Sexual Desire & Lust: What's the difference?

Is lust the same as sexual desire? Find out, as Jason Evert interviews Fr. Mike Schmitz in this episode of the Lust is Boring Podcast.
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[@analeahricohermoso9324]

“Love can’t wait to give. Lust can’t wait to get.” SO TRUE!

[@michaelbedsole970]

Wrong. Lust is nothing more than sexual desire.

[@Grokford]

It’s a false dichotomy

[@brancojair]

I would even say “Love can wait to give, lust can’t wait to get”. Sometimes giving needs the right timing hihi.

[@csongorarpad4670]

@@michaelbedsole970 Wrong.

[@csongorarpad4670]

@@GrokfordNo. It isn't a false dichotomy. Reason is that love is to will the good of the other. In other words, you are not focusing on yourself. Ergo, you're not trying to pursue what will fulfill you. Instead, true love is to cherish the other person and this will effectively fulfill one's self in the proper manner that we have been created for.

[@josephcaristo]

I am fascinated by the interviews and talks given by Jason and others. I am 79 years old and lost my wife in 2020 after a prolonged battle with cancer and related diseases. However, I never lost my desire for sexual intimacy which will never go away as long as we live. It came to an abrupt end in that battle with the forces of this malady, but my love and devotion to her never was lost. My faith kept me focused on what was paramount for salvation. Praise God and glorify Him. Keep up the fine mission all who contribute to this project mainly for our youth.

[@markpridgen809]

I struggled with the difference...

[@chrisdsouza23171]

Thanks Jason and Fr.Mike for this

[@linamariagarciaarrieta6400]

Thanks for your help, Jason and Crystaline!!

[@gilcostello3316]

Perfect answer from Fr. Mike of a question that is hardly ever answered, and needs to be answered more than most questions.

[@Grokford]

The distinction is arbitrary, redefining terms is not helpful. We need to recontextualize the meaning of lust in general.

[@avinbenny1155]

this was amazing!!

[@justjac8028]

Love these lil quick clips!!

[@nicolamcostello]

Right on. Thanks.

[@almasakic1148]

I love Father Mike and also think he's very handsome if I may humbly say so * blushes *

[@kthx1138]

Reducing a person to their sexual value, to a sex object: So true. Have to know and love the whole person, the personality, the mind, the heart. This takes time. The only thing that makes sense to me is form a friendship first before moving into sex.

[@wordsbyruthie]

Such an important topic. Thank you

[@linamariagarciaarrieta6400]

This video is wonderful!!!

[@atruelovestoryneverendsforever]

Thank you Jason and Fr. Schmitz for your work in God. God bless and may help you to spread the TRUTH IN GOD. 🙏🙏🙏 It' s very sad and annoying to see that non serious accounts wanna promote bullsh** for devil purposes! 😒

[@hansski1995]

For the example with the guy looking at the girls from the convention center, wouldn’t that not be “mortal” sin because he didn’t have knowledge or a firm belief that the act is seriously wrong prior to committing the act? Would that be just be a venial sin?

[@jmford76]

Sexual desire is the ability to get aroused. Lust is seeking to have what is not yours to have. You can lust after anything money fame women men ect

[@Grokford]

The distinction is arbitrary, redefining terms is not helpful. We need to recontextualize the meaning of lust in general.

[@michaelgreene5703]

i still don't get it so wanting to receive pleasure for me is wrong lustful and sinful??? can't wrap my head around it

[@Chastityproject]

No, it's not wrong to want pleasure. God placed that desire in you, for what is good, true, and beautiful. Lust is when we take our desires, though, and place them above the good of the other. So, instead of wanting the good of the other, we want the other as a good for us. It's using instead of loving. Granted, pleasure is often an aspect of loving relationships, such as in marriage. But even within marriage, if we reduce the other person to their sexual value, we're lusting instead of loving. Sexual drive is a good thing, but it can be ordered according to love, or selfishness.

[@tinfxc]

How about those who become parents in their early 20s ? Got Married after their kid is born and still living happily with each other? Is it sexual desire or lust?

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

Sexual desire

[@BabyDingo]

If you’re married it’s allowed

[@isabellavansmoorenburg6232]

I don't know, ask them. Are they in it for what they can give or what they can get?

[@Grokford]

The distinction is imaginary. Lust just sounds scarier.

[@michaelbedsole970]

@@Grokford Indeed "lust" is nothing more than sexual desire. Both single and married people have it, and there is nothing wrong with single people enjoying sex before marriage. "Lust" is not bad or dirty, it's just a universal aspect of being human.

[@marialeonorcobo8962]

Enlighting

[@fernandogonzalez4521]

Awesome!!

[@GabrielleWilliams317]

I didn't understand any sentence. Can you give an watered down explanation as if you were explaining lust vs sexual desire to a teenager or young adult?

[@grugcrood4000]

LOL

[@Grokford]

There is no distinction really, they just want to make lust something worse than what it actually is so that they can use the scary word.

[@plramirez2449]

What about self if one is trying to vow to be chaste and deny fornication but cannot help occasional natural body's inclination to masturbate?

[@plramirez2449]

@@Chastityproject thanks. It's just difficult because I had a severe brain bleed, surgery and stroke so I'm not able to control certain impulses and it's been about three years since I made my vow of chastity until marriage or death. I've only had very few occasions when it just popped into my brain asleep or waking up but I prayed act of contrition right away and confessed to priest about lust but I don't know if I'll go to purgatory for this after I just went to Divine Mercy Feast confession yesterday! I feel terrible and am going to try to go to confession this weekend and keep praying spiritual communion at home til then and hope it doesn't break my state of grace

[@Grokford]

Masturbation isn't a sin, neither is fornication. Those ideas are at best misunderstandings usually outright fabrications. You shouldn't feel guilty.

[@Mr.10X.]

CATECHISM OF THE CATHOLIC CHURCH SECOND EDITION 2352 By masturbation is to be understood the deliberate stimulation of the genital organs in order to derive sexual pleasure. "Both the Magisterium of the Church, in the course of a constant tradition, and the moral sense of the faithful have been in no doubt and have firmly maintained that masturbation is an intrinsically and gravely disordered action."The deliberate use of the sexual faculty, for whatever reason, outside of marriage is essentially contrary to its purpose." For here sexual pleasure is sought outside of "the sexual relationship which is demanded by the moral order and in which the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love is achieved." To form an equitable judgment about the subjects' moral responsibility and to guide pastoral action, one must take into account the affective immaturity, force of acquired habit, conditions of anxiety or other psychological or social factors that lessen, if not even reduce to a minimum, moral culpability."

[@alebaneseman7330]

@@Grokford Matthew 5:27-28 - “You have heard it said of old, 'You shall not commit adultery. ' But I say to you that whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” 2. 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body. 3. Romans 13:14 But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires. 4. 2 Timothy 2:22 So flee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. 6. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God. 9. Colossians 3:5 Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.

[@alebaneseman7330]

@@Grokfordmasturbation is a mortal sin

[@bvmheart]

You both, in different states in life, share manhood and vocations 🇻🇦 sound funny😂 to me a woman, as if you’re both punching a hole in daily calendars 📆 as if you’re successfully denying your sexual desires, instead of “SONG OF SONGS” lovers of Beloved ❤️🔥⛵️... Big difference between a man & a woman ... “WHAT DID JESUS DO?” ❤️ Divine Sacred Heart ♥️

[@bvmheart]

LOVE ❤️ is an act of the will, which means is the soul, giving life to the ...? Not as you’re thinking ...not giving to another nor taking, but ...The answer Lies in ✝️RIP 📚Fr. Thomas Dubay, S.M., “The Fire Within” ... 7 sacred mansions🔥 ⛵️💎

[@bvmheart]

Does chastityproject have anyone starting a project for Catholic colleges alumni’s interested in supplying their colleges or other Catholic high schools & internationally with books 📚 Dvds, if any, as needed?

[@michaelbedsole970]

What, add more toxicity and misunderstanding to what it means to be human?

[@TDL-xg5nn]

Lust is sexual desire by definition. It is just strong sexual desire. None of us would be here if our parents did not experience lust.

[@Chastityproject]

Indeed, many people think that lust = sexual desire. And while it's true that all lust involves sexual desire, not all sexual desire = lust. Lust is the reduction of a human person to their sexual value, but this is not how we are intended to view each other. For example, a husband can be passionately attracted to his wife, but does not need to use her.

[@michaelbedsole970]

@@Chastityproject Wrong. Sexual desire and lust are exactly the same thing.

[@Grokford]

@@Chastityproject This distinction is made-up, it's imaginary. Redefining terms to suit your position is dishonest.

[@kevindavis4709]

Button line is you can look but don’t stare too long

[@bvmheart]

Have Chastityproject thought of asking every Diocese to include Jason’s & Crystalinas teachings in video and books 📚 in Sex Education as “Theology of the Body’ as secular education claims “Demanding All Inclusive, while demanding Catholics, Prolife, etc., Exclusions”? ... Virtual teaching classes as well as in person would be great, with Holy Sacraments reconciliations offered before during and after 😂

[@douglaidlaw740]

Lust is selfish. I recalled a newsgroup question by a man whose wife had no interest in sex, but made herself available to him because she loved him. He wanted her to want him. At that time, my wife had a phobia about sex, (my psychiatrist said "Not another one!" ) so I told him to be grateful for what he was getting. I said "If you want her to lust for you,..." But a better term would have been "If you want her to want you." To give advice about that, would have been beyond my competence. Often, psychological factors are involved. My wife and I seem to be a perfect match, so outside attractions are not a problem.

[@bvmheart]

I had an old timer man in his 80’s, a much older and sober 45 years, “You gave a guy in AA a compliment?” I said, “Yes.” He said, “It went straight to his head!” 😳😂... Is that how a guy thinks with his male ego in general or alcoholism, because that guy Father describes as if he’s entitled to the women, window shopping 🛌🛒for someone he easily possesses at a glance... Are most men spiritually directed after Confirmation to seek and do the Will of God always, encouraged by clergy to keep coming to Holy Sacraments or discarded, because College students discerning vocations to priesthood and religious, as another said they were discouraged at the lack of respect for Blessed Sacrament tabernacles pushed off out of sight and reach, except for two seats and one kneeler in a small closet space and even up stairs in main Church, emptied main altar tabernacle, to a side altar with only one kneeler...and a young lady student said, “I feel uncomfortable coming down here” ... ✝️College of the Holy Cross ...renovated from pews to separate spaced rooms with chairs, as if a protestants halls, not Holy See 🇻🇦 ... When asked if they have dorms for them discerning vocations to priesthood and religious they said, “No, but thought that would be great” ... Praying every Catholic College offers dorms with Blessed Sacraments ✝️spiritual direction and outdoor Candlelight Rosary vigils nightly 🕯and a perpetual adoration chapel 🇻🇦 .. All Chastityproject books 📚 would be on their shelves & hope in every Catholic Colleges libraries and sold in their in person and online bookstores, if not already 📚

[@dotspepper4880]

The Lord stated the greatest commandment as: “You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. Mathew Gospel. Flesh is sin. Sexual love desire is completely absence in their spiritual world and they want to obtain that feeling through human. How do you do?

[@kthx1138]

I'm no theology expert, so I don't have a Bible quote, but I think the way you do that is desire the person's mind, heart and soul as well as their flesh.

[@fiatvideos9878]

Carnal desire is not natural to man's original nature, it is a consequence of Original Sin. "Theology, basing itself on Revelation, sees carnal desire as a consequence of original sin." St. John Paul II

[@Grokford]

What nonsense. Lust is as natural as thirst or the desire for human company.

[@fiatvideos9878]

@@Grokford actually thirst and desire for human company is also a result of the Fall.

[@Grokford]

@@fiatvideos9878 If you say so, but hunger was a thing in the garden and I find it odd that Adam and God would spend so much time looking for a counterpart if being alone was fine. Actually as I recall "it is not good that man should be alone".

[@fiatvideos9878]

@@Grokford hunger was not in the Garden. Adam's work of Glorifying GOD needed a helpmate. Just as JESUS sent the disciples out 2x2.

[@Grokford]

@@fiatvideos9878 Adam did not need a disciple, he needed a partner, and if they didn't feel hunger then why did they eat? You're making all these claims without evidence if you forgot.

[@michaelbedsole970]

There is no difference. "Lust" is nothing more than sexual desire.