SHOULD YOU LIVE ALONE? | Pros & Cons of Living By Yourself

[@classicrocklover5615]

To me, the main difference is you no longer have anyone in the household to blame for something. Yes, you have to do the dishes. And if you are disgusted by it, it's on you. Adulthood +self sufficiency = Freedom

[@laminage]

I strongly feel that Parents need to teach their Children responsibility at a young age. It will serve them well in the future. When they hit 16 teach them how to do their laundry, cooking, cleaning, keep a Room clean and when they protest, just say "Well what are you going to do when you are at College, I'm not going to be there and neither will your Father., you want to be treated like an Adult, then act like one also your future Roommate isn't going to up with your whining and excuses!"

[@patrickalbrecht2385]

To summarize the video: freedom and loneliness.

[@classicrocklover5615]

It's only lonely if you allow yourself to be isolated

[@irishcladdagh3]

Living alone and lonliness are to completely different things...you would be surprise how nice it is

[@thevegantitian]

Yes I'm introvert and a clean freak so I would hate living with people.

[@basquehound1999]

Tay Davis sounds like me

[@dannig1719]

Um just freedom

[@anamaepon416]

I would never exchange my solitude with drama.

[@eclecticreader961]

I feel the same way about my solitude. A part of me wishes that I had a girlfriend, but the energy that goes into establishing myself with another person is never graceful, but instead it is exhausting. I've been cheated on several times, unfortunately.

[@laminage]

Amen! I have yet to hear a story about meet someone who had a Roommate and didn't have problems. You aren't on the same page about anything. You're Sally Sunshine and they may be Grumpy, you're neat and they are sloppy, they will have Friends pop in and have no respect for you and eat the food that 'you' bought. Then they ask you to pay their Share of the Rent, and they will take care of you and what happens, when it's time to Pay back they hem and haw and get very self defensive. It's better to live on your own because you only have to be responsible for yourself. I've heard of Roommate Drama nd the stories I hear are so heartbreaking. Also keep in mind they will not be on the same page as you in terms of Money Management. They will go out and buy all kind of expensive stuff but not have their share of The Rent. Also in terms of cleaning, it's a bear but trust me if you don't learn to do it growing up at home it's going to be very hard.

[@Imkicelee]

I’m an introvert. So loneliness doesn’t really affect me.

[@basquehound1999]

KiceLee yeah. Me neither. I really appreciate it, to be honest.

[@marcia697]

That's relatable

[@azaramoon4027]

me too.

[@piggy8435]

introvert here, I get very lonely

[@lanalare5452]

Sameeeee

[@Billy-rr7re]

why do people need to have someone there 24/7, basically supervising them, telling them what to do, how to do it and when to do it? fuck that. the silence, the freedom and the peace are priceless.

[@andreac.6779]

The silence helps you to know yourself, is meditative.

[@dreamygirl2999]

@fatema ma please dont scare me!! Im just living alone now.. ☠😩

[@mynailsarewet9485]

Love your POV

[@madisonbrianne7393]

I’m in my 20s... single.. an introvert & moving out on my own soon. This video was so helpful!!!!

[@beckycr1520]

Same :) I'm 24 and live with my parents still but I need to start being an adult

[@shalinimitra6704]

Me too! How did it go for you?

[@madisonbrianne7393]

Shalini Mitra so far so good!!! Just gotta make sure you *plan* to do things with other people and really try to put yourself out there. It’s easy to get trapped in your own little bubble

[@TheBlobablob]

Madison Brianne extremely difficult with pandemic going on. But hope you found a boyfriend.

[@madisonbrianne7393]

@@TheBlobablob why would I need a boyfriend?

[@zombiekidcrazy]

I've recently went from living with my parents my whole life(I am 24 years old), to getting a job, moving to a different state and living by myself, and I must say that I identify with everything you said about everything. I already had two friends that live here, but I could not hang out with them every weekend, especially because one is married and the other is dating someone else. So I have been joining meetups and going out by myself to try and make friends. I've probably been out more times now then when I lived with my mom, because I don't feel like I have to tell anyone what I'm doing! Like you said, you can do whatever the fuck you want! Despite how much I am like living alone, I have been struggling to keep up with chores, my 9 to 5, exercising, a startup project I am making, and improving my social/dating skills, I felt like I was the only person struggling to get his shit together. But you just showed me that I am not! Thank you for that :)

[@Tursun_Suzuk]

I was dreming to live alone, since i was a kid. Now im 45. and i find it so piceful to live alone. I simply love it.

[@antoinefleuriot2509]

From a male perspective. I have lived alone for 8 years now. I was married with kids. At first it was really tough emotionally after the divorce but now I prefer my freedom and independence, not having to justify or compromise what I do and time for myself. I have a dog that keeps me company and I've always been a bit of a loner . I would like to have a close circle of friends that call round, like I had in a shared house that keeps me social but were I can close the front door when I want. I miss the cuddles & bed Olympics although that fades overtime but for me the pros of living alone outweigh the cons. Problem is society treats single people like there a bit weird or sad.

[@mnoeliarc]

Hi Stacy. I’m 43 and have always lived with someone - my parents, my flat mates, my boyfriend/husband (who I still live with) and also 3 children. I found this video quite interesting and I can totally understand what you mean about the pros and cons. Sometimes, when my children are around me being very noisy I crave solitude but it is nice to have people to talk to and share experiences with. There’s certainty no perfect situation and no perfect life. 😊

[@StacyMichelle4]

I'm glad you enjoyed it considering your lifestyle is so different from mine! I think we all like to see what other people's experiences are :)

[@oujisanhikari18]

agreed

[@mariamontgomery8070]

IF YOU LIVE BY YOUR SELF AND YOUR SCARED GET DOG,CAT ,HOUSE bUNNY, A BIRD ANY ANIMAL THE’LL KEEP U Company

[@SnowFoxParty]

They cost money to take care of

[@yukiruikuta6500]

@@SnowFoxParty yeah and time.

[@SnowFoxParty]

The only con is the financial stab but that's it. I don't mind being alone

[@rachel-ig9rw]

Im late ...but true!

[@missmann9327]

been living alone since the mid 1990s and i will not have it any other way. no cons for me either. i go days and weeks without seeing another person and i love it.

[@waseemsiddiqi5450]

Live alone only if you want to do something really important which might get effected by someone else.

[@noelomeli7054]

Trying to decide if im going to keep saving money by living with roommates or finally living alone. personally, all cons you listed (besides the cost) i already have in my current living situation. all the pros i kind of experience already with the exception of the cleanliness comment which would be my main pro!(: also, personally i feel like i currently have more like restricted access to a kitchen because im a bit uncomfortable with the cleanliness level, so that to me would be like a major pro! genuinely appreciate your take. and this has truly helped me solidify my decision!(: THANK YOU! :D

[@derekrank4572]

i live with 3 other family members who all have anxiety and anger and depression issues.and we dont have alot of money...just enough to cover the bills. trust me you have to be very careful what kind of life you want .its tricky.

[@lestatangel]

Most people who are INJF live alone. I'm glad you have a cat, they are a great comfort to us. About being alone, there's a pattern, a rhythm attending to needs.

[@ryanmckenna2047]

Having natural light is important for the body clock to work properly

[@bc1248]

It depends on the individual. Some people can’t live alone. Emotionally, they just can’t do that. And then what you mentioned about expenses is also a real factor.

[@francisco6969]

What do you mean by emotionally ? Sometimes loneliness can be a great opportunity to learn about yourself and find new interests or hobbies. I believe it’s important to have a balanced social life where you still have time to enjoy your own company and others.

[@bc1248]

@@francisco6969 I mean feelings. Some people don’t feel like they can be alone.

[@francisco6969]

@@bc1248 that’s sounds like an insecurity. Yes, we all need someone in our life. It’s not good for man to be alone. However, IMO someone should be able to be alone for a season in their life.

[@bc1248]

@@francisco6969 Nope. If it’s not good for a man to be alone then that is insecurity, and he should be alone for as long as he feel that way.

[@Marinaemmarose]

love this!! definitely considering it - I'm an extrovert but having a beautiful space is so important to me!

[@irishcladdagh3]

You should consider minimalism....it will change the whole dynamic to your benefit of saving money as well as time 💜

[@anonymousj3581]

This a GREAT video. It’s SOO true. People don’t talk about the pros and cons on living on their own. I KNOW, I do it all my self TOO. It can be REALLY overwhelming. It’s a big deal and until someone is not on their own, they have NO idea. Thanks for sharing :)))

[@neddalakhdarchaoche9232]

Thank you for this video Living alone has it's ups and downs To each it's own.

[@astridgarcia2684]

To me the biggest con is an emergency. If you cant call 911 then no one to help you.

[@Restless_Vibes27]

or if you die in your sleep nobody will know until weeks or maybe months later

[@youknowwho9203]

You can build a good relationship with your neighbor and ask them to take a look around if there’s something suspicious or if it’s too quiet or even better you can install a safety system, an alarm system and a quick access to an emergency call.

[@bc1248]

Okay, now for the lonely and nobody to talk to part, we have the internet for that. You can always join discussion forums and talk with people. And then you can join a church or live talk group or make friends and have them over to visit.

[@purpleviolet207]

I live alone by my own choice and I'm not lonely. I have neighbors around me who I talk to as well as other friends, who I get together with. I heard your cat meow in the background! I also have a cat at home.💛🐈🐈💛

[@montazmeahii6029]

I like your video a lot. It gives me things to think about. I hate country music so much it nearly sends me into a rage, so it forces me to consider the tastes that my roommates would have. Right now, I’m considering living with a cousin who likes DETROIT rap (which I also hate). I’m already pretty quiet and never realized I can become even more isolated living alone. Maybe I’ll become a loner. The part about talking to yourself kind of worries me too. But the freedom!

[@Lino1989]

Thanks for the video. I'm on the fence of renewing my lease or renting a room at my close friend's house. I genuinely love living alone & having that peace. It's nice not having to negotiate or compromise really. But like you mentioned, the extra amount of $ in rent, labor/chores adds up & is very tiring to me. I'm also trying to pay off debt & I know my timeline is much longer doing that while living alone. If your long term goal is to save $ & eventually have more freedom & mobility like myself, then roommates is the way to go. If you make a high enough wage to consistently save a good chunk of your income, & you love living alone, then go for it. I think once you hit your 30's you gotta ask yourself what kind of life you want moving forward & what you're willing to sacrifice to get there.

[@beautifulrose6233]

I have no qualms about living alone. I love it ! I'm also introverted so it fits me better!

[@MexLatinFoodplusArtConsultant]

I can identify 120%. I've done it in the past a few times. Imaginary friends. Almost.... Door knob seemed to jiggle on its own. I even called the cops. Can buy whatever I want. Spontaneous sex is a plus. Can throw my clothes wherever. Very lonely feeling. Learning to cook for one. Lots of small shopping trips because I don't drive. Social life was mostly online. I would need to leave to get a social life because I had almost no guests. Pets weren't allowed. I could have used a cat...or twenty at this point. I had to work A LOT to keep up with everything financially. Had lots of fantasies of having a live in long term relationship.

[@adamclark1972uk]

Are you sure it's 120%? Not 117%?

[@kathmayer]

I relate with everything you said 100%

[@nabilajahanchy4726]

Due to the study's I have been staying away from my husband, it's freaking me out.... I need ever lived by myself. So stumbled on your video

[@waseemsiddiqi5450]

That's good if you are living for something worth but sometimes you should go out to meet ur husband or like ur friends

[@annatatevosyan4867]

I talk to myself all the time haha. It does get super lonely at times.

[@ItsMe-yq5sb]

It’s better to be lonely then having unnecessary drama believe me I’ve been there

[@MCGaar]

I’m naturally introverted but I make myself somewhat socially outgoing bc friends are necessary to a fulfilling life IMHO. But drama makes me want to be a hermit sometimes

[@dwaynereuter9629]

After a 5 year ship I'm on my own now too! Great video you're so sweet!

[@bigbyinhell]

This is so damn relatable. Nice one mate, i honestly couldn't agree with you more. The loneliness you are talking about, i understand every bit of it. I was forced to move out at the age of 18 and lived on the streets and rooftops for almost 3 months, I am 21 now, and i have rented a studio apartment and do, eat,buy whatever and whenever i want. Have lived by myself for this too long. I sometimes feel like DEADPOOL :P , because i have voices in my head. The Anxiey really gets to you huh.... Well i hope you are doing great living by yourself. Just so you know, If you ever need someone to talk to. Just hit me up :)

[@Sabbaklecks]

Chhetri Suson like Deadpool? Isn’t he living with that older blind lady from craigslist :D

[@Pooh0Bear8]

Social tip join clubs or volunteer Thought diary helps too if you need to vent

[@richardyamato]

You're a wonderful person hope I meet someone like you

[@alexeyshamanin]

I've always been a loner, enjoyed every second at home when I was left on my own by grandparents or whoever I lived with. Now when I'm 36 and I lived alone in an apartment building for 8 years, since 2011 I can relate to many things you've said. However, I didn't choose to live alone, not entirely free choice. Over time it felt great at first l, but then I got clinical depression and was prescribed medication. I'm off it now. Without the help of the pills. It matters with what you're "filling the void" in the end. Ad you so eloquently put it. For me talking to myself in a foreign language helped me so much in learning it.

[@blacknnatural]

Cool video. I have been single since I left my parents' house in 1987. It was totally by choice and I have thrived though I've worked through occasional bouts of loneliness. You are right in that it is very personal and you need to be emotionally and financially cut out for the lifestyle.

[@Sabbaklecks]

Hey 👋🏼 I liked listening to the experiences you’ve made even though the video was a little long. I hope living alone helps getting to know you better and growing a little more if you know what I mean. (My English ain’t that good.) I‘m going to move out myself soon and I can’t wait to experience it and have my first own flat ever. I‘m already so excited. I’ll also take my two cats with me so I’ll be able to talk to them haha.

[@daurydavis3983]

I'm terrified of living alone, I live with my parents and every time I think of the future of possibly living alone and growing old I get really anxious, I actually developed anxiety from it, if that's a thing. So I basically don't think of the future and just stick to thinking of the present.

[@nnataliered]

Nice video! 😃

[@yukiruikuta6500]

I really want to move abroad but I'm so afraid of being lonely. I'm not that good at making friends and my parents aren't willing to go with me.

[@joshuaaddicted201]

me too. i want to go abroad for college and maybe live and work somewhere abroad as well but im worried I'll be lonely :/

[@thomasstegner3938]

Not hearing my name being called is the first pro. No interruptions are the next for me

[@des4127]

New subscriber.👍 NOTHING IS BETTER THAN LIVING ALONE!!!

[@donaczella]

Now I live with a roommate due to finances but I crave to live alone. I would choose loneliness and independency than living with a stranger.

[@ImranKhan-tj3dr]

I m alone ❤❤😍😍👧👧🌷🌷

[@user-gx4vc6bx7t]

Love playing games on my PC so I don't have to worry about being lonely 😉

[@monicadominguez4942]

That’s cool no friends?

[@ammariegg5020]

Same

[@michellestokley3263]

This was helpful, thank you!

[@cookie_monsters411]

OMG she is so pretty ...

[@kelvinroy2782]

Dropping by! Hope you are going strong! You are amazing! :)

[@shardyubabraham8606]

It’s really helpful Stacy thanks 👏👏👏👏👏❤️❤️👍

[@what1ntheworld866]

I'll live all by myself in 2 years once I turn 18 so I'm a little nervous yet happy about it.

[@ck-bv2pg]

Gampine G i have to move out at 16 🥺

[@blessingnaayone6406]

rool why if you don’t mind me asking

[@sheidi_ec6134]

Ok I’m an introvert and an extrovert. I have my days where I just wanna be alone and then I have my days where I need human interaction and friends, and that’s most of the time. I love having girl friends, but I also don’t like messes and disrespect. I know it’ll be cheaper if I live with someone or multiple people. If I get a roommate in the fall chances are I won’t know when because I have no friends right now lol, so I’m debating on either living alone or with friends, or with my boyfriend. Any opinions to help?

[@sheidi_ec6134]

I’ll add that I’m not sure if I want to live with my boyfriend yet. I love him so much but we are 19 and I really wanna make some girlfriends and experience living with some girls. Idk if that sounds silly or mean but I just don’t know!! Maybe I should live with him???

[@sheidi_ec6134]

I’ll add again, I actually prefer not to actually live alone,, I’m. A bit of a wuss. So my two choice are boyfriend or find roomies lol

[@bettyseditts7404]

I really like how you speak slower. Don´t get me wrong. Lot of native english people talk really fast and they mumle idk how to explain it, non native understand:D, but I understood everything in this video, you speak so clearly, I could listen to you all day! I´m 15 and when I grow up I want to live by myself, I kinda like to socioliaze and talk a lot, so that would be problem,but I want to get out of my comfort zone. Thank you for this video, already subscribed:) ❤❤

[@jayreyes1016]

I haven’t even started the video but I know it’s perfect because it’s based in Portland which is where I wanna live

[@ShatteredRippleBooks]

I'm going to live alone soon because my boyfriend smokes and it's affecting my health and making me sick. He is disabled so we are arranging suitable housing for him, which takes time.

[@acajudi100]

Heavily block your doors from kick-ins. No knives on the counter. Have hidden camera. Have weapons entering and exiting.

[@Obkool27]

Im a loner by nature so loneliness isnt really an issue. Its actually my preference. I only crave socialization less than 10% of the time. Beside why tf would I trade solitude for unexpected drama...im good lol

[@johnrainsman6650]

I left my roommate because I saw her true colors when our coworker expressed emotional pain. She was SO insensitive. My coworker (let's call him Paul) is on the spectrum and doesn't really have a great filter. He's said some ✌"inappropriate"✌ things, but never intentionally. He's actually a really conscientious guy. He just makes mistakes in social situations, that's all. I think most of the crew have been a bit unfair to him. Even exclusive. They're college students and they have fun with each other, but they don't really include him in. They have shown some signs of annoyance or "dislike" (I say loosely) toward him. And then one day, I overheard the chef speaking firmly with Paul, not knowing I was nearby. She told Paul--who was always outgoing and tactile at work--that he shouldn't touch coworkers anymore and that he can only talk about work or school. Paul _never_ meant to discomfort anyone. He expressed his pain to me and my ex-roommate; said he hated discomforting and/or hurting people, and perhaps even himself at this point. He even cried a bit. Now, I had lost my voice, so I couldn't say anything to make him feel better; the best I could do was pat his shoulder. I noticed my ex-roommate staring emotionlessly at him...as if she didn't care. I gestured toward him when he wasn't looking, and mouthed "say something," and she mouthed, "Like what?" When Paul left, I confronted my roommate (who happened to be able to read lips) for not trying to make a hurting Paul feel better. She said, "Well, what was I supposed to tell him? That it isn't true? That he isn't a problem in social situations? That he hasn't said stupid things to make a bad impression on people? On my first day at his job, he actually talked about a man's right to hit women for self-defense. That is an inappropriate and disturbing thing to say, especially at work. Crying or not, I'm not gonna lie to make him feel better. Everything he said was actually right. The truth is the truth. That's all he was crying over. I can't ease his pain from *_that._* He has no excuse for his inappropriate behavior and filter issues. He needs to work on it. So by all means, tell me what I was supposed to say to him, because the hard truth was all there was." And _that_ is why I moved out of the apartment, temporarily moved back in with my parents, and got a new place to myself. The truth is not always worth it, and neither is being right.

[@miraclesum778]

i actually love being alone wich is why ill *fingers crossed* live alone one day lmao

[@ariprabawa4760]

I can see sadness at the end of the video.

[@sairachiodini]

She mentioned how she lived for years with someone she planned on marrying so I’m sure there’s plenty of sadness within this opportunity of self discovery.

[@paholainen100]

good video

[@robertblake9892]

You don't fight over bathroom access, you don't put up with inconsiderateness, cleaning up after others, etc.

[@gowrishankars9743]

Hi Stacy....Good video and new subscriber. From India...

[@vidyutdevam9204]

I have a feeling I have seen you in another KZbin video. Have you ever been pranked?

[@evalynegatwiri8781]

hahahaha

[@BloodAcidPro]

Damn you have beautiful eyes

[@shreya_mbhutra478]

Very helpful ♥️♥️💫🌈

[@newenglandtrucker6049]

Love country music!!!🤠

[@tinisterr]

Are you looking for a roommate at the moment?

[@goha9218]

I wish I could if rent wasn't an issue it's just too expensive and unrealistic for anyone my age without rich parents to do so. I could be a way better person without my mum putting me down all the time and breathing down my back. I crave that solitude and time away from her and everyone else. I crave freedom over my life

[@sifugurusensei]

Cant afford to live alone unfortunately. I lived in a studio for 3 years but it was a miserable roach infested place.

[@waseemsiddiqi5450]

Haha ur last expression

[@yahyaiklafen9492]

Your so cute ❤️

[@MrNYCEyes]

Doing chores by yourself is a con? 😒

[@mohamednemer6853]

can i live with you .. ur really nice

[@mr.pakson3346]

Live with me instead

[@iBeJuicenallday]

I can't with these people... I need to get away. All of the issue that arised in the past 5 years none of my fault. But I always get the blame.

[@poitiers2853]

Sorry, but having a pet is a cheat. Use paper bowls, plates and plasticware to cook with and eat with. Recycle. Cook everything in the microwave. Get a portable dishwashing machine.

[@mindycelinelora2866]

That’s not a con cleaning your own things should come naturally and if you don’t want a mess use plastic and styrofoam cups and plates. Lol

[@abhijitkalita6002]

I like the fake wanna be cool introverts in the comment section.

[@kinglegginc9952]

get to the point! its painfull

[@limitation2955]

@@moneysolomon1010 stfu

[@emb348]

I know its nothing to do with the topic but I think you have amazing eyes. Im female/no homo.