from this perspective practically. The others- may take in some of it, and figure out something NEW of their own...

[@cjennings6179]

Act RESPONSIBILY. MATURE HONOR RESPECT EACH OTHER. HAVE SAME VALUES, PRINCIPLES Base core beliefs. Take LIFE SERIOUSLY. THINK & ACT PROPERLY. BE PATIENT ADULTS. LOVE IS PATIENT.

[@meso4939]

Thank you very much please keep uploading. Love from Nagaland India

[@ritagarza4170]

Thank you for your great teaching ❤️🙏🏻

[@k.g.77715]

Pleeeeease make subtitles available!!!! Thx

[@amanijam9676]

wow i like this man

[@ndiekwere6027]

Wish I heard this at 17.

[@lise-annedore8935]

Same here.

[@tinateinor2718]

Ndi EKWERE never too late dear we learn from our mistakes okay it good u now know the truth.

[@marmitechickenlegs8331]

I'm 17

[@olivest509]

I imprinted on my first sexual experience. I'm a woman. I wish so much that I could go back and undo that, but I can't. It was good, it was loving and incredible and I thought I would spend the rest of my life with him but he had such terrible emotional trauma from his family life that he couldn't trust me and it eventually ended. I saw the signs long before it ended, but I had already started having sex with him. That's why it's important to wait. I know that now.

[@breakingthemasks]

Thank you for sharing... I know this is a deeply personal subject, so I dont want you to feel any pressure... But I think it would be useful to me to understand in what way you "imprinted" based on that first sexual experience. I'm a virgin myself, and trying to understand what trigger points there are in a romantic relationship that could have negative consequences. E.g. is it only the act of sex that you regret, or was there physical (or emotional for that matter) activity leading up to sex that you also find damaging in retrospect. (E.g. shared orgasms, or even just the words "I love you" etc.) If you are willing, I'd like to understand what the negative fallout was from the sexual activities you fell into. If a public forum is too open, you can gmail me. Cheers

[@olivest509]

@@breakingthemasks it's okay, I'll keep it pg-13! This is something every young person should know, especially young women, but also men. When you have sex with someone it's not just a physical act. It creates an emotional bond that spans across every aspect of yourself and them. You become connected to them in a way that will never break, even if they hurt you terribly and your love is gone, that bond will stay. It's the bond that glues a marriage together and within marriage it is a beautiful thing. But when a relationship ends, but that bond is there, it is terrible and it intensifies the heartbreak to a degree I never thought possible. In order to protect your heart, if you have multiple sexual partners, you will eventually numb yourself to that bond and the heartbreak will be less. The trade off is that you can no longer feel as deeply or connect as strongly to your partner. Eventually, so I hear, if you continue to jump from partner to partner sex does just become a physical act and you have lost the thing that makes sex so beautiful. Please believe me when I tell you that you need to save this activity only for the person you have entered into marriage with, and then within that marriage you need to do everything in your power (including prayer, if you're a believer in God) to keep your marriage together. I recommend a book called The Five Love Languages. I hope you never experience the kind of heartbreak I went through. I will always love him even though I am not in love with him any more, and I will always have a connection to him. This would have been the most incredible thing if we had stayed together. Instead my heart will never be whole again, and while I will bond with my future husband, that other bond will still exist no matter how much I try to forget.

[@breakingthemasks]

@@olivest509 ... Thank you. Your story jibes with the research I've done previously indicating the chemical bonding and psychological trust that is an effect of a sexual relationship. What I havent been able to pin down so far, is whether is it the act of sex itself that triggers all of this.... Or if there are other triggers. Biologically it seems that penetration is not significantly different that other activities in the generally sexual realm. E.g. oral, etc. So I'm trying to isolate the exact factors that preceed the bonding process. For example, most would agree that a relationship that includes only kissing would not be in danger of triggering the powerful pair bond. Some would say that physical touch like hugging or petting is reasonably safe from triggering the pair bond. So what is the "thing" that triggers this pair bond... (Which I 100% agree with you, is to be saved for marriage)... Because that thing should be avoided at all costs. I know it sounds legalistic... But its hard to have a romantic relationship that has no physical element whatsoever. So I want to spend my effort protecting the most important element/s ... The elements that can prematurely trigger the pair bond... And not the elements which are harmless. I hope that makes sense. And thank you for sharing... This is a topic my parents didn't deal with... And I'm trying to do it right the first time around.

[@olivest509]

@@breakingthemasks I would say that it is the orgasm that creates that strong bond because after orgasm bonding hormones are released. But any sexual activities that are associated with arousal will build those bonds to a lesser extent. Anything sexual you do with someone, even kissing, will do this. Having said that, I personally would not wait until marriage to kiss someone I was dating but I would definitely wait until I was in love, not just crushing on them or attracted to them. Does that make sense?

[@olivest509]

@@breakingthemasks my parents also dealt with the topic of sex by avoiding it as much as possible and saying "don't do it" when they couldn't avoid it. They never explained these things to me, I had to learn them on my own. I helped my little sister stay pure until marriage by explaining this to her when she was in high school. She is now happily married. You can do it, just remember that you're worth waiting for! Love and respect yourself and you'll attract men who will love and respect you. Remember, the love languages aren't just for your relationships with other people, you need to apply them to yourself as well! Also, other types of physical touch that I would do before marriage (and this is something you have to decide on for yourself, don't just follow my lead!) are things like holding hands or linking arms, hugging, cuddling (not while laying in bed), shoulder or foot massage, and kissing. If you feel like any of these things are too arousing and/or you're too tempted to take things further, then maybe you should save those things for marriage and focus on other, less physical, activities to help you feel close to your partner.

[@mizannebillions5703]

Sadly, @ 14:16; the reality often is ppl could be told the dangers and would ignore the wisdom!🥺🙄😲

[@cynthiamarquez3370]

For women i think getting married younger makes sense...you want to have children while you are still young and fertile

[@ddfstar7588]

A lot of women I've dated said they didn't want children till there 30s which makes me nervous.

[@adj5767]

They are probably career-driven. Hopefully they don't regret their choices.

[@carlbromley5257]

@@ddfstar7588 , a good first date might be watching a Mark Gungor video together or at least a few minutes at the beginning of a video. Spotting a closed mind is useful in deciding on a second date or labeling her "probably not for me".

[@framboise595]

@@ddfstar7588 When women are told to do what they please with their bodies , the end is not far...

[@help_urself7654]

Not every women wants children. That's probably what makes marriage and (possibly) sex scary for them. Respect people's wants. Children is not for everyone. God bless :)

[@jorgeperezdmayo1841]

Spanish subtitles pls!

[@mariesavannah8901]

The most chocking straight message I ever heard i don't agree with everything but yet I believe if these young people is truly converted they will walk by the spirit not by the flesh and if they are really y dead to self they wont have to rush to get get married that young unless what god want them to do.....

[@Fatelvis2]

I am older than dirt when I transferred to day shift at 28 I looked around and people had already coupled up and someone commented you missed the boat so the idea of waiting till 30+ good luck

[@saramacmillan5364]

I don't think that a person can completely complete you. You have to find someone who you fundamentally respect and love with all your heart, especially when you don't agree with you regarding EVERYTHING or ANYTHING.

[@6shnuggle6]

Just yesterday 3 of my friends and I are sitting near a pub having a beer and catching up as we don't see each other much. None of us have kids and all of us nearly 40. It's not so much about waiting to have kids or not having a serious relationship - It's a lifestyle choice. Today its tough having kids. It's expensive. It limits your opportunities. We're all in relationships or married and very happy. This, I suppose, is also a new thing in today's era. Nearly 7billion ppl on this planet, none of us feel not having kids is a bad thing.

[@MrRwbt]

You did hear the part where "Mark" said that western culture is dying out' mainly due to your lifestyle choices ... there may be over population in this World but' its certainly not due to over breeding in the West.

[@help_urself7654]

@@MrRwbt still, kids not for everyone my guy. Respect people's choices. God bless :)

[@Olorin884]

Wow, such wisdom in this. It's obvious, but God's way really is good and is for our good.

[@framboise595]

"The correct treatment of a girl does not always preclude courtesy and gentleness no more than it always involves them. There is a time for courtesy and gentleness, and a time for harshness. The master must remember that he owns the girl; if he keeps this in mind he will generally treat her correctly. He must be strong, and he must be capable of administering discipline if she is not pleasing. Sex in a woman, as in a man, is not only richly biological but psychological as well, and the words suggest a distinction which is somewhat misleading. We are psycho-physical organisms, or better perhaps, thinking, feeling organisms. Part of the correct treatment of a woman is treating her as you wish; she has genetic dispositions for submission bred into every cell of her body, a function of both natural and sexual selection. Accordingly, what might seem brutal or quick to a man can be taken by a woman in the dimensions of her sentience as irrefutable evidence of his domination of her, her being owned by him, which thrills her to the core for it touches the ancient biological meaning of her womanhood. He simply uses her for his pleasure, because he wished to do so. He is her master." John Norman 　 So sad when pagans make more sense than supposed Christians who never open a Bible . Male dominance is central to female arousal but those wishy washy pastors just hide the truth and make marriage a thing of "courtesy and gentleness" only . No wonder why so many are totally turned off . Isn't it the right balance between female submission and male love and consideration that John Normal is stating here ? And this is exactly what the LORD advocates and commands !! A woman who does not feel "under the joke" will never respond to a man afraid of himself and of his own sexual desires (like most of wimpy western men today ) . Notice how he says " her being owned by him" Doesn't the Bible say that the wife does not own her body but her husband does ? The thrill lies in there . And even pagans get it better than dumb churchians who do not obey what the Lord says but rather listen to so called pastors who have been led them astray for decades .

[@Anita-ki5yw]

Oh come on!! Get off your high horse! .. Unless you have a Yutube channel or Web page where you are actively trying to educate the youth of today on what to expect from marriage then you really should stop saying how UnChristian he is for not speaking the "whole truth" ... His mission is to teach kids and adults about how to choose a mate, how to understand a potential partner, how to abstain and why it's important, how to make good decisions about sex before marriage and the impact this has on your psychy. What exactly are you doing to spread you "biblically based marital truth"? Tag me on your seminars and videos when you ready. By the way, it has to be you speaking and not an opinion from someone else. It's so easy to lable people isn't it? Especially when your own Christian path includes criticism of others while hiding in someone elses comments section.

[@carlbromley5257]

The NIV version of 1 Corinthians says that husband and wife each yield authority over their body to the other (paraphrased) but I see nothing in print where either one 'owns' the other. In legalistic circles, this would be like the difference between "Revocable" and 'irrevocable'. Re "wimpy western men", we men are all products of our past (environment, experience, etc.) and current choices AND FUTURE. God allows us to choose who we want to be even if the pathway isn't clear. Does any man (or woman) seek an unhappy marriage? Gungor's "Sex and Dating Advice for Teenagers" is one part of the solution (helping young people find the right path) while his other videos including "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage" help couples find their way through potholes by understanding each other better.

[@framboise595]

@@carlbromley5257 Gungor is a LIAR who teaches conditional sex in marriage , doing the game of Satan .

[@framboise595]

@@carlbromley5257 Other versions say that a wife has no authority over her body but her husband has. In other words , he owns her . This is backed up by Proverbs 5:18 that portryas the wife's body as HIS well . Drink the waters from YOUR cistern This notion of possession is such a thrill. Actually there is nothing more thrilling than that . John Norman is perfectly right . What he says backs up what the Bible says : marriage is possession .

[@dodopson3211]

@@framboise595 you better read the full verse because it goes on to say "In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife." Not to mention these are Pauls words Not Jesus his words! just because you're aroused by a caveman being dominant over your body doesn't mean we all are. If that's how it's supposed to happen then I'd rather not marry. Sincerely, an actual Virgin.

[@saramacmillan5364]

I think that the age doesn't matter, it's the person that matters.

[@pococurante9754]

As much as I enjoy the minister's work, this is some of the most irresponsible advice to teenagers I can imagine short of doing a similar but equally destructive cheerleading to do serious drugs and experimental sex. Both approaches have the same problem, assuming kids whom we know their brains don't settle in by the mid-twenties to make decisions even our elders would think carefully about. His example of the military is the worst possible. The miltary makes soldiers who follow orders, and those orders don't always mean everyone makes it home. We make kids make these decisions and guess what, even when they come home they don't ever really grow up and become locked in PTSD and other dangers. That is NOT the model we should apply to all kids - talk about live or die... Looking in the rear view mirror, judging child marriages based on people who grew up in a simpler time, doesn't map well to most industrialized countries. The worst part, again I like this guy and share his videos, is all the made up completely unjustified "numbers" he starts tossing out halfway through. His "numbers" are completely opposite of what we do observe. Evangelicals actually have higher rates of divorce based on adultery, not because of their faith but because of unrealistic expectations from young people living in a much more demanding life than fifty years ago.. Getting older at least gives the possibility people will learn to see potential partners first as people, not business partners. There has to be room for a person to grow in today's world before they make life changing commitments that can cause issues for generations to follow. I love his other stuff. This sequence though is way off base.

[@framboise595]

+Dave Scheffer "Evangelicals actually have higher rates of divorce based on adultery, " Evangelicals have twisted the true BIBLICAL definition of adultery and now they are paying the consequences of their false teachings. Adultery in the Bible means : - a man who has sex with another man's wife or marries a divorced woman. - a woman who turns away from her husband's sexual power and has sex with another man . THIS is the true definition of adultery . NOTHING MORE. If so called 'Christians' held to that definition and nothing else , the only divorce they would have would be from a cheated husband . But men don't divorce their wives that easily. Their insane teachings are directed at WOMEN who think their husbands commit "adultery" if they go to another woman . It is WOMEN who divorce because of that and are encouraged to do so. This is total unbiblical teaching and of course it leads to disaster.

[@Jon-gj4pb]

So you would have them wait until they have the degree, the job, the money, and "lived a little" before marriage huh? Is that your way around it? Or maybe like he said, just jerk one off when you get the urge you can't scratch until marriage? What exactly is your solution sir?

[@mabeldurocher2258]

I will go out for coffee / tea to talk about friendship - because I tell the man up front that God has chosen a man for me to marry . Sometimes the man gets up and walks away which does not offend me ..

[@nadiyakaralash7878]

Good job Mark Gungor.

[@lilyarbee]

Christian or not, it's good to listen to this wise pastor, in fact, Islam teaching similar and teaching us this advise. I really like listening and even sharing to friends on FB etc for them to hear his speeches. Apart from making all the good points he is also very funny and in his message, there are lots of jokes, we like most of his videos, I really have a good laugh when listening to most of his videos. Thank you!

[@MetalTotalus]

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[@jonathonllamas4963]

this is so Good

[@johannabilly]

Love it. Thank you I'm sharing Some videos with my kids.

[@peterpringle9950]

Essie Wright well that is total filth. shame on you!

[@Jon-gj4pb]

Shame on her? explain yourself heathen.

[@shadowsoul1695]

+Peter Pringle lol who do you say you are a saint?

[@marajevomanash]

The intent of marriage is only to provide a stable environment for kids to grow up in and for steady companionship. It is better to have sex with one partner that you connect with and know is safe rather than multiple unknown partners. If someone doesn't want kids, marriage shouldn't matter all that much.

[@perdybirdie]

these kinds of talks always leave me confused...if you are young you have sexual impulses period. if we are not supposed to have sex, not supposed to fantasize, not supposed to masturbate, what are we supposed to do? just forget these urges until we are married then just let it free? I don't think I've ever seen a talk where the person actually has some great ideas on what to do with these urges not just suppression.

[@LeadnNations2Him]

www.youthspecialties.com/articles/is-masturbation-a-sin you may find this article helpful :)

[@l.j.g.tolentino9534]

Simple, because there's so much sexual immorality, get married..

[@user-ln6pu7kq9j]

Gumby blue I was wondering the same thing, but then I found this article and it was talking about how we could transfer our "sexual energy" into other activities. I'll try and find it for you.

[@user-ln6pu7kq9j]

Gumby blue Here it is: www.singleness.org/sexuality.shtml If the link doesn't work, it's an article by Sheila Pritchard called: sexuality and singleness

[@framboise595]

+Gumby blue You need a structural frame for sex because of Fatherhood. It is CRITICAL. Otherwise you end up in a patriarchal jungle where women have plenty of sexual partners and kids have no fathers. God has never commanded us to repress sex ( he is the author of it ) but to CHANNEL it and redirect it to a marital frame where men are more than sperm donors .

[@Jondead]

Meh, I honestly can get his points, but honestly, I could not relate to this fully. I don't know if I am just having a different upbringing, but I can't really get all his points, sort of reminds me of this pastor that URGED people to just "go out and get married" completely insane, "THEY DON'T NEED TO BE THE SAME 'TWO NEGATIVES ATTRACTS." It doesn't. Marriage is not a must in love or life, so I respect his view there, it really is just a trap most of the time. And it loops as well, as people that have been divorced before tend to get divorced in other relationships, which I find insane. And one of the reasons I likely will not be married for the entirety of my life, it is not only a governmental sham, but it is insane. The point I did not get because it has not affected me is the masturbation part, it is not out of lust I do it, it is simply out of releasing pressure from the hormonal build-up that gets set in your blood, but thanks ya for the advice churchman, I haven't changed, then again I feel empty though that is because of a bad relationship, so not my real place to comment of that as the joy of relationships have been taken from me. I would not condone getting into relationships earlier than must, that being once you love someone go for it, but take your time before asking don't go blindly into the arms of another, as a person that has done that I can tell you it can be the worst experience of your young life, besides you don't need someone to love fellow young ones ;) you can power yourself if you need love your friends are really all you need in life as an existential love... unless you can't feel love that might be the case then just have fun and be a good boy and or girl. Don't be a fool and do NOT feel like being with someone is something you need, you honestly don't, people love you enough if you show love to everyone. But then what do I know I am just 15 and has lived through my own demons.

[@patrickcarnerie5535]

Following the dating advise of a loveless man, is like listening to a drunken man telling you how to be sober.

[@nadiyakaralash7878]

Loveless? Define?!

[@gratitude5740]

Loveless????🙃

[@hayleyvaldois6868]

He's married... He's not "loveless" jsyk.

[@framboise595]

@Open Minded This "pastor" does not speak the truth about duty sex in marriage at all. So what is his point in telling people to wait until marriage for sex ? Can't you see that he is telling the entire biblical truth since he allows himself to trun sex in marriage into something conditional? This is not just loveless. This is absolutely devilish. I know what I heard from him in different videos. He teaches the lie of conditional sex when the Bible says that sex in marriage is free and UNconditional 1 Co 7:5.

[@kingtoops1930]

So good

[@marialaura2119]

Incredible.

[@QueenConsious]

This is good teaching I don’t agree with the age thing I am 29 still a Virgin I don’t have no ex’s so I don’t have baggage from other men when I get married the divorce rate will be different if they do things the right way don’t go with a man who is interested in his fantasy’s instead of being interested in loving you if you do it right it’s the closest thing to heaven but if you do it wrong it’s the closest thing to hell

[@carlbromley5257]

In a local church's pre-marriage counseling, they suggest having an agreement on commitment, respect, and communications to get started. If the guy won't have that discussion with you, there's bound to be trouble ahead. Search elsewhere.

[@carlbromley5257]

@Diamond, I'm going out on a limb and saying age is relevant but each of us is exactly on God's pathway where we belong. I am nearly 70 but I can now see what I missed while I was in my teen years, early adulthood, and first (failed) marriage. I am remarried, this time to a Christian woman who shares my faith and who sits beside me in church, most recently virtual church in our living room but we are blessed with the ability to visit many churches each week according to our needs and wishes. Jane enjoys listening to her pastor of many years in the Baltimore area and there is no way we could drive there every Sunday... one of the many blessings given to us in not-so-perfect times. For what it's worth: During my search for the right Christian woman (yes, I was intentional in my search), I almost always told dates that I had ten train cars of baggage but, with God's help, I was getting through it all and that I wasn't willing to make them a victim of MY baggage. I found out through some deep conversations that some of them had baggage equal to or more than mine. What I decided up front was that it was important to be honest and open about most of my past plus very honest about what and who I wanted in my future. On my "absolutely must have" list was 'the opportunity to volunteer in my community and NOT be nagged. Jane and I often volunteer at the same events in the same time slot although what she does might be quite different than what I do while we're there. I hope you are equally blessed if and when you seek Mr Right-for-you.

[@QueenConsious]

@@carlbromley5257 thanks for your story I’m 29 years old and a Virgin age is relevant if they are mature discipline and qualified I would talk to somebody 22 and older because you have some older men who are not mature and discipline so it depends on the person it’s good to have God Boundaries

[@carlbromley5257]

@@QueenConsious, I agree that many older men are immature in their thinking and, sadly, their actions too. While online dating for me was not originally for the purpose of finding a wife, it did take away whatever loneliness other guys go through and I never did do the bar scene. Along the way I had MANY good conversations, earned a bit of money as a handyman, saved a few ladies probably THOUSANDS of dollars helping a little here and there, things that were easy for me and, in a couple of situations, where I could teach their grandchildren this and that to help them in life. My priority setters are "God, family, country, job" and I shared that with MANY people, men and women, who seemed to be having trouble what they should be doing with their life.

[@jarrietkennedy13]

GOD HAVE MERCY UPON ME🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@happymichieworriah8881]

Yes extended adolsenceeeeeee. Yep not cos of moneyyy.. Not waitin baggage or livin together

[@caomh6168]

Marriages today fall apart because people are more willing to discard a bad relationship, instead of sticking it out in an unhappy marriage.

[@lilchristuten7568]

The marriage shouldn't be unhappy in the first place, marriage should enhance your life not make it worse.

[@caomh6168]

@@lilchristuten7568 I never said that marriages that end in divorce started out unhappy

[@carlbromley5257]

@Eoghan, respect and communication are keys to learning about each other and uncovering the sources of unhappiness. If there was abuse while either one was growing up, professional help might be needed. Speaking from experience and observation, a happy marriage is worth it.

[@framboise595]

@@carlbromley5257 Respect and communication ! Here we go again for mor feminist psychology ! What about what the BIBLE says for a change ? Where has female submission gone these days ? (Ephesians 5:25 / Titus 2:4) ? The word of God is blasphemed among Christians. Shame on us. We have allowed ourselves to replace the Word of God by wordly feminist psychology. Men like you just let their wives be in control in the name of "love". And God's word is totally blasphemed because women are running the show.

[@carlbromley5257]

@@framboise595 , I respectfully disagree with you. My wife does not run ALL the show but she has my blessing on taking charge of certain parts of it. She happens to be a great cook... Am I going to take charge of making a grocery list? My wife leads devotions at a local haven for abused women and, so far, I have had the PRIVILEGE of sitting in on several sessions. My wife is by far the better of us as a student of the Bible and regular devotions. She deserves to be in that leadership role, not me. I happen to be better at recognizing when people's actions are contrary to God's will and I take action depending on time and circumstance. Imagine yourself as an observer, myself in the picture as a volunteer, and a Christian COUPLE are starting to yell at each other. My action.... I reached out and took one hand of each and told them both EQUALLY, "we need to pray, right now!" Re ownership, keep in mind that probably all versions of the Bible have been interpreted in male dominated centers of influence. I made a comment previously that I believe the ORIGINAL Bible was the infallible word of God... Maybe not so much all the interpretations. For myself, I go back to Proverbs 3:5-6... (paraphrased) 'trust not your own understanding. Trust in God and He will show you the way.'

[@tootoottmm7059]

Sex before marriage is forbidden in Islam. Women should Atrechs the same for transient relationship is the need safety and the family with a husband who offers her happiness

[@preetiagenoia8104]

So true! They need to get married. That is why the world is so broken.

[@help_urself7654]

What if they don't want to? Being tied up to someone rest of your life can be frustrating you know. Marriage is not an easy topic and it's certainly not the right answer for every person on the world. Respect people's choices and their wants. God bless :)

[@augustinasimpineymensah7825]

Very very true

[@StanBelyshev]

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[@waybachwin1747]

This is a long video...

[@happymichieworriah8881]

Refuse lust culture

[@hellespont1]

Is there an audience there or just empty chairs?

[@quantumfrost9467]

hellespont1 nah there is an audience

[@carlbromley5257]

I'd estimate an audience of 150-200, all young adults as far as I could tell.

[@jeremyeasterling2211]

Nicholas. I have not even watched this video yet but I can guess he quotes the passage that states casting off childish ways. Yes. It is that simple. You choose to become an adult. Or you choose to stay a child.

[@cjmorgan.toronto.canada]

I'm sorry but although I've so much enjoy Mark's talk with regard to "The Tale Of Two Brains" (really folks, check that video out -- it's most excellent), in this talk with teenagers, he's just so, so off the mark and his Christian dogma here has now just trapped him into talking silliness. And it's nothing against religion, you understand, but rather this notion of no sex before marriage and so folks either have to abstain until they reach a better level of emotional maturity (around age 30) or else, yes, you can have sex, but only if make a life long commitment with someone. And that's the silliness of the Christian trap. So of course, being caught in that trap, Mark has then rationalize that of course those in their late teens and early twenties are ready for marriage and a life long commitment. And that is just so much bull (sorry, but it is). The fact of the matter is that maturity wise, we need our teen years to rebel on those things we're against, and we need our twenties as a single person to gain the foundations of being an independent person and to figure out those things we actually stand for. And so it is that in the most practical of terms, the core of our personality does not start to solidify until about age 30 (and for the rest of our life after that we might polish up the outside of our character to better refine ourselves, but the core of who we are probably isn't going change much after that). And that's the problem with gettting married at some earlier time -- in our teens and earlier 20's we're not yet full solidified in character ourselves and neither is anyone else our same age. We are, to some degree still a sort of "unknown quantity" as it were. And so, for example, at 23, your character hasn't fully solidified yet, and the person you're thinking of marrying who's the same age their character hasn't fully solidified yet, and so by that time you both hit 30 and been in this life long committed relationship with each other, you wake up to discover you're married to someone where the two of you aren't a good fit for each other at all! And therein is the stupidity of what Mark is talking about here in terms of making some life long marriage commitment before age 30, or at the very least before age 25 -- you just don't know who you're getting married to at the time because both you and they are still "unknown quantities" to each other. So I'm sorry Mark, but your own Christian beliefs have now trapped you into a silliness where you don't even realize that what's there in The Good Book is altogether very different than the reality of what human nature and natural human maturing is in the real world and in the most practical of terms. So any of this talk about being ready to make some life long commitment of marriage to anyone else before we hit age 30, or at least at 25 is altogether a bunch of silliness. And so what do we do about our sexual urges in the meantime? Well far be it from me to suggest we just sleep around with anyone we can. But nevertheless, for folks who fall in love with each other and exclusively date each other in a serious manner, then yeah, pre-marital sex really isn't such a bad thing at all, and this notion of having to be a virgin by the time we get married might have done well in mid-evil times when folks might be getting married at ages 12 or 15, but these days it's very much an outmoded idea, particularly if we're of the mind to advocate that folks not commit to any married life before they are 30, or at the very least 25. Seriously folks, first get yourself out of your parents home and established as your own independent self -- complete with job and home of your own -- before you jump into marriage. Otherwise, you just go from being a dependent in your parents home to a dependent in your marriage, without ever having experienced being in your 20s and establishing yourself as independent so that by the time you actually do get married in your late 20's or early 30's, you and your partner can each enter that relationship as interdependency, not dependence -- folks who are in a long term relationship because they want to be, and not at all because they have to be. And I'm sorry Mark, but this talk you're doing in this video is just altogether so, so off the mark. With all due respect. And again folks, do check out the other video he did -- "The Tale Of Two Brains" because that one is spot on, and most excellently presented as well.

[@MyTwelveKids]

If you have sexual impulses, that's your first clue that God is getting you ready for marriage. If you didn't have them, would you have any interest in women at all? Time to grow up and think about someone besides yourself. Commitment to a loving, monogamous relationship of marriage is a haven for love to grow. It's where you find out what you're made of, and how wonderful it is to have someone who is committed to your good in all things.

[@Soneoak]

CJ Morgan They did a study on women. Women who had 1 sexual partner prior to marriage (apart from Husband) divorce rate goes up to 50+%. Women who had no sexual partner (apart from Husband) prior to marriage, divorce rate is at about 20%. Beyond 1 extra sexual partner, the rates of divorce keeps going up per extra partner until at about 70%, where it doesn't really matter. 70% of divorce are brought forth by women. That's just data though, and we work around those bits of data. Btw, the study didn't account for pre-marital sex, or men's sexual history, so as far as things go, all the women who only had their husband as sexual partner could've all had premarital sex. (Or married as virgins).

[@Soneoak]

Everyotheryoutuber Oh i didn't know he mentioned that study, woops. Lulz.

[@MyTwelveKids]

SF11HD™ You might want to actually look at history, especially the data of societies where data on marriage has been collected. In Christian societies where the church is strong, marriages DO last until one or the other partner dies; even when their marriage is arranged and the couple didn't choose their own spouse. They learn to love each other and find happiness. America has lost touch with faithfulness and therefore happiness; and has covered itself with vices.

[@peterpringle9950]

CJ Morgan anything dealing with jesus and the christers is total shit.

[@r.a.8503]

Beautiful ..

[@si_a_to2086]

True

[@LeadnNations2Him]

I like alot of Mark Gungors stuff but I don't like the equation of Masturbating = masturbating to porn/fantasy's. Masturbation isn't sinful. Lustful thoughts including porn is sinful.

[@regelemihai]

+Angelina Powell How can you masturbate without lustful thoughts, though? They go hand in hand, you can't separate the two.

[@LeadnNations2Him]

You cant say that definitively. That may be so for some but it wasn't for me. You can focus on just how you feel and not add in anything lustful at all. I would encourage you to read "getting your sex life off to a great start" it's a book for engaged and newly wed couples by two Christian sex therapists.

[@Jon-gj4pb]

Silly lady... you can't have one without the other. You think you will achieve orgasm without fantasizing? I'm not a total idiot.

[@LeadnNations2Him]

I did it all the time when I was single. If you can't do it then abstain. Now being married I think of my husband.

[@Jon-gj4pb]

Lol it's impossible to not lust and masturbate. To think so, you are lying to yourself.

[@vidhyanaroliya2579]

In hindi

[@lizziedoesstuff6212]

The whole part about teenagers being dumb, well, we are dumb, and we make mistakes, but guess what, SO DO ADULTS! Adults make as many if not more dumb mistakes as teenagers! Gosh dang.

[@mikeandersson6676]

No.. Adults make misstakes, but not as many as teenagers.

[@danielrobinson2284]

It's because many teens (including me when I was a teen moving into early 20s) were never told how to do it all in the best possible way and one that actually makes a lot of sense!! I got married last year, I am 25 and so is my wife. We watched Mark Gungors whole series laugh your way to a better marriage and it is the complete opposite to the world and is life giving and if all couples heard it they'd take their relationships more serious and the divorce rate would be dramatically reduced. The adults you refer to are in fact big people stuck in adolescence, how do I know? until last year I was still one of them. :-)

[@123sexist]

Were you even watching? The whole video is about warning the youth to not make the DUMB MISTAKES their parents made!

[@framboise595]

+Daniel Robinson That man you are talking about , Mark Gungor encourages wives to WITHHOLD sex from their husbands as if they still had a right over their own body in the marriage bed. I'm no liar , and God knows my heart. That man does not tell the BIBLICAL truth . He does not say that a wife is not in control of her body anymore. That man is a liar. Sorry to say.

[@Jon-gj4pb]

Please take your heresy and polygamy elsewhere.

[@solomonbalogun6545]

1)First sex experience of men gets imprinted for long time

[@aidylmorningdew195]

Sexual illicit relationship is the root sin.

[@happymichieworriah8881]

Yea man... wont explodeeeee. Nvm bad females wanting grosss that is badd...... Woa now 40s w tears in eyes do, not havin so soon. Don wan b disappointed. Yep serious trouble

[@whitchurchrajkumar2656]

He is wrong you need money and finish college early kids stops progress

[@jehnayr7949]

And I wish he wouldn't excitedly YELL throughout his entire message while on stage. Geez!! He sounds just like Sam Kennison! This video was a HUGE turn off so I turned off this you tube. Whew!

[@luanaluv6]

👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@KeistasZmogelis]

Too bad there are no men that don't masturbate or watch porn. Such people are extremely rare. Yet, still people get into happy marriages. I think he's drawing relation lines where there aren't any. To put it shortly: The cause of divorce is not that people slept around before marriage. These two things are different events that have one cause - Valuing sex more than relationships. I really don't believe in this whole "Don't sleep with her until marriage" stuff. Also, masturbation is good for you. There is no such thing as sin. And thank porn we are not getting as much rape victims as we could. That is statistically proven.

[@KeistasZmogelis]

***** I think for you.

[@imaginaryvenus5]

Paulius Mscichauskas This seems like a joke, I really hope this is a joke...

[@KeistasZmogelis]

it really isn't. Is there any specific point you disagree with and could you show why?

[@imaginaryvenus5]

Paulius Mscichauskas "There is not men that don't masturbate or watch porn." are you basing that on statistics or basing it on the fact that all your friends watch porn? be honest... Because I am a teenager and I never watch porn and I have never masturbated in my life, and I am not even a Christian! And I also know a few of my friends who are basically the same. "The cause of divorce is not that people slept around before marriage." It's the cause of it directly, but it's the cause of the men not getting satisfied enough as the first time they had sex in that cheap hotel room and they yearn for that moment, and that could make a man's sex life suffer, I can see some men getting around that if they have the will to bear that yearn, but other won't. And would feel that their partner isn't that good at sex. "Valuing sex more than relationships" to clarify, sex IS part of the relationship, and it's a major part too, men are wired to have a desire to release and a wife is where a man is supposed to do that. "Also, masturbation is good for you." that's EXACTLY like saying cigarettes are good for you, masturbating releases the fluids and gets you satisfaction (weak satisfaction anyways, and it doesn't mean anything) but as you get addicted it causes you a lot of trouble in your physical body, most notably is knee weakness and spots on your face, it also makes you less productive as I KNOW people who do it 5 times a day, and the more and more you do it, the more and more your first real sex will seem, not right, "thank porn we are not getting as much rape victims as we could." Oh please! I live in a country that right now has more rape rates than before the beginning of the internet, can you explain that?

[@KeistasZmogelis]

ImaginaryVenus5 "are you basing that on statistics or basing it on the fact that all your friends watch porn? be honest... Because I am a teenager and I never watch porn and I have never masturbated in my life, and I am not even a Christian! And I also know a few of my friends who are basically the same." That the majority of people masturbate is common knowledge. But I've still googled for statistics. The results vary drastically, so there is no precise answer to how many people masturbate. Some studies even reach 95%, but when rounding it all out, we can safely assume - more than half. If people are taught feeling guilt/shame because they masturbate, they'll keep it as a secret, so do not blindly trust your friends on this. " It's the cause of it directly, but it's the cause of the men not getting satisfied enough" Not necessarily men. But anyway, Some value sex more than relationships, and some value relationships more than sex. (And all in between) In the first case, the person fails to create strong relationships, sleeps with many people, cheats. In the other case, the person sacrifices his sexual desires to maintain a relationship, as that is his priority. A person that values relationships more than sex, would not cheat, even if he knows he can get an alternative or better sex experience. Even if he remembers that cheap sex in the hotel room. He simply cares about the relationship, and being a good person to his wife, more. Not cheating is directly linked to respecting ones partner and being a good person (upbringing). In this ocasion, past sex experiences do not change a thing. That was my point. Cheating is not necessarily the main reason for divorce though. It could also be, well, being incompatible (Not necessarily sexually) and hating each other... Some people just really rush into marriages because of a "blind crush". In case of sexual reasons for divorce - Not getting satisfied sexually is a valid reason. I don't really see a big problem with divorce if people are not happy together. People should have the right to aim for happiness, even if the reason is, that the man or woman knows what he wants in sex from previous experiences. They have the right to aim for sexual satisfaction. We only live once, and it's ok not to settle down with mediocrity. Sex before marriage is important. I believe the couple should live as a married couple before they actually get married. This way, this won't be a blind "Purchase". ""Also, masturbation is good for you." that's EXACTLY like saying cigarettes are good for you," You should listen to sexologists, psychologists and doctors, not your mom. I can see how it can be problematic when people constantly masturbate and do nothing else, primarily in terms of productivity, but in moderation, masturbation is healthy. For example, a reduced risk of prostate cancer is pretty cool. "(weak satisfaction anyways, and it doesn't mean anything)" For starters, you put too much value on sex, as if it's something from another dimension. It's not magic. It's a bodily function. Like sneezing. Sex is very pleasurable, especially when with a loved person, but all these rules and regulations are made up. Sex doesn't necessarily has to have a deep meaning. Also, How do you know whether it's weak or not if you never tried? Also, are you a virgin or not? The level of satisfaction is directly linked to the amount of arousal and the right stimulation. It is very possible to be more aroused and stimulated better when masturbating than having sex with a partner. Though, In my case, If I had a willing partner, I would never masturbate. I would have no reason to. Sex with a partner is ideal. And here's another thing - when you masturbate, you learn how to deal with your body, so it's basically practise. You can improve your sex with a partner drastically. In case of women, having more satisfaction when masturbating than when having sex with a partner is very common. Many women (7/10 was it?) can't even reach orgasm during penetrative sex, but they may reach it when "finger painting". Btw You can eat cake if you want to. It doesn't have to be your birthday. What matters is whether you are happy while eating cake. The difference between masturbation and non birthday cake, is that masturbation won't make you fat. "but as you get addicted..." It's ironic how people in south USA google more porn and claim more addiction. I don't know why that is so, but here's my guess: The problem is sex education. They are taught that masturbation is wrong, against god, so they think about it way more, which makes them want to do it more... Others feel no guilt, they rub one out and forget about it. The weak knees and spots on the face - I've never heard or seen anything like that. It sounds kinda like "Masturbation will make you blind". But if that was the case, it would be exactly the same for sex with a partner as well. Same bodily processes. " Oh please! I live in a country that right now has more rape rates than before the beginning of the internet, can you explain that?" Easy. Porn is not the only factor that affects rape rates. Upbringing and awareness spreading are far larger factors.

[@Kevin-ql3wv]

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[@kristine8338]

I am sorry Sir. The days before Rosh Ha-Shanah, the Hebrew month of Ellul and the constellation Play a major role in finding your partner in life. He or She can be your soulmate... Christians have lost touch with the universe as an ever moving upwards spiritual spiral towards G-d by performing acts of kindness and justice.

[@mateusgimenez2742]

he talks in a much sassy way of expressionism,Therefore i cant relate to advices provided.

[@solomonbalogun6545]

Selfish

[@congunners]

I like a lot of other of Mark Gungor's videos, but I don't like this one. It's aimed at people who want to achieve this stereotypical "perfect" life which involves being happily married with kids etc. But why is that the "perfect" life? Why is sex with multiple people so frowned upon in society? It sure feels great, so if two consenting adults want to have casual sex then what's the problem!?

[@framboise595]

+Robert C A man can have sex with multiple partners. It's called polygamy and was never condemned by the Lord because it cannot endanger Fatherhood. But female sexual promiscuity is a CURSE since it destroys invisible fatherhood. That is why it has always been frowned upon by the Lord . And our Western society , as demonic as can be , precisely encourages female sexual promiscuity.

[@framboise595]

Ariana Wells True . It was not encouraged by God but God never listed it among sexual sins (like fornication or adultery) because it is not. In polygamy , the marriage structure is respected and fatherhood is not threatened : each child born from these unions has a father and a mother . It is true that it may often leads to jealousy and competition from women , but this is a consequence of sin , not of polygamy itself.

[@framboise595]

Ariana Wells Don't mix up polygamy with fornication and don't forget that God made the woman for the man . God just told kings that they should not have many women. He never said that they should have just one wife. We are not allowed to go further than what God allowed or disallowed. Solomon portrayed women as the "delights of men" . It is true biblically that the woman was supposed to be a man's delight. Proverbs 5 verse 18 cannot be clearer and more beautiful actually. Becuase when a woman is that loving doe portrayed there , she is so beautiful.

[@framboise595]

Ariana Wells Don't mix up polygamy with fornication and don't forget that God made the woman for the man . God just told kings that they should not have many women. He never said that they should have just one wife. We are not allowed to go further than what God allowed or disallowed. Solomon portrayed women as the "delights of men" . It is true biblically that the woman was supposed to be a man's delight. Proverbs 5 verse 18 cannot be clearer and more beautiful actually. Becuase when a woman is that loving doe portrayed there , she is so beautiful. If the woman was not for the man , then other sexual outlets like homosexuality would be right. No surprise that the spiritually and morally decaying West is trying to make homosexuality acceptable and even honourable now that it has divorced woman from man's guidance and protection.

[@congunners]

I actually feel sorry for how brainwashed you two have been by religion. The fact that you interpret the bible literally is laughable. Apologies if this comes off as harsh, but honestly would you listen to how utterly ridiculous you sound? "God made woman for the man", what sort of bullshit is that? Even as a man, that is one of the most stupid statements I have ever heard!

[@Ramirezoid]

jush mashabate

[@jgunn03]

This dude is so sexist it's unbearable . . . . and I'm only 2 minutes into the video.

[@jgunn03]

The Bible doesn't say anything about marrying someone else who is 'Christian'. Point to note.

[@jgunn03]

OK, he's not going to point out that men are selfish and bed and THIS is the reason that women seek other men outside of their marriage (oh yeah, this sexist dude thinks it's only the men who cheat on their spouse).

[@jgunn03]

Oh that's right, I forgot: Women don't masturbate nor do they have sexual desire. Thank gods I'm an atheist. This thinking is what's driving women to the divorce attourneys.

[@maretvilla1531]

Warning: This video is not for fragile feminists.

[@jgunn03]

@@maretvilla1531 Another apologists for the males. I think the only one speaking about how to be helpful when it comes to female satisfaction is women. Definitely not a white man. I think the only fragile women are the non-feminists. You people believe everything the white man tells you.

[@ginalilmamaloveslana4541]

he's crazy

[@mtp6572]

You're just lost.

[@Wraithsof]

I'm not religous by any mean but I genuinely enjoy listening to this man. This is interesting to think about.

[@samfordata]

He's God sent, I love his teachings. For he teaches with a sense of humor.

[@jeremyeasterling2211]

Nicholas. I have not even watched this video yet but I can guess he quotes the passage that states casting off childish ways. Yes. It is that simple. You choose to become an adult. Or you choose to stay a child.

[@marygarrett9724]

True