Sex is NOT Casual (Part One)

[@Ajkd544]

I think sex has become so casual now, and people are definitely showing signs of addiction and the negative effects of it as it has now become so mainstream that you just need a device and internet to get to watch porn , people start showing off their body more in an exhibitionist way and their comfortable with that all because it's common in the entire world

[@SirCruxful]

Porn is terrible in this generation but we are having less sex than the older generations, also less partners than the swinging 60s 😭

[@samengelage3521]

You say that as if it's a bad thing that people aren't dying of aids anymore... And look, many of those studies show that once you reach the part showing the data on the men aged 25, the number of virgins goes down from 30% to 1%. People are simply losing their virginities later than they did before due to increased knowledge about sexual health.

[@Revengilate]

And that's the craziest part 😭​@@SirCruxful

[@Rulody]

@@Revengilateit’s wild how sexual liberation and hating men are in the same timeline I feel like it caused a unfixable tear in the dating market to the point that 70% of 18-30 year old women want to be approached meaning no guy is approaching them due to the fact they might look like a creep or weird this is scary times and I’m afraid it’ll get worse if things don’t change now

[@Revengilate]

@@Rulody that's a good take, I honestly see your point and it's indeed crazy it both are in the same timeline

[@kyladanae]

I’m not religious at all but I wished more people talked about this. Opening up the most vulnerable parts of you to total strangers has lasting effects.

[@RicardoCray]

Relationship not religion

[@HERDuh565]

@@RicardoCrayreligion still plays a part babe because you do have to repent and change your life ( not at all saying this is a bad thing ) .

[@zet433]

Absolutely!

[@floasish2flo164]

@@HERDuh565 Not everyone is Christian some people are spiritual and don’t follow a Abrahamic faith or religion.

[@HERDuh565]

@@floasish2flo164 are you slow? the person who replied was referring to christianity.

[@Werewolf.with.Internet.Access]

When my gf met, she said she wanted to wait to have sex. I said mkay, no problem Six months go by, we’re seeing only each other, she says she likes me a lot, but she still wants to wait I said bet, let’s go get something to eat Later, she chose me. And we’ve been married for five years now. It can happen, folks, it really can.

[@kagayakuangel5828]

This should be the top comment. Nothing else. That's amazing. :) I love that for you. I made my first bf wait for 6 months. I should never have had sex with him lmao

[@jkseraphim4]

It always been there. It's just people forgot it.

[@2Tune2]

Being a virgin or having no stds is like a diamond in this day and age

[@Crimsonchado]

People literally shaming people for being virgin. This world belongs to satan

[@hansolo9585]

Stop lying to yourself

[@2Tune2]

@@hansolo9585 LMAO 💀

[@2Tune2]

@@hansolo9585 I mean in this generation where people are doing it casually I'd rather not go through the mental anguish and stds I could get from people plus im really young why would i worry about giving someone backshots lol.

[@hansolo9585]

@@2Tune2 People are statistically having less sex than previous generations. You have to be terminally online to think you’re some sort of rare creature

[@AUGHHHHHBBG]

Being a teen girl myself, I don’t think people realize how bad it gotten for us over here with this stuff. Yes teens do it isn’t uncommon but these boys are scary. Like wdym I’m trying to have my lil bf and I’m too shy to even hold hands but these dudes talking about send… Who is sending you anything? Not to mention these girls fighting over the most mid guys and saying they want him to do stuff to them… They say this and they failing all their classes too 🧍🏾‍♀️

[@chaurielle]

I’m happy you have sense

[@Ga_mma1]

I agree and I’m a teen boy. Sex should be for a man and woman that are married to each other. But the few times I’ve ever talked about my beliefs my peers acted like it was a foreign concept. And teenage boys are either really chill or incredibly weird. I think 🌽 being advertised towards younger male audiences has influenced a lot of young boys mindset. Not me though cause I’m cool 😎

[@yrlocallumina]

@@Ga_mma1 yasss thats really good God bless you!!

[@actual_doge3221]

I liked talking about sensitive stuff with teen boys when I was a teen. It made me feel safe, and I got their insight in some important things. But I understand SOME of them are really weird, like it's not safe to be around them or alone with them.

[@ReiAmi-123]

Yess girl! i completely understand. People act like “pulling” and “cracking” with people is an accomplishment. I know a lot of people our age find fufillment in that sorta thing and its sad. Smh be so worried about engaging in that activity but be failing the grade like whaaat?

[@shadysidesmoke]

I lost my virginity like two months ago and she wanted a relationship at first, then out of nowhere said she wasn't ready,ive never felt so used before💀

[@xSavedSoulx]

Post-nut clarity.

[@shadysidesmoke]

@@xSavedSoulx frl

[@mimia.4810]

Should have saved yourself for marriage, with a woman that actually loves and values you. I wish society didn’t lie to men about sex. A lot of men fall into the trap of believing that their virginity is worthless and they shouldn’t remain pure. Sex is much better in a committed healthy relationship. I suggest you try waiting next time. God bless you.

[@shadysidesmoke]

Im not really into marriage but i do appreciate the words,truly.​@mimia.4810

[@shadysidesmoke]

​@@mimia.4810I'm also gonna be celibate until then,I'm personally not into sex like that tbh anyway

[@qc6057]

I knew someone who invited me to be friends with benefits. She was hot, unreasonably hot. She apparently had feelings for me from high school, but never told me. She was already sleeping with 8 or so other guys. I was tempted to be another name on her list, but I decided not to. Years later, she’s got HIV and spread it to everyone she slept with, not to mention how she has a kid by one of the guys and he ghosted her. I think I’m good.

[@chaurielle]

That’s insane 🤯

[@qc6057]

@@chaurielle but not surprising. She bought into the casual sex lifestyle, but no one told her what would result from her flippant disregard. It’s sad.

[@kensigregory361]

That's a cute cat on your pfp.

[@qc6057]

@@kensigregory361 Ah, yes. Buscemi Cat.

[@blackshadexl]

Oh no….

[@bennefib]

The double edged irony of people saying " don't watch porn " and go talk to people but you quickly find out everyone is sleeping around, crossing relationship boundaries to casually flirt or just straight up cheating and the algorithm is pushing it all 😢

[@actual_doge3221]

No morals anymore. Kim K is their idol. OF is priority now.

[@youresinningtoo3996]

and of course they do when "cheating spouse" is such a huge genre. It's like how we talk about the female beauty standard being rooted pedophilia, everyone denies it, yet is "teen" is the number one genre on every site. In public everyone ridicules and is disgusted by incest. On the other hand, you have 12-year-old boys making "what are you doing step bro?" jokes with "family" also being a top genre. Porn fuels and encourages societies biggest taboos.

[@mackpunch368]

EXACTLY, Its how you choose to act out and proceed with your actions is the problem, just because someone watches intercourse online doesnt mean they dont agree with the bodily autonomy and boundries and privacy of others.

[@veronica-mew]

Anyone else think it's interesting how our culture is the most sexualized it's ever been, yet people are also more lonely than ever. Young people aren't in relationships or having as much sex as past generations at their age. The loneliness epidemic is everywhere and so is sex. I'm not putting all the blame on sexualized content or culture, but it appears that it's definitely not helping the vast majority of people.

[@chaurielle]

Very very true!

[@Wonderwoman79G]

💯

[@Da_bear-ij9gm]

I think it’s bc of the capitalist nature of commercialized s3x. We’re getting the fast fashion version of everything now, even human connection

[@ebonie_._]

Well said ! 👍

[@Zzz-vh3mu]

It’s just called women’s sexual freedom plus the internet

[@cinderkenders744]

I have only ever been with one women and I just find it so hard to hook up with someone I don’t share that strong of a connection with.

[@kagayakuangel5828]

Good. Don't.

[@geoclark7070]

A lot of people are perverts. Not just men not just women.

[@actual_doge3221]

Yes. They use others for stuff like yk what and money. And exploit them on the internet w/o permission.

[@kagayakuangel5828]

Men started something they couldn't handle when they decided to define a woman's worth as being solely dependent on her virginity in the Elizabethan era. Lol If you've ever read Much Ado About Nothing by Shakespeare, you'll know what I mean. Then women reacted by copying men to flip the tables on them by using their evil and sexually deviant ways against them to escape the patriarchy of death or to just...survive (by using money from porn/ sex work). And now no one can handle it. Lol. It's funny how that works.

[@Allystargirl]

This has been the wildest part about learning to navigate adulthood and consuming the news, and adult content (not necessarily sexual) that I’ve never consumed before, and hearing family stories and local gossip I’ve never heard before…. LITERALLY EVERYONE IS A PERVERT. I will trust my future children with absolutely NO one until they are old enough to be a black belt in fkn karate and survive in the wild alone like holy-💀

[@kellarenna]

I've recently decided to quit dating entirely because of how casual and expectant people are of sex very early on. I've been sexually disciplined for years but I realize the vast majority of people are not and casual sex is normalized and I'm the odd man out. People do not fully grasp the repercussions of sex. There's nothing casual about it. I got laughed out of a group online for not giving a guy sex after 5 dates. "I would have stopped talking to a guy after that long" it was only 4 weeks of dating 😂 these comments coming from women. 5 times you hang out w someone is "too long" before sex?? We've lost our damn minds. These same women will post about how men ghosted them after sex and everyone will offer their sympathies..make it make sense

[@chaurielle]

Yes!!! These women get ghosted and disrespected. Then they keep repeating the same cycle 🫠 and criticize people like us.

[@kensigregory361]

I never cared for criticism about my body! Like, you want to have fun, sleep around then do you! I won't bother you, but don't bother me about my life!

[@makerKID5]

I dated a girl. I thought she was so great so I was like I'll wait. I wanted to really connect with her. After 5 dates exactly the number you mentioned she blocked me. Weeks later she messages me, I asked her what happened she said she blocked me because I didn't try anything. 😂 I'm so happy I moved away from traditional dating.

[@scotthearts9634]

​@makerKID5 after 5 dates? Girl I barely know you im not that comfortable with you, and sorry I'm not sorry I sex as intended for married couples 🤷😂

[@MalesAreDemons]

Exactly make it make sense

[@Maliixo]

i'm young, 19. i have a girlfriend who's 20. we both are virgins are are terrified to even get that far into.. intimacy, we're waiting till marriage to prove to ourselves that sex isn't needed to build a loving and healthy relationship. i fell in love with this girl's soul and spirit over the past year, it's terrifying to me that so many folks kinda just give themselves away like that.. i was never ever a casual dating person anyways, it just scares me that people don't have value in what that kind of intimacy holds. it's important to only do it if you plan on staying with that partner. i'm not saying wait till marriage, me and her waiting until that has nothing to do with religion or anything like that, it's just if i'm gonna do something like that with someone i wanna make sure i marry them too. i want them to be my one and only. that's it lol

[@chaurielle]

I love that you guys are doing that. Whether for Jesus are not, most people don’t have the discipline to not do it. The foundation of your relationship will be way stronger and more genuine the way you guys are doing it. People nowadays would never last without s3x. But i hope you do consider Jesus. I’m honestly not religious, I have a relationship with him. But thank you for your comment!

[@Maliixo]

@@chaurielle i have considered but i have religious trauma i've gotta deal with first before i got through with it, my Father was and is a Christian and had a terrible way of spreading Jesus to people. but that's a convo for a different time, for now im doing it because that type of intimacy is sacred and treasured to me.

[@Thepinkon3]

@@MaliixoI totally hear you. Religious trauma is so hard but I think it’s important to remember the trauma are from the people, not God Himself. Unfortunately, a lot of people do things in Gods name, but then don’t even follow His teachings. That’s not what God ordains or agrees with. I find it beautiful how you and your partner are going against the grain as far as intamacy in your relationship. My boyfriend (22) and I (20) are doing the same thing. God is our center, but that’s not to say that we don’t have feelings. We do, but we know that when we are married, that is when Gods gift can be used and it will be beautiful. I will be praying for you both! God bless you! 🩷

[@Maliixo]

@@Thepinkon3 I understand that, but i grew to resent that religion because of him, i'll deal with that on my own terms for right now, i don't believe in stuff like that, once upon a time i did though. people that use God's word in that way effect people different ways, he just used it in the worst way to make me not believe it. again i'll deal with that myself religion is a journey that has to be taken by ones self But i appreciate you, and i hope you and your person are forever bonded under God. that in itself just sounds beautiful to the ear. Have a good one 💜

[@whytheyputatsignsnowtf]

@@Maliixo i felt ur last reply heavy like my dad did something similar and mightve turned me off to Christianity for a cool minute 🙃🙂‍↔️ now i see him less and in some ways it helps me WILLINGLY build my faith i just need him at a lil distance

[@BUBBLESLOVESYOU123]

100% agree with this video more bad than good comes from looking at sex in a casual way and sadly most people won’t realize it until it’s too late. I never understood how people could just allow anyone access to their bodies like stds still exist and it just affects a lot of things whether it be mentally or physically.

[@chaurielle]

@@BUBBLESLOVESYOU123 love this! And in part 2 I talk about std’s & Sti’s

[@MZRTMusic254]

I usually get laughed at for saying I don't want to engage in intercourse with just any woman or simply for pleasure. A girl put an end to the start of our relationship simply because of that. We'd known each other since high school, so it was hard letting go, but I had to stick to my guns rather than pretend to be someone I'm not just to be with her. It's never worth it 💯

[@kylasounique]

Because most people are insecure, and have low self esteem/ self worth

[@ebonie_._]

⁠@@kylasounique Yes , that’s the biggest reason. People just want to be liked and afraid of being alone.

[@bentennyson2565]

Agreed I never understood how anyone can just let random people inside their body.

[@MiniLinlin]

Like, it's so peaceful to be a happily single/celibate person. I've seen people infected with HIV, chlamydia, etc. I'm sorry but it must be so humiliating to go through that. I have friends who have gotten involved with married men yet still somehow want "no judgement". And then there are the other sex addicts who would even do their family members as long as there are "no consequences". Likeeee... yikes. I know what happy families look like and that's not it.

[@ErickaJ954]

Family members??? Whattt

[@MiniLinlin]

@@ErickaJ954 Yeah, "progressive" people who think it's "prude" to... not find incest appealing? I've seen a couple of people bringing that up in conversation because it's "just giving love to another human".

[@_Hero_Link_]

cut of those Friends

[@tyuptydown]

Aww hell nah people are willing to pick peaches from the family tree if given the chance?

[@QilinRider21]

​@tyuptydown so stealing this one 😅😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Jrock00]

Yeah it's somewhat of a shame that society is so sex crazed, but I don't mind it. It makes it easier to win and accomplish things bc everyone is so distracted imo.

[@chaurielle]

@@Jrock00 it definitely does benefit the disciplined.

[@deepeyton]

Facts

[@sebastienc.2257]

Man! I wish I knew how distracted I was and how distracted people are when I was younger. Im barely trying and life is becoming easier because I have slightly more discipline.

[@jay_gabriel144]

Yeah the bar is very low right now. So it’s easy to distinguish yourself from the rest

[@kass2086]

Definitely

[@NeighborhoodWatchMann]

As a 32-year-old male, I have nothing to say other than I agree 100%! You should have dropped the mic at the end of the video. Because you said a lot, and all of it was the truth

[@chaurielle]

Thank you

[@kandondooley89]

As a mostly retired h*e, I don't shame eroticism in either myself or others. I think s3x shame is just as bad as the laissez-faire attitude many people have towards intimacy. Both extremes Having said that, culture has drastically shifted towards the latter. I don't think that's a positive because everyone doesn't have that blueprint to live like that effectively. Everyone isn't meant to be a proto-prostitut3. I don't think the solution is mass purity culture cuz I've seen the dark side of that as well(nothing nice). I think the solution is for people to find equilibrium with their sense of self and being at every stage of life. Carnality without compassion and character is a path towards mediocrity if not destruction. S3x should be a byproduct of the connection you have with someone, not the end goal. Just my two cents.

[@MarioMario-vy4bi]

I like that last point that sex should be the product of the connection you have someone. Can you elaborate on that?

[@adielwilson8749]

Preach it's all about equilibrium

[@kandondooley89]

Sure. What I mean by that is that there's has to be authentic respect and reciprocity for each other's personhood. Not to engage each other as merely tools for satisfaction and discarding like they never existed. If there's no alliance, mutualism or at the very least camaraderie...why should physical intimacy follow? A good rule of thumb I follow is asking myself would I be okay not engaging in intimacy with and just enjoying their presence 😊 if the answer is yes, whatever happens or doesn't is wonderful either way. If the answer is no, my rapport with this person is probably more of a reductive nature and should probably be engaged in sparingly or not at all. I personally think that s3x is best enjoyed in a loving and healthy relationship/marriage but I also know that there are other life paradigms that people operate within that are not that such as divorced people who never wanna get married again or people who love singlehood but still have those physical desires and arrange a more informal friends with benefits arrangements. Common denominator for any of these arrangements to be successful imho is respect(of self and other), rapport, character, compassion and connection. I hope I didn't ramble on too much lol

[@blacksocrates1]

That is all fine and well as a concept, but it is thorough a selfish and self-absorbed way to view things. It isn't simply about shame. It is about the state of society and how women will be viewed. If we as a society allow women to be sexualized and devoid of shame, do not be surprised when marriage and fertility rates plummet. If you care about the state of society and future generations then you will take an interest in safeguarding against hedonism. A little bit of lust is as justifiable as a little bit of crystal meth.if you are going to condemn the latter, on what basis do you do so? Pleasure is pleasure right?

[@kandondooley89]

​@blacksocrates1 excuse me, sir. Caring about future generations isn't my specialty. If it's yours...be my guest to go about things how you see fit. I've made the decision to not get married or have children so future generations are will not be my personal responsibility. Besides, there are much more pressing issues besides s3xualization such as wealth inequality, human trafficking and environmental disaster and I doubt that you're contributing to being the solution for either one of those or the one that you speak of. Yes, pleasure is pleasure...but pleasure rooted in trying to feel a void or escapism is the basis for addiction. Fine as a concept...and excellent as a practice 😊

[@bentennyson2565]

I'm 22 male and honestly stuff like this makes being a Christian and waiting til marriage so much easier as pregnancy alone is enough reason to not do it. But even if pregnancy wasn't a concern I'll never understand how people especially women feel comfortable going home with a total stranger and having sex with them like that person could rape or rob you.

[@Da_bear-ij9gm]

I’d say it’s also not just that sex has been normalized (as this could be a good thing given how much sexual shame people, particularly women have), it’s that it’s been commercialized

[@ApahtieParty]

I die on the hill that like 90% of sex scenes in movies are unnecessary.

[@bruceleeds7988]

10:52 imagine making a tiktok while your baby is full out crying 😳

[@namizou3305]

AND a younger child climbing around back there

[@youresinningtoo3996]

she needed them to provide dramatic emphasis to what she was saying 😅

[@keventy6114]

Humans have not changed. What we tell ourselves has changed. This is not new.

[@tone2812]

And it makes me sad there’s more single fathers. I know a few single fathers, and that has never been a thing until I graduated college and got into the real real world. We need love, we need marriage, we need people that care for one another and not do it for their selfish desires.

[@chaurielle]

Exactly!

[@gutgrinder200]

This is something I've been saying for years now but we are genuinely slowly becoming how (not trying to be fucked up) Japan is with alot of sexual stuff specifically with the corn and media part and its truthfully a wildly scary thing.

[@gutgrinder200]

@mingiinterlude Yee I seen and heard quite a bit of the prostitution and cheating culture over there too which kinda caught me of guard because it's something I wasn't expecting well the cheating culture stuff. But the thing that concerns me and plays another huge role is the astronomical amount of sexual content that's in their media and corn that has been truthfully affecting primarily the males in very bad degenerate way (a lot of Japanese women have even expressed this too) and American men are becoming very similar to the same behavior over these past recent years.

[@Vkeiaddiction]

I agree with your points. I like japanese culture but I hate how sex centered they are. I can't even watch an anime without excessive fan service. And the creepy thing is that most of the time, it's highschool animes with the most fan service :(

[@gutgrinder200]

@mingiinterlude Ye most definitely the pdf file problem is super crazy. But whats even more CRAZIER is what you said "it's made to prevent it from happening irl" and ye I disagree with it too. Also even if what they are saying is true about trying to prevent it from happening to irl teens/kids by sexualizing them in their animation/manga that's just proving there are A LOT of pdf files in Japan with that line of logic due to the massive amount of that type of content having to constantly be made or shown in their media... -sigh- like what the flip.

[@chayo4537]

​@mingiinterludeyou can talk about japan who cares about cultural differences. Everyone talks about america but suddenly these other countries are off limits and cant be on the chopping block? 😂 nah! Talk about them 😂

[@chayo4537]

​@@Vkeiaddictionare you scared to talk about japan? 😂 without mentioning that EVERYWHERE in the world has its problems. Talk about japan. Its like yall are scared to talk about any other place other than america. Ignorant Punks

[@kurosan0079]

I think most people who claim that "it's just sex" don't actually believe in that statement. And those who do are some of the most morally bankrupt people in the modern world.

[@actual_doge3221]

And then condescend on virgins because they have self respect. Theres nothing very exciting about something everybody's already had a turn at.

[@demetrioshilton2401]

This THIS👌

[@Caroline-qj7fq]

Nah I 100% agree with the statement that sex isn't that meaningful and I'm pretty sure rapists and pedos are the worst of society but alr

[@anonnnymousthegreat]

If people stopped consuming so much content that promotes xes 24/7, people would respect it more. That includes the top contender known as music.

[@the_indecisiveartist_5850]

Problem is we are even exposed by this through ads, through movies, through disguised fetish phone games that children love to play mindlessly... We can't escape it at all, and it is so difficult especially when you are already suffering from that addiction because every little thing, reminds you of it! It is saddening!

[@0688hall]

The brain doesn't distinguish between reality and thoughts. When you visually see something it's imprints in your brain as reality. However, because we have experience and know what we are seeing is not real, we hijake our brain's ability to produce the hormones like dopamine with a false reality. And our amazing bodies become used to the same false reality which triggers needed for more to meet that dopamine level of before, the margin of utility. Same thing happens with scary/thriller and violent movies and TV shows. If you stop ingesting this content for some time then try and watch it again your body reacts as if it's real, especially with production quality. This content is hijacking our ability to produce cortisol which afterwards it calms down there a huge feeling of relief and pleasure. Our brains enjoy stimulation, but can be overly stimulated and desensitized.

[@mackpunch368]

Can it possible to proceed to a more healither state if you moderate your usage or cutdown on engagement?

[@tonekagrigsby5992]

I am in the middle about sex I’m a 29 year old virgin , who have friends who are sexually active . They tell me all their hookup stories and tbh I’m jealous because they have experience it . But I worried about giving up so personal to just anyone . So I’m holding on to my v card for as long as I can . Hell I may die a virgin because my generation sucks

[@thenappynatural]

I have had a very similar experience. I’ve been listening to stories about my friends sex lives for 10+ years. But seeing the things they go through and the dangerous situations they put themselves in, I’m anything but envious. Dying a virgin would be better than engaging in hook up culture for me personally. My body is too important to me.

[@apetitan2936]

I know you have probably have heard this before, and it may even upset you because I was literally in the same situation you are currently in. But I’m saying this as someone that recently just lost their virginity and waited a bit longer than average (23). You are not missing much. At all. And if I’m being brutally honest about it I didn’t even really like it. It’s not like what I did was a random hookup either, it was with my girlfriend. But I mainly did it because it’s what I thought I wanted, after the fact, I’m kind of starting to regret it. I held onto my virginity for so long to the point where I started to disregard how special a first time actually would be, and that eats away at me because that’s something I can never get back. Take your time, and find someone like YOU. Don’t conform to norms, narratives, and what other people want out of you. Don’t make the mistake I did. I sadly began to normalize a very special and intimate moment in my life as a one of the most casual things you can do.

[@gk3330]

Sleeping around opens you up to demons it’s the simple truth

[@kaylasworld_]

i don't know why people even think it was casual when you can literally bring life into the world???? HOW?? HOW i do not like how sneaky ink was a thing like ugh and that is soo degrading to women one night stand???? when $ex was MADE to get intimate, INTIMATE i see into you, you see into me like no it is no casual we will THRIVE when we(they but i do not want to point fingers) learn to have more self control we as a society need to want better for future generation then accidentally getting pregnant and carrying out there pregnancy for a sneaky link? REAAALLLY this is so sad to me

[@isplash3s998]

😂 ts be irritating me too, I feel u

[@gk3330]

Yep and then people will kill the babies in the name of abortion and call it “healthcare” 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@kagayakuangel5828]

it is sad. Don't fall into prostitution nor their depravity. I fell into it and I'm recovering. But I became a mathematician. You don't have to fall into it, the next generation must promote change and love. The last generation failed me. It doesn't have to be you too.

[@pauljohnson962]

As a 23 year old black man. Thank you for making this video. This really affects relationships with coworkers and everyday people. I tried to talk to this one woman at my job (just trying to connect with a fellow African American in a predominantly white corporate office) and she thought I was trying to hit on her and get sex. You can’t even try to develop a friendship without someone thinking u want sex from them. Smh 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@bentennyson2565]

As a 22yr old man I can agree it sucks you can't have basic conversations with women without them thinking you want sex

[@Doyoujustlovethepain]

She wants to protect herself , you can't deny men behaviours caused so much harm

[@kagayakuangel5828]

No. You can't. Lol. The first thing this black dude said to me was "hey sexy" in a chat online and I told him "I'm not a sex doll I'm a human being". I didn't like his response and blocked him right away lmao

[@bentennyson2565]

@kagayakuangel5828 dang that's a crazy 1st response I'm a man but if a woman said that she'd be blocked 🚫

[@fionagallagherapologist5968]

you can't blame women for being fearful though, unfortunately most men are sexualizing us which is probably why she was defensive :/ i understand the frustration though

[@Sir.X]

im 27 now I've been practicing discipline over the past few years. It's really kept me more level headed and focused on a lot of personal goals like never before honestly and I hope a lot of men see this . i remember it turned casual to me in my early 20s during college I was just living life open and seeing different girls. it really dose comes with issues having woman fighting over you truly feels crazy to witness people become obsessive, jealous and dangerous when intimacy is involved including when it's more than 1 person they know you are with. at the time I thought if I was open about how I was seeing others, things would be cool but truth is it can make your life tough dealing with different people's emotions which distracted and stressed me out a lot in life . more people really need to see this video cause right now we are truly going through a downfall in our society with how oversexual and normalized this is

[@BriW444]

💯 I’m a female but I 100% agree with your perspective. I had my little phase. It wasn’t even all that. Now when I look back I just question why I even felt the need to engage with some of those ppl. It’s so much better when you’re truly invested into someone and it’s just you and them. Even with that one person, sex shouldn’t be the main focus. But even if you don’t being single and celibate is much better than that. I always tell people life is more than sex and relationships

[@imaristotle]

people act like what you’re saying is the craziest thing ever, i know america has been hypersexual forever but this generation has lost morals fr

[@Akultic]

EVERYTHING warps and twists the brain. The brain is very fragile mechanism. It’s just about having control over your direction.

[@dannyphantom3090]

Im waiting til marriage and it's hard as a man but I'll never understand and anyone could have have sex and risk stds/pregnancy for a random woman it just screams low standards.

[@hazeygrace8142]

I wouldn’t necessarily say you have to be married to have fulfilling, compassionate, and safe sex, but I do believe that type of sex is only available in committed relationships. No hook up is going to have all 3. The amount of girls I know who let their instincts overcome their logic and just hoped “pulling out” would be enough is too many and now they have babies despite not being ready/wanting kids

[@isplash3s998]

Is not about being married. Is about taking safe steps to ensure you're not just going from body to body, at that point is borderline ho3 activity. But if someone cares about their body count and want to keep it as low as possible, the safest bet is to wait till marriage.

[@deepeyton]

What you said at the 17:00 minute mark is the real key. You’re 25 one minute and the 35 within a blink of an eye and realize that you haven’t accomplished everything you wanted because you were too focused on chasing tail.

[@swandaley]

You were cooking, especially with the points about drama and being distracted from your goals. Casual s3x doesn't justify all of the drama that can come out of it. Also, the average person has to work hard to have a fruitful s3x life, and as you stated, it's a massive distraction from more rewarding goals such as getting a degree or building a business.

[@chaurielle]

@@swandaley you get it 🫱🏽‍🫲🏾. I appreciate your comment

[@Anjemivas]

I feel like as a 21 year old guy I'm getting coerced into hook up culture by mostly men; we're like almost bullied for not being men who sleep around with various women. It's also really weird how women and men can't just be friends, it's like as a guy the bullying from other men never stops and we get bullied into becoming sex addicted misogynists. Either you're a man and feel like you HAVE to sleep around or just neber speak to women ever unless she could potentially be a sexual partner, it's Fucking insanity

[@wheresthelambsauce8273]

Omg thanks you for this. Always felt like an outsider for not casually talking about sex. I don't know how people think of sex as casual, because to me it is really sacred. I'm 16 and it makes me lose hope when I see people my age and younger have a negative view of sex, thinking it's just casual. It also doesn’t sit right with me when people share private photos of them and their partner to their friends and graphically talk about every detail. P*rn has completely ruined everything.

[@actual_doge3221]

I really hate that last part too. I am sooo disgusted by it, to completely objectify people like items without feelings. No respect as a human.

[@dereckhazzard9149]

⁠@@actual_doge3221i hate it as well, recently it was spread to many people that a girl’s (school age) private story on snap got out- and what’s crazy is that she was the perpetrator of the whole thing, it’s like people are losing more and more respect for themselves

[@wheresthelambsauce8273]

@@actual_doge3221 yeah me too. It makes it hard to trust people these days

[@Diadraws6]

When a woman is undergoing trauma and stress during pregnancy it stress out the fetus as well. Which a lot of studies have hypothesize that this is how ADHD in infants is caused. when a person is born they experienced stress or trauma in the womb.

[@tonekagrigsby5992]

Well my mom was stressed out a bunch while she was pregnant with me

[@Diadraws6]

@@tonekagrigsby5992 I'm sorry to hear that but know you are not alone.

[@mackpunch368]

While I absoulteley agree that trauma and stress should be avoided, I dont understand why ADHD is somthing to be afraid of, (in my experiance). My friend is diagagnosed with ADHD but he is way smarter and informed on hundreds of topics and information than I and most other people are, yes while it is hard to focus on one thing with ADHD and meds can help mediate it, is it neccesarly a bad thing?

[@thrillington2008]

I have not slept for some time and I'm just waiting for the right person to come along for that type of closeness.

[@gk3330]

Props to you man

[@chadguindon6909]

Having sex is the most irresponsible act a person can do. Sleeping around is not a flex but it rather means you are selfish, narcissistic, egotistical, immoral, unethical, dirty and gross. I have decided to go celibate 4 years ago and I have no worries about HIV/AIDS and other STDs. I am single/unmarried and childfree all by choice without a single regret.

[@kagayakuangel5828]

Me too and I agree. Lol.

[@apetitan2936]

It also means you lack self respect, cause say if you are like that and then decide to settle down later on and find someone you genuinely like, not only do you still carry the baggage that comes with that, but so does your partner. And I’m fairly confident that the majority of people would like to have a partner that doesn’t have a past of being used up, regardless of gender.

[@chadguindon6909]

@@apetitan2936 How is lacking self-respect? Just so you know, I am NEVER having a partner. Why do people want partners anyway? It sounds like y’all are insecure and codependent tbh.

[@zayinseven7923]

Casual leads to CASUALTY

[@briannab.8127]

Even though this video is being made , people think celibacy isn’t a thing . Thank you for making this. You’re just teaching the girls to not pop their coochies outside of marriage ❤❤.😂😢

[@chaurielle]

Thank you 😂

[@scotthearts9634]

😂😂😂

[@blessingecoma9233]

And guys need to stay pure too.

[@btcsavagex]

Couldn't agree more. Abstinence has cleared my mind! I remember when sex and sex work were taboo... now it's on every corner of the internet. I see how it has warped how we form relationships with one another. It feels like being freed!

[@skunkkk754]

I am in no means conservative, yet the extents of damage that hypersexualization has is concerning, from children assaulting other children to adults being addicted to pornography, I wish it stopped. fully agree on your discourse.

[@DaliaMiller]

People (men and women) are generally flabbergasted when I tell them that my now husband waited an entire year to take my virginity. We were in college at the time. It’s crazy that most people that told me they wouldn’t wait that long were chronically single.

[@nextisomi]

We live in an addiction society.

[@OliCrown]

Very well thought out video idea, good job my sister in Christ

[@chaurielle]

Thank you!

[@5tak5]

sex has been in changes for centuries ppl act like change isn’t coming to the whole dynamic of monogamy and marriage but it’s coming because that’s just the way the times work

[@gk3330]

It might happen because this is satans world that doesn’t mean it is okay either way people like you who think it’s normal are apart of the problem

[@godfreyerasto1737]

Nowadays isn’t abt intimacy is abt self pleasure - God let us do what we think is right ignoring his values at the end we’ll realize isn’t

[@Svbr2th]

Im 32, and im working thru getting over my urges for 🌽 and wants for casual sex. Ive always felt weird for having a low body count and really liking having an actual connection with someone before we do the lambada, but that seems to be more people these days.

[@ishkimo3757]

I thought i was the only one who thought that people outwardly talking about their bedroom life to others was weird and a sign i wasn't fully mature enough to have those conversations... its weirder the fact im a virgin and people can't help but tell me their sex life and just make it sound so easy and fulfilling to have a bunch of partners and talk as its a necessity in life..sure I'd like to have a girl at one point but just for the sake of sex seems...well dull and shallow🤷‍♂️

[@chaurielle]

I'm glad you have sense and a mind of your own. People glamorize and exaggerate their s3x life most of time. Leaving out the L's they take behind closed doors. Don't feel pressured by anyone.

[@scotthearts9634]

"Dull and shallow" I love that point!

[@evelyna_paula1747]

Sex is very dangerous. You should be very careful.

[@kagayakuangel5828]

It is dangerous. Don't do it!!!!!!!!!

[@mackpunch368]

This reeks of misinformation, it is more ethical to have intercourse with a partner in marriage where you where you both are intamate and connected with rather than some 2-3 week hook up who dont really share anything in common

[@evelyna_paula1747]

@@mackpunch368 Even in marriage, it remains dangerous. You are open to anything, from disease, disabled kids, divorce, heartbreak, or blackmail. It is overrated. More dangerous in one night stands, but still dangerous in marriage.

[@mackpunch368]

@@evelyna_paula1747 that’s true, people do have to take on these risks when they enter into marriage, indeed it is something both partners need to be aware of. 💯

[@mackpunch368]

@@evelyna_paula1747 that’s true.

[@blacksocrates1]

I'm not religious but i have concluded that if people do not serve a higher divine authority or principle, they will either serve the state or their lust. The notion people will be noble or virtious without appealing to a higher power is simply unture.

[@senku1396]

people dont have to believe in a god to be a good person

[@RevivedTaritsuHanma]

​@@senku1396 thats called being an ubermeinch most people are not ubermeinch and dont have the internal will to do that

[@blacksocrates1]

@@senku1396 what do you mean by "good" person?

[@hansolo9585]

Yeah because religious people are notoriously good at keeping their lust in check

[@blacksocrates1]

@@hansolo9585 nope but they at least have a framework that says they should keep it in check. What do the non-religious have? Arbitrary feelings? Why would a non-religious person even consider not being lustful?

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

6:35 its because its is a very intimate act physically, emotionally, and spiritually so there is deep emotions involved but also demon are invited so uh yeah thats whats causing all that mess.

[@toji6952]

Sex can be casual, just like other things that are normally taken seriously, like living your own life for example. The problem, is that these things require you to essentially master your mental and emotional self, and to be at peace with what you’re accountable for and may or may not want in the future in order to navigate these things appropriately.

[@Da_bear-ij9gm]

I’d disagree, things that are inherently risking disease and your very life shouldn’t be seen as casual. People definitely do that anyways, but I don’t think randos choosing to be reckless is a very strong argument

[@Ttyumbra]

@@Da_bear-ij9gma good example is cigarettes before they were bad, they were good for you, very casual and socially acceptable, what happens when something is normalized?, people suffer themselves and sometimes other people unknowingly, cigarettes with cancer maybe lung disease, nicotine addiction, second hand smoking etc. Sex shouldn’t be casual, it should be like a wedding in a small shack, not many people can get in and the people out can’t come in to see the bride. It’s like fentanyl, one whiff and you go down to die,

[@toji6952]

@@Da_bear-ij9gm Humans do things every day that inherently risk their life, health, and livelihood. And you’re right, people, most people, are just gonna do whatever they want, and unfortunately that means it is casual then, since most people are already doing it. At the current point it’s better to be informative and self aware of the options you yourself have to protect yourself if you so choose to act so casually

[@kinnyboy]

A message that needs to be heard!! I wish this could be #1 on trending. But honestly I think the internet making the access to “corn” so simple and easy and free completely phucked us. We may be too far gone. Soon it’ll be back in the time of sex being as casual as eating.

[@ifeanyichukwuozobu7819]

man I have never found a video that explained my views so accurately

[@ifeanyichukwuozobu7819]

the amount of BMs and BDs has hurt black dating and creating stable black families

[@ronniescales188]

Real Talk.... You may not save the world, but your message is going to connect with a lot of people; young and old alike. You are a very wise and mature young lady. Best wishes with your platform !!!

[@chaurielle]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@abelsalazar2510]

Yes I am a father to my beautiful 8 month year old daughter. Her mother and I were not together. And I could not control myself. Once it ended I moved on and found the love of my life. My wife now (not the mother to my child) I hear about the news of my child and took full accountability and responsibility. It is painful for everyone. Me, my wife and the mother to my child. Painful in the aspect of many things. Not having a baby when ready or the person you are in love with. It hurts… I stay up late nights thinking about the pain I caused. I am not that same person I was before. Although it’s painful that I could not be the father in typical circumstances. The love I have for my daughter is like no love I’ve ever felt and inspired me to be so much more. I can never take back the pin I caused. But I can become the father I always wanted and needed growing up to my daughter. My beautiful wife who has stuck with me through it all and trays my daughter like her own. If you are in a similar situation. Be true to yourself. Do not lie to anyone or yourself. Be a good man or woman and spread love. If you think you have done wrong. You can change and you can become so much more. Believe in yourself and remember why you want to change. I wish you all the best of luck and happiness in the challenging journey in life.

[@KAH-7]

That agenda began just before my time in the '70s.

[@1hundred1]

we can fix this in like 10 years let me get my life all settled without the competition in the way first 😭

[@bryanmb9994]

Wow, hardship hit me a bit cuz I have a single mother, even if sometimes my dad try to see me and my sisters, but he's not doing it well like I was supposed to see him a few months ago, but yea a really great vid, I really appreciate it

[@chaurielle]

Thank you!

[@sasorah6414]

"kids in their 20's and in their 30's" 😅 good to know I'll still be a kid in my 30's

[@chaurielle]

@@sasorah6414 yes, there’s still a lot to learn/figure out in your 30’s

[@jay_gabriel144]

New to your channel but I can already tell you’re a very intelligent young woman and I know you will have a bright future!

[@chaurielle]

@@jay_gabriel144 thank you 🙏🏽

[@NiceyP0123]

Glad I’m married, bc chile 🙄✋🏽

[@bloodycowlover]

As a teenager, im glad that videos like this is coming up on my youtube and fyp. The main problem i see with the ideal of sex is that people will post it on tiktok and youtube and NOT get in trouble. I find that insane and disgusting. People also bring up crazy at my school and hype it since they do it with each other (students and teachers). Thank you for this video, i truly wish people would bring up this topic more.

[@chaurielle]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@bloodycowlover]

@@chaurielle You're welcome, I hope you thrive into something great❤️

[@black.sasuke.uchiha]

I’ve actually never seen the channel before. I was watching a very in-depth video about s3x and how it’s perceived in certain ways, and yours was recommended under it. I guess the algorithm knows what I want to watch today LoL! Thanks for the positive message at the end, I just subscribed! 3K soon.

[@chaurielle]

@@black.sasuke.uchiha thank you ☺️

[@ninjetti9898]

"If you're an athlete you can be distracted from training cause you're always on your back 😯. Wow that hit harder than my daddy's belt! You are preaching the Gospel sis 🙂. Terrific essay, well done.

[@chaurielle]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@ka9202]

I left the country on vacation recently and this was the first thing I noticed; that not everything had this underlying sexual innuendo attached.

[@joshuapk1994]

Subscribed ✅ currently breaking my porn addiction. Everything you said in this video is right on point!

[@bemoremikey6409]

When i was in high school I really wanted to lose my V card mostly because of the pressure

[@Slidehhy]

You’re speaking facts lady, well done on changing my mind 👏 keep this content up

[@chaurielle]

I appreciate that

[@powellkatie123]

17:30 exactly. I flunked out of a program from being on my back every other day, literally, was with my “boyfriend” but it was out of hand. Now I ignored his calls and I’m single but the challenge is picking back up again and fighting the spirit of laziness that I learned so well while being with him

[@chaurielle]

@@powellkatie123 girl! That laziness from being booed up is no joke. I’m happy you’re fighting it and getting back on track

[@matthewyarbough223]

The issue with this video is that it seems to place all the blame on men. Casual sex is popular nowadays, and the video suggests that most men engage in it. However, from my perspective, observing social media over the years, I've seen many women engaging in casual sex as well, not just men. I'm not trying to shift blame onto women, but men and women should share the responsibility. It's a human issue, and we all must take accountability and address the situation instead of solely focusing on one gender. Blaming a specific gender isn't realistic.

[@chaurielle]

I never said men are to blame. I literally mentioned both genders and what they do

[@matthewyarbough223]

⁠I'm sorry, I didn't mean to say that you were blaming everyone. I just felt that the way it was being said made it seem like most people were being blamed. That's a big generalization. From my perspective, both men and women in our society engage in this behavior. I don't think it matters which gender does it the most because we all do it. I hope that makes sense. I apologize for the misunderstanding.

[@Zzz-vh3mu]

@@chaurielleit’s women. The only thing that’s changed in recent years is women’s sexual freedom. This is the natural state of human beings. as society evolves and we move back into more traditional tournament sexual selection women’s hypergamous tendencies will cause most men to be phased out and forced to watch porn or buy a sexbot or whoremaxx. These are not a cause they are a symptom of women having very high standards. Lower tier guys are having to betabuxx after women are ran through in their early 30s and they are realizing it simply isnt worth the effort for used up goods. The juice simply isn’t worth the squeeze. Likewise If I’m a top 1% male why would I commit when I can have 20 women in my harem. If society wants this reversed then women have to be shamed and have their sexual freedom taken away like in recent history

[@Neji1984]

Stds are a real thing And condom sex is trash So no point in random sex

[@gk3330]

Birth control is also awful for women’s bodies

[@Em-tj6rh]

Try a different brand condoms.

[@TriniTsunami]

My body never went back to the way it was before having my son. The stretch marks around my belly button are still there. No matter how fit I am, or what creams I use. Not even a panniculectomy got rid of them. I’d have to get them lasered off.

[@the_indecisiveartist_5850]

It saddens me that this is the world my sibling will grow up in. I am 19, almost 20, and I have never had a partner, not because I don't want one, but because I want to focus on my studies, and take my time on choosing who I want to involve myself with. Now we are going to get a bit personal, so feel free to ignore this part if you want. Even as someone who grew up with an addiction to very sexual content due to some things I searched up as a kid, I am aware that it shouldn't be something I am proud of (I grew up with religious parents, however they don't tell me to not do the deed at all, just to be careful). However, it almost got to the point where I couldn't even sleep at night because I wasn't feeling the same after the 50th time if watching that stuff. I would get thoughts to run away in the middle of the night to get a fix. I never did, but gosh, is it scary to think about. I have my own interests, sure, but I have learned to try and cut back on such things, and I want to do relationships the traditional way. I don't wanna do any freaky stuff in the first few years, I don't want to feel that my relationship is based around the bedroom only...

[@StudioHolocene]

Even if you take away the religious lenses coming from a Catholic, this over-sexualization issue is still a problem. I’ve seen vent animations from other artists like me who suffer from hypersexuality due to being exposed to NSFW so easily despite being so young. Even if you take religion out of it this is still a problem as it still normalizes hypersexuality and sex addiction, which is bad because hypersexuality is considered a kind of metal issue/disorder.

[@cutenesssprinkles235]

It’s not secret anymore. People post pictures and videos of it on TikTok and other platforms nowadays. And if you comment saying it’s disgusting, they tell you to scroll. Or get offended in another way. Sex is supposed to be something private and secret between you and your partner not for the world to see.

[@Bruh-Moment435]

I mean to be fair if I was called disgusting I'd probably think you were trying to be offensive lol

[@Futurelawyer812]

I had my fair share of fun when I was single, but now that I’m married, sex is way better with the woman that I actually trust and have a connection with

[@kaylasworld_]

first time here btw lol i love this video this is what we need social media for to educate ourselves and wake up conversations like this

[@chaurielle]

Thank you girl 💕

[@guitarsinger1231]

I really enjoyed this video. I like how you spoke on hardships. Many people fail to realize that since they are so distracted by intercourse that they are literally putting blocks in their life for their goals and who they are supposed to grow into. I noticed this tragedy by observing people and realized that sleeping around and dealing with the wrong people caused them to become stagnant and delayed.

[@chaurielle]

Yes, 100%

[@daniellegreen4145]

Im glad you spoke about distraction. So so true xx

[@javianjohnson8746]

Very nice and insightful breakdown

[@chaurielle]

@@javianjohnson8746 thank you 🙏🏽

[@kagayakuangel5828]

9:35 "This is embarrasing guys" lmaooooo Girl it really is and I'm really so done. Hahahaha I'm celibate. After I got diagnosed with HSV1 I'm done lmao They will never touch me again.

[@jkseraphim4]

I still remember when my family friend told me that having S-E-X is addictive. This is when I told her and her I want to be an old maid, an unmarried woman with no kids. She said she wished she made the choices I made.

[@TheCourtedMag]

Institute of family studies has already proven that more than six sexual partners is directly correlated with Birth Control, Stds, abortions, singles over 30+ on antidepressants, children out of wedlock, paternity fraud, Infidelity and divorce rates. Dating is for the sexual liberation movement so women can explore more sexual partners while Courting is for Marriage. Dating is two Individuals untraditional and perpetuates hook up culture, Courtship is two Families Approval of the union of two individuals Traditionally. One of the main aims of the sexual liberation movement was to get out of the covering of their fathers now less than 5 percent of women were Virgins on their wedding day Source Institute of family studies. Exodus 22:16-17, the man who has sex with a non-engaged Virgin, should make her his wife, indicating that sexual intercourse is a covenant-forming activity not to be entered into apart from covenant bonds of marriage. Likewise according to Deuteronomy 22:13-21, if a woman has sex before Marriage, she is put in the same category as a prostitute.

[@Da_bear-ij9gm]

Courting was also for seeing who your potential partners could be and picking one. That’s the same thing as dating, but without your dad weirdly being the one to pick who you supposedly “love.” And since you fetishize marriage so heavily, one would think you would put some more consideration into the fact that “modern” dating culture started arising soon after marital r4pe was made illegal. Which was only in 1993!

[@TheCourtedMag]

@@Da_bear-ij9gm Quote what I'd written that doesn't reflect what you'd referred to in Courting?... A great deal of consideration has gone into it as due to the sexual liberation movement the dating method has provided us with the highest rates of promiscuity, birth control, Stds, abortions, singles over 30+ on antidepressants, freezing eggs, children out of wedlock, paternity fraud, Infidelity, debt, obesity and divorce rates. Why would anyone overlook such disparaging outcomes to society.

[@NeighborhoodWatchMann]

Yo your intro just took me back to the 90s. I had to go look up honey by Mariah Carey. Super hard

[@chaurielle]

lol thank you

[@1994melee]

Love this video. Just subed 💜

[@chaurielle]

@@1994melee thank you 💕

[@venturerempathetic]

I personally withdrew from the world on some nomad type energy. I was always in a long term relationship from 16-30. Fast forward I got had children and got divorced. Sitting with myself for the first time I started to enjoy my company. I have no desire as a male to make broken homes. Seeing how broken the world is I’m good unless god sends in with confirmation. Looking into the energy of things I’m keen on soul ties so logically it makes no sense to connect to so many individuals. I’ve only been with 3 women and I don’t plan to add more bodies outside of a loving connection. Since my separation from my ex I’ve been celibate to the extreme of nofap for 400 days. I have no interest in dating it’s too many mind games.

[@starstorm1267]

I’ve said this since I was young, sex is a tool that people treat as a toy. And your parents always told you not to play with tools.

[@notcarson2227]

It’s not casual. It’s competitive ranked

[@ProfoundKnight]

I'm nearly 22 and I've never been in a relationship or done the deed. I watched corn, but quickly found that I find it uncomfortable and obviously it's all fake, especially when you find out about the exploitation still happening in that industry. So I don't watch it anymore. It made me feel gross anyway.

[@pixelatorjta]

Great video. The point was clear and persuasive. good job fam

[@chaurielle]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@MirabelleDestiny]

Sex is not supposed to be casual it's supposed to mean something

[@geoclark7070]

You blew this video down. I’d YT still around for my kids I’ll have them watch this vid.

[@actual_doge3221]

Something I don't understand is how a lot of these people grow up in single-parent household and then continue the cycle. They already knew exactly what to prevent and headed straight for it. Sometimes I dont have sympathy for them should I be sorry? Other times I completely understand how they ended up in that situation, cuz the guy made it seem like he'll take care of the whole family then he dipped.

[@chaurielle]

It’s complicated for sure. It definitely is a cycle