Sexuality is confusing...

[@UnbreakableStud]

I know yall have been asking for another lgbtq+ video so here it is :) also just wanna say that I'm not confirming anything about my sexuality, I just know I'm not straight lol

[@derekaldrich4887]

You are the best person ever

[@Kenny-ft8dc]

@@UnbreakableStud u r amazing. So take life at ur own pace. I luv watchin

[@larry-of9kh]

@UnbreakableStud you have my support brother 🙏

[@MilwJay]

yup. well done. yes ‘gender’ is completely a social construct, grown out of ancient sexism, and over hundreds of years has developed this huge complex entrenched man-made fiction such that its everywhere and even its ridiculousnesses are often accepted without question … until they arent. the roman elite wore no pants, just togas, but by the 1800s pants were genderfied as only man-things, such that twas a scandal in the 1920s when rebel girls wore them. technically and historically women voting is “transgender”, as is men nurturing their own children. the tragedy is when ppl start to throw off the chains of gender only to just switch chains with the other gender-fiction. the comedy/tragedy part, i think is when they adopt the worst accepted gender-fictions of the other sex, such that you get girls adopting toxic “masculinity” or boys adopting hyper submissive “femininity” dont get me started (im gonna write a book)

[@j.kassai6283]

You're only 16, so I hope you have a long, happy life ahead of you. At your age, there's no rush to figure out your sexuality. It's an important part of who you are, but it's not the only thing that matters. What's most important is that you develop a well-rounded personality.

[@marchenier5569]

Thanks!

[@UnbreakableStud]

Thank you for the donation ❤

[@cinemaipswich4636]

Go for it Leon. Don't let anyone tell you who you should love. I am 70 years old, and I missed so much in my life. Choose you own life and don't be afraid of the rest of the world.

[@billbill5326]

Leon, you are young. You don’t have to label yourself. You have time to figure things out. Just be in the moment and live in the now. Which, honestly, is good advice no matter a person’s age. 😊

[@nk-i-sumpan]

Yet another deeply philosophical video. Well done!

[@caliom8427]

Be who you feel, don't waste your life wondering. You're right, just be human, no need to question things until you have experienced what you realise to be right for you x

[@TheTransportHub17]

There’s so many terms and directions you can go so it can be difficult to decide. I guess just go with whatever you feel best describes your feelings and desires. Absolutely no rush to decide and like you mentioned they’re labels. So you don’t have to label yourself as anything if you don’t want to. It’s good to see you being so open about this Leon.

[@rlrober]

Just stop trying to put a label on it. Just identify as happy

[@Film_man280]

Just be you. It isn’t really important to label yourself. Just do what and be with who feels right for you. It all really comes down to - pursue whoever makes you happy. I’m a pan guy who was mostly drawn to women, but this I’m year proposing to my boyfriend because he is the one who makes me the happiest. Life is filled with contradictions. At the end of the day, that’s all that matters: finding someone/s that makes you happy, in whatever form that is right for you.

[@brooksy903]

Sometimes, you like vanilla ice cream; other days, you fancy a bowl of strawberry ice cream.. you can have as many different flavours as you want. Don't be in a rush to label yourself. You may not feel sexual urges/attraction right now, but that might change in three months, three weeks or even three years. Just live in the moment and learn to be happy being you xxx

[@OnlyInLasVegas]

At 16, don’t even try to figure it out and classify yourself into any category. Just go with the flow, be yourself, do not worry or care what anyone else thinks or says, and enjoy life.

[@marktegrotenhuis]

In my opinion labels are only usefull for filtering when dating online. I'm gay because I'm looking for other guys like me. But at the same time I dislike the gay label because of the stereotype which I don't want to be associated with. From the moment I first came out I have never verbally said I am gay. I've always said I'm atracted to boys/guys. And yes I say boys/guys, because I've not reached the "man" fase yet as I don't feel comfortable calling myself a man (even though by age I am). I struggle dealing with growing older. Also the word man makes me think of things like "man up" and other sayings that are considered very masculine and of masculine stereotypes. Last but not least, just like you I wouldn't mind dating trans or non-binary people either.

[@keanoaerssens9765]

Sexuality is a subject that can yield major struggles at a young age. Like with myself and like with you. I was 13 almost 14 when I fell in love with a boy as a boy and I thought I was "just" straight. It took me 2 years to figure out I'm falling boys. That period of those 2 years is very difficult to describe, but I think I am not the only one who has experienced that at all. After this it takes 11 months before I accepted myself that I like boys and not girls and I never label myself again. I don't like to stick a word through stereotypes and also people you only see based on orientation or even call you after it. I'm just saying I'm queer. For me that was very struggle in my life. Its ok boy, I know. Its sometimes so confusing. But I support you! ❤️🏳️‍🌈👬

[@etcwhatever]

Yeah dont label. If later you realize youre gay its fine but i tought i was a lesbian until 26...then i fell big time for a college teacher and had a man obsessed phase. So Im some flavor of bi. The problem? My coming out as lesbian at 24. Now Im not Taken seriously. 😂😂😂

[@andrew20146]

Just to note, bisexuality is not exclusive of attraction to trans and non-binary people. You can use the pan label if you prefer, but don't let anyone tell you that bisexuality means attraction to just men and women, exclusive of trans and NB people.

[@nervous-wreck]

I'm also gonna add a note that "men and women" also includes trans men and trans women because trans men are men and trans women are women, only non-binary people are not included in "men and women".

[@criedthekid]

My sexuality has been confusing ever since I can remember lol. I started out liking girls, then realized I'd always liked boys and explored that, then I realized I liked exclusively boys. Now as an adult I identify as nonbinary and am open to dating cis gay men, trans men, or nonbinary people. I might decide one day I'm not nonbinary, idk, but I've always felt this inner femininity at certain points. Ultimately, I view sexuality and gender as fluid for me because I've never had it entirely figured out. I don't think that's common, but it's still normal. Not having labels is okay too! ☺

[@roland-friedrichstricker4027]

I love your philosophy on sexual points 👍It is so important to talk about it in the way you do it and appreciate your unique approach 🥇❤

[@UnbreakableStud]

Thank you for the donation ❤

[@Kenny-ft8dc]

Sexuality is fluid. You have to just like who you like and not worry about how to label yourself. Just be happy. Accept yourself and live ur life with who u enjoy to he with.😊

[@slendii366]

Sexuality can be fluid, but that’s not innately true for everyone.

[@royklopfenstein5278]

If you are at that critical age, between 1 and 99, you will be confused.

[@marcos-ll2yr]

I still questioned my sexuality. The only certain that I've have is that I'm not straight 😂 I'm kinda ace and bi

[@yaakarkad]

I’m 16 too and I’m a lesbian. While the “thought I was bi but wasn’t really” story happened to me (I only realized a couple months ago I‘ve never ever actually felt any attraction to guys), I think it’s wrong to assume things about people’s sexuality in general. And about the “gender is a social construct” thing, I was skeptical about the idea the first time I heard it a few years back but it’s really starting to grow on me. Anyways I discovered your channel yesterday, and I love hearing about your thoughts, keep it up!

[@royhumphrey49]

I find all these terms confusing. I'm simply an old-fashioned gay man! Yet I DO appreciate and respect all areas of sexuality and gender identity etc.

[@r4h4al]

Agree it's become convoluted & mad now.

[@Film_man280]

I view it as this - There’s same, opposite, and both attraction. The last one having many different sub headings, but it overall means the same thing. Saying that as someone who’s pan but identifies as bi for older generations just to make it easier.

[@kevlynnmusic1401]

I agree I’m also an old gay man but I respect everyone no matter their gender identity 🫶🏻

[@roland-friedrichstricker4027]

For Ancient Greek people and Ancient Romans, bisexuality was a normal thing and very popular ❤

[@violamandyfinnigan5463]

just discovered your channel, and i can very much relate to what you're saying. I'm only a few years older than you, and I also started to identify as asexual at 16. And even though I like the label a lot because it helps me feel as a part of a community and seen by the people I tell about it, sexuallity really still is a very confusing thing xD it's refreshing to see how chill you are about everything, keep on, you seem to be a great person!

[@pocketnik]

Good video, very relatable! I find labels confusing because honestly so many of them are rooted in binary categories of people, and the world is so gray that most labels end up being confusing and specific in ways that don't apply well to me. Keep cracking on and good luck with getting to know yourself and your goals better c:

[@erikcareswell6768]

Wow.. Pan Romantic huh... you've given me alot to think about. I never considered that possibility. Thank you for your thoughtfulness.

[@Tinkidink]

I hope you don't stress out about this subject; there's absolutely no need to label yourself at all. I like what you said about you'll like who you like :)

[@elijahyoung8116]

3:00 well said. We’re all human and no one can dictate our feelings only we can.

[@hubbletelescope1721]

Don't overthink it. Just feel the moment and go for it. I don't think sexuality is one size fits all and as you grow and gain more experiences, your attraction may change. Enjoy the moment, and remember to stay safe Leon!

[@KevinO-xq1ns]

I agree with your labeling argument. It's not always black and white. It's very brave of you to put this deeply sensitive information on KZbin. Way to go, King Leon. Keep up the good work. 👍 👌😀

[@RyanBosco-u8z]

You are so young and have so many things to experience and learn about yourself. Just take your time and be you and be happy.

[@kevinflores9880]

Well, without lying, everything is a lot confusing, even though I'm part of the LGBT community. But hey, be happy with what you feel and think about yourself.

[@qwertyTRiG]

Sixteen is definitely old enough to have a bit of a handle on who you are and what you like, and young enough that it's still something of a state of flux and tricky to pin down. You seem to be thoughtful and compassionate, so I'm confident that you'll get through it fine. You'll definitely be confused about yourself some of the time. That's part of the human condition.

[@GregoryVincent-d9u]

Yes. Labels are a problem. For most purposes, it is enough to simply say that one is attracted to beauty. In England, in the early Victorian Era, I believe there was no term to describe two women who were physically drawn to each other. In the last 130 years we have become obsessed with categorising everyone - not just in terms of sexual behaviour, but in many ways

[@mikegalvin9801]

@@GregoryVincent-d9u Queen Victoria famously vetoed a law against lesbian acts. She could imagine what "those unfortunate men" might get up to but this seemed superfluous to her as "What would two women even do?" I picture courtiers whispering "Uh, you want to tell her?" "Not A chance!"

[@DarwinskiYT]

I figured out I was bi about 4 and a half years ago. I was 13-14 at the time. And I still indentify as bi now and can’t see that changing anytime soon. However one of my friends, who was openly bi for at least a year longer than me, started identifying as Pansexual a few months ago. Also have a “straight” friend who came out to me as bi at the start of the year. However he says he’s attracted to feminine people regardless of their gender. So sexual orientation can be really simple or really complex sometimes..

[@Velvet-Sunshine.]

Be yourself!!! Careful what you say publicly!!! Largely I think you'll be fine, because most people will like you either way and for who you are.

[@Alina-Butterfly753]

It's ok if your not sure what your sexuality is completely when your a teenager, I'm 13 and I had a lot of confusion when I was 12 and discovered that I wasn't straight, or at least not fully straight. I'm Bi, I don't like being called just Bisexual since I'm also Biromantic so I just go by, well Bi. It was hard discovering myself since I am an alternating Bisexual/Biromantic but when I found out about this label I was comfortable with going by that since that's what described me, I think you should just find a label that describes you and that you feel comfortable with going by that label, if you don't want to go by a label then that's ok too. Just be yourself💜❤💖

[@dry_eggshell]

sexuality is confusing. life is confusing. I completely agree that sexuality shouldn’t be put on people. you are speaking true facts man, I wish everyone could view it like this

[@McLovin_2007]

I say this politely to those of you who call yourselves "they or them". Those terms are plural. So I don't know why individuals would call themselves those words. I'm comfortable calling myself a man, bisexual, bottom, sub, or femboy. I don't need anymore confusion in my life.

[@swift4856]

I guess the problem is is that language is inadequate and restrictive.

[@billyblackie9417]

At your age, your sexuality can be very confusing which is common at that age. You will go through doubts but you will eventually find your way. Sometimes when you see something strange it may appeal to you but sometimes that appealing view can be because it is new and you want to view more which can be only through curiosity and not really appealing. You will eventually find out how and what really appeals to you and what you want. Take your time and just enjoy growing up and learning about life's mysteries that can be confusing. You will get through and find the light at the end of the tunnel. Keep smiling and keep safe

[@allanxxxxxxxx]

Hi Leon Just be yourself you don't need to explain to us what sexual preference you are this should be private and on a need-to-know basis - those different labels/identities with different Genders to please the woke brigade

[@phosilio4340]

@@johnryan3913 dying for? are you referring to aids or...?

[@phosilio4340]

@@johnryan3913 the point of the original comment is that it shouldn’t be the business of you or I to know his sexuality, nor should we care in the slightest. As for the woke issue, he’s right. It’s baffling to most people to follow along with the social construction of gender when it’s not grounded in fact but rather fiction. The only truth that can be scientifically proven is that there are two genders: male and female.

[@calvarydominique]

@@phosilio4340 With a straight face, are you gonna look in me in my eyes and tell me that Hunter Schaefer is a guy? Are you gonna tell me that Ian Harvie is a woman, beard and all? Also, you might wanna doublecheck your claims to "science" because modern science supports the existence of transgender, non-binary, and intersex people.

[@wuppwuppersen]

You're saying some clever things. I think you're lucky to live in an environment where you can be so open. After many years of living different kinds of relationships, I found out that it's okay to not label everything. Sometimes you just don't have a word for it and you can not explain it to others, but that's okay. Wish you all the best.

[@darkkalonera1057]

This video has brought up a lot of really good points, in my opinion. Loved the video, btw.

[@私はtherizeinです]

i’m 18, also confused about my sexuality. i totally agree with your idea about gender just being a social construct - i think you’re defined (in terms of gender) by your IDENTITY rather than your biology, as i don’t think a person’s physical body reflects anything about their innate truth. as a trans guy i’ve always viewed gender quite differently to my peers. i also use he/they pronouns, like you :) over the past few days i feel i’ve started to reach more clarity around my sexuality, and i think im probably gay. i think i sort of gaslit myself into thinking i liked women and was just “in denial” of my bisexuality. part of this was, similarly to you, due to a sort of porn addiction, or more so an addiction to thinking of women in a sexual way. this is partly triggered by sexual trauma from childhood, i think. i now think that rather than being attracted to women, i was obsessed with viewing them like that just because of the dopamine hit. another aspect of it is “compulsory heterosexuality” - i’ve always seen myself as male, so i felt as though i “should” be attracted to women. i’ve never had a crush on a woman/girl, so there’s that. probably gay. regardless of whether i’m gay or not, anyway, it doesn’t actually matter - we’re so young and we’re all just *people* at the end of the day. labels can be helpful, but not when they become constricting and prevent us from just living and exploring/discovering ourselves. they’re supposed to be liberating and clarifying and if they’re not, bin them. have a lot of respect for you :) cheers

[@ajkleipass]

I disagree with those saying that you, at 16, are too young to label yourself. I'm 52 and in hindsight I can see my interests forming from around age 4 or 5. The concepts weren't there that young, mind you, but looking back I can see that I've always leaned towards pansexual, demisexual, with a strong asexual streak. The Platonic intimacy of touching / hand holding / cuddling, is more important than the carnal intimacy. Whether this is because I'm neurodivergent, or just naturally wired like that (um, maybe that's the same thing), I'm not sure. My point is, it's taken me my whole life to come to this point, with changes along the way as I discovered new things about myself, and as I met new people who stirred unexpected feelings. At 16, I am certain that you know what you are and aren't attracted to. And I'm also certain that this will shift and redefine itself as you get older. There are over 8 billion people on the planet - how boring is it to define them all by the tiny fraction you've seen in 16 years, or I've seen in 52? 😉

[@eMTy_One]

I just stopped even thinking about the different labels. I like what I like and love who I love and I don’t think about if it’s gay or straight or whatever. Life’s too short to get stuck on terms that only mean anything because we make them mean something. Enjoy your teenage years and live and love how you want.

[@swift4856]

My desire was a safety mechanism and helped me have a different veiwpoint from the tyranny of the dichotomy of society. Survival of the species is more about the brain than the body.

[@mrmoneyhacks5480]

The Ancient Greek language is the most expressive language with the greatest number of words, yet they don't have words for 'gay' or 'straight'. If someone looks attractive to you, then it's right to love them.

[@mahenderkumar9789]

Enjoy your life and do what you want

[@grahamboyd100]

We love you no matter what and you have many LGBT fans including myself. Some of us are Gay (me being one), some are Bi Some are other and we love, admire and support you big time and glad that you have an amazing and im sure a really cute boyfriend

[@KaiShepherd-n6z]

What a great video! Topics like this need to be shared and you are totally honest in your own experiences and deserve credit for it. Sexuality shouldn't have labels as it doesn't matter who you love or attracted to as long as you are kind, caring and respectful to that person. Keep making profound videos Leon. Tske care.

[@MrDominicBrant]

Fall in love with the person, the character, and the rest will find its place... Labels are for clothes after all... It's something we used to say in the world of gay activism a long time ago - while the world was really full of hate - and it's more relevant now than it's ever been. We didn't' fight the fights so that your generation would struggle. We fought so that you'd have the freedom to be yourself. So, be yourself. Struggle your struggles, but know that good people are out there to support you - and every other young person whatever they might be. Life's tough. Focus on what brings you joy, even if that's a struggle. Respect.

[@hdturner1]

Our brain always tries to categorize things. It prevents anxiety to have everything in its place. But attraction and intimacy are not always clear cut. You are managing that ambiguity well.

[@fishingrod920]

Don't label yourself or anyone else. No need. Have sex if you want.. Enjoy. Be safe, gentle, respectful. Sex and attraction is only one aspect of living and loving. How you respect others and treat them as equals is more important. Breathe.

[@qwertyTRiG]

Labels are useful. They're how we communicate. No need to label everything, necessarily, but don't denigrate the concept of labelling.

[@fishingrod920]

@@qwertyTRiG Not to be argumentative but how do labels on humans help us communicate?

[@Night-Shade.]

@@fishingrod920 Why do we have names for things and people? Same concept. Instead of explaining what your sexuality or gender is, you just use a label that u see fit.

[@JamesDowning]

even keeping up with the terminology is difficult, great background for a video btw, lovely scenery

[@lulas491]

I don't think you should spend your time and energy to define yourself with some labels. I think many people mistakenly want to label themselves to a point it drives them crazy they cannot do that, sometimes even coming up with useless terms. You like who you like, you love who you love. Don't stress it out and enjoy your life, not as a pan-romantic, but just as you and that's all that matters

[@jpwphoenix1701]

This was a really good video and made me think a lot, especially about how I’ve been through the years. I started out straight and definitely had a lot of feelings for girls. I always say to people that I discovered I might be gay around 13/14 years old. However, I keep looking back and thinking that I may have had feelings for boys a lot earlier. Also, partly due to the massive homophobia around that time, I was in complete denial about possibly being gay well into my 20s (despite how I felt about guys!). I then learned about bisexuality and considered whether that fit me too. But, over time, the feelings for girls faded (despite the odd attraction) and it was obvious I had much stronger feelings for guys and so I accepted being full blown gay. But, tbh, as you said, I think there is still the possibility of being attracted to non-binary and trans people too. Life’s definitely a learning experience, so don’t be surprised if you yourself keep changing around with who you’re attracted to.

[@chansetwo]

Sexuality is not a dichotomy or trichotomy. It's a scale. Most people are in the middle, someplace. That's why these labels make no sense.

[@TheWildponys]

love ❤️ is love ❤️ no labels

[@harshvardhan2992]

i was also very confused about my sexuality. i spent so much of my time thinking who am i exactly- like which term will make things easier for me. i thought i was gay, then asexual. today i just say to my self that i am a man; a boy and i like to do everything a boy ever wants. Thats it! i have my own definition of who i am and what it means to be a boy. Back then i was confused and mistaken in understanding my desires for my classmates as gay. Actually it was just a desire for having a close friend with whom I'm emotionally connected. It was so intense i thought i was gay but i was not- i was just craving to have a friend. i hope it helps. thank you.

[@Billie26-y3o]

I couldn't have said it any better and I really appreciate that you are wiser beyond your years. so pretty how I would imagine myself when I was your age.

[@Skip-b4j]

Actually,..... i LOVE people with my HEART, girls or guys, i'm pan loving all people,..... sex is NOT my primary goal,.... cause it leads NOWHERE, for ME .... I'm in love with LIFE, and the people in it , with ALL THE RESPECT THEY DESERVE ... Thanks so much you talked about that.... PEACE AND LOVE AND LIGHT to You Blessings from Canada

[@lewisepicfootycontent5934]

I’m basically pan but go with bi because I like the colours of the flag lol but I’m with you on labels it gets really confusing at points just live your life be you like who you like

[@Film_man280]

Same. Basically pan, but to many I just identify as bi since it’s easier to explain to all generations.

[@JustnJeffrsn]

I wish I’d had this understanding when I was your age. You’re helping out a lot of people by being so open about n things out. Labels can be good or bad, mostly depending on how they’re used. They can be really helpful when giving people a way to describe and express themselves to people, as well as helping them know they aren’t the only one. They can be bad when used as a stand in for a persons entire personality. Sexuality (and pretty much any other label) is a large and fundamental part of who we are, but it’s not ALL we are, ya know?

[@bradleyfair1266]

why do we need to have a title , why not love whoever makes us happy.Have a wonderful day

[@Yellow_Apollo]

Im as well dating a non-binary guy but im gay, so its a bit confusing for me

[@KrimzonDante]

Sexuality is a fluid piece of our life. Even as we grow and get older our sexuality can shift. I remember as a teen I kept trying to deny my attraction to guys until I was honest with myself. And I spent a lot of my adult life seeing myself as a gay man. But it's all labels really. I'm more ace these days -- homoromantic but it's all just labels my guy. If you're panromantic it's cool and if not it's still coo. Just be you!

[@Randy201851]

One way of sussing out the answer of personal sexuality is who does one want to wake up next to in the morning? Rather than who do you want to have sex with right now when the hormones are raging. There's considerable anecdotal evidence that quite a few people alternate throughout their lives on which sex they have an intimate sexual relationship with. After all, the Kinsey Scale of Human Sexuality ranges from Zero to Six, with many actually in-between over the course of their lives

[@MrDominicBrant]

You got this so right. I knew guys who had sex with guys but when on to marry. They were not gay, they were just open about sexual experiences.

[@ilovetotri23]

Life/Sexuality is a journey not a race...Enjoy the journey. There is this funny saying, "I hope my kid moves out while they still know everything". My experience has been that the older I become, the less sure I am that there is a definitive answer to sexuality/identity/labels, etc...I am liking pansexual for myself more recently, because ones personality has always been more important than body parts. However, I am pretty asexual. I comment this a lot Leon, but you are truly wise beyond your years! I am grateful that you put your voice out into this space. I am certain you truly help people in crisis, but you also make me smile, and reflect everyday. Thank You!

[@markmcnary1785]

I'm bi, have known that about myself ever since i was a child, i knew very early on that i liked boys and girls the same way but then had a slightly stronger attraction to males. I hid my sexuality from everyone even my family, and my friends much of my growing up years, mainly because it was perceived as wrong in thiose days when i was a kid in the sixties.

[@gdok6088]

Sexuality is confusing and complex. Too often forgotten is the groundbreaking work of Dr Alfred Kinsey 50+ years ago. His exhaustive research culminated in the publication of the Kinsey report on human sexuality, the famous Kinsey scale and showing that human sexuality can be fluid through life. The Kinsey Institute still exists and in 2004 the biographical drama film "Kinsey" was released starring Liam Neeson as Dr Alfred Kinsey. The film is interesting, enlightening and at times amusing - well worth a watch imo.

[@aliross2720]

To be honest though I don't think it is as confusing for monosexuals(heterosexual and homosexual) who only have attraction to one sex and that's why it's hard for us to wrap our heads around bisexuality and the confusion it must cause. Of course some bisexuals can come out after identifying as straight and usually it's only their sexual identity that's changed as they acknowledge the attraction to both sexes has likely always been there but they wasn't ready to accept it, but I'm talking about the ones who have only ever had attraction to one sex and only ever will. It's hard for us to understand because we just don't have that experience of being sexually attracted to both sexes. I heard some bisexual people describe it like their sexuality can change at different times and sometimes they can be more attracted to one sex over the other and vice versa, in other words it's not as stable as maybe some other bisexuals or someone who is only attracted to one sex all the time and has no attraction to the other sex. I think of it like our identity. Usually for most of our basic core identity is usually quite stable and different aspects of us kind of function together in one cohesive whole. So n o matter what we do in life or who we interact with we carry that stable core sense of self inside us. Then there's people for example who have identity disturbances which can be very unsettling for a person where they are always unsure and don't really know who they are or what they really like because they don't have a stable core sense of self. That's what some peoples description of their bisexually kind of reminds me of, but less severe as an identity disturbance, but because the sexual orientation maybe isn't quite as stable in some it can cause a lot of confusion ...at least that how it sounds from what I've heard some bisexuals describe. For people who developed a stable core sense of self as their personalities and identities were still forming in early childhood cannot understand the experience of those who have identity disturbances or personality disorders because this is the only experience we know. It's the same with people who lack empathy like psychopaths or narcissists, we have always had empathy as it developed in early childhood so cannot put ourselves in their shoes and understands what it would be like to have absolutely none and to view other people as objects and they can't understand what it's like to have empathy. We have totally different orientation to the world. It's the same as our sexual orientations which formed ever earlier while we were still in the womb, which is why monosexual tend to have a hard time wrapping their heads around what it would be like to be bisexual.

[@AGSVDUAJAJ]

Friendly reminder that intersex people exist and there aren't only "two body parts".

[@UnbreakableStud]

@@AGSVDUAJAJ my bad, I don't really know much about sex's and stuff like that

[@AGSVDUAJAJ]

@@UnbreakableStud That's alright, many people don't know much about intersex people or that they even exist because we're not taught about them in schools and also because of stigmatization.

[@chetanvinayak6799]

@@UnbreakableStud I did the same as you I was questioning myself too saying I am straight gay bisexual etc then I found out that I am gay so I identify my sexuality as gay only it doesn’t matter what you are as long as you are happy that’s all that matters

[@chetanvinayak6799]

@@AGSVDUAJAJ I did the same as you I was questioning myself too saying I am ℹ straight gay bisexual etc then I found out that I am gay so I identify my sexuality as gay only it doesn’t matter what you are as long as you are happy that’s all that matters

[@vernerheiskell1415]

Leon, you are wise beyond your years. I wish you all the best.

[@JohnKenneymusic]

Its nice you have someone thats the main thing in life , being loved and to love is really all you.need, a soul mate the diamond in the ruff.

[@lucasflanders8557]

Totally agree and well said!

[@etcwhatever]

Just date or relate to who you like at the moment. Because yes it is confusing. Its easy to realize one isnt 100% straight but to pin point it is different. Im 35 and just dropped the labels. Ive liked women; ive liked men... idk. Ive been upset about it but now im not limiting myself because of societal pressure. Just make your partner is loving; respectful; and the best friend you could ever have. The only problem is when youre dating an enemie frenemie.

[@AFrench2009]

As a very small gay adult (160 cm and 52 kg), I find myself more-often attracted to trans men than to gay men; and I am having difficulty deciding what they means. Leon, passages of this video mean more to me than you can imagine. Thank you for posting this!!

[@spartanknight2976]

Its 100% to still fiurger things out with yourself. There are even people older then yourself that are still trying to furger out who they trully are and there is nothing wrong with that. I wish you happness my friend.

[@RjohnVoss7]

You are amazingly self aware! 👍👍👍

[@toddileelee6935]

You will go through many changes in your life, so don't commit to an ''identity'' too much. The person i was 5 years ago...10 years ago .. and even 15 years ago is so drastically different, from sexual preference to intelligence, behaviour and even just general interests has changed so much. So don't feel you have to figure out your ''identity'' RIGHT NOW, or anytime soon, because your brain is going to keep changing as you mature. I'm sure 10 years from now you will probably look back and cringe at what you used to be, that's how different you will be.

[@lizzzzzzzzzzz6095]

I get labels as they help you connect with others and let others know what you want in a partner but its so much easier to just like whoever u want cause what i like changes all the time faster then any labels could keep up with.

[@brady_birdbro]

Took me quite some time to figure I'm pan-romantic, but once I did everything felt even more natural than before. Natural also in terms of nature doesn't know labels. Thanks for the video!

[@ripobo]

Think as much about labels as you think is important. But don't be to hard on yourself. Enjoy life, just try to enjoy life and don't care about judgemental comments you will occasionally get.

[@paulmoreno6279]

Everyone should go with their gut and heart. If they want to be open, be open. If they want to be discreet, be discreet. This doesn't have to be traumatic or dramatic. Happy Saturday from Palm Beach Florida.

[@AubryBrown-r9i]

I've only ever had feelings for boys and I’ve thought thinking a girl was pretty was a crush until I realized the feelings I had for boys were completely different from me just thinking a girl was pretty and getting nervous, I didn’t want to be with a woman I wanted a man so now I've come out as gay and I have a wonderful boyfriend and a bunch of besties who are girls and I really can’t imagine being with a girl. also I hope I worded this right I’m not good with word lol 😂

[@benjaminrich4388]

I'm not sure how to comment on this situation. Didn't realize how complicated this world has become. Good luck finding the right path.

[@trebilicious]

By definition, a person's sex is biological and a person's gender is social, so it's not really that complicated to accept that there isn't a straightforward path to navigate. To quote a meme, "You don't need to fully understand the nuances of gender identity to know that each individual person knows who they are better than you ever will."

[@benjaminrich4388]

@@trebilicious wasn't meant to insult. Just never thought about it. If anything helps with listening to my kids a little better. If they needed me to

[@peterlangendorf8753]

You are what you are, not more and not less and thats ok. Respect

[@garethcampbell7557]

Sexuality is a subject that’s people of part of LGBT 🏳️‍🌈 community who had humans emotionally feel uncomfortable or confused I am come out gay when I was 20 year old I am do proud myself I can’t hide it not worthy need openly minding ❤

[@kewldude90]

Humans are a social species we need to be close to other people, we need to bond. It is common to like someone, to want to be part of their life. It is something we crave. When we are young, we crave it the most, especially during puberty when our emotions are high. As for sexual attraction it can be confusing, sometimes we confuse attraction with just seeking attention. You have mention you are a virgin (nothing wrong with that) but it is when we have sexual contact, we found out our true feelings. Many boys may think they are gay because they seek male bonding, but when they have their first sexual contact realize that they are not into it. I speak from personal experience I thought I was gay but when I was another person my feelings were not into it. In another video you mention how deep your feelings for your friend, you are still growing mentally, and having these feelings for your age, your brain is still developing and will not mature till you're in your early 20s.

[@derekaldrich4887]

I support you Leon you are a good person

[@larry-of9kh]

Just be yourself and what your happy with and you can't go wrong who cares what anyone says man. I'm 23 this Halloween and I'm bi its confusing but I'm happy who i am take care and stay safe 😊

[@MichaelMars-c3m]

Speaking the truth. Love who you whant

[@y939]

Wisely topic, thanks

[@atomicbaby447]

Do what you want, not what they want you do😊

[@DoxxTheMathGeek]

Awesome video, thank you so much! :3 I kinda agree with the label thing, I think everyone should decide for themself if the wanna but labels on themself or not.

[@ezequielmondada6427]

I just see s3xuality as descriptive. So as something you have the innate ability to do and just that.

[@sireexe]

I'm gay.

[@اسینایس]

This has become normal.

[@nichill7474]

Your journey continues. Your sexual identity will continue to evolve through your 20’s at least. Don’t get stuck on any specific label but continue to remain flexible. God will see you through.

[@Hamfaxer]

TODAY you are panromantic. But with the time / years , you'll see that your preferences can change, depending on your environment : who you meet, where you live, etc. Take care & greetings from Patrick in Flanders Belgium

[@surferbob9419]

You do you bro.