I'm 34 and i still sh. This isn't just a teen issue.
@awilson529110 ай бұрын
have a look at DBT, when you feel the urge coming, grab some icecubes and squeeze x lots of love to you you are not alone x
@Sewer.dwelling.rat.8 ай бұрын
Have you personally tried to get help? I’m not trying to force a random you to get help but I’m just asking because 17 and I’ve been sh’ing since I was 13 and I’ve been saving up for therapy recently cuz I wanna get help but my friends keep telling me how useless therapy is and I just wanna know if ur 35 and therapy failed you like everyone else I know. Is there really no hope with recovery?
@toxicbangbang8 ай бұрын
@Sewer.dwelling.rat. i have been in and out of therapy for a long time. But more and more time goes between incidents. I recommend reading, or listening to on audible, Atomic Habits by James Clear. It really put into perspective how small changes really add up. I've been sh free for over 8 months.
@frooitbunch13093 ай бұрын
@@Sewer.dwelling.rat. recovery is a long and bumpy road, there will be pits and forks in it, but all you need to do is stay on it, no matter how many times it may seem impossible. Relapse is a part of it too, and that is okay!
@dinarose51132 жыл бұрын
i also struugle with self harm, for me this is a coping mechanism, which i feel like its helping me but in reality its adversely affecting my health, both physical and mental. I also deal with suicidal thoughts and even acted upon them but i failed, dont really have hope to hang on anymore, slef harm is an escape for me
@gwenythking29312 жыл бұрын
Hey, I know everyone one says "Oh it will get better" and I know that's hard to believe some times. Even I can admit I don't think it will. Let me ask you something, have you ever seen a person write a nice comment on a vent?( Only of ok with). That shows that at least one person in the world cares. Meaning there is someone waiting for you to come into their life and will guide you and lead you to happiness.
@dinarose51132 жыл бұрын
@@gwenythking2931 i know but i dont really see a future, like i dont have any hope that things will work out because i know they wont because there is no solid solution to it and about people coming into your life and guiding you, i dont think that to be true because people leave, always or they just get tierd of u when you want to talk and u feel like a burden and then end up alone and the cycle repeats so yes
@gwenythking29312 жыл бұрын
@@dinarose5113 Well, I really hope your doing Ok, and I'm happy you're still here. I know if you don't get the love you deserve than it's hard to give out the same love. But all that matters is that your still here and things might change if if you don't think so. Think, a race against the fastest people on earth, it would be quite hard but not impossible if you trained and tried you're best. From a random stranger who wishes you the best❤️
@dinarose51132 жыл бұрын
@@gwenythking2931 i rally appreciate all your effort and support and its so kind of you to offer support and help
@gwenythking29312 жыл бұрын
@@dinarose5113 Ok, well best of luck❤️
@amyloft31592 жыл бұрын
I am in full relapse and don’t know any other way and I don’t regret it and have missed it in its absence. It is the only way I know I am alive.
@godschildcolahtpg15862 жыл бұрын
Pray 🙏🏾✝️❤🙌🏾
@6100uprizer03332 жыл бұрын
I wish I could say that I cared enough about myself to find out if I’d ever recover from any of this
@inthelife17752 жыл бұрын
Self harm is my coping mechanism because I don't like drugs. My whole family has like weed or nicotine or just cigarettes to help them cope but they all get super mad at me saying it isn't a healthy way of coping. We always end with a fight because they are doing unhealthy stuff as well to cope. My mom always told me it's just embaressing and makes her look like a bad mom when people see my scars. I will never listen to someone who has unhealthy coping that tells me to stop my unhealthy coping. It's my life like but I've started to get better with the help of my friends who have healed through there bad coping which is nice because they understand the struggle
@zero-pb5vu2 жыл бұрын
Dont listen to your family they are all wrong you are right
@godschildcolahtpg15862 жыл бұрын
Pray 🙏🏾✝️❤🙌🏾
@marcellemccalla632511 ай бұрын
You're right. What they are doing is no better. But because it's legal or considered a social activity they can feel a false sense of superiority. I'm happy you can recognize the hypocrisy and not let them put their issues on you
@godschildcolahtpg15862 жыл бұрын
I self harm and can't find the reason or reasons why I do it. I hear voices, so I get frustrated and tend to scratch myself. It be a cry out for help, love, care and affection, gentleness. I'm not sure. I'm not even sure if I will stop. I mean with God I might, but still I'm not sure. Its like I don't know what to say because I don't remember much.
@ayeayesailor15 күн бұрын
Dissociative identity disorder? Symptoms are hearing voices and memory loss.
@Plumsouffle3 жыл бұрын
Incredibly helpful, thank you. A very difficult subject for some of us to communicate or understand.
@davidpetruccetti936 Жыл бұрын
I'm 44 this year and I still selfharm because of a bad past and resent things that has happened in my life. I don't know how to stop.
@siyavasdev14542 жыл бұрын
i have been struggling with depression for a few months now i really want help but i’m too afraid to talk to my parents. i have self harmed a lot and made my self bleed. my parents saw my scars and asked if i had been self harming. i lied to them and told them i scratched myself on a fence. i recently starting cutting again on my thigh and i can’t stop. i really need help.
@godschildcolahtpg15862 жыл бұрын
Pray 🙏🏾✝️❤
@Vanilla914592 жыл бұрын
I think you should confront your parents about this, it can lead to serious issues. I myself am a self harmer so I know how you feel.
@sapphire72522 жыл бұрын
You are not alone;
@sosig83322 жыл бұрын
self harm is like punching a wall but silent.
@__heartbeat__2635 Жыл бұрын
For me its a sympathy gaining way And i feel like if I do it more I will get more love and care ! Also i feel relief and feel like a new me after every single cut I've been telling myself not to do it Its just light cuts and I don't do it ofen but but i don't wanna do it Today was my last that's what I say always! But I'm healing so today was actually my last cut 🐣
@blablahhh171 Жыл бұрын
I hope u r doing well
@Preppysarahh17 Жыл бұрын
l hope god makes it easier for u to recover
@apexyl5135 Жыл бұрын
I want to talk but I can’t. I feel like it’s cruel to subject someone to my bullshit when I don’t want to stop it.
@SmokeThaChronic11 ай бұрын
I'm going on 38 and I just relapsed last night and feeling like it tonight too. Was like 3 years clean
@tamiedrawsss Жыл бұрын
I wanna know why would you self harm if the wounds hurt? I am trying to understand as my little sister is depressed and has started self harm. Am lost of words and we wanna help her but she seems carefree. Someone please help me
@3mpainoot23mpainoot2 Жыл бұрын
When someone feels too much emotional pain and stress, some might turn to self-harm to express emotional pain through physical pain, self-harmming is a coping method and feeling pain makes one feel that they are in control of their emotions. I'm sorry that your sister is going through this, it must be hard for all of you. Hope she gets better. If you have more questions feel free to ask. I can help ❤
@tamiedrawsss Жыл бұрын
@@3mpainoot23mpainoot2 thanks for replying. She is doing better now actually. we are considering getting her a therapist as well. she said the cause for this are the bullies at her school. even though she has stop self-harming, I am still worried as she makes jokes of doing it again.
@dravengraves86 Жыл бұрын
Im 40 and i still 😢suffer
@blablahhh171 Жыл бұрын
My best friend asked me about my self harming and I told him but after that he started distancing himself from me and said I haven't done it if I really cared about him I miss him I said sorry thousand times but he didn't forgive me
@funnynickname1126 Жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Hope things are better for you.
@franceshaggitt31047 ай бұрын
Anyone hit head
@sosig83322 жыл бұрын
"like" "yeah" "like" "yeah" "makes sense" "yeah" dont use these words when talking about mental illness, its very disingenuous.