Shocking Facts How American Kids are Raised

[@JinxedPinks]

Totally agree about calling by names part here in USA. We don’t call by names in Asia. It’s a big part of our Asian culture which now I realize that it teaches how to respect our elders and seniors.

[@NMYusof82]

Thank You so much to Kumaar Family .. Notification replying on email sent by me. Quite interesting video hari ini.. Satu lagi jacket Liverpool gempak nampak...maklum lah 7 goals 😅

[@AmayHamidi]

Next episode, what’s Rachel shock about Malaysian culture 😅

[@KumaarFamily]

Good idea!

[@arunrajan2073]

Uncle Roger woulda shouted why are you making our ancestors cry? if he watched Rachel not washing the rice😂😂😂

[@metteravn4465]

I do not agree with sleep training. I think you teach your children to not have trust in their parents. Crying is a child's way of communicating and by letting them cry by themself you teach them that there is no help and support from the parents. They learn that there is no reason to ask for help, the world is a lonely place. I have always felt that if parents find their own needs more important than their kids, maybe they should get a dog instead. But hey... I'm not psychiatrist... I might be wrong. 😆

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

I couldn't agree more! Just stay single if you only care about your own goals!

[@silverfox3800]

They will feel abandoned.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

@@silverfox3800 Making babies and then, abandoning them straight away? They're the monsters!

[@graciethebest113]

when?

[@themanslaughter4250]

You are damn right. But in my mind you are psychiatrist. Lol

[@Quasiproton]

I Great video! I 100% disagree with sleep training and have raised all my children cuddling them to sleep :) I think it builds a special bond and also when they are so young they aren't able to tell you so many things, and you can sense it if your child is unwell or needs the toilet only if you are slept next to them. I typically noticed a lack of a connection between parents and children among western folks-- if you can't cuddle your own children to sleep then who will?! It is a small gesture but it builds affection and fosters a sense of security and trust towards the whole world.. if we all met a child's needs while they were growing up we would have kids with fewer behavioural issues! I still cuddle my younger kids to bed (nearly 5 years old!). They toilet trained early, especially at night, and I attribute sleeping alongside them to this. I wholeheartedly agree with allowing children to feed themselves.

[@jessicap7287]

Even time out is not the recommended anymore! It’s a consequence to fit the action mostly and understanding the emotion that led to the misbehavior.

[@juliatrejo865]

I think you guys need to make some regional allowances in these videos. You’re using a very broad brush to paint ‘America’, but America is so culturally diverse- the South, the Midwest, the West, the Northern states. Like spanking usually not being done? Not so in the South, bud. Less so now, as you say with further education , but traditionally yes, they do spank. Also, in the South, you call adults ‘Sir’ and ‘Ma’am’, and close family friends *may be Ms./Mrs./Mr. So-and-so.

[@TheWBWoman]

I did not do sleep training with my kids. They slept in a crib next to my bed or in my bed until they were old enough to sleep on their own at around 3-4 years old. I followed Dr Sears Attachment style parenting. Making a baby cry at bedtime felt too cruel to me. My kids turned out as great responsible smart young adults. Not judging this couple as they seem like amazing parents just want to say that sleep training is very divisive in the USA and there are as many parents against it as for it.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

How noble...

[@secrets.295]

I don't see it as cruel. It's a type of discipline, like putting them on a timeout. They might cry their eyes out but u need to train them to follow the rules. The world is tough, crying is part of life.

[@katk3381]

I have no regrets of them sleeping close to us. It felt natural and wholesome. They never cried when they went to preschool or anywhere. My neighbor who does the sleep training has her kids clinging to her for attention and they cry to go to preschool. So sad.

[@rusiripeiris5801]

I think Americans ( children ) usually hanging out on weekends, right? But in asia (sri lanka) we have so many extra classes on weekends 🥲😂, weekends are the busiest 🤧

[@bobafett5757]

*Honestly its depressing for any kids to go through that gun drill but it is what it is and may the angels always protecting school childrens of all ages*

[@RebeccaEvans]

Washing your hands more often makes sense. Washing your entire body and hair every day is probably less healthy and for many disrupts the oil and protective layers if the skin.

[@paulafowler5099]

As an Italian mother/grandmother, I totally relate to the Asian parenting philosophy....I agree 100%. No sleep training for us....kids slept in our bed whenever they wanted to and they stopped on their own. Easy peasy!! Like you said, our children are babies for such a short period of time, and I always wanted to have as much cuddle time and one on one time as possible. I feel the same way about my grandchild.

[@nidheeshkumar6760]

😊i used to sleep on chest of my father until i am 6 years old after that i started sleeping on my own 😂 but funny part is no one want to sleep beside i have habit of kicking people in my sleep

[@gilblyte8531]

In 1980, in Italy, my mother used to keep my sister on a leash. My sister didn't want to take my mom's hand and ran away. To prevent her from getting hit by a car or in the sea, the solution was simple, buy a leash!

[@KumaarFamily]

Yeap, better safe than sorry 👍

[@biswajitdey3061]

In India we send our kiddos to summer camp every year,,, and regarding day care we are staying with our parents , and like America we don't need to get the appointment from our parents for a simple dinner

[@calvinfoo]

When I was 5, I walk to my kindergarten by myself on the second day after first day my mum brought me there. I told my mum I can walk there by myself. It was just three rows away from my house, just about 300m away. Probably it's not okay now was too many cars and kidnappers

[@jessicap7287]

I’ve seen more leashes in Asia - China and HK! (Where a lived for a while) - For example! Didn’t even know they existed back home in USA!

[@ashl1749]

Im pretty sure most of whom disagree about sleep training has got almost ZERO clue on what sleep training is all about, a baby’s sleep cycle, sleep asssociations, awake time, etc. so to conclude that American adults are selfish is wrong. Also, sleep training is not just leaving your baby to cry to sleep. There are so many ways you can support/ “train” your baby to sleep which doesn’t require them to cry until they sleep.. Sleep for a child is so so important and we’re talking about RESTORATIVE sleep here, it aids in development and growth(list is not exhaustive) Well, at the end of the day, it is really up to the parents on what they choose to do, so if sleeping in the same room, or co-sleeping (ie sharing same bed; sleeping in the middle;) and risking problems like SIDS, or putting the baby in a “boi boi” , and risking baby falling off it, is what the parents are comfortable doing, then go ahead :) after all, it’s a risk that they’re willing to take.. Those are just 2 examples of what some Malaysian parents will do. Not generalising but we have to admit we do hear of these stories.. But otherwise, if the parents understands the effects of a good quality sleep, then yes sleep “training” is the way to go. PS: you can sleep train a baby in the same room as you, just in their own cot.

[@roshianderson]

My husband and I are also in an “Indian American marriage” so I guess it’s called lol my family is actually from the Fiji islands and I was born and raised in the states. It’s always interesting when people wonder why there are Indian in Malaysia, Fiji, Trinidad and Tobago etc you guys are doing great we also try to incorporate both cultures ❤

[@kkiiization]

Didn’t do sleep training for my kid, she slept through the night by 18 months as that’s when she was weaned. Before that she would wake up once to feed and go back to sleep. We believe that sleep is a natural instinct and nobody needs to be trained to sleep 😊

[@ifaalyana]

Sleep training can be executed in balance between two cultures. Find the best suit you. Proper sharing with the kids like telling them they will be sleep in separate room once settled cuddling and telling that they are safe in there as you all at same home safely. Yes telling them even they can speak yet. The body need to know that both parents loves them and they are safe. That’s my POV. Else, we do sleep training like at 3yrs old, then they start sleep at their own room. And separate girl vs boy rooms too.

[@calvinfoo]

when I was kid 40 years ago: I always sleep alone in my room as long as I remember. I don't remember I ever sleep with my mum. I was scared to sleep alone if I watched any haunted movies, not after once I watched a Hong Kong haunted comedy which the ghost is friendly and funny. I eat by myself too. My mum feed me only if I'm playing running everywhere nonstop. I'll be screamed to the dining table to finish the food before play And yes, I'm born in Malaysia

[@KumaarFamily]

Hong Kong ghost movies was a thing back then! 😅

[@calvinfoo]

@@KumaarFamily yes. This hongkies vampire are so funny. Just hold your breath and you are safe from any attack

[@kumarasamyhariharan1564]

We are working parents , and we live in a different state to our families here in Malaysia.. So i feel sleep training is good, we need the time to actually do other important things. But we do slightly different, we do follow them to their bed, once they are asleep we leave them to be. It works too. 100% agreed with feed training.

[@sapodilla25]

In India also we use the kid leash but it's not because the kid is a "pet", it's because you don't want them to run away. The bags that kids wear ard quite cute and come with a long belt you can hold and keep track of your child. It's not such a bad thing if you would rather keep your child safe than let them run around in public. And I ask my young students to use my first name but I feel odd to call my partner's parents by their names 😂

[@alifnajmi1997]

Dari My own Personal opinion, Tak kira la *"How (insert Countries name here) to Raised a Kid"* Kalau Our Own Kids boleh jadi Well Mannered dengan semua orang, tak kira adik beradik, Mak Ayah & Saudara Mara dan Keluarga kedua dua belah

[@KumaarFamily]

Absolutely!

[@Jetro-lunch]

Yes, just like Logesh and Rachel

[@mehrunraje6692]

Lolzz spanking is banned and shooting is allowed 🤣🤣

[@isaac-cy5zc]

About the leashes, if that was the case in other cultures they 'll be the first to scream "PRIMITIVE".

[@yaowsers77]

my mom used to threaten us in chinese to the point where my brother refused to let go of her shirt bottom and it drove her crazy so we didn't have that problem. in a crowded place and especially if your little one is a runner and just takes off or refuses to hold hands or doesn't follow directions (which is a lot of today's kids), the "leash" allows them the sense of freedom while keeping them safe. it's all fun and games until you lose your kid.

[@kloebl10]

Here in Hawai'i we call everyone auntie and uncle too out of respect and we don't call adults by their first name.

[@audreychoong7323]

Yes, you are correct, spanking or caned is common as a discipline in Asia. Less so nowadays but I believe canning is still done in schools in Singapore as a form of discipline. We believe in the saying “spare the rod, spoil the child”. In Asian, everyone (immediate family and relatives) can discipline your child if he/ she did something wrong. Everyone pitch in. And, the grandparents help out in taking care of the child such as bringing them to schools, taking the child out for food , etc , when the parents are not free to do so. Sometimes, the aunties and cousins of the parents help out too. I think this has to do with Asian being a closely knitted family. We often choose to live near our parents and / or immediate relatives so that we can help each other out.

[@shantalynn]

As a 61-year-old woman who was raised by an Indian father and American mother, in America, I agree 100% with the Asians on most of the points in this video (except the universal discipline vs parents) and I believe many other Americans who do *not* have Asian parents also might agree with many of the "Asian" principles as well.

[@priUtube]

As a Tamilian.... he truly reflects what we think....

[@valentinanongthombam3810]

Is he tamilian??

[@yazhineekm2519]

​@@valentinanongthombam3810 i think he's a Malaysian national with mother tongue Tamil. Many Tamil families are in Malaysia, generation by generation. I confirmed when he said "Aiyoo"😅 it's a very very common word.

[@AuntyJack123]

I'm Australian and we do sleep training here too well not everyone does it but it's not unusual. I wouldn't live in a state/country where kids have training about guns coming into school.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

This is why I want to marry an American Muslim girl, so I can take her to my country Malaysia!

[@sedally1060]

I love grand pa and grand ma chilling with the kids. Trust me the kids will appreciate that later in life.Emotionally also very good for the family in general.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

But in my case, I would rather let my (soon-to-be) children bond with their grandparents (both from my side and my (soon-to-be) American wife's side) during the festive season only, because I choose to work as an ambulance driver under Malaysian Ministry of Health!

[@AMin-zn1br]

Sleep training is a good thing if you are a single mom or the dad is busy at work but if both parents are present it's best to spend time with their kids. However even single mom in Asia usually sleep with their children. We also don't train them to eat by themselves. I still spoonfeed by baby cousins who are 3 years old. Sometimes it's annoying but other times when I am in a good mood I love it. They are so adorable. Kids in Asia usually learn things by themselves when they are 10. Some friends of mine are surprised I learned how to cook at a young age. Of course my mom did not teach as she was always worried I might mess things up lol. But my grandma who is more experienced in life and who has 7 kids taught me and believed I could do it. I really love my grandma . She taught me all of the life skills to survive. My mom on the other hand is way too overprective and doesn't have the patience. If I was solely raised by mom I would never learn anything. My father on the other hand just likes buying me stuffs and is usually working. He is just like that lol but I love both of my parents. They never abandoned me and raised me and put a roof over my head. So I am really grateful.

[@kloebl10]

Multi generations here in Hawai'i households too and raise the kids.

[@kristi1189]

American here. Sleep training is terrible. Betrayal of trust. Children feel abandoned. American adults are selfish. Taking care of guns/toys much more they are taking care their kids.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

But the worst parenting is implementing both sleep training (American) and spanking (Asian) at the same time!

[@mariesahota1478]

In the Punjab India, kids GO around homes asking for sweets ON Lohri

[@jeffpro8]

In Dominican Republic where my family is from it is also normal to spank a child when they miss behave. It is also common throughout the Caribbean and Latin America as well.

[@sofiansulaiman4308]

"Time Out" is not a good way to discipline a child. It will create "A REBEL" attitude. My brother-in-law had been practising it 30 years ago. For me, it is a very bad way to discipline a child.

[@marylee9706]

I practised sleep training, potty trained at 6mths. Other than these, i brought up my kids the asian way, little bit of spanking, lots of communication.

[@parvathyponniah4591]

I really hate to see people use lease for children like bring a dog for a walk

[@Oilofmercy]

The guns omgs I'm watching tjis after what happened this week in Nashville so depressing . Makes me want to move out of the usa

[@JcfernJcfern]

Malaysian here n hv been following ur goodselves for a long time.... Good insights to Asian and American ways... Best part....take the best of each culture n create ur own boundaries... But one fact for sure...Asian ways of giving a lot of time to children...bathing,cooking,teaching abc,rocking them to sleep ,is what cements the kids love n trust to their parents for life.... A son is a son...be it..at 5,18,35,50 years old And a doter is a princess a sister even after her marriage... No messing with my DOTER OR SISTER....😂

[@bobafett5757]

*Luv this episode its so insightful and educative*

[@hufjournallife7218]

Dating by 15 years old already in usa and also independent and leave from parent by 18 in usa ….. Malaysia wait for work hard and stay with parent so funny

[@kesiganc3532]

Why would I wanna change something that’s intrinsically part of America culture it is a violent place and I am proud of the second amendment to protect myself

[@studywithtihani8987]

in my opinion,uncle,i think from ages 0 - 8 ,parents should sleep with their kids cause when kids are below the age of nine,their trust and bond with their parents will be close. my mom is always like BRING THE KIDS!I MISS THEM!!!

[@helgaioannidis9365]

Counselor here. Co-sleeping has a beneficial effect on children's mental but also physical health (of course only if the parents don't smoke or get intoxicated). Research has found that the levels of cortisol in children that sleep alone are significantly higher during the day than those of children that sleep with other family members. Cortisol is a hormone we produce when under stress and prolonged high levels of it in our blood are harmful for our health in many ways and has a negative effect on our cognitive functions. It's also a know fact that babies who sleep in their own room have a higher risk of sudden infant death than babies that share their room with their parents. In many Western countries culture promotes for children to be sleep trained, especially in countries with a predominantly protestant population (due to prudish beliefs that sharing a bed with a person always leads to sexual activities). Now fun fact: ifyou work as a counselor you constantly get approached at kid's birthday parties or school activities by parents who secretly tell you their children sleep with the parents and that the parents don't know what to do about it, because when they try to make their children sleep alone their children suffer so obviously and nobody in the house get enough sleep. So there's also a lot of lying going on by parents about where their children really sleep. I personally have also thought about co-sleeping of one possible factor (between many others) of Asian children having better academic achievements.

[@imawarrior4527]

In india we call everyone uncle auntie 😊

[@cherylcheongchoonyin9516]

I am from Malaysia and 20 odd years ago I did use leash on my hyper boy and was viewed as harsh. People looked at me oddly but I brushed them aside. Safety first.

[@awiefhana1616]

i teach my boys sleep by himself at age 7yo.. haha.. i am traditional kind of mom..

[@myenani]

En. Logesh, I don't think it's weird for children to collect candies from strangers, considering that kids in Malaysia do the same to collect duit raya

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

Collect money to buy trending toys...

[@kloebl10]

I never had active shooter drills when I was going to school. That's a more recent thing sadly. Awful

[@jessicap7287]

I am American and do not agree with sleep training. Sleep training is not biologically normal. We even bed share!

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

I couldn't agree more... And if only I was your age, I would've married you straight away!

[@ashalatha5048]

Sleep training is most crucial. One of main reason in US, teenagers leaving their parents after age of 18, they do not much memories with parents 24 X 7 n mentally this dirupts n they r leaving. This is also one reason.many r also not with grand parents. Certainly this a mental health issue also in US n this shooting in School is an mental health problem n not approved of keeping the gun

[@garyt7232]

My wife is Malaysian and I was born in the States. My in-laws brought a sarong when our first child was born. New to me, but if memory served my two kids enjoyed being rocked to sleep. Enjoyed the differences vlog.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

But your Malaysian wife is in USA, right? I don't think she deserves to go through strict confinement like most Malaysian mothers do whenever they give birth! It's just my opinion...

[@sharanyavijayan328]

So true I agree with all your points. As an Indian, we have felt the same. Halloween we haven't sent them for trick or treating up to certain ages then they wanted to join their friends we are ok with it. Eating habits I agree with Americans. Very interesting video.

[@jessicap7287]

Halloween has roots in an old Irish pagan celebration! Quite an interesting history-worth a read!

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

To be very honest with you, we Malaysians don't celebrate Halloween but we do have abandoned houses for you to visit on every Halloween! We uphold the spirit of "Malaysian Hospitality" in our daily lives!

[@trle964]

I just say "thank you sir/ma'am" when referring to an adult

[@ssg2037]

Informative and entertaining! 👍

[@lilianchan4111]

Very true about using names instead of titles. My in-laws were surprised that I didn’t know the names of my relatives. I’ve just never called them by their names or heard their names.

[@poladelarosa8399]

In Mexico, kids as young as 3 know at least 30 names of their extended family, each name consisting of three parts minimally: Given name, patronymic surname, and mother's maiden name. However, kids will address relatives by their kinship titles, and all other adults by Señor, Señora or Señorita, excepting family servants or help. The hierarchy is built into the language as well.

[@LolliMolly09]

Sleep training versus co-sleeping has been a huge debate for years and years in the US. There are pros and cons to both.

[@katk3381]

Sleeping: I would say that your wife is not the majority of Americans. We have lived in many US states and in many countries. Majority of people we surround ourselves with here in the USA are more into health food, attachment parenting, co-sleeping, etc. These are (& we are) also professionals with advanced education. I read lots of Drs Sears books (The Baby Book, The Sleep Book, etc.) My husband and I discussed that majority of the world, for millions of years, co-slept with their children in one room. We had a co-sleeper and toddler beds in our bedroom. Actually having them in our room saved one of their lives. You get creative and go to other rooms for one-on-one time with your spouse. It was fun albeit exhausting. 😉 Food in US: yes, there is good and bad food. Majority of schools serve very bad lunches in the USA and parents are overworked to cook a lot. Maybe I'm wrong but perhaps Rachel's parents didn't have time to teach her the art and joys of cooking. My husband is Malay-Indian but he lived all over the world, I'm European and have also lived in many countries so our kids enjoy many ethnic foods from around the world. If our kids ask for tacos, we use buffalo/bison meat, or organic beef/chicken, organic seasonings, lots of organic beans, grilled veggies, we make fresh guac, salsa, etc. We do buy organic ready to cook tortillas or roti from Costco (that's our cheat). My husband will make more of the Asian dishes while I make more European dishes such as schnitzels, stuffed cabbage rolls, pickle soup, etc. We do make enough to freeze or reheat during the busy week. Lately we have really enjoyed making Mediterranean Bowls. They are super healthy and fun to make plus eat. It's a hit with all of our kiddos friends. We have cut down on rice and empty carbs (gasp) that way. As for pots and pans, we use stainless steel, copper, iron skillets. Even our rice cooker is stainless steel inside. I don't allow metal or plastic stirring utensils in the pots/pans. (Metal utensils scratch your non-stick coatings which are toxic and release into your delicious foods, also high heat is bad for the coatings, and don't get me started on using anything plastic. Our reusable water bottles are stainless steel.) Speaking of guns/active shooter training at schools. There are crazies everywhere. In countries where guns are not legal, people use knives and other sharp objects. Somewhere in Asia there was a guy who was an ex cop and he went to the school to kill his wife and he also killed a bunch of children/other adults too? My dad has been in the Merchant Marines and all over the world, in his line of work there were some very scary situations too. He always told me that bad guys will always have guns/weapons no matter what the gun laws are. He appreciated the right to own a gun in the USA and he taught me how to use guns for self protection at a very young age. We also took martial arts together. (Our family does Krav Maga.) I was heartbroken that kids practice at schools for an active shooter but there are people with mental health issues everywhere. Speaking of schools, food, and the education system in the USA. We actually started hybrid-schooling 6 years ago because our kids were not challenged enough. The no-child left behind focuses on the "behind" children but ignores the children who are extremely bored. Anyway, hybrid schooling allowed us to join a co-op/group of other hybrid-schooling/homeschooling families. There were about 500 kiddos (roughly 300 families). The refreshing part was that these parents made healthy lunches! Yay! We had ~25-30 field trips to pick from, park days every Tuesday, ton of clubs: gardening, hiking, Robotics, Odyssey of the Mind, Future City competition, book clubs, rock climbing, art, etc, etc. It wasn't so one size fits all. Our kiddos also were able to start local dual-credit college courses. There was a 10 year old doing calc the year our eldest enrolled at 13. (56k students among the 7 campuses and 10k of the students are dual credit.) There is a math and science center not far from us that kids can take courses based of ability/readiness rather than age. When our eldest was doing high school physics, there were 11 students as young as 12 and all the way to 18. The parents and their children steer the learning path. It's not so one size fits most. You might really like to check out Drs Sears books and website. (Yes, Drs...it's a family of them. We love their books on sleeping, eating healthy, attachment parenting, best behaved, etc. They live in your state.) Best of luck! We've enjoyed your shorts and videos. My hubby is definitely not in the FOB category since he's lived around the world growing up but there are still many aspects that we can relate to in your videos. Potty training we did at 18 months thanks to our super American midwife! Discipline was more of talking, taking away fun activities, etc. Unfortunately both of our sets of parents lived far away from us so I took a hiatus from my career instead of daycare or nanny. For summers we did a combination of vacation and some camps. Each winter we also did a ski trip. Bathing: we bathe/shower every night. Keeps the sheets/bedding cleaner, provides better sleep, and both partners are clean/fresh in the event the mood hits them. (My mom taught me that one. It's better for marriage and intimacy to bathe at night, twice. 😉) Also, if you wake up late in the morning but you showered the night before then you can just fix your hair, brush your teeth, and go. Praising, again that was a combination of praise and discuss room for improvement. Our goal was for them to strive for more and make them accountable for how much they achieve and be proud of themselves, not seek outside for validation. This can be started at a very young age. ”Wow, your practice of letter writing is amazing. (Focus is on the effort & time.) Which is your favorite letter to write? Which letters need more practice to be better? I bet of you put a little more time then your letters will improve more and you will also write faster." (win-win-win) Cheers!

[@mscha22msha3]

Daycare in Asia is getting increasingly common nowadays, especially where working hours are long in Asia corporate roles and parents are not able to help out due to elderly age etc. I live in KL and most of my peers take care of their babies via daycare or external help instead of getting family or in laws to watch the child.

[@mdedal]

I'm Asian (Filipino) married to an American white man. I agree with all of this. Sometimes it's difficult. But because we live here in the U.S. (Sacramento), I feel that I've had to adjust to the American style more than he had to adjust to the Asian style.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

That's good! Since you live in your husband's country, it's best that you follow that country's way of life...

[@charmsurprise]

have 2 older teens: 17, 19. We sleep trained our girls. They did just fine and were perfectly able to, and happy to go to sleep on time when young...ie from 7h30 to 8h30 depending on their age. We did have early dinners, and a bedtime story every night (either in our bed or on the couch) then they would happily peacefully go to bed. Even today, if they are tired and able to take the time, have no problem to take a nap, or go to bed at a reasonable hour at night...by say, 10 at the latest generally. Also, I potty trained both girls by two as well, with zero problem. We also gave consequences for inappropriate behavior as well as praises as earned. We did NOT send our kids to daycare, instead we chose for me to stay home and be with our little people until they started 1st grade. Camp- only one child went to camp and not until she was 15. and she did love it. We don't celebrate halloween. ehh...no loss.

[@charmsurprise]

side note. my mom was a camp cook during 5 of my young years and I personally grew up somewhat as a little wild child with a run of the camps...ymca camps, CA. But I just have trouble being that trustworthy with strangers and my kids today. We have such a small window of influence of children that we wanted to hang out with our kids and create our own adventures with them when they were small.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

I don't celebrate Halloween too! It's very nonsense!

[@leenarashid]

I grew up with a bedtime and did the same with my children. It was heartbreaking at first but it was much easier as they got into toddlerhood. They learned and fed themselves on the highchair soonest.They were toilet trained by the time they went to Nursery. Nothing quite captures both respect and familiarity we accord our multi-racial elders with "Aunty"/ "Uncle". Daily bath - must do at least once a day lah. So glad to see you cook and eat real wholesome food.

[@Rayvn7]

So basically the Malaysian guy thinks exactly what almost all Americans think about parents who put leashes on children, generally wondering how this is not illegal. While Rachel has absolutely no idea how Americans view child-leashes.

[@emmabennett7699]

I'm in high school, and the other day, we had a hard lockdown due to suspect of a gun on campus. The SWAT team came into the rooms and everything. It was terrible.

[@szewei85]

Are you in Nashville? Hope you still alive now.

[@emmabennett7699]

@@szewei85 I'm in Las Vegas. And yes I'm still alive lol

[@szewei85]

@@emmabennett7699 haha thks👏👏

[@SU-II]

Co-sleeping until they're at least 1.5 years old. This is not much different than breast feeding and bottle feeding

[@surinameworshipthelordwith9054]

I think that kn colder countries children stay longer in diapers than in warmer countries. But two year looks like a gokd age two pottytrain a child.

[@priyakheterpal5818]

No sleep training. Kids grow way too fast and then they want their space. That's why Asian kids are close to their parents.

[@pusparani5131]

A very good video and educational too. I totally agree to sleep training the kids though i was not happy in the beginning. My daughter has sleep trained her kids and it has alot of advantages. We learnt this skill from Rachel. Thanks Rachel

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

So, you're the mother of Logesh? How noble... 😇

[@OneMongolian]

In my country we also have access to fresh food and i love it! Personaly i don't sleep train my kids, they usually sleep with us until a certain age. And they had no problem to sleep on their on later. Thank you so much for the interesting video!

[@zoram671]

Yea, in Kolkata new market i once saw a white man looking like a beggar and then I called him uncle because i didn't know how to address him and he answered me..i am not your uncle. I was so furious a almost punch him.

[@ingridbresch920]

My kids have food allergies. We go tri k or treating together and then donate to a non for profit organization

[@kloebl10]

I grew up sleeping with my brother and mom in the same bed. So I'm used to family sleeping together. At least when we were very young. Definitely a Cultural thing.

[@letitiadominic2504]

It’s not common for parents in Malaysia to use leash for their kids but there are parents that do. When I was a teenager I was shopping in Mid-valley when I saw a Chinese lady using a leash for her child.

[@ahmadazfar6518]

Make video about how asian vs american raise their kids until teen

[@profetalks6307]

I think sleep training is a good thing but my wife doesn't think so. I think it's because when I was a young child my parents trained my elder brother and I to sleep in a bedroom that's separate from theirs. It is not common but some parents in Asia practice sleep training. However, my wife doesn't believe in it and our son slept in the same room with us till he was 12 years old. When he reached 13, I insisted that he should have his own bedroom.

[@tinateh]

Sleep training: I think we don’t have the luxury of having so many rooms for kids to sleep on their own especially when the extended family stays with you as it was when I was growing up. With younger parents having their own homes, they might do sleep training especially for their first born. Like when my brother was born, he slept with my parents and I went to sleep with my grandmother and aunt. Discipline: We don’t discipline other people’s children anymore. This is because younger parents are more sensitive so now we just talk behind their backs if their kids don’t have manners and are rude. We just don’t warm up to their kids compared to those who have manners. Parents with better EQs should know what to do, they don’t need us to tell them actually. Calling elders: depends on the family like my siblings don’t call by hierarchy but we still call our elders by their hierarchical titles if we know it. In Chinese culture, the title tells the paternal from the maternal, and how we are related. The family tree is a living one. Unfortunately the naming convention has gone to rot for most in Malaysia and Singapore so that we have lost that connection further down each generation. Taiwanese Chinese still practice the naming convention by generations. Leash: depends on the child. If he or she is a terror, I might use a leash. If the kid was like me and my siblings, obedient as heck, I wouldn’t need a leash to keep them in check. Still, you can never let your guard down and whatever works has to be the option. For eg. I almost followed a stranger as a toddler because I was delirious from fever and I thought I was following my mum. it was the cabby who alerted my mum that I was wandering off. Drills: this reminds me of parents who don’t teach their children skills that can protect them from harm or save their lives because they didn’t want the child to live in fear or to lose their innocence. They are not doing their kids any favour because you just cannot be present 24/7. It is irresponsible to leave your children defenseless. Not teaching them skills or imparting a plan to them, doesn’t make them any less anxious either.

[@ninjanerdstudent6937]

I was bathed everyday, as a child. I bathe at least once per day as an adult.

[@TinaMarie94]

Baby's can sleep with their parents. If age 7 above practice sleep on their own

[@sasmitasubudhi8478]

In our araa in India most of the people even have never seen the real gun . Me also 1 of them.

[@marylee9706]

O yes i hv used the harness a couple of times at crowded places

[@Sandra-qs1mi]

I'm an elderly woman and I can tell you the 'leash' or as we called it, the 'harness' was a life saver. My children knew no danger nor met a stranger so the leash was the only way we could take them out anywhere. I do remember one woman saying to me I was treating my children 'like a dog'. My reply was 'at least I know where my children are'. And the sooner they were toilet trained, the better. Life became much easier and less costly.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

Let them say whatever they want! Chances are they probably treat their own children like strangers... Oh, and since the leash is a lifesaver, you should encourage your (now grown-up) children to use it on their children...

[@Oilofmercy]

I agree, totally normal in Europe as is the play pen ( put your kids inside a mesh play pit they can't get out , give mama a break lol)

[@Er.Praveenraj]

Is my singing voice that bad ❤

[@sowjichini]

and thats how i end up being an AB Kid's CD mom

[@cheryll8008]

There are pros & cons guys. No right or wrong.

[@ariesjade]

We do have bangles for mother and kid linked together by a elastic string. I wouldn't call it a leash but it seems to work well. Oh and being asian when we're given people's first name we'll probably add a title in front, eg uncle/aunty/bro/sis before their actual name. I feel like sleep training is good, but it's harder to monitor the kids even with things like cctv. Babies are prone to sids and they might stop breatjing if they're not positioned the right way or if the face is covered with a blanket... I'm not entirely sure of the whole info and how big until the babies are okay to sleep without monitoring them. Some people say its better for them to sleep in their own crib in the parents' room while others prefer to sleep on the same bed so they can be easily monitored, but sleeping on the same bed also have it's risks. Also, stop with building armoured hiding place in school, just bann/restrict the guns already. Nowadays many kids in malaysia are raised by what we called 爱的教育 which directly translate to education of love, where they build the kids up instead of tearing them down like 90's kids experienced, and there's no more rotan in school. We had parents complaining on the teachers because the kids lie about little things like getting scolded just to get back at the teachers. Like really, bad childrens rule in school now, and unless their parents are nice and open with rotan culture, you can't do much without more complains and just hope your boss backs you up for disciplining kids. We do have camps in Malaysia, but its more of a weekend thing or just 3 days camp, not like a long stay thing.

[@TinaMarie94]

Love this couple ❤️ Sweet

[@Life_in_London]

Don't believe in sleep training

[@salinamdnoor603]

Parents send their kids to daycare at early age. Later their kids will send their parents to homecare. What comes around goes around. 😅

[@kloebl10]

We do trick or treating. That's normal here.

[@croswellianprincess3590]

It isn’t hard to cook rice perfect every single time. Get a pot with a good fitting lid and it’s a breeze.

[@taishamikell1438]

Generally speaking you’re describing white American culture. Many of the Asian cultural norms you described are also common in Black American families.

[@canadianwildlifeservice8883]

Understandable that wanting to sleep next to your kids to cuddle, but doing this is the U.S. is a no-no. In the U.S. there is a media-fed fear of "sudden infant death syndrome" where babies and young children can die unexpectedly while sleeping with a parent, so most infants are taught to sleep in a crib from birth.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

I see... But well, we Malaysian parents are so used to the idea of not letting our children gain "total independence" even after they get married...

[@sherryr1222]

Lol. I still have trouble calling my mother-in-law and father-in-law Aunty and Uncle. And we never did sleep training in the way you mean. We stayed together 6 months in our room, 6 months staying in his room then gradually worked our way out. Did it take longer…yes. Does our child fall asleep on his own in less than 5 minutes every night now…yes. And as a Canadian….the idea of active shooter drills for children is horrifying.

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

If they're your mom-in-law and dad-in-law, it's best to call them "mom and dad" like you do with your own parents... 😇

[@strike5133]

Sleep training is absolutely bad worst ooo my gosh I'm not getting proper word to Express the extent of worse ..... that's the age our babies are growing in that age leaving kids alone did lots of psychological damage in that age kids needs parents touch more ... they feel secure comfortable and will get tight sleep in co sleeping ..... yes sleeping is good but not for that age if once they become bigger they will eventually know about it u don't need to give training for it .....instead of arguing eachother have a look on researches did on sleeping training and you peoples know about the damage apart from silly advantages which you have mentioned

[@madkhaliqfarhan]

But "Mae Zee" said that kids will eventually become adults and leave their parents to live their own lives, so sleep training is good!