Should you have your baby alone if your biological clock is ticking?

[@daliakm178]

The comment about “dads don’t matter” just steals the spotlight from the topic at hand. It isn’t about men at all! Tho is about a woman who wants to be a mother and is afraid, literally afraid, that this will never happen for her. I understand because I Am that woman and I am on the journey of making the same choice. This is about becoming a mother and having a family to love.

[@Greg-yu4ij]

By all means, have your family. Our birth rate is 1.6. Once it drops to 1.0, effectively every 20 years it will cut the number of fertile women in half, and population will soon follow. That’s 5 generations until we have less people in the USA than in NYC today. So by all means, if you want to start a family, do it while you still can. Society is fractured so badly that 80% of the women select 2% of the men on apps like Tinder. This isn’t working for anyone. I talked to my kids and the tell me they don’t want to get married until 35! I already had my 3 sons by then. Even then they see no point in getting married anymore, just creating one or more baby mommas. Fortunately I was able to convince them that their children would be better off if their father was in their lives. collectively we set our society on fire while we are still in it thinking ’this is fine’, just like the meme. So no matter what obstacles society has put in our way, remember that in life no matter what you accomplish, if we don’t do the one job that matters, creating offspring, there won’t be anyone around to enjoy the fruits of our collective existence

[@Greg-yu4ij]

She’s right, 98% of women who miss their chance by choice have a hard time dealing with it later in life

[@KateLate____]

I don't believe she chose to wait. She said her fear of not having kids exceeded her fear of doing it alone. I'm in her situation. I never chose not to have kids, but I never dated a man interested in long term commitment let alone kids. I'm currently in the "with a partner or not at all" camp, but that could change.

[@tabbymrp]

Where did you get that stat?

[@bakatobijuu]

She's right, she reproduced children without mating most people are happy to be existing because reproductive... If they have sons they should marry them to be father.

[@simonbennatan8257]

I don't think marriage is for everyone. I had a very bad experience with my first marriage where I discovered that my spouse was a narcissist and I was being abused with words and physically. Now I'm talking to a friend that I have 0 sexual attraction about having a child through IVF. We're both 39 years old. The child will grow up with two parents that are friends. I don't think it's that bad of an idea.

[@Angelina_Ballerina00]

Congratulations! I'm so happy for you.

[@NightinGal89]

That's actually very cool.

[@liberty191]

this is really stupid.

[@tabbymrp]

Definitely a better choice

[@TeddyBearShark575]

Meanwhile, I’m in my mid-20’s wondering what I can do to accomplish this. I’ve never dated or fallen in love before, and I’m tired of waiting around. I want to have kids, period.

[@Blondegenius3]

I don't think that this is so bad. Children need parents who love and care for them- it doesn't matter if it's a single mom or single dad. That comment about male role models not being enough is super ignorant. Some "fathers" are glorified sperm donors who leave the baby/child without caring, some "fathers" are abusive or criminal, some "fathers" are irresponsible- overgrown children that take no responsibility, and some "fathers" use their jobs as excuses to avoid interacting with his kid. Families come in different forms and that's okay. I'm glad she had her beautiful twins without caring what garbage people think and found her bliss. She will be a good mom.

[@redhot654]

Saying fathers aren't necessary because some suck is such flawed logic.

[@Evettecord]

Emma Murty what men need to do is just be a good father to their children. The world would be so much better if men just did that

[@kittykathurricanetexas1634]

Some fathers are merely sperm donors

[@contemplatinggod2791]

Brave. Totally brave. Y waste your life waiting for a man , and miss out on what you love to be? If you can afford it especially.

[@bakatobijuu]

Yeah the eggs women's lifespan are so short they can be became human being quick or die unexisted.

[@rabidsminions2079]

They are having babies and raising them without child support or alimony.

[@alejandraserpa5082]

What a lovely lady. I want to do the same thing. I want to have a baby on my own.

[@Dhuxul9]

So children without father!

[@Dhuxul9]

@darthvaderon Wow you must have had a trash dad! I can't imagine my life and especially my childhood without my dad!

[@Dhuxul9]

@darthvaderon Most fathers do not abuse their kids in fact most kids who experience dv are perperated by their moothers not fathers! You have daddy issues

[@Dhuxul9]

@darthvaderon She can't find a man because she is in her late 30's trying to have baby quickly most men don't see that as a catch

[@deasonair]

​@@Dhuxul9Wrong. I have seen his father darthvaderon he is a great father. I'm his friend.

[@alezandradavila2581]

Why not ? It’s fine

[@beyonce3]

I'm going to say yes.

[@bakatobijuu]

W!!!

[@Rocanala]

I am!!!!!

[@CaptainChapin]

I want to be a single parent

[@bakatobijuu]

Yes you would be great mom bring more friends and raise your children 🥰

[@chadgaston8615]

It is not some toy you show around. It is a living organism you are responsible for next 20 years.

[@bornhunter100]

Fathers are very important

[@NBid-rp9ch]

Not really. Males are only good for money. But she already has money.

[@KateLate____]

Some are terrible. Plenty of good partners are terrible fathers who don't do enough, knowingly, and are a drain on their spouse and let them down. This woman has probably dated plenty of men like that and decided that the only thing more draining than single parenting would be being married to one of these slacker dudes whilst parenting.

[@bakatobijuu]

Some are not good some are good.

[@TeddyBearShark575]

And that’s why some kids have two dads❤

[@PD-ss6qb]

I don’t mean to be disrespectful but I hope I never end up in her position. Having to resort to hooking up and being a single mom in order to ever have a chance at having kids scares the daylights out of me.

[@natashadickson4819]

Some choose a sperm donor/sperm bank. No hook ups.

[@KateLate____]

Yeah there's no way she didn't use a donor. I hope for you that you never have to resort to it, but you'd be surprised how common it is. Other things are more common - people who accidentally get knocked up. Or people who plan kids with a guy, then don't stay together. Even married couples divorcing while their kids are young. Even married couples who are miserable, and especially where the husband does not pull his weight, not just on childcare, but housework, and being a good person by not abusing alcohol or being a gambler.

[@contemplatinggod2791]

No one really wants that, it so happens to you and you just choose yo wait on or make it happen.

[@tabbymrp]

This is obviously an expensive IVF choice

[@BellaJoyeuse]

Most single moms by choice use a donor.

[@bakatobijuu]

I'd say yes if women can't have kids at 30 they can have son or daughter with donors they should uhhh 🤷‍♀ Bring to grandparents if kids can't handle life without father

[@bodaddy6771]

all feminists should be encouraged to put their career first and then be single parents

[@TobeWill]

lol that’s the problem in the first place the word feminists

[@amarusheekuku1162]

We applaud children out of wedlock (fatherless home). We still say no to sex before marriage!??!??? *....I'M CONFUSED.* 😕(scratching head..)😞

[@NBid-rp9ch]

You don't need to have sex to have a baby. There's IVF. Genius.

[@bakatobijuu]

@@NBid-rp9ch Asexual and virgin mothers existed it's real the Mary virgin in bible does exist

[@marinaolsson259]

Most important to birth girls when inseminate ,sons more trouble.

[@Thanouse]

@womapinka did it

[@marinaolsson259]

@womapinka Girls have more survival when raised by a single mother , it is fact only 4% of black women go to prison ,but 24% black men.

[@edwinalbarracin9930]

Adopt Having a kid alone is most selfish thing. All your thinking is for yourself what about the kid grows up with out a father

[@NBid-rp9ch]

If she adopted the kid still wouldn't have a father. Genius.

[@NightinGal89]

Ask hundreds of thousands of kids who were abused by their own biological fathers if they would like to be raised without one.

[@88marig]

So single all single mothers are selfish? This girls were wanted and are being raised with love, which is more that can be said that a LOT of cases where kids are neglected or abandoned by their fathers...

[@Mrswissblue]

@@NightinGal89 We could also ask the ones who are abused by their mothers. Most child abusers are women. Children of single mothers are more likely to be physically abused. They are also more likely to be sexually abused.

[@MiriamA766]

@@Mrswissblue where the hell did you get those figures from?!

[@nocturnalwolf7559]

That's why kids grow up to be such a troubled adults. Kids need 2 parents to have a healthy body and mind in the future

[@vigorlilover]

Speak for yourself. Stop watching TV. You don't know anything about the world. Many children with TWO parents are miserable human beings. Kids need a stable household, stable does not mean two parents. There are kids with two-parent household who are narcissistic and abusive. What's your excuse as to wry they're so F'd up?

[@napnaps7393]

My parents split up when I was a child, I’m 33yo now I’m quite the opposite of “troubled” you don’t need 2 parents.

[@tabbymrp]

Not everyone has the luck to have a healthy relationship or marriage, I’ve seen too many cases of people staying in toxic relationships and just to look perfect from the outside but they were suffering badly mentally and physically behind the close door. It is 2023, no need to tolerate toxic relationship, you live your own life, you don’t live the life for others. We should just be true to ourselves.

[@jones2277]

i had two parents. one used to choke me and knocked out my teeth. not having him around for the second half of my childhood was a blessing.

[@neonred7594]

There are not enough good men out there that would be fathers to children. Men are just very selfish creatures. One loving parent is enough for a lot of people.

[@alaric49]

Why the need to even have children? We live in a wretched overpopulated world

[@jones2277]

then don't have children.

[@justinhaubrich9638]

No. It commodifies children. It turns them into a product, a trophy, and not the product of a natural family.

[@bornhunter100]

You should already married long before then.

[@Bookwasbetter]

This isn't the 1920s. More and more people are choosing to have kids later in life due to pursual of a career. Women are no longer dependent housewives, and they don't need a man to earn the money or raise the kids.

[@daliakm178]

Divorced twice. Little hope to like a man again.

[@michael10613]

@@daliakm178 who initiated the divorces?

[@Dhuxul9]

She can’t find a man that is why she went into this

[@Dhuxul9]

@darthvaderon Men avoid single mothers because it is preference! Why would any man want to be with a single mom when he can find a woman without kds

[@DeathStrikeVirus]

No. The research shows that single parent homes are incredibly damaging to children.

[@Squishy-ho7zd]

If the child is abandoned

[@keanumoore]

This story was so inspiring because now I know what type of women to AVOID.

[@PlayingWithWilson]

VHEMT volunteer today before it's too late.. have you ever wanted to make a good difference in the world? Well you can by simply not being shelfish and choosing not to breed

[@PlayingWithWilson]

@womapinka lol stop stalking me weirdo, my beliefs are not a troll and why are you promoting your gamer tag loser

[@PlayingWithWilson]

@womapinka oh sorry I forgot you need kids to beg money off of to pay your bills hence why you promoted your gamer tag as well. This loser spends beggar money on a dumb mobile game to feel important.