Should You "Disappear" Before 2025 To Reinvent Yourself? | Cal Newport

[@jenniferroy6288]

I’ve been reading your books since 2006. My family and I appreciate you and your work!

[@philnull]

I'm doing this unintentionally, or intentionally depending on how you look at it. I'm not trying to disappear, but I am avoiding the upkeep of an online persona so that I can grow my real self rather than my ego. Social media is very time consuming, it's not a real depiction of me, it encourages pursuing highlight moments rather than long term accomplishments, and even with the purest intentions it makes my more narcissistic and opinionated.

[@tresnamaro]

Haven't watched the video but I'll just say that I disappeared when lockdown first happened. Ghosted all my friends and deleted my entire online presence with zero explanation initially as somewhat of a joke but then I just went with it because I became a new person. I have new social media accounts but they're for hobbies and interests, not for socializing. Haven't met my old friends in almost 5 years and don't intend on meeting them at all. They were bad influences anyway. But it does mean I need to go incognito when I'm out and about in the city (only in venues and times where I have a chance of bumping into them) to avoid awkward encounters. I don't mind because I don't intend on staying in this city for long and I find going around with a "disguise" (glasses, cap, mask) fun and humorous, but doing a "hard" disappearance like I did means any encounter is bound to be awkward and so I try my best to not be seen. It might not suit your personality or circumstances so perhaps a "softer", more gradual disappearance is what you should consider.

[@huntsail3727]

Happy Thanksgiving! I purchased and read "Slow Productivity". Hoping to find new and/or expanded ideas here.

[@blunderlab]

Disconnecting from social media is not disappearing. It’s shocking that some people live as if it is.

[@biegebythesea6775]

The dissapear culture didn't start with online culture. The origin of this obviously comes from monks but it also became a thing amongst people who wanted to learn a specific skill, especially learning a musical instrument. It comes from Robert Johnson vanishing then returning as an amazing guitar player. Disappearing to become better is a common trope for people in their 20s especially. I had to do it socially as I was a joke amongst my friends so I sought out 'better' people.

[@fedpredev]

I am doing preacher curls while listening to the podcast.. those that count?!

[@2sancap]

6:19 it is not just young men’s spaces who attract the vitriol of the internet trolls, parents and moms groups are just as hateful.

[@2sancap]

I agree on not engaging with people you’ve never met in real life. It makes the interactions so much more pleasant.

[@2sancap]

17:51 bluesky is just a censored Twitter for people who don’t like free speech. Twitter is fun in small doses as long as you don’t spend too much time on it. James Woods’ posts alone make it worth popping in occasionally

[@dinmavric5504]

@@2sancap Get a grip, you go to it you're spammed by bots, or Nazi propaganda. There's a reason why it's lost 80% of its value and no one wants to advertise there, it's because it's a shit fest. Free speech hahaahahahah

[@jesseengland456]

I wonder' what Cal's thoughts on Reddit?

[@16semiquavers]

he talks about it in the first 20 minutes, he basically says not to use it

[@biegebythesea6775]

@@16semiquavers wow really?

[@THELASTMESSAGE1]

Can you make another vid for 4 months to trnasform your life vid. Because i dont have a clear blueprint.

[@16semiquavers]

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[@kengenhanma]

Its fascinating that hardly anyone has heard of the book Unveiling Your Hidden Potential. I believe it was banned but I recently saw that it has been returned

[@JamesBond-mq7pd]

This comment is fully marketing. Do not fall for it.

[@fluestergefuehle]

So now we know they don't read our comments. :D

[@mrwilson.1]

Any way you can summarize your videos down to 20min? The titles are always interesting. I'm sure you'll reach more viewers that way

[@jacksbas]

Respectfully, if you're asking this of Cal, I don't think you're fully understanding his perspective. I encourage that you read some of his written works.

[@16semiquavers]

The main topic is in the first 20ish minutes, the rest is just answering questions! It's the whole podcast episode

[@method341]

Agreed, I respect this guy but he is not very concise for a professor.

[@HarshDeep61034]

Exactly, i always avoid his videos just because of their length.

[@pjmaas106]

Wow the laziness / instant gratification is crazy.

[@Drarkiee]

Bro build a whole studio just to mix on Eris 3.5 speakers 😭

[@vinikush]

1 hour of video is a long time brother, compress these videos

[@16semiquavers]

the main topic is in the first 20-30 minutes, the rest is answering questions

[@biegebythesea6775]

no

[@vinikush]

@@biegebythesea6775 waste of time

[@foothillsservice]

You do realize this is a podcast. It’s literally under the title. Available everywhere podcasts also exist. Good Sir I really hope you haven’t been just sitting here staring into Cal’s soul for hours at a time.

[@adityak935]

They do post short excerpts from the podcast from time to time.

[@duskrider8817]

what in manosphere bs is this thumbnail, do young women not need this or what?

[@gsammyyy]

@@duskrider8817 ikr. I have seen most of the motivational content are presented in a way that it makes me feel, is it really that the only female who needs it is me or what. There is hardly any female content creators i have come across in such a field. Would you recommend me some if you know?

[@duskrider8817]

@@gsammyyy this is the only podcast on this topic I listen to... hope someone else answers bc I'm curious now too hehe

[@Thanatossssx]

well, do you see teenage girls liking posts about the "winter arc" shit? no right lol

[@MrSggurcs]

I mean maybe not, but I'm nagged to listen to women voices for "enrichment" regardless of being a man.

[@biegebythesea6775]

oh yeh that's annoying.happened once before as well.

[@brigittekrause3944]

I am gonna be honest, the shift of content is a little confusing. Targeting "young men" is 1. misleading 2. Don't women count for this content? We are half of the population after all. Please don't go down the routine of the whole toxic manosphere. We've got enough white men talking about that already.

[@biegebythesea6775]

Cal isn't a toxic man (far from it) but I'm guessing most of his new viewers are male (as opposed to those of us who followed him decades back) so he is focused on that. He (like most people who make content) is probably deeply unaware that most 'hot topics' are actually from the manosphere.

[@starliteinn5397]

Women get 90 minutes of bonus productivity by not watching this

[@MrSggurcs]

Not being the center of attention was just too much for your "oppressed" class, wasn't it?

[@biegebythesea6775]

​@@MrSggurcs psycho. what a load of misogynistic bs. if you think women want to be 'the centre of attention' you're deluded. if you think all women get attention you're extremely deluded. Just because you pay attention to women like an incel doesn't mean we're looking for it.

[@AlinaProbably]

@@MrSggurcs What are you on about?

[@starliteinn5397]

@@MrSggurcs you seem grumpy lol. Listen to the nice man talk, he will help you reinvent yourself

[@biegebythesea6775]

@@MrSggurcs interesting how clearly a man deleted my comment - i wonder if one of the people on his team is in the comments. i will reply again. why do you think women are the centre of attention or want to be? fix your internalised misogyny.