She Doesn't Want To Act Like This or Be Like This | But You Gotta Hear This ©

[@Chillalot]

Kevin is right stay at home moms are undervalued...I was one and felt so much judgment from other black women...black women seemed to think I was wasting my education by raising my own child....or they were all " get it girl you hit the jackpot" as if I was using my husband financially as if I were a gold digger again for being in a traditional family

[@MISTERO70]

That's sad

[@imandalton4227]

I get the same judgment from my own family and it seems only my father and husband appreciate me raising our children somtomes. And I have 4 children who teacher's always compliment me on for their behavior and participation. My oldest son has an academic scholarship at Ohio State, has a 1st degree black, did cross country, was on the debate team and is a wonderful son who I made sure stayed out of trouble. I vet all my children's friends and their parents, and my children eat homecooked meals, do chores, have their own mini businesses selling baked goods, face mask, and smoothies and my oldest son found his own job and plans to work while in college. My daughter sews, has a 1st degree black belt, is teaching herself Japanese, and plays the flute and piano. And my 2 youngest boys stay on honor roll and have blue belts in martial arts. And I ask those who think low of stay at home moms this, what kind of people do you want your children marrying snd being friends with in the future. What kind of people make the best citizens in society? Its people raised to be respectful, responsible, intelligent, well rounded, and thats what it has been my goal to raise. I stay busy and most mothers don't or can't do what I've been blessed to do, actually raise and cultivate my children, not some neglecting relative, daycare, television, or social media, me I raise them.Parenting is one of the most powerful jobs you can have, especially if you're trying to do it right.

[@sctalk691]

Salute for taking your own path and not following what you clearly knew was right. I feel most BW know, but they want to play the game and hit a buzzer beater at the end. Those buzzer beaters dont win a high percentage of games.

[@Skipdickman1]

Who cares what they think. What did you think?

[@Akos91]

@@imandalton4227 You should definitely consider writing an eBook in regards to being a stay at home mom and parenting skills. Vetting kids' friends, etc. is not something people usually do or know how to do.

[@ScentSense]

Love you so much Kevin. Rest in peace, I hope you're finally able to relax and take a deserved break from the BS. You were and will always be a hero to so many of us.

[@andrep7120]

🔥

[@JoshuaMichael1122]

Literally saved me from offing myself after realizing I’d put my ex wife above me and gave her millions, only to have her frame me for spousal abuse I don’t do and almost ended up in jail m, where she’d have been able to take the rest of my hard earned gains.found Kevin in the nick of time and began my leveling up. Now I only deal with fit feminine friendly fine women focused on being my helpmeet

[@davidsimmons4731]

What women fail to understand is that they have the right to thier preferences, but they can't make what they prefer, prefer them. There is no fairness doctrine in dating. It's inherently biased. You cant legislate attraction. Most importantly, they fail to accept to the fact that they have to have what the men they want, actually want. Not what they think they should want, but what they actually want.

[@davidsimmons4731]

@@KtotheG Exactly

[@BlackSantana]

✔🔴

[@imsgoalie1]

This is the foolishness of children you're describing. I run into it in a different form with younger, naive, "woke" people (who have often confused their recent decision to finally pay attention to certain things with actually having a fucking clue about them). They refuse to engage the world on its own terms and deal with the reality they're actually in. Instead they demand that the world be what they sanctimoniously and self-righteously think it ought to be, as if their inexperienced conception of things deserved primacy over someone else's. It's entitled and laughable, like a child with clenched fists stomping their feet and crossing their arms.

[@r_n_c_4408]

Im a female and I strongly agree with this

[@DebraAnnMatthews]

Yes David you are so correct. It's a good point that I try to encourage young ladies to realize. They get it slowly but surely. Hope springs eternal. Smile.

[@sacire1]

You are so on point about high achieving BW and corporate America. My last job they offered me a BM position behind his back. I actually knew him and pulled him to the side to give him the heads up. I declined their offer. Job before that always tried to give me the most difficult issues and tried to use me against another woman that they wanted out. So BW be careful they do try to weaponize us against our men and each other.

Once a black man becomes anything approaching manly at work, he's replaced with a black woman to prevent cries of racism. Never have that problem again in that position. Add to that that our women tend to be fine ah....and well..you get the picture.

[@FREE_WILL_DEFENDER]

I wish more women were aware like you

[@mellamobrittney]

@@KtotheG You do have friends in the world. Who fed black men this lie that black women are against them? Our community needs to wake up. We've been pitted against each other since our arrival in this Godless land.

[@mellamobrittney]

@@KtotheG No, I do not work in Corporate America. I've always had an entrepreneurial spirit, so I knew from a young age that Corporate America was not for me. Anyways, I apologize that your experience with black women in the workplace has been negative. But, I stand by what I said: historically, we've been pitted against each other. We need to get to the root of the problem instead of just throwing up our hands and denouncing one another.

[@trackmusic252]

Been going on since the feminist movement.

[@MOJOE85]

I really dont think theres even 1 other person on youtube putting in work like this man. He's an absolute gem

[@kathyflorcruz552]

Most other people who've been telling the truth about this have been censored & or deplatformed from YT over the last 5 years.

[@SanxxChevalier]

There is but they do it from a different perspective . Check The Rational Male. Talks exactly what Kevin does. I’m actually here cuz of TRM.

[@hegemonious]

Wish he was still here. But at least he left us with a treasure chest of value to digest and learn from. Always rewatching his show.

[@yahneyoung5505]

R.I.P.sir

[@bridgizcole7746]

Kevin! I absolutely love you! You say what women need to hear and you’ve helped me at 34 become a better woman.

[@MuhammedSokhna]

The calls you get on your shows always tend to prove your points. Amazing.

[@chenal7445]

Oh yes amazing how that happens when he pays people to call in 😂😂😂😂😂😂😱😱😱😱😱

[@rickystanton3039]

To my understanding, KS doesn’t reimburse callers to pay him.. he does require them to support his commentary. That’s business!

[@jollygoodgordon5580]

@@chenal7445 evidence or it doesn’t happen.

[@winstonthomas4576]

I had my son when his mom left me. My son motivated me to remarry. I had to set a good example for him. His mom is still dating and it’s 11 years since we split. The grass wasn’t greener.

[@kuja5809]

That's crazy

[@witsendSOS]

And I hope you sitting back with the popcorn enjoying the show.

[@biggmixxo]

Me too. She just used me to have a child. She never wanted to be a family.

[@Prince1911_]

well said!

[@jollygoodgordon5580]

@@biggmixxo wow dats crazy yo

[@AllworkNoExcuses]

Kevin peeled this caller at 1:48:01-2:0:00 off like an onion. Kevin asked the right questions and she had no other choice but to give up honest answers. She really didn't level up money wise, got 10 years older and now wants Prince Charming to come and marry her. Kevin said it best we want women in their prime not on your way out. It's simple to me stay fit, stay attractive, be a LADY, and most men will take care of the rest.

[@treid04]

Real easy. But the independent attitude. Leveraging genetics over the work needed.

[@Tiye4]

She sounded very dishonest. Many black women don’t think like her especially educated women

[@mikeuwagbai4987]

He sets the up too perfect lol 😂

[@kinga9301]

@@Tiye4 .....

[@AfrilishAliceRN]

Why isnt everyone talking about this part? She got dissected & couldn't answer or respond. Her ideas are so frail & inaplicable to reality.

[@tedsterrett7204]

Our SOUL and our SOULS have been hijacked by this society, I'm 59 and Mr. Samuels you have really opened my eyes! I sit here and think back to the mid 70's to mid 80's and as you are well aware of we were starting to progress and evolve, in a sense we had something to identify with... but they said OH no we can't let this happen. and that's when the 'INTERRUPTNET" was invented. We can't even be friends now because our focus is on being unproductive Family means nothing these days because of a feeling of hopelessness for the future! Back in the day our parents were our role models, mentors, counselors, and teachers, that was all fettered away with the I gotta be better than you okey doke! You are a "nowman" I like you and your positive mindset and message that speaks of change for us... thank you! Sir very inspirational show.

[@Minerallymade4Life]

Hi Ted, you are right and I like how you understand that our Souls have been hijacked. Our health has been hijacked too! And when the example of role model comes up, our mothers, fathers, teachers and counselors were the people that we looked up to. Thanks for your comments 🦋

[@tdogg65]

As a six digit earner who's married to a PhD (cue the track) I can assure you that even the whole "power couple" bs doesn't make these women happy

[@SwaeTech]

Can I ask. What is she unhappy about?

[@tdogg65]

@@SwaeTech she's just very argumentative and feels the need to challenge me on everything from raising our child to what we do in our free time. She also complains constantly and everytime I address an issue she finds a new one to complain about so she doesnt have to address her own issues. She's also gained 70 lbs over the years and doesn't take any accountability for it. Just blames me for all of the problems in her life. Definite victim mentality.

[@SwaeTech]

@@tdogg65 see. yeah. My own mother is a PhD who was perpetually unhappy and only just recently started gaining a sense of self and peace with life. And every black woman I meet who is married is always just really unhappy, argumentative, demeaning, and spiteful...unless they don’t have to work. And even then, they complain he doesn’t do more in the home, even if he takes care of the outside and upkeep. It would take somebody very special and at peace with themselves for me to want to get married, and even then, I would make sure to handle all of the bills.

[@BellaTelle]

It’s because she has enough money to feel like she too is the man.

[@tcorben60]

@@tdogg65 you need to leave to be happy.

[@darrellreese8980]

Women in they 20s be like "I know my worth, I ain't chasing nothing but a bag" until they 45 and be like "I was too picky, plus Im a 4, but I got a bachelor's degree"

[@MoveInSilence2023]

Facts

[@StreetBikeTakeoverYT]

"I'm a PhD 🙄 "

[@yonnaj5231]

This hit home. I can’t run from the truth.

[@robertgolding9261]

Komom

[@libertydrive4388]

Love these delusional post-wall 4's thinking there still a high value man who will have them. LOL.

[@cw5971]

As a young, tail-end GenXer, I must say that I've never seen a time in my life up until the 2010's when women would proudly proclaim that they're crazy and bipolar, as a badge of honor. I really hope we get to a place emotionally where we seek therapy, healing, and understanding.

[@briant40]

Dude...that last one that gave herself an 8 is delusional. She's a 3-4.

[@jamesauto2358]

You're being nice. She's a strong 1.5

[@Mesiyah207]

@@jamesauto2358 you're being nice shes a strong 1.4

[@jamesauto2358]

@@Mesiyah207 lol

[@terranceoliver8935]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@briant40]

@@jamesauto2358 you guys are absolutely right! What was i thinking...i was drunk.

[@victormuhammad1393]

Kevin dealt with image, grooming, attire, had an array of mood setting music along with whatever the topic was. He gave a lot.

[@juanitalewis4598]

Love the professionalism

[@crimsonite1524]

he really is classy, eloquent and patient

[@jasenmerrill8932]

Dealt with it myself. She was with me for 8 years and not working 80 percent of that time and then decided I wasn't ambitious enough. So at 43 she decided she was "going to find a millionaire who "values" a good woman"...Good luck with that.

[@appliancedude63]

Problem is Black women have been lied to, by a person that was lied to. Now figure that out lol.

[@Skipdickman1]

Most Lie to themselves

[@mellamobrittney]

@Autumn Chambers My one and only source of pride is that I'm a child of God. It would be nice if people wouldn't make such hasty generalizations.

[@anti4330]

@@mellamobrittney black women have been a certain way so long, they brought generalizations on themselves. there is a MASSIVE percentage of them that do act the way all these ppl have described. YOU may be different, but YOU and a few others isn't enough to stop people from generalizing.

[@2011troya]

Brittney J first off i think the Autumn Chambers person was talking about black men. Secondly, the original comment sounds like they were talking about persons being raised and educated in these matters by persons who were themselves lied to by a person who was themself lied to and miseducated.

[@mellamobrittney]

@@2011troya You're right..."girth" lol. I completely misread that.

[@Stillswingingforthefences]

Kevin have so much patience trying to get women to see the reality. Numbers do not lie!

[@allaboute8560]

Right

[@Asha-ll1sp]

This episode is so spot on, it brought tears to my eyes.

[@PrettyAKAmplished]

Kevin, thank you for demonstrating empathy during this segment and outlining some of the underlying issues that some Black women face in the world. I have a great career ! However, I value black love, legacy, and black wealth over any career or salary that I can attain. What I want some men to realize is that just bc a women has a solid career doesn’t mean she won’t sit her ass down and graciously be a loving, kind and attentive wife and mother. Men I’ve encountered are actually shocked that I’m so family oriented and feminine and it’s bc they’ve been taught that women with any type of professional career are incapable of being wives. I recently had a man ask whether or not I’d be a stay at home mom and he was stunned when I said absolutely bc he assumed who I am professional would carry over to my personal life and it doesn’t. I don’t wear the pants and I never want to.

[@williambass3871]

T. Nasha Exactly mama

[@ninasamone87]

@T. Nasha Well said.

[@kaykaysthoughtfuldays]

Facts too much to wear the pants Its tiring The men can have these pants lol

[@originaleverythingelseisca5977]

So true, I feel the same way. I have know problem leaving my job for my family.

[@meanlene4823]

Yes. An in the event your husband falls sick, at least you can make a decent income and not have to work at minimum wages! Good for you!👍

[@sloan58]

Water seeks it's own level . That also applies to people as well .

[@soltaniism]

I like that saying.

[@doriangrey3817]

Wtf does "average" mean if NOBODY'S AVERAGE? It's just ridiculous...maybe it's me who's mistaken, but "average" is a term that would encompass about 70% of the entire world population, no? It's not an insult to be average, you're actually in good company.

[@doriangrey3817]

@@KtotheG welp, tell feminism to marry they asses too!😂🤣😂

[@ParisArmaniTV]

My greatest fear is dying average.. never looked at it that way though.

[@Yop067]

I definitely agree with getting therapy. Not just for the women but the men aswell. Hell our Entire community from the elders to the children NEED clinical therapy.

[@kimberlypettway9692]

Therapy and getting my spirit man in check absolutely changed my life!

[@whatabouttheworldawokeyet9574]

Amen

[@mac1bc]

We also need more etiquette classes

[@saleemalhakim9327]

Checkout Joyce DeGrue she speaks about this topic in detail.

[@MisTracy39TheVeganLady]

The Christian Church use to be the corner stone of the Black community! .. There was always something going on at the Church 7 days a week when I was growing up! .. I sang in the choir and I was on the Jr. usher board 🙏🏽

[@cocoamamaindy]

Kevin you are talking straight facts. You are being generous with the 5

[@tedsantos7282]

The example of the black women crying in the office is a perfect indicator of what may be happening in the world. Black men may be the only ones that see black women as tough, strong super women. White men may see them as they are. So, in corporate America, white men push black women until they break. It is a way of putting her in her place. Besides, corporate America was never designed for women. It is as competitive as the football field. On the football field, women know their place.

[@klevdavful]

Ha ha ha ha on the football field women knkw their place is cheering o. The sidelines. Cuz men of all sizes get hit out there and rhey have to suck it up and heal and suit up.

[@miyagifatghost2684]

Wish one'em would line up across me...LMAOO💪🏿🤦🏿‍♂️

[@mellamobrittney]

"Putting her in her place"? 🥴

[@willia3r]

Brittney J what, did your _”feminism filter”_ get pricked by those words?

[@mellamobrittney]

@@willia3r "Feminism filter"? No, lol. I just reject the idea that men and women should be boxed into "places". I would never tell a man to "stay in his place" because, what does that even mean? In the same way, I can't accept a man telling me to "stay in my place". It's very simple, really.

[@kingbucketz182]

If she's an 8 then we have to revamp the entire rating scale.

[@zykira2010]

I agree cuz she's no where near that.but people don't like to face reality of who and what they are.

[@Killingityt]

The scale goes to 16 now lol

[@djuanlewis4210]

I was thinking the same thing

[@seanjuan8769]

U gotta luv her self esteem

[@UnderRatedBeauty88]

Great content , I am the woman he is talking about in this video. I had to grow up at a young age and being the only girl and oldest out of my other three siblings. I’ll speak for myself and say if I had another option I would have chosen that one . I don’t like being the strong black woman who was raised to fear trusting men because of my mother’s mistakes. I don’t know if it’s me but single black mother’s put more pressure on their black daughters and seem to coddle their black sons, it’s backwards to me .

[@UnderRatedBeauty88]

Marc Nkosi You may have not been coddled but it happens . many people say mother’s raise their daughters but love their sons. It seems like the daughters are usually more responsible than their brothers.

[@MISTERO70]

It's true sis

[@msch3891]

Yes. I've seen it. Hearing that a lot on many different videos. Daughters have to figure it out, do things on their own, save the day. The sons are catered to, coddled. It's as if the sons are their man. Yes they love their sons. Sometimes it seems like hatred, jealousy, or resentment toward the daughters.

[@UnderRatedBeauty88]

Ms ch Yeah the sons get away with more. In society men do more with less judgment in my opinion.

[@Jellyclaws221]

@@UnderRatedBeauty88 it's the nature of parenthood. Not just single mothers. A mother sees herself in her daughter and so she is harder on her and is softer on her son. A father sees himself in his son so he is harder on him and will treat his daughter like a princess. Without one parent then one gender will miss out on discipline and the other will miss out on the softness.

[@NyakzOTSD]

Yikes... From 2:02:00 is so brutal but so necessary! It highlights the disparity women are facing from reality to what exists in their head

[@MisterGoodDad]

yea. That was crazy. and its NORMAL.

[@coreyceasar5795]

Honestly i think he was actually trying to help her. Some are to far gone

[@treid04]

Man he did give her a real dose. Delusional.

[@mikeuwagbai4987]

😂😂😂

[@kuja5809]

She was neck deep in cognitive dissonance her materialistic sociopathic ass needed that reality check with urgency

[@lyndaevans1132]

You just described a good part of my life. My parents were in the home and married, but I was expected to be that babysitter, and all-round doer, but never complimented for doing it. Alcohol was a big part of the picture, and, no one even noticed me most of the time. This doesn't just happen to black girls. I'm white, and I could never identify with the experiences that other girls talked about. ...and no, I'm sure that none of us ever wanted to be this way. Very insightful, Kevin. Very insightful. Wish I had a magic wand. ...and no, guys, I would NOT stay the way I was raised to be.

[@dollhouseq1530]

Amen..I was that girl. Babysitter (at 8yrs old of a newborn), cook, help with homework, paying bills(starting at 14- I was told I don't have no money it's all hers), give baths, and be mom's listening ear as her friend instead of her child. I was the oldest of 5 girls btw. I couldn't WAIT to move out. I started tapping into my masculine/independent nature as the years went on, because that's what I saw my mom do. I didn't even realize dating for marriage was a thing. If I could go back I would've dated seriously for marriage sooner. I am 42 with no children. Not single though and luckily he has already brought up marriage in less than a years time. Im lucky!

[@burnzism]

Sorry you had to go thru that. Paying bills at 14? Thats a shame, all of it.

[@overthetopinflatablesparty6782]

Kevin holds everyone accountable. I LOVE IT. Men who can't be honest from day one, Women who can't and won't be submit to their own men.

[@LG-jy9nc]

“You hit 40 and it’s a wrap”....then he hit her with the horn. Kev is the best man

[@aprillondy7326]

Shallow thinking!

[@laraoneal7284]

This is probably one of the most relevant and important shows that Kevin has had. Ty Kevin.

[@hwoodist]

I thought one of the benefits of reaching the highest levels in life was to allow you to isolate yourself from women you deem unfit.

[@infozone9601]

@@clownkintroll6207 You silly nigga lol

[@andren1911]

Truth

[@jasonphillips2204]

@@clownkintroll6207 How many 30+ y/o women are going to understand sacrificing monogamy lol???

[@jasonphillips2204]

@@clownkintroll6207 Polygyny (polygamy)is a whole different consent most bw can NOT comprehend.

[@willia3r]

scott haywood when you own your own business, yes. But as long as you work for someone else, you are subjected to their view of the world and how they social-engineer the workplace. Between the WASP men and the Jewish men...both have a peculiar tendency to effeminize the corporate work environment, especially in environments where sales quotas are not a metric. So the end result is dealing with a constant barrage of feminuts who want to make the work environment extremely difficult, especially for black men.

[@Tiffaloni]

If you expect a man to pay the bills like a father then expect him discipline like a father. As long as you both agree on what type of discipline is acceptable.

[@touchyanose9464]

That's period

[@aprillondy7326]

If you trust the man in your life, he should be able to discipline him/her regardless because he'll/she'll know how to discipline the child. What's there to talk about? We don't discuss anything when he is good to them. Most women/men should date after their child is grown.

[@uberlupe1]

I think that one of the issues about overvaluing is this: black people exist in a society that constantly undervalues them. To counter that, I think some people inflate their own ego and self-worth. Unfortunately, this can lead to self-delusion if left unchecked.

[@5thHouseProductions]

The Kanye effect! Everyone told him he was wack, he hyped himself up to the point of being delusional.

[@Theoracleprincess]

I find alot of unattractive people have that syndrome. Sometimes I just let them sit and talk because of the time they enjoy listening to themselves talk

[@brothaonanadventure3573]

Black people under value themselves. The society treats us appropriately in response. That victim mentality is a hold over from a by gone era, and passing it down has contributed to the destruction of our communuties. Let it go, set your standards and live by them.

[@VajrahahaShunyata]

Kanye had a traumatic brain injury. Found God and flipped his script. I am unable to diagnose his sanity. I have never sat with him , not Yet. None commenting here know a damn thing about the man. Not one of us. Speculation....

[@xEMOANHATARON]

@@brothaonanadventure3573 THE INITIAL COMMENT AND THIS (!) RESPONSE ARE IT!!!

[@hwoodist]

BW follow the sisterhood, which tells them they’re fine, and the problem is with the men.

[@allaboute8560]

Right

[@touchyanose9464]

Glad I WOKE TF UP

[@KT-yj6zc]

It’s funny that he was talking about my situation at 34:00 and then he was like Kim aka my name🤯 Though my parents were/are married. I was the baby sitter, cutting grass, fixing houses/cars with my dad, couldn’t date, wasn’t allowed to hang out with friends....I got comfortable in this life and now I have to learn what I didn’t! Love this content as it been eye opening 👁

[@ShadowbannedbyYoutube]

Huh? Comfortable how?

[@Imskyhighy]

@@ShadowbannedbyKZbin meaning stuck

[@marquezj286]

It does matter who is to blame because it makes the person accountable to their actions. If I grill myself when it comes to accountability, I’m not going to give someone else a pass when it comes to accountability. Raw straightforwardness gets the best results growth wise.

[@carlathomas2697]

Thank you for using your forum to bring healing words to broken hearts. Your depth of understanding of how many women were raised gives hope and inspiration.

[@mikekimveteran]

You are right about mental health. I am a trauma licensed mental health practitioner (psychoanalyst) in NYS. I am not promoting myself. Just affirming your words. One day it would be great to speak with you..Great work... My was an Afro-Latina and just saying that I feel connected to Black people. Thanks again for making key distinctions. From a clinical view, you point the unconscious with many of your audience guests. The reactions to you are signs of deep issues that are unresolved. Well, you break it down...

[@jefbiggs1583]

I've never heard any man say they don't care about body count 😂😂

[@A_Dubb618]

Dude why care? You never gonna get a real number anyways

[@WestsideWillie]

If that thang still tight and she doesn’t have any std’s it shouldn’t matter

[@wkhristafer]

@@A_Dubb618 that makes it pointless, not irrelevant

[@edwarddavis6214]

We do.

[@michaelworthy9381]

A man can care about a body count but go luck getting an accurate one!

[@PUSSYMONEYWEED75]

I'm a man and I feel so0 sad for my black sisters...so fucking sad Jah.. smh

[@redgeminiarts3674]

Me too…This is a serious issue in our community.

[@jasonberry961]

That ending to the female caller was a classic... Salute

[@eyedea32183]

BM and BW we got to make this work. We're all we got. Put your swords down, agree that we've been taught wrong, and learn what we need to do to make this work.

[@richmack4194]

She's looking for a rich drug dealer. She didn't disclose her job because she is a corrections officer

[@Ben-Ken]

No wonder she feels so highly about herself. Imagine spending your whole week around desperate, sex-starved people, looking at you like a piece of meat. Telling you how good you look.

[@TheShowOff2I]

@@Ben-Ken That’s the reason why 3/10 women think they are 10/10

[@bygsmuv5820]

Or a jailhouse therapist 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@witsendSOS]

😂

[@tonyebiere551]

is she trying to put the drug dealer in jail then????

[@laraoneal7284]

I’m a white female and I was given a ton of responsibility as the oldest of 7 children. I thoroughly resented every moment of it. That was a huge reason why I didn’t want marriage and children. I felt by 19 been there done that.

[@macman9689]

and....

[@thatkidray555]

Sorry to hear that. Hope your life is better now.

[@margauxwashington5609]

Hopefully, you've been able to forgive your mom and start your own family. Much love. ❤️

[@Ahch_not_op_of_Judah]

These women really be passing up on potentially good husbands so they can go and play the field.

[@mrvisionaryseekinoftruth3862]

That is so true, and it's called greedy... What happened to those who are greedy? They lose it all at the very end...

[@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938]

It’s called over playing there hands

[@Ahch_not_op_of_Judah]

@@fitzgeraldsemelfort3938 agreed

[@JohnSmith-lo3lc]

Body count does matter, if I know she has had a certain amount of bodies, you've been around too much for me

[@joeam4977]

Completely agree. KS is wrong that body count doesn’t matter, but right that it’s impossible to prove. I would say that if a woman is known to be promiscuous, she is certainly NOT relationship or wife material. Women handle sex differently than men and the higher the body the count, the more emotionally screwed up she is going to be. Don’t forget about STDs as well.

[@nickc3250]

Pair bonding is a really thing!

[@michaelhowze8198]

@@joeam4977 With some subtle questions getting a feel for the body count isn't that difficult. Sure not a precise number but if she's a garden tool it will come out most of the time.

[@Emagick77]

You're not lying at all...KS may not care because he can't be sure he'll get a accurate body count from the women in question but, to say that men don't care if the woman they're dated was a thot or whoring around?....is totally disingenuous... I wonder if he would date a call girl or a prostitute

[@ninasamone87]

@@michaelhowze8198 , I’m curious, what subtle questions you think can lead you to know a woman’s body count?

[@LateNightRewrites]

If y'all men are gonna introduce females to this show, start with this episode. I think it'll help em to actually hear and internalize Kevin's message

[@EricDaw1]

I agree

[@66LouCar]

Yes mam……..great advice.

[@mohamedblasse999]

There's too many great starters.

[@WBF06]

The lady at the end is a warden of a all black men prison😂😂😂😂

[@forcewindu]

Women choose the man. The man chooses the relationship.

[@kinga9301]

Big facts

[@lilnallie05]

My parents were married but my dad always worked never home and when he was home my parents fought so much. My mum also worked full time I was the baby sitter, the cook, the cleaner, and the teacher. I just accepted it, it’s only going to therapy I realised how angry I am, still. I have been with my fiancé for 10 year’s and he’s always had an issue with my anger, defensiveness and attitude but I’m lucky because he has stood by me and he knows who I can be because he’s seen it so I’m watching this and I’m trying to do better and thanks to KS I am working hard on it. Thank you KS.

[@AndrewDavis-tp6td]

One of my ex at 18, wanted mansions and servants. The other left me at 40 and entered in her journal she wanted a rich man. At 40, never had a kid and refuse to have one with me.

[@kinga9301]

Damn....

[@greenluv89]

You read her journal?

[@sharonharper6255]

@@greenluv89, I was thinking the same thing!!! 🙄

[@haddingtoniangcp2464]

@@greenluv89 🤣🤣you are a mess

[@dondemarco9092]

When he said “I’m done, I can’t do no more”. That was real, the work weighs on you. Bc you still realize there is so much more left to do.

[@wright1wright]

When she said: "I'm not a mud duck" kevin face had me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@brownhornet1975]

That look this woman had when Kevin kept serving her a dose of reality was priceless. It’s not even funny, but she as well as other overly inflated SMV women need to hear. Us men are not in a position to over inflate our status. Society lets us know all the time.

[@monicaDD]

This show was SO good. It’s amazing that I’ve told younger women the same thing but in the DC area I’m not taken seriously because I’m from the South.

[@laraoneal7284]

I wish when I was 20 I had the internet and shows like this. I did do my recovery process on my own however and it’s been difficult but worth it.

[@H1GHD3FF]

Cant marry someone who doesn't value her body the same way I do. If she is being irresponsible with her womb it will make a difference for me to commit. These people have similar characteristics and if you been with a few you should know the warning signs. S/O 2 Thanos- stay dropping that hammer on people bullshit visions

[@aprillove4762]

Thank you Kevin. I appreciate you so much. You are so necessary.

[@nubianpwr]

My pblm with this discussion is our perspective as modern Black ADOS men (American Descendants of Slaves). Our mentality is far too matriarchal due to our unique history and rearing. No high value men of any other ethnicity would "waste" any time with women who were not true "assets" to them. I understand that the Male value-sphere and rites-of-passage was largely broken in our ethnic group... but brothers, understand this, any woman who brings you fatherless children, a harsh attitude, a degraded body, a sharp and graceless tongue, a crooked smile (or non at all), and a lack of service, is incapable of respecting, valuing, and therefore loving you. She may have valid reasons for it, but remember you are looking for a mate or wife - not a critical care patient...

[@nubianpwr]

@@clownkintroll6207 good luck with that "reasoning"

[@israelite916]

1:06:00 Matthew 7:1-3 [1]Judge not, that ye be not judged. [2]For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again. [3]And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?

[@cherylvaughn2215]

I think the comments about "body count" apply to the younger women vs the older women. You can't really fault a person for the number of sexual partners they had before you, but we all can warn a 22 yr old young lady about how she'll be perceived by the men that she MAY end up with. The one thing i have learned by listening to my husband's male friends and family is that men absolutely do not want to be embarrassed by the women that they bring around each other. The double standard sucks, but it is what it is...

[@darylc2799]

It's not actually a double standard, because the standards held between men and woman are different...the expectations are different, the roles are different the responsibilities are different. Body count applies to all women. I have never met a man that would find marrying an escort acceptable...because of body count.

[@equivalentexchangeisalie5726]

@@darylc2799 Exactly. It's not a double standard at all. Preach

[@andreajanes4793]

The pickings are slim for black therapist especially black male therapist. You are so right Kevin! After a relentless search I was able to connect with a black therapist in my area and proud I’m on my way to my personal transformation 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾

[@bigtank6465]

This was very interesting commentary. I just recently realized there was an issue with sistas having unrealistic expectations for a mate. I'm aware of women who were actually engaged but ultimately terminated the relationship because they felt there was a better option.. Or the guy just wasn't ambitious enough. I've also noticed an issue with women leading with their accomplishments. They will proudly tell you about their degrees and career, but they are clueless about remaining feminine and what it takes to add value to a man in a relationship.

[@vaughnmegaa8621]

She is completely delusional she laughs and lies throughout the entire dialogue with Kevin 🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️

[@libertydrive4388]

All these women have that fake laugh as their tell that they are lying or protecting their fragile psyche from the cold truth.

[@rebelwithacause2229]

She was so frustrating to listen to. Hard to pull information out of. I can imagine how difficult it would be to take her on a date. And, she is not an 8.

[@keeseagainsttheworld2106]

You can tell kevin has a passion for fashion..inspiration for us younger guys to get our swag together 👍🏿

[@MisTracy39TheVeganLady]

I’ve always said for decades, “women, always keep yourself looking the way you looked when you guys met” .. Because your man will start l👀ken at the the women that look the way you “used” to look! 🙄

[@k3nn3thinatl]

Black women are PROUD of the attitude! They brag about it. They mistakenly view it as strength and anytime a man refuses to deal with it, they insult him and say he "can't handle a strong Black woman." My mom helped raise her siblings and she had a tough life. My mom never had a nasty attitude.

[@judgedre1504]

another great show

[@darrellreese8980]

Clicked faster than a middle aged 4 with 3 kids that want a high value man

[@PrimeTime__]

Microchimerism, lack of pair bonding, STDs, womb imprint....all legitimate reasons why body count matters.

[@LM-nn7sg]

Thank you for posting. You gave a lot to look up and learn about!

[@gscr09]

It matters to both men and women...

[@PrimeTime__]

@@gscr09 most women today don't care about a man's body count. Only one of the things I listed is even relevant to men, STDs.

[@gscr09]

PrimeTime We do care. I’m not sure who lied to you. I don’t want a man that everyone else in the city has slept with. It is a 2 way street period.

[@PrimeTime__]

@@gscr09 you're speaking for yourself, which is cool, for you. A lot of women don't want men other women don't want. That's female nature 101. I literally just found out a woman I went to school with (certified 10 in looks) tried to get with my friend, who was never wanted for his looks, but is successful now, but wasn't until AFTER he got with my other fine friend (she's 9.5 in looks). Perfect example.

[@roncsampsonronstalentclub2630]

Very well broken down, I didn't fully understand how a lot of black women got to the way they are. Ron from London UK

[@leev9450]

I remember talking with a few of my female coworkers about this and they were all like "be nice for what to these n****s?" and laughed. They laugh now but gonna cry later.

[@chess-is-king]

Exactly. We have proof that they will continue to be what they are, no matter how much we plead. Therefore, we aren't pleading. We are walking away

[@memyself4ever1]

For the record, Thelma Hopkins was an actress on Family Matters and before that sang with a 70s group called Tony Orlando & Dawn. Bernadette Stanis is the actress that played "Thelma" on Good Times.

[@denisships2861]

The introduction was so deep and personal that I got impress as a dude, this guy had real wisdom and he do great like a psycologist

[@CammieCammie]

Thank you Kevin because this is the truth. I really appreciate this video and I am glad you understand. Preach

[@andrewtolbert9532]

That’s what I’m talking about…Kevin Thank you. Thank you thank you for making us men think outside of our own wants and short sightedness.

[@BG-gr6vc]

I know men like the no tipper, funny thing is I covered a tip on a 300 dollar bill for him after the waitress was basically in tears, if I ever go out and he's around I'm calling him out on it that shit is classless.

[@rmercedes971]

I was a server for 10 years, people who don’t tip are definitely low class no matter how much money they have in the bank... They’re usually the most demanding customers too 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@truthteller6929]

Not true at all. I have heard from servers that tip amount depend on the quality of service they provided

[@rmercedes971]

Yahchanan Yisrael As I said, I worked in the industry for TEN YEARS... Yes 90% of the people will tip you based on service, but there’s always that 10% that can receive the royal treatment and they STILL won’t tip, those people won’t tip no matter even if they received excellent service. We call them Stiffers, ask your server friends if stiffers exist and see what they tell you.

[@truthteller6929]

@@rmercedes971 lol, I will do that..what's your situation?

[@rmercedes971]

Yahchanan Yisrael Situation meaning work-wise? Im a stay at home wife, Loving being home with my babies, and no one that can pay me enough to work in the food industry again.

[@truthteller6929]

@@rmercedes971 good for you!!

[@409_DUDE]

Great show Mr. Kevin SALUTE!!!!

[@gradient1843]

Human Resources department are full of these.

[@AmandaCC88]

True. Definitely won’t be studying that for a masters now lol

[@Beaneeman67]

You speak the truth

[@jaybae7315]

Wow.

[@MR.REAL818]

It's worse when HR is one of less than 10 women in my shop with 100+ workers

[@dannyv161]

And they always claim it pays them six figures

[@ChakraShooter]

Hitting it on the head Kevin!

[@therealkevinpowell]

49:35 If each man is responsible for himself, and by extension, each woman is responsible for herself, what does any man owe to a group of women, let alone any particular woman, black or not?

[@CammieCammie]

Get it Kevin you are on 🔥

[@breeb490]

Mr. Samuels you are the truth

[@dedrickpatterson9]

Problem is that too many of us are trying to live their lives as characters they see in movies and TV.. Educated blue collar, CEO, driven woman with Boss black man with same or more value and perfect family situations smh.. Totally unrealistic goals. Never think about the trauma and mental issues we live with and insecurities from childhood etc.. And think fantasy marriage instead of living on reality both men and women are delusional like this in alot of cases..

[@rodthomas501]

Cost of living is so high when you live in a high value neighborhood. So $80k is nothing cuz you have taxes, insurances, medical claims, shopping and etc. Kevin is correct.

[@medusa8019]

Yep. It's $60k after taxes.

[@richardchandler2581]

I'd like to hear you speak more on Children doing better being raised by the father.

[@greybeardshadough6501]

I'm gonna be realllllll kind right now, she izzzzzz a 3 and a 1/2...yet, she thinks she's an 8....... there gentledudes we have found theeeee problem...

[@MisterGoodDad]

Body count matters...why: The more D's shes had the less her ability to pair bond with a man. Which is important for LTR's and marriages. I believe that has actually been proven scienctifically. NOW there are guys I'm sure who are afraid to perform, but nah, I don't think thats where most guys come from. We just don't want to compete for used up goods. My generation at least. But hey, maybe I'm just the exception and not the rule - Which is very possible.

[@easylee4uify]

It's meaningless, you'll never get an honest answer

[@easylee4uify]

@pimp named slickback because no woman nor relationship worth having requires you to be a detective....as men does OUR body count matter? If that's the case the none of us are worthy

[@easylee4uify]

@@oldmanmeen7805 LOL, ok...I'm just not a body count guy..so many important things to consider when choosing a woman, FOR ME that's not a priority

[@easylee4uify]

@pimp named slickback I think that whatever you discover about her based on her body count logically must also apply to you given your engagement in the same behavior.

[@easylee4uify]

@pimp named slickback in other words if you've had 30 partners and she's had 30 partners how are you any different morally or otherwise? Edvest it's a personal preference, and at worst it's nothing more than a double standard.

[@lyledavis7175]

Picky woman- “I’m not lazy”. Kevin- “neither is a mule” 😂😂😂😂

[@2lowkey100]

“If high value, high earning men don’t approach you for serious relationships, that should tell you something” Lol I know a that was a bitter pill to swallow for a lot of these outrageously entitled women watching the show

[@quinnbat]

Materialism is rampant among black women!!!!

[@olympic1l196]

It’s rampant with white women too

[@zyruemusic]

the answers from the women are childish!!!

[@divinedarkfemininetarotbyt3457]

Fuckin right just like sex is for black men 🤣

[@quinnbat]

@@divinedarkfemininetarotbyt3457 LOL

[@torachan23]

@@divinedarkfemininetarotbyt3457 at least it’s something black man have to work for and not expect it to fall in their laps, like they’re entitled to it. Nice try though, grow up

[@joecarter9023]

Your most interesting session yet.

[@CammieCammie]

Or you were girlie and teased for it; therefore you change being a feminine girl to being more masculine. This is another factor in the black community and this is why a few of us black women become swirliers and be friend, date and marry outside of blackastan. You nailed this video. Thankd

[@gscr09]

First Name Last Name No we’re not. However, I still get teased to this day about being girly, but I don’t care anymore. No I’m not going outside to do a man’s job. I don’t want to. I’d rather sit pretty in the A/C with my hair nails and makeup done . I’m not competing...

[@bpaige12]

Seems like every other broadcast we get a delusional caller. I've said it once and I'll say it again many of our sisters could be married tomorrow to a decent man if they just got realistic.

[@marcotheinterviewer]

Truth...theres an abudance of good black men out here, getting overlooked for silly silly reasons!

[@ahmedwright6529]

Im here to be apart of this forum ..love it