Shhh...Quiet Please! Reducing Verbal Stimming and Scripting in Children with Autism

[@buildingburning]

Instead of saying "reduce" the stimming, would it be more accurate to say that you're redirecting the stimming, since the amount of stimming isn't necessarily lessened, you're just substituting a more socially-acceptable stim choice?

[@inthahous87]

I'm wondering why you never got an answer on this ?

[@wallacegreen6597]

@@theautisticpage got you. She does reply to selective messages

[@tendingourgarden]

@jamz Thank you for stating this so well. So true.

[@captaincosback323]

You're still suppressing stimming either way so don't try to change the name.

[@MichelleRobert-oi2uf]

Stimming is not like neurotypical people filling boredom with doodling or social media. It is a self-soothing mechanism used to cope with stress and anxiety. Redirection or addressing the cause of the stim is appropriate, eliminating it is not.

[@JulieDeuxFois]

Clearly you just want to feel so special! Why the emphasis on aTyPiCaLs ArE jUsT CoMpLeTeLy DiFfErEnT aNd AbSoLuTeLy NoThInG nTs Do Is ReLaTaBlE😂 get a grip

[@MichelleRobert-oi2uf]

@@JulieDeuxFois wow. The ignorance and lack of compassion or even a shred of empathy in this comment....just, wow. I'm not special. I have an autistic son and have spent the last several years learning all I can from the perspective of autistic adults to better understand him. By trying to understand how he sees the world, what his behaviors mean, and how best to support him.

[@Androidfae]

I came here specifically to say this. Stimming is not even close to the equivalent of shooting a basketball or playing a violin, in many situations it can be a way to deal with stress, express emotions, comprehend extreme emotions including happiness, get out excess energy, among other reasons

[@Androidfae]

​@JulieDeuxFois ......neurotypical people are not even close to the same as people with autism. We operate at completely different levels, our brains are on completely different wavelengths and neurotypical people tend to not understand how someone with autism thinks and vice versa

[@Androidfae]

​@@MichelleRobert-oi2uf thank you for listening to what people with autism actually have to say. It means a lot and I know you're kid is very grateful to have a parent like you

[@dragontatoes]

It costs 0 dollars to be a good parent and just let your kid say something that makes them happy. Stimming does not need to be "reduced".

[@warmsunflower8156]

Yes it does, especially when it is hampering the child's progress in all areas of his/her life. It is not about being a "good parent", it's about doing what's good for your child.

[@SRoseBlog]

Yes it does. If he is screaming whole day and its being calleed verbal stimming. Its not good for all the people being disrupted. And its not good for the sleep deprived parent mental health

[@aidensorbebedefensesquad1076]

@Arielle Edwards autism speaks is a hate group

[@m.novapineros2492]

Yesss finally

[@SkatingErinsMom]

Yes, lots of issues with the video. Such as, the definitions of the range and types of behaviours, and when they are done by autistic or by allistic people. The definitions of stimming vs non-stimming. The differences and range of suggestions for allowing vs. stopping/modifying those behaviours. Ultimately, per her free brochure, it's actually about "...Reduce Minor Self-Stim Behavior...", which is not generally considered as appropriate 'therapy' for autistic people, and what autistic people say is actually harmful. The suggested therapy does not match what is described in the video. And the example in the video is a bit odd, whether the undesired behaviour is in an extended church service vs a maths class, which is like comparing apples to bicycles? Not logical. To see a different viewpoint about stimming behaviours and ABA from an autistic mom, see: neuroclastic.com/2019/03/28/invisible-abuse-aba-and-the-things-only-autistic-people-can-see/ For some interesting examples of (allowed and accepted) stimming behaviours across a diverse group of autistic people, see this video: kzbin.info/www/bejne/nXXCoqWrbteMfrM

[@sarahkim7258]

What do you do when verbal stimming is disruptive in a classroom setting? When the child with autism displaying this behaviour is disrupting the flow of a lesson affecting the rest of the class? Do you have any strategies for that? Telling the child to be quiet or stop is not conducive and the behaviour happens again.

[@marybarbera]

In general, without knowing the child, I would make sure it is the correct placement and make sure demands are not too high and there is a right level of reinforcement.

[@grokker99]

Hi, are you a teacher? my 7 yr old son is doing that in his 1st grade class and Im worried he wont be able to continue in the school

[@risingvibes5496]

Children are allowed in schools setting noise or not.. if your child has a diagnosis then it’s schools duty to provide appropriate setting for him/her to be in.

[@trishana1o1]

@@grokker99 the above commenter is right. The school district has to provide Free appropriate education for all. Perhaps he needs a different setting? Is he already a special needs program or is he in a inclusive mainstream classroom. Often times a mainstream classroom do more good than harm to kiddos on the spectrum, but sometimes it's just not the right fit. What ever the issue is I wouldn't worry that he won't be able to go to school anymore , because his school district is obligated to providing him with an education. If needs be and u think is school isn't helping him his district should help you to find an appropriate setting and shuttle him to and from their.

[@cissymarie1]

What about nap time? A kids stims loudly not allowing toddlers to nap.

[@HumbleAnJoyful]

My child talks all day long non stop even when he plays with his toys and when he is laying down for bed it's driving me batty. I'm not sure what to do it's like there is no pause

[@marybarbera]

Yes this can be common!!

[@Kubislayer12]

learn from him and him from you.

[@steph5824]

Redirect to something he likes.

[@kenyocity]

Same!!!!

[@mimikyu__-]

@@jazzmin6665 ^^^ I’m so tired of neurotypicals™️

[@badrilamsal5003]

My child is three years old. He doesn't communicate but keep on speaking what he knows.

[@marybarbera]

yes. this can be common. Check out a free workshop to learn more about my Turn Autism Around approach to help him learn to communication www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@katiekeenan5259]

@pavithra radhakrishnan Please don't seek to stop it, your child needs to do it. It is a physiological response to the over stimulation the child is going through, suppressing it is a recipe for disaster.

[@NikkiM6593]

I'm extremely stressed as my 4 year old stims vocally literally all day.. it's to the point where no distractions etc work and I actually feel I am going insane. The neighbor has started banging on the wall when she is too loud and I Haven extreme anxiety and now want to move. Her main stim is a constant "ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ah, ahhhhhh, ah, ah, ahhhhhhhhh" it's so much.. I don't know how much more I can take. Even with headphones turned up all the way to block it out I can still hear her

[@marybarbera]

I can teach you how to engage her and help build her skills up to mitigate the stimming. The more skills she has, the less she will stim like that. Join me for a free workshop (MaryBarbera.com/workshop) to learn about my toddler and preschooler course. My team and I are ready to help you!

[@nenydiaz8356]

I’m having the same issue with my toddler and he don’t understand when I tell him to whisper

[@savingday]

The stimming is reduced in a sense that it doesn't become disruptive to the activity or social settings, which in turn gives more experience to the child. She did say she doesn't try to stop stimming if it's not dangerous

[@Toungecat]

As someone on the spectrum and is noise senseative, I've had to walk away from too many "quiet autism sessions" on the account of a (very) loud stimmer being allowed in and disrupting the session with the expecation that I should just deal with it. This is why I think there should be interventions on this kind of behavior at a much younger age, not to get rid of stimming completely (I stim, I know how it is) but because sometimes if left as it is this behavior can sometimes cause alot of problems later down the road in adult life, some adult services will be forced to choose to cater to the sound senseative, or loud verbal stimmers.....because not all services can do both.

[@michelle_moran1968]

I need your help in doing my QQ level 5 in my special Needs Assistant course

[@marybarbera]

You can sign up for a free workshop here bit.ly/3GZjn7m

[@gogo-fs4wl]

I'm 23 and I still do jumping stims, I don't know know how to get rid of them or at least change it for other stims.

[@msp2965]

you don't have to. You're fine the way you are.

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

Let them out don’t suppress them if u feel it coming in in public pull out you’re phone act like u opened a text then jump if anybody gives u dirty looks tell them u got some good news and it’s not their business

[@katiekeenan5259]

You can't change it, you're not meant to! If you focus on changing that, your body will find another way to express that excess energy/stimuli. You don't have to adapt to the world, we need to work to make the world itself more inclusive.

[@skinnytip35]

lol cringe tiktok self diagnosers

[@connesuir]

i keep vocal stimming like i do it unconsciously and its hard to resist not vocal stimming. I don't know how to stop, my parents get angry at me for doing this and calls it "mannerisms" they call all my stimms mannerisms and i just want to be able to stop.

[@marybarbera]

Free workshop that can help you: bit.ly/3GZjn7m

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

Stoping stimming when stimming reduces stress and by making it unwanted and forcing the kids that do it to stop is sending the signal that there true authentic self is unwanted instead of accepting them as they are 🤦🏻‍♀️ I do agree with stopping it to a degree (volume) in a public place once there teens/adults but still letting them be free to stim full blown at home

[@lifewithjimmy4389]

How about when your child verbally stems at 2 AM in the morning and won’t stop for several hours grunting humming spinning. How much can parents take? I’ve developed a nervous twitch now response to my sons Stimming.

[@marybarbera]

This might help: marybarbera.com/stimming/

[@lipsan6041]

My son is 18months old. He walks on toe tips, does hand flapping, verbal stiming sounds like hummm, has not yet started talking, gets irritated and throws his toys. However, he responds to his name, socially active and plays with other children, has a social smile and eye contact too. I am too nervous and worried thinking of these as symptoms of autism.i can't move out due to Covid n I want to evaluate if he has autism or not. Please kindly suggest

[@marybarbera]

It sounds like he may have some red flags. Regardless of if it is autism or not there are things you can do while you wait for an assessment. Check out my new book turnautismaround.com which can help even before a diagnosis.

[@lipsan6041]

@@marybarbera thank you for replying. Can speech delay lead to stiming? I mean does stiming always mean autism?

[@zoekirk1848]

@@lipsan6041 Not inherently. Neurotypical people stim too. Tapping your fingers because you're feeling impatient or twisting your hair to calm yourself down might be a stim.

[@mashellyildirim2619]

I live in a apartment complex where the walls are thin and you can hear everything the neighbors are doing pretty much, my newly 2 year old son constantly screams and throws tantrums... I really don’t need my neighbors to call the authorities because of his vocal stims. What can I do? I need help ASAP

[@marybarbera]

That sounds very difficult. Take my free autism quiz to get access to my workshops www.marybarbera.com/quiz

[@LindsayW138]

@@navyblue9355 that's not what she asked.

[@luke2017]

@@LindsayW138 she asked what can I do? It was a valid response.

[@captaincosback323]

Those boomers can get over it, be you.

[@Quantumlabrinth]

@@captaincosback323 I love how you pretend all vocal stimming makes the autistic child happy and that it’s disruptions are not an issue. Children with autism can turn to vocal stimming in stressful situations and be very disruptive in many situations. Turning your child toward more productive or less disruptive stims is a very good thing IF you do it THE RIGHT WAY.

[@lynnrichards1516]

Where is the link? Thanks for advice but need more support

[@kamakshi58]

I hardly ever write comments let alone critical ones. But I haven’t seen one useful tip on this channel. It’s mostly just information on what it is but I am yet to see practical tips to help our children. In that case please don’t call the video “reducing verbal stimming” for more clicks. It’s always one video leading to another but leaving parents with no answers. It’s always click on the next video for tips!!

[@jdskfhsjd]

I'm a pretty loud vocal stimmer but i try to reduce how much noise im making and turn to physical stims instead if i can, i really don't want to disrupt anyone in like a library or somehting.

[@marybarbera]

thanks for sharing

[@Anna-md4dv]

nice will wood

[@captaincosback323]

They can get over it, you be who God created you to be.

[@DarkAngel-cj6sx]

Is stemming the same as talking loudly and non stop? That is what my 3.5 years old does all day and it is sad to see. If feel like his brain is exhausted because he doesn't stop no matter how much I try to engage him. Some days are better than others

[@marybarbera]

this can be vocal stimming, yep!

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

Could he have ADHD

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

That can cause excess talking and hyper activity also poor concentration

[@victorias5983]

Thanks 🙏

[@marybarbera]

You’re welcome 😊

[@swatidhondiyal7789]

my son keeps singing rhymes, he is verbal with 1 word speech..pls guide how to help him with language

[@marybarbera]

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[@simplydee2567]

Is singing a stiming because my son is driving me crazy. He doing remote learning but is singing all the time while teacher is teaching. I don't know how he is learning if he's singing all the time.

[@marybarbera]

It can be a form of stim , yes!

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

I bet he’s still listening I used to crochet in class but was listening 100% and got straight As to the teachers it actually helped me focus my hands were busy and I’d be looking at it but my ears were fully in what the teacher was saying and what page to turn to until ABA then I stoped being interested in crafting all together even though it wasn’t directly targeted that I’m aware of but I know they wanted me to bake instead 😕 I’d do it in public to I think it was socially inappropriate and it was extinguished so I’d appear more “normal” because “normal” people don’t crochet a small baby blanket while waiting for food in a restaurant Stoped that ABA crap and refuse to ever do it again I’ve slowly been trying to crochet again but now I’m to picky with detail it gets frustrating having to re do it over and over then I get fed up and stressed when I used to love it and it calmed me pre aba my work was better to and I never needed to re do it 😕

[@jxrbyns]

poor child :(

[@FruityHappiness9]

My son is 5 and non verbal. His verbal stimming is extremely loud and hurts our ears. Its driving us crazy...what to do? :(

[@marybarbera]

It is likely best to find ways to engage him and build skills. I talk about how to do that in my online courses. Check out a free workshop here www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@cg9236]

you should have thought about that before having kids. Don’t stop them from stimming because you can’t handle it, learn to deal. You’re a parent now.

[@LindsayW138]

You cant dismiss them and say "deal with it" when they're here asking for help and advice. Dont be such an asshole.

[@LindsayW138]

@@cg9236 you're being rude.

[@Africanpunkrocker]

@@LindsayW138 I was just about to say how rude she is being. I kept seeing her comments. Just because a parent is overwhelmed with their child's stimming behavior doesn't mean that they were not ready to be parents.

[@IronSwordRBLX]

I'm autistic and I hate my voice myself. I have managed to get friends and have gotten over weird interests like logos and focus and do well in school but I still sound autistic!!! I listen to myself singing in recordings and it sucks.

[@marybarbera]

Thanks for sharing.

[@RafaelHernandez-zz2jm]

Join choir at school , there you will learn to sing better and meet new friends .

[@captaincosback323]

If you sing for stimming then maybe you can take singing lessons to sound better so it won't be that much of a disturbance.

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

Seriously u forced yourself to stop a harmless interest just because it’s socially awkward logos sound like a cool interest actually and u could still try getting into them again and then it into a career or designing logos for companies It’s ok to be autistic u actually have autism myself I used to crochet everywhere and collect matchbox cars until I was semi forced into ABA then I lost interest in those things even though nothing was directly discussed they wanted me to bake instead and forced socialization with the neighbors even though I have social anxiety and it made me cringe I only did it when the therapist came over I feel like my creativity was extinguished and I regret getting rid of some of the cars I did that I used to cherish now I no longer do ABA 😔 one cool thing is I’m slowly SLOWLY getting myself to craft and crochet again but now when I do it it causes stress and isn’t calming anymore I’m to picky with detail and I hardly do it when it actually used to calm me down and was relaxing (pre ABA) 😔😕 I’m someone that thinks it’s borderline brainwashing but it does have some benifits as long as stimming/HARMLESS socially inappropriate behaviors isn’t being extinguished

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

I hate hearing my own voice especially in recordings it makes me cringe I don’t think it’s an autism thing though

[@carlaiveglia5488]

My daughter is 20 watches KZbin videos non stop and engages in verbal stiming for hours on end. She screams non stop and gets violent when we try to re direct her or stop it. Its affecting my other children. Also affects my husband and i. I'm at my witts end. Its not a few minutes it carries on for hours. She is fully verbal as well. Not sure what to do to have a peaceful home.

[@marybarbera]

That sounds quite challenging! Can you get a local BCBA to your home to help? That would be the best way to get support.

[@carlaiveglia5488]

@@marybarbera BCBA? What is that? Once they become adults its tough to access supports. I will have to find something soon. Thx

[@marybarbera]

a behavior analyst. contacting your local autism society can help for locating services.

[@captaincosback323]

There is probably an emotional reasoning for the violence, I can list some alternatives to ABA and you can decide which of those would be a good fit for your child.

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

ME ME ME I’m the same I do it all day long and have a hard time putting down my phone I wish I could break my phone addiction but it’s going to be tough as Fk 😩😖 Depending on how much she understands u might want to let her know it’s helping her break the addiction and that phone addiction is just as bad as D addiction and will RUIN her eyes like I’ve done to mine I never needed glasses but now I’ve been having a severe phone addiction for a few years now I do and my eyesight is getting worse and I can get withdrawal when I put my phone down Also it’s wrecked my sleep it’s now 2:35am I’m tired but I’m struggling to put it down and go to bed 🤦🏻‍♀️ Go easy then slowly let her have less and less time each week until her addiction is broke also see if she’d be interested in doing a hobby there’s TONS of videos on all sorts of crafts she could try The violence is her acting out taking her object of addiction away id probably be that way to if I was suddenly restricted and had my phone taken away but one thing that gets to me is being told to get off the phone or repeatedly being told how long I’ve been on it See if doing the break reminders could work there’s ways to do it on KZbin if she has an account also with the phone it’s self u could set alarms every hour so she’s aware of how long she’s been on (tried this and I shut them all off and it became autopilot to click ignore but I’m thinking of trying again then being strict with myself to actually take a break when the “take a break” reminders go off)

[@tvngelv9091]

I think my 2 year old might be autistic but I’m a stay at home mom and his stimming is this loud whiny squeal , it drives me insane because I’m literally with him 24/7 and he does it almost all day 🥺

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for sharing this!

[@tvngelv9091]

@jamz ummm everybody needs to vent sometimes I don’t see the problem … you say that like he’ll be venting about my parenting skills when I’m a very good mother . All I’m saying is that he makes a very loud squealing noise

[@tvngelv9091]

@jamz so you decided I’m a bad mom because of a KZbin comment and not because you know me in real life 🥴 I’m here for him 24/7 and he’s well taken care of . And instead of judging a person thru a KZbin comment , maybe educate me on how I should stimulate him . This stuff is new to me these things have just started happening a few months ago

[@tvngelv9091]

@jamz idk why I’m even replying to someone I’m another state that doesn’t even know me as a mom 😂 what’s important is that me and my kids are good , you’re just an irrelevant KZbin comment . Bye

[@lauraclifford4474]

Where are your recommendations that you mentioned in video?

[@marybarbera]

Here's the information that (I think!) you're looking for: marybarbera.com/reducing-vocal-stimming-scripting-children-autism/

[@chinwenduonyebuashi5412]

Thank you so much for this. How do l teach my six year old son some learning skills. In addition, your teaching on how to reduce verbal stimming seem not to be too clear

[@marybarbera]

My online courses can help you teach him and keep him engaged (to reduce stimming and other problem behaviors). If you're interested, join me for a free workshop at www.marybarbera.com/workshops.

[@Anna-md4dv]

let him stim.

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

Turn learning into a game somehow

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

Don’t stop the stimming he’ll grow up thinking his true self is wrong and unwanted I think with time he may get embarrassed and stop himself or try making them quieter U could see if he could try humming instead of screaming in public combined with calming activities (removing him from the triggering environment until he’s calm) but let him do it normally at home

[@brianrogers1907]

So I was wanting to know if I can call you to get some advice and go over some of these problems and see how we can get him to start talking thank you

[@marybarbera]

I don't do one to one consultations anymore but my online courses go into this much more in depth and i do monthly live calls with members there. Learn more at www.marybarbera.com/workshops

[@DarkAngel-cj6sx]

Oh my 3.5 years son does this all day until he goes to bed. So sad to see

[@latoshacrunk6974]

Thank you for the help! Unfortunately I do not see the link. Is it available?

[@victoriayoung8529]

Love your videos! My little guy is 2 1/2 and is just starting to vocally stim, we believe, when things are too much or he's in a different environment. He communicates pretty well and his language and speech are great! We try to not tell him to be quiet or say Shhh, but he can get pretty loud at times. Can vocal stims be less disruptive/reduced when language is more developed? I'm hoping he can tell us that he is nervous or that he's uncomfortable instead of vocally stimming

[@marybarbera]

In general, as his communication skills improve, stimming decreases. Here's my guide on stimming and scripting: marybarbera.com/reducing-vocal-stimming-scripting-children-autism/

[@kalyasaify]

I'm autistic. let him stim ^^

[@yasmeenkhan8193]

My daughter is 6 years old. She was diagnosed with autism at the age of 2 and 1/2 . She has recovered miraculously in just few years with the help of therapies. But the only thing which is not going is her self talking. Please suggest me something which can help her.

[@marybarbera]

Great job on getting your daughter to make big gains! I'd recommend watching one of my free workshops. marybarbera.com/workshops . Pick the option for parents of older kids!

[@yasmeenkhan8193]

Thank you.m

[@malamurthy2935]

Hi yasmeen what r the therapies are useful? From which therapy ur daighter recovered? Plzz reply i have same problem with 2.7 months old son..

[@sherialam1414]

yasmeen khan plz share

[@malamurthy2935]

Hi could u plz reply??

[@blueberrydiw8340]

The amount of people taking this negatively. I’m on the spectrum and Sensitive to noise, and if someone would make constant noise around me I’ll get anxiety.

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for telling us!

[@danclown]

@jamz don't worry guys jamz lives in bizzaro world not the real world where everyone gets treated exactly the same all of the time! They just spew nonsense and don't realize that autistic people have to conform to some degree of social norms to be accepted. If they can't it's not the publics fault for pushing back and telling them their behavior is unacceptable. Jamz just doesn't get it...sad!

[@danclown]

@jamz wow you are really crazy. Still just replying with the same nonsense. It's just hilarious that what you are accusing me of is exactly how people would describe you. Sorry you don't like people not bending over backwards to accommodate autistic people being rude in public.

[@inthahous87]

Is it true that gluten free diets can help this behaviour?

[@marybarbera]

For some children, possibly. Usually taking data helps to see if it's working.

[@inthahous87]

@@marybarbera okay thanks

[@mint1114]

No.

[@inthahous87]

@@creepyeevee thanks so its not true

[@howtowithelizabeth7513]

No but it’s worth trying Incase they have an unknown gluten allergy I don’t think it affects behavior I believe that’s just a fad diet

[@tanyastagg1402]

I just want some peace!

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching. I hope you may find my free workshop helpful in finding peace . marybarbera.com/workshops

[@jaquelyncalmes6909]

I can relate!! That can only come from you! Acceptance is key,doing what you can right now,not worrying,meditate,music,praying,and respite!! “The Power of Now” and “A New Earth”,has really helped me tremendously!! I realized it was me that needed something more than them,you can’t help anyone if you’re not present,living in this moment,that’s all we really have,now,this moment!! I found you try everything that doesn’t harm them,organic,natural medicines,diet,and get out and enjoy nature,being outside,being grateful,it’s a lesson and a blessing! If you don’t like reading,KZbin,listen to Elkhart Tolle,anyone who feeds your spirit,your soul.❤️

[@alexbrindal1180]

@@jaquelyncalmes6909 Hi Jaquelyn. I just read "acceptance is key" and HAD to reply. That is sooo true. Learning to cope with my 9 year old son's stimming (verbal, vocal and motor) has been a challenge (he's been doing it since about 18 months, as far as I can understand) but trying to work out WHAT to do about it has been even harder! I've asked so many "experts", only to realise that, I as a parent, AM the expert (at least in part, and only for my child). I was lucky enough to attend a free pilot course for parents with autistic kids based on "Circle of Security"., which emphasises this kind of approach. It sounds like you don't really need it anymore, but if you DO feel challenged by your ability to cope with parenting your child, google away. :) Also, just watched an awesome Utube clip on verbal/vocal stimming, from a young adult autistic's person's perspective: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jXalaKF9q6-nbas. (@Mary, hope you are OK with this post & thanks for your advice too!)

[@m.novapineros2492]

Fvck off

[@peanutbutterbaby9]

If you signed up to be a parent, peace isn't part of the deal. Grow up.

[@buildingburning]

Also thanks for the helpful and informative videos :)

[@noni-ayannagobern-roach3118]

I never heard this before (approach) and realized this same thing. Usually I am told to let my child "free reign to stim" but if it affects his ability to learn or work etc., I do not want to do so. My other children love the Ps4 and it makes them happy, but if it affects their grades, I have to put restraints on how often they do it. Stimming is the same to me. My son must learn time and place for it or at least ways to still function throughout the day while it happens. My son,15, was flapping with a flapper constantly and it was even used as a reward in between lessons at school. He became so angry when it was time to put it down and it eventually generalized to other activities and transitioning. (like to eat dinner, brush teeth etc...) It even was really hard to take it away to switch from one activity to the next or not take to certain places. We replaced the stim activity with other fun functional activities he enjoyed and not only did his attention improve greatly over the summer, so did his ability to socialize with others and learn new things. Once school started and stimming was utilized once again as a reward and downtime, his attention once again decreased as did his compliance/behaviors returned. I agree with this. I am thankful for this video and will definitely read the free download. Thank you.

[@marybarbera]

Thank you for watching and sharing your experience.

[@lyndonleedalee1738]

Do not stop your child from stimming. Stimming is not a prize. It's something autistic people NEED to do to function.

[@jacks2222]

At what cost to your child..you will never know how cruel that is or how it's truly affecting him.

[@mimikyu__-]

this is so infuriating.. I’m so *tired*

[@mint1114]

Stimming is not a fucking prize