She Raised 3 Kids From Different Fathers: Joyce Lee | ZULA Features | EP 7

"I do realise that I was still a child and then how am I supposed to take care of a child, when I'm a child myself."
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[@Awesomejustine212]

Wow there is something about this video that I just... love.

[@SuccessforLifester]

Justine_Choo More like lustful sex

[@RenegadeAce]

More like low level inspirational quotes on the net.

[@MikhailKalashnikovMiG]

The music is pretty chipper.

[@rhazellepuri2827]

It’s the music

[@shorten8588]

Sean Yeah , I don't know how people could even get inspired from women like her ...

[@reicheru]

Her children have her beautiful smile... :)

[@jordanwong1497]

Jia Lee 3:51

[@limjessica8183]

YEA

[@ci3rlc603]

yes, they look very alike

[@AD-yn7he]

Yeah

[@AD-yn7he]

They looks so happy

[@hap.8302]

Saw a comment down there somewhere saying “to all the girls out there: please don’t be like her” well then “ to all the guys out there : please don’t be like her exes” 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@hellfire91]

well becoz.. "'A key that can open many locks is called a master key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!'”

[@ksjdoiwfehfueu]

This is the Beginning well, the guy probably slept with his other girlfriends and non-girlfriends. the thing is guys don’t get pregnant, they get girls pregnant. calling her a whore... what about that guy? i get that there is no right answer unless both party agrees on a decision, but it’s unfair to place the blame on the girl. it takes both a sperm n an egg to make a baby, it wasn’t just her doing. and for the other two, she did get married to them before having their kids, it was just sad that the second choice was a bad choice but we all make mistakes with our life partners somewhere and it’s good that she left. and about that lock and key comment, if in the future you people have daughters and they start to have sex, will you call them that? everybody has their own way of living their lives, and although many people make bad choices, it’s still their choice. if men were the ones to show such signs of being whores, the opinions would be different, because men would be degraded while women would be the accusers. but that’s my opinion and unless we are backed up by facts, we can’t announce that what we say is true.

[@finding_aether]

Lol

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

@@ksjdoiwfehfueu hello whoever u are WELL said!

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

@Seth Tegler EXACTLY!

[@Endolu]

man, she's really pretty. both on the outside and the inside. it's hard to see a genuine smile like hers for someone who have been through so much

[@ReformMsia]

J15 Usually this rare specimen will have a fcuk*up dude Hope she will live her life to the best of her kids

[@anupamsingh7895]

only people who have been through so much could have smile this genuine and babies ofcourse

[@KayDejaVu]

genuine smile??what a stupid comment

[@DavidDavid-yz2sh]

S S, pls don't push the responsibility to bad boys, u mean the bad boys push a knife or a gun to her head for sex? Only bad boys knows how to fuck? Good guys dont? Pls don't be naive. Which cat regardless of black or white, won't eat any fish? Proverbs says, a cow don't drink water, u can't push a cow head's down.

[@abdulrashidabdullah4002]

Girl.... uncle is very proud of you... you are brave, clever, good attitude, good thinking and I can see lots of love in your eyes.... Uncle wishes you and your family all the best... you take care Girl...

[@That_one_maneskin_fan]

alamak pak cik i fet that ik not for me but for her but respect cik

[@it.z_zahara]

you can just feel her confidence through the way she speaks ♡

[@biltzforce]

I think the husband really deserve my respect , he is willing to accept her past mistakes and create a future with her kids. He is willing to take a step further by looking way ahead of social norms to love her unconditionally. Impressed seriously

[@DavidDavid-yz2sh]

biltzforce, whose property is that? Hers or her husband?

[@ampersand1135]

@David David perhaps it's one of their parents? does it matter?

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

biltzforce yeah! exactly how i really really wish that ALL guys in this world regardless of race or religions can sincerely accept woman like joyce and me without being judgemental! as women we jolly well know the IMPACT of being an unwed single mother especially when u are a muslim like ME! for goodness sake no woman in her right mind especially if she is a MUSLIM wants to have a child and not marry cause we know is really embarrassing! but for my situation my ex was really IRRESPONSIBLE like joyce's ex! so as a woman when u see the guy is irresponsible how can u marry him right?. so i really hope now with joyce's video will stop guys from being judgemental asking the woman's past like her virginity! i do really hope that more and more guys have the same attitudes and mentalities like joyce's new husband who don't give a damn shit about what people will say or think about him.

[@fafafifufu]

Noor Imelda Elle The way I see it. Both you and your ex are irresponsible. You should have self respect and knows the value of your own body and action. Any respectful (Muslim) woman should know that. You were too easily blinded by love and empty promises. And when a "mistake" has been done. Do not cry wolf and expect all the men out there to be non judgemental of women in your situation. Remember that, if you do not know how to respect and value your self worth. How are we, men going to respect and value you?

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

halifi sarif ok so u expect us to keep our VIRGINITY right?. If we muslim women do keep our virginity for men and what about men?! Men fuck around and expect us to keep our virginity! Please don't be a fucking double standard! I think u do understood my previous comment but because u are the ego type so that was why u replied in such manner. If we women can truly accept the guy i don't see any reason why men cannot accept the women being who she is! I am very sorry to say this out loud i met MANY malay guys who questioned me about my personal past and when i asked them they refused to talked about it! Is this FAIR?! Can u give me a good explanation to this?! Yeah! I know is all about IMAGE! Yes we can carry on having ENDLESS argument about this! If u don't want to waste your precious times then in the first place u should not started the argument!

[@yschiam4348]

Respect for the brave lady, I wish her a happy mother's day.

[@MikhailKalashnikovMiG]

Ys Chiam which aspect of her did you find brave? Her fear of being single, or her inability of using contraceptives?

[@MikhailKalashnikovMiG]

Lim Xiu Chen how do you “run away” from making a mistake? I’m confused. Please explain?

[@graviitea]

Master Debater "Running away" could be abandoning the children she had which she obviously didn't do. This makes her brave because she actually learned from her mistakes and her children are happy too.

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

Lim Xiu Chen hello xiu chen i totally agree with u liked 1 of this chinese girl her name is sharon khoo she said in her comment "No point arguing with people who don't wish to understand! Just let them be with their attitudes and mentalities. Don't waste our beautiful precious times arguing with people who don't want to understand!"

[@DavidDavid-yz2sh]

Noor Imelda Elle, well ever heard of this expression, BIRDS OF THE SAME FEATHER FLOCKS TOGETHER?

[@ifann88]

Mad respect to her for owning up to her own decisions. It takes a lot of tough experiences and reflections to speak candidly about her past.

[@skynumbers0]

"I can't give up a life because of my own mistake" some true words right there❤

[@adegirly]

yes, i do think so also!

[@aceang7547]

People who are pointing fingers are completely missing the point. In no way is this about who's right or who's wrong. This video is simply about someone who's chosen to embrace the consequences of her actions in the past and make the most out of her situation instead of running away from her problems.

[@desireeskumachan]

So much respect for her! She’s doing a great job at being supermum

[@31330496RachelYang]

richard kanna wow so much negativity and burning desire to force your righteous opinion out in the world. so sad for u to let that anger and bitterness stay inside as a toxic in soul n mind , peace out

[@hrithisri3191]

@Jesslyn Elvina i dont wanna be weird but you look so beautiful btw im a girl im not a pervert lol

[@desireeskumachan]

Akmal Ahmed yes she is doing what Mum’s are supposed to do. But what makes her different is in the way she is playing the role of a Mum: 1. Firstly she didn’t expect to be one but decided to go through with and commit fully 2. She’s protecting her kids and juggling her love for them all amazingly (despite the delicate matter of them coming from different dads)

[@desireeskumachan]

barely human hahahah thank you! Shout out to you too gurll

[@RenegadeAce]

Akmal Ahmed exactly my point! There are inspirational single mothers that work two different jobs just to stay afloat. Sacrificing 'want' for 'need'. And yet many still find this inspiring as she managed to live through obstacles in which she herself has created and have a default ground to fall herself into - her parents. They own two F&B establishments. She went through hardship indeed. Very inspirational!

[@jasonchen4034]

Coincidentally saw her helping her parents at work 2h after watching this video today!!! Couldnt help but go up to shake her hand and told her how much i respected her. And she is as sweet and hardworking in real life as she is in the video! Kudos to her and to all moms out there that have to deal with monkeys everyday, happy mommys day :D

[@walaoeh_]

She’s a great mom, anyone can tell

[@sebbykira4027]

People are straight off rude. Yes she did a mistake by getting pregnant at an early age but at least she didn't throw the baby in the dumpster or something. Trying to raise a child isn't a play thing. It's not easy especially when you're a single mum. Unless you've been through the same exact situation, you won't know what kind of life she've been through. But i dont see any point arguing with ignorant people.

[@donaldchen225]

Sebby Kira her baby girl looks pretty young so she must have had her not long ago...

[@johnsmith-mz3xf]

Making the same mistake 3 times doesn’t sound right, just saying. Yes, she probably been through a lot and respect her for keeping the children :)

[@ConstantineJoseph]

Lol true making the same mistake 3 times shows a character error and a incapability to learn from ones own mistakes. These aren't smaller mistakes but life changing mistakes. Once yes, but 3 times going through the same vicious cycle shows a lack of values, inability to control ones passions and a poor judgment of serious relationships have brought the person to this state. You can feel sorry but sometimes to engage the problem directly by saying what needs to be said will bring clarity to the situation

[@MCee97]

You are part of the problem. ‘At least she didn’t throw the baby in the dumpster or something’... raising a baby that is YOURS doesn’t make you a decent human being it’s the absolute norm to do so and the minimum.

[@porkchopperson3948]

She is still married with the youngest' dad.. So she did two mistakes not three

[@edmundsoh8029]

3 years later and I'm seeing this video for the 2nd time. I still feel that Joyce is such a strong woman.

[@bootata]

She’s so strong! And she smiles a lot even after everything that has happened! Hope she continues smiling like that :)

[@SuccessforLifester]

RainbowOtaku13 What is there to frown when money is no longer an issue. She herself may even have come from a wealthy background

[@bootata]

Sean Even if she did come from a good background, money doesn’t solve every problem! Emotional strength is what she would need and that is what she has :)

[@SuccessforLifester]

RainbowOtaku13 But money will solve most of the problems at least. :)

[@northsidebtown7012]

Emotional strength does not matter. Logic does, why does she keep picking bad men?

[@SuccessforLifester]

Wandering rillo She likes alpha men. With lotsa scary looking tattoos. And men with questionable background dealing with illegal stuffs. A bit like gangster characters like Ekin Cheng

[@fion3943]

She is so strong, positive and never looks back. I thought she would cry and say how bad her life is, but she didn't, she continued on life with her kids with a smile. And that is so brave and amazing, Happy Mother's Day to you and all mums out there, you deserve all the appreciation in the world.

[@DavidDavid-yz2sh]

Fion, cos she has money.

[@alvalnm]

You can tell she's a successful mother from the genuine smiles on her kids' faces

[@elris452]

she’s very strong and beautiful. she has raised so good and beautiful children, and i respect all she has been through. it’s really great to see her smiling and enjoying herself with the kids. this is a week overdue but happy mother’s day ❤️

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

Wow! She is super BRAVE to upload a video about herself! I do really hope that more and more girls or women out there have the BRAVERY and COURAGE like her to open about their unwed single mothers status and how they struggle in meeting a guy and raise their children.

[@MikhailKalashnikovMiG]

Noor Imelda Elle making mistakes continuously and talking about it doesn’t make you brave nor courageous, it just makes you an inept simpleton.

[@mouselim72]

Noor Imelda Elle - I agree with Master Debater to a certain degree. I do admire her resolve and her courage. That she decided not to abort her children. However, I think we as viewers can also take another lesson from here (not judging her but something to discern), we need to learn from our mistakes and stop making them. In her situation, the children may have grown up in a broken family. A sound family structure is important and we should try to our best to form it (sometimes it cannot be helped like when a parent passed away or something). By the way, she is staying in a semi-terrace right? At least I don't think she needs to worry about a roof over her head. Anyway, all the best to her. Hope her current husband will cherish her.

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

Nicholas Lim hello nicholas no worries. i do understand what u mean. liked i said everybody is totally different in terms of attitudes and thinking. i am really glad that u do respect my comment and also joyce's decisions. i also do respect your comment and opinion. yes of course nobody in the right mind want to keep on repeating the same old mistakes again and again! but in joyce situation like she said she married her first husband cause she was scared that she will never be able to meet any guy! so i think she do learnt from her first mistake not to rush when making decision like rushing to get marry.

[@mouselim72]

Thanks Imelda Elle - as I said, I do admire her courage and resolve. It shapes her outlook of life. I'm also glad she finally understood the intentions of her mother as she is now one. It also took me years to finally understand my father...alas, such realization at times are always too late. Anyway, thumbs up to both you and Joyce :)

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

Nicholas Lim no problem. by the way i am a muslim and an unwed single mother myself. my son is 18 years old.

[@carrotmint]

She spoke well, it shows that she should be quite streetsmart. However, it seemed that she kept on searching for love from the wrong man.

[@rxlky]

carrotmint agree I think she's smart

[@DavidDavid-yz2sh]

carrotmint, how do u judge a person is gd or bad? If life is so easy to figure it out, why are there divoured?

[@DavidDavid-yz2sh]

carrotmint, u hv answered for me. And who is she to judge her second hubby not a good guy material! She is obviously something wrong with her brain!! Do u think she is in a position to say that? Even her child don't like her. Pot calling a kettle BLACK isn't it?

[@lebronjames5287]

David David Please dont’t try to use idioms to make yourself seem smart because from the way you talk you’re pretty much uneducated. “She is obviously something wrong with her brain!!!” Hmmmm

[@DavidDavid-yz2sh]

Lebron James, dont u try hard to impress the lady's here too. It's seems to me u hv problems understanding Wat I meant. But it's ok, I know guys like u will do anything for a women. She already had mention when she saw her first hubby the first time. The first impression wasn't a good one. Don't u think this video is release a bit too early for her own gd? In her position, do u think it's logical for her to comment her hubby like that?

[@BenL1242]

The hidden hero is her current husband. To accept her for who she is regardless of her past.

[@SuccessforLifester]

Kent Leong ok lah. Husband can afford a landed property, rich enough to fool around. And time to settle down. Maybe a divorced man himself. So cannot ask too much. No background info.

[@rachelchoo3133]

True.... nevertheless...respect her determine of moving on...Happy Mother Day and nice aspiring story

[@ycl9234]

Kent Leong in real life no such man exists. Maybe 1 in a 100. Probably some ulterior motive. Anyway just my 2 cents opinion. People don't change. If she finds happiness or true dedication from this 3rd guy then I w say congrats to her as she will b the lucky 1 percent

[@jodit9932]

Her current husband is probably crazy in love with her. With her past and all the negative things she have done, it would be really hard for any guy to accept it. Not a wife material at all.. Thats the reality.. I dont mean to be rude, but yes.

[@JaneDoe-zt5ci]

Adit Jonathan what about determining wife material by if they can make a good wife? Not their past, women like so are often uneducated, do they not deserve a second chance and having the right to be in love with someone just because they aren't pure little sheltered fairies and that somehow determines if shes wife material or not, not even single man is going to shun every woman away for not being a cookie cutter

[@Josie_gifty]

There's a resilience about her that's endearing. Wishing her and her children all the best in life ❤❤❤❤

[@jia9420]

She's such a gorgeous person on the inside and outside 😭💞💖 I hope her and her children's future are very bright✨

[@irischeryl]

At the beginning, the first guy dont want to take responsibilities with her and left her when he find out that she got pregnant, then she meet and married the second guy who does illegal stuff which she does not want and her second son to get involved. Then she finally meet his current husband whom she has her third child. Its just so shame that people are so judgemental, leaving negative comments to her. We have to remember that we are human and bound to make mistakes. But the best part of it is that, she learned from her mistakes and she turn out to be a better person and a loving mother. I can see her positivity and outlook in life inspite of her misfortune in the past, and hope she will truly find happiness with her new family.

[@aeternyxe]

The kindred Soul it’s not the woman’s fault the child won’t know the father, it is the fathers fault, lmao, what dumbassery. So a father for example is in a relationship, leaves the mother pregnant but decides he actually can’t take care of the child he gave a hand to bring into the world, leaves them, but it is the mother‘s fault that the child won’t ever know the father... sure... talking about real idiocy here, congrats. Maybe hold fathers responsible for once too. If women make the mistake of getting into relationships with the wrong men which leads to sad children, then men make the mistake of not using condoms when they know they are shitty to begin with. It would be nice seeing those fathers owning up to their shit, instead of leaving the children behind, so mothers don’t end up trying to raise them without them, and for people like you to stop blaming women for decisions that were purely made by fathers that are an entire mess, irresponsible in a way bigger sense and cowards. Sometimes when you meet people, you won’t know their real self until very late, you might never even learn them at all, not every person is an open window and not every person discloses everything about themselves, same goes for men that end up with women that treat them horribly.

[@personalpersonal9356]

... No . The first one can be understandable ... But she's still stupid for that . The second she got pregnant to keep a man . She said it out her own mouth ! Are you dumb ? The idiot was still going to stay with him until she decided to then wake up and be like he shouldn't touch our kid money ! He shouldn't touch her money either ! She shouldn't even be by his shady self ! That in general was endangering the kids and involving them ! Then she got pregnant AGAIN on PURPOSE for a FANTASY FAMILY with ANOTHER guy . The chick is retarded . Crap .. The furst was probably a crappy guy that gave signs for the first child yet she's just dumb and pathetic .

[@喵醬-w1r]

Seeing how the children are acting in this video I can tell that she's being a great mother

[@ashuulay]

Happy Mother’s Day to all Mums 💕💕

[@donutkookie6651]

Caramel LatTAE thank you, I Will tell my mum

[@krisellecortez719]

Caramel LatTAE ARMY

[@SoshiStars]

Caramel LatTAE Yass NCT MARK as your profile even though Im a #LUWOO stan lol

[@anggrekbulan100]

It's easy to bash, to judge or to "evaluate" somebody else's life, if you don't go through such situation yourself. I'm also a single mother. The father changed and left. People change over time. The person who once was good, could change into someone we don't know anymore. You don't need to explain what you've been going through because people will judge anyway. They'll always talk as if they're smarter and perfect and never been in difficult situation or make a mistake.

[@oliviak5582]

Vicki Dewi Don’t bother with the sexist bastards here lol. I’m pretty sure they are guilty and hence trying to defend their own kind. Conveniently forgetting the fact that they also came out from a vagina.

[@ABC-ed8cg]

Contraception ftw!

[@doiu92]

*My mom's Filipino and she has 3 kids, all also from different fathers! This story has some similarities with my mom, like the pregnancy at a young age and the last Father (mine) is the last and final and the one she married.*

[@doiu92]

Deb Clato What's wrong with you? She left the first guy because he died! She left the next guy because he wasn't the one for her, but they're still friends, and she married my dad//the last guy, she's happy and everyone else is happy. Our family is happy and stable, I don't know what you've been threw, but all my siblings and myself are really happy living here in the US.

[@plowking813]

is there gonna be a different future dad?

[@diyabhu1553]

Funny how you’re blaming the woman, when she’s the one who stood up and did everything. You know it takes a penis to make a baby.

[@mllex2018]

Precious Gracie so are we glorifying children born out of wedlock now? Having babies from all different fathers. What kind of a society are we going to have? I admire Singapore policy towards single moms, no welfare and no support whatsoever. That’s why society is so messed up nowadays. People are having all these mental illnesses, value degradation etc.

[@mikelbrace7666]

Dididadum Tadaa you know what,my point is I don't blame those people who's unlucky enough to experience this kind of situation, were not the one to tell,they are the one who made their life miserable but still,those single mom or single parent who raise their children without hesitation is quite relevant for me,your opinion is a bit bold about our society! But this is the reality we have...,we didn't control the things that might happen,she have that guts to have a children's with different father,then its her choice not ours.

[@nadelinamou315]

I love her energy, beautiful soul, beautiful family😍

[@TheSingingGamer]

😭 She's an amazing mother! I hope she knows thats and how much her kids probably appreciate her! ❤

[@cordedhornet9739]

Her selection with guys is not in her favor but she took it responsibly. I give props to her for being a human and finding solutions on how to adjust to scenerios that isnt going her way rather taking a short cut

[@JakeObnial]

To all those people making negative comments about the video: this video IS NOT made to glorify single motherhood -- this video celebrates women who took on the responsibility for their wrong decisions by not abandoning/killing their child.

[@shuchismitasreya2885]

I thought I would never see somebody as brave and responsible as my mom. But here's another woman of the same kind. My mom has that unique happy smile that you've got. I'm crying...............I really want to be a superwoman like you and my mom.

[@etorobongakpan4958]

I know people have their own mind set and opinions but i don't really see what to hate about this video. I love that ur really brave and trying to train ur children to love each other and not discriminate.

[@49siao]

Now that is how to tell a great story. Stay positive, I wish you all the best Joyce Lee!

[@pearlskis9741]

Sometimes the cover of the book might not look pleasing but there lies an amazing and inspirational story inside. Lovely family. May God bless you so much more.

[@voutoo7899]

Thank you for sharing this publicly, people can be hypocrites sometimes. What is the difference between having kids with 2 different dads or 1 kid and multiple partners. This happens more than people want to admit it. Kudos to her.

[@1795-p1e]

she has seen lots of ups and downs in her life but still she kept her self positive.seriously inspiring.

[@danielteo93]

I’m so grateful for people like you. You are indeed an inspiration to mothers all around the world for loving your children unconditionally even though many might judge against you for your actions . So thus I just wanted to say thank you For being such a great and wonderful mom to your children! ❤️❤️❤️ You are an incredibly strong woman and I’m here to tell you that I support you for what you did and continue to do, that you might continue to be a pillar of support and love to your children. Happy Mother’s Day.

[@redattractattention]

For those who judge her and her mistakes, are you expecting people who made mistakes to hide themselves and feel miserable? It's not too hard to look at the positive attitude this woman has and how she refuses to let her past mistakes affect her children. Be kind.

[@lXlxthedoorxlXl]

redattractattention true words. And she did actually the right decision with her second husband.

[@nqwochi]

+Chigozirim Ifebi because she got over them, and fixed them. -.-

[@Tyippe99]

It's not an easy job, and her dedication is admirable. But it would probably be best for young people to avoid this whole scenario all together.

[@bluemonarch9346]

You can honestly see how much love these children had when they were raised. I love that she always put her children first despite her prior relationships. So glad that she found a man who loves her and her children just as much.

[@chutehsike260]

Yes, a woman that understands the strong bond between siblings is extremely important, especially for situations like this. I'm proud and happy for her. She has just motivated me more in reaching my upmost main goal in life. Props to her and the strength shes grown with these kids.

[@ibrahimbm1742]

She is a one supermom who had gone through tough times. God bless her n her family.

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

Ibrahim Bin Mahfuz hello ibrahim u are so kind for giving such comment. how i really wish that ALL malay guys can have the same attitudes and mentalities like yours. semoga allah selalu berkati orang yang baik hati macam u amin

[@sarahaque4799]

“I can’t give up a life because of my own mistake, you know”❤️😭

[@justwhisper2940]

Mad respect to you. Having 3 beautiful kids.

[@feliciachin2301]

I hope she realises what a good mom she is and nvr ever doubt herself when in trouble. ❤️❤️ These kids are so so lucky to have her as a mom

[@kimberlynguyen124]

What a great woman. She’s got a great head on her shoulders and some good morals. Glad those children have her. God bless her.

[@jackyjac476]

Am not a mother myself but you're such an inspirational to single mothers out there! Thank you for sharing, I wish you all the best!

[@MechantGarcons]

The three kids look so loved and happy ❤️

[@charmainewee6592]

All the best for the years ahead supermummy!! You are amazing. Your kids will be very proud of you when they understand everything about the situation one day. Jiayou 💛

[@fredw3254]

Tell me who doesn’t make mistake, even the world itself make mistake,whatever done is done, what more importantly is your future that will make you happy, the fact is I see happiness in your face,that is good enough,God bless you and you family

[@thebellamays]

This is so sweet. She has very strong genes, all of her kids look like her.

[@destinee1461]

Her boys seem like they’re going to be overprotective type 😂

[@youngfadula]

The kids are so polite and well behaved, i wish them all the best

[@jamess8175]

I agree with some of the people here who commented that your current husband is commendable. Indeed he is, as he is able to embrace your past and love you and your children the way it is. For that, I think he deserves to be in this video as well. We would all like to see his love and compassion for you and to commend him for his magnanimous love. In life, we make mistakes. However, as we make more than one or two mistakes of similar nature, society tends to be less and less tolerant and forgiving. Hope both you and your spouse cherish the present and walk together into the future, united and undivided. I trust your children will be as loving as they are today. By now, you should be mature and sensible enough as you carry heavy responsibilities being a mother of three and as a wife to a decent man. Do remember life is realistic but you can make it better by acquiring wisdom and living a sensible life. Wish you and your family all the best. If possible, do include the hero of your life in future videos. Cheers! Be blessed.

[@remainselusive1]

Wow. 3 kids, 3 different AWAL dads. So brave! Can’t wait for the sequel 20 years down the road. She visits all her children in 3 different jails!

[@HabA-qn1nv]

I love her she doesn't let anyone take her happiness away from her

[@Obrak-Abrik-g8u]

I have same story life as u and I made decision same as you. I raised my kids alone without any support from a man. Now my kids are 7 years old and I'm happy single mom. The different only I don't want to have any relationship with any man after my twins born. I just focus to work hard and take care my kids.

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

Ani Nur Mariam same goes for me babe 😀 i was 17 when i gave birth to my son without any financial support from my ex! now i am 35 coming 36 my son is 18 today. i think is BEST that way we didn't ask for any financial support from our exes so that we are not TIED with OBLIGATIONS! there are some people that i know like my colleague and friends who said that i am STUPID letting him getting away so easily! is ok people can assume or think whatever shit they want as long as we are not hardup for mens' money! and by the way those PEOPLE out there they really don't know anything about our exes so IF really your ex and my ex are really nice guys WHY we girls CHOSE not to marry them?! WHY?! Why did we CHOSE to go through this BURDEN?! But unfortunately SOME or MOSTLY people they don't and will never think like what i just mentioned.

[@debclato5984]

Congrats, you denied your kids a father! Stupid

[@noorimeldaelle3403]

Deb Clato my ex also denied his kid! he left me when i was pregnant! please for fucking goodness sake u don't know anything don't anyhow accuse! why u GUYS only know how to pinpoint your finger only at us WOMEN?! u said we are STUPID for denying our kids father! and what about my ex who left me when i was pregnant?! THINK before u want to say something! yes it takes 2 hands to clap but why is it guys like to leave the girl when she is PREGNANT?!

[@bobn1129]

It's not an easy job to raise a kid. Seriously it's easier to work than raise one.

[@aesthete7227]

*THIS IS MADE ME CRY 😭😭😭😭 SHE IS SO INSPIRING ❤❤❤❤*

[@OEL35]

Your kids are really good looking! And you’re such a brave mother! Thank you for not forsaking them!

[@cloudyme1430]

The real MVP is the husband tbh, that there are still guys like him. and ofcourse props to that mom she is really strong, and seems kind hearted . she had put on a smile to hide that pain.

[@723lion]

I had very bad impression about this lady when I saw the title of this vid, but then when she said "I can't take give up a life because my mistake" then it totally changed my view. This lady is a superwoman. The guys she met were jerks. She's earned my respect.

[@elsiechen336]

To those saying she doesn't deserve to be proud-why don't you try raising 3 kids in your 20s? A large majority of women would sooner abort or send their kids to orphanage with the common excuse that they don't have a choice"; "Ohh but I don't want to be stigmatized by society. I have to hide the fact that I have kids. Or...I have my own life, I'm too busy for kids. I've got school and work and cooking and gym and dating and snapchat and facebook." I mean, what did YOU spend your time doing at 18 years old. What she did was admirable. Kudos :))

[@ella-bt8hp]

Elsie Chen your so right reading all these coments as a mum of 3 with 2 dif fathers and having all 3 by the age of 27 I can totally relate to the video and your comment was 100%accurate

[@1234567895630]

Elsie Chen I did work 3 jobs as an 18 year old, paid my own bills, my education, my clothes etc. But I certainly didn't "just decide" to have kids without checking for support from my partner of family. I also didn't sleep arround with 3 guys and forgot to use birth control... I don't see how this single mom's poor choices are "inspiring". She acted ignorant and reckless. And not once, but TWICE!! That's why she ended up having kids from 3 different guys in her early twenties. As you make your bed, you must lie on it. I don't see how she is supposed to be an "inspiring" rolemodel to any girl.

[@ella-bt8hp]

Chigozirim Ifebi sometimes life doesn't always work out the way you think what about if a womans husband leaves her, or even dies. Then would she be wrong to go in to have more kids all I'm saying is people shouldn't judge we all make mistakes and shouldn't have them thrown in or face for life. At the same time I think that's great women having goals and not wanting to be a mum to early but if it happens doesn't make you a bad person. I used to judge people when I was younger too you learn that through life and the experiences it brings you.

[@ella-bt8hp]

Chigozirim Ifebi fair enough I think it's more her speaking out about this with by he stigma ascociatted with different dads etc. But I get yout point

[@elsiechen336]

The mother of 3 was inspirational because she took responsibility for her mistakes-instead of running away from the situation (like getting abortion or sending her kids to orphanage), she raised all her children as well as she could, kept her optimistic attitude, and continued working to provide everything-as hard as that could be for someone barely educated. Imagine how easier her life would be if she chose to leave her child, especially when she was not legally obligated to take care of them. Saying "I am also responsible and independent, but I did not make the same mistakes as she did" is completely irrelevant to the opinion I posted; how much you deem yourself better than her does not strip her of her accomplishment as a mother nor is it a solid reason to overlook her resilience tolerance towards life. You also did not take care of 3 children while going to work, the two situations are not comparable. Also, many of the replies to my comment implicitly exudes a note of disgust towards the woman, seemingly for sleeping around with too many men. I see no reason why you guys perceive her so negatively; there were no evidence of deceit during any of her relationship (cheating, lying about relationship history) and she's harmed no one. Furthermore, a woman having had relationship with more than 1 man does not lower her self-worth as a being, nor should it be the case if it were a man. (Literally, how is it that the number of penises you've had inside you can determine your value as a being? What bullshit..) Well, this stigma is obviously around, but seriously. Grow up. A person is worth more than that.

[@sharonkhoo1309]

What’s with some of the negative and judgmental comments here? Yeah her first kid was because of her own mistake, but second kid was in a marriage and third kid as well. The fact that she’s raising them (esp the first Two kids) and obviously putting her kids first shows the inspirational love of a Mother. Point is, people make mistakes and this woman right here has accepted her mistakes and decisions and chose to bravely face the consequences and put her kids first despite the tough journey ahead of her. She can live with the “stigma” of being a single mum with kids from different fathers and take care of them rather than leave her kids in the foster system or with her ex-Husband. How she chose to face the consequences of her decisions is inspiring in itself. Damn comments about wearing a condom. Yeah sure wear a condom but wtf that’s not the point of this video. Edit: lol no point arguing with the people who don’t understand because they can never understand and they won’t even try to understand. Let them be on their moral high horse and act like they have never made mistakes before in their lives while judging other people for their mistakes and actions.

[@wen4657]

sharon khoo exactly! Some people totally missed the point of this video.

[@poolfans]

Sorry I don’t buy her story, 2nd marriage is ridiculous. Marry to this guy after than she found out he is doing illegal stuff. She is ah Lian. Typical ah Lian. But i can see she has change for the better after her 2nd (or 3rd) marriage, and brave to admit her wrong doing.

[@SuccessforLifester]

If she had paid attention in science during secondary school, there is a chapter on sex education and family planning. I think she is not the academic type. Just want to have fun. Look at the evil looking tattoo she has.

[@shopgirl6183]

IKR. The thing is all these stupid idiots don't even seem to know that a condom isn't 100% safe. Or assume just because she has tattoos, she must be Ah Lian. How terribly old-fashioned and ignorant. Frog in the well mentality. I can't believe they still think being a single mother is stigma these days when divorces are so common. Sure, it's unfortunate she had an abusive ex-husband with whom she had a second child with after the whole teenage pregnancy fiasco. I mean, if you were in an abusive marriage, would you stay in it? Why are people making this out to be her fault entirely? What matters is that she didn't give up on life or finding happiness. And that her family was supportive and helped her with the ordeal.

[@poolfans]

Shopgirl she is more sensible now. But I doubt that’s the case in her younger years. Of cos what’s more important is now. Good luck to her.

[@MT-pg8lq]

The real unsung hero is the current husband.

[@jayp629]

😂😂😂😂He is a white knight mangina

[@ImUhhCaptain]

My mom has been raising me and my two younger brothers since I was 8 years old. She has been messed with a lot in her life and instead of glooming about it. She keeps on keeping, she still remains as the awesome empowered mom she is today.

[@jasminecomoda2195]

she spoked FROM her HEART 1,MILLION thumbs up for you I really love to see ur smile supermom

[@tranquilit3]

Her kids are so adorable!!! Happy Mother’s Day to this brave and beautiful mother, hats off to you and continue to be strong :) x

[@tranquilit3]

the fuck triggered mcnugget, i wasn't condoning or glorifying her "slutty behaviour" at all lolol i dont think her actions in the past were the best, but its her life and her choices, and i'm just expressing my respect for her being so strong and raising her kids? how did whatever i typed make me a feminist LOL ok you are dumb as fuck

[@foreverpoppet]

+richard kanna what a hypocrite you are. so the girls are deemed as “slutty” but the guys are not man sluts as well? Lmao enlighten me

[@foreverpoppet]

+Aurora lmao this guy is sure dumb as fuck I’d love to see him say all this unsupported crap in real life

[@tranquilit3]

lilacwaters ikr his stupidity is actually damn entertaining now LOL keep talking shit pls richard kannasai!!! Bc I bet you’re a lonely guy who doesn’t have friends hence goes on KZbin to spew nonsense aw

[@tranquilit3]

richard kanna maybe next time when you wna rant you can consider working on your grammar to at least make yourself look credible :)

[@randomperson5826]

I dont understand why some people are trying to bash her. She is such a strong women. Yeah I know it was wrong of her to get pregnant so early and other things she mentioned in the video but her positive attitude towards these mistakes are really inspiring. I mean like you can use this positive attitude in daily life when you meet up with obstacles but the positive attitude will help you get through it. She handled the situation really well. Imagine if you were in her shoes and you will know how it feels like when you meet up with this problem... Im not saying that I have experienced this but Im just asking you guys to at least give her some support and not make her feel sad. Even though she made a mistake, she is trying her very best to raise her children happily. Even if she cant forgive herself, at least give her children a nice enviroment to live in. I understand that this video may give the wrong impression to young girls like me out there but what I truly think this video is trying to say is have a positive attitude. Remember girls, dont be young and reckless, make your decisions accurately. Overall, have a positive attitude when you face problems and everything will be alright! :)

[@puppettearz9935]

Christina Yu Exactly, people here expect a “perfect family” but yet the perfect family is the loving and caring one. Doesn’t matter if you have two fathers or half-siblings, they are still family. People just enjoy pointing out the flaws of other people because they want to feel better about themselves. Very selfish.

[@felixchandra8493]

Strong & gold digger.

[@randomperson5826]

@@felixchandra8493 I dont care if she is a gold digger or not. And how would you know? Love is mysterious... she might have had fallen in love with that man and was reckless. Besides the point I am trying to mention is her attitude is inspiring and not whether she is a gold digger or not.

[@f2p900]

got meh, i never see anyone bash her ar

[@felixchandra8493]

@@randomperson5826 that's how karma works ... in the past he often cheated and hurt men, until there was no such thing as love .. this kind of woman usually demands a lot of material & always cheats when her desires are not fulfilled ... no wonder a man will leave her. I have met women like this very often ☺️.. So, stop talking bulshit now

[@heckthat6333]

Financially, it seems that you are living in a landed property. So do take note that others who are not as fortunate will not be able to raise their kids as well. So please mum s who are deciding to keep the baby, please think through on the future on how one can provide for the child.

[@Ukiringo1991]

Heck That when there is a will there is a way. My mum had little education and lost almost all her saving to an ahole and my bfather but she took on job and took care of me and my sister. Landed property... You know it might had been her husband. Not having money is a bad excuse to have abortion. Just saying.

[@heckthat6333]

To each his own :) Just my thoughts on a point to consider when deciding.

[@DavidDavid-yz2sh]

Heck That, this is Wat I was thinking, I don't understand why they use her as an example!.

[@DavidDavid-yz2sh]

Ukiringo Freeze, wether the landed property is hers or not, I still don't see the point of this video. But I strongly believe it's hers, I hv know a lot of women with kids, not as lucky as her.

[@wanpengsia857]

if dun wan kids... dun simply make loves. i knw its hard to b rational. bt simple logic la

[@lifewasaflop6889]

This is really brave of her to share her story. Kudos to all the single moms

[@Ramokhan12]

It requires a lot of strength and courage to speak up so honestly. You are strong and loving mother .

[@victorshx]

Users who are not Singaporean ought to know that landed property is only for the upper class. Being wealthy or in the middle class in Singapore would only get you a condominium. In this video, this single mum seems to be from a super wealthy family thus she could "afford" her first born baby. Imo, this is not inspiring as she did not mention her financial sources as well as her family backings.

[@SuccessforLifester]

施泓祥Mr. See 是的。She seems to belong to the high SES of the society. Probably not brought up well and become rebellious, got tattoos, slept around and got pregnant frequently.

[@yolovang2828]

True, most single moms in the real world around 18 years of age would not have much money to support a baby. I bet her parents help her a ton.

[@personalpersonal9356]

... This ain't inspiring in the first place cause she's stupid !

[@sizzer33]

Yes. She's not strong, just a spoilt child.

[@gohyu452]

All these fcking foreingners talking so much cok

[@lkh1048]

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO YOU you're really awesome! Fighting to you and always stay happy!

[@---cp4pd]

She have a good family support system. In Singapore, it's so lack of it.

[@Nuniachera]

That's the power of a mom... Proud of you girl.

[@aliyamaly7744]

This is a very touching story, not many people are courageous like her, and even though I can’t relate, stories like this are worth listening to.

[@unknowndeoxys00]

Props to both of them for working through it. Him for accepting her regardless, and her for not giving up on her kids and keeping them out of sketchy situations involving the other partner. But a kid should have no responsibility for her actions. They are just victims of circumstance. I hope that women in similar situations do not rely on their kids to hold the family together while being sexually active/irresponsible even, nor leech off their partners if they are committed.

[@ikari3562]

when god created you, he provided his heart... thank you..

[@jcjcjcjcjcjcful]

what a nice video so eulogize the woman. Her current husband is the real hero, happy father's day

[@Oreo-vh7rk]

Did her husband gave birth when he is 18? Don't think so...

[@jcjcjcjcjcjcful]

giving birth at 18 deserves being a hero? Must be a forced decision with a gun to her head. boy you singaporeans must love paying taxes

[@Oreo-vh7rk]

Jeez dude, do I have to explain every minute thing to you? Take into context that she got pregnant at 18 and look at her now. Despite everything she got married to a good guy and became a good mother. That is what we should be proud at.

[@jcjcjcjcjcjcful]

jeez dude thats nice that she finally got her life and shits together now, I hope it doesnt take a 4th baby to do so. What is there to be proud of and inspirational about again? it is her responsibility to take care of the lives she chose to bring alive, well that and your tax money. Now if this video is about raising awareness on family planning and birth control...

[@jcjcjcjcjcjcful]

i never called her that, you did. I too think it's great that she didnt give up but that's what she's supposed to do to be responsible and take care of the lives she chose to brought to this world. On the other hand, this video is misleading to the irresponsible youths without ever mentioning about birth control or rational decision making. Not everyone can be that lucky like her ended up marrying a rich guy and live in a nice big house.

[@jn-ib2nd]

I hope that you will continue to grow your beautiful family with your husband and that you'll always stay strong no matter what, serious props to you for being so persevering for your children, and never giving up on them no matter the circumstance ❤️ sending lots of love

[@TraveltasticGuideToTravel]

There are always positives to things in life. Even if she has gone through a lot, she had kids early in life, she will be one of the few people who may be able to meet her grandkids and great grandkids in the future. That itself is a beautiful blessing. The current husband is also a great man for supporting her and the first 2 boys will respect him a lot for being a supportive dad and husband to the kids and mother.

[@dosa_ane6995]

Everyone coming at her I’m just gonna say one thing. Would you be able to do what she’s doing? She gave up her dreams so her children could dream.

[@ylimmy_]

you're so brave & strong, wish all the best to you & your family and happy mother's day ❤️

[@gloryiasauskia1688]

Brave mother.

[@mahija3026]

A very Honest and Down to Earth Human Being! So frank abt herself! Very good video n beautiful children.

[@K9talina]

her children are beautiful just like her, shes such a strong woman. i bless good things go your way and to your loving family. i aspire to be strong as her ❤️

[@KayDejaVu]

Shocked by all the praise for this woman

[@ChocolateThunda1345]

K Mcleod Saaaame

[@looneytuneeeeeeee123]

in my opinion, what is best for the kids, should have been she being a single mum and raise her kids up alone.

[@zainabali3221]

0:00 - 0:05 me when my mum asks me to watch my bro when she leaves

[@oraclechow]

happy mother’s day :”)

[@pokerdotpants9917]

She may have made wrong deicison along the way but she's brave to storm thru them, so took up the most struggling and difficult responsibility in the world and wasn't afraid to tell it all. She's a brave women.

[@fayev2220]

The stigma is always there on her, but she has grown a perspective that no matter what, her children matter more. Her resolve is admirable.

[@foreveryoung999]

The present husband is the hero

[@SuccessforLifester]

Amy Ong Probably a rich divorced guy who had his share of fun. So time to settle down. Once rich likely confirmed looked for fun.

[@ZeeTaylor25]

I salute her because: one, she didn't abort the innocent child in her womb despite the fact that the sperm donor had no balls and whose mother would have been sick in the head; and two, she was brave enough to fight for her children's well-being and broke off her first marriage. It's good that she didn't end up with the first man because she'd have to put up with a grown man still sucking on his mother's breasts and a potentially evil mother-in-law. I hope the third man is her last and that he would love her and dote on her and the kids. Being a step-parent isn't an easy task so props to the third guy, too, if he accepted all the kids and care for them as his own.

[@northsidebtown7012]

Stop glorifying infidelity!

[@denisep7557]

shes so strong and brave!!

[@Rahidahangin]

She never abandoned the kids Never let the kids go hungry Being fair showing love and care towards kids. I love this women, she's a strong women and a Mother

[@lavishley1070]

This inspired me so much! People can judge I get it I even judge myself! But at the end of the day we are human! My kids are all the same ages as hers, with different fathers as well! I’ve made bad decisions myself. So I totally understand how it can feel to be judged so harshly it really hurts! I’m learning to love myself, because I had to realize I was looking for love from others instead of loving myself first! It’s not easy for everyone, so if you do pray for the ones that are having a hard time at it. Instead of bashing them! She’s a great mom and I salute her!