Sherlock Being AroAce for 12.5 Minutes

[@harpywiththebrownfeathers]

"Would you... would you like to--" "--Have dinner?" "--Solve crimes?" His sexuality is crime-solving.

[@mrsfahrenheit]

yes haha😂

[@leocervidae]

He does consider himself “married to his work” 😂

[@honeyy9559]

The thing about aro aces is that when we find someone we really like the company of, we want to share and do stuff that makes us comfortable or happy, anything but romantic stuff. Because we can only love platonically.

[@selfryed]

And now you may kiss the work

[@harpywiththebrownfeathers]

@@selfryed Thus begins the happiest marriage since Marceline and Princess Bubblegum.

[@Bonefishh]

OK BUT ITS SO FUNNY HOW SHERLOCK THOUGHT JOHN WAS INTO HIM FOR A SECOND AND FELT BAD FOR SUPPOSEDLY BREAKING HIS HEART

[@emmepatr7197]

RANBOO PFP :))))))

[@theblepblop]

@@emmepatr7197 UNUS ANNUS PFP

[@emmepatr7197]

@@theblepblop MAE PFP :D

[@ravvik1402]

YOOO RANBOO PFP

[@theblepblop]

@@emmepatr7197 NSNDMDKDN SCREAMS AAAAAAA

[@poets_and_books5523]

I love how he just casually kills relationships.

[@user-2012July-A]

If the relationship is that easy to kill, was it really going to last that long to begin with?

[@nathanjereb9944]

@@user-2012July-A you make a good point there sir

[@user-2012July-A]

The way he went about it is a bit mean, but in the long run he saved his life and many others too. Since it was thought he only had three people close to him. Instead of four, perhaps. Not that he could have known that.

[@MondayTurtle]

Mood.

[@MaybePookie]

Because.. He’s an INTP (this is a joke btw. I love intps)

[@liolikesgrass]

John : Did you just get engaged to break into an office ? Sherlock : Yeah *obviously*

[@nikkidash4826]

"What else would I get engaged for?"

[@nenmaster5218]

This objectively bad Show; all taste and opion aside; it was just terrible. Written by those that have gotten objectively wrong what Mysteries are and how Detective-Stories work. Its so bizzare to me, how most have realized this and left, at least in S-4, but some just never realized... how awful the quality was. Without opinion involved, i ask: Why have you not noticed? The massive, massive problem-mountain, high like the Sky, big enough to cause Hbomberguy make a hour-long Essay about it? I mean, yeah, he goes on too long about explaining who Moffat is, but still: Even with that, it's THE Video all Sherlock-Fans need. Just skip the first 2-3 Parts and watch them at the End, that should fix the Issue with the Video. Go, Sherlock-Fans, go.

[@liolikesgrass]

@@nenmaster5218 Excuse me, when did I say I was a fan ? I watched the show a while ago, and I liked it for the persons I watched it with. It brings me back memories of those times. We used to ship Sherlock and Watson. And that’s it. So please answer my question, when did I say I liked the show ? Do you want to debate so bad that you look for fans ? It is a little too much, I don’t like how you approached me. Even if I find debates interesting, I don’t want one with you because of your comment. I feel insulted somehow. Plus I didn’t quite understand your comment, for my mother tongue is French. Your desperate need of debate on such a small show is kind of ridiculous in my opinion. And you watching videos about Sherlock Holmes from the BBC just to try and debate with fans proves how desperate you are. Thank you for your this useless comment.

[@MadMax-dp2bb]

@@nenmaster5218 thats your opinion 🤷‍♀️ i loved the show.

[@nenmaster5218]

@@MadMax-dp2bb Sorry, thats not how opinions work. They differ from facts. Dragonball Evolution, Avatar Airbender Movie, Sherlock BB, all this was what we call ‚objectively bad Quality’. You not knowing Measurements for Quality exist does not really debunk the whole world.

[@gelgography]

“literally what do the allos want” so true of him

[@anyanaylor]

I ask myself that question on the daily

[@gelgography]

@@anyanaylor 🖤🤍💜

[@Silversubs29078]

Time stamp?

[@anyanaylor]

@@Silversubs29078 3:18

[@GINSHOTGUN]

@@anyanaylor Mood

[@darklordoftheuniverse7803]

John: "Cake?" Sherlock: "Cake :)" As an Ace I can relate to this because cake is great !

[@teatime8283]

Oh now I want cake…

[@slimemold4767]

Yeah but there'll be cake, will you do it?

[@1higuchisimp852]

i want cake now

[@AlyxAesthetics]

why as an ace? there are other people who like cake 😂

[@1higuchisimp852]

@@AlyxAesthetics yeah but it's just a thing that all ace people like cake

[@micahthefish8652]

“You think she’s my girlfriend because I’m x-raying her possessions?” -> Are the Straights Okay material right there.

[@lunaponta594]

r/arethestraightsok be like: i'm shaking and crying rn

[@ranakonswa2169]

Women respresntaion in this work is the worst

[@EnderEntertain]

Do you know where to watch this show?

[@justanotherarmy7359]

That was me the entire video through Like ??? Why would you have sex just bc bridesmaid and groomsmen? Why do you just told a third person that you have a lot of sex? Why... just why speak so weirdly? Wtf

[@micahthefish8652]

@@justanotherarmy7359 is there an “are the allos ok?” Subreddit?

[@leothetransboyuu6830]

"do you have a boyfriend then?" "um-uh no?" "it's fine btw" "i know it's fine" this is why i love them both

[@violetalchemyva]

"So you've got a boyfrien-" "No."

[@darklordoftheuniverse7803]

True

[@Daesma999]

lol this conversation is everything xD

[@leothetransboyuu6830]

@@Daesma999 ikr!

[@v0id_d3m0n]

@@Daesma999 ikr i CANT😭😭

[@thelostdaisy3539]

3:14 HE IS THE EPITOME OF "Why do I have to apologize? I saw gay, so I said gay! That ain't bullying, that's an ASTITUTE OBSERVATION!"

[@Rain-bv7ts]

BYE LMAO HE ISSS

[@cockycookie1]

There's a time and a place

[@PhantomGato-v-]

I do that too lmao. People scream at me for saying the word sex so casually

[@rottenkittenparvo]

RILEY FROM BOONDOCKS

[@negan.defender]

i'm sorry but if you know someone's gay why is it bad to tell the person they're in a relationship with???

[@timeladyshayde]

it's always refreshing to find other people who see Sherlock Holmes as aroace. The obsession with sex and relationships in every fandom is very frustrating.

[@violetgirl7960]

@timeladyshayde exactly 💯 the obsession with sexual relationships is sickening

[@HelenaAlbaValdes]

People who have sex aren't obsessed with anything, we just have sex and relationships. There's no need to offend anyone.

[@timeladyshayde]

@@HelenaAlbaValdes I’m talking especially in fandoms. The vast majority of content made by fans is shipping stuff, particularly fan fiction. It’s fine to a point, but when they take what few canonically aroace characters exist and make them allo, it’s very frustrating. I have a similar problem with modern Doctor Who. The Doctor was always aroace in Classic Who, then RTD brought in the “romance” with Rose. Now all a certain section of the fandom cares about is the Doctor having a relationship with their companion. I could also go on to talk about the fetishisation of gay men and trans people by straight female fandom, and the associated hatred of female characters, but that’s a whole other argument.

[@justsomerandomname2067]

I was pretty sure everybody sees him as aroace? Or at least on the aroace spectrum? Like yes people ship him with basically everybody, but i thought it was obvious that the canon version of him is aroace

[@justsomerandomname2067]

@@timeladyshayde tbh, straight womwn fetishize gays, but straight men fetishize lesbians. Its not one sided

[@applesas942]

I feel Sherlock's frustration with the whole "romance will complete you, marriage will change you."

[@Hudaaaldin2047]

SAME WTH 🤣🤣

[@noir_wolfe1099]

I'm an allo and even I find that statement foul

[@hel2727]

​@@noir_wolfe1099you're so real for that

[@EUOTRICHOR]

screaming and crying im aroace and even if he isnt canonically aroace he is 100% coded that way and AHHHH /pos

[@shyperson3424]

Oh Spencer, I have some news for you. He IS canonically AroAce.

[@mcr4ever]

@@shyperson3424 IS HE

[@lillywerk4642]

@@shyperson3424 What?!??

[@justsomerandomname2067]

I think he is canonically aroace both in the books and in the series even if it wasnt 100% intentional

[@EUOTRICHOR]

@@shyperson3424 WHAT OML MY DAY JUST GOT BETTER AHH👹

[@leafybeefymusic]

sherlock’s point abt marriage is so true theres literally no point except for the party and tax benefits

[@anyanaylor]

I literally want to get married just so I can have a party that's all about how beautiful I am

[@r03l3ns4]

lol i know some people who are best friends and simply just married for the benefit. since they wanted to move in toghether (to help eachother with some things) and it is litterly much cheaper to live toghether as a married couple than two single people

[@tophatsurgeon7469]

@@r03l3ns4 Honestly one of the only ways I could see myself getting married; as a demiromantic ace, spending the rest of my life with one or two close friends, possibly married for tax benefits, sounds like the perfect arrangement...

[@r03l3ns4]

@@tophatsurgeon7469 yeah. It's honestly crazy how much diffrence their is between maried couples and not maried onces. From live incurance to heritance to bills and almost everything. Even your income depends on wether your married or not. And anyways if anything ever happens just make sure to put everything in contract beforehand so the divorce can go smooth.

[@mrsfahrenheit]

@@anyanaylor Facts! 🥺😍😂

[@readmachine18]

Been a long time since I've seen Sherlock, and I hadn't realized how much -Ace phobia- Aphobia was in it 😅. Like, yes, emotions and relationships are important, but stating that someone is incomplete without a *romantic* relationship is so incredibly invalidating and completely undermines the importance of friendships and family dynamics--which are *also* relationships and tend to be more enduring.

[@devinaghose9318]

I THINK, that's more of an ARO phobia instead, what would be acephobia is when people try to convince u that ur life is incomplete without Sexual attraction or having sex, and ur love for ur partner isnt real cuz you dont have sex.

[@mrsfahrenheit]

what? I don’t think it’s ace phobia or aro phobia... I’m asexual myself and I’ve never seen it like that or felt offended. John just wants to help and wants Sherlock to open up to people because in *his* understanding of the world one is incomplete without a sexual/ romantic relationship. That’s probably what most non- asexual or non- aromantic people would think just because they simply cannot imagine themselves living that way because *they* experience sexual attraction. It doesn’t have to mean they’re acephobic .. I really don’t want to talk trash about your feelings and say they don’t count but I think you’re really just overreacting in that case. I feel like a lot of people get offended SO quickly nowadays that it’s really really hard not to- and I think it’s just ridiculous. (not saying that you are ridiculous)

[@readmachine18]

@@mrsfahrenheit Sorry, I should clarify--this isn't me being like "tHe sHoW iS sO aCePhObiC aNd tHe cHaRaCtErS aRe mEaN aNd iM oFfEnDeD!" It was more just noticing a few not-ace/aro-friendly lines. Like, one does not need to have malicious intent to say something invalidating, particularly with ace people--we generally face erasure rather than persecution. So, the line where John says that if Sherlock doesn’t have a romantic relationship he will never be complete as a human being...didn't age particularly well 😅. Yes, the statement was true from John's perspective--but that doesn't make it true, and some people would find it genuinely hurtful and wind up thinking something is truly wrong with them and that they're broken. I'm fortunate enough that I was never one of these people, but having a bunch of little messages like this imbedded in media does affect others. Lol, sorry for the ramble, I do see where you're coming from, but I do think certain lines and attitudes are a bit problematic--tho not to such a degree that it impacted my personal enjoyment of the show 😊 (it just shows a lack of education on the writers/characters front because how can it "all be fine" as John says in that first episode, when being ace/aro doesn't make u a complete human being? 😉)

[@readmachine18]

@@devinaghose9318 I was including both aro and asexual in the umbrella of "ace phobia," appologies for the confusion that was born of my laziness. I only mention romance after that, so I was indeed more talking about aro phobia as u thought. Sorry about that 😅

[@devinaghose9318]

@@readmachine18 Hahaha its just that ace phobia is used for ace people only, if u wanna include both , I think A-phobia would be a better inclusive term. its cool bro.

[@nathanjereb9944]

I just really hate the way alot of these women act around him, hasn't these women ever heard of personal space or boundaries?

[@soph1.1]

From what I’ve observed, human mating rituals often include breaking into someone’s personal space. I don’t know why, but that’s apparently what they do

[@Goldendude-ls6vz]

@@soph1.1 this is exactly why i dont want to be in a relationship

[@ephemeralmiracles]

Well I also hate that the writers wrote women this way, don't know if the Ace/aro-phobia or the misogyny in it is worse.

[@nathanjereb9944]

@@ephemeralmiracles both, both is bad

[@vwolf5]

@@soph1.1 Wait, really? Like...I thought you needed to get closer and closer to someone step by step without breaking into someone's personal space. I thought It was with really close friends you don't have so much boundaries (even if some, as everyone needs their own space). This is not sarcastic, help!

[@jennya1782]

I'm aroace, and I just realized I have rejected someone in almost exactly the same words Sherlock uses with John in the Angelo's scene 🤣 his lines must have entered my subconscious

[@justsomerandomname2067]

Wait, what scene?

[@cuteghost5368]

@@justsomerandomname2067 I guess the restaurant scene, isn't Angelo like the guy that says to Sherlock that it's all free for him and 'his boyfriend'?

[@An-kw3ec]

I just thought some people were really nice, but now thinking about it there's something weird about someone insisting you to stay the night when you don't need it👁️👄👁️

[@aidanabila143]

Same, except that I laugh at the guy who confess at me. Regret that, should have rejected him in more delicate and respectful way. Sorry dude🙏🏻🙇🏻‍♀️😅

[@jasoncox7244]

really really really hate what this director did to Irene Adler. She should be Sherlock's equal, not some seductress.

[@jay8569]

I mean, she can be both.

[@hries05]

I feel like they still made her his equal, though, in her ability to outsmart him and also get under his skin, showing he had a weakness and wasn’t as all powerful and impenetrable as he thought.

[@justsomerandomname2067]

Tbh yes. I really loved this episode (it was my favourite, now i just like it). But i heard somebody saying that their irene idler is stupid and her only value is sexual, while the 100-years-ago irene adler was smart and that was her value. Which admittedly isnt good from a feministic point of view specifically, but also from any point of view generally

[@justsomerandomname2067]

@@jay8569 she can be, but unfortunately she wasn't

[@justsomerandomname2067]

@@hries05 but thats the point, it wasnt really her, it was moriarty

[@annaparke414]

"a date" "where two people who like each other, go out and have fun" "that's what I was suggesting" OK but I relate so much. Like, what is romance? What makes a date different from hanging out? It's the same general thing but different connotations

[@im_aleey]

A different set of emotions and the motivation of possible sex.

[@aneojeda]

@@im_aleey POSSIBLEE???? wtf i tought they only have dinner and then just go to their homeeeeeeeeeeeee

[@maddythegreat5194]

Have you ever thought about something or someone so much they take up your entire mind, and just feeling their presence near you makes you excited? I think that's basically the difference, it's hard to explain

[@aurthor5474]

I know right?! Like, for what? Why would you do want to do that?

[@annaparke414]

@@maddythegreat5194 I get you, and that's a good way to describe it.

[@retroforager]

when sherlock says "no" to having a girlfriend, you can see john thinking "hold up, am i on a date?"

[@squidwardfromua]

0:54

[@samthelion3925]

I always hated what this rendition of Sherlock Holmes has done with Irene Adler. In the books she was kind of just a woman that helped Sherlock realize women were capable of being just as intelligent as himself. She wasn't something he ever found sexually enticing, in fact John Watson in the books makes it very clear that he is not so sure Sherlock is capable of much in the ways of romantic/sexual bonds. But a lot of modern renditions of the classic story have made their story into some kind of star crossed love affair.

[@MissMadCherry]

I feel the same way. That's one of the reasons I prefer the Granada Series version. It stayed loyal to the books and it's really fun to watch.

[@camjakovcevich4574]

@@MissMadCherry Hell yeah! Jeremy Brett forever! It's so faithful to the books, that it's ,ligit, stunningly beautiful

[@vivilonrane1330]

not even to mention they introdiced her as a lesbian and then immediately made her fell in love with Sherlock, playing into the harmful notion that lesbians only "need to find the right guy". oof.

[@fangurks]

@@vivilonrane1330 When did they introduce her as lesbian?

[@playlistsforfandoms1841]

@@vivilonrane1330 bisexuals exist. Irene made it clear theough the whole episode that she had had relationships with plenty of powerful men as part of her job.

[@ImAPotato-]

Love Sherlock but hate how literally everyone in the show is like “if Sherlock had a romantic partner he’d be more normal” he is how he is. He doesn’t need nor does he want an romantic partner and it’s so frustrating to watch everyone in the show say stuff like thst

[@fangurks]

Well, it's lowkey realistic though. An aromantic person is often surrounded by lots of people who don't understand that they don't need a romantic partner, so I think that the show handled that quite well: People not understanding butt still accepting Sherlock, butt most importantly: Sherlock ended up still having no romantic or sexual partner, which is a good and supportive call by the writers: No matter what anyone says, this is still who Sherlock is.

[@thekodex1186]

That's kinda the point

[@kellabdjfoo]

@@fangurks i agree

[@probe-f3568]

I'm a grown up aroace and believe me, I'm questioned by the people on a daily basis about relationships, romantic partners, sex and marriage to the point where sometimes it gets unbearable. Some of my friends also jokingly say that the reason of all this is because I'm impotent which is definitely not true. :(

[@Gayredheadbitch94]

Nah he just needed John, a person to love and accept him as he is to appreciate his best qualities and call him out when he’s being an arse 😂

[@amafish]

“Romantic entanglement-“ “-will complete you as a human being” NO! I hate when people say stuff like that! You can have a perfectly happy and fulfilling life without having romantic relationships! And saying it will “complete you” implies that no one without a partner is a full person which is just ridiculous! People deserve to and should be people in their own right otherwise you’re getting into codependency which is actually far less healthy!

[@Ramen_Doodles08]

THIS

[@rowanus7159]

yess 100%

[@---kj1rl]

This

[@catboy9945]

"romantic entanglement will complete you as a human being" no, but a good loaf of garlic bread might do

[@playlistboy1378]

As a aromantic person I can argee.

[@gabic3781]

I just remembered that the actor said in an interview that he interpreted Sherlock as (aro)ace, so we can deduce Holmes is a true aroace coded character!

[@christinabeyer9298]

Yes and because some actor said it it must be true. It's only his own opinion and point of view.

[@grimbluesins7592]

@@christinabeyer9298 why are you salty about it

[@christinabeyer9298]

@@grimbluesins7592 I'm not salty about it, I meant it just as I said it and not otherwise. An actor actually confirms nothing just because he said it.

[@grimbluesins7592]

@@christinabeyer9298 i spose, didn't mean to be rude sry

[@christinabeyer9298]

@@grimbluesins7592 Not so bad. I'm not mad at you.

[@ks9759]

Me: “I dunno if I’m actually Aro-Ace….” Also Me: Relates SO HARD to this compilation Me: “Oh.”

[@annaparke414]

This is how I realised but with a queerplatonic fic

[@susannah8342]

@@annaparke414 yep, kinda me as well tbh

[@someone-re7sq]

we, the aroaces, welcome you do you want cake, or garlic bread?

[@clementine9830]

@@someone-re7sq both? Both is good

[@Alisibeth_Talia212]

Fuckin mood lmao. I've been Sherlock to so many people in the past and I'm watching this like: "Oh, I've said/done this before- Wait a minute."

[@imnotokayipromise5940]

i'm ace & greyromantic and it's always pissed me off when people try to convince me sherlock was sexually attracted to irene. i don't see it that way at all, but maybe i'm projecting onto a fictional character? idk man. personally i interpreted sherlock's actions towards irene as purely for-the-case -- i strongly, strongly believe he was NOT attracted to her in any way other than respect for her intelligence, and never will be. but people can write their fanfiction, idgaf about that, it's nice people are being creative & it's called fan-fiction for a reason. it's the trying-to-convince-me part that's annoying. Sherlock and Molly? I never saw it tbh. in the later seasons i believe Sherlock respects her a little more & maybe they're friends, but attraction? nah. completely and utterly one-sided on Molly's part. As for Sherlock and John, I think there is a love there, especially on Sherlock's side. I don't think it's sexual or romantic, but rather a deep, platonic love that keeps them together. There's clearly no one else in Sherlock's life like John, and after literally all of John's romantic relationships fail, he ends up back with Sherlock. They're always going to be in each other's orbit regardless of what happens, which is why i genuinely think Johnlock is the most realistic ship in the show -- if you remove the heterosexual lens and watch the show while taking Sherlock's aro/asexuality into account, it's clearly a love story. If anyone has any other opinions i'd love to hear them :)

[@screllin]

Well said 👏

[@vwolf5]

Honestly I think his asexuallity really showed up when he was with Irene. Even if he seem bewitched by her intelligence, that is a very different thing that being sexually attracted to someone.

[@ari_safari]

I headcanon him and John as being in a qpr 💜

[@ExtraTerrestrialDust]

Genuinely interesting to hear your thoughts :) Personally I've noticed that how I interpreted the scenes depended some on what I wanted to see? You mention a lens; I switch mine in the sense that sometimes I would like a love story, sometimes I want character development, and sometimes I focus on how I relate to the characters (obviously that changes, because you are never in the same place in life, are you? anyway). First time i definitely saw the chemistry between sherlock and irene, but the lack of it in this video is just as clear to me, and I kind of prefer this version :p But I always saw Irene as a manipulator and someone who wanted and needed control at all times, not so much a - I think someone said temptress. Like, I imagine that she goes about dressing for many of her clients the same way she does for Sherlock. Her partner knows what she means when she says battle dress, so she must use it regularly. For Molly I always loved her, she is a great, subtle character, and I always just wanted her to get what she wanted. For that reason I sometimes read into the scenes that Sherlock is falling for her or will eventually. Because you can, *if* you want to. Like in the very last episode with the coffin (trying to avoid spoilers) it is clear that she at least means a boat load to him even if it isn't romantic. But honestly, he is also very mean to her and I hope she finds better x3 Definitely agree with you on Johnlock. Very hard for me to read anything else into it, then that they are perfect partners like partners in a crime series, nothing romantic or sexual necessarily, but they will under no circumstances end up in jail without each other, they just have each others back, no discussions, no apologies, no nothing, it's not up for debate, they just do. Not stating that as fact, just my interpretation. On a side note I also love Lestrade's dynamic with Sherlock, very protective sort of dad-like. It's very sweet. He just sort of accepts that that is Sherlock and there is noting he can do about it.

[@paramath6401]

Facts ✨

[@JustaRandomIdiot]

as someone who is ace and arospec every version of sherlock holmes that ive seen i basically interpret as aroace and nothing can change my mind about him being aroace.

[@ognoggy]

Good news: he's canonically aroace

[@nikkidash4826]

@@ognoggy VICTORY

[@nuggiebug2013]

@@ognoggy WAIT WHEN WAS THIS CONFIRMED WHAT- aaaaanyways *HES OURS NOW MUAUAAHA*

[@ognoggy]

@@nuggiebug2013 In an interview about the series, Benedict stated it himself! Look it up if u wanna see

[@akiko7298]

My favorite line "you flirted with Sherlock Holmes?" "AT him, he never replies"

[@yoonahkang7384]

Irene got it

[@lilag3807]

Him not knowing the difference between a date and hanging out with a friend is the biggest proof.

[@RaidensDangoMilk]

no one: sherlock: casually destroys relationships for 3 minutes

[@thearlgrey]

I don't ship Johnlock but if Sherlock was going to have a relationship it wouldn't be with anyone else. That being said, their relationship is platonic, which is the most Sherlock seems to have had lmao, they both very much care for eachother, in a very platonic loving way while also understanding the things they dislike about eachother. I'd also like to add I think of them of as a married couple that've been together countless years. Doesnt mean they're romantically in love, they just behave and love eachother ina way so similar to old married couples

[@cockycookie1]

They basically already have a QPR, just haven't put a label on it.

[@Aly_Volf]

@@cockycookie1 aaand they have a child 😳 a whole family here

[@sychiikoi]

@@cockycookie1 oh my god,,, I have always thought this but have never seen someone else say it I am delighted right now

[@ashemcgee1558]

Watson bribing Holmes with cake on the topic of becoming a godfather is an entire mood and a half.

[@emilykristine3453]

Honestly I relate to the frustration Sherlock displays everytime he has to explain that he does not want a relationship to John because it is a conversation I have all the time with my mother who does not understand how I can be 19 and okay with not wanting to be in a relationship

[@Kirstieroffey]

That's interesting I want to say that much

[@vstro_i]

@@Kirstieroffeywhy?

[@elenepotskhishvili6718]

I like how whene Irene comes out naked, sherlock is just making eye contact.

[@koathekid8255]

And how he seems offended and confused

[@Citrine-K]

I remember watching this show when I was 16 years old. I'm asexual, and back then I was aromantic. I found these scenes incredibly disturbing. I remember watching the dominatrix episode and crying from distress. Allosexuals like to fetishize asexuals for some reason, maybe because we play "hard to get". The fanservice is basically sexual harassment and the humour is totally lost on me.

[@camjakovcevich4574]

Similar thing happened to me, so, I sympathise with you. I only had season two on hand, so I thought I could first without any big problems. That was a mistake. I was so disturbed I turned it off within the first ten minutes. Then I got season one, and after finishing that, I was loads more prepared for season two. (It didn't really help that I only figured out that I was an ace last month)

[@siregne4343]

what does allosexual mean?

[@gamingwithmini2656]

@@siregne4343 an allosexual is just a person who *does* experience sexual attraction :) (as opposed to not) its usually used more in the ace/aro community to describe people who arent ace

[@siregne4343]

@@gamingwithmini2656 thanks for explaining me!!

[@gamingwithmini2656]

@@siregne4343 any time! ^ ^

[@Iuxinterior]

i love how he’s literally like “why would i want to beg for mercy or be slapped 🤨” i agree with him tho

[@Tophattio]

0:12 i came out to my mom as aroace about a month before watching this series, and after this scene happened, she was like, "I think sherlock is kind of like you" and i have never been so happy :)

[@TheGIJew.]

just here to say that Irene and Sherlock's story was infinitely more interesting and well-done when Arthur Conan Doyle wrote it. Irene was intelligent and powerful without having to be sexualized in any way, and she actually beat Sherlock in the end. He was a bit of a misogynist until that point (always treated women he met with respect, but privately talked about how he preferred dealing with men) but after that, he realized he was wrong. It's never spelled out that Irene directly changed him, but he never complained about women again after that story. I think Irene as a dominatrix is incredibly sexist and stupid. I like this show but I hated that episode.

[@snappednecc4565]

This is personally terrifying for me, an asexual person, as I now fear the upcoming conversations with my colleagues in adulthood if they're going to be this sex driven. I mean dear god, can not a single soul think of any other meaningful conversation topics other than sex?? Let me stay a teenager, I fear adults and their weird sex. Edit: Oh my sweet cakes I let this get way too out of hand- So, for the record, I do want to say I wrote this in a very sarcastic sense. I am ace (I think), but I can handle myself when it comes to these sorts of conversations, I just meant to exaggerate the sympathy felt at the fact that people wouldn't stop talking to Sherlock about sex. (And that people are weird but anyways-) On that note, I do sincerely appreciate everyone who commented advice about these conversations and it's touching that you all wanted to help. I do hope I didn't worry all of you though, that was not my intention in the slightest. (Next time I'll make sure to put /j at the end of a comment like this)

[@bookwormgirl1852]

I've known I'm ace for two years( I'm 19 now) and the conversations don't get easier . It's better to only tell people you completely trust and feel comfortable around . And if you don't like where the conversation is headed, say it straight away and be direct.

[@vwolf5]

Well...the only thing I can suggest is try yourself to offer other topics related to hobbies or plans for the future or something that happened that was interesting for you (like, last day I baked a cheese cake). Or If they are constantly talking about sex try to cut It off in someway...this aren't the best tips but I hope It helps... I just never had that problem because my friends don't talk that much about that and because when they do I end up asking lots of questions that help me understand It better and I like the conversation.

[@justsomerandomname2067]

Im not ace but the idea that people who dont know each ither very well are having a lot of conversations about sex seems uncomfortable to me too.

[@luanagullotta6218]

If it makes you feel better, this is a slightly overwritten show to be as awkwardly funny as possible. It very rarely comes up.

[@ExtraTerrestrialDust]

I've found... and I have no idea if this is true for others... that sex comes up in conversation among adults about the same way as work, or the house, or the kids, or mortgages or... things that are exceptionally uninteresting unless you have it yourself. The topics are very common at dinners with family or friends where most within the same age group just have that in common. It's really superficial when you think about it. I mean the next level up is talking about the weather to find common ground :p Really, all of them are just topics and you can change those if you want or find groups of people with whom you share interests and you will talk about those instead :) I'm 30 now and still don't put a label on what I am unless I have to be clear, quickly (closest is ace), and I have found that teenagers talk about sex a lot because it's new, a little older you reserve the conversation to parties with alcohol, older still it stops being interesting to talk about with a larger group of people. In short, you will be just fine :) I don't know if that helped. I hope it did. Maybe I just needed to flaunt my own opinion... but I hope it helped anyway.

[@user-2012July-A]

Once, as I was trying to explain how I was ace, the person I was speaking to said that it didn't exist because sexuality is based on what you *like* and not what you dislike. I'll never forget the hollow feeling, and still to this day, it hurts on such a raw level. I don't feel included with the LGBTQ+ community, as I've been told that I don't have to suffer as they do. And I don't feel included with those who are 'straight' either. As I do not look for a companion for sexual relations. I just feel as if I'm broken and alone and worthless. Then I watch this show, and for the first time, I relate to a character. I don't see many movies where someone is not in a romantic relationship and it's OK that they aren't interested. The media portrays such things as something wrong with the person. But, I don't know how to be what other people are, in the case of wanting sex. I just don't want it. If I'm completely honest, I'm squicked out by it. It's disgusting to me, that I might have sex with another person. I'm told by men that they can change me, I'm told by women that I haven't met the right person yet. Must we desire another person to be complete? Must we have sex to be a whole person? I was born alone. And ultimately I will die alone. None can follow me through everything I have gone through, and everything that I will go through in my life. How can I be incomplete if I have always been and always will be alone? I have a few people who are my persons. Much like how a cat adopts you suddenly and it's just how life is sometimes. I love my family, but I feel distant from them. They feel things in a different way than I do. I watched this series and felt such overwhelming relief. It was completely unexpected and made me say 'oh' in surprise as if having the wind knocked out of me. If there is anyone out there who feels the same way, what you feel is valid. You are not broken for feeling this way. No one can tell you who to love or how to love them. That is something you do on your own. Your choice, not for anyone else to dictate. I hope that you know that it is ok, to be yourself. You are beautiful and precious.

[@isabellach]

Hi. I don't think I'm aroace, but I donno, and I dont exactly resonate with what you're saying but I just wanted to reply. Not sure what to say, probably just what you said at the end lol... So just wanted to say that there other people out there like that I guess. Good luck for your future. (Also your comment is so underrated)

[@user-2012July-A]

@@isabellach Thank you. I hadn't expected anyone to see the comment. But getting a reply is nice. Even if you don't resonate with what I'm saying here. Sometimes it's nice to know I'm not just shouting into the void. Take care and be well.

[@isabellach]

@@user-2012July-A yes this void can be lonely. take care too :)

[@askerror1987]

Hi, aroace here, I just wanted to let you know that we are definitely part of the LGBTQIA+ community. We don't experience alloromantic or allosexual attraction, which means we're not cishet. The 'A' in the community absolutely does not stand for 'ally'. I know that that can't take away from the exclusion that you've felt, but don't let anyone tell you that you haven't experienced queer suffering before.

[@Saga_Anserum]

People who say things like that really can't empathise, huh? Sex is def. a squick for me, so know that you're not alone in that regard. We don't really know each other, but it's nice to see someone say something we can so wholeheartedly agree with. Thank you.

[@MrRjhyt]

6:40 Sorry, I love that line, it's the _'twice'_ that makes me smile. She's a dominatrix and pulling out all the stops. Sherlock is falling for her mind, not her body. It's intriguing to me.

[@dorabukovics4337]

YES

[@Mi3ol]

Thank you, was looking for other people loving that line!

[@mlvjsaksj]

OH god, I like this comment ''for her mind'' that's what I want other people to understand, I don't think that Sherlock is a sexually repressed that wants to fucK IrEnE sO bAd, makes me sick

[@camjakovcevich4574]

Nope. I'm sorry, but I can't think of her as anything but a b*tch. And I really do, hate her. (But I really love her theme)

[@leahcooper5831]

I felt sick to my stomach whenever those scenes started, dreading the same old predictable shit-- but omg I love the actors here; he doesn't even flinch. I was actually pleased how it all turned out and it totally floored me, that NEVER happens!

[@ultimateninjaboi]

Watson always interested me in this series, in regards to Sherlocks sexuality. Cuz he really seems like he was portrayed to be accidentally phobic, in a very interesting way. Cuz while most characters were insisting on romance/intimacy being inherently important, Watson truly seemed to think it would be important for Sherlock, specifically. Like a lot of it seemed to stem from how Watson saw Sherlocks interactions with Irene Adler, and feeling that it could be good for Sherlock. Not just "romance is good, because its necessary." Not that it makes it any less of a frustrating thing to do to people. And not that it excuses it. Its still a form of phobic behavior, even if it comes from a place of well-meaning and care for the person. Its just interesting, for me, to see acephobia presented in different ways. Not just the same one-note bullshit.

[@fangurks]

Agree! People need to realize that good characters can have bad flaws that do not reflect on the show, but make them realistic. How many theoretically good people say or do harmful things on accident? Saying phobic things, for example? Besides, I wouldn't even necessarily say that Watson was phobic because he meant well. I think he asked Sherlock a lot about it because he didn't get it, and the only thing that might have been an actual problematic statement, was him stating that romantic love would complete Sherlock as a person - which was out of a place of grief, after having lost HIS romantic life, and projecting, as opposed to well-meaning.

[@leahcooper5831]

The actors are phenomenal, and the cringe of that moment is so profound and realistic it took my breath away. This IS how acephobia hits sometimes. They're trying to be helpful, and it's like getting punched in the gut. It's absolutely phobic-- they're afraid for you, afraid you'll be left "incomplete". When your best friend looks you right in the eye and basically tells you there's something deeply wrong with your nature or identity.... oof....

[@AmeliaC-e8o]

Agreed. When the show was being filmed where wasn't the word aroace so that couldn't have been used int the show so as far as John knows Sherlock could be very loney even though he isn't. He just dosen't get it, if Sherlock where to trya dn explain to him that would work but its Sherlock so thats unlikely.

[@justanothersherlockian7058]

Wow, as a newly discovered aromantic, I'm just realizing how badly Sherlock gets treated for being aro/ace. Honestly, I'm glad I am above the frivolities of romance. There's a reason for Sherlock's objectivity.

[@leahcooper5831]

He's very, very lucky that he's mostly indifferent to how people treat him, they can't hurt him most of the time. It's rough for those of us whose skins aren't that impenetrable.

[@unegirafebleue]

I hope they won’t throw him into a romantic relationship at the end and making him more “normal”. It would be horrible

[@justanothersherlockian7058]

@@unegirafebleue Not to worry, they didn't!!!

[@unegirafebleue]

@@justanothersherlockian7058 Omg yes. Now I can watch this show without worries ✨

[@ShadoeLandman]

He doesn't treat other people very well either, being dismissive of their feelings, hopes, and dreams. Sometimes he just seems to be unaware of what he's doing wrong, but other times he seems very aware, and just as unempathetic, as others are with him.

[@aleburne6654]

this is so great to see because in the original story sherlock is very very clearly written to not understand or want any relationship at all, and in the stories watson is constantly commenting on it. also irene adler is not a romantic/sexual interest at all, she is not at all a seductive criminal, and sherlock admires her because she outsmarted him and that’s the only relationship. sherlock’s aroace identity is erased in almost every adaption of sherlock (this one included) but he’s about as canonically aroace as the period can get!!!

[@penayefabienne7600]

Cos it's not sexy enough which is dumb af if you ask me.

[@juliagoodfellow7539]

God ! I hate labels

[@ryuuisnothere]

what an aroace icon, not just this sherlock, just sherlock in general

[@hannahwatermelon]

oh my god I burst out laughing at 1:40 when John said "it's all fine" and a bunch of pride flags came on the screen lmao

[@adeadparrot7733]

"It's fine btw" "I know it's fine..." "So you've got a boyfrie-" "No...👁️👁️"

[@MarioFanStrangeNew]

7:39 "It's not the end of the world, that's Mrs.Hudson." I laughed almost 5 minutes the first time he said it after one of the most uncomfortable scenes ever.😂

[@Alicia-zf3nq]

Sherlock is such a mood! I related to him a lot even before I knew I was aroace. I always shipped Sherlock and John in a QPR. Also, I love Sherlock's struggle with Molly. I feel like he cares a lot about her in a platonic way, but she's in love with him romantically and Sherlock genuinely seems to feel bad for not being able to return it. And that's very relatable.

[@SashaDisAster]

I watched sherlock when it first aired. Didn't have the chance to watch Sherlock again since then and just now stumbled upon this video. Didn't know how much i needed this. I realised i'm aro/ace quite a few years ago too. Thank you for making this.

[@monikaanna7444]

btw "poppet" isnt a seggs thing, it's just a pet name like "darling" or something. often used for little kids and stuff, but since it's to express affection sherlock is repulsed lol

[@volodymyrzelensky-ish6070]

Thanks, I didn't know that

[@meilinbarrick5558]

"Did you just get engaged to break into an office!?" ... "Yeah."

[@daniliworld1769]

As much as I love Johnlock, AroAce Sherlock will always be my favourite headcanon

[@matchapaca7121]

I'm so happy that this fandom is still alive 😭

[@gimenamercado2831]

I adore Johnlock, but Sherlock is definitely ace. Shout out to everyone who writes johnlock with asexual sherlock in Archive of our own

[@elisabethsun7059]

This comment is literally me

[@AlexAnder-ri8ns]

Sherlock: * obviously being aroace * Shippers: *No one's gonna stop me!*

[@styx66613]

We need shipping on the contrary. When the characters in the canon are a couple, but we write fan fiction about what kind of bff they are. Friendshipping.

[@KenH60109]

They've been making rule 34 art of jaiden animations, nothing stops them. I mean come on y'all jaidens fricking AROACE!

[@koathekid8255]

@@KenH60109 hwAT?

[@akirahyrule2157]

Well I could've done without that information.@@KenH60109

[@Cat-si7rg]

Ohhhhh. I just read the description. I 100% agree. _QPR's for the win!_

[@strange_game_2972]

9:41 When your teacher just scrolls through the homework to see the names that have done homework, not appreciating your 4 hours of work

[@9401maru]

I find funny how such a aro ace phobic show could give us such a absolute legend of a aro ace king

[@HeyItsNovalee]

“Literally what do the allos want” LIKE ON PERIOD 😭😭🤚

[@whalien_translations]

12.5 minutes of sherlock representing what aro/aces go through every day

[@maortheyoungcameraguy175]

Lol

[@Roadent1241]

@@maortheyoungcameraguy175 Wanna swap~?

[@playswith_squirrels]

"yeah but there'll be cake" add some garlic bread and you've got a deal (i'm questioning but cake is cake)

[@acesinger6092]

"Cake?" "Cake" AS AN ACE I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS LINE

[@maisieking7264]

Sherlock is an aroace icon

[@calsdraws6096]

It makes me kinda sad how pretty much all the characters act like somethings wrong with Sherlock for not having any kind of attraction towards anyone... Like he’d be more “normal” in a relationship, as if being in a relationship would “fix” him or something

[@nootnoot7088]

First of all, I LOVE THIS!! Sherlock as aro-ace makes him so relatable for me. All his *internally screaming in aro-ace* faces here all make me go "same bro!!!" Second of all, I hope you don't mind if I rant a bit. Honestly, one of the things I didn't like about this series is how they handled Irene Adler 😭 I really don't understand why a lot of Sherlock Holmes adaptations try to make her in love with Sherlock when that was definitely NOT the case in the original stories. Sometimes it doesn't bother me as much (Moriarty the Patriot comes to mind and the RDJ films just made me roll my eyes but it wasn't incredibly annoying). But in this series? It physically pains me, to be honest. The forced "sexual tension" between her and Sherlock just makes me want to scream every time I have to watch it. Isn't all the platonic love he has to give enough to show the audience that he's not cold-hearted? It just frustrates me how I used to love this show so much before I realized I was aro-ace only to notice there were a lot of aphobic stuff in it, especially surrounding Sherlock.

[@anyanaylor]

I totally agree. The og Irene was supposed to be so interesting to him because she was like the one person as smart as him. I do appreciate from this series though that Sherlock doesn't reciprocate her feelings. Otherwise it would be a very messy "yeah, he's mostly ace... but then he met the right person 😍" which is always so so much worse in my opinion because it's just like no. No, no, no. That's not how it works.

[@polishalastor142]

In The books he was Asexual /Aromantic

[@Pigeon0666.]

Epic

[@namelessnavnls8060]

Not AroAce here but honestly how he reacted at 10:02 is EXACTLY how I would've reacted. I mean who just _says_ that outta nowhere? Yikes O_O

[@marley2367]

Platonic or romantic, John and Sherlock are life partners

[@AmeliaC-e8o]

I think its a QPR.

[@Pamela-nl4wk]

Now that I acknowledge my asexuality, I understand why I felt related to Sherlock.

[@rallazarthemagnificent3765]

YEAH

[@gelgography]

this is so important to me you don’t understand

[@peppybreyer88]

Questioning ace rn and honestly he’s so relatable so I think I have my answer 😂 Update: Uhhh so I’m aroace

[@aliyahbentley860]

Honestly same. Thanks Sherlock 😂

[@AmeliaC-e8o]

Welcome to the club!

[@acetheist3932]

10:32 Sherlock is like "Keep your eyes and mouth shut tight it will be over in 5 seconds"

[@mariiam9312]

What I find the most poethic about all this is that they keep telling us that “maybe” if Sherlock found romance he would change for the better. But the truth is he would always remain as he is. And it ends up being that the only person he needed to feel complete while still remaining as himself was his friend, John Watson, who knew Sherlock, and always accepted him. Sometimes, all you need is a platonic relationship that gives you everything you couldn’t find anywhere else. And that’s hard as heck to find in real life

[@SirKandi]

Why would I want to have dinner if I wasn't hungry 7:17

[@skulls_edits_34]

Such a good question

[@Bailey_Alexandria]

0:58 Joh's double take after sherlock says: girlfriend no not really my area

[@tiana_andherbooks]

As an aroace, I can confirm this is where "would rather have cake" came from 😂😂

[@koathekid8255]

Now we must know where garlic bread came from

[@Ender_Onryo]

12:19. When I first saw this part in the show it definitely stuck out to me. Especially the "That doesn't even mean anything" part.

[@pumpkinoligarchy6626]

Honestly him being aroace and nd does explain my fascination with him in middle school when I didn’t know I was either of those things and identified very heavily with this man I have very little in common with

[@anyanaylor]

My friends: This character was my sexual awakening because I was attracted to them! Me: This character was my sexual awakening because I related to how they were uninterested in sex and romance and I wanted to be their friend!

[@gsjdndnndns1818]

10:51 those doe eyes who wouldnt fall for them

[@DeletedUser_0000]

When someone actually recognizes aroaces 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@MrRjhyt]

I love that he's not fazed, or interested in Mrs. Hudson's past. It's sweet.

[@SparkOfReality]

9:12 Me (an ace) whenever someone I flirt with talks about sex to me Sherlock's reaction with that sound effect just cracks me up 😂

[@kurootetsuro8581]

10:46 his face💀😂

[@MouseofMischief]

As an AroAce who loves Sherlock, I approve of this

[@SilverButterflies_33]

Cake? Cake. Never related to a statement more in my life

[@Cat-si7rg]

I love this video. Thanks for making this. I got a pretty good laugh out of this. XD

[@humanbeing4483]

i definitely think he's ace-coded because of how sex-repulsed he is, but im not sure if i would call him aro. he seems romantically adverse, not necessarily incapable of understanding or experiencing it. as he said he's married to his work, and it mostly seems like he just doesn't understand the emphasis people like john put on "romantic entanglement".

[@firewarrior9999]

Sherlock captures the extreme elements of the awkwardness of being aro and or ace perfectly.

[@trishasurangana2278]

This is what the JohnLock troopers didn't understand. To Sherlock, it just doesn't matter, he isn't wired that way. People like him exist irl and are just as human as the rest of us, but they know how to love all-consumingly (Sherlock has extraordinary affection for John, Mrs Hudson, and his family to the extend of jeopardizing his safety) and value platonic companionship

[@SarahJigglypuff]

thanks for making me feel a bit better about being aro ace ♥

[@nargizk390]

This is the best Sherlock Moments Compilation so far😂♥️

[@mariazyka3230]

sherlock is aroace in my headcanon. and he platonically loves molly and john the most.

[@lhering]

I might be a bit biased here, but I have always looked at Sherlock this way, and I could never see him any other way.

[@kveow]

Kinda scary how often people talk obsessed about sex.

[@misssupercookie2011]

Sherlock was my comfort character when I was 12-15... This was the time is started realising I was ace (and then later on aro)

[@NyxesRealms]

"Did you just get engaged to break into an office?" "Yeah."

[@mckayleem3098]

9:23 he’s literally wearing the ace flag🤣🤣🤣

[@reneperez4170]

And also Aro with the flower 😎

[@Player-p4k]

Good old days when colors were just colors

[@subbywan1422]

I honestly wish more people were as direct and uncomplicated as Sherlock.

[@Kotifilosofi]

This is pure cold. Personally relating to Sherlock on so many scenes here made it perfect, the luxury of relating to someone when it comes to the relationship discourse, is both heart-warming and extremely funny. Like, Sherlock is just one great aroace mood 😆

[@alexandros24]

I love (platonically) Sherlock and now I know is ace I just love i’m harder ❤ Is an icon !!