She Said She Would Be In Her Masculine Energy If She Spends $20 To Buy Me Food

Man says he spent money on a woman he was dating but she said she would be in her masculine energy if she spent $20 to buy him food.

[@joeshmoe0136]

These men, up and down the Internet complaining that women are "too masculine" and then cry over women not wanting to appear masculine. He was testing her, and she passed with flying colours. I hope she loses his number

[@jenbodhi1133]

This is exactly what happened

[@2okaycola]

@@jenbodhi1133 👍🏿

[@MelaniaRose]

All over a $20 meal 😂

[@LoveAndSnapple]

@@MelaniaRose it’s a $20 meal today and it’s $200 at a restaurant tomorrow. (Not literally because I know I have to clarify)

[@toreibowe4262]

It’s only 20 bucks for food. It’s not that deep mama

[@patty-pat-pat]

Not only did she have to travel to go see him, he wanted her to bring food. Sir, I'm not bringing you a 20 usd meal. I'm not your wife. Besides, you only invite ppl over when you have food and drinks in the home. What a terrible host he is! And the girl who said 'do you need anything before I come over?'... Girl bye. Are you hosting his get-together in his own home?

[@ragnakleinen2109]

That! Plus: its his home, he probably expected sex, or something like it. If they have been dating for months thats likely. It just sounds to me like he is switching up his behaviour to try to get it all without giving it all.

[@jenbodhi1133]

Exactly, he wants her to buy food, pay for it, pick it up, deliver it to him, and go all the way there to see him. He’s inviting people over with no food or drinks at his house? Yeah no thanks

[@jenbodhi1133]

This is exactly what I was thinking- this was the switch up

[@lillyvgutierrez9685]

$20 is a lot for his ass $20 meal . Wtf what about her ….

[@gracestv7001]

Right and what was she supposed to do just watch him eat like I'm all the way confused

[@tynaangelici3023]

I think he’s grooming her to support him. He might have done all this in the beginning to lure her in. He hasn’t even made her his girlfriend.this seems like manipulation

[@jenbodhi1133]

This is what I was thinking, this was a heat check and a test to see if he lovebombed her enough and it’s time for the switch up now

[@DCamp1271]

Exactly 👍🏾

[@Liz-wz8dh]

That was my thought. I think this is one of those red pill strategies. It starts really slowly and seemingly innocently.

[@jenbodhi1133]

@@Liz-wz8dh it is a red pill tactic, love bomb, get her hooked, then when you think she’s hooked on you- start pulling back and giving the bare minimum so then she starts chasing you and working extra hard to get the attention you gave at the beginning, except it never happens again, it’s always just head games and giving bare minimum from then on as she goes crazy chasing you and doing tons of things for you

[@JCsDaughter610]

Love bombing/ breadcrumbing, lying, manipulating etc. He told on himself 🙃

[@Frugality]

A guy that makes 3x more than I do asked would I pay for his $25 haircut if we were together 😒 I kindly said NO 🥰 how dare you even ask me that. The AUDACITY 😂

[@adrianwillis66]

Facts!!!!! Unless we are married.

[@margodphd]

I mean...why would he even ask? He makes 3x as much and can't afford it ? What kind of bs test this is?

[@The2bratts]

​@@margodphdright lol, to see how much he can manipulate her

[@Frugality]

@@margodphd same thing I said. He said, what if a lot of bill weee due… xyz. I said, then you aren’t good at managing money. I’m a single mom of one and when I asked you for $80 for a phone bill you said no, o then said bit my phone never went off because I paid the bill. He then said but you didn’t even ask for half you wanted the whole thing. I told him I asked for what I needed and you said no and didn’t offer to put anything towards it and I left it there. Never asked you for a dollar since then. He constantly says, I never pay for dates, I never ask to see him, I never take the initiative. I already made up my mind that this will not be my forever person. I told him that and he decided to still try and be in my life. He then told ME that he wanted to live a SOFT LIFE 🫠 but also wants 3 additional kids with me 🫥 I said, no! That’s not even possible.Please keep in mind that he does pay child support 🥴I don’t take this seriously.

[@annt7384]

Boundaries!

[@mirellalastar]

I wish I was confident enough, just like the woman, to tell the man, "You pay for the food." Uber and DoorDash were just two clicks away, but he wanted her to come to him and bring him food. He will do that all the time. So great she saw what would happen if she said yes to that one.

[@jenbodhi1133]

He love bombed her, now it was time for the switch up

[@shayemoore]

If you don't have the confidence to tell a man to pay for his own food then men will ALWAYS take advantage of you. You're an easy target.

[@queenreg7]

Sounds like a test. He failed her test -not willing to cover his own food. She failed his test -not willing to cover his meal after he’s paid for stuff for her. They should move on from each other.

[@unicorn73212]

​​​​​​​​@@shayemooreif a man can never pay for his own food and I've never met him he's the one that's an easy target because he needs a female to help him become a man. He can't do it by himself he can't lift his phone up and log onto the internet and pick out is own food and have it sent to the door if he's that lazy he would never make it in the streets either he may as well stay in his P.Js at his friends house or mamas house and stop asking women out on dates if you don't like them. There so drunk and stupid that they forget what there doing too. It's way to easy and convenient to run off with his bag too especially if he falls asleep. There's a number of ways to sabatoge him he just doesn't realize it that's why he looks for easy targets because he's an amateur so all you really have to do to get rid of him is play dumb and every time he sends someone to spy on you just tell them your either headed home or headed to work and they will leave and go looking for another target that has more free time. The guys that want you to pay for there food are sometimes gang stalkers too there just meddling for information they don't need to know we're work is they track women like this because they have creepy crushes on them sometimes they don't even know why there bothering us they just know that asking for money for food is a good way to make the situation less awkward.

[@lexa_power]

@@shayemoorei have been there and i just didn’t know it at the time! I wish we had KZbin a long time ago 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@MultiStephanieMarie]

Food is expensive in 2023. I'm not buying food for a man who has his own money and isn't my boyfriend. Not sane sir.

[@schuylergeery-zink1923]

My boyfriend bought me everything when we were dating. I bought him gifts for Christmas and his birthday but he bought me food, groceries, dates, etc. briefly when I got a higher paying job I dropped big bucks on our anniversary dinner two years in a row (like super classy French restaurant and we went for sushi and grilled meat with sparkling sake) bc I wanted to. We’re married - he still buys the flowers. We live off his income and we invest my income for our future. That way we will be everyday millionaires.

[@KelceyGovan]

Women not keeping score is how we arrived in this sassy man apocalypse. Radical change is necessary. Don’t buy them a thing unless you’re exclusively committed. Period.

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

💯

[@LoveAndSnapple]

“Sassy man apocalypse” 😂😂😂

[@annahjaya700]

Once you match their energy, they start getting mad😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@olikah4667]

Always! Flailing and throwing up sick!! 😂😂😂😂

[@lob1248]

He said he paid for her flights and other things, I don’t know what you mean by “matching” energy… over-exaggerating trends is some lame immature sht.

[@stilljocelyn_]

The durag and eye patches in public told me everything I needed to know. I didn’t even need to hear the story.

[@DCamp1271]

Right 😂😂😂

[@funshinebear4822]

😂

[@ds37215]

Exactly what I was thinking. This is a hood dude. Any flight he got her was free using his frequent flyer miles.

[@dailymadness9129]

@@ds37215i’ve seen some videos on his channel. he’s been to prison before 😬

[@Cateyes767]

😂😂😂😂

[@icantwiththis]

I dated a dusty man for many years starting at 19 years old and i didnt understand till my older male cousin said "he told me you guys pay everything 50/50...he treats you as a roommate" then it started to sink in.

[@2okaycola]

Accurate

[@LoveAndSnapple]

And even when it comes to living 50-50, the 50-50 that he’s saving on his end is going to his own endeavors or another woman. And the 50-50 that you have on your end is miraculously not there because all of a sudden you guys are going out more and spending money that was supposed to be your stash. If I’m going 50-50, that means that we don’t go anywhere extra, we don’t eat more extravagantly, we don’t buy more extravagantly, and we don’t make foolish decisions. If I’m putting $500 in savings regularly, that’s MY savings that cannot and WILL not be touched.

[@candygirl1990]

This is why I have to stay single. Men today are not romantic or thoughtful it's absurd how low the dating scene is today. I just dumped a guy for being mean with money, he was keeping score too. It's seriously a turn off. A major ICK ❤

[@number-uz1es]

Right I got my own money. I just want to see if you would. It’s literally the intent with men that off. They can do or don’t but it’s the intent behind it.

[@candygirl1990]

Im very independent, but its masculine for a man to look after a woman. Married women get looked after, so us single girls need looking after too. Unfortunately its not a reality nowadays

[@Liz-wz8dh]

Yeah, score keeping is a huge red flag. There's always something wrong with someone who does this. At the very LEAST they are very stingy but usually they're really into retaliation when they feel the least bit slighted. I do NOT deal with score keepers anymore, male or female.

[@GreenWing-]

@@candygirl1990 You’ll find your masculine man candygirl, don’t give up hope, I’m not!💛

[@Healing_with_Joy]

Priscilla, you are so right! He was testing her and wanting her to audition to be with him cus he thinks he's something. He could have easily called uber eats or whatever but chose to ask her. And it usually starts "small" like that. Thank God women are waking up

[@fayepatrice1672]

Ot wasn’t a big ask but it shows that he wants to sit in his house and have her ferrying food and sex to him like a king. That’s no kind of love or respect, whether he opens a door or not. She dodged a bullet.

[@RikkiestAndTikkiest]

Never give wifey services at dating prices/commitments. Never.

[@joeshmoe0136]

He says they weren't even dating, they were "dealing with each other "

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

I’m a wife and I still don’t give “wifey services” we aren’t slaves and we don’t owe anyone, anything.

[@schuylergeery-zink1923]

Even grabbing something or doing a chore… if I’m available and it’s on my way I do it. But just as often my husband asks me to do something and I say “I’m doing something rn. So if you want it done now, I cannot do it.” He respects my time and labor. It’s simple as that.

[@Frugality]

You can pay for plane tickets but not Uber eats, DoorDash??😂

[@Priscilla_Boye]

The math ain’t mathing 😂

[@dailymadness9129]

idek how he’s able to fly since he went to prison for some years

[@ds37215]

Because these men don't pay for their tickets. They get frequent flyer miles just for using their credit cards normally, and they use this to fly women out at no cost to them. Women then pay the man for the flight by giving him sex in exchange.

[@ds37215]

​@@dailymadness9129 I'm not surprised to hear that he has a criminal rapsheet. This hood dude doesn't fly. At most, he just uses his frequent flyer miles to impress women by flying them out to him. Then expects sex in exchange. He's "dealing with" multiple women and she's just occupying one spot in his rotation.

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

@@LMD11We know it was a test and that’s the problem

[@shaolinqueen3684]

"I had dealings with her." Denied!!!! Sir, if it's ONLY a $20 meal and it's not a big deal for you, then it wouldn't be a big deal to foot your own $20 meal. It was a big deal, and you were testing her "loyalty." You only had "dealings" with her which is another word for friends with benefits or no strings attached. Don't attach her money to you fella.

[@kellarenna]

Basically he said "I'm just using this woman, now I'm gonna see If I can push it further"

[@jenbodhi1133]

@@kellarenna 💯

[@ShanteeHaynes]

RIGHT!! "Dealing with" sounds like you're a inconvenience, yet convenient for when he "needs" you...

[@Hyear2030]

Yeah he big mad he couldn't get a meal off her, some sex , and then move on. He can't categorize it but wants her to grab him food lmaooo 😂 he doesn't want to pay for it. What a loser.

[@ds37215]

Exactly. He didn't buy those plane tickets out of the goodness of his heart. Besides the fact that most guys like him don't pay for flights because they use frequent flyer miles, I'm sure he got paid for them in the exact way he was expecting (sex). This was already "reciprocal" because he was buying access to her. She decided it would no longer be reciprocal if she bought the food and brought it to him and then still had to service him sexually. He's sleeping with various women, anyway. Why is he trying to see how much work she'll do for him. Is he a pimp?

[@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld]

He is absolutely keeping score. This girl shouldn't have do anything for him until he treats her the way he wants to be treated. Reciprocity begins with you my guy. Treat her the way you want her to treat you. Buy her a meal drive all the way to give her food and she will do the same.

[@vikkidonn]

Exactly. I’m also the person that does things out of my own heart. But I’m also considerate and understands I’m an individual. I would never expect someone to buy me food randomly just because…. It’s my house and I have my own money. Why would I ask that question of them? Maybe pick it up for me please but I’d also preemptively offer to buy them food as well off top since they are coming to my place. I would never eat in front of my guest that way without offering. He’s got some issues with thinking he’s better than other people.

[@Daug555]

These ninjas are in their feelings when they’ve created this toxic mess. Women are tired of getting dogged out and are moving accordingly. Y’all don’t like it, date each other. News flash: These ninjas are VERY COMFORTABLE and with high AUDACITY asking women for things. Where there’s no pride, there’s no shame.

[@annt7384]

And then say all their exes are crazy.

[@shayemoore]

Women need to give men the SAME energy they give. Like you said, if they don't like it, they need to date each other.

[@jenbodhi1133]

Agreed, the men have created this toxic cesspool and now they’re upset women are done

[@annt7384]

The part that always gets me is how easily men ask for sexual favors without even thinking about giving in return.

[@shayemoore]

@@annt7384 That is so true.

[@Alexandra-MourningStar13]

Why would i wanna accept gifts and food from a man if im gonna owe him financial compensation later 👀 thats like getting a loan not a gift

[@Priscilla_Boye]

💯

[@DivaDivine88]

That's why you should be careful what you take from a man

[@Childfree334]

That last chick has a Ph.D from pickme University. I have never and will never PAY for anything for a man. I will cook, but only if he buys the food. I would pick up the food on my way to his place, but only if he has paid for it. Men are supposed to pay. They are the providers. Even y'alls beloved Bible says so.

[@WhoAuthorizedThis]

This part. When she said “call me whatever” I literally said yeah you’re willing to mule for your “man”. Goof completely missed he’s not her boyfriend or actively dating. Smh. I knew from the stiff ass braids and the accompanying headpiece, what she was giving. Smh. Everyone is not going to make it.

[@toreibowe4262]

Don’t bring religion into this, it’s 20 dollars. Selfish child

[@Fitnessefficient88]

I use to be in my handsome masculine energy and I use to pay for 60 dollar meals for my ex and his child . I stopped that shit. It got me nowhere. I buy 60 dollar meals for myself.

[@Sky-yh3ml]

Forgive me maybe I’m white or something: flee mkt buys included crock pot small portable solar panel and food was from dollar tree NP items. Nearest diners are too far from my home residences

[@dailymadness9129]

@@Sky-yh3ml???

[@briannadickson2884]

​@@Sky-yh3ml 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣💀 WTF IS EVEN THAT, MAN?

[@olikah4667]

Handsome masculine energy 😂😂😂😂

[@PandaHead602]

💯

[@peachesandpoets]

Y'all, I really don't know how to interact with these new sassy males.

[@e3xiii315]

So he described her as a young lady who he was just “dealing with”” chilling with” so that means she wasn’t his girlfriend or wife. But was asking her for girlfriend wife duties. sounds like she knew her place and her role and played it accordingly. You’re not going to volunteer me to get your food and also pay for it and I’m just a “girl you were dealing with. “ if I want to get some food for you and I called you and ask you what you want then that’s another story.

[@Ceceee21]

Rolling my eyes at the “I think I’m just different” girl 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@shamarirose7288]

She’s a pickme for sure 😂

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

Yeah she got on my nerves but she’s young and need more experience. You bring something to a event not a man who wants sex with no commitment

[@Ceceee21]

@@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty I could understand that. I’d more so say it comes down to maturity and where you are in your life journey. I myself am 23, but my experiences in life have equipped me with the bandwidth to deal with situations that women in their 30s may still struggle with. It just depends on the person. It’s just annoying to see comments like hers because putting others down to uplift yourself isn’t right. I know it comes from a place of insecurity and I can extend compassion towards that, but not at the expense of others 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@Jay-qu2bc]

Yep. It’s crazy to see a bw who isn’t a misandrist or has a bad attitude. How dare she want to be a considerate girlfriend

[@Ceceee21]

@@Jay-qu2bc it’s sad that your experiences in life has lead you to that conclusion. Clearly you didn’t take time to read my subsequent comment. I hope you find peace in this life.. truly.

[@anikanalohamin1077]

He really tried to paint a picture of an "emotionally intelligent" dude....by having these collagen eye patches on....😂😂😂😂

[@olikah4667]

😂😂😂😂😂😂 staaaaaap

[@karma-queenofflames376]

He could have ordered something online himself. Hello? Grubhub, Instacart, UberEats etc. All this "chivalry" he mentioned is just basic behavior in relationships, yet, he thinks this should count towards his relationship scoreboard. Also, who's to say that he hasn't used her to pay for other things before? She was travelling to see him. The least he could do was have some food in the refrigerator. He tried it. Lol! It's giving lazy, user and broke. Next thing you know, he'd be asking her for gas money.😂

[@marcilynn2943]

@@LMD11NOPE. She passed because he’s just using her. You are a walking red flag!! 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[@Sky-yh3ml]

@@LMD11Go ask Becky that… I know they be huffing mad bc of silly stuff

[@jenbodhi1133]

This is exactly what was going on

[@Nwakaego_]

Exactly! BINGO! Well said!!

[@funshinebear4822]

He doesn’t keep score and he's such a kind gentleman, but he ran to instagram stories to blab to the interwebs about this woman who he *ahem* "had dealings with." Doesn't even refer to her as having been a girlfriend. But she's obligated to buy him food in order to be a person of character? 🤢

[@PandaHead602]

Yep…. So embarrassing

[@masixchell]

Sit down 😂 he said he’s not keepin tabs - then made a WHOLE video about the tabs he keeps for what he did 🤭🤫🥴 This is beyond hilarious.

[@lavish_1717]

I had a friend who would ask me to get food while I was almost near her home. Every single time I went to hang out with her, she expected me to pay for her meals. Even to the extent her aunt was also eating from the meals I bought. So I was expected to come hang with her and also buy her meals. Not once did she ever pay for my meals. Her family lacked hospitality. I cut contact with her. I’m not spending money to travel and also pay for another persons damn meals through out the day every time we make plans to hang out. It was such a one sided friendship.

[@2okaycola]

Ya been there!! 🥾 adios moochachos

[@Mani-period]

I’m surprised you kept going back sister! Glad you know better now.

[@MyBlackPumpkinSoup]

He doesnt see or treats her as his GF, but expects her to see and treat him as her HUSBAND. And now, the dude is frustrated that she is acting like the part he told her she is. You cant call her 'date' and expect her to play 'wife'. And she cant call you 'bf' but have you acting like 'the dude I'm just texting'. Simple as that, girl is not wrong, she is playing according to the safety instructions.

[@prettyqueen573]

Exactly!

[@2okaycola]

Yepppppppp

[@lillyvgutierrez9685]

Right he won’t be exclusive… did u see his face when he saids we have to be exclusive . Her car her gas . Why did t her Uber eats or postmates ???? before she got there Bow he going eat in front of her. If she’s already ate … now she might spend money she hasn’t need too she already ate

[@MyBlackPumpkinSoup]

@@lillyvgutierrez9685 Yup. Its all about him and his needs and his expectativas, not about what she needs to feel safe and secure with him. Also, If he was hungry, why not 'Hey, I'm hungry, have you eaten already?' And make It a couple's thing!

[@SweetCandy-x4j]

THIS is the best comment. These guys are really out here expecting you to treat them like they're your husband but they treat you like a one night stand or a FWB at best. There is NO benefit to even dating these men, only unpaid work and drama.

[@dyrich6799]

He is wearing self care outside 😂 he is in his fem era

[@anka6356]

He's such a princess.

[@jenbodhi1133]

They all are these days, the men are in their feminine energy and trying to force us into masculine

[@prihollis]

But she’s coming over to his place so he’s hosting in the dating stage. Shouldn’t he have bought drinks, food and snacks for her?

[@fayepatrice1672]

I’m on the fence with this one. I don’t think it was a big ask to bring food. But it’s a bad sign because 1. She is already coming to his house instead of him taking her out or picking her up. 2. They have been dating for a while and he obviously doesn’t want to be exclusive 3. He could have just agreed to cashapp her. Why is he making it a whole thing? 4. If he is inviting her over and that’s not his gf, he needs to be a good host and have food and drinks for her. All in all, it’s obvious that he isn’t invested in her and she can probably sense that. He wants to sit in his house and have her ferrying food and sex to him like a king. That’s no kind of love or respect, whether he opens a door or not.

[@thinkinginn7443]

I feel like her coming over to see him, at his place, and him inadvertently revealing he had no food in his own home (or no food to make into a meal for himself and her as his guest) is a 🚩 that he isn’t inherently self-sustaining or self sufficient. UberEats, DoorDash, and delivery services exist. From a logical stance, he could’ve gotten himself food or asked her what he can get for them. To make her, who’s already traveling out to see him, go out her way to then exclusively get food for him alone just seems ick. It was definitely a test, and I’m glad she failed. Especially later in the video finding out she was a sneaky link. Like sir…why are you expecting a side chick to act like your gf? The gall to fix his mouth to try and ridicule her for her behavior in their relationship while he’s doing the most disrespectful behavior in his actual relationship is telling of his character flaw.

[@dian277]

he was cheating with her?? what a parasite

[@adrianwillis66]

A guy asked me to pay for his haircut after a month a long time ago (teen) it was a turn off and a deal break.

[@Raray200]

It’s no test… it’s lack of communication. She needed to say I do not feel comfortable bringing food to a man that is not my boyfriend and mentioned other options (like all the women said in the video) And had a conversation about the relationship status. Relationships are about Boundaries. Women communicate differently then men. I don’t think he had I’ll intent, he needed a direct conversation with kindness.

[@jenbodhi1133]

That’s what I was saying, this was a test and she passed for herself, it was all going to go downhill for her if she brought him the food. Dude get your own food- he was acting like a king baby, he doesn’t want to leave his house and wants her to come over, get food, buy it and bring it to him

[@jenbodhi1133]

A guy I was supposed to go on a date with wanted me to drive to his house, pick him and drive him to the date- he had his own car, he’s just too lazy because it’s cold out and he didn’t want to start his car, sit in the cold while it warms up and drive on icy roads, he wanted me to do that

[@amznmmdprncss]

Point of clarification: He talks about paying for plane tickets, etc., etc., but he never specified that he did those things for her, he references these things generally. So, that begs the question, is he speaking hypothetically to make himself seem morally right in this situation?

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

A lot of people missed this

[@XXLady]

Yeah I guarantee he's not springing for plane tickets for someone he only "has dealings with." He was speaking in general terms - and exaggerating.

[@simply_nebulous]

He said he booked the plane tickets, he never said he paid for it👀

[@femmefatale71]

THIS.

[@meekface]

4:12 definitely contradicted himself. Started naming the things he’s done for her. Boy bye

[@marcilynn2943]

@@LMD11Why are you lying? He didn’t do anything for her.

[@hazelbasil6451]

​@@LMD11These types of men are constantly harassing women about not being feminine enough and "not letting the guy lead and be the provider". Being the provider is not something you can opt out of when you FEEL like it. If a woman is supposed to be submissive and feminine all the time, the man is supposed to be masculine and the provider all the time. The end.

[@margodphd]

​@@LMD11He's listing things he paid for to get her to come over and be his "sneaky link" . Not for "her". For him to be able to have sex with her.

[@ashaduplessis2772]

No he didn't he used it in reference to how he thinks women expect more than they are willing to give from someone they aren't committed to. ​@LMD11

[@ThandoNdlovu-zr3ld]

I just saw a video from another creator who literally says that this is how men manipulate women by making us say yes to small requests like buying him a meal or borrowing your Netflix password to set you up with bigger asks in the future.

[@The2bratts]

Whole time I'm reading this comment and I'm literally thinking of the video before u said saw a video lol that's crazy, I'm up on game now 🎉❤

[@The2bratts]

Then saying yes to small requests first lol Netflix password lol ... That boy ken the coach is a beast 📚

[@queenreg7]

Been there. Know better now. Shame we have to be on guard, and that these warnings are usually correct.

[@Liz-wz8dh]

That's exactly what they do.

[@EnlightenedGoldenBeauty]

🎯

[@cocoace7587]

Men have made us cautious when dating . We've been taking advantage of for years , and now we've learned to hold back . Today, it's $20 for food . Next week, it's $50 for gas to drive to your home . Ladies, don't start nothing, you can't give a thirsty, dusty, one cup of water . Tomorrow, he will snatch the bottle out of your hand . # don't, it will never end

[@stilljocelyn_]

They are NOT dating tho… he said he’s “dealing” with her.

[@stilljocelyn_]

Why didn’t he order BOTh of them food and ask her to pick it up??

[@tanishajones74]

Exactly. He said Me not US.

[@zoejaiattoh1243]

Why don’t you have food and drink , you have a guest coming over? That’s just hospitality for anybody, I can understand where she coming from, how you start is how it will be .. I had friend say she will never pay a dime out her pocket while dating , not even on his birthday. The only time she participated is after she got married to him , and she was right . He married her and she stood on her boundaries love it or leave it ..

[@kaytas652]

Why didn't he call in his order, pay for it and ask her if she could pick it up on her way over? Better yet, a real gentlemen would have asked her if she wanted something as well.

[@godpilled9077]

This man is sassy

[@missrain5164]

Anytime I hear a man say “crib” I think 🚩🚩 And it wasn’t from his heart.He said “I didn’t ask you to cook, buy groceries and fill my refrigerator “ but I have a feeling that was going to follow had she spent $20 to get him food. And I totally agree with you 😂 he should keep the same energy if indeed he didn’t want reciprocity 😅

[@CoverBandDiva]

Sounds like he is not courting her. He is using her until he can find who he really wants. She probably has been hanging onto him with hopes of them developing something deeper. But his test failed and now she can find a man who genuinely wants to be with her.

[@meekface]

1:18 yu ASKED for the favor. She didn’t offer it & then ask for payment.

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Thank you

[@MsLovely802]

This is very why I don't date bm. They are very feminine due to being coddled by their moms. Like sir iam not your mother. I had a bm that told me he got.into a minor accident and I said wow that sucks and he said I need you to be there for me in my hard times. Ladies you know what males mean when they say that 💰 🤑. Mind you we never even met. I met him on the dating site a day prior. What a joke. 😅😅.I just use dating sites as a joke nowadays I don't take the dusty males on there seriously

[@meekface]

@@MsLovely802oml. Like how yu gon name things tht you’re doing for her bcz yu want her & are tryna get some? Dude, yu NEED to do those things in order to win her over… goofy.

[@lovelylittlegirl3332]

Se he wanted DoorDash and she wasn’t that kinda girl😂 Stay mad dude. Also, if you’re bragging about opening the door, paying for flights, it’s not ‘in your heart’, it’s things you’re pointing out as a leverage against her.

[@shuris_vibranium]

7:17 Girl I'm pretty sure your parents weren't talking about when you're going to your SNEAKY LINK'S house. 🙄🙄🙄 Take that #PickMe energy to some dusty, ashy, goofy ninja.

[@YemmieInc]

Bruh. BM forever talking about how masculine we are, so I get it. I mean, I wouldn't be doing this because it's mean lol..but I cannot stress enough how many times I've been called masculine just because i..did something..is wild

[@jenbodhi1133]

They force us into masculine energy because they’re so useless

[@Luckimee]

Whats sad is he isn't embarrassed by this. Then wonder why they get no respect

[@karmAnonymous]

"I'm not one to keep score" *Actively obsessively keeping score*

[@thrill102]

I agree with the one lady. If you’re not boyfriend girlfriend what is he complaining about? For whatever reason nowadays men think they can get girlfriend privileges from a situation ship. The answer is no. More women need to take a stand and the best way to take a stand is to not be going to a man’s house in the first place if you’re not his girlfriend. If a man wants girlfriend privileges he needs to make you his girlfriend. If a man wants wifey privileges he needs to make you his wife. Take a stand ladies.

[@itsjustme8359]

Honestly they probably were only talking for about 4 weeks at most. I have a hard time believing any of what he said just based on the fact that he took it to social media. As a grown ass adult, if you are having issues with someone you are genuinely interested in the mature thing to do would be to talk to them in a healthy manner rather than bringing the issue to social media for others to judge. This woman probably been working hard all week and was probably tired. She doesn’t have to get up out of bed for a guy she is only “talking” to for about 4 weeks. Like he is extremely emotionally immature and entitled.

[@Egg_Apron]

Nope he played himself. He didn't buy her a plane ticket. That was just him spinning bullshit about what he would hypothetically do.

[@jane-ud4ub]

Both of them are fighting to be the feminine. 😂 Nice under eye patches, Miss lady stays on top of her skin care.

[@hippie1252]

Would you rather them be dusty and ugly? I've never seen anyone wearing those patches out in public though...

[@icantwiththis]

Are they for football?

[@jane-ud4ub]

@@hippie1252 Ma'am, this is a state of emergency. We are literally in throes of the sassy man apocalypse, we have to focus on the bigger picture. Lol. 😂

[@jane-ud4ub]

@@icantwiththis No, they are for dark circles, crows feet, wrinkles, fine lines, puffiness etc.

[@jenbodhi1133]

Exactly, the men want to be in their feminine energy and force women into the masculine

[@HappyTobeHere89]

He definitely failed and would be seen as a loser in my family and culture. The men would look down on him. My father (half gullah geechee half muskogee) raised us traditional and taught us a woman nerver pays and she is to never give a man money even if he is homeless. He emasculated and embarrassed his self. He might as well sit at the childrens table. My mother is Louisiana creole and even in her culture men like that are seen as juvenile. Hell in my people's culture a man is supposed to also provide a home and new vehicle. He wouldn't be considered a man over here. We are not expected to work BUT can if we choose to and our money is our money. Like we can save it or put in trust fund all while the husband still pays for EVERYTHING. This is exactly why i ONLY date traditional masculine men who know their responsibilities and role. I won't move in with a man until we are married and a home is provided for. This black chic i know met a cajun guy and he bought her a salon. He's her bf. Not husband yet. A lot of cajun men here in Louisiana are like that.

[@dantayhylton9938]

This is why i don't take anything from men, women should make this a movement. They never give out of the kindness of there heart they are expecting something.

[@anka6356]

Everyone expects something. It doesn't mean a man shouldn't pay. A movement? No, thank you.

[@dailymadness9129]

that would just let them off easy

[@BBYNANNA]

I just dropped a dude that wanted the princess treatment from me but couldn't claim me 😂😂 Whole time we were talking I felt more like the man in the situation so I understand what she meant

[@Nabisoul28]

I would prefer it if he said pick this up for me I’ll pay you when you get here. At that point I’d be like OK what do you want . when I’m dating, I really don’t expect to pay for anything. him opening doors and doing all that stuff is chivalrous and that’s how the dating process goes. If he didn’t do those things wouldn’t be dating him.😢

[@shaolinqueen3684]

But he didn't say that which he knew he didn't have intentions of paying her back.

[@Raray200]

Yes, I would too. I think he would understand that conversation.

[@jenbodhi1133]

And if he’s inviting her over, why doesn’t he have food and drinks at the house? I never invite people over, especially someone I’m interested in without having any food or drinks here - he just wants her to deliver food and sex and pay for it too

[@2okaycola]

@@jenbodhi1133no class whatsoever. She dodged a bullet like neo

[@jenbodhi1133]

@@2okaycola I’m proud of her, I hope she comes across this video

[@theteleisewilliamsexperience]

Context clues your hungry but don't wanna leave your house. Means there's nothing in your fridge. If u don't wanna go out cook ninja. I don't play wife even when i am wife lol. I don't carter 2 men ever.

[@annt7384]

That was a test. He was trying to break in a new servant.

[@Longhairdontcare34567]

He was cos playing traditional and decided to test her. She stood on business now he’s upset.

[@thegreylady7797]

Wow he really thought 1.how can I get free food? and 2. How can I get it delivered free? He dont care about her at all. I can see if he ordered food for them both and asked her to bring it because he was getting a romantic ambiance setup but his cheap lazy ass only called her to use her as a service smh sassy AF. Next time Doordash or Ubereats

[@tinmaddog7]

Red flag? You're the red flag, you are having company, and you are hungry? You aren't saying, hey, did you eat? Think as a we? in your talk, not just what was in your heart, and never stated, mind reading required. I would be thinking, why are you asking me to buy you fast food, it's weird, it requires a 20 to 30 minute chore also. A better question, would be when you get here let's go to the grocery store to get some snacks, dinner to make. You don't want to go out? Did you even shower...lol...but you know it's true. Post Covid is like pajama land never ended for some adults.🤣

[@jenbodhi1133]

I found it gross too, I probably just would’ve canceled the date if I were her. He’s too lazy to even get food when he has a date coming over

[@chauntill]

Yes!!!

[@TJrules299]

This!!!!!!!!

[@vonnii1013]

Lol they are mad we are turning their phrases and ideologies back at them...they want to do the bare min and now women are like ok but u are gonna pay me

[@TinfoilHatGirl]

They are treating the women less than prostitutes. Imagine a dude ordering a prostitute to come to his messy manchild baby "crib" and expecting her to bring food and drinks and get all upset when she wants him to pay upfront.

[@WhoAuthorizedThis]

@@LMD11Right, and the “Test” didn’t go as planned, because his dumb ass ended up going to get his own food and coming to cry online.

[@DanaNoName]

Wait, wait, wait, in one of the stitches there's a caption on the screen :"He responded to the comment of a woman with "sneaky link." " I never did sneaky links, but if I did, I would've done the same thing. He wants to be the sneaky link, treat him like one. Ain't paying for anything, either, he wants the treasure box, he should pay to get it. So far, he said he paid a plane ticket. Which means, she didn't know what the key is like from before. And he doesn't want to be exclusive to her, so that's exactly what it is. The girl was right. I'd've treated him the same.

[@jenbodhi1133]

What’s a sneaky link?

[@margodphd]

​@@jenbodhi1133A side piece. A lover you don't admit to.

[@jenbodhi1133]

@@margodphd thank you!

[@funshinebear4822]

He also didn't say he bought said plane ticket for HER. He does it for "women."

[@DanaNoName]

@@funshinebear4822 I thought he mentioned that too. Anywho, thanks for pointing it out.

[@SunscreenAndVitamins]

She shouldn't have been going over to his place to begin with, let alone provide free food and delivery service.

[@studiosandi]

If someone is kind and generous with me I will be kind and generous back. Things would change if they started taking advantage. However, kindness is a good prerequisite for a peaceful society.

[@rosewatersweettea]

I only date older men so I probably shouldn’t even be answering 😂 my boyfriend has never asked me to buy him food, he won’t even let me open doors because he prefers to do it, he’s very masculine and it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. He lives 40 minuets away from me and the only thing he ever asks me to bring him is myself, then he’ll send me gas money. One thing I would do is bring something on my own that I made myself like sweets or cultural food because cooking is one of my love languages.

[@lolomora9056]

the sass is real with men these days.....stay safe ladies

[@A1SoniaM]

The woman is the WOMB-holder. YES, WE KEEPING SCORE cause our WOMB is a VALUABLE/PRICELESS element to the union that MEN LACK. SO, TEN THOUSAND acts of kindness, PER DAY, could not equate to OUR ONE WOMB. So, there is NOTHING MEN can do to equal OUR WOMB. SO MEN - get used to BUYING AND DOING, THE MOST, FOR THAT WOMB-MAN, to infinite! YEAH - I SAID WHAT I SAID!

[@DaftnPunk]

I feel like if a guy has been paying for dinner for a while then it’s fine if a guy ask if I can pick him up something. However what makes this weird and what I don’t like is the fact that he said “a woman I’m dealing with” not dating. And just how he talks about her is the biggest red flag. The request isn’t bad it’s just his attitude in turn.

[@ramblingmillennial1560]

Yeah I'm kinda confused by all these comments tbh. If they've been dating for a while and he pays for everything, why can't the woman buy him something ONCE? Yes he's lazy and could've gotten doordash but dang I honestly don't understand this mindset. Like honestly if we're gonna play around and say paying for something is masculine, then working and having any money is also masculine. Like are women just taking and giving nothing when dating cuz that's what it sounds like. But I agree with you. I don't like how he was talking about her either.

[@kennyav25]

He was testing her and to me she passed!! These men think they're slick. Sir, I'm not your gf. Claim me first before you can claim a plate of food from me 🙄

[@Peacepeacelovelove]

Best comment 😂😂😂

[@girlmeetsglam381]

He is the red flag. seriously she dodged a bullet.

[@JanayNikki]

That’s his problem now he’s paying for food for people who he don’t even like!!! Set yourself some boundaries and then you wouldn’t have to go online like a little sassy complaining that a woman didn’t feed you.

[@Peacepeacelovelove]

Men are finally realizing, Life isn’t free. You have to pay to play bro💋

[@lavish_1717]

First of all, he was too damn comfortable to be ordering her to buy him meals. They’re not even exclusive by what I can gather from his speech. They’re not married.

[@olikah4667]

He’s not even interested in her; she’s a sneaky link. So why is he so mad? It doesn’t make sense.

[@fattyrat9916]

In this age of buying food online, why would she pay for it? Like, is he serious?

[@Kapreeluxe]

So he wants a man? The $20 isn't the point, if you want a lady let her be a lady. And you remain in your masculine. The man courts, the man pays, stop asking women to pay for things, she'll do it if she genuinely wants to without you having to ask. Some women like for roles to be traditional and there's nothing wrong with that. I hate seeing a lot of black men who have a problem with that and actually treating a lady like a lady instead of thinking we don't deserve it. 9/10 times, I'm expecting this from Black men and I'm starting to think i should really not even look their way more and more because of stuff like this.

[@Kapreeluxe]

@@LMD11 real men don't ask women to pay for anything. These tests, the keeping score is unnecessary, if she wants to remain traditional then let her remain a lady and be treated as such, if he want someone who does blur the lines and be non traditional then go where she is. People just need to go with who and what works for them instead of trying to make it work with someone they're not. There would be no issues lol. Everyone is not for everybody.

[@Kapreeluxe]

@@LMD11 women are always overly generous and in most cases you never have to ask, but often times there's little reciprocation so kudos to her for making the change and staying in her feminine place with someone she's not committed to.

[@coppertonedone]

Not only black American men…my mom is Guyanese & the me are theee worse…I would never.

[@cherenadawson8910]

He said he don't keep score, but sound like he was keeping score😂😂😂😂😂

[@elyse443]

😂 My husband would have never let me buy him food. I made him some cute things and cookies and got him a valentines gift. But other than that he wasn’t asking me for money. 😂 He wanted to be the man. Obviously.

[@SupraSoulStar]

I'm also getting the impression this was a test and there was an underlying pressure to prove herself. I don't like that feeling at all. He's at home he could have eaten whatever was in the home. He could have cooked dinner or ordered food. Yet he chose to ask her to pay for, pick up and hand deliver his food. Good for the girl for saying NO, explanations are not necessary, but I understand what she was saying. She's not comfortable doing all that for a man, because that's what he's supposed to be doing for her traditionally.

[@jenbodhi1133]

And how dusty is this guy that he doesn’t have food and drinks at his house for his guest. The last time I invited a date to my house, I cleaned the damn house, cooked dinner, checked in with him if he has any allergies and got us some things to drink so he would be comfortable. Now this guy wants her to come over to his house and bring food? He doesn’t even have food for his guest? That shows right there he doesn’t care about her at all

[@ds37215]

This hood dude did not pay for flights. He used frequent flyer miles, so the flights were free to him. But I bet she had to pay for each flight and opened door with her BODY. He made it clear that he's "dealing with" her but they're not exclusive. He's sleeping with multiple women. He gave her a spot in his rotation in exchange for favors. Then he tried to shift the balance by asking her to buy him food, drive to him, and STILL sxually service him. She realized she would now be the only one giving (he'd have more money for his rotation) instead of the prior give and take.

[@erobinson5942]

He don’t even know what to call it but he knows she should feed him

[@LoveAndSnapple]

One thing I don’t understand about these women who are against other women is that there has to be some type of misogyny at play. Because how come it’s OK for super hot women to not have to pay for cars, houses, trips, meals, etc.… But other women do? It’s like there’s a mentality that some women who are beautiful enough to demand certain things and act a certain way, but other women who have the audacity to make similar demands are ridiculed and berated?

[@MJ-vt4nb]

How I felt about this scenario: 1, Why did he wait all day for her to bring him food? Is he not self sufficient? 2, A host feeds their guests. It's simple hospitality. 3, Why put it on social media? I just felt his energy was off. Many women cannot see past the "I would feed my man, $20 is nothing." This man is a walking red flag.

[@JanayNikki]

I would also like to emphasize that there are a lot of women who are OK with suffering and staying with a man for a plethora of reasons so if you keep this factor in mind, a lot of behavior from men is abusive and unacceptable but a lot of women are willing to stick through that. So if you think about it, there are a lot of women who are suffering and going through abuse, but they aren’t saying anything about it. That is sad to me. And I feel bad for you if you are this woman because you don’t value and respect yourself.

[@SweetCandy-x4j]

Actually, because of these channels there are fewer pick mes than there were 3 years ago. Women are waking up

[@Liz-wz8dh]

A lot of women don't know any better and don't know they can expect better. Sometimes you have to go through it with these aholes in order to learn to value yourself and start ignoring these losers from jump.

[@Carameldamour]

I would have grabbed the food, as a matter of fact I am usually the one to ask do you need me to bring anything? When they say no I grab myself something on the way to eat in the car and we will look hungry together. But these men are always moving the goal post, he was essentially testing her and him himself keeping scores. Dudes want standards until it is applied to them. She is coming to your house, please order food and have it delivered for you both to enjoy she is a guest at your house, and let her bring a bottle or whatever she wants to bring you.

[@jenbodhi1133]

This.

[@useruseruser666]

I would be embarrassed to even invite a friend over to my home without food or drinks for them. It’s not even “grab us food”. 😮

[@zelayadivina]

“I’m not one to keep score” when he just stated the scores he was keeping 😂

[@damselinadress2069]

Coming from a 21 year marriage. These guys are keeping score as well. I refused to do wifely duties at girlfriend prices. I have a career on Wall Street and could always support self. They kill me talking about wanting "traditional" women yet, they don't follow tradition themselves. I am so over it. Some women take on both roles because many men aren't mature enough to support the children they leave in the wind. Having the biological parts don't make you an adult. Mentality does. People don't consider life until the later stages when you need or want someone during the harrowing times. When we married, some men told him not to do it. A lot of these men are much older than us and completely alone now. Now, they say he is lucky to have me. It's not luck, it's love and respect for one another. I believe in karma and what you put out, is what comes in return. Their vulnerability is hanging out and they're scared. We have a whole generation of men that are spewing advice and are clueless as to what makes a man a real man. Because their predecessors left their mothers to raise them alone. It's tragic. At the end of our lives what does really matter?

[@christinamckinney2370]

He doesn’t understand the purpose or value of a woman! Period!

[@Bibirallie]

She dodged a bullet.

[@snopure]

What bothers me is that he asked her with the presumption that she'll pay for it. Not because he's a man, but because you don't ask someone to pick something up for you and make them pay your bill. You want it, you pay for it. Very easy with online ordering nowadays. I wouldn't even ask my guy to foot the bill if I asked him to pick something up for me (though I wouldn't refuse if he offered to pay!). IMO, it's best not to comingle any finances or gray the financial boundaries until you sign your marriage license; too much room for misunderstandings, conflict, and keeping score, until that clean transition to husband and wife.

[@indraganesh7159]

What’s with these men that want to be fed? Are we your mother or something? Your grown? And never heard of Uber eats?

[@dontme4132]

She's absolutely CORRECT. Stop that crap before it get out of hand. He's acting entitled and she was smart enough to nip it in the bud. I'd dump him because it's giving feminine energy.

[@mzprince4139]

It sounds like they weren't in a committed relationship. My husband and I buy things for one another all of the time. However this dude couldnt even put a title on their situation, so I see why she said no.

[@Tr3B3lla]

I don't know how long they've been talking or whatever so I don't have full context but some things stuck out to me. Him saying, 'I don't keep score...' then precedes to keep score! It seems like he has a list of things he claims he does "from the heart" so he can use that to get something from her. Instead of being in his feelings about her not reciprocating the way he wants find the woman that shares your values! In my past experience I was the type to bring/pay for food thinking it was a nice gesture and saw how they took advantage, therefore I stopped! In this day in age you can have food delivered to your house so this is him testing her. If she doesn't pass your vibe check...move on!

[@DivinaDiosa3845]

Stop testing women you don’t pour into. You may have done something materialistic for her but you did it to get something in return. You did it for a test. You did it for motive. Y’all not together damn it. You don’t love her. You don’t support her. You don’t care whether she lives or dies. “ Deal with the fact she said no since you just dealing with her”. She’s nobody to you and you’re nobody to her. As soon as you do for a guy or go above and beyond they take it for granted and they always been on the using tip. They always expect whether they give or not period.

[@lillybilly9954]

I agree with him actually. The problem is that men started broadcasting all over how transactional they are in relationships. That statement of “I’ll be in my masculine energy” is a response to that. When you are transactional you are not going to make real connections. Women are tired of being taken advantage of and this is how they protect themselves.