Sibling Rivalry: The One About Going No Contact With Parents and Whales

There's been an upward trend in younger generations to cut off contact with family members for mental health reasons. Bob and Monet open up about their own relationships with their parents and discuss their thoughts on the societal rise of "going no contact" with certain family members. They also talk about what's going on with the whales!
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@BobTheDragQueen
@MonetXChange

[@madisonmaya94]

"The FIRST STD I had as a Ru girl" is quite the statement lol it implies that it wasn't the only one and that it is a common Ru girl experience

[@ameliakeriece]

I’ve been no contact with my mom for 3 years. I decided to leave the Jehovah’s Witnesses (cult) and she told me I was dead to her. I reach out to her just to say hi and she never replies or ends the convo quickly. It used to hurt but no contact is the best for my mental health. I have a new adopted mom and family now and I’m HAPPY.

[@klausarmanius2639]

good for u babe. u better werk.

[@Prince_the_One]

So happy for you ❤❤❤❤❤

[@Abishhhhh]

Ppl like that are so unintelligent

[@doryangromdizdarevic]

Once a teacher blamed us for stealing her wallet, started panicking checking every students bags (without permission), called the police, made a whole mess and then the cop said (did you check your pocket) and she sais yess. Sits down on her chair and on her desk there was the wallet...... Alexa. Start playing "somebody's getting fired".

[@yvonne3902]

I’ll be honest, I’ve never struggled to go no contact with whales

[@prozierozie5692]

Can't say the same, I can't help myself from deep sea whiteness

[@yvonne3902]

@@prozierozie5692 I keep telling ppl to keep an eye out for the sperm whales, but they don't listen 😔

[@prozierozie5692]

@yvonne3902 lmao, we're soo stupid

[@getgt]

I feel like being bobs friend would be amazing. He’s so passionate about his friends and family, the way he speaks about them is truly heartwarming. I wish I had a sliver of that in someone

[@jnknknk]

Ive always had a no contact policy with Whales so I’m in for a treat with this one

[@charlesbeloved7951]

I have a deadbeat dad and both of these stories really connected with me. Bob’s story about his dad stealing his car is just devastating and the fact that he’s so resilient in spite of is amazing.

[@tyraalleyne4975]

im 18 and ive been no contact with my mother for around a year- when i started this we still lived together. now im in college and i’ve completely distanced myself. in my case it feels GREAT to not be in contact with her. shes one of those people who are overall abusive to those around them and i couldn’t be okay with that around me. me and her relationship had never been good and i think the reason for my no contact was because i felt i never truly had a mother- i never was able to relate to things that most mothers/daughters encounter. she was holding me back from being happy.

[@itsjustkennyg]

the graveness that bob started that hookup story with 😂

[@hikarireacts3815]

Bob: How often do you block somebody after a bad hookup? Monet: IMMEDIATELY Bob: it's rare...wait whoa...😳 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@palmerihardlyknowher]

I went no contact with my mom about 2/3 yrs ago. I came out to her as trans and she told me that I was manipulative and a liar. That was just the tip of a very big iceberg and I think I always would end up going no contact with her. I’ve never been more mentally stable and more confident in my identity. I’m in a beautiful t4t relationship and we just got engaged. I don’t regret my decision at all

[@simplyindigo]

Really appreciate the stories you both shared about your parents. I was no contact with my dad for about 10 years, and we reconnected in 2020. My sister also was no contact, he wasn't allowed at her wedding, while our brother stayed in touch with him during that time. Explaining why I cut ties is hard because we grew up living with both parents until they divorced my sophmore year of high school. I even lived alone with my dad my senior year (2008/2009). Throughout my life I always had the feeling my dad stayed in our lives because it was what he was supposed to do, and not because he wanted to. There are many of things that occurred over the years that pushed me to my breaking point, but it always led back to me feeling like my siblings and I inconvenienced the goals he had for his life. I got fed up of being a burden and just stopped returning calls one day 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@hausofdownboots]

So the Olfactory system is actually connected directly to the limbic system (where memory formation and emotional processes occur), this in turn causes the consolidation of many memories connecting in our minds to certain smells... In Anatomy class, one of our teachers always encouraged us to study with a strong scent in the room. So it is really no wonder why Bob remembers so vividly his Scat story from earlier on..

[@ijiwarux]

I went no contact with my dad when I was 15/16. My dad and mom divorced when I was very very young and their whole divorce was messy. There was leftover resentments and anytime I would spend the weekend with him, he would talk so much shit about my mom. It got to the point that anytime I mentioned my mom he would go into a full tangent on why my mom was trash. I started distancing myself from him for this and his new wife being very body shame-y to me. He was also a big conservative and made it well known that he hated gay people. After Trump got elected, it was just becoming more and more evident that I was not the son he wanted. It started becoming a chore to talk to him, I couldn't be myself, and he started trying to guilt trip me about not talking to him more. When my mom and I moved 6-7 hours away I took the opportunity to go full no contact. I eventually went full no contact with that whole side of my family because they are all extremely religious and thought my interest in anime was demonic(sideeye). I needed to preserve my peace of mind and I am glad that I did go no contact.

[@henrysansone5501]

I went no contact with my parents (and grandparents) a little over two years ago. It's been a challenging decision for sure, but it's also one of the best decisions I've ever made for myself. I don't understand why we all pretend like parents are somehow immune to criticism or consequences. A lot of people don't see what goes on behind closed doors. People are like "it must have been really bad if you went no contact." Yup, it was. I also recently read "I'm Glad My Mom Died" - it's wild. I don't know how someone could read that book and not understand why she feels that way. I think therapy can just like, give perspective. It's not that it will change how successful you are or radically alter a life you already love, but it can create more ease, connection, and awareness.

[@Owl325]

Nice comment bud, Ty for sharing ✊🏼🥲

[@henrysansone5501]

Thanks friend :)@@Owl325

[@jessmuniz1317]

I’m 23 and have been no contact with my mom since I was 18. I also had a step mom who became my main mom and I agree with Monet that there is something very powerful about the connection with someone who takes you as their own when you’re not. She recently passed away in November and as I’m becoming closer to the age in which she met me, I am starting to see how rare it is for a woman like her to have made all the sacrifices she made.

[@TwiliiPrincess]

This topic was tough but needed. My relationship with my mother is stained by ego. She left after my parent's divorce and fell into the depression. It became her. We have NO CONTACT & when we do come in contact, its always so weird and dishonest. She says she loves and misses her kids but...makes no effort. And hasnt for years. Never could keep a clean home so we stopped going over (court rules) because of roaches and mice. She never tried to come and see us, stopped calling, just stopped trying to be a mother all because of what she thought my dads side of the family would perceive her. That ruined me during my teen years, and even now as an adult, it still haunts me. But ive forgiven her. ive just chosen not to include her in my life. I love her and care but I cant keep up the act when it comes to her

[@christinablacken3043]

I went no contact with my dad around 10 years ago after spending a lifetime trying to build a relationship with him. He’s got deep trauma and mental health issues but is also abusive and truly has narcissistic personality disorder cutting ties was the best thing I did for my mental health.

[@neilhunter495]

In my city, every few years the transport system has a sale of all lost property that has not been re-claimed and gives all the proceeds to a charity.

[@oliviarose6669]

This was a strangely cathartic listen for me- I just recently went fully no-contact with my parents after coming out of rehab for alcoholism & OCD after needing to accept them for who they are as emotionally traumatized, deeply narcissistic humans. I don’t think they ever were able to heal from their own childhood traumas, and unfortunately that’s made them really volatile, unpredictable people. I have an older brother and sister, who I’m also no contact with, and they have a fabulous relationship with my mom & dad- I don’t get along with them because I came out as queer and they all had surprisingly negative & extreme reactions that I don’t really see as forgivable. In the last year I’ve really been doing a lot of work in therapy and healing with my chosen family to find kind of where I fit without my birth family around and it’s been challenging but also way more refreshing to be able to focus on my own self rather than living in constant doubt & fear of disapproval. This pod was a really cool listen though, I’m a big fan of the both of y’all 💜💜

[@annalene911]

I've been no contact with my mother since I was 17 (I'm 25 now). My stepdad had always been emotionally abusive to my sister and me, but around the time I was 16, my mother and stepdad both started having what I can only describe as some sort of shared religious psychosis (they said that they weren't doing any drugs besides smoking weed, but idk if that's true). Things started getting to a really scary place, so my grandma and dad came from Tennessee to Florida to "rescue" us. My mom is (allegedly) sober now, but is still uber religious. Like, has dedicated her life to protesting abortion clinics and the existence of gay people religious. After my dad died when I was 20, I tried to have a relationship with her again bc I felt a weird amount of guilt for cutting off my mother. But it didn't last long. She's never taken accountability for any of the abusive things she did. She would also constantly try to preach to me and tell me how sorry she was that she let the devil influence me during my childhood/teen years because she'd let me watch Drag Race and horror movies lmao. I fully cut off contact again when I was 21 and haven't spoken to her since. It's hard because we were super close when I was growing up, but the person she is now is just unrecognizable.

[@DenardBrown-q9i]

its important to have that final conversation because if you leave things open to interpretation it will haunt you after their death

[@storm6320]

I went no contact with my maternal grandparents, bio father, step “dad”, uncle, and 3 cousins. Best decision Ive ever made in my life 🥰

[@ewgracie]

“oh my dad’s just doing drugs. june’s just … doing laundry” omggg

[@gordnn]

To be honest I’ve gone no contact with my dad for about 4-5 years now? It used to be such a taboo subject and idk if I feel relieved that it’s more talked about now. It actually makes me sad that so many people feel that disconnect with their parents, but at the same time liberated because people are able to make that decision for themselves. For myself, my dad was always kind of in and out of my life. When I came out at gay when I went off to college, my dad heard through relatives and just decided to “cut me off”. I put that in quotations because how can you cut off someone you didn’t really raise… if anything I should’ve been the one who cut him off years ago for not being the parental figure I needed growing up. So yeah, that’s kinda my story. And I just hope it gives someone else that peace of mind knowing that they don’t need a perfect blood family to live decent lives. We can make our own family with the different relationships we have, including the one with yourself. ❤

[@Pieceocake347]

I went no contact with my father when I was 13. My mother raised me but I would would visit my father during the summer starting at age 8. She didn’t want me to go out of fear but was pressured by family. The last time I visited him he snapped so viciously I thought I was going to lose my life. After that day I decided I wanted nothing to do with him until he sought help.

[@KatherineInToronto]

You both have such wise views on your flawed / human parents, it is so impressive. I am back in touch with my mother but i was no contact with her from 25-51yo and NC with my father since the age of 25. Like a few people below, my parents (who are divorced and remarried to different insane people) are both super fundy religious and cannot help themselves from spewing meanness whenever they open their mouths. Now that I am older, I kinda understand why they are the way they are and since they cannot be a positive element in my life, NC it must be.

[@tenpenthouse]

OMG I was just listening to that album yesterday! Love Monet's Whitney shirt!

[@chrisclark3846]

This is one of the best episodes for me. Love y’all ❤

[@MechakittenX]

I only just found yalls podcast! I'm happy to hear it! As a black Enby i've been looking for more people like me in podcasts. Thank you so much! So anyway! I've been No-contact with my birth mother for 14 years. She was horrendously abusive and I left the house to join the Military. (You know, the common escape route for a black person in the south is either the jail or the army, lord ha'mercy.) Anyway, while i was in my initial training she kept leaving voicemails just cursing me out. Screaming and cursing and I had no idea why. She knew I was leaving and was even there to sign parental consent forms (because i was 17 when i signed up). So when I'd call to figure out what was up, she'd answer the phone, curse me out, with no reason or direction, just pure screaming belligerence. I remember one day I was like, "I'm not being sent home for failing this shit, i'm not doing back, i'll do whatever it takes to not go back to that house with that crazy person, this is stressing me out, and i need to pass these exams" ( i was taking a Legit full fledged EMT course as a medic). I remember telling her, "Hey if you don't stop cursing me out like this, I'm going to hang up, and I'm never talking to you again." She didn't stop. And so I was true to my word. Good fucking riddance. Had i not done that I would have killed myself, honestly. Things were that bad. And it took so many years to not feel that way, tons of therapy, and tons of work on my own later. I've since left the military and I'm in a WAY better place now, but when that motherfucker dies, I hope they tell me, cause i wanna have a party. I will join the club in saying, "I'm glad my mother died."

[@VV1tch3zNVVulv3z]

this could not come at a more perfect time

[@rinnajonathan]

This has nothing to do with the topic of the podcast but me being from Martinique, Monet being the Saint Lucia, knowing WE SEE EACH OTHA from the distance, and hearing that her dad was arrested in Martinique and stuff... I don't know but i felt joy in my heart, no shade lmaoooooo

[@fernandovillalobos5434]

Monet recalling powerstone for the Sega Dreamcast just unlocked a core memory - What a game

[@charleys9417]

Such an interesting episode! My little sister has decided to go no contact with our mother and I don't really know what to do about the whole situation. Like our mother is not a bad person but she has a lot of mental health stuff going on so she was pretty unreliable and unpredictable as a parent after she divorced our dad. My sister is a lot younger than me and lived with her for a lot longer so I know stuff went on that I'm not aware of, so I want to be supportive of my sister's decision, and because I'm seven years older I've kinda stepped into the mother-type role for her. She's trying to get into therapy to work through some of it but I don't think their relationship is salvageable. But because our mother has so many issues she also leans on me as if I'm her parent and wants me to solve her problems for her, so I'm a bit stuck in the middle of both of them. My sister recently got engaged and doesn't want our mother to come to the wedding, but I know that's going to create so much drama in the rest of the family and it's not great for my own mental health trying to deal with that. Family stuff is so complicated!

[@Alien_cancerian]

Its nice to ear that my dad is not the only one that stole from me.

[@DrunkMurray]

29:07 how did Bob do that? 😂

[@themidwestprince]

idk why bob's history about his fathers just bring me frank gallagher💀😭

[@andreamendoza7613]

24 F just went no contact with my family. Grew up in a very toxic, unsafe, aggressive, unstable house, primarily due to my brothers anger issues. My parents are old school no coddling parents and dealt with my brother by beating him. I’m from a small town and my parents are in education so my brothers anger issues at school always got to my back to parents, and it caused my parents to be separate for some time. I am the younger sister, who had to be overly perfect to fix all the stuff that my brother had done. Emotions were not allowed in my family growing up so when my brother would beat us and run away and I would cry, my parents would tell me to stop so I was one less problem. I tried to unalive myself in the fourth grade but backed out so I resorted to SH. I SH myself for several years after and several more attempts at unaliving. I then was SA for years by my band teacher. I always kept everything quiet because my brother was still causing a lot of issues. He had a baby at 18 and that helped him mature some. He is 30 now and still lives at home. I just failed nursing school due to my mental health. I am in a financial situation and reached out to my family for help (bc I mainly support myself minus parents pay for my phone and car). My parents have bailed my Browne out of thousands of dollars of debt twice, so I asked if they could help me with these next few bills while I figure out getting another job. My parents always said they would help me no matter what, but it seems to be when I am not the perfect child I do get beaten down a lot for all of my mistakes . I’ve gone to therapy for several years and been diagnosed with a multitude of meta-health conditions. I have put in a lot of work on figuring out my emotions, but my family consistently fights me and every time we get back together all we do is fight and I’ve had to leave home the past few times I’ve gone. They live six hours away for me and at this point if they aren’t going to help me emotionally and no longer help me financially I have no really reason to talk to them. I just wanna focus on me and ever since I stopped talking to them, I have felt a lot lighter.

[@bjaytheegoat7889]

Unfortunately I'm experiencing no contact with my family as well. I don't really talk about it as much because I realized early on that my no contact lifestyle is alternative and how we're meant to be in contact with your family, like thats our blood but obviously that doesnt matter. So since my background/upbringing story is sad compared to others. I've realized I dont want to be labeled as a sob story to people. I'm more focused on my life and my intersectionalities which has helped me move forward. So I've learned not to bring it up and to not talk about my family. However if someone asked then I learned to just keep it brief. These days I'm considering therapy but true T, I am so glad I made the decision for no contact. I don't know if I ever would have been able to experience this level of freedom and a peace of mind if I would have stayed in contact with those toxic relationships.

[@joshuaadams2496]

I’ve gone no contact with my father who didn’t raise me or my other two siblings. He’s bipolar and has no medical help and probably is a narcissist. He brings us back in his life and then cusses us out and says the worst things to us. And then the next day he wants to act like nothing happened. Zero accountability on his part. The back and forth is too much for me and my siblings so it’s best we have no contact these days. Thanks for sharing your stories guys. It was so therapeutic to hear others with similar situations.

[@seraph_rj5700]

34:35 bob’s late night radio voice doesn’t wanna wake the kids lmfao

[@TomLarter-e4e]

i went full on Brenda when bob said back up dancer haha A back up dancer ??? girl that's nasty! that's lower than security guard! atleast security can get you backstage! She don't love herself!

[@rascal_rae]

Whales/Orcas/Dolphins evolved out of the ocean, onto land, and then back into the ocean. They're mammals, which is why their intelligence differs from most marine life. They're incredibly intelligent

[@bees9342]

I stumbled into Drag Race fandom a few months ago and had been a Dimension 20 fan for ages, so Dungeons and Drag Queens was a delight. Stoked to stumble across this channel/podcast as well, these two just seem like extremely good, fun humans. (Thrilled to find out that, as a Pisces, I am the least problematic. I’m going to pretend this absolves me of being a straight up trainwreck for a good decade or so.)

[@fkapps]

I’m low-contact with my dad. It’s not so much about how he raised me, which was problematic. It’s more so about how in the present day he can never admit he’s wrong about anything, no matter how small. I’ve never heard him apologize, not for the smallest most insignificant thing. He’s hyper critical of others as well. It’s put distance between me and other family members, but my life is just objectively better.

[@658deedee]

I have done the "no contact" thing, specifically with my father, two times. One for 3 months and another 5 months. I had to separate myself from his condescending views on religion and his lack of ability to understand that his religious beliefs are not others' realities sometimes. I love my father so and am forever grateful for the efforts he has put in to raise me. However, as a grown-ass man, I needed a break to better navigate future conversations with someone I know for a fact will not change.

[@fluttershysdragrace]

29:08 losing my mind

[@Nakyla-yk4sc]

Same Bob, both of my parents are addicts my sperm donor has never really been in my life but my mom randomly became a full blown addict when I was 16, I’m 24 now and our relationship is always touch n’ go. I get it

[@richard6088]

Not Stariana Venti. That had me giggggggling.

[@natashaniles3016]

Hi Monet, I am not sure if this will get to you but it’s content engagement which is always good. Just as I said in my apple podcast review - I’m a new subscriber and I’m binging all of the episodes of sibling rivalry that I’ve missed. I couldn’t help by write this immediately after you said “if you have a story where you went no contact with a parent I am really interested in those sorties…. Comment … and I will be reading them..” Here we go: I went no contact with my father years ago. I’m 35 now. My father is what one would call a “hobo-sexual” meaning he gets in relationships with women so he has a place to live. My father was never reliable. My mother left him with the clothes on her back and me in tow when I was four. I don’t have many memories of my childhood where they were still together but some of them include watching my father sexually abuse my mother and physically assaulting her. Time and time again, my father chose women over me. He would give away my toys to the children of the women he was dating to get in their good graces. If my grandparents gave me a birthday card with money he would take it. I was never good enough: he would point out my acne and my weight. He never recognized my childhood accomplishments (band, student council, honour roll). His second wife was emotionally abusive towards me when I was a child and he didn’t believe me when I told him some of the horrific things she had said to me. He and his second wife decided to have a child and this hurt me beyond repair. My mother struggled financially. She has held the same job for 32 years. She always paid the bills on time. We did have an apartment and there was food on the table. She made due with what she had but I know she struggled. My fathers child support was a messily $50 bi-weekly. He was so far behind the courts started garnishing his wages. And here he was - having another child with a woman who would stop at nothing to push me out of their lives - when he couldn’t even bother to take care of me. At the age of 12 I went low contact. As an adult, when I was in my early to mid 20s. I went almost zero contact. I explained to him that his presence in my life causes stress and mental anguish. For the longest time, any time he would call it would cause me to get emotionally upset and distraught. I explained to him that my life without him is much more peaceful. He doesn’t understand. We have gone over it so many times - the things I remember from my childhood. He gaslights me: that it didn’t happen, or that I was being selfish when he was trying to date. I was a child. He was the parent. If he treated me that way as a child, I cannot trust him as an adult. If my father was taking my birthday money as a kid, he will take as much as he can now that I am an adult with a good career, even though I have my own family to take care of. I know him, and I know that’s the kind of person he is. After how he “parented” me - I owe him nothing. He still reaches out from time to time. Maybe once or twice a year he calls. Sometimes I pick up the phone. Sometimes I don’t. I mostly pick up the phone for information - the call might be that someone from his side of the family has died and I always show up for the celebration of life/funeral. I keep the conversation as short as possible. I think he gets it that there is nothing to our relationship but I still do not believe he understands why. He believes he is the victim - his first wife left him and turned his child against him. Never has he ever taken accountability that his actions are what led to the deterioration of our relationship.

[@mistahkrazy805]

Monet!!! Omfg i LOVED playing Power Stone on Dreamcast!! It was so fucking gooooood!! I would love a new Power Stone game on the newer consoles. The characters were so cool, very different, and the stages and abilities were crazy!

[@KING_A.MineTv]

It’s the face when he remembers the experience 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂like fix ya face bob😂😂😂😂I’m so sorry u went through thisssssssssss

[@almazsubliminals]

Not Monet claiming everyone gets along with Pisces ♓️ 😅

[@plantlawyer4430]

that story was so traumatic oh my god the SOMETHING left on the sheets i’m so nauseous

[@aaarlecchino]

The artillery comment had me crying 😭

[@iloveladiesman217]

me watching from that "swampy part" of FL 😂😂😂😂😂😂 you're not wrong

[@hikarireacts3815]

If I put my chain or any of my belongings in a certain area and I leave it there on purpose then come back to it being missing, then someone stole it. I didn't lose it because I placed it there earlier and someone moved it without notifying me Bob. Lol Bob had me rolling with that story in Belfast 😂😂

[@CadChamberlain]

I cut my dad out of my life when I was 10 I believe when I found out he was racist. My parents are divorced so I was already only around him occasionally for weekends or the summer, and my mom raised me to have no prejudices against anyone. My dad took me to a race track and a parking attendant told him he couldnt park there and then he called him the N word after he drove off, and I tried to confront him about in the moment however much a 10 year old can. Since that moment I have only seen him once and it was when he showed up at my sisters house for my birthday a few years ago drunk with a random woman. Have not seen him since and refuse to interact with him in any way, which isnt always easy as my sister is still relatively close to him aswell as being extremely close with me and my mom.

[@johannagregory2387]

I have been no contact with my birth father for 10+ years. What I’d GIVE to be a guest on your pod! I’m 22 and any opportunity my father has to pass a letter through my Nanna he takes. I don’t speak to him because he was sexually abusive and an alcoholic with mental illness. This man gave me nothing but pain and yet still begs me to let him in my life. He’s delusional and in denial about 90% of our relationship and it’s absurd. Girl bye. My mother got his ass restrained from my life and I’m blessed for it. Same time my mother has a lot of healing to do but we are in each others lives. Like I said, I want to be on the pod for my own TEA spillin❤️

[@stnrchris]

I love how Monet grew up rich with a housekeeper but is still hood enough to assume people are taking that chain to melt it down! 😂

[@kanarymirror]

the editor not muting monet IS WILD

[@maxreber]

I was thinking the same thing LMFAO

[@calebaustinp]

As an Aries I have a lot of beef w Pisces 😂

[@yungrupunzel5749]

You guys should do “ the one about zodiacs “ #leogang

[@klausarmanius2639]

29:04 SO FUNNY LOL

[@mattyf629]

When monet said fucktard and then gagged herself by saying it and bob didn’t hear 😭 her face was so funny it was like when Wendy Williams said death to all of them 💀💀💀💀

[@NormalMango222]

Not me zooming in to see Bobs drink order!

[@oldschoolabrahamhicks2742]

God what a heartbreaking story about Bob's dad

[@lemonz1769]

Love the personal stories and discussion around it. Don’t love when they start talking about science and and just parroting things they saw on TikTok 🤣

[@KING_A.MineTv]

Past traumas for me because I know where I put things no reason it should of moved 😂😂😂

[@yellowtoad6803]

My parents dont fully get that I'm queer and I've been thinking about telling them even though I hate to have a coming out but I think I should leave them for a while after that. I live alone so it's cool but they always support me and it's tough to let go of that support system but at the same time I constantly expect it to happen - they might get more extremely religious or conservative the more they live without me and then they just feel like I'm on a lost path or smth. It's weird to have it so present that your parents could leave you for who you are but I've been mentally preparing myself for years now.

[@henriettacooke438]

I’m alright with friends and family cancelling plans, being flakey etc, I can forgive people 1000 times for small things. But I’m 26 now, and if a friend or family member is nasty or horrible, and it isn’t an accident, I just don’t do second chances anymore lol. Like, bye

[@OneChopPlzStp]

No, that Versace bag will def decrease in value over time.

[@nobinary4methanks]

No Contact chat started at 39:00 I've been raised by community, the streets, and chosen family. I have gone "no contact" for 1-2 years at a time over the years, I'm 29, and most recently finally blocked my mother on the only platform she had access to me on to go fully without contact and anticipate it will be another 2 years until we see each other or speak again. As an auDHDer and West Indie trans person, it has brought me immense relief and peace to not have blood family in my life due to the abuse I endured and childhood I lost. I say all of this to say, do what feels right for YOU because they do not own you, they are full grown adults who can manage their emotions and communication, and even if there are elements like disability and sometimes you're taking care of them. Set hard boundaries. You only have one life, that's never not going to be a fact. Much love for this segment!!

[@ensabahnur3104]

That sounds like the girls on Reddit who worked in the doctor's office, telling about how a lot of the straight guys who sat down left a stain on the paper...

[@TheGoldenAlchemist86]

I’ve sort of gone no contact with my dad since about 2016/2017. Since he’s “found god” about a year ago after my little stint in the psych ward he keeps messaging me and I only answer if it’s urgent or concerns my siblings. Much like Monet and Bob’s friend he was just unfit/didn’t want to be a parent. The difference is that he didn’t want to be a parent but stayed with us till my middle sibling Graduated high school. Which is wild since the youngest was his favorite…. But anyways without putting all the business out there I’m not speaking to him till he recognizes and gets help for his fucking problems instead of running up under things to avoid his emotional negligence

[@Basey]

The polar bear stuff Bob is saying is just straight up wrong. From what I can tell by googling, he found that information on Reddit. Anyways - “Seals are much easier prey, with a far greater reward for the effort. Dangerous encounters with humans are rare, but when hungry enough, polar bears will indeed attack and eat humans. As more polar ice permanently melts, the number of these encounters is expected to increase.”

[@angela_apple]

What we gotta do to get Bob's snot sucking and eating sounds edited?

[@bunnyfrosting1744]

I just went No Contact with my other parent and have a huge fear of whales… I’m feeling very attacked right now

[@missdrgirlfriend]

it's been very easy to go no contact with my whale

[@alyssalowray7323]

im no contact w both my parents

[@tohfuhr]

Did anyone else have trouble with this on Apple Podcasts

[@BigdeaL_]

If you could smell that much and from that far away, you would get nauseous all the time Monét. Careful with the wishes 😅 ask a pregnant woman

[@katrinakardashian7307]

Yea monet I don't talk to my dad and I don't want to. And I'm perfectly fine without ever having contact with him.

[@Owl325]

I live for Monet getting hyped for some whales lol, I’m a super nerd for marine biology 🤓

[@DakovChan]

Plz yall really didnt edit out monet saying a slur

[@llcooljay520]

MONET (said in Bob’s voice). You CANNOT claim the same Zodiac as Cher. She was born in May. Gay card revoked.

[@ML-vm8we]

Me & Monet are bday twins ❤

[@tequilapapii5936]

*Bob look lowkey snacky in this yellow shirt* 🤎🫡

[@ML-vm8we]

Was it hard? Was it wet? Was it new? 😂😂😂

[@malaythegreat4472]

Monét is gorgeous

[@SLa-pb1gg]

While I love the pod and have been a listener 3yrs strong, I can’t with the extremely long off topic tangents. Out of an hour show we may get 10 min of the actual topic. Im currently listening to Watchery for s1 ep 2 and 36 min in I may have heard less than 10 min of review. I hope they don’t take this as an attack and actually work towards staying on the topic more.

[@gunarchy]

is bob making that webseries up im so confused? i know all about her book but not that?

[@itstheSima]

It's called "what's next for sarah"

[@MaeBeeNott]

I saw clips of it recently, it's real

[@80smodel63]

do whales go no contact with their parents?

[@alyssalowray7323]

black dead beat fathers feel so entitled to everything they kids have

[@enterthevoids88]

Jay did not, in fact, bleep that.

[@1996squareenix]

my parents are trump supporters; nuff said. going no contact with them is the best thing I've ever done.

[@ensabahnur3104]

Wow Bob look who is not listening to whom now... Monet has fully told about June's Christmas grifting before.

[@domkennedy2990]

Cher is definitely a Taurus

[@alyssalowray7323]

aint yall not suppose to promote movies or tv shows right now

[@yahtoblue]

I love whales! Fav animal