SHE WANTS A $60,000 DOWRY?!

[@imankouidere8659]

I didn’t ask for anything for my dowry except for the Quran and my parents asked the same for me. So they gave me a Quran that has been in their family for generations which is priceless to me ❤️

[@surayaahmed7812]

Iman Kouidere, Masha'Allah

[@nicholemurphy1213]

That is so beautiful

[@alice4108]

Me too! And now it's displayed in mine and my husbands lounge room ❤️

[@TheBlooRayChannel]

That is a beautiful story. May Allah bless you and your family. THAT right there is the true message and meaning of an Islamic marriage. It's not worth 60k. Priceless blessings.

[@creolebastard881]

MashaAllah, that's really cute, imo

[@LeeLee-sg1jz]

Plot twist: dad hated the guy and didn't want him to marry his daughter... and it worked!

[@Muslimah1987]

This is actually on the modest size compared to some of the other stories out there, especially places like the Gulf..some women have have an out-of-control sense of entitlement.

[@afialover2]

Hahahahahahahah

[@mishalaslam1301]

Lee Lee the dad didn't approve of the proposal is literally the only reason why he asked for 60k because he knew they wouldn't give such a massive amount

[@mooey87]

That’s probably more likely. Typical sneaky narrow minded asians.

[@luv03]

I love when Dina wears her hijab like this!! mashAllah

[@alainah.4046]

Raniya T love this comment, genuine praise without shade vs. people being the “modesty police” on photos/styles they don’t approve of

[@sbegum29]

Ikr!!

[@smileficationful]

agreed! not even because of the modesty issue but because it suits her and the shape of her face better

[@lastfirst2794]

I like her turbans.

[@skippykipper101]

Connie Schlomer Exactly. It's such a pretty look on her mashaAllah

[@sarahmatrood3370]

My dad gave my mom a Quran and a prayer rug. She was very pleased with it she said because she understood that he wasn't able to give her something more than that as far as money. She said it was worth more to her than any amount of money because it is something that brings her to closer to Allah which is priceless. I thought it was cute.

[@marwaa2180]

Awww that's actually more expensive and worthy then a billion pounds.❤

[@ranitaparin4432]

My sister asked for Hajj within the first 2 years and her husband fulfilled it within a year Alhamdulilah. Smartest thing ever if you think about it.

[@NoraNora-er2zy]

Rani Parin Australian

[@maha.b1]

Depending on where you live this could be considered as a super expensive mahr. Not everybody can afford such a thing.... Anyways I do not see the point of comparing what or how much people get: that's what creates so called "norms" where things depend on the groom and bride stances.

[@ranitaparin4432]

Maha did I discuss the amount? Did I set a norm? Not sure why you are acting butt hurt for no good reason. Investing in the Akhira is a smart thing. The purpose of my comment was highlighting that my sister asked for something for God. And then Allah SWT provided so many provisions to make it happen. Can people get off their moral horses for a change. So sick of super sensitive people who can't handle mature conversations & feel the need to police and monitor folks through a keyboard and make them feel bad. Sit on that for while. And consider people's intentions before you slam them.

[@ranitaparin4432]

Maha on top of that we have no brothers and dad was ill, so this in my opinion was a great request. But I don't owe an explanation to a silly judgmental person online who wants to criticize everyone.

[@maha.b1]

You misunderstood me, I never insulted you and was not referring to you personally but all the comments regarding what XYZ received. As human being we have a tendency to compare so it's best to keep things to ourselves as what is fine/normal to us might be the complete opposite to others. For you it's a good things to ask for hajj but please understand that for many such a thing is extremely expensive (around 8000euros per person). I am not feeling offended at all and believe that no matter the stances we should be able to discuss respectfully. Please read again my comment and your response as you are being excessive, insulting and attributing me ill intent... I am sorry if you thought I was attacking you or anything similar to that.

[@prettyparveen7880]

Was her parents asking for dowry or selling her? LOL 😂😂😂😂

[@samantha.mariam]

pretty parveen 😂😂😂❤️

[@yasmine2533]

the back rub at the start i love them yall are so cute

[@creolebastard881]

I REALLY want to know how much the dad gave her mom 🤔 Bet you it was no 60k

[@aridawood717]

Rebekah Bell that's how I wear it!!

[@TheHozii]

siemenssx1 maybe it isn’t a lot for you, but it sure it for loooads of families :) you don’t know anything about the guys financials

[@sams517]

siemenssx1 hardly a lot of money? Bitch you must be loaded shut up

[@youraverageimperialguard7932]

Giving a person 60k with no strings attached is a surefire way of making a person financially irresponsible and extremely spoiled.

[@Kilaraya]

siemenssx1 averge salary of london is 27k ( a year)...

[@mearat.btsthepiedpiper.3250]

My bank account started quaking at the title and I don't even have a bank account

[@shabnamp9734]

Me, a rat BTS, the Pied Piper ARMYYYY

[@jamilahchoudhury6175]

AHHHH JIMINAAHHH. MY BAE

[@ebru6731]

I don’t have one either but even if I did it would probably be empty

[@tasneem6427]

HAHAHAHHAA

[@s.b9118]

$60,000!! these parents cause problems for their kids, so unislamic as well. tbh you wouldnt wanna marry into a family that are demanding and very backwards

[@TheAdamSmasherMultiverse]

sky bee fr. I would be like Fuck this I'm out

[@sbegum29]

Ikr

[@mschoplos]

Agreed

[@user-ut5xg5nr2u]

batman

[@jolfc9602]

sky bee Exactly. It shows the intention of the family as well which would definitely put me off. You have to remember that you are also marrying the family as well as the women. If you have a family that puts the dunya and wealth above anything else. What is going to happen in the next couple of years with the in laws if you become broke?

[@sieldevos551]

Isn't it interesting when people say "oh dowry is such a strange traditional concept, to give money and 'put a price' on a woman before you marry" as if giving a woman an engagement ring is not exactly the same thing? like huh?! at least you can still use the money for something useful if you don't want to spend it on a ring :D great video as always!

[@bonestormftw]

My husband just gave me a ring 🤷🏼‍♀️ we didn’t see a point for money since we are married from that point haha but I agree it does also give the daughter some protection and respect to make sure the man is serious. Good answer guys love these videos

[@CananK]

i love when you wrap your scarf like that!

[@rukiblomst4753]

Bruh the dad doesn't like him

[@TheAdamSmasherMultiverse]

Ruki blomst ikr. I would be like well F you too I'm out this bih

[@m.i4359]

Ruki blomst 😂😂😂😂 comedy gold

[@AmenaandElias]

The problem is our parents’ generation are traditional and they have a completely different mentality than us... it’s hard to convince them of anything 😂

[@AhoudDobashi]

Heart of Africa heyyy gurrl I watch your videos. Plus what you said is so right. Wallah parents are so different from us and the way we think. I know it's the generation difference.

[@AmenaandElias]

Ahoud Dobashi Thank you! And yes I know exactly what you mean. That’s why I like Dina and Sid’s advice so much, they relate to our generation!!

[@ht3905]

Heart of Africa hey I'm Sudanese too and watch your videos! And I'm agreeing with you, because I can't convince my parents of anything!!

[@sohailarif2065]

Tell me about it!!

[@jamilmiah1]

Heart of Africa i

[@321Sapphire123]

Love your explanation on this, Sid and Dina. Agreed that 60k for a regular guy is ludicrous! It's a pity that many regular folks are raising it sky high- when it doesn't fit the context, it does devalue the actual union.

[@khanmaida]

siemenssx1 it'll tell you how, it causes resentment.

[@321Sapphire123]

siemenssx1 The amount is symbolic of value yes for sure. However, my point is that when you ask an amount which doesn't fit the means of anyone in the union, you are devaluing the union as there is potential for it to be broken when agreements are not made on the mahr. If you ask for a decent amount, subjective of course, you facilitate the union rather than work against it. Does that make more sense to you?

[@GaGaObession]

Tanzina K I agree with you!

[@321Sapphire123]

Sadjida Carter Thanks for letting me know :) I'm glad others agree. It's similar to what Sid and Dina were saying too tbh. It's good to have level-minded people out there on this topic.

[@sarazahran1588]

Tanzina K hello sister i hope sub my new channel

[@jahmed8963]

Bruv i just want a decent person, even like 60 pounds is fine as long as they will treat you right 🙏🏽

[@saadmalik7614]

hahaha

[@creolebastard881]

Same man, same.

[@hellolala]

same!

[@Ayishh7]

The prophet (SAW) said that the best of mahr (dowry) is the simplest. (most affordable) :) Narrated by Ibn Hibbaan, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3300.

[@user-bu2tv6te9n]

Dina : it's sooooo subjective, wait what is subjective?😩😂

[@fisabeelillah9455]

I'd want a cat

[@miyzaserit1797]

As a revert Muslim, Monetary dowry was of no importance to me at the time. When I was asked what I wanted for my dowry. I knew straight away what I wanted. For my husband to help me learn more about the Deen. Nothing more. True to his word, he helps me to become a better Muslim. I didn't choose this faith for nothing. Being a revert, our imaan is strong and for me, I wanted someone not perfect but tries all the time to better himself. By him teaching me, I will see how his level of patience he has with me. I will also see if he will wake me up for fajr. You know, all those little things that some tend to slip by. Hubby is a great blessing! He's patient, understanding and ever so courteous. He was not well off like I was. But he taught me so much about love and love for the sake of Allah.

[@nadiamiah639]

I thought it was like a Insurance and security for the daughter if anything was to go wrong in a marriage.

[@shaymazed]

Nadia Miah it is!!!! That's one of the many reasons for a Mahr

[@KG-ne1te]

why though? is she going to stop working/being financially independent when she gets married that she needs the dowry if something goes wrong? i understand this may have been practical a long, long time ago but now?

[@TheTinyTherapist]

I honestly think her dad offered that crazy amount cause he knows the guy won't be able to afford it, thus breaking off the relationship. The dad doesn't want his daughter with someone who has diabetes out of fear that he may die prematurely and leave his daughter to fend for herself. It's messed up but it's the immigrant parent mentality. They never want to give their child off to someone who is "ill".

[@sendmemoneythanks]

At least his daughter won’t be a widow in a year or 3

[@umarahabid1102]

sid and dina didn't do a very good job of explaining the mahr/hakmer as protection for the woman. The man cannot divorce the woman unless he has paid all the agreed amount also the mahr should be enough for the woman to get back on her feet in case of divorce. therefore a sensible amount should be enough for her to live of for a few months or a deposit for a house e.g. a few thousand. I asked for £5000 for this reason (although i'm not at all worried about divorce, i thought it would be a good investment for our future children) however i come from a backwards society and men didnt like me making my own decisions and tried to get me to lower it to a couple of hundred. I stood my ground and the imaam backed me up. always stand your ground girls.

[@cherry.25]

Umarah Abid agreed!

[@saraha3068]

Finally a sensible comment. People are saying marriage should be based on trust and it should not be started on fear of divorce. I mean what dream land these people are living in? No one has seen the future, even the perfect marriages fall apart. Allah has given us this right to protect our furure. Why not use it? you dont have to use the right if you dont want to, but stop telling others that its wrong to ask for dowry.

[@saffyshubobo8180]

👌👌👌👌👌👌👌👌

[@Nomad314]

^^^This is correct. Islamically the mahr is not just a gift, it is a kind of insurance that is there to protect the woman in case of divorce. Or to escape domestic abuse or even in the case of death of her husband especially if he doesn't have savings. It allows her to have savings available to her so that she can support herself whilst she is not being provided for by her husband. Of course the mahr doesn't have to be money, and women have a choice in what they ask for (if anything).

[@Myview246]

Exactly. That's the problem with the ummah nowadays. Families are becoming greedy and brothers are becoming stingy

[@pssurvivor]

I'm a Hindu, and here in India, the bride's family is expected to pay up a hefty sum along with other stuff like an apartment, a car, etc etc (it's illegal and many modern families don't ask for it but it still happens in lower income families). As a result, the new bride (who usually stays with her in laws) is tortured and there are many cases of dowry related violence and even murders and suicides. it's really really sad.

[@humishah8464]

Can someone plz tell me Wat the ACTUAL logic behind a bride giving a dowry?? Like wth she moves house into her in laws deals with their crap and slaves for them and for all this she has to cough up huge sums???? Like whyy

[@pssurvivor]

The logic is that a man is more valuable than a woman because he takes care of the elders, the female child is considered borrowed property by her parents because she leaves home after marriage. So when you get a groom it's like getting a son and that's valuable, and ladies, that comes with a hefty price tag.

[@pssurvivor]

UK youtube yeah that happens too. As I said, it's awfully sad.

[@msp5087]

Pallavi Sanyal yes this is ny understanding if the dowry too. I'm surprised that its the other way round as Sid & Dina explained!

[@pssurvivor]

Hina Singh the original significance of dowry for us was also as a gift for the outgoing daughter given by her parents. But over centuries that significance has been replaced by what we have today. But, I'll clarify that in most educated urban families it's not accepted any longer.

[@naddosweety]

ok but how cuteee was the start of that video??

[@malikahe5003]

Hahaahah had to pause for a chuckle at 8 mins in lmao!!! Only Dina and Side get each other, love it

[@k3pizzazz]

I really appreciate you guys being so open about your religion and culture and experiences. I'm not Muslim, but I feel like I'm learning so much about my Muslim brothers and sisters. Thank you!

[@Lydia9385]

My mahr was a £90 gold ring and an extra tenner to round the overall value to £100. I couldn't be happier and the thing is, the mahr can be huge but that won't fix a bad marriage. Keeping it simple is the best!

[@mariyumpatel746]

When you don't even need notifications 😂

[@SJ-ds4pv]

Love the colour of Dina's scarf❤

[@BeautorgeousWorld]

Dina cracks me up =D "wow what a douchebag" LOL =D

[@TheAdamSmasherMultiverse]

Beautorgeous World ikr. These guys the realest

[@yaskay7393]

this hijab style on dina is so pretty mashallah xx

[@sumyra]

sid talks so much senses! great topic guys, fantastic for the progression of our community.

[@saarahc2324]

"it's soo subjective...what does subjective mean"😂😂

[@TVOE_12]

I didn't even want a mahar and the sheikh was like you sure? I was like yeah I don't want much and I suggested £10 and he's like wow okay. Mashallah! Bless him

[@hasinaakther7297]

Dina- it's subjective , - wait what does subjective mean again 😂

[@ohkay680]

Hasina Akther like your own personal opinion about a certain topic

[@hasinaakther7297]

Aamina L mate I just quoting what she said I know what it means 😅

[@ohkay680]

Hasina Akther oh my bad lool 😂

[@fromkate3343]

Dina looks gorgeous !! I actually like the no mascara look.:)

[@TheMrpalid]

I was talking to a sister and her family about marriage. We are both doctors in the United States. She said she is not financially responsible for any household expenses from an islamic perspective. She also stated additional expenses: vacations, dining out, nanny care, etc are all the husband’s responsibility. She wanted a minimum 3 carat diamond ring. The family wanted $100,000 US dollars for mahr.

[@jamilf2667]

This was a year+ ago so how are you doing now? I plan on marrying after I make hijra from the United States because I fear for my children being raised around these crazy events occurring here.

[@alexia1178]

Salam Dina and Sid lots of love alllll the way from Australia (Melbourne)

[@AmmarahA]

I think Dina suits every colour. Every time I see I different scarf colour, I think wow that really suits Dina and her skin tone. Anyway, Dina looks beautiful MashAllah

[@lavendermoon_]

The opening of this vid was so cuuuuute!

[@naz6846]

dina an sid 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗

[@newyorksbaby94]

my parents literally said a gold coin, lol but mashallah i was gifted a lot, all they told my in laws was give what you would want your daughter to get

[@nailachoudhury3795]

newyorksbaby94 awwww I really like this

[@lisadrisgill5611]

Sid I luv ur light hair it really suits u Dina's bleach prank paid off !

[@SwiitchGirl]

Ahhh I love your vids Sid&Dina 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@TheMrpalid]

Kanye West made a song about this: I ain’t saying she a gold digger, but she ain’t messing with no broke ni**a

[@Rmm99726]

There's parents and in some cases the girls themselves who think that they can take advantage of the dowry ruling in Islam which is quite disrespectful on an Islamic point of view. By all means you are the bride and you can ask for what you want however when people like you're parents are telling you to ask for so much money it's just pure greediness because the dowry is only meant for the bride not her family. Just put yourselves in his shoes, he might be going in to debt just to make you happy whilst suffering and that is so wrong. Ladies and family of the bride, all i am saying is that be considerate of the grooms situation before demanding crazy amount of money.

[@Rmm99726]

siemenssx1 would you pay $60k? People get so greedy about money that they take advantage of the dowry and demand ridiculous sums of money. Also asking for that kind of money in exchange for the daughter sounds like they want to sell her off.

[@Rmm99726]

siemenssx1 clearly the groom feels like it's too much money so the bride's family should be considerate on his case. I know it is a must for the groom to give a dowry however if he feels like he can't give that much money then they should understand. I'm not judging at all, it's simply the brides decision on how much however in this case it's her parents who are demanding for it and that should not be the case because it's only the bride who decides what she wants. It's not fair on the grooms part if he can't afford to give money but the parents are asking for it. They should at least do what Dina's parents did and ask the groom how much he is able to pay instead of asking for dowry money when not knowing if it's okay for the groom to provide for it.

[@Rmm99726]

siemenssx1 he clearly states in the email that he can't afford to pay that much money for the dowry. Her parents want the money but the dowry is supposed to be for the bride. It's just very inconsiderate on her parents behalf because you should ask before to see if the groom is able to give that kind of money before he goes in to debt.

[@Rmm99726]

siemenssx1 that's exactly what I was trying to say but some people are far too greedy and don't think about what the bride would like. It's a bit sad on her part and his. Inshallah it works out for them though.

[@xXxbaxroxXx]

Also 60,000 is reasonable because if he divorces her she gets nothing! He could leave her with kids and just move on to the next like so many do. Islamically that money is given to the bride to protect her in case of situations like these.

[@ShaSha-cr3bd]

Alhamdulillah, just want to say thank you both for making this video. I hope it will educate young people about issues like dowry which can be a really difficult subject to get your head around even as a Muslim.

[@amnaek8871]

sids laugh makes me laugh🤣🤣💜Love u guyss😽✨✨

[@paulpadua7608]

Your wife swears a lot, I love it. Ill show my wife this video, made me laugh.

[@melissayoebaidi8956]

My husband is a revert/convert and it wasn't till 4 days before we planned to get married that my father accepted this man to be my husband... because honestly it took around 3 months of speaking with the board of imams regarding my situation (a very long one) and having one of them as my "wali/guardian". When dad finally came around he asked about the dowry and I mentioned it was a diamond ring and a jewellery set which weren't too expensive. But my dad only asked for one thing and that was for my husband to say the Shahada infront of him at the nikah for "security" because he wasn't present at the initial taking of the shahada. And now my father has a soft spot for him.. always asking about him and his family.. All I can say is Alhamdullilah for everything. Prayers do get answered, maybe not right away but they do and maybe not in the way you'd expect them to be. :)

[@LordBoltagon]

Lol I'm in that marriage crisis... 😂🇬🇧

[@faryalfarooq8733]

Dina : Hii guys.. Sid : Its alright, they know you are emotional, pick yourself up 😂😂😂😂

[@TriplBBB2023]

"of course I wouldn't because I couldn't"- this really made me laugh

[@JazzyLadyJ]

Girl get your ring resized and wear the damn thing lol

[@sarazahran1588]

Jazzy Lady hello sister please sub my new channel

[@sbegum29]

Sid + Dina😍😍😍

[@Gazzyb2071]

Did Dina get her teeth done with the dowry, they are perfect 😂😂

[@ay35748]

"Say bye bruh" 😂

[@user-vi9bi6fi2b]

this video made my friday

[@AshminaKartal]

That is crazyyy! Love your explanation!!!!

[@aseeshera5998]

Genuine question as I'm Indian. So I'm just curious is this dowry like a financial safety net for their girl. Incase their is a situation of divorce and supporting themselves?

[@kholoudyahya413]

Asees Hera yes , and it’s also to make sure that the man is serious .

[@maha.b1]

Religiously it's just a present to the bride. there is no relationship with financial safety or anything else. Btw if the women wants to ask for a divorce (if the husband sticks to his duties/made no fault) she needs to give the dowry back.

[@xXxbaxroxXx]

Asees Hera yea because if they get divorced she gots nothing even if they had kids. Not even the house. So all that considering I think 60k is as much as it seems

[@kholoudyahya413]

xXxbaxroxXx who said that she gets nothing!! If she has his kids he will be obligated to provide a house for them and their mom , also he will have to give his divorcée money so can pay food and clothes and everything else for the kids 👍🏻.

[@xXxbaxroxXx]

Kholoud Yahya nope that in the english legal system. A lot of women after 20 years have been left with nothing and going around hoping a relative will take her in with her kids

[@sbegum29]

Nice to see everyone here that took there time out to watch this video hoping you all had at least 10 mins to spare to do some dhikr and pray ur naamaz!! Xx

[@poisonedchalice]

Sumzz oxo what makes you think we haven't.

[@21972012145525]

Dina keeps saying sid is going to upload videos on his channel. We are waiting sid! 😂

[@sadhiaashfaq2779]

Brilliant explanation well done!! Keep it both of you ..

[@sbegum29]

Love u guys x and the advice

[@8663ra]

Mehr is supposed to be something that the man can afford. Average dude out there doesn’t have 60k in his 20s. As long as the gift is thoughtful and the guy is showing commitment, the sisters should accept it. Love is going to last and the money will disappears.

[@ytber7016]

No coursing🤦‍♀️😂

[@lailakhan8159]

Dina looks so pretty

[@WhisperingMomentsAsmr]

The most perfect couple ❤️ I love watching ur videos 💕💕💕💕💕

[@irsalanshafiq8644]

Mad ting

[@sportygal1991]

11:29.... omg my husband asks me the same question! I don't always wear my ring because it's precious to me and my biggest fear is losing it because I have misplaced it a couple of times when it was in my room or my handbag 🤦‍♀️

[@Myview246]

Chances are your husband has got some valuable stuff of his own that he never uses either. When my husband used to ask me why I rarely wore the expensive jewellery I'd just ask him in return why he rarely wears his expensive watches or cufflinks or uses his expensive wallets

[@aleenax2490]

My brother is also having to write down £60, 000 for his dowry because the bride's mother was causing a huge scene. Luckily his fiance disagrees with all this and along with our side of the family she was able to convince her parents to only write this amount in the paperwork in case of a divorce but he still had to pay £5000 for dowry along with everything else for the wedding of course (especially since he has a good job so our parents aren't paying for the wedding instead he is doing it out of his own pocket). Honestly people just try their luck wherever they can, especially the parents, what's important is that your future partner has your back and they are not the one starting all of this mess.

[@aleenax2490]

Usama Fayyaz it's okay, everything is sorted now, it was all worked out because my brother and his fiancé understand each other. But when it comes to her family we all really say a new side of her parents, honestly no matter how many times you meet someone you can never be sure of what's in their heart.

[@antwto8784]

Usama Fayyaz that’s Islam dumbass, the husbands duty is to provide his wife with provisions, accommodation, pay the walima and provide a dowry. This is why they say only marry if you can afford it

[@oumaima353]

Or maybe the girl wanted to refuse him, and was too scared to say it, so she and her family asked for unrealistic dowry to make the guy run away :D

[@TheBlooRayChannel]

What the actual heck. That is mental. Feel for both, especially the girl. They screw the two out of potential happy marriage. These things however exist within society. Pretty common. Trust me. I'm a dude, and I know! Have thrown a couple of ridiculous demands straight back at their faces. Bengali cultures typically demand 8k in cash PLUS gold worth another 6k. It's insane.

[@hemamohammeddhali4040]

Finally i got a damn add yaaaas 😂😂

[@thalblankson4002]

Alsalamu Alakuim Allah bless you and protect you both Dina and Sid. Love your hijab Dina 💎💎😍😘

[@queenz0707]

I love this KZbin couple they shed a different light on Muslims. Although I grew up with Muslims I’ve always gotten along with them but there’s all this misperception about Muslims when really they are just like us

[@1rage17]

Oh my goodness your wife is insanely gorgeous!! Her skin and teeth are perfect. Sorry got sidetracked 😂

[@aipeshya]

If you were annoyed, would you bring it up ? Of couuuuurse ! What a douchebag ! Dina, you killed me 😂😂😂

[@najmahz4964]

Don’t confuse culture with religion. Dowry goes to the wife(not the parents and husband can’t take it back once they get married or divorce!!), and it’s whatever the husband can give according to his financial status. The parents or her shouldn’t be asking for anything.smh🤦‍♀️

[@najmahz4964]

Ruby Senpai that’s haram, and Allah says for those who change the words of the Quran and add stuff into the religion that Allah or Prophet Muhammad didn’t preach to us will be punished.

[@najmahz4964]

Ruby Senpai yea idk what Quran people be reading

[@Myview246]

Ruby Senpai exactly I went on singlemuslim and was shocked by the amount of men who said 'I won't ask my wife to pay me a dowry' I was like well she shouldn't be anyways, Hindu women pay the husband, in Islam husband pays his wife. Weird how some guys don't know this!!

[@razer0072073]

Girls be wanting a guy with money, a nice car, who doesn't live with their mum and all they can bring to the table is a smashed iphone and a shitty personality they contoured off a KZbin makeup tutorial.

[@Ak-fr1hs]

Najma M. It's not a matter of misogyny. A lot of girls have high expectations but just want to sit on the couch all day on instagram and don't offer anything to their spouses in the form of financial, domestic, or even emotional support. If his job is to support you financially and you expect or value a great car, cell phone, home, clothes etc. in your marriage, then as his wife you should be doing your best to fulfill your role as his wife and support him. How you do that is upto you as a couple to decide what your comfortable doing whether it's picking up a full time job to help the both of you or helping out around the house while he's at work. I've seen a lot of girls in my own friends circle wreck their marriage by being unreasonably selfish and demanding from the outset of their marriage and getting progressively worse with their mean attitudes over not getting the newest phone or not being able to go on vacations like the rest of their couple friends. They literally sit at home all day and compare their lives to what their friends post on instagram and then get upset over what they don't have. The point is a man can only provide you with so much, so you should either work hard with him to keep yourself and him happy or just be appreciative of whatever he does bring home. I genuinely don't feel this was an issue of misogyny. I've been married for two years almost and just looking amongst my own friends circle I fear for the expectations both girls and boys bring into their marriages and how it leads to divorce within the first year or so.

[@piqueny8872]

at least she'll look flawless with all that shit on her face, a trophy size 0 to show all your buddies too. LOL whist ur in the kitchen making soup from a can! JK AH THE DREAM OF DREAM WIFEY MATERIAL right there dude!

[@rwankyo3]

Mas A 😂

[@toni5543]

Najma M. ‘Did you know that the majority of men treat women like objects?’ Your referring to the fact that the part of a mans brain that lights up when he sees ‘tools’ is the same part as when he sees an attractive woman. This is evidence of nothing. Cite your sources with your comments. That is such a sad and hateful view to have of men. They are your father, brothers, uncles and sons.

[@servingtea8483]

Did you watch the video you pig

[@Tam1461]

Love you guys xx

[@munam016]

I really think parents who ask for unrealistic amount of money from the guy don't really want this guy to marry their daughter. They don't have a legit reason to say no to him for marring their daughter so they us the money thing as an excuse to get rid of him. I really believe that's the reason behind all this.

[@maryamalmarar5116]

In Dubai the dowery is not very expensive 30,000$. The expensive thing is the groom also gives the girl nearly 150,000$ for the dress and jewelry and everything. Then the wedding venue and everything costs 50,000$. So in total you spend 230,000$.

[@karimadahe7771]

Maryam Almarar too much

[@Azzabeth23]

Why should he give her separate money for the dress and jewelry? That's just insane! She should use the dowry money for that or take it form her parents. After all she's still her parents responsibility until she goes to her husband's home for good that's when he becomes responsible for her finances.

[@jsm8149]

R u kidding. All of it sounds like a whole lot of money!

[@Myview246]

They do that in Asian culture too, men give money for the dress but in return women buy his suit

[@aminauddin5037]

Lol I laughed seeing 60k😂

[@asifchowdhury8005]

Sidd has a nice vocabulary. Lmao.

[@words4theblind]

Dina mashallah you look so beautiful!

[@javeriasuleman4793]

My sister asked one of her religious teacher if she could ask for chocolate as her mahr. And she was like of course!! Hahahaha

[@AR-gc7dr]

6:57 "its sooooo subj-.... what does subjective mean' love u dina, never change

[@sarahalsaeedi2600]

Watching Dina yawn in the video made me yawn too lolz ..

[@RefuseTheFallingRain]

Diamond rings go down in value tho

[@zeem9421]

if you invest in a good diamond ring it doesnt. 3k or4k is not that much for a good diamond

[@poisonedchalice]

I'm a bit unsure about diamonds from an Islamic perspective. If you were to buy gold you'd be required to pay zakat on that whereas for diamonds, which may cost as much as gold if not more, you wouldn't. Some say it brings bad luck and taint marriage for that reason.

[@useruvwxyz]

Rosebud I don't think so. zakat on a tiny gold ring is not applicable.

[@mahmunaejaz7651]

Thats exactly why I didnt get a diamond ring...

[@ayesha3868]

But you don’t have to pay zakaat on it so the value doesn’t really matter🤷🏻‍♀️

[@sairadarr]

Wow some ppl after the dunya with that money sheesh!

[@fatimazahrah987]

i love these videos ☺️💞

[@Ayishh7]

Dowry is meant to be a gift .... not a means to end in debt .

[@cherry.25]

Those parents need a reality check

[@lindarodrigues2195]

A pizza is fine. Pizza is always good. :)

[@RumiKhan]

I believe I've read that there are mant ways to determine the right amount of Mahr, one of them is based upon the man's yearly income, for example if he earned 60k per annum, he would pay that amount either as a daily allowance or all of it on the day of Nikkah, this is of course to protect the woman, but also, if he was to disappear, she would be able to feed herself and her offspring if any, in such case. But of course, if his income is less than what is expected of him to pay, it could be due to several reasons, 1. the family wants to ensure their daughter's security, and determine whether he is serious or not. 2. The family doesn't actually like the guy and has no good reason to refuse so they use this as a way of getting rid of him, 3. Sometimes there are family feuds, jealousy and envy of others in the family who may have gotten more mahr etc. At the end of the day, Mahr isn't putting a price on the woman, you're not selling her off, you're marrying her away, with respect and honour, some families really lose the plot, and it's shame because as Dina said there is a marriage crisis in the Muslim community because young men and women are having to jump too many hoops to get married, and it's only creating more fitna and fasad, so really these adamant parents need a reality check.

[@JeanetteKramer]

Hubby gave me £50. 😂❤️

[@Lexielfeki]

Jeanette Kramer hey you did better than me I got $10 lol.

[@banandababa]

Are you a revert ? That's taking the piss. But as long as you are happy.

[@JeanetteKramer]

It's not taking the piss. I could have asked my husband for anything but I didn't, just a ring and £50. The most blessed marriages are ones with the least expense.

[@banandababa]

Like I said, as long as you are happy. May Allah bless your marriage.

[@bethw7745]

Jeanette Kramer awwwww

[@xXxbaxroxXx]

People inthe comment section dont understand anything! The mahr is supposed to protect a woman and her children if her husband dies or leaves her. If she asks for nothing he could just abandon her with a child broke and alone. The fathers right. He wants her to travel to a different country. Which means he could leave with no money to even get a ticket back home.

[@samantha.mariam]

xXxbaxroxXx I hear what you're saying but 60k? I think that's extremely unfair and it's abusing the meaning behind the mahr. 60k is above the average YEARLY salary of a lot of western countries. It was completely unreasonable to ask for such a high sum and that greed prevented two people from getting married

[@Saif-kd1jt]

xXxbaxroxXx tell the wife to get a job

[@Myview246]

Savage Longbottom You must either be a child or a non Muslim. If they are practicing muslims chances are the man won't want his wife to work. And realistically most of them don't want her working, especially if he grew up with a stay at home mother chances are he wants the same for a wife. So that is why she needs a good mahr and can't just be told to 'get a job'

[@Saif-kd1jt]

Sadiya S so muslim women aren't allowed to get jobs. it doesn't matter if your muslim or not women can do what they like

[@antwto8784]

Savage Longbottom you’re not a Muslim so you clearly don’t understand. In Islam there’s certain rules and regulations men and women both have to follow. They say even if a man on low wage marries a billionaire woman he still has to be the one who provides for her and he is NOT ALLOWED to ask her for her money or expect her to pay towards anything. Look it up, she can refuse if she wants, she won’t be sinning for it as it clearly says it’s the mans DUTY to provide for wife and kids and if he can’t he shouldn’t marry