She Has To Love You MORE Than You Love Her

[@alexandergrace5350]

''I think that your opinions are the result a very luxurious modern society where women are far removed from the environmental factors that actually created our current biology and our evolutionary psychology. There is no way you would be so flippant about the necessity of men for 99.9% of human evolution and so what you're experiencing there when you say that men are kind of expendable is the result of modern cultural phenomena not biology. I think if you dug deep deep down you would find a very different instinct...'' Transcript of me speaking in the reaction video. The three of us had a really good discussion but there were some disagreements... As a thank you to all of the people who have supported me this year, as a December celebration, up until Christmas I will be posting each new video alongside a reaction video with my friends Sarah and Sumer. Lots of the women I feature on this channel are very young so it will be good to get the opinions of some more experienced women. The videos are an exclusive for my Patreon supporters. Watch the full reaction video now: www.patreon.com/posts/she-has-to-love-32015655

[@Broxine]

Alexander Grace that here was a perfect cliffhanger to get more patreons 😄 well done 👏👏👏

[@gogego998]

Man your content is getting better and better. I had to turn the notifications on. Well done Alex!

[@M-dv1yj]

ALL are expendable but the MALE who WINS

[@Broxine]

Milton Bates true

[@salaa23]

this is exactly what I was talking about yesterday with a friend, nowadays girls seems very detached from reality, they exert the need of a man (through bodylanguage) but in the same time they are so sophisticated that they don't commit to the relationship.

[@zuhairyassin505]

i cant stress enough about the importance of your work

[@ne9835]

Yup

[@hectorcarr3050]

I keep his videos to myself because most people can’t handle this much truth.

[@zuhairyassin505]

Hector Carr i agree with you

[@rahathasan819]

Why watch this when you'll be marrying your cousin anyways?

[@kareemabdulfumar7953]

Rahat Hasan because regardless there must be understanding coming from both sides of a relationship

[@snorlaxcom]

If she isn't crazy about you, then she just crazy.

[@gr-xw3sp]

All guys agree that all "she" are crazy...

[@alyelo]

he didnt say crazy he said ‘loves you more’.

[@snorlaxcom]

@@alyelo if a chick isn't crazy about you, she doesn't love you. Know your worth.

[@brothertn708]

😹😹😹

[@messageinthebottle1673]

Wow I'm lucky to be the thousandth like 👍

[@youtubeviewer4472]

"Your ideas make me feel bad, but I cannot logically refute them!"

[@IOverlord]

Keyword: feel

[@untouchable360x]

A woman has to respect you more than she loves you.

[@Smartcom5]

Well, a woman is intrinsically plain unable to _love_ you (even if she wants to and tries to forces herself to), if she *can't* respect you in the first place. When he's that type of man, who has no problem calling girls out on their BS, they know they *_have_*_ to_ respect him and they all _love_ that on a manly man. That's since there's _no·thing_ in this world, what a woman intrinsically adores more on a man, than a man who's able to command respect from a woman. *Nothing!* ♥ As soon as she's able to respect him (and he has to _demand_ it from her beforehand), she's with him no matter the cause or time-frame. Makes them virtually being forced by their own femininity to wilfully want to submit to their man. Now ask me how I know .. That's it. _Sweet, sweet masculine energy!_ They go crazy over it, especially if they just *can't* have it. 🦋

[@lukemanius]

I have to respectfully disagree. Women have to _keep_ liking you more. The difference continues to matter _forever_. If you can live without her and she knows it, you're on good ground. Tell and show her that you dig her, but be and show that you are willing to walk if she doesn't respect you.

[@alexandergrace5350]

I love respectful disagreement. Cheers brother!

[@simplygreen5832]

I would also add that she needs to like you more than the benefits obtained by leaving you.

[@lukemanius]

@@simplygreen5832 I'd agree only if we include the word *perceived* before benefits. People buy with emotion and justify with logic. Keep her _feeling_ into you and she'll twist her logic to fit staying.

[@loumonte658]

@@simplygreen5832 goes well with the old but wise saying - be worth more alive than dead🍻

[@izac90210]

I kind of figured that a method of having a threesome once or twice a year with a very beautiful young woman and your wife will imbibe a sense of value onto the man in your woman's eyes. This will work of she accepts your threesome idea and this will also keep you sharp when it comes to attraction as you do need to get a hot women for threesome.

[@jackburton307]

"You can't respect someone who kisses your ass. It just doesn't work." - Farris Bueller

[@jeremykruger1440]

🍎😛

[@jackburton307]

@@bleakforecast9906 that's pretty messed up.

[@bleakforecast9906]

@@shannondove96 What is the reason blacks don't respect whites?

[@bleakforecast9906]

@@jaklumen Gotcha.

[@charlestruppi7793]

As someone who’s been married for many years, I can 100% agree with this. During periods of our marriage when I’m traveling and checked out for many reasons (stress, work, etc) and my wife has been there as the main emotional driver, we’ve had the best times in our marriage (fun, sex, you name it). The minute I’m the one driving the relationship, she immediately checks out. I mean setting up romantic nights where I surprise her and do everything any woman would say is what she dreams of, things never go well. This, even though my wife will complain that I need to do more. It’s all bullshit.

[@dogunboundhounds9649]

now I don't want to get married.

[@bigfoot3044]

@@dogunboundhounds9649 Who would step into a beartrap on his own volition?

[@Temporalplace]

"This, even though my wife will complain that I need to do more." It's because her instinct(feeling) doesn't want you to be dependent on her (thus weak) but her mind doesn't agree with that thus can't admit to herself that she does't wan't you to be nice to her, because it's not logic and does't seem right from mind standpoint. In the end she is lying to herself and to you by saying "you need to do more" because she doesn't understand what she wants. Her instincts(feelings) want one thing while her mind wants other thing. Thats why from old times there is saying "women do not know what they want".

[@recalled_heart5491]

So from your experience Alexander saying it doesn't matter for long term is nonsense.

[@Ted...youtubee]

She sounds like an alpha female. Different creatures.

[@theetherealshaye]

As a young woman, I happen to agree with this. I’ve admitted this to myself many times, and I wasn’t sure if other girls, or guys, had noticed this. We like knowing that we are important to someone we care about, and that a guy finds us appealing both physically and mentally, but often times, for me personally, when some guys come on too strong, passionate or intense TOO QUICKLY, it does scare me a little, simply because it’s too fast for my liking. I’m not usually thinking extremely long term if I’ve just met you, I’m still trying to figure out what kind of relationship I want to have with you. So there has to be a balance. I personally think the timing is the issue. Intensity and passion are beautiful, but too much of a good thing is bad for anyone. And it’s nice to hear someone else confirm my own experience.

[@KrishnaKumar-hz8my]

Appreciate for being true beyond the nature and identity of women

[@raularmas317]

One of my greatest hopes on the other side of covid-19 is that both genders come to realize in a more heartfelt way the sometimes capricious, all-too-brief(really 80 years, that's all we get?), and fragile nature of life and relationships and begin to invest themselves more fully in the relationships they already have or will have in the future going forward.

[@kite6864]

most guys coming on that strong so quick are just hoping to have sex with you right away

[@edhdecktech1733]

14 years of marriage where I liked her more than she did was toxic to our relationship and she’s been pulling away for quite some time. A year ago I pulled away and worked on who I was based on this theory. wouldn’t you know it,... she started chasing me! our relationship is way more healthy because of this. This content is absolutely accurate.

[@marmitechickenlegs8331]

Congrats Though I wished relationships wouldn't be this complicated

[@cayden3470]

Cheat on her so you have something to to secretly hold over her head, nothing boosts your confidence as much - don’t tell her tho. I can bet she cheated on you in those 14 years.

[@roarsgaming3707]

In what ways did you pull away? Also, when she said something along the lines of "why are you spending less time with me" what did you say?

[@gns4838]

Competition my friend and show her you don’t need her.

[@bulgexpat80]

Have girl friends that show you signs of interest and make her see it

[@alongorodnitsky9511]

it's funny that you say that because hollywood movies basically taught us the exact opposite and therefore alot of men probably ended up doing what the movies showed us and then they discovered that women don't actually like that(making her the center of your world)

[@AntiquityCentury21]

The fact that the movies taught such a large part of our population growing up is problematic, to say the least.

[@cardothedon7964]

fairytales brother. We all got caught in that. i dont listen to love songs either, they are just as bad as the visuals. Its funny how women show alot of love for that stuff, but once they with a man who places her above himself, she doesnt know what to do or make of it, so she cheats. its crazy

[@erdnati]

A successful societal experiment until the man rebels.

[@YumiSumire]

This. This is why I hate most romance movies. (1 exception being 500 days of Summer)

[@AntiquityCentury21]

@@YumiSumire Most of the standard romance movies today promote a very harmful and/or deceptive morality which is sugar-coated to appeal to female fantasies. The worst is that it's usually the guy who is *already* with the woman who is portrayed badly, and the "good guy" is the one who enters the picture and steals her away.

[@jondoe5926]

Women today: I want him to be 100% commited to validating me and I'm entitled to all his earnings

[@lukemanius]

She can do what she wants, but she won't be sticking with me if she does. 🤷‍♂️

[@Professorclown]

Definition of divorce (from a man's perspective): giving your house away to someone you hate.......

[@gamersforlife3440]

@@Professorclown Soon u wont things will change very soon now not many years majority of the laws will change.Sadly its not gonna matter whatever majority of the people like it or not.

[@qasimimtiaz114]

*low quality women

[@lauraelizabethbrown]

Go on, make more blanket statements.

[@Truesoda]

Stop confirming these things I’ve experienced first hand. It hurts a little lol

[@wallymcguire2033]

I need to save this one and give it to all young men. I only have a daughter but this is a nice summary of why guys need to be masculine.

[@alehodr]

Dude this is just what happpened to me and my girlfriend, everthing was alright but then she got a better job than me, by that time I had a tough time, we both had the same carrer but I was having a bad time getting a good job so after 6 months she just left me, after all we had she left, and the reason is what you said, so true

[@airfuture9464]

Patrice O'Neal said the perfect relationship is when a guy likes the woman and the woman loves him.

[@OldBlue560]

They know it’s right, but they’re angry to admit it. It’s amazing how hard we all fight our natural instincts.

[@jonmacdonald2193]

@Mike Poor broke men dont think woman dont like men with money. Your comment is complete garbage my dude. The only men that dont think woman are like that are the insanely privleged ones, that have the looks, and the money (generally from parents). Poor broke men know very well what woman like and dont like, it gets shoved in their face non stop

[@Stassis]

If you're poor and broke women are the least of your problems.

[@ivbolt]

@@Stassis totally agree, because I'm in that position.

[@MrAnperm]

@@jonmacdonald2193 You misread his comment.

[@bc7319]

Spot on analysis related to biology and evolution. I would say I am an experienced man, in my 50s, been married to the same woman for nearly 30 years. What you say about the early stages of the relationship is accurate and I would add to it, keep in mind this is in an ideal quality relationship: A woman will test a man over the years for trust. It is usually very calculated underneath so her early infatuation with a man is not mindless. But, once she tests his character, she can bond so deeply with him she will be loyal especially when he fails. It is an incredible trait women possess and often men criticize women for being irrational this way. But, it can be very heroic and is often the reason why men who lose everything can bounce back, win and prevail. Now, in the case of our screwed up society producing Post Modern Marxist Feminist philosophies and cultures that move men and women away from happiness and high quality healthy natural and biological gender roles? Well, that is what your videos are for, right? To point out the inconsistencies and bring us back to happiness! I just hope when you interview, we watch, that people will see how confused and dishonest most of the women are you interview because our culture lies to them and they believe it.

[@sappho7278]

"reality doesn't care about our abstract notions of what's fair" Dang...

[@Lionlovesunity]

It blows my mind how your videos don’t have a bunch of hate and offended people in this modern society of political correctness 😂😂😂. Good on you man. Cheers. Keep it up. ❤️🦁🙏👍

[@2flyabove]

Then again, look at the butt-hurt people who report him and get his videos de-monitized.

[@chasetuttle2780]

Give it time.

[@Me-by8qi]

If it happens, and it might once the channel is big enough - it will lead to the message getting out further. Once that happens there's bound to be more idiots supporting the channel and missing the point as well as people hating on the strawman they perceive.

[@2flyabove]

@Malcolm M yes unfortunately some have gone after Alex.

[@maxgeorgopoulos3516]

Must be the Aussie accent

[@cellyszn20]

Keep going Alexander, you are gracing the world with this content.

[@shaun1293]

Caleb Israel did you just...

[@cellyszn20]

SlovesL did I just what

[@shaun1293]

Caleb Israel Alexander... Gracing...

[@cellyszn20]

SlovesL yeah Alexander graces us with these videos, it’s great, is there a problem?

[@shaun1293]

Caleb Israel his name is Alexander Grace... never mind I thought you did a pun.

[@Kenzofeis]

"Behind every powerful man there is a nagging female"

[@Kenzofeis]

@@concerta56 Nagging female says NO!

[@bleakforecast9906]

How "Great " he is ,is dependent upon his reaction to her nagging.

[@cesteres]

🤣

[@SamuelHallEngland]

An evil succubus

[@joshvincent8002]

@@SamuelHallEngland 😂

[@Peacekeeper3212]

I agree, when you think about it in terms of the 'push-pull' dynamic many relationships have, especially early on, that's what hints at how valuable a partner is, how preciously they guard their time is an indicator of the perceived importance said time has. Over-the-top eagerness can be seen as desperation when not mutual and as the video has shown, a repellant.

[@kimmywimmy7305]

Peacekeeper3212 Yes, excellent explanation!

[@blurglide]

Even women THINK they want that, but they don’t like it in reality

[@haydenw.9809]

But she expects you to take her when she’s less ambitious than you.

[@EnderCrypt]

ofcourse, if you dont, you are clearly sexist

[@SamuelHallEngland]

That's women all over!

[@mikesmoovmusic4699]

If you’re girl is more ambitious than you, who’s really the leader?

[@mikesmoovmusic4699]

@paviliceanu vlad just cuz the man is supposed to lead, it doesnt make the woman less significant. theres a point guard on a basketball team for a reason. thats to facilitate.

[@mikesmoovmusic4699]

@paviliceanu vlad none taken. just want all my guys on game.

[@JoyIsabel]

I think this should go both ways. I’ve seen friends who were head over heels for their man and he could have cared less about her and he didn’t put the same effort into their relationship. If a woman senses that she is chasing a man and he isn’t chasing her as well, most will give up. I certainly would, bc a relationship should be based in both individuals being devoted and loving each other. Whether it is a man or a woman, you should never revolve your life around your partner. You need your own friends, hobbies, space and goals in life as well. Men are not necessarily “weak” based on some of the things you mentioned.

[@razorzish6258]

THIS 100% THIS ! There is nothing wrong with guys like this. Sometimes it's nice to comfort him and be the motherly figure and protect him also. To view others as weak and toss them away, reject them is being a weak person also. Only the strong will help protect the weak and raise them to be strong also. I will say those women are not worthy for these "weak" guys cuz they are "weak" also. Need big momma amazon woman to love these guys. And nothing wrong with that.

[@PrinceRevolver]

It's impossible to love a woman. But it's possible to have love for a woman.

[@mlk4life]

this is very true. if you don't hold the power in the relationship then you will lose her. shell lose interest and cheat or leave.

[@TheClayCreature]

What other power do you have besides the power to walk away from her.....which is the exact same power that she has towards you?

[@mlk4life]

@@TheClayCreature theres a power balance in every relationship. when its a romantic relationship involving a female the balance can get skewed towards a female in a lot of ways. the power to be able to walk away is one of the few a man actually has. where a woman typically has many other ways to maintain or control power in a relationship. especially if you add children etc.

[@olivertwist9930]

The power in a given relationship is held by the one who cares less. The one that will experience the most happiest and sadness is the one who cares the most.

[@Machi74005]

Women can never love a man the way a man often times loves a woman.

[@Adrian101882]

Gim Paul true, but it rarely, if ever, features a guy she’s truly attracted to, so she laughs now with how many orbiters she has at her disposal, and cries later when it becomes apparent that they do nothing for her (emotionally)

[@BrayoFitnessTrainer]

Straight facts💯 1. They have too many options and Simps lusting for her. 2. They’re selfish creatures by nature. 3. Most don’t even like themselves to begin with!! nuff said.

[@f.b.i6889]

@@BrayoFitnessTrainer 1) They have as many options as men will allow 2) All creatures are selfish; it's just how evolution made us. Except in nature the only time animals are not selfish is when they have an offspring (also because of evolution) 3) Most humans don't like themselves

[@digitalconsciousness]

Man you don't know how good it feels to have someone else say this. This is what I have been speculating for years. I feel like men give everything they have for the woman - even after divorce when they take half the assets! No woman will ever have to work as hard for a man. They fall in her lap without her even doing anything. Sadly, it makes me wonder if I could ever even be happy in a relationship knowing that she will never love me the way that I love her.

[@lukemanius]

@@digitalconsciousness just realize that she's a person - who farts, snores, and acts out emotionally _often_. Worse than that, her emotional investment level is directly connected to her body's desire to have your kids. THERE IS NOTHING MAGICAL OR WORTHY OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE THERE. Have emotional self-control so you aren't worshipping a _fantasy_ which only exists _in your head_. Once you correct your blue pill conditioning to something realistic, you can have fun with girls for what they are and appreciate the affection and care they do give (for however long it lasts). _Know_ that there are other girls should the one you have stray _too_ far and the anxiety will go away.

[@imoretullv243]

This was a very good video on the psychology of long term attraction. From my experience if a masculine man treats her #1 (and let her feminine side come out by appreciating her as a woman) AND he is willing to walk away, it's the best and most reasonable mindset. High devotion to a woman is fine, if the right context is established... a man who truly loves his woman, but has the ability to walk away if too toxic. She also needs her boundaries/interests to give space in the relationship so it can grow.

[@lifedesiigner]

You can love her, just control your expressions of love. The moments you feel extremely lovey dovey are when you should remind yourself to man up.

[@wackykookykatie]

It was clear to me my current partner liked me a lot more in the beginning, however he was able to hold back and I could tell. I was and still am impressed by his self control and level-headedness. The more I get to know him the more I like him, and the more we are balancing out. So I both agree and disagree, as I've had men who like me more scare me off too. A man can like a woman more in the beginning, but his self control and self respect will make all the difference.

[@joeprany]

Bro this actually makes so much sense. I never really thought about this from an evolutionary POV, and I dont think a lot of other people didnt either. I was wondering about this subject for a longer amount of time, and you answered my question.

[@mav3ric100]

This is what my mother told me since I was 15. I thought every guy knew this but obviously not lol. Saved me from wasting my time with few girls who liked having guys hovering around them. Also all my girlfriends respected me as a result and I set the terms of the relationship.

[@ayowser01]

The outro interview tells me two things about women: 1) they're in denial of their emotions and 2) they don't like being outed.

[@famillemuller5769]

I agree 100 %. I'm a 52 years old man from Paris, 3 children, with my wife since 30 years. Thank you for your content.

[@gabriel_kyne]

love how you always squash the resentment and misogyny at the head while still keeping it sooo real.

[@fred3oh3]

The funny thing is men are the ones with the hearts, and females are heartless...and psychologically men have the logic of reason and women have the logic of emotion...

[@YukiNakamura]

Watching your videos is like reading books about humanity. Thank you for that!

[@akgxd]

This is damn true. It happened to me. When I met my former gf, she immediately loved me. More than I. At the beginning, I could not understand the extent of that, but now I do. She loved me deeply, passionate and admired me from the start. Of course, I eventually developed strong feelings towards her and we had a wonderful time together.. I wonder if I will ever meet a girl that loves me in such a strong way and by who I am. I have met women that liked me and showed interest, but that is it. It is just not the same..

[@GrnXnham]

Wow! I'm 50 years old and I've had lots of relationships. I've never even thought about this before but now that I think back to all my relationships as well as the relationships of all our family and friends, this is probably true 99% of the time.

[@xeflatio93]

I completely agree on this. I have been in both positions until I learned exactly this and now I give the same advice to my friends when they struggle. Women want a MAN not a butler regardless of what they may say to you. If they are so insecure about the situation or whatever, don't try to make everything right by doing everything she says, but rather show them that you have no doubts and no fear about it, she will run into your arms to feel secure and she will love you for it

[@StriderXan]

I find it interesting that they object to your opinion based fundamentally on how it makes them feel. It seems they weren’t fans of your reflections on the female dependency and biological desire to be “rescued” or protected. ...and yet, they didn’t offer any case or evidence to the contrary. They spoke about how your words made them feel, but didn’t actually express one time that they themselves found or witnessed a woman find that level of devotion and interested attractive...

[@terraflow__bryanburdo4547]

It took decades for me to realize that the relationship has to be 49/51 in my favor in order to last.

[@gr-xw3sp]

You are quite right Alexander. You have hit the nail that we all have failed to hit. Such unbalance is what makes her feel that she is having a "good deal," genetically speaking.

[@laro802]

100% correct, Alex, I love watching the body language of the women at the end, they are nervous and look to the other for validation and acceptance.....which tells me not to trust what they say.

[@FwoGiZ]

I'm glad to know I'm not the only one who noticed. He'd have to have them 1on1 and formulate the questions in a way that it doesn't hurt their ego invested emotions.

[@valentinanocross8677]

As a woman, I think this formula( what shall we call it) worked for me. I am agreeing and seeing it happen now. Safety is what men provide.

[@thenarrator1984]

part of the skill of being a man who gets women is making them WANT you immensely you should always be able to walk away.

[@Deibote]

This is one of those realities that I’ve never been able to put into words. I’ve been on both sides and yes there Is a huge difference in the outcome.

[@rmv4646]

Perfectly said. I have watched men get treated like trash because they were too nice, people pleasers, worried about her happiness. The relationship is a lot better off if the man can walk away at anytime and she maintains her role of trying to make it work. Think about how miserable a man will be if he is continuously chasing her happiness. It just isn't masculine.

[@alvaro2898]

Better information in 10 minutes than 5625625 channels on youtube. Great job, Keep it up!

[@kimmywimmy7305]

Yes! Give it to me! Please! 😂 I just don’t want someone who pushes the relationship further or faster than I’m ready. How can someone be utterly infatuated with me when they don’t even know me? Makes me think he would be the same way for any other girl, and that he likes me only because I’m a female and interrupting his loneliness. A man’s devotion should be gradual as he gets to know me and discovers my qualities and wants more of those in his life. Anything short of that is someone who just wants any girl to fill the girlfriend slot. Not very enticing.

[@tefilobraga]

The reason why men can be utterly infatuated with women even if they don't know them is because their infatuation is primarily triggered by their looks (not necessarily outstanding looks, but some that at least tickle their highly subjective fancies and fetishes). As simple as that. This may happen even (although not as likely) if the men under consideration are not desperate.

[@DarkValkyrian]

So this is basically an empirical proof of hypergamy. She will love you more than you love her only if you are more valuable than her

[@lukemanius]

At least in her perception: that's the key.

[@gUm_bY745]

yea pretty much

[@lauraelizabethbrown]

I think "more valuable" than her is the wrong definition. I assume you're attempting to describe the fact that women want ambitious men that are hard working and have something to show for it. After all, if she were to get pregnant she would want someone dependable that she can count on for herself and the child.

[@jacklee7505]

Genesis 3:17 ...she will desire him....

[@miftakhulfarik1409]

Just like you said 2 months ago: "Men are islands, women are boats"

[@elonemerson9977]

You need to be IN LOVE with your PURPOSE, BUILDING YOURSELF (YOUR LIFE), ACHIEVING YOUR GOALS AND SECURING THE BAG.

[@ADMINISTRADORCONDO]

I'm Just glad there is still some common sense, augmenting, I'm not saying that I totally agree with everything you say but, there is definitely a point which is not widely heard out in the media, were every piece of information needs to be sugar coated to prevent fragile people to offend themselves..

[@professorbland]

I think women have had to keep their inner motivations a secret both from men and from themselves. Otherwise the rubric of their mate-choice system will be more easily cheated and thereby loses its worth due to men who "game" that system. Women do not like having their thoughts, feelings, and motivations probed or reasoned out. There is a reason for that.

[@MattyMattyo]

"Women do not like having their thoughts, feelings, and motivations probed or reasoned out There is a reason for that". .. THIS IS SO FACTUAL !!!

[@toanngo4445]

Alex, not gonna lie, you just broke it down for me in a way that completely makes sense! I've been looking at it all wrong! thanks

[@osse1n]

*A man showing signs of being in love is a weakness for women* There is no way around it

[@alexandergrace5350]

Respectfully disagree. True weakness is the man who hides his feelings. A high quality woman won't tolerate a man too frightened to show his love.

[@danhalo1405]

Sadly in todays world it is. The moment you tell a girl how you really feel the uncertinity and mystery is gone for her and they perceive it as weakness.

[@lukemanius]

@@danhalo1405 only if you tell her first. Have self control and wait for her to express it first. That way you can know her actual interest level. If she never says it... She has something else going on that's a more attractive option. In that case, take the relationship for what it is, get better, or get with a different girl.

[@BrayoFitnessTrainer]

But then you gotta wonder, how many “high quality” women are really left?🤔 women always camouflage and present themselves as someone else; as high value and they’re really good at manipulation and camouflaging. The only way to really know if she’s a unicorn is getting on the ship with her. It’s a gamble with women. Personally, the tussle ain’t worth the hustle!

[@BrayoFitnessTrainer]

dan Halo yup, it happens to the best of us everyday. Low quality women left to right with deeply ingrained insecurities. Telling her your true feelings makes you a “sure thing” in her mind and once that happens, the mystery and guessing fades and so does her interest level. It’s like they now start looking for reasons not to like you like that and see if they can possibly do better.

[@indago1]

Men want love, woman just want to feel wanted

[@KJ-pu8dw]

Yep. When i got cancer my now ex wife admitted she lost attraction for me. Even when i recovered my weakness was not forgiven.

[@zoruauser]

For the starting point of a relationship, having the woman like you more than you like her (As stated) you can turn this mentality around in your head and make your head-games into an "act of love" to her The relationship is always equal, both partners provide different things at different phases / algorithms. Letting the woman like you more than you like her is an act of kindness from your part. Don't let t his bitter you, take advantage of it

[@speedypete4987]

She has to see herself as "winning" by pairing with you. So she has to see you are having higher status, better looks and having more money than her. If she is a 7/10 then you must be at least 8-9 in value. Fact is guys, even with you being an 8/10 her REAL motivation? She just doesn't want another woman to have you.

[@M-dv1yj]

She needs to ALWAYZ NEED U MORE and WANT ... like ALL other things in a man's life. THERE IS NO BREAK

[@lukemanius]

The great thing is, however, a guy doesn't have to continuously be on his game if he isn't continuously around his girl, so create some space. Get interested in some hobbies that don't include her, or get a side hustle to do the same, or keep busy at work/school and you'll do fine. When she texts, tell her you can't wait to see her (or talk dirty, depending on how sexually excited she is by you, usually after several sexual encounters), set a date, then get the hell off the phone. If she gets a hold of you again, so be it. If she's trying to get you to give her attention, she isn't dumping you.

[@M-dv1yj]

@@lukemanius lmao u stuck on the intro level my bro.... get 2 or 3 females going on... get 1 to out a hickey on ya... the 2nd to respond with back scratches n gr creative from there Hobbies as such ar for men who CAN NOT GET NEW PUSSY Being real 100 honest

[@lukemanius]

@@M-dv1yj only if you want the kind of woman who will cheat on you and accuse you of sexual assault or domestic violence when she's finally had enough. 🤷‍♂️ Ask me how I know.

[@lukemanius]

@@M-dv1yj women have 50 times the sexual options we do, broski, and I'd prefer not to stick it where a different guy recently came.

[@lukemanius]

@Malcolm M what, exactly did I say that has you thinking that's what I meant _at all_?

[@victorarregnelle8976]

Thing is, they want to change that strong man, manipulate him and use him, but if they succeed, they lose respect for him. So they will not get the "benefits" in the end regardless. Not so smart. Eitherway it was never love.

[@yinhoukhor7109]

They need an ambitious man to motivate them to be more ambitious themselves. In other words, they're extremely dependent on others.

[@JohnTCampbell1986]

Can't be man. They're all strong independant wahmyn who dont need a man

[@akashkaushik7298]

Only a chaste, astute, virtuous and mellifluous woman, who remains faithful to her husband, truly deserves his patronage. Such a wife is a godsend to any man. Blessed, is the man, who has found such a woman to be his wife

[@adflix424]

@@akashkaushik7298 very well said, but such a woman would only desire an equally chaste, virtuous, astute man. How many such men exist today in this promiscuous and superficial society?

[@jeremiahgiles3593]

@@adflix424 well, I'm right here so she has to exist somewhere out there too right?

[@shadowxoxx]

"She Has To Love You MORE Than You Love Her " - thats what my grandfather told my father and he told me... I told myself yeah sure, its always better if she is crazy about you, but it all makes sense now.

[@kingkang6877]

dang...this advice is generational too?! I just remember growing up in church that everyone said that the guy must like the girl more for relationships to work and I just thought that was the case.

[@thenarrator1984]

it is also important to not confuse LOVE here Alex, you are using the wrong word she has to be INFATUATED with you more than you are with her but women dont love. not like men do. and therefore the man always loves stronger. but the man HAS to not need her. has to be willing to walk. has to go his own course. and she comes along with all of that.

[@MashCruMusic]

But she will never love you more than herself ever

[@BrayoFitnessTrainer]

I agree. Most women are low quality with deeply ingrained insecurities (and you’ll never know cause they hide it so skillfully) and they lowkey “hate” themselves. You can only love someone to the depth of which you love yourself. Does a girl who wears fake-up everyday really love herself?🤔 is she really comfortable under her own skin? For me, the juice ain’t worth the squeeze.

[@vsperatos]

Uhhh she shouldn't

[@jayandrews1446]

The same thing happened to me, she refused to marry and I ghosted her. 15 years later she tried to sling back, no way jose.

[@JasonPhillip303]

she did you a good without even knowing it....

[@mesmith2526]

Same thing happened to me with this cheerleader I liked from high school, but got friend zoned. 4 years later out of high school, I had lost 80 pounds, was able to wear stylish skinny fit clothing (but was still built), was already a few years into my career in institutional finance, and I see she had messaged me on Facebook. She was single, gained a ton of weight and didn’t look anything like she used to. I sent a one word reply and never messaged her again lol. #SucksToSuck

[@jayandrews1446]

@j Tru dat bro, one and done!!

[@ashishkaushik1790]

Mr. Alexander...creating quality and rare excellence... video after video after video... AWESOME !!

[@karo7355]

The way first woman look at you is amazing

[@peggz223]

If she’s generally shy, I believe that’s the only exception to a man loving a woman more at first. Show her that she is loved, raise her confidence, and tone it back down gently. That’s how I see it.

[@warz3bra245]

Hey there Alexander. I suspect you're a fellow Perth man and I know a few mates who actually took something away from your dating wisdom. I appreciate the fact that you bring a philosophy to the long term dating game as opposed to this overdone pick up game rubbish that most high value men grow out of. Keep doing you.

[@warz3bra245]

@Arnab Chakraborty I never said it was. But it's generally low value men pursuing it. If you are attractive in your own right you don't need a bunch of autistic micro behaviours with random women on the street

[@Ston247]

An old woman once told me," It is ALWAYS better to be the adored that the adoree." In my last relationship, I was the adored. But she tried *Everything* to reverse it. Things got really bad. So, when I walked, I didn't care at all.

[@adflix424]

What an awful comment. She left because she felt that she was giving more than getting in return. So she left ur selfish ass

[@Ston247]

@@adflix424 No.... I left her. You didn't respond to my comment. Instead, your responded to your feelings. So, whose the selfish one?

[@jiu-jitsudude5178]

This is a good episode.

[@andremotivation6561]

If she CHOOSES a loser, then thats on her, now, back in day, it wasn't cool to be a loser, were their loser, absolutely, but most good fathers vetted the men their daughters dated. But in 2019, soon to be 2020. That loser label is pretty ambiguous. Ive seen many women choose losers cause they were fun and had more time on their hands, cause they had less ambitions. A man with ambitions is gonna be busy most of the time and wont be the woman first and she has to respect that.

[@Marixpress2]

Revisiting old movies from my childhood era (80s & 90s) has been eye-opening and truly horrific in that the role models for both men and women are unrealistic and incompatible if you were to follow their example. Be a provider, but be dangerous and aloof, be safe but also be a sex god (or goddess). Don’t be a real person, be a fantasy. “True love conquers all” and it has to be earth-shattering and dizzy and wild for it to be worth holding onto... where’s my barf bag?

[@lorenzell3104]

I have to say this is true. I chased my wife of 46 years, and she was faithful, but lots of times she seemed not happy, generally dissatisfied with her life. She died 2 years ago. Now I'm engaged to a woman who has been chasing me since day one and she seems very happy.

[@gns4838]

Loving a woman is a job for men, One we cannot take a break from. Men, Our happiness is paramount. Also Ladies, we need to like you more than love you.

[@jimvari3793]

She Has To Love You MORE Than You Love Her you right she will never leave you

[@electricshrapnel4368]

Loving her less than she loves you is pointless anyway. If you love her less eventually she gets sick of trying and moves on to find some guy who will love her. I mean she'll leave him as well but for a different reason. And either way, love her or not, you are still tailoring your behavior in the hope of her staying.

[@allahbless2278]

I'd be surprised if you didn't get this from the late Patrice O'Neal cuz that's where I heard first heard of this concept and it makes alot of sense

[@robgoins3672]

Key word, high quality. Morales and character don’t exist like they used to.

[@yarnarrutor9418]

Whoa, man....you've tempted me to sign up for your Patreon to see where the rabbit hole went.... Love the mic-on-a-stick, too.

[@saisaici]

If you’re too distant then you’re not putting in enough effort and she moves on to another guy If you put in too much effort then you’re now gross to her and she doesn’t want you... great..😒

[@deej628]

You can’t win.

[@wiccapowerify]

if she likes you more than you her, then you don't realy love her. if you love someone there are no bounds. love is infinite. you either love someone or you don't.

[@Fritz9672]

heavy disagree, you can love someone more

[@randomdude4578]

you sound so innocent

[@silentj624]

This is interesting because I've read countless articles about women needing to find a man who loves her more than she loves him. Seems that the winning position in a relationship is to be the one who cares the least. They ha e the most powerful because the other knows they'd be more willing to leave.

[@ExtemporeMuzzzz]

I kinda agree with this. You can clearly see those women's that go around f all kind of men. They give you attention for moment and move to next. Its rare to find a good match.

[@1man2manynotes]

It’s so fascinating to see people deny truth b/c they don’t agree with it. Women really don’t know what makes them tick. They just feel it. and we work hard to make it seem easy. They don’t even believe the game exists. And when they do, they think we’re predators for using it. Maybe they’re not meant to understand.....So fascinating

[@benhof2140]

You know it’s interesting that you make this argument. Cause, well...Ive had this fantasy about this imaginary couple and for whatever reason she’s allways more nuts about him than vice versa. Perhaps my subconscious has already picked up on some universal truth here. Who knows

[@akashkaushik7298]

Duplicity, abrupt displays courage, coquetry, deception, greed, profligacy and quarrelsomeness are the natural characteristics of a woman. One must not feel confounded, seeing her behave this way!

[@tekore7941]

2:25 In a romantic relationship one party always loves the other more. There is no length of time of which it is even.

[@KeenestObserver]

This is why playing hard to get actually works to some degree... I never understood why that was the case but now it makes perfect sense.

[@amomor9928]

the more i watch you videos, the more im sure that i don't want to date... just my money for me

[@thenarrator1984]

ive had 3 long term relationships. ive had countless women lovers who did anything i asked. none of them have EVER cost me money. ever

[@lukemanius]

@@thenarrator1984 👊

[@thenarrator1984]

@@lukemanius is that a fist bump? lol

[@michaelangst6078]

@@thenarrator1984 You have to usually be stand out good looking or have an attractive financial or social status for a real 50/50 relationship though... let's face it, Most of these incels will never have this opportunity...

[@thenarrator1984]

@@michaelangst6078 somewhat but i dont think you need all that. i GOT all that after i was with my girl. she stood by me through a very thick and thin world.... we're retired young now.... because of BOTH our hard work...

[@mosinch.7970]

I do anything right for the wrong person. It just doesn’t work, no matter how hard you try. Women’s internet level is basically fixed especially at the beginning of relationships, and what you can really do is to check her interest, not try to increase her rating. And beware don’t attach her rating to your ego, she just not right for you, and that’s fine, you’re all good 😌

[@Ogudomon]

Why we should be mad about this? It makes sense and and sound accurate. Thank you very much for this kind of content. It remember when I was young and I started to write and all my male chars were like that... And I was stupid as hell. My life ironically became better when I started to act like the protagonist that I have made. Moreover, it's how I found myself in this chaotic world. And surprise me how your content just confirm stuff that in the end we all know.

[@anamericanman]

She needs to be independently happy because you cannot make her happy, and she needs to have solid self-esteem, because you cannot give her that either. Anytime I was more invested in the relationship it did not work. Who is more invested on the prairie, the stallion alpha lion, or his bevy of broads hanging around?

[@gertlanghoff624]

Without the videocamera you would have been dead Alex. They both disagreed, but didnt dare to overrun you with angry comments due to the camera - no they had to pretent and behave, and try to comment rationally.. :) God i love this one :) :) :)

[@BrayoFitnessTrainer]

Facts! They hate being exposed man😂

[@katarina1487]

If you give a human to much.. they take it for granted ..

[@Draber2b]

/A long one.. I knowxD/ I am not shure if a man who isn't clingy, loves his partner less than the clingy one. Not always. Being deeply in love is not enough to become clingy and helpless. If your a confident guy, who has a life outside your relationship (multiple hobbies, a career), you're not going to lose that, even if you love her deeper. The counter example is better. Let's say purely the amount of love decides how clingy you are. 1. A man is single and has no hobbies and a job he hates (with low saleries). 2. He gets a girlfriend (by luck). He loves her. He's obviously clingy as hell, because he doesn't have a life outside. Should we suggest her to do something, that will make him like her less? Well, if we do and he even dumps her, why would he suddenly get a life (hobby/job)?? He is going to be single and broke as he was. I wouldn't say love is the main problem with clingy guys.. Their lack of "a life" to begin with is. And I know this is a lil bit of a strowman and an exaggeration but I just aimed to get a point across.. There is more than the amount of love.